Be Needed, But Don’t Be Needy

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Just exploring the concept of men learning to be less needy while being available for those in need
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@DryCreekWranglerSchool 10 месяцев назад

The zippo’s are now up on the Shopify store, and here is the link - dry-creek-wrangler-school.myshopify.com/

@oldblood_eyes 10 месяцев назад

just bought one. hell yeah!

@TheBootyWrangler 10 месяцев назад

Well fuck me man I legit just got into my vintage lighter addiction/obsession all started by an old zippo I bought off eBay. You got me brother. Well you got my wallet that is. Also just wanted to let you know adding a cigar to my hemp time on Friday nights before I head home has really done wonders for taking the stress of the week off my shoulders so that when I get home I’m very relaxed and capable of handling the craziness of being a young married father. It’s incredible how much of a relaxing effect the simple act has on the soul.

@davidfoster5813 10 месяцев назад

Yeah I've been watching the videos when I can I've been real busy this summer I just wanted to say I love you guys and I'll try to get caught up LOL❤

@ryanbelaus4000 10 месяцев назад

I don't need a lighter

@SaarLeestMee 10 месяцев назад

Man huge collector i have some nice ones. Thanks for the tips ❤

@hensen5309 10 месяцев назад

My gymnastics coach told me when I was young “even if you have the money, live like a pauper. Every time you want the milkshake, get the water. The milkshake will come later, for now the water is fine. I never really understood him until he was already passed away and I got a little older. Thank you for reminding me of the lessons that have kind of become sun faded from time. God bless everyone here.

@davidm1149 10 месяцев назад

I learned later to drink the water, but lesson learned thank God.

@LClaypool 10 месяцев назад

How's life man? The job? Got a new lady yet? Was reading my old comments and saw yours. Then saw you again in this thread. Hope your well man.

@Phantom-ez4zv 10 месяцев назад

whats wrong with a milkshake, sometimes a milkshake you need more than water, if you are hungry for a fullday a milkshake is better option.

@wat5513 10 месяцев назад

Handle/nick pic doesn't checkout =) =/.

@chrisd5774 10 месяцев назад

Half good advice. Have the milkshake, just don't have five a day

@inmyownstateofmind144 10 месяцев назад

"The man's ability to shrug and walk away is a man's greatest ability. "

@horsehelping 10 месяцев назад

I'm a 17 year old girl i know that most of your videos are for young men but i have taken some of your advice and applied it to my life and it has helped me and a lot of different ways and i just wanted to thank you sir and god bless

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@rRekko 10 месяцев назад

That's okay, that's what happens when people get married too, we learn from each other a little bit and help each other. Also, a dad will usually give his own advice as a man to their kids, be it daughter or son, and a mom will give their advice as a woman to her kids too.

@Thewindwhispers. 9 месяцев назад

Advice is advice. If it works it works. Meditation is good.

@xoxoakouto 8 месяцев назад

Age doesn’t matter, sister! If this helps you. It helps you. :)

@ayara8157 8 месяцев назад

Good for you sweetheart! I wish I came across a guy like this when I was your age. Live well and never stop learning!

@user-yb3yt6ee5s 10 месяцев назад

Can't beat the old school life lessons. Please keep making these videos!

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@WtmGamingVids 10 месяцев назад

I honestly think Dwayne has the best life advice. These videos always seem to pop up right as I'm going through stuff and the way he explains stuff is so helpful.

@slowjamcdub 10 месяцев назад

That’s right!!!! Don’t NOT comply!!!!!!!! 💪🏻🇺🇸💪🏻🇺🇸💪🏻🇺🇸

@ChrisSMurphy1 10 месяцев назад

@@slowjamcdubDon’t not comply? A reminder 1,000,000 plus Americans died of covid…a good reminder then fix your grammar

@the_expidition427 10 месяцев назад

@@ChrisSMurphy1 That was going to happen either way I would let you know to fix punctuation except it would be petty to go over semantics

@ruck27 10 месяцев назад

@@ChrisSMurphy1it’s been proven now, doing nothing and carrying on as normal would have done less damage then all the mandates. Like the Swiss. Cheers

@AMZNFBA 10 месяцев назад

You go through stuff quite often I would say! maybe a therapist?

@jakeplissken9991 10 месяцев назад

The most wholesome man on the internet. Salute, Dwayne!

@imSincerePromise 10 месяцев назад

Stop

@jakeplissken9991 10 месяцев назад

@@imSincerePromise K

@imSincerePromise 10 месяцев назад

@@jakeplissken9991 thank you

@staytrue5307 10 месяцев назад

@@imSincerePromise🤡

@arlenecoury9976 10 месяцев назад

He reminds me of how the pioneers must have thought, BEFORE we became a modern civilization, and have basically "brain washed" into believing so much garbage.

