BIGGEST Extroverted Sensing Epiphany...as an INTJ 

Whoa as an infj I’m always spilling or bumping into things. One day I realized “hey if I move this thing over here I won’t bump into it” and “hey if I look at my coffee mug while walking it’ll less likely spill” lol good to know I’m not the only one! :)

Recently came to a completely similar conclusion. Sensory is like asking reality "what is there". Intuition is like seeing reality and asking your own brain "what is happening/what is there".

This is an excellent verbalization of something I (as an INTJ) have noticed in the periphery of my conscious, but haven't previously been able to put my finger on directly. For me, I've noticed it definitely _means_ the most to me in the arena of physical affection and sex. I've had two relationships, and it took me WAY too long to realize in the first one that it *wasn't normal or good* for my brain to be wandering and thinking as much as it usually does, _in the middle of a sexual encounter with my partner._ 😂 It's why I left the relationship -- even though at the time I wasn't sure if anything romantic or sexual could EVER be strong enough to "shut down" my brain to just the present. And THEN, I met the second man I was with. First of all, I'd never experienced sexual chemistry that strong in my life. It was like magnetism. But I was _shocked_ again to discover in the middle of sexual or just *sensual* encounters with him... that my brain was QUIET. I was fully in the moment with him. I wasn't thinking about my current "moves" or my next moves. I wasn't thinking about later that day, and their wasn't random "boredom music" playing in the back of my head somewhere. I was just... there. Experiencing something completely in the present, for possibly the first time in my life. Discovering how to tap into Se _healthily_ is such a mind-boggling revelation, as an INTJ.

As a fellow INTJ, the struggle is real to be present in reality and not in my head. Grounding myself to the world is my current quest to improve myself. Thank you for the video. Greatly appreciated!

I drive for a living. I'm glad you don't. 😄

As an INTJ I recently noticed there is a severe lag between when something happens and when I realize the thing happened. I believe this is because whenever I get a bit of sensory I immediately run it to the top of my stack where Ni can observe it for a totally useless amount of time. My brain then tries to go over what I missed while I was analyzing and it realizes that someone was speaking to me (sometimes it remembers what they said, sometimes it does not). Se inferior can really make you feel less then human sometimes. In social settings it can be like I'm not functioning how a human being should. I live how MBTI has shown me that these little sensory struggles are 100% normal, just a bit uncommon. Really great video that I think all intuitives can learn something from.

20 years of thinking about being in the present moment… with 1 year of it happening 😂

Very relatable as an INFJ, I have noticed that sometimes I am daydreaming my life instead of actually living it. Also very noticeable when reading or watching youtube, and having to go back re-read or watch the same thing several times before I can turn Ni/Ti off enough to perceive the thing in front of me as it is without going off on tangents about it in my head. I've started practicing mindfulness meditation, it's hard but I think regular practice will be worth it.

I had this epiphany a couple of years ago in dance class. This fact meant I was never really relaxing. Even on holidays I would always think about the future:my proyects, my work, my studies. if you try and dont think about it for a really long time, dont think about your "betterment" but only about momentary enjoyment for days, you get to truly relax in a way I hadnt expierence before that.

For a higher Se user, I wonder if this could be equated to that autopilot mode that can sometimes kick in when doing a repetitive task while distracted (?). Fantastic video, thank you for sharing!

I have noticed that on the rare occasions where I'm drunk, I become far more interested in objects, textures, and space, and really try to pay attention to the tactile world. I assume that's because when I can't rely on my intuitive sense of the things around me, I have to fall back on whether I can physically prove that they exist, where they are, and how to interact with them in a way that doesn't involve dropping, losing, tripping, breaking, soiling, or otherwise misusing. Or maybe I'm just drunk?

I've never related to a video more in my life! I've always brushed these sort of moments off as being clumsy moments but in reality, I'm just not looking. 🤯

i am an ESTP and i am absolutely horrified lmao honestly love your videos especially the Ni ones bcs mine SUCKS ASS and im always perplexed, admire yall Ni doms

I'm an INTJ. I find it difficult to focus at being present in reality and not thinking away in my head. Thank you for sharing.

