The Nature of Respect 

I'm a female in my late 20's and appreciate your videos. It didn't even cross my mind that you might be speaking more towards a male audience. So just keep being you. You are genuine and have morals. That's all a good leader/teacher needs, honestly. You've got this country girl listening and taking your advice. And yes, women are the same when it comes to respect. Except it's done more often behind our backs. Women friendships are very very fickle these days.

Mom taught me "respect is earned. Give everyone a teaspoon of it, and, based on how they act, see if you should give them another teaspoon." Thanks mom.

“Show respect to people who don't even deserve it; not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours.” - Dave Willis

13:40 One of the best pieces of advice I ever received was “Don’t be that guy who got divorced 5 times and goes around town saying all his ex wives are crazy.” Denial is not just a river in Egypt 😂

I'm a 46 year old mum of three...I live in New Zealand. Last Tuesday night I prayed that God would somehow bring a mentor for my 26 year old son. The next day he sent me one of your videos...he said you were really having an impact on his life. Now I'm also listening. God works in mysterious ways and I just wanted to let you know what you are doing is having a profound effect. Our son's are desperate for real kind hearted men...thank you for being one of these men❤️

Another excellent video. My father told me, and I have told my sons, not to worry if some people disrespect you as long as you are a good person, live right and treat others with respect. As my dad told me, “Lions don’t care about the opinions of sheep.” Congrats on the channel. You earned it.

12:59 I'm not sure where I heard it, but I have a similar saying: If one person calls you a horse, you tell them to F off If a second person calls you a horse, you ignore them If a third person calls you a horse, you best get yourself a saddle as you might be a horse. Love your videos man, super kind message with a great heart.

I can honestly say my 85 year father raised me to be respectful and I thank God for that. And he has a high standard for being honorable. And I raised my son the same, it must be taught and demonstrated. Great video and topic!

I’m 16 and going through some tough shit right now.Thank you for reminding me about who I want to be.

" Who is respectable? the one who respects others .Who is wise ?the one who learns from all. Who is rich ? the one who is happy with his lot .Who is the hero ? the one who conquers his desires"

I'm a 38 year old man with a wife and two children one 10 year old boy and a 3 year old girl. We live in Southern Illinois. I lost my dad a couple years back an he was my best friend. Any problem I had I could call him and he had a answer for or could fix. When it was his time it left a hole in me. We would sit in the early mornings an have discussions over the things that were happening and he always found a way to make things better. I found your channel a couple weeks ago and started watching your videos. I found myself getting up early to get coffee an go to the garage to watch your videos. It gives me a sense of how my father was an the talks we had. It's not a replacement for him but it reminds me who he was an who he made me. What your doing helps an sometimes even grow men can get lost an need a hand in life. A small talk can go a long way.....thank you

I’m a female over 50 that never had a father figure. If I were to have had one, I feel that you would have provided amazing life lessons that may have allowed me to avoid some of the pitfalls of life; dealing with people, caring for myself and those I am responsible for. You provide so many life lessons that I appreciate so very much. So, I’m a grateful girl, sitting at your feet, listening contently - learning and filled with gratitude. Thank you for your thoughts and advice.

Well said Dwayne. I am 72 and have been a lot of places and have worked with a lot of people. One thing that I learned at a young age was that it takes time and hard work to earn someone’s respect. It is not something that you are automatically given. On the other hand, it takes almost nothing to loose that respect that you worked so hard to earn. I continue to send your words of wisdom to my kids and grandkids. Hopefully some of your advice will sink in and make them better examples and citizens in this world that we live.

Well I'm a 46 yrs old black woman that knows nothing about horses....... and I listen to you ALL the time 💕💕💕💕😉

I always had trouble with verses in the bible that call for us to be meek. However I’ve learned that meekness doesn’t mean weak or a that you’re a push over. It comes from the it comes from the Greek “Prautes” which translates to decided strength of disciplined calmness. It’s having the power to wield a sword when needed, but knowing when to keep it sheathed.

