BEST Tips For DATING if you're looking for MARRIAGE in your 30s, 40s & 50s 

Thank you for that reassurance

I love that What lifestyle does she have for you to mention lifestyle is important?

Some random facts: home made food from scratch, no alcohol, no smoking, regular sleep pattern. Gym or seimming pool 1-2 times a week. No random sexual partners and so no vaginal infections. Avoiding flu infected ppl when pregnant (risk for miscarriage). Controlling stress - difficult, but learning how to let it go important and easier after 40. Some vitamins supporting fertility, regular gyn check ups. Controling hormons(thyroid, cortisol, fertility), as they are prone to fluctuations due to stress, bad food etc

@@blue.papaya8595 thank you 😊

AMBITION! For sure ❤

So true!!! There are so many foolish podcasts out now that their topics are so toxic & bashing the black man & women towards each other that it's annoying. I love the wide range guests that come on this show, the mature topics & the hosts feedback. Especially how these 2 young men listen & take notes from their guests. 💖

Amen…😊

AMEN

I appreciate hearing this from a man.

I messaged u on facebook

God will not pick your spouse if so, we will all blame God when things don't work out. Puck your mate on wisdom, knowledge and understanding.

@@timothy8766 Amen, bro. Whatever God’s Will is, it will be done regardless. I’ll be patient and trust in Him. Two verses in Proverbs I found to meditate on 18:22 and 19:14. I appreciate you, bro. May God bless you.

Facts. I never felt more alone than when I was married. A lot of middle aged men have had miserable marriage experiences so we are weary to do it again and we cherish our alone time.

I can relate now, I am raising my daughter and I am starting to date again now... She's in HS. So I want to marry with MOG who cherish me provide and love me. I am a wife that I know my life purpose Kingdom partner is on his way.

It’s never too late. Best thing you can do is level up your appearance, join some groups / get a hobby, and meet some new people. It can happen for you. My aunt met her husband at 49 years old and they’ve been happily married for sixteen years now.

@@lauren27891 I love this advice and thank you so much I’m 45 years old have never been married and I don’t have any kids although I did put all of my focus into work. I am very happy. With a lot of what I see going on today people are very hush-hush about the real issues. They face in marriage and I don’t think enough people are being honest, and that’s doing everyone a great disservice because people have unrealistic expectations when they get married. But for those who aren’t married, I believe it’s never too late to find your person..

Facts!!!

@@theprocessforummediagroup3229 - Men are not the one's distracted....It's the women. When most men are ready to settle down, he's already thought through what he's giving up. The women are the one's attempting to serve multiple masters without breaking down what they can achieve and what will have to take a backseat, or can't be achieved. They are the ones who tell themselves and others that women/wives/mothers can have it all, but once they start telling their tale, it's most of the time disjointed, and achieved off the backs off of others like children and even their financial and mental stability. In their 20's and 30's they are singing the dream of they can have it all, but by the time they are 60, via adding, deleting, and words shifting, it's verbalized, I had it all (bit and pieces strung out course of 35+ years). And no, women are not a gift, they are a responsiblity, a burden, and are generators of distractions in a marriage.

Most definitely a lot of women doing it for the wrong men! Which creates a bad cycle. Very few men will appreciate this type of woman. Hell a lot of them these days don't think women have value or bring any value to their lives. Talking about what do you bring to the table? I tell them you get a ferminine touch in every aspect of your life. Something another man can't give you. smh

Spot on

Facts on facts!

Thank you for saying this…because he has good points then there are other points that contradict:

You chose the wrong one , the right one wouldn’t want you suffering , most of the time it’s who we allow in our life that causes us to suffer

Really? Want to switch lives 😂?

Sounds like you accomplished alot of great things. Idk why you feel that a career would’ve been more fulfilling

I would rather have a big family than a career. It's never too late to learn and take some classes at a local college or vocational school. God bless you!

Where are the single 30+ men?

@@starmanning2604There’s plenty of them. Sadly most don’t have social skills and confidence so they will never approach you. Or they bitter divorced men like me who have left the game and accepted a peaceful life of solidarity. Eventually women are going to have to shoot their shot to even get dates because as the years go by there are more and more men like myself.

The live shows are Monday and Wednesday night at 8pm my brother.

Same to you, and bless you too.

@hostofhardlyinitiated Today’s show premiered live, didn’t it?

Lol same

Blessings to you, as well 🙏🏽

I wholeheartedly agree. As a woman who was the first to graduate University in my family, we were told to study and focus on school and don't go to school to get your MRS degree.. my parents didn't have many educational opportunities growing up so it was of the utmost importance... I think they also thought that dating and marriage would just "magically" happen... Because for them it happened... Grateful for the opportunity to learn grow and prepare. Wishing you good success in your dating/ marriage journey.

You hit it on the nail.