INFJ here with exactly the same behaviour. I've taken up work working over the last year to help me concentrate more on what I'm actually doing with my hands... as opposed to what I have envisioned for them to perform (magically, with no conscious input from me). Spinning blades have a way of focusing the mind. So far, so good, I still have all my digits.

This might explain all those times where I was mostly incompetent at PE but then had those rare few instances where I'd somehow do something hyper-competent without thinking about it or realising it, as if by instinct. I never figured out how I managed to do such things besides maybe random luck. Problem is when I look at things and not think about them, I worry and it's exceedingly uncomfortable because it's just so alien to me. It's like wilfully giving up control and allowing myself get tossed about on a current - it's daunting and unnatural.

Yes actually I can relate it to myself, but the strange thing is there's an exception for this situation and it's when I'm playing video games; for now I can realize that maybe that's why I really enjoy playing them since my childhood. Well done, thanks👏🕯🌷

Omg was reliving the situation with throwing a ball myself😂 I had those ball game problems as well and my dad would always ask me "Why aren't you looking at the direction where you actually want to through the ball?" I was always thinking "but I did look!!" but my success was pretty limited 😂 anyways, thank you so much for your videos, I have become aware recently how much my very weak inferior Se is causing me unhappiness and you are one of the little RU-vidrs that eventually GIVES concrete advise and shares their journey. It is reeally hard but I know I can improve too. ~an INFJ

As an INFJ I have already pointed that on myself, it helped to be raised in a family that are all sensors. It's really weird how we can take information without taking it. Like we are in auto-pilot all the f time. I'm working on bettering my Se and specially my ST consume, and this epiphany was the one that has hepled me more thowards it.

I experienced a similar revelation a few years back when I was thinking about why I was feeling crappy and how I needed to stop being in my head so much and be present to the environment. I had this realization as I was crossing a busy intersection and (apparently) hadn’t noticed that the walk sign had switched off. Bus honked and I jumped backwards as it whizzed on by. Right then I realized that if I want to be present to the environment around me, I have to stop being so present to everything happening within. This realization has been so helpful and yet I still feel a certain irritation at how straightforward - because it means I have to accept that most times I just don’t *want* to redirect my attention, and I quite frankly just suck at it. ….At least not the 50000 times it takes to redirect over and over and over and over…. : “oooh thought!! Ohhh image!!! Ohhh idea!!”

It's crazy to think all you need to do is just look around and pay attention to what's actually happening. I would honestly prefer to be in lala land than constantly aware of reality. As an ESFP I actually dislike drawing because I pay TOO MUCH attention to my lines and struggle a lot with creativity. I end up just drawing what I see and that's pretty boring imo so I don't like to draw.

Wow! Yeah I had a similar revelation when driving to my sisters house. I’ve gotten lost on my way there 6 or 8 times. My boyfriend pointed out to me once that she lives by the hospital, and I was like “yeah, duh, I know.” And he was like no. The hospital is right there, And he pointed. For the first time I could see it out in the distance. The hospital was literally right there. I can see it from my house. So lately I’ve started looking farther out in my field of view while I drive and realized that there are a lot more mountains that surround my town then I thought there were. People ALWAYS talk about them. And I’ve lived here for 3 years, but never realized that a few of them even existed.

