Mujhe bhi bahut sehna pada tha...jab tak husband jivit the roj kisi ko bhi subah subah ghar late the ..ab me south Indian hu to wo log ghar ghus jate the subah subah ...aur un logo ke liye idli,wada,sambar, chutney sab banati thi....ab husband ka dehant ho gaya corona virus me,ab to koi puchta bhi nahi...ye sab jabardasti ki socializing karna aur ghar pe faltu ka laana,aur aurto ko pareshan karna band hona chahiye....wo log khud ke ghar pe chai tak nahi pilate the aur yaha bhabiji ko jabardasti idli,wada,dosa sab banana padta tha....south indian hone ki saja bhugatni padti thi...😮
Your lectures have made me guilt free from many incidents of my life. I am not an ideal person. Every role of mine is flawed a little bit. But now I feel it ok not to be ideal. Rather this is more practical. Hats off to you for decluttering our minds from these unnecessary thoughts .
Yeah it's called killing your soul, so that you can do business with your dark side. All bad people have their value system. The only thing is that those values are bad. And these people tell you that values are values they are not right or wrong
Sir please make video on narcissism especially in Indian households. People in our society are still not aware of how dangerous and damaging narcissistic people can be, when their are so many in Indian families.
100 percent relatable , my inlaws call everyone into the house for get together without asking me , after that they give me whole responsibilty to comfort the guest , i feel like i became robot to them
Whose house you are living in? Is it yours or your in-laws'? They can invite but shouldn't expect you to cook, serve and clean alone. It should be a team work. I have organized parties (4-5 times a yr) for 24-25 ppl single handedly while working full time. It used to be fun, my guests and family members enjoyed it and in return we used to be invited by some of the families as well. I think if you are away from your city, province, or country then it is a nice way to stay connected to your culture. Socializing at home is much better and economic than socializing at a restaurant. Yes! Picnicking in a park is another option where families can bring food and share it. Don't stop socializing, eating, laughing, joking with friends and relatives is tonic to your health😊.
I mean that we should not stop socializing at home. Eating, cracking healthy jokes and laughing with friends/relatives without any inhibition is a tonic to our health.
Mere yha pe sb relatives bhi aa jayengey toh sara kaam phir bhi mere maa aunty ko hi krna hai baki relatives ki taraf se ek ladies bhi help nhi kregi bhle hi bua ho ya koi aur I also had seen ghr ke ladies ki kamar toot jati hai raat tak subha se sara arrangements krne me phir bhi no respect and saas sasur unke betiya bhai unke bccche alag ji level ke kmiya gina dete hai koi kuchh
You are someone who is a great stress buster, I can listen to you any time of the day it's like listening to an elderly from life's experiences way to go forward Mr. Sanghwan... You rock 🤘
Menfolk who impose such things on their families..don't know what they are trying to prove. Mostly visitors come to judge and flats are just not conducive for such get togethers.
This man is doing a favor to our society by sharing videos on issues which are real problems in our society and things which actually drag us down. Thank you so much Sir! I love each and every video of your channel.
I have experienced first hand. Huge time waster. As a student, attending guest in the house was very stressful. Without information or invitation anyone could come anytime. Staying for night was common too. Never had an option to avoid. You have to be in your best in front of the guests and relatives. अतिथि देवो भव! Sacrifice your wife and children for them. Great advice. Thank you 🙏🏼 😊
He is just talking about the official matters, shouldn't come to home ( official matter here means work related to office and people associated with it) and yes the friends too. But if u r talking about relations with bloodline, then I think u should think atleast once.
Sir, please reply on this. Mere saath kya hua, jab meri age thi ki apne dosto ke saath bahar jaau to ghar waale bahar nhi jaane dete the. Mai aaj tak dosto ke ghar bhi nahi gya. 12 class tak ke doston se bhi dosti khatam ho gyi. Ab jab mai 22 saal ka ho gya, aur socially awkward ho gya, ab ghar waale bolein ki job lake de ab, job chahiye. Ab bolte hain ki bahar bhi nahi jata, rishtedaaron se bhi baat nahi karta. Aree bahi jab time tha apne bahar jaane nahi diya, ab dimaag dhal gya ab bol re ho ki saale bahar ja ab, job lake de. Please address this issue.
