DATING ADVICE for Women 30 and UP ..  

Make him sign a prenup

@@KingDavidTBE agree...

@@KingDavidTBE We already discussed that and he agreed

​@@KingDavidTBEYes, I got suspicious vibes after reading that. Engaged after 1 month? Mmmm..............

​@@KingDavidTBEperiod!

@NicoletteRenee is it cause you felt like a llllllong placemat, like the last option and/or been breadcrumbed the whole time?!

Good job Empress.......

How can you give a man 2 kids and 7 years who is as bad as you say he is? What was the need to stay there just to create a broken home?

Yes after this vacation i will become a social drinker 😂

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I agree. Drinking can age you drastically. Do everything in moderation.

I’ve rarely ever had alcohol in my life and look like an old hag lol

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That's why I feel she is a pick me because she didn't give the realistic answers to these questions. The average woman doesn't benefit from moving from where she is behind a man and leaving her career behind. A couple should move together if married and based on the job/career of the person in the relationship who has the most trajectory - if its her then move to where her job takes her. If its him then move towards where his job is taking him.

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Yes please! I am always willing to relocate but to my husband not just any men. Distance will continue to be an issue if I am not your wife. I will NOT live under the same roof with no men who is not my husband. I am 33 and I will continue to not live with a men without being married!

Yes thank you for saying this ❤great advice. I’m 30 and a travel nurse in California. My future husband must retire me from my job before I move away from my family home to another location with him

The bible teaches us to make Jesus the most important in our lives! The bible also teaches us that we are to give our lives to Christ FOR HIS GLORY and everything that WE NEED will be added! I have made Jesus the most important in my life! I have given HIM my heart! Nothing on this earth last forever! Only the things done for Jesus will last! My relationship with Jesus is most important to me and I look for Jesus to lead me in all things.... daily! I do not seek worldly advice from anybody about anything! I go to God in prayer about everything! It is the man who chooses a wife so I disagree with a woman being aggressive or assertive seeking a husband! The way I personally believe that a woman should prepare herself for a husband is by trusting Jesus with her life putting Him first and keeping herself pure!

God will bring a woman a husband. She needs to use the discernment God has given her.

@@kyki8512 Yea….I think the point is that a man isn’t going to drop on a woman’s doorstep. Being assertive doesn’t necessarily mean you’re asking men out and planning all the dates or chasing a man. It just means if you actually want a committed relationship that leads to marriage you have to put yourself out there in the world to interact with people.

@@AugLaz2 😂😂😂😂SMH..........I'M TAKEN and I am happy! I laugh because some of you do not think first before you respond to someone's comment! You respond without even knowing someone's personal situation! 🥴 And some of you don't realize that you are caught up in today's gender wars! It's like you are beginning to become mentally programmed by talking about the same things on the internet over and over again! SMH I only made my original comment to basically get the point across that it is mandatory for the people who sincerely love and serve God to put HIM FIRST and follow His loving guidance concerning all things! God teaches HIS PEOPLE to first seek the Kingdom of heaven and then HE will add everything that WE NEED! I don't need dating advice sir.........I am more than good! Take care and have a blessed day!

God doesn't need our help... That's why he's God, and we're not. Because we will mess up every time.