@sawyer4981 10 месяцев назад

I learned a lot about needs vs wants when I got laid off during the pandemic. People's behavior since then has lead me to cut even more things out of my life. We're a lot more resilient than we think we are. You just have to not think about it.

@thecapone45 10 месяцев назад

I am currently jobless (by choice) and it’s made me (as a single man with no wife and kids) rethink what even some of the well known financial advisors have said. You actually don’t need that much at all. I personally have my freezer and pantry stocked and because it’s just me, it’s lasted me all month and I’ve still got so much more. I don’t need $30,000 a year. I used to easily spend $1K-$4K a month depending on what I was doing (and that was me living cheap!) and since I stopped working I’ve spent less than $500.. There’s so much you learn you don’t need.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@Spliter546 5 месяцев назад

Wow! This is great advice

@gregholland11 10 месяцев назад

Quick correction: on a plane your instructed to put your OWN mask on first, then help others. You need to make sure you’re safe before you try to help others. If you pass out from oxygen deprivation while putting a mask on your 2 kids, they probably won’t be able to save you. If you get your own mask on first, then you can put a mask on someone else even if they passed out

@thecapone45 10 месяцев назад

I noticed the same thing. Yeah, I’ve never been on a plane but indeed you put your mask on first. Only then can you be certain that you’ll be able to help your children and not risk passing out and hope someone else can rescue your children.

@ec1628 10 месяцев назад

Correct

@JAMESLAFaette 10 месяцев назад

In a sense reality fits better to his statement as you need to put yourself in a situation where you don’t need before you can help others.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@OlSmokey304 10 месяцев назад

@learn2farm509 I'm gonna say you don't understand how hypoxia affects the body. nor how subtle and difficult it can be to recognize the symptoms before it's too late. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-UN3W4d-5RPo.html&ab_channel=ChristopherCummings one of the more common symptoms is euphoria.

@elysianfields1671 10 месяцев назад

You should be dependable, but never dependent. You should be needed by other people, but need them as little as possible.

@berwynsigns4115 10 месяцев назад

Key word as little as possible. Not 0, that's impossible. We will always need others, because we aren't God.

@slowjamcdub 10 месяцев назад

That’s right!!!! Don’t NOT comply!!!!!!!! 💪🏻🇺🇸💪🏻🇺🇸💪🏻🇺🇸

@allahalkareem8055 10 месяцев назад

You are made in the IMAGE of God though, consider that.. @berwynsigns4115

@jqy4sho 10 месяцев назад

@@allahalkareem8055Ohh we forgot tht

@smokingcrab2290 10 месяцев назад

Heres the thing though. When he said he doesn't need his wife. God designed male and female to meet one another's needs. God saw Adam was lonely so he took Adam's flesh and made a woman to fulfill his needs. We have a need for connecting. For sex. For love. Etc. So when you say you don't "need" anyone, you're lying to yourself and you will be miserable. You can't control others. But that doesn't stop you from having needs. And if the person you're with won't recognize your needs then maybe they don't really love you. You see, all relationships are about how you make watch other feel and what you do for each other. There are no one sided relationships that survive. That's called toxicity. Even economics proves this. Capitalism itself is literally the most popular system in the world because of the concept of "you scratch my back, I scratch yours". It's so sinple and easy. But the problem is typically you meet too many people who neglect you, so you think you're forced to adopt this mentality of "i dont need anyone". Okay tough guy. Be alone. Desire nothing. Don't care about anything or anyone. Don't ask for anything. Be miserable. I don't care. You do you.

@OPproductions22 10 месяцев назад

In this age of smoke and mirrors, we “need” more positive role models like yourself to share great life advice that is very easy to understand. You’re doing god’s work Dewayne. Ten times more integral than dozens of these online personalities that I won’t even name. Thank you Dewayne.

@graywolf6014 10 месяцев назад

Amen to that

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@TwoHandedSouthpawBowling 6 месяцев назад

God’s* with a capital G

@metalyogawithsteph Месяц назад

Need = necessity. Want = passion/desire. Easy way to boil it down. Love this+

@xnetshadowx 9 месяцев назад

I'm a 46 year old man, on the road to recovery. I watch your videos just to hear your wisdom while I'm doing house chores or indulging in my hobby, and when you shoot something that resonates, I write it down in a journal to meditate on at a later point. This is such a breath of fresh air from today's podcasts and self proclaimed male gurus, I truly feel like a father figure is speaking to me, with the same tone as a elder brother and best friend. Thank you for the time you take to share your acquired wisdom with us, know that it is helping and motivating others, ty sir.

@turbocobra 10 месяцев назад

Good stuff duane, always love your content. I got the point but I think you got the example twisted up. Flight Attendants always state to put YOUR own mask on first, then help others. The point is similar to the one your making but slightly different. The concept is, take care of your own self, and when you do that, you will be in the best position to help others.