Funny how making a simple video turns into helping people like you never imagined! 💪🇺🇸💯. Good for you brother and momma! This country needs a lot of help remembering where it came from and who it is!!!!👀

This man is a National Treasure

14:22 - DAMN! Mom said that too! "You need to respect the chair, not the person in it!" WOW! I do love being "old school". World gotta get back to that.

21 year old girl here, completely agree with everything you've said. I truly love coming to your channel to seek this fatherly advise/wisdom. thank you for what you do.

Dewayne, I'm 72, Been through alot in this life. From the highest of highs to the lowest of lows. Its been just a few months ago I found your channel. I've enjoyed every video I've seen. I find that your advice holds true for all human beings. I relate to everything I've heard you say. Thank you so much, it's so nice to know there's still a few that follow the old ways that we were brought up with. You and Deanna are very special individuals.

To add to workplace respect and disrespect. Make sure it’s ACTUAL disrespect you’re receiving and not playful ribbing. I got “picked on” a lot at work. My boss says to me, “we mess with you cause we like you. If we didn’t say a word to you, that’s when you know there’s a problem.” Us guys are just like that. However if it’s blatant with no smiles and winks afterwords, then it’s real bullying. Or if you’re still confused, don’t be afraid to ask the person outright (peacefully of course).

Wisdom like this is more valuable than gold these days

The toughest thing to do sometimes is to hold your tongue. Great talk, great reminder to respect yourself first.

I lost my father when I was 15, i'm nearly 35 now, I wish he were around a lot longer to help me out with things, but he was a Vietnam veteran infantry tunnel rat, he lived through some crazy shit and died early at 58. He protected and loved his family till the end though, but never truly forged fatherly values to hand down, your videos help me out a lot mate, thank you.

You and your wife make great videos for me and my wife to listen (me 26, my wife 29) thank you for your words of wisdom and life advice. Keep em coming Dwayne.❤️

I just went through this yesterday... someone being very disrespectful to me at work, despite my only intentions to help them. Thank you for putting it into perspective. God sent the message, and it was received!

Just want to say that I am a woman in my early 40s and have been watching your videos for about a year now and have never ever felt “excluded” by your manner of speaking. I have gained so much valuable insight from your videos about horses and videos about life. Thank you for making this channel and don’t change a thing!! You are giving people so much help and hope!

One of my favorite break downs of any word is Responsibility... Given my ability what is my response, sounds simple but with proper understanding is not simple. It is very direct and complicated. It is truly HOW we choose to live our lives given that one word. We should embrace Responsibility and understand more of it, more of what our own responsibility is. There's great power and pride to be earned in knowing this and choosing to take it on. Society today is always encouraging us to take on less and less responsibility, but I'll tell y'all, go take on more of it and challenge yourselves, you'll surely grow stonger when you do.

As a 25 year old dude, I really appreciate this type of content. I recently found you and I look forward to your future wisdom.

What a breath of fresh air. Thank you, sir, please keep it up. Your messages land because they're true, but especially because you care.

Something I had forgotten about that Dwayne touched on was regarding how respect is earned and not given. Generally, you should have a baseline level of respect for those around you, you could call that manners. Now, too many people forget that when you don’t give someone that baseline respect/ have manners, you will get what you give. Too many times I’ve seen someone not give that respect and be totally upset when they are disrespected and it was a direct reflection on how they treated someone else. Now, you will never earn respect if you don’t give a little. Earned respect is a two way street that takes effort and time to build. Give a little respect to people in yo ur daily interactions and you’ll be blown away by how much people are willing to go out of their way for you that are complete strangers. A little goes a long way and I’m glad my father taught me that.

I hear you speaking to me in many aspects. I am 54 and female. You think the way my husband and I think. Like all people should.

I found this guy a few days back, and wow….I run to every new video now. He’s like Arthur Morgan in real life, and he really speaks the truth about being a good man. Appreciate the words of wisdom.