@jdelaynanderson - No it shouldn't, because it's nothing more than barbershop talk. The 2 hosts are ages 30 and 34, the guest Alduin Tartt spent more time throwing into the wind RU-vid talking points for the sake of generating minutes. Though Tartt is married with 2 children, his points and counterpoints were just as vague and surface level as the 2 hosts who are not married. To make matters worse, Tartt did more "woman whispering" as if he is using the platform to drum up future female clients. Not something too far out of reach, because he's a faith-based phycologist and women make up the larger share of church attendances.

Thank you. God is faithful! I want our community to have healthy, loving relationships! 🙏🏾

If you are under 52 or still menstruating you HAVE options. In London now, they are taking eggs directly from the ovaries using a new method. It's working!!! Women are able to have biological children well into there 50s now. Expensive AF out there.

its so expensive

My best friend just had her baby at 41. And my grandmother,God her soul, had my mother at 46 and my uncle at 47. It all depends on diet, mindset and your spiritual life. Doing body detoxification and fasting with prayer will also help.

Thank you.

Same here. I wish I had’ve frozen my eggs.

Thank you so much. It has indeed been awhile. These words are such a blessing.

Same I’m 49 and divorced after being in a toxic 20 year marriage. Been single for almost 7 years, been afraid I’ll never be married again, gives me hope that I may meet a stable marriage minded man again.

Same here. I'm 49. I hope so. I don't know where to meet good men though that are still single

You know I gotcha! I know the truth. 😃

It’s so nice to hear a brother show some love for us

Talk about it 👏🏾some of our black men don't know the meaning of marriage

Yes! His message, his delivery, his realness, his experience, his transparency! Everything about this man was awesome! I could listen to him speak for hours and hours! BRING HIM BACK ASAP! I’m going to his website in 2.5 seconds!

Thank you for the kind words, Larry. Much appreciated. 🙏🏾

Indeed

Sis that sounds like you're coming from a place of lack and limitations. We can have any and all things we want in this world. You just gotta know that. 🙏🏾

@@samanthalianacole2386 Let me know how I can do it. I have a 26year old autistic son , a 76 year old mother I take care of and younger daughter. Tell me...the probability of finding a man. 🤣

@@samanthalianacole2386 Cold reality of most men ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-gs7s4lGt4ko.htmlsi=aWQOW5cpRTDc8dxP

​@@FearfullyandWonderfullyMade139girrl I'm a hopeless romantic LOL, somewhere out there there's a twin flame for you. Maybe he has a 77 year old father and 25 year old autistic daughter and now y'all are the most beautiful Romance Movie in RL. Pray on it and put yourself in the position to have that King find you. It also wouldn't hurt to get some coaching like these guys were mentioning if you think you need it. But keep your heart open and full of joy no matter what. I'll pray for you beautiful stranger 🙂🙏🏾

I’m sorry to hear that you seem like a beautiful person who deserves love

Exactly

Let’s goooo🔥🙏🏾

😊😊 😊

Proverbs 31:12 is the goal!

It’s very different.

Who would have ever thought this would happen?

I’m glad we were able to inspire you. 🙏🏾

Thank you, Alecia. It was a pleasure to serve. I love Hardly Initiated too!

Parents are only equipped with whatever knowledge they can impact on you. Its never too late you can learn a lot on YT on how to date and vet correctly. A lot of books also available. This live is already packed with a lot of info. You just gotta do the "WORK" work on yourself learn to vet and date correctly right here on this platform.

@@lf3554 Yes, I’m aware. I’ve been working on the forgiveness, giving grace and understanding. As well as taking in A LOT of knowledge. But to be honest it seems like I barely scratched the surface with all I have learned. I’m not giving up. I’m definitely meant to be someone’s wife.🥰💍

Understood, but did and doing that, however, reflecting back I'd love to have had it too! ❤

Unfortunately there are many of us who feel the same way-good news we have it now and can proceed and do better now.

Thank you, Joy. Healthy men already know what an amazing woman brings to a relationship and eventual marriage.

Thank you for the kind words. It was a pleasure to serve.

Thank you so much. 🙏🏾

Today's form of marriage is not what God established. Society has weaponized marriage to benefit women, mainly through no-fault divorces, and sadly women are the primary perpetrators in the portrayal you referenced in your comment. So no, it isn't a "win-win" situation anymore for men.

Let's goooo June! We haven't seen you in the chat on a LIVE yet? Come through!

I agree, Sis. My husband and I were both divorcees and married in our 40’s and 50’s. The rules of engagement are definitely different.

Men are beginning to go overseas to look for mature, wife-material women. American women are damaged goods.

So happy for you that you found one another... I'm next!!!❤😊

​@@TA-ht4jo🙄 y'all ain't marrying those women, y'all are having sexxing them and think that makes them "traditional". 😒 Plus "traditional" women would not be with a man outside their culture. But keep drinking that koolaid...

So true

Thank you 🙏🏾