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When personal relationships and ideological differences collide, the result can lead to strained relations -- or even years of silence and distance. Actor Betty Hart offers an alternative to cold shoulders and haughty hellos: compassion, and a chance for growth and change instead of losing important time with loved ones.
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@ContraryMary
@ContraryMary 3 года назад
I found, after 35 years, that life is short, and I've suffered long enough. Time to start living. Sometimes its not about love - its about chosing life and not sinking because of one person for the rest of your life.
@javaman666
@javaman666 3 года назад
Her voice and how to pronunciate is so clear in every word. It is makes me easy to understand as an English learner.
@serenitynow9980
@serenitynow9980 3 года назад
"Carry out a random act of kindness with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you." ~Princess Diana
@haleycomer112395
@haleycomer112395 3 года назад
don’t let this justify any kind of abuse. physically, mentally or spiritually.
@laurelmcphee793
@laurelmcphee793 3 года назад
There is no way you could spin what she said into justifying abuse...
@haleycomer112395
@haleycomer112395 3 года назад
@@laurelmcphee793 someone who is watching this that may be getting abused could then use the things she says to justify the things that are happening to them.
@patrick.e.mmanuel
@patrick.e.mmanuel 2 года назад
@@haleycomer112395 true
@renjia3504
@renjia3504 Год назад
I left my abusive ho fr fr
@nektariak4212
@nektariak4212 3 года назад
Just a reminder that you shouldn’t try compassionate culture with abusive people (emotionally or physically). You deserve better, it’s not your job to “fix” them. Get your distance please and focus on your mental and physical health. I’m a person with sociopathic parents. Try showing them some empathy. They take it all, never get tired of getting, but they won’t give you anything in return. Not all people change. And for the ones who do, let’s meet them again when they have already changed.
@Singhxavi
@Singhxavi 3 года назад
👍 100% agree
@imperfectmammal2566
@imperfectmammal2566 3 года назад
@TED. stop trying take advantage of broken hearts
@ms.holmes9368
@ms.holmes9368 3 года назад
Well added 🥰
@vietphuongnguyen971
@vietphuongnguyen971 3 года назад
That’s all my thoughts
@bearinthewoods9068
@bearinthewoods9068 3 года назад
Totally agree!
@srinidhishegde6060
@srinidhishegde6060 3 года назад
I want to improve my relationship with my sister..I WILL TRY HARD AND TRY TO MAKE A CHANGE.
@zerowasteteen6251
@zerowasteteen6251 3 года назад
Yes!!! You can do it!!
@rastaboo3607
@rastaboo3607 3 года назад
One of my favourite Ted talks. Holy cow the power in her message and voice. 💚
@_CloudyBunny
@_CloudyBunny 3 года назад
I cried so hard
@linnenglish2335
@linnenglish2335 3 года назад
Me in my teenage years would've completely disagreed with this woman, but me right now can totally feel this
@renjia3504
@renjia3504 2 года назад
Every girl expects a knight, it's hard for every guy to meet those criteria
@shreeshiva9421
@shreeshiva9421 Год назад
@@renjia3504 : and not every girl deserves the knight and not every girl is a lady. U didn't mention so I thought to do that 😉
@iferren
@iferren 3 года назад
Thats way it feels bad to cancell someone. And it feels good to forgive
@joannot6706
@joannot6706 3 года назад
I talk from experience telling you the opposite is usually true.
@iferren
@iferren 3 года назад
@@joannot6706 It always depend on the case. (E.g. Abusive people). Inside your mind and body knows the truth and it has been cientifically proven the benefits of forgiveness.
@vthilton
@vthilton 3 года назад
Truth, Love and Peace for All.
@nielbezuidenhout1074
@nielbezuidenhout1074 3 года назад
May an increased understanding of the value of compassion on a personal level, also help us to shape a society in which we will be open minded to diverse thoughts and solutions.