@DryCreekWranglerSchool 10 месяцев назад

Now that you pointed out, you are 100% correct. I kind of got that twisted up there.

@bennyc409 10 месяцев назад

@@DryCreekWranglerSchooldoesn't spoil the message mate.

@YawnGod 10 месяцев назад

Ahh, the cycle of helping continues.

@più_lento_28_13 10 месяцев назад

Always a pleasure to listen to your wisdom Sir

@slowjamcdub 10 месяцев назад

That’s right!!!! Don’t NOT comply!!!!!!!! 💪🏻🇺🇸💪🏻🇺🇸💪🏻🇺🇸

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@RebeccaSaysWords 10 месяцев назад

Speaking on behalf of a clan of Idaho mountain natives here - We love your videos! You put to words concepts that we hold tight and it’s nice to hear our values out loud. Thank you 😊

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@natestreeter6540 10 месяцев назад

I like this conversation. Wrestled with it most of my adult life as I watch my grandpa and uncles model exactly what you are saying. I do wonder if the shrinks are right though. A healthy human should go through 3 primary need stages : dependent, independent, and then interdependent. I think what I've realized is that my needs are the fuel for making others around me be their best. It's that atmosphere of interdependence that breeds the most wonderful thing: love. It can actually be selfish to not allow others to serve you, to not depend on them.

@StrayCatOrwell 10 месяцев назад

@natestreeter4560, unless bitter experience has taught you otherwise.

@milhouse8166 10 месяцев назад

Makes sense. Everyone likes to feel needed from time to time. It adds to our purpose.

@kristycook6041 10 месяцев назад

@@StrayCatOrwell So true my friend And yet so false at the same time I suppose the choice of love and hate can take up the same residence However, there's something about choice; about making decisions, that, somehow, proves to be a different outcome. Bitterness will wash away all the good within you... Little by little...'till you can scarce find yourself It's like a cancer that eats away all that you hold dear. I suppose you will probably be just Fine Stray Cat Nobody else has to comprehend your pain; Nobody else has to give you permission or approval to rise above your pain There are bitter experiences in life Many in fact But you got this baby You got this Don't you ever give up And don't you ever give up on yourself.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@raularmas1719 5 месяцев назад

And how can a person tell whether or not they are thinking or acting independently? My answer: Don't always do as expected. If you have been doing as expected are you truly living your own life or are you being "lived" and actually living out other people's choices?

@Howdilydoodely 10 месяцев назад

Boy did this video find me at the right time. Thank you Duane 🙏🏽

@hilly7645 10 месяцев назад

Same here !

@_l__86 10 месяцев назад

bull's eye

@ruck27 10 месяцев назад

They usually do somehow.

@slowjamcdub 10 месяцев назад

That’s right!!!! Don’t NOT comply!!!!!!!! 💪🏻🇺🇸💪🏻🇺🇸💪🏻🇺🇸

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@samelbamel3500 10 месяцев назад

"We quietly, self-assuredly take care of ourselves. And we humbly, graciously, gently take care of those around us who need to be taken care of." That is honestly the most noble and masculine thing I think I've heard in my life. This is worth meditating on. In fact it's worth adopting as a mantra of masculinity. Thank you Dwayne. All the best to you and yours.

@plaguepandemic5651 10 месяцев назад

20 minute long video and I happen to scroll past your comment at the instant he said this quote, what are the odds of that?

@JayN4GO 10 месяцев назад

I’m 42 and just now getting it. Sorry it took so long but many others it takes much longer. I enjoy being needed with no return favors in mind. It makes me feel like an honest man.

@smokingcrab2290 10 месяцев назад

It makes you feel like a provider. But here's the thing. If you want to be "needed" then all you end up doing is molding yourself to everyone else's desires while you condemn yourself as "needy" foe having your own.

@mingus445_gaming 10 месяцев назад

@@smokingcrab2290 No

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@ChurlzVA 10 месяцев назад

I'm talking to an amazing girl right now, and I really needed this video. You're absolutely right. I'm doing my best to come off as not needy, but it's hard not to, since I've lived a long life without much affection. However, I'm really beginning to realize my self worth, and that came from within. I don't need a woman, but I want one.

@allahalkareem8055 10 месяцев назад

How old are you OP?

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@truth3598 10 месяцев назад

My Dad would always say that these people are buying more house than they need. He was right and you are too. Bought a shirt, keep up your segments. Like my Dad, you're a dying breed.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@wildcycles1 10 месяцев назад

I am right in the middle of "shrugging and walking away" from a person who often called me friend, but chose behavior that showed me otherwise. As you said, it's not easy, it's not comfortable, but I had to make a decision. This is a great video once again. Thanks for the quality content and thought provoking subjects.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@dalefullenkamp8001 10 месяцев назад

I’ve been learning a lot the past couple months about being needed vs being needy. I’ve lost some “friends” along the way that once I realized they were just needing me and I changed my ways I haven’t heard from them. It takes so much patience but I really believe I’m becoming the man I’m supposed to be. It can be lonely being by yourself too but when I look at what I’ve accomplished on my own I think it’s just preparing me for the relationship God has in store for me.

