Being Bisexual 

Bisexual here too so rare to see others bisexual men here on youtube🎉

Thanks for being there my friend. As a younger gay man in the 70's I was HORRIBLY misinformed about bisexuality. That was a time when bisexuals were horribly lambasted from both sides. Gays would say, "Oh he is just lying to himself. He's actually gay and he just needs to accept it and move on!". (God, so embarrassing now!) With time, more exposure and societal change we are finally beginning to get the fluidity of human sexuality. For many years now I have had a friend (single when I met him) who has been a fun sexual partner from time to time as well as just a damn good friend. He is married now in Florida to a wonderful woman who is also bisexual. They have 3 great kids and she knows about our friendship. I live in Missouri so actually getting together is no longer possible but we still tend to flirt a lot on line and by phone. The nice thing is, I finally COMPLETELY get it and it seems so completely normal. Keep up the educating people!

Whenever someone says "you don't act gay" what they really mean is you aren't feminine which is irrelevant because being masculine or feminine has nothing to do with sexuality some people are very basic it's ok 😅

Spiderman poster creeping behind the bi flag ...the symbolism 😂

I came out in 1972, when you could be put in a mental institution, just for saying that you’re gay. I’ve been through so much,so that people could love whoever they wanted. I am one of many who stepped out. I met the man of my dreams and lived a wonderful life with him until, I lost him to a heart attack. I had 18 years of magic. I’m happy to see you to be who you are, to the world, and not end up in jail.

My ex bf is bisexual. I was the first guy he had been with. Seeing him finding a guy and then a girl attractive was fascinating to me. Bi guys r the best.

Ive known I was bi (mostly attracted to men) since I was around 7 or so. Back then, I had no idea what these feelings were though since I grew up in a small christian household. I didnt find out what gay/lesbian was until I was 9 or 10. I was at the lunch table and one of my friends mentioned "gay" one of the other kids didnt know, so she explained it to us. Glad you're so confident about coming out though. Im 27 and still dont have the courage to come out to most of my friends.

Love it. I'm happy to see more guys repping the bi community. Subscribed.

Let’s get you a care package: Clear Phone Case, Denim Jacket, Lemon Bars, and Colourful Shirts. It’s always nice to meet Queer Compatriots on the Internet 🌈

I came out as non-binary in 2021. I remember there was one non-binary kid in my school, and I remember people thinking they were weird, and even adults in my life asking me to find out what bathroom they used (???) I'm glad that I can be out and I feel comfortable in my identity, but I was definitely not in a supportive environment growing up lol. Im glad you feel comfortable to talk about this :)

Oh boy, you are NOT kidding about that denial business. I was deep in the closet, when I came out. I was just sitting there, telling myself, "I'm attracted to women but men too. I'm Bisexual. And I always have been." And the cognitive dissonance I experienced was just wild! The logic was there. And all the social BS I'd heard and piled on myself for DECADES, just shifted. And I was able to just walk out from under it. I was literally amazed.

I came out as a gay man at 18 in 1982. May your journey be easier than mine was.

Spider-Man is so canonically bisexual. The chaotic energy SAYS. IT. ALL.

1:43 I love this sweater!! You give off such golden retriever, Nick Nelson energy and I love it!! He’s bi too! I got this randomly in my recommendations and I’m so glad I did! This video was so lovely and informative :) keep up the great work! Never stop feeling PRIDE!

What a terrific trip of self-discovery, Riley, and by sharing your journey you're helping others to be more introspective, and maybe also find new parts of themselves that are lying dormant, waiting to be unearthed....like diamonds. Please keep talking to us, and leave the script up a little longer for us slow readers. Warm HUGS (John, Toronto)

you are so funny and your editing style only adds to that. keep it up!

Honest with yourself and love yourself for who you are no matter what. Do what is best for you. Take care and thanks for posting this to help others who are coming out. ❤

This is amazing! You talk so in depth about gay stereotypes and queer exposure and as a gay teen in a small town myself I’m so glad you brought that up. No one way to be queer!!

Rambling is much appreciated. You’re awesome 👏🏽

Well done baby bi ❤❤ middle aged female bisexual here, came out in the 90's as bi, then was pressured by the queer community to 'pick a side' so after a while trying g to be straight, I came out again as lesbian, even though it never really fit. I was told that, as I am now married to a woman, I'm a lesbian by default, and saying I'm bisexual is a mute point. It frustrates the heck outta me!. The last couple of prides I ha r been openly repping the bi flag, and have come into my bi identity more, but it's taken a long time. Go at your own pace.