I'm a single woman who recently discovered your wife's channel and through hers, I found yours. I gotta tell you, I've never heard such a great definition and presentation (explanation) of respect. I appreciate you and your wife and all you're sharing. God bless you!

Great to see you going from strength to strength this last year sir. It’s well deserved.

Your right on the money Dwaine. The somewhat lost art of “ loving your neighbor“ Respect.

I hope your trip goes good. I pray they have eyes to see and ears to hear. You offer good "common sense" advice and it is truly appreciated. God bless!

Greetings, Dwaine (sorry for the spelling) and the team! I saw your video in my recommended feed after a breakup and I started watching them one at a time and I got hooked. Thanks so much for your time invested in sharing these important topics. I live in the opposite side of the globe, a small country of Kyrgyzstan. We have a great deal of horses here and I'll be paying more attention to this whole culture and might even take a lesson or two on riding, but more than everything I'm thankful for your warmth, calmness and encouragement to us, who really need to clean up our corner of the planet. Peace, Russ.

My father is a split image of the 70 year old you described. Its REALLY DIFFICULT a lot of the time to deal with, but restraint is key! Thanks for the advice!!

"Respect is not easily come by" Adequate reminder 🙏🏿

Good one! Im from MS living in Colorado for 8 years and sometimes I think people take our niceness and respect for weakness. You are the man! Im almost 36 and I tell my wife I want to be just like you when I grow up. She says I sure hope so. Hahaha

Glad to see ya. Y’all be safe on your trip. Always appreciate you and your wisdom of life and the synergy with it. I need all the help I can get. Your definition of respect hits home with me and now I can look at respect in another way now. Thank you

this man is truly amazing. I dont even comment on youtube videos. I've learned more from this guy than my own father

You remind me a lot of my father. From the way you speak, to your mannerisms. He passed away in January. I'm glad I found you, it's helped being able to listen to you. Have a wonderful Christmas

Thats such a great story to hear. When people disrespect me like that old man did you, most times I sit there quiet until they’re done and go on my way. Sometimes though I would look back and think perhaps I should’ve done something back, but you put it eloquently “let him disrespect himself” This gives me more confidence in taking the high road and not always retaliating when ppl come at me. Of course if ppl disrespect my fiance the gloves come off

This is the attitude I try to take when dealing with disrespectful people: If I am to be insulted; I must first value your opinion.

Ethically and temperamentally speaking, you remind me of my father. He passed away many years ago and I am happy to add you to my list of great men who can help mentor and guide me like my father did. Thank you 🙏

Sir, I was raised back in a day. When if your neighbors addressed you, you started your sentence with ma’am, and finished it with ma’am you held doors open for folks, and you just had a lot more common courtesy. I appreciate your videos, your calm, rational thoughts, and your pleasurable eloquent presentation of words is quite refreshing to say the least. I enjoy your videos my friend. Have a nice day. Thanks for sharing.

18:31 this was what it was for me it hurt me inside not to respect myself and my own actions I had to change for me to realize once I had self respect I didn’t much need the respect and others and actually if you focus on respecting yourself the respect of others will follow!!!

Dewayne, this is one of your most powerful and inspirational videos that I've seen. Amazing message.

When someone that you trust says that they are going to do something and then doesn't do it even after saying 3 time's that they were good for their word. That's disrespect! Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no. Great talk brother! I learned a hard lesson from one who I thought that was a good friend but turned out to be dishonest. Hold your friends close so long as they are a real friend!

Its terrifying how much respect we lost for ourselves over the decades. I try and teach my boys that you have to love and respect yourself first before anything. It seems simple. It isn't. It starts young. And parents are having children without any respect for themselves. And we all see the results.

I am very glad for your current success, Dwayne. The Lord has immensely blessed you with a wonderful wife, seven children and several grandchildren. You have lead a life that has been true to your beliefs and you have respected yourself, your employers with an honest days work, and your fellow man. In turn, you are respected by your peers for your knowledge in your chosen work. $12 per hour isn’t really a wage that allows a man to take care of what he is responsible for. A year ago you couldn’t likely imagine what has happened in your and mama’s life. I know that you have a great faith in God. God has shown you that He has a great faith in you and He is working out His plan for your life now. God Bless you and continue with this work that is blessing many people.