Lindsay, usually I don't comment on RU-vid, but this video gave me enough reason to comment. What you told about drawing lines, holding a bowl of soup in your hand, all made absolute sense. I had similar epiphanies often but couldn't articulate it better (or in other words articulate it in a manner that actually made concrete sense). I'll share some instances. One of them is while watching movies or playing any games. When doing that, my mind would be racing about what to do next, what is going to happen next, and my sensory nature steps in only to take necessary inputs for my brain to process them to proceed ahead. However, once I finished the game/movie and try to watch the movie again or play the game again, I already know what is going to happen. So, my thinking and processing dial down, and then I notice hundred other sensory details that I earlier saw, but did not actually see. I noticed this disparity between getting something done and being in the moment to enjoy things for what it is. For me, I made my own methods to get the best of both worlds - with small compromises. I watch movies or TV shows that I like twice. Once to understand how the show is going to go forward and see it through, and the next time to enjoy and notice the finer details. The same applies to games, books, any video content, or shows. This is a bit of compromise, but totally worth it for a wholesome experience. For work-related stuff that I don't have experience with (meaning, I have little to no clue on how to proceed further), first I won't think too much and just follow the instructions given by the instructors. Then, once I get a decent hang of it, then I put my thinking hat and dissect the process to the nuts and bolts and make my own way. If I am learning something new, first I'll go to the basics and understand the concepts clearly. Then I have a framework (internally built) about how things work, the do's and don'ts, etc., Since I've done enough thinking, I can now go and peacefully concentrate on what is at hand without much thinking with the security of concepts at my disposal. There is a caveat though. Many events in life do not have a repeat feature to try twice. You only get one shot at them. Those are the ones I dread where-in I have to balance both. Both are difficult to do together. That's where my previous strategy of preparing in advance helps to navigate to some extent. For better results, and as a decent challenge, I am trying to force myself (within reasonable limits) to do things on the fly. Getting some success, but definitely not a master at it. Hope this helps and is of some value to you and fellow RU-vidrs! Cheers!

As ENTP something similar happens to me, but different. I am never truly thinking about what I am doing, but I am looking. But when I am doing something my mind always wanders off. I am there, talking to a hypothetical person in my brain about quantum physics, while I am cooking. But in the sensory world, I am tunnel visioned on whatever I am doing in the moment. I hate, to be interrupted, because whenever I do something, everything else disappears, I am one with whatever I am doing and time just simply ceases to exist. But my brain is never ever truly on what I am doing, nor is it on what i am going to do next. My brain is always processing ideas, even when I am fully focused on doing something sensory. Remember the Pixar movie of Soul? Imagine that I enter that flow state they talk about, where everything dissappears and I lose sense of time, and somehow everything sensory I do is done perfectly. I am fully and truly focused and tunnel visioned on only what I am doing. There could be an earthquake and I wouldn't even notice. But at the same time, while my whole sensory experience is only focused on that, my mind is never there. As I said, my mind is always processing random ideas and concepts.

Haha I can relate to this. Over time I've learnt to "shout" at myself - Lily, FOCUS! - this helps me to snap back to reality. Forcing myself to watch what I am doing and just naming the steps I need to make or commenting what I am doing at that time is efficient for me too especially if I talk to myself aloud. But it's hard to not let your mind wander. I have never thought of it in this context so thank you for naming it. Anyway my funny story about "blind" INTJ... my ex wore beard. One day he came and was very surprised... I didn't notice he shaved it off completely. The fun part is, that he asked me if I noticed something different about him and I was observing him but didn't see it anyway. He was so mad at me. 😂

I call this The Haze. I've been working at being IN THE MOMENT for a while. My psychologist gave me a great exercise that I now do almost every day, called 5,4,3,2,1. You LOOK at (truly identify) 5 things, HEAR 5things, FEEL 5 things...then 4 of each etc. It's designed to get you grounded, more clear headed, and operating more safely through life. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, and for the blender finger story, a great example!!

My mother always said "stop being absent-minded", when I was washing plates she would always say " why are you splashing water everywhere? Pay attention." I believe this helped me alot plus I joined the military which is very Se. Thanks again for another video

As an ENFP I'd like to say I'm really simping hard for you from 10s after the video started.