First time seeing your content. Very good. I'm subscribing so that I can find out more about your upcoming book and to hear what you have to say.

10:48 If you want inspiration, there’s One Topic, Courtney-Jai, Jammidodger (Jamie) and Shaaba.

Wow, really well done video and you are so well spoken! I subscribed. Btw, nice sweater too.

I've only been subscribed for a few weeks now, but as another queer person I'm super glad you made this :))) its always great to hear about people's different experiences even within the community and I definitely agree, we need more bi men representation! I feel like bisexual people are always represented through women even though obviously anyone can be bi and I think queerness in general should be more normalised amongst cis men. But great video :)

Proud of you riley💚

the changing shirts for no reason was so bi.

Everything is "labelled" as if it's important .... just do what feels right at the time. ❤

Honestly, great to see people like you online showing they're proud to be who they are. As a bi trans guy myself I would be lost if people didn't share their stories online, ofc I understand it's tough but you just gotta keep going 💜

This gave me "I'm the only gay in the village" vibes. LOL

Congratulations on coming out (at least publicly)!! 🙌

This video was so well worded and thought out I loved it sm!

OH WOW! that is interesting. I have some connections so i knew this already

This was amazing and captivating my guy! Keep up the good work💯

i love ur editing sm😭

I'm bi and I knew it at 11 when I had a boyfriend and a girlfriend in different towns. I didn't know what unfaithfulness was. But at that time I had never heard the word or term bi if it existed back then. Sometime ago I began with a new female doctor and as soon as she heard my sexual orientation was bi she wanted to do an AIDS test. Well I did and of course it came back negative. One of the things about bi men is that straight women think you're promiscuous and second you gotta have AIDS. So watchout for that pal if dating a straight woman.

I'm a proud bisexual male. Thank you for sharing

The everyone is hot thing is way too relatable lol.

Being bi in a world where people are still warming up to gay people is so hard. Personally, I haven't actually come out as bi to people around me but I am slowly gathering the courage to do so, and this video has helped me to accept that I am not weird.

i just came across your channel and love it! immediately subscribed

congrats!! I wish i enjoyed being bi earlier in life. I love being with woman and men.

Thanks for your genunine perspectives, really cool

I hope when you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, you see a reflection of an angel. Such a wonderful person you are. Never give up. Yes, I am old enough to be your dad, and I was where you were many years ago. You are awesome.

You captured the essence of being bi in my experience so well! Are we the same person? Lmao love you man, you made me feel very validated. I wish I had bi guy friends in real life too.

Proud of you Bro. Just always be you. Love ya man

I know I already made a comment on this video like an hour ago, but I just wanted to come back and say I watched some of your older content and it was awesome!! I’m really proud of you for being so open and transparent with your thoughts :) it takes a lot of effort and courage to let the internet know your inner thoughts and I’m just so happy that you were willing to share them! You’re honestly someone I could see regularly tuning into so I subscribed!! Do you have a typical upload schedule, or just when it hits you to film and upload? If it takes you a while, no worries! Great and aesthetic content takes its time! 😊

Nice you do the step coming out. The hole youtube community supporting you!

Thanks for posting your life’s journey up to now. I’m a way older gay man. Came out at 22 yrs old. I don’t have many bisexual friends so it’s refreshing to listen to your thoughts and feelings on what you have experienced so far after coming out as bi. I don’t often discover very many videos like yours online. Keep posting your thoughts and experiences as you figure more of life out. You’re very well spoken and easy to understand. Happy Pride! 🏳️‍🌈

You're absolutely right that sexual confusion goes beyond orientation and into the finer details of the experience. I'm gay and I've had my awakening at 12 (watching Power Rangers, of all things), and it took me a good five years to really digest that information. I was worried about whether or not I fit into the stereotype, or if I even should, or how I would go about finding other guys that were also into guys and how that dynamic would even work. The weirdest part was that a moment of clarity came to me from a dream I randomly had, where I caught two very masculine-looking guys really going at it with each other in my house. I asked what they were doing and they told me they were just having fun with each other. That answer made me understand that a lot of the gay experience was just being into guys, while everything else was just up to personal taste and that I didn't need to fit what people understood to be a gay man at the time. After all that, I came out at 17 and have met queer guys of all sorts since then