Thank you so much Dwayne, I really appreciate your wisdom and effort to make our lives better.

Words cannot express how much i appreciate you sharing your lifetime of experience with the world. There's very few people whose words i consider to be truly valuable in the grand scheme of things. You are one of them. Thank you.

Dewayne, thank you for this video. I 34m, have been being tested at work, in regards to respect lately. Something came up between myself and another gentleman (much older than myself), yesterday, on the job. I thought of you and how you would handle it, and I think I did the right thing. You've spoken on respect in other videos, and I've been contemplating what you've said. This is a very timely video for me, considering how things at work went this week. Thanks again. Glad to have found you and Mama, you're good people. You help to remind me of the values that my parents taught me growing up.

Thanks Dwayne! love your wisdom

I’m pushing 50 myself, and am gleaning so much wisdom from you. Much of it is that I think God has enabled you to just put into practical words the truths many of us feel we need to have validated to live them out, but haven’t quite been able to articulate.

Wow! A huge helping of respect to you,sir. The partnership that i was fortunate to have with my wife of 40 years,and still going,isn’t diminished because of health issues that forced us to put her in a nursing home at only 63. She respected me enough to provide for her and our family. Respect isn’t always earned,or given,but if we show it first then the rewards can be life changing

Yes! I'm still young and in my twenties but I've noticed the problem with definitions, definitely! I love the definition of respect you gave us, people today just don't have the respect. They don't know the shame either. I learned to respect myself and others but people usually only learn to expect the respect, not to give it.

Fascinating breakdown/analysis. Looking again and not assuming the worst in people. I love it, speaking nothing but facts as usual! Keep up the great work!

I'm a woman who has been therally enjoying every singles video of yours that I've watched so far. Thank you.

I grew up in India, migrated to the US in my late 20's. Although I don't agree with everything you say, Dewayne (put it down to differences in our cultural upbringing), I still agree with a lot of what you say and perhaps more importantly, I really respect the manner in which you express yourself. You have a talent for provoking honest reflection and for making us feel more responsible for where we are in our lives. Thank you for sharing your wisdom - this channel is gold!

I think the point you made about how disrespecting your Wife being the same as disrespecting yourself works very well for the broader aspect of respecting fellow Man. While the unity between you and your partner are stronger than between you and any old stranger, it is worth noting that you are also bound to this stranger in your humanity. We cannot exist without our environment, we are part of it. If we choose to help a stranger we choose to help ourselves for you both make up the bigger picture of which we all consist. Same thing applies for respect. Thanks for making these Videos, your perspective is much appreciated!

I was taught to respect my elders and people of certain positions automatically, before I would actually know them or their deeds. I would give them a certain level of respect and it was basically up to them to maintain or lose my respect. Today, so, so many people think they deserve respect just for being alive no matter their behavior. For me, respect is earned, and either maintained or lost. They way a person conducts themselves and their actions to others is what I look at.

Thank you for speaking with us sir

Thank you so very much, Mr. Dwayne (sorry if I misspell your name). Yes, your videos are very encouraging, and they do help me a lot. I love the truly philosophical approach you use in this video. Starting with definitions and then developing your discourse on them. And all these metaphors and similes you use in your speech which make your narrative so exciting. Wishing love and prosperity to you and all your close ones!

“You run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. You run into assholes all day, you're the asshole.” In case anyone was wondering the quote

Keep creating content! Love your vibe and wisdom. These videos are beyond important. Older more mature guys usually don’t talk, they just do. It’s good to hear you kicking knowledge that can really change someone a generation of lives ❤

Loved this one thank you for sharing your power with the world.

This was the video I needed to see today. Thank you.

Agree completely - all aspects of this conversation! I'm 58- been married 34 years next week- new subscriber to your channel and joined Mama's channel today too!