@Mykindyrella
@Mykindyrella 3 года назад
She is indeed a seed of influence. Awesome and powerful talk. 👏🏼
@unregierbar7694
@unregierbar7694 3 года назад
She is right. Compassion and harmony fall short nowadays.
@charlesmahao3522
@charlesmahao3522 11 месяцев назад
This is one of the mpst profound and well spoken topics i have ever heard! Absolutely beautiful ❤️
@stefannikola
@stefannikola 3 года назад
There's a point at which compassion runs out. Abundant compassion can become an opportunity and permission to offend again. There's nothing wrong with separating yourself from abusive people.
@raystyles1045
@raystyles1045 3 года назад
With like a hundred wars going on around the world how do you think we're doing so far with old ways of thinking ? Quote from the late Dave Allen let your God go with you.
@carlalatraveler
@carlalatraveler 8 месяцев назад
This is one of the most amazing TED talks I’ve listened to. Thank you 🙏🏽
@GBisht111
@GBisht111 Год назад
Be compassionate but do not stay in abuse - In case of Abuse compassion needs to start with yourself first. This is the only difference . Be Love ❤
@CLEANDrumCovers
@CLEANDrumCovers 3 года назад
Yes, we need to talk more about this. Cancel culture is toxic and not part of the society we would like to live in.
@abrahampalmer8761
@abrahampalmer8761 Год назад
Exactly it makes it worse for everyone and it does so much damage without people realizing that.
@SaltyCuban
@SaltyCuban 3 года назад
How about acceptance culture. Accepting true diversity manifesting itself as diverse thought and opinions. Thank you Betty. For reminding folks of the options we have. Cancel culture must end. Otherwise our society is doomed to fail.
@veApolo
@veApolo 3 года назад
What a powerful and open eyes' message. Plant s seed with the best intention that you will help someone else.... We can make it true.
@therichest7879
@therichest7879 3 года назад
W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P +/1/2/1/3/2/6/0/4/8/9/5 I/N/V/E/S/T/ IN B/T/C AND E/T/H========
@yolandaponkers1581
@yolandaponkers1581 3 года назад
I absolutely adore her outlook! We need a world of Bettys.
@user-sn9cu9ef4o
@user-sn9cu9ef4o 3 года назад
Thank you very much for changing my mindset
@MillersLanguageSchool
@MillersLanguageSchool 3 года назад
*Compassion is the path of the righteous, it is not available to everyone. Compassion makes a person vulnerable.*
@qubaliclife4666
@qubaliclife4666 3 года назад
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Ephesians 6:12
@punnaroothsrimongkolsilp6279
@punnaroothsrimongkolsilp6279 3 года назад
Thank you so much for teaching me :)
@richardcranium8408
@richardcranium8408 3 года назад
“Amor Fati” beautifully explained again.
@CaisdasLetras
@CaisdasLetras 3 года назад
Fantastic! This is now one of my favorite Ted talks. This needs to be spread and performed!
@selay5998
@selay5998 3 года назад
Mrs Hart you are inspiring!
@angelbrigg
@angelbrigg 3 года назад
Wonderful talk and she looks fabulous in that dress!
@emills767
@emills767 3 года назад
Same thoughts!
@iknowashortcut6503
@iknowashortcut6503 Год назад
What a strong woman. I like her.
@josefshopovich7584
@josefshopovich7584 3 года назад
It's important to close the eyes on the things we don't like, if we want to live a peaceful and happy life.
@georgewilliams1097
@georgewilliams1097 3 года назад
Thats a stupid concept. If you don't open yourself up to the things you disagree with then you reach a box of seclusion and ignorance and if you stay in that box you gain a massive ego even for being wrong but if you open yourself up to things you can understand more,widen your views and become more intelligent
@josefshopovich7584
@josefshopovich7584 3 года назад
@@InMaTeofDeath ah.. That's exaggerating. I'm talking about family gathering.
@ruinfirefly2088
@ruinfirefly2088 3 года назад
@@georgewilliams1097 That's such a well written thought
@mssassy6129
@mssassy6129 3 года назад
Compassion is radical now. Sad...Powerful talk.