Congratulations! Jump in, the water's fine! Glad to have you in the fam! 🩷💜💙

Excellent video Riley and subbed, Jack from The Netherlands 💯🤟 (0:05 Can't help it but wow 😘)

Totally awesome my guy 💯 👏 Greetings from Palm Beach Florida 😎

Core memory was being at a Christian summer camp, when I was like 8/9, and thinking "man I would have a crush on her if girls could like girls". And somehow it still took me like 6 years to realize I was bi 😂 I'm a little slow apparently

5:02 I was comp-het for a year (still haunted by it) and my goodness the casual queerphobia in the 2010s NEEDS TO BE STUDIED

Congratulations to you! You are awesome, funny, smart, great personality, and of course handsome. So glad you are at least part gay (lol) welcome to the community!! Glad to have found your channel asa new subscriber. These days, while lots of gays are flamboyant which is great, I know more straight guys that act gay than gays that act gay. There’s no mold just be yourself

Dude, I can relate to the suppressing crushes on guys along time ago being a girl even tho it’s “normal.” I thought it was just because I’m awkward in general but now I wonder since I’m newly bi, if it’s related to my sexuality somehow (I’m heteromantic btw so I’ve never had crushes on girls).

Congratulations to your opening your feeling bisexuality personality ❤and I am proud of you 👏

Nothing but ❤. First time viewer

3:00 Oh she’s fierce! She was in ‘How To Build A Better Boy’ and btw fun fact, it had Noah Centineo in it. (BasicGorl has a great edit on it)

That was really good

I'm new to your channel. Saw this video pop up in my recommended and as a fellow bisexual, I clicked instantly. Congrats! And please know that you are loved and supported. 🩷💜💙

Welcome to club 83. You should get bismuth jewelry or a picture of the periodic symbol of bismuth. You are not bi if you don't.🎉

Bisexuality is fluid and the confusion and feelings and all that are normal.

Somehow that all made perfect sense but was still novel and interesting.

You're a very brave person many others would be inspired by you even I do and I am gay.

Long before I had even ever heard the word " Gay " , much less " Bisexual." When I was in first grade. I had my very first crush on another boy. He was my best friend and I just thought that he was the cutest thing I'd ever seen. But being only six years old, I really wasn't experiencing any sexual desires. But in a moment of weakness, or just simply childhood curiosity. I just impulsively leaned in and gave him a kiss directly on his lips. He even puckerd his lips in response. Although I got the distinct feeling afterwards that his response to me kissing him was just an involuntary reaction. Because as quickly as it happened it ended and all he did in response was to quickly wipe off his lips with the back of his hand and look at me with a very confused face. I was a little embarrassed and I had absolutely no idea where that kiss had come from. It was very impulsive and without consideration. But thankfully he just started laughing at the terror that must have been obvious on my face and we ended up both laughing, staying best friends and never talking about it again. Fast forward to Junior High school and the onset of puberty. At that point I had kissed several cute girls. But even though now I understand that I was finding plenty of the boys around me attractive as well at that age. Until puberty set in. I was simply confused by my feelings towards boys. That concept of bisexuality had not been introduced to me then. So knowing without a doubt that I was turned on by pretty girls. I just assumed that I was straight. Although I didn't think to even make that distinction regarding my sexuality. But once I was in 7th grade Gym class. And back then it was mandatory to take a shower at the end of class along with the rest of the boys. This was my first time being naked in front of complet strangers and being able to see them completely naked in front of me. So when I realized that I was having a very dramatic reaction to seeing the naked bodies of my classmates. I became extremely confused. Because by then I understood what gay and straight were. And it was my understanding that you were either one or the other. Nothing in between the two. So I was having a very tough time grappling with the idea of being attracted to both boys and girls. It was a concept I'd never considered nor had even heard about. So for the longest time during my teen years I was a complete mess. Although I always looked forward to shower time everyday. I was very afraid someone would somehow notice something about me that would tip them off that I was this sexual freak and that they would then out me to the world and my life would be over at twelve years old. My twelve years old mind did tend to exaggerate things quite a lot. But on this subject my fears had hard evidence to justify it. Back then in the 70s . Being even just thought to be gay, even without proof, could get you beat up daily and bullied constantly. And even killed in some extreme cases. So I felt that I had no choice but to repress that side of me. So I poured all my sexual desires and outward interests to just girls and women. I was still very much attracted to boys and would always be. But there are consequences for repressing you full natural sexuality . I suffered negative self esteem issues my entire life. I was never able to discover that other half of my nature. I'm sixty one years old now and still a half a virgin. I have other relationship issues now because of that repression. So please Gay or Bisexual. Find a way to get to be who you truly are. Because repressing the part of your nature. Will come with a steep price in your latter years.