@gClover61 10 месяцев назад

@fordykid5296 10 месяцев назад

In the same boat. It does get lonely but I've never had more self esteem and self-love then ever before

@smokingcrab2290 10 месяцев назад

Yeah well if you don't need anyone then why seek a relationship at all?

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@conundrum2u 10 месяцев назад

The semantics of want and need don't hit home until you've lost someone that you've dedicated your entire life with/to. Men, a lot of the time, don't know we needed someone in our lives until they're gone. It's sad that people these days say "I don't need a man" or a woman. Of course you can exist as a person without someone. That's being an adult. There's also a difference between healthy and unhealthy attachment. You can want someone to be in your life and that's great, but true companionship means you've crossed that line from optional co-habitation to being intertwined on a spiritual or psychological level. That's when you make each other better than who you are as individuals. Need isn't an ugly word, it should be an expression of commitment.

@johnprice867 10 месяцев назад

Agreed!

@DryCreekWranglerSchool 10 месяцев назад

@PeterGoesINya Dewayne understands perfectly what is coming out of his mouth. Dewayne also recognizes a pseudo pop-psychologist who is happy to get online and give a frivolous pop diagnosis of someone that they do not even know. Something a knowledgeable pro would never do.

@BoldJonathan 10 месяцев назад

@@DryCreekWranglerSchool amen and amen I say! Tell Dewayne us guys in Brooklyn and New York got his back! Thank you and your family for taking the time to invest in us. God bless you all!

@RileyPatterson-bf8ge 10 месяцев назад

I wouldn't say that man & woman being intertwined is "frivolous" lol. It's in the bible. You should treat your fans better. People are allowed to debate you and have their own opinions unless you wanna block everyone or turn off your comments.

@conundrum2u 10 месяцев назад

@@RileyPatterson-bf8ge to be fair, they were responding to someone who deleted a comment that did come across as being a bit of a snap judgment/critical of Dewayne. I find Dwayne's commentaries to be thought provoking even if I don't agree 100%

@vwhitephotography 10 месяцев назад

Dwayne, as a young Christian woman in this difficult and confusing modern culture and time, I just want you to know how much your videos mean to me and how much listening to you gives me encouragement and the strength to keep moving forward. Thank you for doing what you're doing and for remaining strong in the midst of chaos. God bless!

@lorio8187 10 месяцев назад

Totally in agreement with this. These talks not only help men but women also. By the way I also love watching your wife. You two are so down to earth and real. I appreciate it!

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@TB-fy4ng 12 часов назад

This is a hard lesson but he's absolutely spot on about need.

@zonefreakman 10 месяцев назад

I needed this video today Dwayne. I've been trying to put myself together as a man one step at a time. Tonight I thought that I was going on a date with a woman. This would have been my first date. I felt quite a bit of anxious in anticipation for it. But tonight when we agreed the date would be she didn't show up. I messaged her and nothing. As a young man trying to put himself together, being really unsure of himself, afraid to be hopeful that things will turn out for the better, it does feel like I'm a fool. But thinking that I don't need her, that I only wanted her gives me a little perspective.

@junesonnier6495 10 месяцев назад

Try not to take it too hard. Easy for me to say. But when one door closes ,another one will open. Something that is meant to come your way will come , God bless you child

@americafirst9144 10 месяцев назад

Perhaps it was just a mixup. Try not to internalize it. You sound like a fine man.

@magnang 10 месяцев назад

Dating as a young man is the pits. Work on yourself and be patient and don't be focused just on dating. The table is tilted towards older men who are well established.. nothing personal and there is nothing you can do to change it. Get your stuff, careeer and fitness together.. when you get to your late 20s early 30s you'll be swimming in it.

@walkingrace1233 10 месяцев назад

Her ghosting you showed you who she is. It's a character flaw and you dodged a bullet. When someone tells you who they are (actions speak louder than words), believe them..

@mattiej2311 10 месяцев назад

Don’t worry about it. I also recently just got ghosted by someone who expressed wanting to go on a second date with me. Be thankful that you didn’t invest more of your time into her.

@yasinevans 10 месяцев назад

I rememeber typing in things like 'Advice from a Father' and 'Fatherless sons advice' and coming across your channel. So many of us out there that need a deep chat with a good proper man at least once a week for 20-60 minutes. If every young man adopted this in their life things would be a little clearer and smoother on the road ahead. Thank you Dewayne

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@gimme_ur_jugs 8 месяцев назад

I’m 17 years old and I’ve been trying to be a better person through out of 2023, and while watching this video I realised that this is exactly how my father acts and that is how he is trying to bring me up and teach me. I’m learning how to cook, learning how to drive, learning to control my emotions, learning to think more logically rather than emotionally, learning to be independent and most important learning to be a better more nicer human just like my mother.