Men have a dual mating stratagem. 1. Is she just fxckable 2. Is the someone I will love In my 46 years most women I have had long term relationship I never wanted to marry. When I was 30 I met an 18 year old. She was the first woman I ever met, that made my wife. We divorce in 2010, I have not met a woman since her that I wanted to marry. Just sex only. Three things of value I judge in a future wife 1. How your body looks 2. How you please sexually 3. How you treat me and cater to me Looks wise there are three types of women I would marry. 1. Skinny girl with small breast and small booty 2. Skinny girl with big breast 3. Slim girl with big booty All three must have a flat stomach or she just sex. A fupa or pudge makes her just sex. For a sex partner only I seek BBWs and thick chicks. You can have a great body, and you can cater to me. But if your sex doesn't wow me or make me a little scared of you because you make me climax when you want me to climax then your not for me life long. But your fun the moment. I can get sex and make myself ejaculate with any woman. But it's rare I can lay back and do nothing while a woman rides me and milks my soul up out of me.. Unfortunately that doesn't come from experience. In fact the best sexual partners I ever had were women who gave me their virginity and I taught to please me. Women with higher body counts never please me. I make myself come. I digress. When will men stop surveying women and choose wives. When they ready for marriage. When I wanted a serious relationship I was 29 years old I met sierra she was 18...we had a lot of sex but she didn't want a relationship. She just wanted sex. When me and her broke up. My ex wife approached me 6 months later when I turned 30...my ex wife was 18....she had all the characteristics I look for in a wife. So when she mentioned she wanted to be married I asked her to be my wife. I'm 46 years old .the 24 year old I'm dating now from Chicago doesn't want marriage or children. She wants lots of sex. She is not the type I would marry because she is not skinny. But she is childless and has huge boobs so she is a great sex partner. I know some slim girls who know how to cater and treat a man, but they don't make me orgasm..I make myself come. I know some women who are great at treating a man good and catering to him but they don't make me come and they are fat. I know some women who can make come and our skinny. But they are not compatible because they too old and wouldn't be able to give me lots of children if I married them or they simply aren't consistent with pleasing me sexually probably because they older. But they also aren't good at treating me how I want to be treated outside of sex and them having a slim body they are not ideal for life long partnership atleast not for me. Now I know there some women out there who could please a man sexually and are everything a man wants in a wife when it comes to treatment. But these women are all fat. I tell women when we see you. How you look plays a big part if your the girl I want to love from the first time we have sex, or you the girl I would have sex with if I'm desperate and in need but your not what I'm attracted too. Men don't like fupas. We tolerate it to get our nut off....big girls need love too:"pxssy is pxssy". But we not trying to marry her big. After she has our kids she can get big due to age and childbirth. But if she stays big, we might leave her for someone younger when the kids are grown and gone. Most women who have never had a man proposed marriage to her simply need to get slim or skinny. An the women who think they got the game and gone with it. But never had a man who was financially stable or husband material asked her hand in marriage she needs to work on the three elements..... 1. Body and looks 2. Consistent frequent involuntary ejaculation 3. Cater and spoil him at all times I have a list of ten things all men need and what all women need. Women seem to fail to realize we as men don't need the same things as you. You women need 1. Companionship 2. Quality time 3. Intellectual stimulation 4. Affection and intimacy 5. Security 6. Attention 7. Conversation and communication 8. Trust 9. Respect 10. Honesty We as men don't need these things. We don't care about travel, spontaneity or adventure..we like structure, order and predictability. Women travel for experiences of different cultures like the food, the scenery, the ambiance, and the people and how they live. We as men travel for work and for sex with slim built exotic looking women. We really don't like traveling. The men who tell you otherwise are just doing it to keep getting sex out of you or to keep being with you in a relationship. If all men could get sex with out ever going in baecation or never taking a woman on a date they wouldn't do ever. The men who get sex with out dates don't go on dates. Men who do take women on a date have fewer options. To me dating just means we fxxck and talk on the phone.

I can say the same thing for women.

@tannyshayearby8698 I agree. I think part of the problem is: 1-social media-access to so many people from all over 2-the callous attitude about relationships these days. Everyone is disposable, and what one won’t do, another will. 3-People do too much too quick. I agree that a number of men are very picky these days. Not masculine at all.

@tyrealist5629 Sometimes.. But women have always been pickier than men. It’s a feminine trait.

@@nenajay3174 Well said. I can agree with those. I just want black men and women to understand those factors.

Honestly, I commend you because same age; although, I have never been married; I am like you working on self; and making better choices; not only for me but for my grandchildren; because I definitely don't won't to be bringing some creep around my grandchildren; and older women often times with don't put this into the equation when were selecting a mate for the later half of our lives!!!!

They only wanna bang you out nothing more

Yupppppp.

ABSOLUTELY!!! IM GLAD SOMEBODY FINALLY SAID IT!!! you cant date or marry a man who is not happy with his life!!! its a recipe for disaster! it is better to let him take the time to get his life straight...then to rush him to anybody alter! you will regret it!

Exactly! Is waterinf each other. I onced dated this guy who was bothered by me asking questions relevant into getting to know him. Well, it was alot of them. They were more focused on other things physically then actually getting to know me and see if I added to them or vice versa.

Hahaha 😆 😅 😂

Gud luck with that 😂

Not necessarily. The fear is she doesnt really like you, she there to change you into the man that she likes. She be doing that stuff if she acceped you for who you are

Needed this

Oh, this is such a good message. Thank you, thank you, I am 57 years old. I guess maybe I’m old fashion. But I still believe that you need someone and learn their character. And they have to walk the walk. Love is action, a verb. Jesus said come learn of me it’s beautiful. I have to believe that love is real. I taught my boys what you’re saying. I grew up without a father. I meant Jesus when I was 33. He taught me how to raise my boys. So thank you. I could say so much more but I’m gonna quit. I love this. It’s so true.