"I don't act gay?" LOL

Riley, the nice thing about being bi is if you call a girl to see if she wants to hook up and she says that she's busy and can't, you can ask if her brother is doing anything. haha

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9:14 Good luck with the novel!

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, Riley! I am in one of the oldest and racial-ethnically mixed in 532 years of American history family lines, also decidedly resolved in the concept of being reincarnated. So then, I've referred (before libraries were regulated for their cultural or metaphysical content on human sexuality,) to literature. Thus, responding when challenged with questions by reading texts of wise teachers of Hindu literature, and speaking both English, Norsk, Spanish and French, my answer to teenaged buddies in the 1970s was a medically very conservative, ethically very morally cautious kind of bisexuality. But then, there was the Kinsey Report, and "The Naked Ape" and other popular texts that also published openly many questions to consider. My allergies react faster than normal and this made me by nature more careful than most male peers about physical intimacy that might include sperm contact, and almost never did most other males actually believe my aversion was molecular biology but thought it was a mental thing usually called a "clean thing" with me. But then, I did not get any STDs and by 1980, it was significant how my precautions had protected me from the sudden issue hitting the progressive community as AIDS. Because all along constantly Gays told me to grow up and stop being in "denial" quoting Freud from his 1910 book, and the Straights would quote their Bibles written by their Lord in plain English. So eventually I wrote (Dreams of Allon, 1987) my own science fiction novel series, and developed what I branded as "The Allon Consciousness Hypothesis" asking "What if a people advance in space exploration adapting to travel taking thousands of years, and living that long they have many emotional relationships, many loves and mutual understandings eventually just learning to accept in a more broad general way, how humanity emotionally has the feelings and spiritual exploration that it has? What would that "sexuality" eventually become?" So that became a mode in my science fiction series. The Allon who live tens of thousands of years probably would be classified as mildly bisexual in their way of thinking." It has never been a populist brand of science fiction, and it is only mildly liked among critics in the "GLBTQ+" community who write reviews, and never have the "Straights" cut me any slack at all in my business, career or life. But my graduate thesis was based on the biology of behavior, and my method was the use of Large Learning Model computer analytics and AI study in Information Theory, where I have now a few new technology patents. I hope anyone publishing their essay to include being bisexual will practice very safe behaviors in expressing that lifestyle, as conception of children must not include risk of birth with AIDS. But other than that, the main fact is to this day sociologically, there is no truce between the sides in the sexuality civil war politically, and being bisexual means you have no idea if someone else is an ally or not. If it was actually psychology as an issue, then there would not be 80 percent more bisexuals in Europe than are in the USA. It is a political thing here, but it does not seem to get better any time soon. So be careful and take care with a strong resolve to nurture yourself, being exactly who you are. We're a little like the Johnny Cash song on the 1950s radio I heard as a kid. He sang, "You gotta walk that lonesome valley. You gotta walk it by yourself. Ain't nobody else gonna walk it for you. You gotta walk it for yourself..."

Congrats to you for being authentic to yourself !!!

Great video! I'm also bi and have identified as bi for 17 years (I'm in my late 20s)! I'm also panromantic (This means having romantic/emotional attractions to people regardless of gender. I love the cross-orientation model. I still feel like I have preferences in genders, which is why I am still bisexual. I care more about the person/personality than gender. Honestly, I'm looking for anyone nice, kind, spiritual, and a good heart, good looks may be a plus but it's not a deal breaker, keeping options open, and I love the open-endedness bi and pan people have) and a demiboy (between male and non-binary, I use he/him and they/them pronouns). As a bi guy, it makes me happy to see more open and proud bi/pan (and those with other bi+ identities such as omni and polysexuals, I see you) men out there, we exist!! Enjoy life as a bi guy, while it may be difficult, there's a lot of parts that are damn awesome! Standing in solidarity with a bi bro!! Virtual hi-5 for your bravery coming out online, proud of you cuz!