Dewayne! Great to hear you’re going to be out in my neck of the woods in the Northwest. I highly recommend the Thunderbird Trading Post while you’re in town. Awesome little native-owned facility east of Tacoma with a great cigar shop, lounge, and bar. If I happen to see you there, I’ll buy you a stick. Thanks as always for the awesome content!

Dwayne- I live in far northeast Minnesota- 56 years old self employed contractor- fortunately in a well designed respectful environment- fortunate because there are a good mix of white and blue collar folks to work for, who realize respect is the basis for all we depend upon in each other- the other nite I met two retired blue collar fellows who knew my customer, and treated us like I know you treat your contacts- it’s always the start of something great when that happens- but I know that much of the world doesn’t experience this often enough- thank you for the great talk- we need more folks like yourselves doing great work-Godspeed

I respect you for how you dealt with that 70 year old man.. me I prey on the weak .. specially if you crossed that line .. it’s not something I’m proud of and I want to change but if I have the upper hand I go for it .. I respect you for sharing that and I hope this helps me change my mindset

Hey Sir. Just wanted to thank you for the time you spend on these videos and all the help you give both on horsemanship and humanity. You are very much appreciated. God bless you and your family for all you do.

Sending love and respect from Ingram Tx! You know the area sir!!

Well if anyone's gonna ramble on, it oughta be our favourite cowboy. Great video yet again DeWayne!

Rite on sir I support you. I'm 37 been threw alot, and I wish ppl would respect my privacy and respect my choice of being alone cause I found true happiness from being by myself and sober for 8 years off alcohol. But I have teens and ppl my age act like children and being disrespectful around me everyday. And I just want to be left alone, and I want ppl to mind there own business and worry about themselves and not what I'm doing. But I try to keep my mouth shut the best I can but sometimes the disrespect is soo constant I have to open my mouth and disrespectf them right back just the way I am. May not be right but I'm not gonna let someone keep disrespecting me and get away with it. And I respect all my elders and I try to always show respect to ppl that don't deserve it, maybe that's wrong but I like to see ppl change for the good and to help themselves. And with today's youth they think everything's a dam joke and take nothing seriously and laugh at tragedys and make fun of disabilities make fun of religious ppl. And I think all of us would be better off if those kinds of ppl just kept there mouth shut and mind there own business. And I know why they keep disrespecting me everyday, there "trying" to make me depress soo I go back to drugs and alcohol but that ain't gonna happen been clean for soo long not gonna happen. When I was 25 I quit pain pills and I haven't went back to that 12 years off that. That was the worst drug I got hooked too, if I couldn't get it off the street I had dentist pull out good teeth just soo I can get some. 12 years ago it was easy to get it that way. I did that like 7 times. Cause I didn't plan to live past 25 but I got clean and found a reason to live. I was 90 pounds back then, taking 16 vicodines in one hour. I even lived threw 5 oxy 80s and a half of a half gallon of vodka in me. Only reason I survived that was my tolerance was soo high I could handle it. I quit drinking when I was 29 now I'm 37 been working out alot for the last 5 years cause I found that was my passion and I made that my obsession. Cause that help me kept sober, and all my friends I use to have they all stop talking to me cause I got sober I think but I really don't care cause they still drink everyday and I guess they were never friends in the first place. 8 years I had no one to really vent too I spent 8 holidays 8 birthdays alone and the first couple years being sober and alone was hard but I got use to it and I found a way to still be happy and poor at the same time. Now that was hard to learn. I just started watching your videos and I like your knowledge I always love to learn things I don't know. I'm gonna keep watching sir keep up the good work cause I can tell you like to help ppl too and it's a great feeling when you know you helped someone out of darkness.

Well I know these videos are mostly directed towards the dudes, but what an incredibly refreshing voice of sanity you are 🙃

Hell my daddy died when I was 13 and I've been living with respect for myself and ur exactly right. Innately many of us know it.. momma did great on her videos lol I'm excited for u guys

I really liked the example from the cattle drive in Colorado. Great example of giving respect that is due, but not earned. Great example of acting respectable and holding yourself to a standard of self-respect. Great reminder to respect our elders. Thanks!