I kinda had this epiphany in highschool. Mostly because I liked drawing architecture back then. Perhaps all we need is some sort of catalyst to make us see the difference. Good to know I'm not the only one who though of this as a breakthrough xd

Relate so hard to this 😩 My mom always called me an “absent minded professor” and said I needed to “get my head out of La La Land” Trying to develop situational awareness is a challenge, but super important to survival. Still scares me when people point out to me how oblivious I am to my surroundings. Being high intuition is on par with being a sensory-dom thrill seeker as far as getting into dangerous situations…but instead of seeking them out they just accidentally happen to intuitive-doms because of being oblivious.

lmao i (also intj female) hit my head 3x on the same car roof getting in/out within less than 20 minutes over the weekend. in the interest of intj brain cells everywhere, we've got to do something :P one thing you didn't touch on in this video that it's not only our thinking but our judging and trusting our own judgment that justifies (well, attempts to- injuries are a really good counterargument lol) our distance from the sensory. when we don't have decisions to make we can reaaaaally zone out and not be present haha. those are the times we actually should be more present and practice engaging in different ways pulling from all of our "opposite" functions- practicing with more experiential, physical, emotional connectedness. also side note i too do marker line art to relax (occasion permitting- mom life is wild and put me on my steepest learning curve ever but also really has balanced me out and hopefully helped provide my kids with examples of how to be/accept yourself and be open to changing, correcting, etc.). it's way more engaging than media entertainment and more soothing than music and writing.

I'm an INFP so I have less Se than a fantasy 🫠 And what you said is true, sometimes we just need to focus on what we do at the moment, or stay attuned to our body sensations. To me it's so overwhelmimg a strong noise or light when I'm exhaused, like it echoes and I have headache. I think it helps to go outside ourselves, to actually listen and engage without overthinking.

as an INFJ artist I noticed this a few months ago. and i was like "why is this happening to me? why can't I be present in the moment? i need to improve my drawings!" as today, in drawing classes we are learning to observe things, to look at them and improve our sense of vision. and it's really irritating me cause i don't know how to look at things without analyzing them lmao im glad i found your video, it makes me feel better to know that we all, intj and infj, have this issue. makes me feel less alone. time to improve my inferior se!

Sports is one thing that brought me to reality because I didn't want to get hit in the face, but then again, I was good at sports. Art, I can't, not don't.... CAN'T think about what I'm drawing or else it won't come out right. I take my pen or pencil, put it on the paper, look up and draw. I then look down and there it is.

As a Sensing dom I would say this is a big step towards understanding sensing functions, because that's the mentality you have when you use them. Way more helpful them "being in the present". I'm happy to this coming from someone with Se inferior.

This is mental. Of course! I’m a guitarist who loves to improvise along to any type of song. I’ve noticed when having smoked weed my playing is significantly better. Because of the fact that I’m sooo zoned in to the moment. INTJ’s (such as myself) simply need to keep reminding ourselves to step out of our head and focus on the task. It’s pretty exciting because it turns everything into a game or puzzle to solve.

I had a similar epiphany in reverse recently. I was watching a Shave video and Shan was talking about how real things feel to her and having to focus on the idea of 'will this matter in 20 years?' I was like WHAT? Is that what Ni/Fi sleep is? It's still very hard to put it into practice, but that's become my question for myself every time I get upset or stressed out.

In the words of Ed Bassmaster..... Just look at it. I find myself hearing this all the time 😂. I was literally writing this comment as you clipped that in. Great minds right there.

I choose to not look at the dirty doors and floors, i don't want to clean

Wow, you think about what you're doing while you're doing it?! Someday I hope to advance to that level of engagement.

Learning about Ni and Se and cognitive stacks explained my whole life to me! My middle initial is O and my dad said it really stood for Oblivious because I couldn’t come down out of my head and into right here, right now. Like you, I can do the thing when I’m actually paying attention to it. Otherwise, I’m off with the fairies.

I'm an INTJ as well and i've experienced a similar thing . I started to doing workout exercises since last May because i wish to do for next June an Eren's cosplay , the shirtless version from AoT season 4 . So here what it happened : I went to my grandma's house for holydays and she went for hug me and she scared out because she though i had an hole and instead it was just an abs fissure . I haven't noticed that neither , so after that when i went back to home i've passed the time i needed to sleeping in touching that abs fissure.