Idk if I’m bi or straight. like I can’t decide on either one.

This king is Bi. My respect 💪❤️

You BTW are so cute and smart. I only wish I could have a do over and be able to meet someone like you. But I'm old and broken now. Definitely damaged goods. But I'm so happy for these later generations who have a much better chance of being able to live their best lives without hiding anything about themselves in the shadows out of fear simply because of who they were born to be. You've now got a new subscriber from Texas. Peace, beautiful!

You do you!! you're great!

I Yam what I Yam..... U shud have 1K subs soon Great stuff Riley ....Good Luck .....tommy b

This video has 22 THOUSAND views. You deserve all of them 😊 Omg I’m commenting on like all your videos and community posts, you probably think I’m so annoying 😭 I’m sorry, Riley 😢

Awesome video bro

One Puff from a cigarette can make you gay! - Christian Moms

Idk if you’ve mentioned it in your previous videos, but please tell me you’ve seen or read ‘Heartstopper’.

Thank you for your video. It’s the FRIST time seen any of your videos…¿? -Anyway I think of sexuality like a personal taste, of ice cream… -sometimes all you want is chocolate!! but then you get to try strawberry!! Both are great!! And maybe even vanilla it’s good at times.. As a society, we have to pick what we want to be so we are recognized in the world so everyone is comfortable. Ultimately, we need to be what we want to be for ourselves whatever that is so in conclusion enjoy all the flavors don’t limit your self 🍨🍦🍧🍡

There was a time when , if a person came out as bisexual people would say he or she is just sitting on the fence, they are unsure of which way to fall.

When you come out but everyone was expecting it and at the very end you realise that the only one who didn't know is you and the uncle that lives on the other side of country that you see one a year

Bi here too bro and your extremely cute dude

Just be you who cares what anyone thinks of you.Alway's be yourself never change.God Bless you always 🙏.Take Care Best Paul from Chicago.

Hum,, i seen a study where bi sexual’s men once they tell women that their bi sexual women tent to not want intimacy with them because they believe they’ve been with men and they would have all kinds of STDs if not including aids so most bisexual men find out that they’re dating force or either or they have to pick men or women I’m talking to a man right now, who has a fiancéand wants me to cheat with him and keep it secret. I’d like to say this is the only time it’s come up, but it seems to be coming up a lot more and gay men are now becoming dirty little secrets more often than not.

Its good to speak it out so you can be feal free you can be proud

Hugs ^_^ nice shirt. the levis jeans are nice cause your butt looks real good in them :D

Super nice❤

As somebody who's gay and also a counselor I think it's an ideal career choice. However I don't know where you are on your educational Journey but if you haven't started graduate school yet might I recommend getting a masters in social work instead of counseling. You learn the same skill set but you have much greater opportunities for jobs I have a bachelor's degree in Child and Adolescent development and I have a masters in clinical mental health counseling I don't regret my educational choices but if I had to do it over again I would have gotten a bachelor's and Masters in social work instead. Number one you'll get out of school faster because if you have a bachelor's in social work you have what's called Advanced standing in the Masters program meaning that you will be that much further ahead when you start graduate school that you actually get to skip the first two semesters I think because you already have acquired that knowledge through your bachelor program just my unsolicited piece of advice. You're adorable by the way

Ironically I'm a queer dude (not fully labelled yet tbh, still figuring it out) who 'doesn't act gay' and my best friend is a straight dude who is very flamboyant lol

Hiii Riley, how young/old are you still/already ? Are you a *_student ?_*

What is "acting gay"? I am gay and I am just myself. Why "act" anything?

Definitely gay here! Yes to Tom Holland. 🔥🔥 He’s been my crush since Spider-Man Homecoming.

It is a fascinating fact that Riley is even a unisex name. Male people, female people and intersex people can be named Riley. This also applies to the names Sydney, Taylor, Casey, Hazel, Robin, Devin, Hunter, Skipper, Sasha, Arya, Mika, Luca, Cameron Marian and Huschke. In the computer game The Last of us 1.5 also called The Last of us Left Behind there is an Afro American girl with the name Riley appearing. This character Riley enters into a love relationship with the main character Ellie in this game. It is adorable indeed. And it is a wonderful game.

your great!

Small Alberta towns do have gay people... and bisexuals too. Yay Alberta!

Aren't the "percentages" always adjustable? Much like the beads of an abacus, no?

i support you