Excellent. I have a same thinking but my own husband doesn't understand this. I don't want to invite people and throw parties. I have been tagged as 'ghamandi'. But I don't care
After so many years of being a good host n realising that i have wasted a lot of time and energy on these stupid circles. I simply took back steps and stopped entertaining people. I realised it is such a heavenly blessing
I think you are God - sent. 🙏🏼 Keep up your great work Sir. You are UNIQUE, your thinking is great. Gratitude and appreciation is just what you deserve 💞
Your videos are very good Mr. Amit. You always give so much clarity on so many issues. Most of the time I am already doing what you are advocating. It’s very reassuring. Thank you 🙏🏻May you get many more subscribers 😅
Aap ye kyon kahte hen sas sasur ko sath nahi rahna cahiye mujhe samajh nahi aata ye India he kuch acche sanskar ki baten karo to accha lagega mere bete ki 1 Sal pahle shadi hui he ek beta canada men study Kar raha he mere dono hi bete itna jyada pyar karte hen jiski shadi hui he woh bahu or men sas bahu nahi saheliyan hen maa beti lagti hen mere bacce to kabhi alag jana hinahi cahte ham kahte hen tab bhi nahi jaynge isliye aazkal ki ladkiyan jo acchi nahi hen sasural men nahi rahna cahti aap unke hi man ki bat karte hen isliye vidio khub chlenge aapke ye to he par sab ek jese nahi hotemere bete ki love merrege he hamne apne khud ke pese se beti banakar shadi ki he kyonki ladki Singapur ki he unke yahan hamari jesi shadi nahi hoti Vidhi saffron Bali isliye hamne khud ki he hamare Ghar aakar dekho ham khud cahte hen alag rahen tab bhi nahi jana cahte beta bahu itne pyare or izzat karne bale hen esi bahu kismet Balon ko milti henbete bhi
Urban life is so stressful. Now i get the point why they need consultants to talk other than friends, teachers, relatives.Come to villages the real sukun is here believe me or not.
In every video, it's like you speak my mind. I don't think it's easy to make such bold videos. It requires a paradigm shift to appreciate such content. Keep up the great work!
Sir I have so much suffered due to behaviour of my father. For 5-6 years there wasn't a day when we don't have guest in our house. My study suffered due to this so much.
Meri mummy ko bhi turant shadi ke baad bahut sehna pada tha ye. Par jab meri mummy unke ghar jati thi wo chai bhi nahi puchte the. Infact jalte the aur mere parents ke bich fut dalne ka kaam karte the
@@underratedidiot4568Maa ka sabse achi dost beti ya beta hi hota he. Wo aur kiske samne roegi, feelings exchange karna jaruri hota he nehi to insan depression me chala jata he. Jisko mental health k bareme pata he wo log samajh pate he. Aur maike wale bhi sadi k bad itne puchte nehi, boldete he teri kismat ham kya kare. To maa kisse feelings share karegi, she is also a human right?????
@@ayanbhattacharjee1076 it exist my dear. If you don't have depression then it does not mean depression does not exist. You only understand or relate those things which you know or hear about. This is new trend which we are facing recently
Yes this is also a underlying issue in many marriages across the world Lot of my friends have told me about this openly which then leads to affairs & divorces
I am so tired of these comments and pressure “ Ghar aaye mehmaan or koi bhi ghar aaya toh bina khilaye pilaye kaise bhej sakte hai !! “ Elders say such things and shame our generation always I think we are the transition generation who adjusted to such things but next genz won’t
i don't understand the negativity around this whole food thing. I feel it is a way of showing love to people. It need not be an elaborate thing - but asking someone to join for lunch is such an act of love. It is also an Indian thing. Nobody is dying to eat at my place, it is an honor if a close relative or friend is dropping by and i can share food with them.
Many motivational speaker are now days only (storyteller) but this man is true who change our society. Genuine respect for you sir from heart❤ You are real Acharya🙏
You are absolutely right. Same is to be done while inviting marriage party where real well-wishers and near relatives only need to be invited. No need for envious and jealous people around. Please make a video on that.
Meri mummy ko bhi turant shadi ke baad bahut sehna pada tha ye. Par jab meri mummy unke Ghar jati thi wo chai bhi nahi puchte the. Infact jalte the aur mere parents ke bich fut dalne ka kaam karte the
Thank u sir for this nice content...I am 68 born..I too hv done these socializing in my young days..but over the yrs I too hv learnt alot ..and now I bluntly say NO to my hubby and to his friends ..as I remember last week I refused to my hubby's friends to have a get-together at my place.. it is due to aging and my health issues..
Indian log private space ki respect nahi karte which is too essential for mental health. Mujhe to saare creative ideas hi akele mein aate hain. When we have our space we evolve better.