@Shadow298460 10 месяцев назад

I'm 22 years old about to be 23, with no education and still living in South Texas, your wise insight has helped me through this year time and time again. I really appreciate you and hope your travels go well and are safe.

@hassanleruk8451 10 месяцев назад

hey shadow i would like to talk to you

@lizzi437 10 месяцев назад

You probably have better learning than many who receive a "higher"education.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@72dodge340 10 месяцев назад

How is it that you always talk about what has been on my mind lately? I needed this right now. Thank you.

@slowjamcdub 10 месяцев назад

That’s right!!!! Don’t NOT comply!!!!!!!! 💪🏻🇺🇸💪🏻🇺🇸💪🏻🇺🇸

@Stereostupid 10 месяцев назад

Me too,it must be from above!

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@leighfowler8973 10 месяцев назад

Dwayne, I find myself at a crossroads in life. The lady I love is either going to drive 16 hours to come and be with me and hopefully start a life together, or she's going to the other side of the country to forge her own path. The not knowing has created a tense sense of need for me and I was almost at the point of acting out in some foolish way; but this video stopped me in my tracks and put me back on my true path. Thank you so much for staying true to yours. With great respect, Leigh.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@leighfowler8973 10 месяцев назад

Update: She's not going over East and it's planning a trip up to see me. So glad I stayed true!

@en3356 10 месяцев назад

Thank you, very few people really understand difference between “need” and “want” in relationships.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@jameslashley3970 10 месяцев назад

I'm a 63 year old man from Alabama, I understand everything you are saying, continue your Godly advise.

@lynnedear8830 Месяц назад

I have an absolutely amazing once in a lifetime primitive herding dog (belgian tervuren). Baby steps, no pressure. Can’t let him back off of things that stress him, just show him it’s okay. I’ve got this , we can do this together. He will learn to face everything. No time limit, how ever long it takes. We are exactly where we are supposed to be. Pride and rush has no place. Thanks for your videos. Absolutely amazing.

@mattf3238 10 месяцев назад

Dwayne. Thank you again for sharing your wisdom. I get 100% what you are saying about helping the needy. I struggle with the ones that think they are needy but, in reality, won't pick up a paddle to steer their own ship. That is one of the true epidemics of today's society. The endless victim.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@lilyk4461 4 месяца назад

“The ability to shrug and walk away, is a man’s greatest ability.”

@shannongreene3226 6 месяцев назад

I never had a dad growing up . I was in lots of group homes . You feel that spot. I learn so much from you I'm almost 50 and I have mental health issues that I have a hard time controlling. Thank you for feeling in that space . 🙏

@user-nc9li1kq8t 3 месяца назад

Want is need. The line can be blurred sometimes. And “freedom” is also a need and a want.

@lovejessica 10 месяцев назад

I love this channel. My father taught me similar values as what you share. I carry them through life today as a woman in my own way. It’s wonderful to find a gathering of humans from all walks of life who share these values. Thank you for walking the talk and sharing it with all of us, Dwayne.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@darkknightt126 10 месяцев назад

Congratulations with your daughter getting married Sir. And thank you for sharing the life advance and 'wisdom'. It's kind of a therapy to listen to you.

@allahalkareem8055 10 месяцев назад

The law of equivalent exchange is that you have to sacrifice someth8ng of equal value to obtain what you desire @darkknightt126

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@one2547 10 месяцев назад

I love your channel and your perspective/ advice, you’ve really really helped.

@TrashDaddy69 10 месяцев назад

I needed this video Duane thank you, more men today need to hear this

@IntegrityHorizon 10 месяцев назад

Dwayne you are the man. Not to be too tender but I can see the life you've lived in your eyes alone. The wisdom you speak can only come from experience and I can't tell you how much I appreciate your message. I know you don't always like to "tread muddy water" as you call it but men everywhere (and women) need to hear it. I always look forward to a new video even though I'm not a horseman and probably never will be. Your message always rings true and comes at the perfect time. You are in touch and in tune with the world we live in today and I can't thank you enough for all that you do not only for me, but for all the young men out there that need a message like the one you deliver. Thank you sir and God bless.

@xerax-6344 10 месяцев назад

so awesome seeing your channel doing so well, i remember when i first got recommended When You Just Aint Got It All Together it was what i imagine a good conversation with grandpa is like, thank you for kinda filling that void for me and for helping everyone else too

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@FindingDurham 10 месяцев назад

Sage advice, as always. Thank you, Duane and Momma!

@GrekeFenris 10 месяцев назад

Thank you Dwayne, wise words for those willing to open their ears and really listen.