@Sundari_Krishna
@Sundari_Krishna 3 года назад
I got it what she meant... thanks .. good influence... Amazing and emotional talk
@therichest7879
@therichest7879 3 года назад
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@RayWalker-pythonic
@RayWalker-pythonic 3 года назад
I love this talk. Really inspiring.
@Anipor992
@Anipor992 3 года назад
How if they don’t see and feel any compassion!
@izaakthoms
@izaakthoms 3 года назад
it doesn’t need to go both ways. Walk in others shoes and learn their experiences. Then they are faced with choice of accepting compassion or not.
@walburchamanazakanian2817
@walburchamanazakanian2817 3 года назад
oh my god, this just made me cry (in a positive sense)!! It was such an empowering talk! :)
@ottahosondu6001
@ottahosondu6001 3 года назад
We need to cancel the cancel culture.
@abrahampalmer8761
@abrahampalmer8761 Год назад
Tbh I'm so sick of it at this point it doesn't help anyone it makes it worse
@alerio369
@alerio369 Год назад
Emphasis on the ones we love
@wangui9944
@wangui9944 3 года назад
Really blessed by this💕
@shwetavaswani9593
@shwetavaswani9593 3 года назад
Totally worthy✨
@therichest7879
@therichest7879 3 года назад
W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P +/1/2/1/3/2/6/0/4/8/9/5 I/N/V/E/S/T/ IN B/T/C AND E/T/H========
@tinadawson3231
@tinadawson3231 2 года назад
Thank you!
@scatton61
@scatton61 3 года назад
I am so glad that you have discovered compassion. Not new, people have been doing it for 100,000s of years. Although suffering alongside someone sounds a bit silly... you can sympathise and understand other people's point of view without the suffering. Not quite sure why this is a TED talk..
@sofiagusniacb5896
@sofiagusniacb5896 3 года назад
To plant seed of change... Interesting talk
@muhammadbello9341
@muhammadbello9341 3 года назад
He's right, you're beautiful .
@riccardorizzoli
@riccardorizzoli 3 года назад
i'm crying
@compassiontools2069
@compassiontools2069 2 года назад
Not only relationships but the whole world I would say
@MissPocketRocket333
@MissPocketRocket333 2 года назад
Beautiful x
@aeriumfour6096
@aeriumfour6096 3 года назад
When you have been effectively locked up together for a year straight, almost any relationship will be strained, compassion isn't the solution when Covid has destroyed your general appreciation of or ability to put up with another person.
@jaywhoisit4863
@jaywhoisit4863 3 года назад
I’m much closer with my family since lockdown. We just enjoy each other and actually have time for one another. It’s been a blessing for us.
@aeriumfour6096
@aeriumfour6096 3 года назад
@@jaywhoisit4863 Absolutely, it works fine for people with a lot in common and aren't holding onto any grudges or annoyances. For those that do, it's been catastrophic.
@beatricehart5614
@beatricehart5614 3 года назад
I appreciate her message but you can't suffer with someone who wants to deny or jeopardize your human rights.
@Mystefier
@Mystefier 2 года назад
I needed to see this. I've been really angry lately about how so many charities exclude men in the people they offer help to and I've been hearing people say that it's because of an empathy gap (that society does not have empathy for men.) So maybe there are problems, but I wanted to resist getting resentful toward women, because I know this is a problem with politicians, but not women, so I looked up to see examples of women showing empathy and compassion toward men, and this lady is a great example of that. It was so wonderful to hear her perspective and to keep up my faith in humanity.
@sanvet1235
@sanvet1235 3 года назад
Wow amazing. Love from indonesian
@rochekeenmanalaysay5454
@rochekeenmanalaysay5454 3 года назад
Respect...