100% DISAGREE. Apke bahut se video se agree hote hain iska matlab ye nahi ki kuch bhi bakwas se agree ho jayein. Andhbhakt nahi hai apke, humare paas bhi dil aur dimag hai 😢Bas paise ke piche bhaagte raho, koi dost rishtedar ko Ghar mat bulaao, Naa unke Ghar jaao. Arrey Bhai khana bahar se order kar do, maid bartan kar degi. Ghar par yaar dost rishtedar k sath interaction comfort hota hai wo restaurant mei nhi ho sakta. Kal ko to bachho ko bhi paise de do ki bahar khana kha kar aaya karo. 4 logo k alawa bhi duniya hai. Paise se bahut si facilities avail ki ja rakti hai lekin bahut baar Dost rishtedar bhi kaam aate Hain sirf paise se kuch nahi hota. Inssan mat bano, paise kamaane ki machine ban jao.
PERFECT!!!!❤️ GLAD to know we as a family we have started doing this way before. It has been 9 years we insist on meeting out and stick by it. And your talk has filled us with assurance that we are on point with what is required for healthy living. Healthy boundaries - is a prime necessity today, no Doubt. Great video Sir. 🙏
Mere frends ko main jab bhi ghar bulati thi..shadi se pahle to vo apna nasta maket se lete hue aate the..😂😂 ek din mujhe apni colleague ke Ghar kisi kaam se Jana tha to main sabke liye chhole bhature pack karke le gyi... Sabne sath mein nasta Kiya..aur baate ki..mujhe khud kharab lagta hai koi hamare aane ka naam sunkar pareshan ho
This man is doing a favor on the small percentage of sensitive people in this country. Large part of India is insensitive on these topics and mental trauma is mostly for the sensitive minds
Sir thanks a million for this video. I don’t feel guilty anymore about not replying to relatives who just want to drop in on a Sunday evening because they are driving on this side of the city, when I am relaxing and getting ready for the upcoming work week.
Nailed it sir.... This video is the voice of most of the ladies.... Esp daughter in laws. Thank you so much for discussing topics nobody even thinks about. 👍👍👍Respect for u
100 % relatable This is still happening so much With in laws or parents both sides same system where women only have to bear the brunt but how to make our dad or father in law or uncles understand this issue ? Very difficult to bring about this change
Very good content. Even I follow the same rule. My whole family like brother sisters etc when we have get together we used to do it at a central place where everybody's commutation is easy, it's good in way no budy is burdened neither the host nor the guest. Baithak system was the best...
My friend, men already took over cooking regime from ladies long back... Look out from chef to cook to delivery everything is men only... Ab Ghar par bhi Aadmi hi kare...
Masla jamajh nehi aya..think deeper...no hard and fast rule..oversimplification: entertaining self invited people is ur choice..and there is an option. Kisko bulana hai aur kisse bahar milna hai,khud ko samajdari ke sath decision lena hai.
Sucha practical n straight verdict on pressurising wives n whole family is so relatable.Being a vastu expert myself completely agreed to ppl have different energies n your house has an aura of you n family simply touched my❤kudos to you….subscribed.
society will force these things upon you, but remember, the time you let the environment control you, you start to loose, don't do things just because others are doing it, do what suits your needs and what benefits you and your family. Amazing content you post on this channel sir.
I don't know how to thank you for these eye-opening videos! Probably by becoming a paid subscriber 😏 If only we had this kind of information 40 yrs ago. My parents, in-laws and myself would have had much happier lives. My parents had a miserable marriage because of this issue. Thankfully at least now we have the opportunity to fix it 🙏
Very good topic ..but sir jo real relative aake ghar me ghus ke aapki hr chij ko lekar judgemental hote h unka kya kiya jaye...I am also living in gurugram but I am bothered abt inviting anyone at my home ..because I think they will come and meri hr chij ko lekar judgemental honge...I am too much peach lover..dont want any chaos in my life❤❤❤.plz make a video on this topic also
If you are at peace with yourself then why should any judgment of anyone rattle you... You don't go to others and they won't come to your home. Period! Kabhi kabhi bahut peace bhi nuksaan dayak hoti hai. You may be young now so can afford to be aloof but once you cross 30 yrs, you will long for some social interaction. Try to strike a balance between work life and healthy social life. Loneliness can lead to depression so be wary of it, many young ppl are battling with it in their plush apartments.
