In episode 2 of Black Conversations, our panel continues to unpack Black Love. The topic of Idliso is heaviluy 7unpcacked with opposing views on its purpose.
I once had a fling with a wonderful Zulu guy in Midrand, and when I met his uncle, things took an unexpected turn. Upon hearing us speak in English, his uncle asked if I would survive "emakhaya" (in the rural areas), and my guy assured him I would because I enjoyed cleaning and cooking-cue the laughter. The truth was, I spoke English due to a language barrier, being Tswana. After watching a video recently, I was taken aback by how some Zulu men still expect women to give up their careers, submit to their husbands, and rely solely on them as providers. It's 2023, and times have indeed changed. I firmly believe that a woman working doesn't diminish her husband's role as the head of the household. Black love has evolved, and the dynamics within relationships now embrace equality and shared responsibilities. It's about supporting each other's ambitions and aspirations while navigating life together. The notion that a woman should solely focus on homemaking is becoming outdated, as couples today recognise the value of each partner's individual growth and fulfilment.
that's why men kill woman because they are not gentle and softer on their families. they want to be powerful even on wrong places and end up misusing their physical and emotional strength!
I don’t know about everyone but as a woman I feel like a man appears weaker when they act tough in some situations. Like cry bro, you’ll get back up after that. Be secure with the fact that you’re a man and you’re great leader otherwise but mostly of all human. There’s no war, what are you doing as a contribution to the potential nation war?
@@Live_More_Love_More yes you're right some men are strong and tough but inside they are weak.they are rude, arrogant and abusive, thus the problem women have to deal with... weak men trying to act tough
I agree we don’t need softer gentler men, because that breeds weak men, we need competent men who are strong and a capable of violence when necessary because we can’t sit in bubbles and act like the world is sunshine and roses there are some dark people and things out there and as a man the minute you are not strong and capable to endure in various ways you have a weak home and a weak marriage, but I’m 20 I’m just speaking off things I see and experience
This conversation is based on personal perceptions than actual facts. I think they should all start their statements with "I think, I see,I believe" because things they are saying are just raising my eyebrows because 👀.
Felix is sharing a whole lot of sense via power dynamics in a home. In other aspects, the podcast is rushed and subjects aren't thoroughly covered, if they could fix on that.
The problems is when people want relationship based on feelings and not logic. Logic being what we both want to build from our relationship and not how we feel at the moment.
@@Sylvesdo-25i agree. If we say relationships should be based on logic then for what or when should feelings apply? We are human with feelings so where do we apply those feelings if not with relationships. I was in a session with our CEO lately. Very successful gent who has a company that operates in 59 countries. We were interviewing for an area manager and his last question to us as the panel was "what does your gut feeling tell you about that candidate"
All I can say is the more we gain knowledge on modern culture and systematic beliefs, the more we rinse ourselves off our culture. Ekugcineni, information about your people and ancient practice seems foreign to you, Qaphelani bantu ba Mdali. Knowledge is power, used wrong it become weakness.
This was short we needed more than 23 minutes. A lot of digression from the topic which could be episodes on their own. But great and much needed conversations.
Black love is purely love, however it will always be coupled with money/ financial issues because as a community, especially in Africa we are operating from scarcity, whereas our white counterparts are operating from generational wealth.
How does a woman respect and submit to a man who doesn't respect her? Bra Tbose's closing statement is so powerful. I love bab' Hlophe's voice, it just commands attention man. Absolutely enjoyed this episode, please keep them coming.
What a wonderful conversation. For me Black love has respect, protection and care for feelings in it. A man who respect a woman will automatically get "submission"from a woman. Ephicians 5 man will get a proverbs 31 woman. Money is essential to acccentuate that love♥♥♥
This conversation needed to be longer🤞🏼, i like Felix's mindset. That guy who says our elders used to have same sex love has had his mindset altered by the woke agenda.
@@vuyelwajeanettdikane372 I hear you, but I disagree with making it seem as if it was a norm that used to happen back then, that defined "black love" for black people back then
@@mbalenhleqwabe it definitely wasn't a norm. Many died with that secret but it was happening this days it's forced down our throats that we have to accept it as normal out "in public"," binaries " & all... A lot is going on
Yes Felix woman were meant to take care of the house ngale nje kwemali kodwa sinezinto eziningi esizenzayo indoda ayiphume iyosebenza mina ngisebenze ama business asekhaya ngilime and love my man kuze ngibe active nase bedroom ngizokujabulisa kanjani ngikhathele nes stress sasemsebenzini
Felix too comical’ ngeziyoyo’’ zabafana””😂 but shout out bra T- Bose very modest and thoughtful he was not given a chance. Very interesting topic and I’m proud of South Africans not shying away from our serious issues.
Put material things aside and look for genuine companionship. Then both people can motive each other to persue careers n financial freedom n build a healthy family. There will always be women with bigger bums than urz and there will always be men with bigger pockets than ur man. Respect each other as partners, pray together n the love will always be fired up🔥
I enjoyed watching this pod cast i believe that in black love we've lost what was being done by our parents if the generation of today could do thing that we done madolo I promise we'll love ngokwe qiniso .
😭😩yabona mangaphika noGogo Skhotheni just after watching her episode with Macg then this 'a wife to two husbands' or this is still for Mojalove content Ngaze ngazixaka ngendaba zabantu ke nam😩
Imagine believing your grandparents were in same sex relationships 😂, this generation is just caught up in the crazy western identity. We need to take a step back and regain our africaness.
they were in same sex relationships but behind closed door because it was a taboo. western culture only gave them the option to come out with it but it never made them gay
They were in same sex relationships long before colonization. This man and woman relationship was created by colonizers just like monogamy. Look at how animals operate.
I watched MacG show she explained it was for the show on Moja love, but here shes mentioning the 2nd husband. I think we need to get clarity from her on her "venting podcast". I still love her though but I find it difficult to understand her here as well.
Love is not organic anymore❤ we need potions to strengthen what is naturally bound by what is real and true nothing can separate it. Its insecurities at play here.
I’m surprised ngesiZulu sika T-bose and his wife. This was a much better session than the others I’ve seen. Participants listened to each other, everyone could bring their point across and be heard. Good to see
These conversations should be had until we are tired and start looking for middle grounds because wow we don't talk guys.... Please more episodes on black love.
No, I have to disagree with you, this nation does not need a softer gentler man, What for? You just need to look around carefully to realize we are at war. We need man who will affirm and guide...
I think we need softer men because many men where raised to be strong. Being told men don't cry. Which has lead to men being angry and not being able to express themselves. Leading to men some men expressing themselves in toxic and violent manner. That's why we have such high rate of GBV.
But Skhotheni is giving mixed signals with regards to having two husbands. She denied it mos and said MojaLove pushed the narative and that it was for clout. What is what vele?😮😮😮