Thank you! respect has been a hard question for me for my entire life and im 41 today. i agree with everything you said. that the most important is to respect oneself, and hold oneself to or own standards. when we don't have self standards, society becomes our standard. and when that happens, and society treats us like shit, then we begin to believe ourselves shit... i have seen people grow and become stronger, but i have seen people's self esteem chipped away by society. and they end their own life. thank you for making the video.

Love your words..god bless!

I had a situation to where I had to end a friendship with someone today. Instead of getting all angry with them, I decided to not argue with them, wish them well - but ending ties there and then because of how they were acting towards me. They weren't worth the respect of me going through the effort of continuing to associate with them.

Wowa! I really needed to hear this tonight. The penny dropped for me and the situation I'm in just makes sense now and how to handle it became so clear. Respects to you sir Dewayne. 🤝

Respect is given after observing people of competence. I finnally understand why nobody used to respect me and now i know how to fix it. Thanks for this video sir.

As a 20 year old young woman these videos always resonate. Consider making a podcast!

I appreciate you taking the time to make these. Never stop please. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year to you sir!

I’m the mother of two young men (21 and 18) and every word you speak, speaks to me, too. Thank you!

today a cab driver mentioned how much he enjoyed me talking, since i was so personable, and we talked on how little we see this in the world today. i hope things turn around for humanity, there is too much hatred. thank you for your videos, you are a good man.

Man….big RESPECT to You Sir! Excellent video. A lot of people struggle with self-respect these days because whether it’s talked about or not and said to be fact or not, most of our growth and development has been warped by artificial forms of play (video games, social media, etc) in childhood and artificial forms of food, plus broken family unit dynamics. Many of us were never served home cooked meals and were brought up latch key kids on anti-nutrient rich packaged junk foods and we never learned to relate all that well to the opposite sex amidst mom and dads splitting up. All that being said, we can always have humility, start at square one and work to do the best we can at whatever age and from wherever we are. At 30, I was working as a dishwasher and now 7 years later, I’ve earned a masters degree. I struggled and it was rough but it was worth it and I really appreciate your saying that we should make sure to live up to the standards of respect we’ve set for ourselves because if I live up to that, I feel good and when I live up to that, others respect me. God Bless You!

I'm from Tacoma, hope you have a good time here... don't let the tailgaters scare you away, they drive like manics down here! Take care sir.

Thank you so much for this digestible thought and lesson on RESPECT

I’m very grateful for this channel, and congratulations on your well-deserved success. You’re good people, sometimes I forget that those still exist, since I grew up in the inner city life. Cheers

Thank you, sir.

Great presentation. Your insight into, and understanding of, human nature is deep and vast. Your ability to communicate that understanding you have to others in such a way as to enlighten them and make their life a little better is nothing short of profound. You remind me a great deal of Mark Twain. I mean that. People used to go to theaters to hear Mr. Twain give presentations very similar to your youtube videos. You are on the right path, doing the right thing, keep going.

respect is something ive fallen to so many times already, and it's bound to happen again and again. It's certainly not formulaic, but what you say about due respect is something I wish my generation understood better. one corner refuses to acknowledge the other, and debates over semantics riddle the arena. it's hard to tell the truth anymore, it's hard to find who I can trust, and many people feel disillusioned by those around them because semantics cloud respect. The greatest illusion is that of separation, but respect is a glue which clings to humanity and finds common ground.

Sir, I am not a "commentor"...lol but i would really like to thank u for ur words of wisdom... u gave such a beautiful perception to see things differently. And helped me realize these aren't even my fires to worry about. U gave me my peace back. Thank you sincerely

So good!! If you respect yourself, your character/attitude/actions create connection ~ it’s what Our Creator intended. We are a sinful bunch and won’t get it perfectly but self respect is self love 💞 and will make this world a far better place ✨🌎🕊