@@robynwinfield4024 yes, I’ve been with my wife for almost 8 years now and Love has never been difficult for us. We have our problems here and there but I would do anything for her as she would do for me. God gave me my soulmate and I believe we are blessed because we are both good people. She brought Jesus in my life and I brought health and fitness into her life and we are working right now on being the best we can be for each other.

You full of crap

Agree

@@H1GHD3FF Based on what data?

Im 32 and had failed relationship in my 20s and been in a new healthy relationship with a 25 yr old woman and newborn...life is awesome haha

I agree, that's exactly how I feel.

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And that concern is likely because the father is inactive.

That's not the issue men who was seeking go after the women that they want, When I was 30 and finally ready to be committed. It only took me 9 months to find the woman I would marry 2 years later. The first girl I met was young she was 18. I was 29 and her name was sierra, She didn't want marriage or a commitment. She wanted a purely sexual relationship with an older guy., We lasted 3 months and 6 months later Shoshanna approached me she was 18 and I had just turned 30. Two years later I married her. Point is when a man is seeking a commitment of any kind be it long relationship or marriage. He goes out and finds it. Men don't need to be taught anything. We only commit to certain types of women. An every other woman we see as just fxxxckable. A woman can say what ever she wants, it doesn't matter if we see you as just fxxxckable that's all you will ever be. How good is your sex Attitude and persona Behavior towards me Body shape and size These three things that tell me if she is for love or just 2 fxxck. What you say doesn't matter it's how you look and how you treat us. And for me it's also dependent on how you have sex with me too. These things will tell me if your just for short time or a long time

@genovasquez8361 The statement you responded to was about men being better partners/husband material. There are some good man who embody that BUT there are also those who don’t have a clue-and that goes for men already in relationships and marriages. Women get married for many reasons. Sometimes it’s for money/security. Sometimes it’s just what is expected, what was taught. Either way, being with someone doesn’t mean that the person is boyfriend or husband material. There are a number of men that seem to think that just by being born male alone makes them desirable to women. And too often when women speak about what is wanted from a man, the conversation then switches to what we should be. Women have always been taught how we should treat a man (how to attract, treat, tend to, pet egos, etc). I think the comment was speaking to the same energy being put into efforts from a man as it pertains to dealing with women.

@@nenajay3174 men don't need effort, do you know why. Because we are the ones who proposed marriage. Women are the ones who submit to becoming our wives. About 80% of the serious relationships I had we're with women who wanted to be married to me. I can name a lot off the top of my head. Even now there are 5 women I am in long term relationship with that want to marry me. In my 46 years I only met one woman I wanted to marry and I did make her wife. Since my divorce in 2010 I have not met a woman I seen for anything more than just fxxxckable. 1. It's women who are saying they dating with a purpose after 35. 2. It's only Women saying men over 40 don't want commitment. 3. It's only women saying men want the cake and eat it too. 4. It's women saying it's hard to find a man who wants to settle down. 5. It's only women saying they are tired of men just using them for only sex. 6. It's only women Saying men don't approach them anymore. 7. It's only women complaining Women saying dating is hard and the dating pool sucks.

@@nenajay3174 "women have always been taught how we should treat a man, how to attract, tend too and uplift his ego." I certainly hope this is untrue. Because most women over 30 are actually better suited for lesbian relationships, either y'all have no clue what men want, or you know and refuse to do it. When I was on Facebook telling women what we as men need. Sistas was quick to say that's not all men, you can't speak for men. Etc. But when I list the ten things every woman needs from a man sistas would say your right but men need those things too. I say no we don't need what you need. We need other things. Ten things every woman needs 1. Conversation and communication 2. Affection and intimacy 3. Intellectual stimulation 4. Respect 5. Honesty 6. Trust 7. Attention 8. Quality time 9. Companionship 10. Security Now there are things you want like spontaneity and adventurous and travel companions but the things I listed are what you need above. We as men don't need any of those things. Some things you know because you heard it over and over again 1. Cook and clean 2. Be submissive and obedient 3. Silence is golden dont talk so much 4. Be our peace ie don't talk so much 5. Feed our ego, empower us 6. Look like eye candy we are visual 7. Be youthful and young 8. Slim waist flat stomach 9. Give us sex several times a day 10. Give us variety (poly or other women) These things you know inherently. You said pet his ego, how emasculating and belittling. You pet a dog. Why not use words like edify, empower, uplift and flatter You are so quick to try to humble and knock a man down a few pegs. That's why we have to lie and cheat on y'all to keep our confidence up high in order to combat your need to belittle us. We as men need variety of women..that's why they have a main chick or first wife. And you have concubines, mistresses, side chicks or secondary wives. We don't need your respect . We prefer your submission and obedience. We don't need you affection and intimacy we just need sexual intercourse every time we asked for it. We don't need constant conversation or how was your day when we get home. Run us a bath. Or take a shower with us. Then give us a back and foot massage and then some sloppy toppy. You say you want a good leader. But when have you ever been a follower to any man? I don't need spontaneity I need predictability. Things you want is not what we want as men. We want routine and structured and order. We want peace and quiet some times..not 40,000 words a day. We need sex every day. We need our cake and eat it too. You and two other women run a train on us once a month in addition to your daily sexual duty. Do your duty as a girlfriend and wife. Not because of your emotions. This is what we need. But y'all not listening. We are turned off by weave, tattoos, ready made families with another man's children, eye lashes and make up. We like black women who look natural and beautiful like in the 90s, 80s and 70s..... These things you obviously don't know or don't care.