@DrMjVeterinarian
@DrMjVeterinarian 3 года назад
💖
@raystyles1045
@raystyles1045 3 года назад
Any thing is possible
@therichest7879
@therichest7879 3 года назад
W/H/A/T/S/A/P/P +/1/2/1/3/2/6/0/4/8/9/5 I/N/V/E/S/T/ IN B/T/C AND E/T/H========
@captainjames4649
@captainjames4649 3 года назад
thats how it works
@rartis4636
@rartis4636 3 года назад
Pp
@captainjames4649
@captainjames4649 3 года назад
@@rartis4636 agreed
@captainjames4649
@captainjames4649 3 года назад
@TED. You wanna hook up babe
@rochekeenmanalaysay5454
@rochekeenmanalaysay5454 3 года назад
Big Heart...😘
@evolutionxbox
@evolutionxbox 3 года назад
powerful
@user-mb6oy1hm7w
@user-mb6oy1hm7w 3 года назад
Maybe we can make an app to pick a phone call in mute untill we need to aplly
@Project-js7mu
@Project-js7mu 3 года назад
Im commenting
@josephcasley7979
@josephcasley7979 2 года назад
This is music to my heart or should that be soul?
@ACB2K
@ACB2K 3 года назад
I had to hear this today 3.28.21. THANKS
@nhatthan7154
@nhatthan7154 3 года назад
Hi
@therichest7879
@therichest7879 3 года назад
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@eetogt3318
@eetogt3318 3 года назад
Athinenna chechieeeee
@xananacs
@xananacs 3 года назад
Meh. Just made me feel bad for pushing back against my abusers. Planted the seed fourteen million times. If the message had worth, it should come with a ton of warnings and maybes.
@dm20422
@dm20422 3 года назад
@brooksnation4667
@brooksnation4667 3 года назад
Pog
@sanjaymourya6838
@sanjaymourya6838 3 года назад
Cancel cancel culture... Everything will sort out...
@ukaszstec470
@ukaszstec470 3 года назад
Why do you assume grandpa needs to change and not you? He has much more life experience.
@raqueeeel1000
@raqueeeel1000 3 года назад
As we continue to advance as a society there are new concepts that we learn that grandpa might not have learned in his lifetime. That is why discussion and compassion will allow each side to learn and perhaps grow.
@pavilionman64
@pavilionman64 3 года назад
She looks like that women from Wakanda
@arihantgupta790
@arihantgupta790 3 года назад
Niceeeeee
@offbeatmoonknight
@offbeatmoonknight 3 года назад
goood gig after avengers!
@AMDNEWS0
@AMDNEWS0 3 года назад
Me first
@vickyrichardson5287
@vickyrichardson5287 3 года назад
Nope. You don’t understand toxic people. You are assuming that some of us haven’t suffered enough.
@Mountain_Drew
@Mountain_Drew 3 года назад
I know why some people clicked on this video.
@therichest7879
@therichest7879 3 года назад
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@sunnyrobinson2128
@sunnyrobinson2128 3 года назад
Now they are trying to cancel Destiny's child "Cater To You" 😔SMH cancelling love for man😔🎯
@eternitynaut
@eternitynaut 3 года назад
Can you fork the channel with videos geared more towards technology and science vs entertainment and social videos like this?
@ramo.d1329
@ramo.d1329 3 года назад
türk var mi?
@dgpaul16
@dgpaul16 3 года назад
Sorry, Ma'am, you go ahead and keep enjoying all the suffering. Have fun.
@therichest7879
@therichest7879 3 года назад
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@rosemarrychurch3247
@rosemarrychurch3247 3 года назад
“The investor’s chief problem - and even his worst enemy - is likely to be himself.”Earn 40,000$ every week from your own investment . Ask me how.
@dooshmasta
@dooshmasta 3 года назад
She doesn’t even have hair. What can she teach me?
@guyjonson6364
@guyjonson6364 3 года назад
Shallow Allow
@Vanessa257888
@Vanessa257888 3 года назад
So rude.
@kantudhanmeher5950
@kantudhanmeher5950 3 года назад
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