It has happened to me so often that I kind of "look through things" instead of looking directly at what I am actually doing. I thought this wasn't normal and that I was dissociating but hearing you telling us that this is overactive Ni really calms me down. Thank you very much for this video, it was very helpful! *starts consciously practising Se things now*

I almost never recognized my friends walking past me in the streets. I saw PEOPLE, I heard SOUNDS, but I haven't been into the details. I see the forest, but i do not notice the moss on the trees and flowers amongst roots, i just know they are there and i imagine them (being a short-sighted person adds to that Ni thing). I literally started practicing dynamic meditation last year bc of that: mental health walks in the park in the mornings. No analyzing, no Ni, only OBSERVING AND NOTICING real things around me: how leaves move on the wind, how birds shower under the grass sprinkles, how a bug sleeps inside a rise, hiw does a flower smell and how i feel about it.

Wow I am so glad I stumbled on this because I've been trying to name my issue of when I try too hard on anything I fail miserably each time. Now I realize I'm not trying harder I am thinking harder. Which is hilarious. Also I shared this to a Se dom and he was very scared for me he asked what do I do when I cross the street...

I have learned to pay attention to what I am doing, instead of thinking about what I have to do next, because otherwise I will not remember what I have just done. Being in the moment is important.

This is such a funny yet eye-opening advice

When I was a student, I unconsciously poured sulfuric acid on my classmate's hand during chem laboratory and only came back into reality when she screamed right beside me. So guilty about that!

This almost breaks one's brain! As an INFP it's second nature to feel and intuit my way with people on a one-to-one basis. It's how I intersect with humanity. The way I don't engage with others is through the tribe. I can't relate to group dynamics at all. More often than not, groups look like runaway trains getting ready to derail. Who wants to take part in that?! But, there was a time when I was very young, before I set out on my solitary life, that I could enjoy the waves of playful magic moving through a group. These usually occurred when visiting cousins, or attending festivals. I thought that flower had died. Perhaps, if I work on my Se, that flower will bloom again.

I've been aware of this for a very long time, but it still happens constantly. Even when I'm reading to learn I catch myself thinking about the reading rather than the content of what I'm reading

This is an element of my own experience that I have dubbed autopilot. Mundane, or repetitive tasks often times triggers this response for me.

INFJ here. Thank you for the missing information. Ha Im so INFJ. This has been the explanation of Se I have needed but could not understand and resonate with other explanations. Really excellent. I do and don't do all that you described. I can apply your recommendation. Many thanks. Great channel Lijo

This is why I listen to music when I need to focus in the here & now. Music keeps me from going deep into my subconscious processing. Music keeps me observant.

I remember my dad has told me to become more aware of my surroundings, and i've been getting better at it over time. ✨ Sometimes i still space out, but now i make sure that if i do that, i make sure it is a safe space to space out first (most of the time). -infj

So so so true. Thanks for sharing. I think the whole concept of zen tries to address this about being fully present.

I can totally related to this! Something funny I just thought about - I find doing my nail’s myself quite therapeutical. I suppose it’s because it is an hour in which I am fully focused in what I am doing, and not in my head. I love thinking about things, but we all need a break time to time. I’ve started meditating too, and that helps.

As an INFJ your story about softball reminded me of my own story. I was 8 years old and a friend of my dad's tried to teach me soccer. And for some reason I always failed at hitting the ball literally 1 centimeter away from my foot. The friend kept telling me to just look at the ball before and while I kick it and I was really frustrated because I thought "But that's what I'm doing!!!" Got frustrated and quit XD But now years later I realize I wasn't looking at it. I was thinking about hitting it. I was thinking about the ball ending up where it needed to. But the reason I never actually kicked the ball was because I wasn't focusing on doing that. I'm now 20 and your video has made me finally realize this Thx! :)

“Where there birds chirping?” I can deduce logically the possibility of birds being present at that time, yes.