​@@genovasquez8361You're showing exactly what she's saying. You're totally missing the point.

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Also, if men are THAT pressed about weight, then someone like me (as a naturally thin person) should have TONS of men pining for their attention, rather than being shocked at the one man in every few years who finds them attractive. Women may have some high criteria (maybe), but men have such absolutely unnatural expectations for women smdh.

Honestly while a lot of things she says is still good insight and advice for women...I did feel like some things she was saying didn't quite hit. Then I hear she's in her 50s, single and never married. She looks great for her age for sure and I see why. Yes marriage and kids can stress a person out and literally age them much faster. There's a lady who is in her 70s and looks as good as this lady and she admitted that she never married and only had 1 child. She dodged get the hassles. 😂 Honestly I can definitely tell women that men today are far too demanding and unrealistic with their expectations. There are plenty of women who are just as guilty. However I have seen far more women bend over backwards for a man, marriage and family than I've ever seen of men. Not a good thing.

No single woman should relocate for a man. That is dangerous.

I agree that there is a lot more nuance needed when discussing relocating for a relationship. I definitely believe that compromise should be factored into the equation as well.

Yes relocating when you have a child and co parent or have shared custody is not possible and if a man is actually free of anything tieing him to a location then he should be willing to relocate if he feels she is the one. As a mom myself I definitely understand. I had 2 siblings that were special needs (one I helped my parents care for) and I definitely get how relocating for partner would not be ideal.

Men in their 30s think they’re not a day over 25. They see women their age as older women while they themselves aren’t older men. It’s their delusion.

Women age like milk while Men age like a fine wine 😂.

Me too

They would have to be quintuplets, and even that's a "no". Men are out here professing to the world how they'd never consider a single mother, even to 1 child or if she's a widow. No care for character or commonalities. Yet we'll _possibly_ consider a father of 5 kids...

Wow don’t you have a negative view on men lol. If this is all you see in older men then sheesh

💯 correct!

@@ThurstMETVsaid feels the same way about women.

@@ThurstMETV He literally said that he feels the same way about women. Can you read?

Thank you

So true

Let’s gooo

Yessss I love her comment about being open and available. The energy you exude is felt by others. Men who are looking for that woman will see you.

That's because he makes way more. Unfortunately, can't say this would be the case if the positions were reversed.

Exactly!! Relationships are two way streets. There has to be compromise. We all have to do what makes sense for us. I’ve noticed that risk podcast caters to men though.

Right. That is SUCH dangerous advice.

High Powered Podcast Princella listen to the girl for what applies to you and your life.....she speak alot of real stuff

Hahaha 😂😂.

Just why take advice from her

@@ashajeremiahqw8775 I’m confused by your comment. Please expound.

@@SheRuns2024 uhhh why take advice from a single woman if your tryna get married. If your not than I understand

@@ashajeremiahqw8775 ok, now that’s how you expound. Say what you mean love🙂. And I hear ya. That’s a fair point. Not really sure why you felt the need the comment, though, without explanation and without offering advice of your own.🤔

@@SheRuns2024 wow 😀

Agreed, as young man about to be 31 this year. Unless you’re an athlete with good character, it takes longer to get your shit together. In this time we have to be patient and diligent so that we can see Gods will done through us. Not all men think this way but for the ones on their purpose it’s hard to date because of expectations. Women will ultimately want marriage and a family so understanding that we have to prepare ourselves for that role. In that takes time.

nevermind the username this account i’ve had since my sidekick days.

​@@xKingUVHearts: But women are getting their stuff together by then... in a patriarchy. So what's going on here?

Start on one behavior at a time. It will build confidence. You can do it!!!

Keep working on being the best of you, learn more about you from the relationships you have had with men. The best of you will come from those lessons you will learn. The right man will fit perfectly.

Thank you so much. 😊