@DaveLeary1 10 месяцев назад

I really needed to hear this message, Dewayne, been pulling myself out of a rough patch these last few months and I welcomed these words of encouragement... Keep up the good work

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@joshvaughn8364 10 месяцев назад

This video was exactly what I needed to hear today. Thank you Dwayne for everything you do

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@dhimasrasyad7475 10 месяцев назад

Thank you, I didn’t really had similar conversation like this before. Even from my dad. You’re helping me a lot to open my view for life

@yanceymcdonald6017 10 месяцев назад

I’ve been struggling with a situation with my mother. She he mistreated me in many ways and attempted to turn me on my father. Now I have a son who she pretends to care about on the internet, but in reality shows no interest in. She’s seen him 9-10 times and he’s almost 4. (She lives less than 15 minutes away) So at least 6 of those times were his birthdays and Christmas. Long story short, I decided a few months ago to do exactly what you said in this video. Just shrug my shoulders and walk away. It did hurt at first, but it has given me the stability and peace that I wanted in my families life. Listening to this video reassured me that I have taken the right path, thank you very much Mr. Dwayne!

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM now!!!

@Johnnyo1300 10 месяцев назад

🐶😎🐶🙏 great advice, young man, and so spot on people need to know how to stand on their own 2 feet especially men in this day and age things have changed so much since you and I were little ones my heart goes out you’re doing great work

@oliviamarcum3569 10 месяцев назад

This was deep and felt this in my soul. Great message and we need more of this for our youth. 🔥

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@kordontheimpaler22 10 месяцев назад

Thank you for your wisdom. I just found you today and I needed to hear this

@_LaRayne_ 10 месяцев назад

🙏Thank you I needed this lesson/ message. I've deff been on the struggle bus. Thank you again. You've been missed.

@cadetcadet1814 10 месяцев назад

As a Messianic Believer I truly appreciate your sincerity and honesty when it comes to the American Christian church! The devil has twisted theology so much that the men of today look nothing like the men of scripture. As a former corrections officer, police officer, and military officer your words are spot on for young men. Keep up the good work!

@dylanpicard6528 10 месяцев назад

The best advice I’ve ever gotten has always ever been from older men in my life and there’s a reason for that. They’ve had the time to go through it all and take the time to genuinely understand and appreciate everything that had came there way. This was another great one Dwayne ❤

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@eskrajewsk 10 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing your clarity.

@_l__86 10 месяцев назад

Wise as always Mr. Duane thanks for sharing!

@Danthecameraman_ 10 месяцев назад

Dewayne, you're a wise man preaching the gospel to build a better life for all men and women out there. God bless and thanks for the great videos

@stevenfoulger6066 10 месяцев назад

Not saying that I necessarily disagree with Dewayne. He has many words of earthly wisdom, but that's not the "Gospel".

@Danthecameraman_ 10 месяцев назад

@@stevenfoulger6066My poor wording, didn't mean a literal gospel. His videos have helped a bunch so I was treating from a personal background. All the best.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@mrard1 10 месяцев назад

I can’t wait to see you and thank you in person for all your wisdom.

@CYellowan 10 месяцев назад

DAAAAMN, this expains why i wringed off my narcissist x! I got this EXACT mentality! My mind is BLOWN! She couldn't fathom this, at all 😂 Not only that, but it gets even better. This is how i usually am, down to the core of your explanation. Strange but cool, how different people from different countries, and from different generations, can end at the same mental outcome as men. Just amazing!

@alexandrakulik9827 10 месяцев назад

I absolutely am grateful for you and I think you’re a beautiful human. Hoping one day I can make it out to your school to meet you ❤️

@BrendanBraica 10 месяцев назад

You are the realest mf I've ever listened too. It's crazy how you always put how I feel perfectly into words. Thank you for the mental Freedom man, I'm so grateful for this channel

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@Brandon49758 5 месяцев назад

I really appreciate your videos. They help with my anxiety.

@LimeXC 10 месяцев назад

I always get up and do something when I watch your videos. Thanks mate.

@harshalthapa69 10 месяцев назад

I really wish to meet people like you in real life as I can’t imagine the amount of knowledge and wisdom I’d be grasping hanging out with people like you. I’m just 17 years old a young fella from India but I really find your advices fascinating and I love to see your videos as I want to make myself better and you my sir is really playing a major part in that.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@coreyperkins2493 10 месяцев назад

This goes so deep and is such a valuable lesson to learn. As I have aged I have started to see the power of need vs want. I got my first taste of this when my spouse left for another guy. I went home to my family and after a few days I walked back to my house in the pouring rain. When I got to my home and walked in the door soaking wet there was something different about me. I felt what I needed, which was a place to rest, and I had let go of needing or wanting her. I cried at times but I let go at that point. My next relationship did not work out but it was so much easier to let it go because I didn't need it anymore, it was a luxury at best. I still feel like I have a long way to go on this road but the foundation for applying rhe learning is there now. And I am thankful for it.

