A critical look at betrothal in Scripture, and a discussion of how we can follow Jesus as we pursue marriage, or rather, as we pursue God and trust Him to bring us to marriage in His timing. More at biblicalromance...
this video really touched me and I just want to share a little bit of extra wisdom. It certainly does not stop when you wed! I married(similar to what this video suggest) and later slacked off, and am shamed to have let the family become worldly. We had stooped searching his will and doing his ways, and we are now divorced. never stop searching and loving God. Stay in his word family, don't give up.
thanks for this, only been saved for two months and the life change is incredible praise God. So this became a confusing topic for me, God bless you both abundantly :)
Thank you for sharing this Truth!! Wasn't completely convinced at the start but close to the ending with the Scriptures you gave, really opened my eyes.. Betrothal really does reflect Christ and His Bride. How beautiful are the ways of The Lord!!
Thank You! I always felt like courting and dating was so contemporary and man made. This concept makes perfect sense. I've been struggling to figure out the right way for a few months... So Thank you again!
God bless you for your service to the Lord. My friend and I have been praying for guidance in regards to a relationship, and He brought us to your video and your website. Please keep it up -- I've watched and read countless things on this subject, and you alone have had such a biblical perspective. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing. I was very blessed with the information presented.👍When will you be making another video? and you do a series of friendship to courtship and do on .. Please. God bless you
this is the truth of The Holy Bible..Thank you for this video I have been saved last 8months and this joirney has been awesome. God knows whats best for us and He has the best only we just have to wait and seek His kingdom. I completely agree that you don't need to date because He knows it better, If at all one dates and comes to know that they are not compatible, would they quit and not obey God ? Well God plans everything keeping our future in mind not just our present, One should only trust God.
I disagree with your analysis. I truly believe dating/courtship is a fundamental aspect of getting to know the one God planned for you - if He intended it so. It is a time to know someone else's heart and soul, and know how their relationship with Christ is like, where they struggle, their strengths etc. - there is nothing wrong with it. Courting can be pure, followers of Jesus should just separate the world's view on dating to adapt a more Christ-like view - pursing your "wife" as Jesus pursued the church. You can not blindly enter into a marriage - marriage is work and I doubt God would want you to INSTANTLY commit to someone without knowing every part of their story. We do not simply become followers of Christ, rather we enter into a relationship with Him by, in the romantic sense, courting Him. However, everyone has their own love story... and the only important thing is that people glorify God in every chapter of their lives.
Allie Naomi thank you for your comment! > "I truly believe dating/courtship is a fundamental aspect of getting to know the one God planned for you - if He intended it so" Yet surely if this was true then the example we would have in scripture would be courting (and not betrothal). We are to imitate Christ in every way, even in the way he pursued his Bride. It does require more faith though which is something western Christians are not used to since we do not need to trust God to provide food (food abounds here) or trust God to protect us (we won't be killed or imprisoned for being Christians). Let me give an example: suppose it is God's will for you to marry someone. Instead of following God's leading, you decide you're a better judge so you: A) Court them and decide you don't want to marry them (so God must have been wrong) or B) Court them and decide to marry them (which is what God was already saying but you didn't trust Him). This is a not a faith-full way to walk but rather a faith-less way to walk. It's not like you can't learn more about your spouse after you are betrothed or that you even need to know someone fully to be married to them. > "You can not blindly enter into a marriage - marriage is work and I doubt God would want you to INSTANTLY commit to someone without knowing every part of their story" When I came to Christ I didn't even know 1% of all there was to know about Christ - but I still put my faith in Him and became a part of His Bride. The reason we often want to "know every part of their story" is because we don't trust God and feel more comfortable being in control of our own lives. Yet, if you disagree with God - who is ultimately the wiser better judge of the relationship? Us with our frequent failures - or God who knows everything? You shouldn't "instantly" commit to someone without seeking the Lord and knowing His will. There will always be a time period of seeking the Lord to know His will on the matter---sometimes longer, sometimes shorter. Betrothed couples often have known each other for some time before the Lord shows them that they are supposed to marry each other. "I doubt God would want you to INSTANTLY commit to someone" What about the Biblical account of Isaac and Rebekah? 1jn2.com/bible/Genesis/24
Great Video! So does this mean that Betrothal is same as an engagement? would breaking off an engagement mean divorcing? and if that person married someone else are they committing adultery? Tks
+Manfred300009 Though some couples' engagements have looked very close to a betrothal, engagement is not the same thing. To most people, engagement means "we would like to get married (but it's not final)". Scripturally, betrothal means "we are getting married when I return for my wife". While there is a pledge (the engagement ring) there is no entering into the marriage covenant with an engagement. Regardless of the name however, if God has shown you the person you are to marry - then you can proceed with marrying them. No dating, engagements, or courtships required. However, most people don't center their life around seeking "first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness". Therefore, they don't have a strong relationship with God and usually mistake their own desires for God's leading.
so if the engagement is broken, we are both free to marry a different person? The Vow "Will you marry me" and acceptance "I Do" binding?Also is marriage in the eyes of a lawyer without witnesses and valid in the eyes of God?
Marriage is less about what we want to do, and more about what God is doing. Asking someone "Will you marry me?" isn't a vow or a covenant - it's just a question. However, you need to ask God about your relationships because only He can tell you what He has planned for you.