I had to deal with this so often and early, as an artist, often I have to draw what is seen rather than what we think what we see. This extends to doing weights, yoga, driving.. I still struggle with this. I envy the high SE folks just feeling more natural with it.

Holy crap, This is how I operate!! Very eye opening.

That universal experience where you accidentally put the milk in the cupboard and the cereal in the fridge essentially sums up low Se life

I guess that's why we feel more comfortable at home, we've already controlled for the environment and can mostly think freely.

As an INFP this made me chuckle. Even though I don't have Se in my stack, I do the same thing with thinking about something more than observing it directly, but I still somehow remain connected to the sensory world pretty accurately. I think the Ne gives me a good intuitive sense of where everything in the sensory world is at. Like when riding my motorcycle, I have an uncanny ability to predict the movement of traffic, even the erratic movements. But I feel like I can easily imagine how thinking about reality could replace observing reality lol

Haha so true - I am also "*thinking* about what I am doing - not *looking* at what I am doing"

I love your channel. Intj here… And you’re unbelievably beautiful!

I can relate as an INFJ. I can play pretty good pool, but when I overthink it, my game falls apart.

INFJ here I can relate to this whole heartedly, I've started cleaning and exercising more intently just to work on my Se

Same here. I think an xNTJ such absent minded ness is meant to be our truth too 💁🏽‍♀️ because we don’t live in our bodies and by our senses. We’re not present most of the time. We live in our brains. My senses and reflexes are actually quite slow as a result. I’m low in neuroticism. It’s because the only time I’m ever really present is in conversation, or when I’m working.

I am an immediate fan of this damn channel... Today is Saturday and I am watching having just discovered you last night... And as a side note, outlawing THC from INTJ's is downright criminal... And, did I just hear you say you were "failing" high fives? LMAOOO 7:25 Gives me life! Big love!!

my eyes have never rolled back so hard (savior Se)

Lijo, I have two words for you; these words will change your life: MAGIC ERASER …..as an artist who has had to clean many a gallery wall, Mr. Clean Magic Erasers are a God send.

I had problems walking with a cup of tea for far longer than I'm comfortable admitting. In my brain, the task was simple: Grab the cup and walk to the table. But for some reason, I often spilled something or had to walk super slowly. Same thing for catching stuff. I started catching things with my whole body rather than with just my hands because I kept looking in the general direction of the person throwing something and only thinking "Okay, that thing is gonna come flying towards me, so I need to open my arms and catch it. Please let me be cool for once while trying this. Why does he even throw it when we're just 3 meters away from each other..." without actually trying to catch it in real time.

Objective personality has an old video where they illustrated the filter of Se-Si- etc of how information enters first being Se and, as I understand it, my INTP brain obsesses with doing the bare minimum Se and jumping to Si as soon as possible trying to get to Ne and Ti. So I spend way too little time taking in information with Se. But it's alot of effort for an INTP to do Se-like-actions. Even as they are very useful to grow yourself.

Funnily enough, I (as an INTJ) was sort of relating to this thinking yeah, I guess so. But then when she started talking about the dirty doors, it really hit home. I remember when I really "realized" how easy it was to clean things effectively. For me it was just a matter of figuring out that I have to look and inspect after the fact to see if I missed anything.

A very important missing piece of the puzzle. Just experienced the same flood of memories making just a little more sense. 😱 Thanks for speeding up the process.

essentially don't overthink it. "looking" = "being present"

I've been boxing as a hobby for around 2 years, and I can say that when id get the better of my sparring partner, I was completely focused on their behaviour and movement in the moment vs when I would be only thinking about what I needed to do (Te) and not be landed any of the shots. Fighting ,any INTJ should know, is completely Se, and since it's suppressed in other parts of life, when you feel zoned in in a hostile situation like boxing and see everything, it does feel pretty damn good.

Thanks for explaining your perspective on this. Is this why it seems to take me longer than average to learn skills like driving a car, manual transmission, skiing etc, even though once I master them I can be very successful, while abstract concepts are much simpler to grasp? I am wondering if it is because we tend to spend a lot of time thinking about what we are trying to do, thinking about how to do it and how we appear while trying to learn, rather than just paying attention to what we are actually doing.