@BoldJonathan 10 месяцев назад

Keep strong and have fun. Brother I know full well the feeling as well. But there are some really good Woman out there. I would not like when Dewayne would say "have fun." But his wisdom is similar to my own Father whom is close to 70. It is important to be balanced and have fun. I now do fun things. Long as it does not hurt nobody. I am actually taking up dance lessons soon. I rode a motorcycle in a South American country with my shirt open. I did pullups at a foreign beach. I want to get into airgliding to conquer my fear of heights. Brother, as Men, I am learning to live a full life so when God bless me to find a good wife, she will become a part of my wants. Idk if that helped but Mr Dewayne and his folks got me fired up to be more Godly and stuff.

@coreyperkins2493 10 месяцев назад

@@BoldJonathan thanks brother, I appreciate you for sharing that! 💪

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@IronFurball 10 месяцев назад

I'm verry grateful for your advice and perspective on things. Thanks for all the help Mr. Noel

@eriklidwall1807 10 месяцев назад

Thanks, I really needed to hear this and this perspective off all of it. I am going through a tough breakup. And now I look at it differently. Thank you.

@oliverpickering5066 10 месяцев назад

A lot of this video really hit home for me, especially being able to voice that difference between needing and wanting someone. It can be challenging to explain that difference to other people in my life because when someone hears "I don't need, but I do want you" they automatically go into a defensive mode. Nowadays, I try to leave those words (need and want) out entirely and instead say "you are an important part of my life that I'd rather not live without". I think my wife and friends can appreciate that a lot more and I can too. Unfortunately, the airplane story didn't make as much sense to me because the actual rules of the oxygen masks are: “Should an emergency situation occur, you need to put your own oxygen mask on first, before attempting to help those around you.” However, I did understand the general message: Don't be so independent and self-serving that you become a narcissist who only cares for yourself. Thanks again for the awesome video!

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@teeszu 10 месяцев назад

Needed this video thank you. Recently I’ve lost my job and had to support my family off of 1000/mo doing landscaping with my father. It’s been many times I’ve had to reach out to other family members for financial help. I feel needy, yet needed.

@infamousnicone 10 месяцев назад

I’m in the same position buddy

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD

@50mile.entertainment 10 месяцев назад

Bro this is hands down some of the realist advice I’ve heard in awhile ✊🏾

@mushroomleg 10 месяцев назад

One of DW’s best videos IMO. Bullet proof advice. I thank you very much.

@chelseav8311 10 месяцев назад

I needed to hear this as a woman. I'm a Christian but a weak one, battling neediness and other spiritual battles. God is merciful and I need to be kept by him and I want Him to change me. He's working. 🙏🏻

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@lygcdr675 10 месяцев назад

Good afternoon Dwayne

@hattmoffman90 4 месяца назад

This message was very helpful this morning in regards to career.

@jeremiahhook3001 4 месяца назад

Thank you sir. I “needed” 😂 to hear this

@lauraalbertson7821 10 месяцев назад

I feel the same way . However, Now at 70, I realized there are not many who agree . Just as you said, We are told we have to need someone to be complete . Thank you for clearing up where that need is coming from . It’s selfish and puts a heavy burden on that other person. And as far as JESUS feels about it , I’m pretty sure He agrees with you too 👍🏼 Protect and Serve . 🕊🇺🇸🙏 You and Mamma have my support and friendship without conditions. Laura 💜🐴Bear 💜

@smokingcrab2290 10 месяцев назад

If we don't need anyone then why have any relationships at all? Cut the shit dude

@michaelsiemering513 10 месяцев назад

Great advice Dewayne, hopefully someone will hear this, I'm older than you, a much needed message from what I see. Also you are correct about people in the Church, we need to understand what Jesus said about helping people. Thank you again

@craigtittsworth9440 10 месяцев назад

Once again brother you have a full understanding of this life and THANK YOU for always sharing your heart.

@ge9367 10 месяцев назад

Congratulations on your daughter wedding when it comes. You should give this speech at the wedding too.

@hardluk3 10 месяцев назад

I don’t fly much, but every time I fly they tell you to put your own mask on first then help put the mask on others. The idea being that if you run out of oxygen then you can’t help anyone. I’m not saying I wouldn’t help my neighbor first, but that’s what they recommend.

@scatman8963 10 месяцев назад

yessir, but his point is sound

@KingYeg 9 месяцев назад

Dwayne got a bit backwards on that point. His point actually resonates with what is said. Basically have your shit in order so you can help others out.

@georgeomara 4 месяца назад

Wise words. Thank you for taking your time to share your wisdom with us. Trully appreciate it.

@christielawrence4640 10 месяцев назад

Thank you all there, Sir .! I "needed" this in order to get my self sharper.