Very right... When somebody comes, other members of the house activities are stalled, disturbed.. it becomes so uncomfortable, no freedom.. But, it is very difficult to avoid these people.. Ghar ka address to pata hai.. as jate hai.. andar bulane se Mana kaise Kare..
I recently found your channel and it has been such a delight to watch you. What beautiful takes on day to day life! What humour! Clarity on various subjects is superb. I’m writing this to appreciate so you keep making more. Thank you.
It is a very important topic for the new generation living in India. They must understand that their dwelling is the most important and private place that needs to be protected from your friends and far relatives.
I have suffered during my college days due to such visits of my relatives. Each time they came home and passed discouraging comments regarding my engineering and tried to disturb me mentally.
Humare ghar me saari umr yahi kerte kati he. Buzurgo ke tarh tarh ke milne vale aate the. Roz ki suffering. Nai shadi me to sara din tray liye khade hi rhna padta tha. No privacy was there at all.
Hello sir I really want you to make a video on ladies whose husbands are all time busy with work and ladies are house wife’s . Please guide them how to utilise their time n not get frustrated for being alone most of the time.
Very true Sir. Moreover, I have witnessed some husbands boasting about/praising their mothers for serving guests, cooking for 30 plus people back in the days and how their current wives have so many issues doing the same. Also true, many husbands themselves would never cook for their own friends but will invite their friends and expect their wives to cook.
Mai 21 yrs ka hu meri salary 25k hai …..how i can buy real estate which type of property, kis source se auction ya phir broker, bank ko kese rent pr du….please guruji show some torch for my group also
Jo aapne kaha..ye bohot gyaan ki baat hai.... Kam logo ko samajh me aayegi... Pehle me bhi aise hi gyaan pelta tha😂 gharwalo ke saamne... Aaj me sabki najro me bura hu aur baki acche......this knowledge is good for nuclear families but elsewhere it rarely works...
My father is an animal, he's highly educated and a lawyer but he never understood this stuff, not jist this video but most problems you show about .odern family's. Reault is i have high BP at 32 years old and stage one hyoertension and im not even married yet. Bhagwan hi janta gai bahu aane ke baad kya hoga.
For spiritual upliftment it is best thing to keep distance from all material things but for social relations your advice is worst, useless. Only an ideot, a selfish person can think like this. Dark side is there but we must be wise enough to understand such people. Your advice is effective for careless people but your lecture is not useful for people who are really good and respect relations and always ready to help friends n relatives. Don't judge every one on same scale. 🙏
Hamare ghar ek bar relatives aa gaye the kehke ki usi side ja rahe hai milne aayenge fir no ladies were present in the house to kehne lage arre yaar tu batata nahi ki bhabhiji gharpe nahi hai bhabhiji ke hath ka lunch karke jaate...fir they sat for half an hour and left
Very practical video sir Please make a video on mother in law staying with family on her conditions after demise of father in law How to tackle the situation positively
Thankyou Sir, aapne to 20 mnt m 12 saal k guilt se nikal dia....aap jo bol rhe ho same situation were at my sasural..and last m jb maine job ki vjh se kisise jyda milna chhida tb baaat samne aai k atleast chai paani puchhne or namste krne to aaye bahu....😊
Agree totally, Amit ji. Thank you so much for posting videos. My husband and I appreciate your thoughts a lot. Absolute truth . Amazing observation with perfect solutions. You are doing a great work for the society🙏
I am seeing this playing out in my parents house in the villege. relatives, papa ki dost aa jaye aur mera apne room me band ho jata hai, nikalna hi nahi hai jab tak log chale na jaye
My inlaws stayed separately, believe it or not , they kept coming ,and invited their relatives to my home . I spent 20 years adjusting my work, children ,inlaws, my people with Sanki maids . Suffered a lot . Women suffer when husband doesn't open mouth kyooke usko mummy henpecked bolegi.
This is truth of Indian society,Did this mistake almost for 20 years in life,learned from mistake in year 2018 and corrected.Lot of respect for you as you are teaching a large numbers,who to be saved from this trap.
Great video guruji. My mother used to do the same tired thing when father's relative and colleagues use to visit on every holidays. Well, waiting for your video on MGTOW movement.
Very very true sir, respect u for all video's, our privacy gets hit, we get tired of all this, bahar wala comes pokes nose, create fights in family, make fun of children,, everything is very very bad and this is true Narcassist likes this,, very good observation 🙏
Pls make a video on ghr m 4 beta h or har chiz m sirf bada beta h baaki s sirf kaam krwana h , bada beta or badi bahu kuch na bhi kre TV bhi unko fake bagwan bna k rkha h ,kya ye thik h?