YOGA. PRACTICE IT. as a fellow intj, i TOTALLY understand the urge to draw myself inside of my own mental state (analysis mode). practicing yoga will help draw your consciousness out of 'yourself' to ground yourself into the present moment. it will also help you to be more aware of your own actions and how they affect reality around you. YOGA. ABSOLUTELY. FOR SURE. (by the way, those little clips you added with the guys looking at the car are HILARIOUS and help to cement the point youre trying to make here. GOOD CALL including those.) - intj

As an INFJ, I'm pretty much the same most of the time, but, when I'm with people, I tend to be more physical connected with reality than alone (probably due to Fe). Your example reminded me of when I want to throw a ball and I was doing my very best to active my Se as much. as possible, but the moment I needed to release the ball, a guy looked at me which actived my Fe which knows what he was feeling then my Ni took over and I imagined a couple of scenarios in a split of a second, my throw was off, if course.

Mind blown - in a good way. Thank you!

Oh, wow. Can't believe I actually needed this tip🙈

As an ENTP (Se last) I am even more shocked at the idea of JUST looking at something. WHAT DOES IT EVEN MEAN? I see visions of having to pluck up my eyeball and sticking it to the object to achive such thing 😅😅🤯

There is a lot of truth to this. It's hard for an intj to completely focus on the present task, especially if it doesn't interest them. For me i've struggled with tasks bc they are just a means to accomplishing what I really want, so I am often checked out and looking beyond it to the next thing or another thing entirely. I also know I'm gonna use as little effort as possible, which means as little sensory as possible, which calls for a lot of guessing, predicting and a host of assumptions...which at times can lead to mistakes and oversight. But I think your conclusions are also valid. I think the lack of Se can show itself in many different ways.

As in an INFJ, I relate to this deeply. My parents used to say I would run into walls as a kid, hit my head, trip, and was just excessively clumsy. As an adult, I once was found cutting vegetables with the knife oriented the wrong way (I was applying pressure on the blade and cutting with the blunt tip), I don't close doors or cabinets all the way (sometimes I just leave everything open), I forget to turn off lights, and I subconsciously leave messes that I don't ever remember making. The thing about doors being dirty was also a recent revelation for me. I've never cleaned doors before in my life before this year, much less even realized they were dirty And most hauntingly, all types of chores take me FOREVER. It is TORTURE to be in the sensory world for such long periods of time, even if the chores themselves might not even be that difficult. And the whole time I'm in my head, so they take me even longer and seem to never end. But another interesting thing I noticed. Even when I'm talking, sometimes I will say the completely wrong thing. A whole random phrase may just make an appearance, or I'll completely forget what I'm saying, because even as I'm talking, my mind is elsewhere. Dominant Ni is to have your richest and most interesting world be in your mind instead of in the actual world. A sad but clarifying and somewhat empowering observation.

It's amusing that I spent half of this video not looking at it and daydreaming instead.

When I try and organize and clean my room I like to open the camera on my phone and I get to see it from another perspective than my own reality. Weirdly enough it works for me - intp

This was hilarious and wonderful

Going to relate this to my Fe since that is my 4th slot. My Fe is a lot better when I'm really engaged with the people I am with, rather than worrying about the social interaction. When I'm focused on the other person, interested in the other person, or concerned about the other person rather than myself, I do a much better job Fe-ing. - intp

Also an INTJ here. I also realized this. There are two Chinese idioms that in a way describe this: "视而不见" and "听而不闻". You are looking at something without actually seeing it, listening to something without actually hearing. I found it out while talking to a friend one day. I found that I always get distracted after listening to a few words of them because I think I already understand what they are trying to say. When they have finished speaking, I will respond to them according to my previous understanding. Occasionally my answer will deviate slightly from what they actually said, and then I will make up for it. I think this is due to not preferring Se.