@charlescollins8385 10 месяцев назад

A lot of folks these days can’t handle “plain talk” but it’s much needed. Thanks for the wisdom and advice. ❤

@smokingcrab2290 10 месяцев назад

It's a bullshit cope. People need each other. Otherwise relationships would not exist period. This is just pseudo stoic cowboy horseshit. For this guy to say "he does not need his wife" well why tf did he get married? Lol marriage is a damn headache. So for someone who doesn't "need" his wife, he sure signed his life away to misery.

@paperbackwriter... 10 месяцев назад

Dwayne have you done a video on the feeling of loneliness but not actually being alone. What i mean is having lots of people around you but you still feel alone. Since it's something i'd like to learn about for personal experiences. Thank you and this is an amazing video have a nice day and god bless. :)

@readthegospel 10 месяцев назад

He’s got a video titled “how to deal with loneliness”. Luckily he does admit he has his wife so he can’t necessarily relate to how it is to be alone as a man in 2023 and how terrible the women these days are.

@SamStone1964 10 месяцев назад

@@readthegospelNarcissists are terrible. Not women. Not men.

@jamesturns-jk2wm 3 месяца назад

Thank you for spending time with us on here. You are so appreciated and loved . You are true.

@Jais328 10 месяцев назад

As a woman that struggles with major mental health issues and unstable relationships within majority of my family (throughout both sides), your videos have assisted right along something I've been working on for myself called DBT Skills (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy). When I watch your videos, I really think about things that are occuring in my life and better ways to handle more situations better. Some of these skills are emotion regulation, slowing the mind; processing your situation in something called WISE MIND, instead of looking at things in the EMOTIONAL MIND or RATIONAL MIND, and being able to verbally express the yourself in a clear and concise manner. I would like to thank you for your very genuine and thoughtful delivery of the message that you convey each time. With every video I feel more and more life you're a distant uncle that helps pump me up and remind me of the reality of things, making me truly look inside and work on ME. I hope ya don't mind, but at this point, you're Uncle Dwayne to me!! 🤗🤎🤠

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@bornagainnikkia4727 Месяц назад

Your comment resonates with me. The book I hate you don’t leave me, really opened my eyes to quite a few things. Not sure if “it” ever really goes away. Good luck be strong it’ll be okay 💕

@Jais328 Месяц назад

@@bornagainnikkia4727 and somehow I have still never read it!!! I'm on the hunt again now....thank you so much for your comment 💞

@nicojira2004 10 месяцев назад

I love this guy, he says nothing but the truth. I am so thankful for him telling us these advises! God bless you man!

@matthewcote5198 10 месяцев назад

Love it Dwayne. A man has to be self-reliant, and sometimes that means humbling yourself and your needs.

@jamesferenczy2185 10 месяцев назад

Great video as always, the only thing I have to say is that the message from flight attendants prior to taking off is to put YOUR mask on first before helping others, and I actually think that’s a better metaphor for Dewayne’s message, before you can genuinely and authentically be there for someone else, you have to be ok in and of yourself.

@TeamIdiotkjoring 10 месяцев назад

Yes, you are right. Good point!

@paulalumley9548 9 месяцев назад

We just love you! Thank you!!

@mathewmiller4617 5 месяцев назад

Brother thank you. For this

@freshingtron21 10 месяцев назад

Dwayne, if you can't look after YOURSELF, how can you be expected to look after others? On aeroplanes its fit your own mask first, before assisting others. I appreciate you man, love your videos.

@skipperdabio 10 месяцев назад

Ditto

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@perculiar_daughter 10 месяцев назад

I often say this to my grown kids, never be with someone because you "need" them, do it because you want them. I never needed their father and still don't, but I want him with every fibre of my being. People think that if they get the things they need, then they will be happy, when most of the time they don't realise they are only imprisoning themselves.

@BoldJonathan 10 месяцев назад

Well put. I like this

@yuryhalim3733 10 месяцев назад

"I want him with every fibre of my being", sounds more like a "need" to me, though 😊

@toacristoba 10 месяцев назад

Thank you Mr Dwayne!!! You've helped me a lot with your talks and videos! Hugs from Chile to you and your wife 🇨🇱

@derekabrams2068 10 месяцев назад

I would like to say thank you for taking time to reach out and try to help people. I love how you are plain spoken and deal with things that go on in this world we live in. The honesty that you have about subjects is the best. If everyone would really listen to your words how all could help.

@johanneshartman4618 10 месяцев назад

choose JESUS CHRIST and REJECT the WORLD so come to HIM

@ArtofWEZ 10 месяцев назад

I didn't realize someone so intelligent and tough would be afraid of masks lol I got used to it when I lived in Japan long before COVID it was common courtesy to wear a mask when you had a flu or cold, I never got sick there. I don't "need" to be maskless even with aesthma so it doesn't bother me. Hope you have a great trip and everything goes well! congrats on your daughter's marriage.