Reason pata karo. Waise bada beta sabse zyada parents ke sangharsh time ko janta hai aur unki help karta hai, jab sahi time aa jata hai to chote bhai wo sangharsh nhi jante.
Ye bilkul sahi bat jinko hum khilane ko bulate h wo khud kbhi nhi bulate hume, meri life me 6’7 family aise h, pehle ladke the shadi ke bad khudki wife ayi to kbhi ek bar bhi nhi bulaya 🙄
Sir ek video in laws ka bhi baniye ,who is dependent on their children,ek bete se ghar k kharche,relatives k kharche sab ek ko hi karna pare,doosre bete apni life enjoy kar rahe apni property bana rahe...asa mein kya kare???????
Meri didi face kr rahi h same chiz uss ki sas piche padi rhti h... Namaste kro ye wo.. pr meri didi saf mana kr deti h .. fir wahi ho jata h bitterness
आजकल जो कुंवारी लड़कियां सुंदर दिखने के लिए फैशन करती हैं, अदाएं दिखाती है, social media पे अपनी ग़लत तस्वीरें रखती हैं, विडीयो डालती हैं, शादी हो या कुछ नाचने का मौका ढूंढती है, उनके लिए भी जरूरी ज्ञान दें। Career में, intelligence और maturity पे इनका ध्यान नहीं है। लोगों का attraction और likes चाहिए इन्हें।
@@Travel-e4j samay ke flow ko samjho aise logo saath company karo joh tumhe tumahari sacchai batate ,growth mindset ke ho aur friends wisely choose karo ho hanuman, lord shiv and ganesh ji jo mahapurush follow aur wisdom jo over the period of time aata hai anubhav experience ke saath
Sir i really like your videos . Please guide me. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏How to judge would be saas sasur n husband in arrange marriage setup when we dont get to see them so often. What r the right questions to ask or how to test them . Please please sir 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I am 1950s model and neither me or my mother ever learnt to cook. We always had cooks. So no bhabheeji ke haath ke khana was ever offered or asked for.😅😅😅😅😅😅
I like to have people over once in a while. The house gets a good cleaning and decluttering treatment that time. 😅😅 The next day I wonder, if I do it for my guests, why don't I do it for myself? But the house gets cluttered slowly n gradually, so we get used to it, until we need to see it from someone else's point of view.😂
I like most of your analysis videos, but this time, I disagree. If a person is visiting rarely to your place, that should not be a big deal. To avoid issues, you can order food online at that time and deal with any other issues smartly. Also, he should know if family members are willing to meet them or not.
Bolo aapke flat m bhoot ka saya hai, ya kisi n suicide kiya tha…kutta bhi nahi aayega aapke ghar..,😂 privacy & mental peace must be the foremost priority…
Wonderful talk, Sir. You are bringing about a much needed positive change in Indian society. And since you are direct, unassuming and sensible, you tell people things as they are😅
Ye khane pilane ki shit in this era must be stopped...is ke ghar iske hath ka khana hai all bakwas... outside cafes me milo baat khatam khao n khilao...
oh God! you are speaking my mind..mil always say such dialogues..humne ye kiya, wo kiya...means tum bhi karo...sasur k guests ka, saas k guests ka bahu kare...
10 years before in Singapore I observed this.Our neighbors though very friendly with us fever even once invited us today their house.We would sit in hotels during get together or birthday party celebrations.I appreciated their style of privacy.
good video nut people are not social at all that is the core realty but do make a video on women mentally torture their parents before marriage n husband after marriage i have lived a hell life with my in laws but i love meeting people for help n need of information ,entertainment ,celebrations of festivals rituals u need family n people around u thats worth it caring sharing always comes baring people
@@gauravsinghrajawat9939 I have a life and know how to live it . I don't want to a ATM for my self I love socially meeting n meeting with people .I have a carrier and hobby of mine . Mere paas dhyan aur gyaan dono hai. I used to watch this man videos initially taken some good points but now i stopped watching his videos dont want to waste time don't need anybody suggestions thanks
Humne apne relatives ko samajh a dia hai ki hum milenge only on special occasions. Kafi ek dusre ke close hai .Apne bohot relevant topics par discuss kr rahe hai. Ghar me zabardasti se Anne se bitterness aur badhte hai relationships me. Privacy must be respected. Unannounced kisi ko bhi nahi ani chahiye except emergency.