lmao its funny how i came into this video expecting to have an epiphany of my own from yours and i actually did but my problem is the opposite, obviously. i rely so much on sensory feedback that i become incapable of playing things out in my head i've been having this problem a lot lately trying to fix my sleep. as i'm drifting off, i'm trying to simulate/imagine how the following day is gonna play out, usually through these random images of either buildings i'll go to, activities i'll do, goals i want to reach, etc. it really calms me down because it makes me feel like i know my path and i have the power to change it, which helps me get in a sleepy mood. this would be a great tool... if i could control it. after a couple of seconds, i just kinda "hear" random audio cues that put me in a completely different spot then i was later, going from random association to random association while trying to gain control back of my intuition instead of just letting it roam free. kinda like some alice in wonderland shit, or that one scene from spiderman far from home, anyway i can only plan without fighting to keep focused if i'm writing or talking it out, but there have been situations where i haven't been able to. in those days, i can usually no joke spend 3 hours tossing and turning in my sleep trying to figure something out or decide on what a future goal. despite the agony, it has a lot of benefits in that i don't get nervous about not doing "the right thing at the right time" because i ran the mental simulations for the other possibilities the day before. i wonder how much our modalities play into this too some advice from your opposite type though (feel free to share any advice if you got some): whenever you have to do something physical, especially something you're used to doing and think you might slip back into that state of "thinking about doing the action", do a weird move. no im not joking walking down the street? hit a pole just to avoid habituating feel like your lines are getting worse? get a glass and use it to draw a circle just do something out of the ordinary way you do things, it'll give you at least a little bit more awareness... i hope

This is hilarious! Yet so helpful. Recently, I experienced something similar and I've been trying to be more mindful about it so that every time I go outside I'm not lost in the middle of the streets. Appreciate you input on it. Take care.

Thank you for this epiphany. This morning I went into the living room and wanted to put a glass of water on the table. The remote control was on the table. I was thinking about taking the remote off the table because maybe there was a chance the water would spill on the remote. As I was thinking this, I didn't look at the glass of water, but at the remote control. And poured the water over the table. So yeah, I needed to hear this.

I'm just glad I read the description before watching this lol The having to remind oneself to "actually look at the things" is really foreign to me because it's a baseline operation. Any time I don't, I IMMEDIATELY hear my ESTJ mom's voice yelling "LOOK at what you're doing!!!"

This is incredibly helpful. It’s like hearing, but not listening but with visual things. Such a simple answer to a lot of my struggles.

So Batman was hinted at being an INTJ when Ras Al Ghoul told him "you never did learn to mind your surroundings"🤣

Two thoughts from an ISTP: 1. I think for most savior Se types it's often the other way round. We don't have to consciously look at something when doing everyday tasks, for example regular driving or drawing lines like in your example. It just works naturally, almost subconsciously. It does however become more conscious in high intensity situations (fast driving) or when precision is required (technical drawings/measurements). 2. I actually have similar difficulties getting better at playing (recreational) softball. I tend to overthink what I'm doing with my Ti and Ni (or let my mind wander and think about something else) instead of actually looking at the ball. I have become better in terms of catching and throwing as long as I'm not under too much stress but hitting is still hit or miss (literally). 😄

Se revelation, see ball, hit ball. To be honest, savoir sensory can space out, it's all about attention and just as important, engagement.

Epiphanies are amazing. And you're an amazing story/concept teller. I wonder if you would enjoy the visual arts. I trained myself to have an artist eye when I was very young. And the things and the people can break down to different images depending on how you look at them. I wish I could remember what book I read it in. But it said INTJs can be very visual . It said they may feast with their eyes. Any thoughts. 💙🍀

Yes I get it. INTJ as well. I thought I couldn’t catch a ball because I was a little gay boy but… no. INTJ. I used to get so pissed at myself for dropping things and running into things. And now I’m, like, “Physics, Bill! Physics!” And I remember walking along one day, when suddenly, “Oh my God! Trees are green! I mean, *really* green!”