BLACK WOMEN ARE LOSING INTEREST IN BLACK MEN 

Black men was bashing black women so much on tiktok, that other races of males had to step in and make tiktok videos praising black women. I don't understand how black men don't see what's happening.

His white girlfriend was literally sitting in the car, telling him that he is not worth any kind of status and instead of listening, he flat out denied it because he didn't want to hear the truth. How can you as black man just sit there and hear a white woman you're dating say you are not valuable because you are black and not feel some type of way about it? If i was him after hearing something like that, I would have immediately dropped her off at home, wished her a good luck, and went on with my life cause if that's how you feel about it...then there's no point in being together.

No other races degrades and talk bad about his own women like black men.

I was married to a black man for 10 years. I held things down in our marriage… after all that he cheated and I got the strength to walk away. A nonblack man jumped in my DM for 3 months straight, and I didn’t budge. He located my employer and sent dozens of roses to my job. A few days later, I accepted his dinner invitation. We have been together for 5 months and things are going great. I will NEVER go back to any black man. They broke me and another man came along the way and helped me put myself esteem back together. Calling my beautiful, sexy, comforting me, showing me love, providing and protecting me.

Black men have been firing black women for years. Now black women are simply saying,”No, I quit!”

It's not just white men. Don't sleep Asian men. They're coming for Sisters too, lol.

Black men chasing hair and skin tone.

We’re assuming that BM care; they don’t and never will. BM hate BW and have always been upfront about it.

You go where your appreciated, not tolerated

Tyrone, please stay with Becky and Selena. I think it’s a better fit for the both of you all. No hard feelings.

Date men who value, love and respect you, regardless of his race!

I’m surprised it took black women this long to wake up! My friends use to clown me for dating white men then I’d hear all the shit they were going through with black men and couldn’t relate. I notice a big difference when it came to natural hair appreciation, white men always complimented me. The only two negative comments I received were from black men. Understand I went natural in 2009 before it became popular.

Im a white guy who has been married to a beautiful black woman for 21 years, best years of my life...just happened upon your video and wanted to say I believe you're absolutely right....my wife is Beautiful, I dont mistreat her, dont talk bad to her, I give her the respect she deserves, we work as a team, and I don't cheat on her, Black men are lucky, and Black women are special...Im honored to be with my wife.. Best Wishes to All....really a Great video!...

I'm a dark-skinned black woman who goes 50 this year and I have literally over the years told white men no but hung in there with black men who I've spent YEARS supporting all while swallowing the excuses. I used to be angry and bitter like so many in my age bracket but this past year have decided to take responsibility for the choices I have made in men. Taking stock of where I am, I am physically fit with NO children (I have favorite aunt status), long natural hair, look like I'm in my 30s and I have a career in finance, have begun a switch to online trading so that I can eventually travel and work at the same time. That's my plan B. All my furniture is going in storage and I will be visiting friends and family worldwide for months at a time. What's holding me back? Nothing. I am open to whomever I meet along the way. My "exclusively black man" card is burnt. I still see the king in them but I wish them well. Peace and Love.

Any man who is NOT sowing into his own community is in essence destroying himself...

Black women aren’t giving up….we’re letting go!

Also attention bw: If you’re thinking of dating out, don’t just do it blindly. Dusties exist in every race. Keep your standards up and choose a man who will treat you like the princesses you are. Learn to love yourself so that you can find yourself someone who loves and respects you just as much as yourself. Ladies, even if you need to be single for a while in order to get yourself in the right mindset. DO IT !!! Anyways hope for the best ❤️

“How is it that a White Man can see more value in our women than WE see in our women?” Chile, that’s why a lot of us BW collectively burnt the cape! BW are now going where they’re celebrated.

There's also the fact of black women being labeled as gold diggers for wanting a good life but then these same men marry other women and have absolutely no problem providing etc for them. Eventually they end up having their kids and leaving them and they still have to fork out the money 🤦🏽‍♀️

As crazy as this sounds, I realized at a very young age that if I was to have any chance of happiness, I would have to avoid most BM. My father decided to up and leave me, my sisters and mom. We were not in a safe area and without the protection and provision of our father, we were vulnerable to predators and narcissists. My mom advocated for us in every way but she especially focused on giving us a quality education. I was one of very few black women on scholarship in a predominately white prep school. I naturally started to date my peers. It was a blessing as I have never had to deal with what I've seen the black women in my family deal with. My husband protects, provides and plans for our future. 20 yrs together, 18 married, safe, secure children. My wish is that every black women can experience a loving supportive spouse.

In college, my African professor told the class black men in America are not respected around the world bc they do not respect their women. Just listen to some of the hip hop music lyrics. I love hip hop & black men, but you can’t disregard the facts. They will treat black women badly then go to another race & treat them like a Queens bc they see them as trophy, something they could not get in the past.

Black women are tired, our souls are tired, we are drained, physically and mentally, dealing with the way black men have been treating us. Black women who never thought of being with a Non Black Man are now saying they are done with BM and are starting to date out. The movement has begun. And black women are beginning to feel hopeful in finding love, starting families and so on.

It's 2023 and I'm starting to be open to other races. It's a hard pill to swallow but 🤷🏾‍♀️

I don't know how I stumbled across this video... but I am one of the BW that walked away from the BM collective. I haven't dated or been with a BM in nearly a decade. This was upon the realization 8 yrs. ago that the BM collective had a hatred and disdain for BW and children. I have never been protected, respected, valued nor loved by BM. And like many other BW have been devalued, mocked, violated, abandoned, and abused by them. So I walked away and never looked back. I'd be lying if I said I didn't find BM attractive but I know they don't genuinely value, love, or respect BW. You can't change people, but have to be aware of reality and just move on. I am not going to compete with non-black women for BM neither, BW are the only race of women that have to compete with non-black women for her natural counterpart. I gracefully bow out. Nothing but respect for BM who value, respect, protect, and love BW.

I'm a black professional woman dating a white professional man and he mentioned that his close white friends were impressed that he exuded enough confidence to attract a black woman. I found that really interesting...he is an incredibly loving and stable man and has made his intentions clear from the start that he's dating for marriage. knew him for a year before as a good friend, he respectfully courted me showed initiative and asked me out officially, making his intentions clear. Within 3-4 months of dating I met his mother and family. These men are serious out here. I love my black men and its just so happened that I found someone who treats me well and checked the criteria I needed. I hope the negative black men don't ruin things for the good honest black men out there. Sending love always x

As a white woman I can co-sign what he saying about white culture. Dating or even worse marrying a black man is looked down on. I don’t agree with it but it’s just facts

When a BW divest understand….. it’s the hardest decision ever to make. It hurts like hell. But she more than likely had to say it’s either Me or them. And like every decent human would choose. She chooses her.

It’s rare that I hear a black man read the room the way that you did ! Love it!

I withdrew my interest from Black men years ago. 15 years of marriage my white husband treats me like a queen. I never felt valued by Black men.

As a black man I’m not very surprised. This video was insightful particularly where you touched on those statistics, it really highlights the foolishness in the black male community and how we are literally driving our own beautiful women away due to our ignorance. In the U.K. I’m already seeing more and more black women settling for white men, it’s a growing trend as you mentioned but something I’ve noticed for quite sometime over the years. A black woman once told me that some black women settle for white men because they genuinely find their natural features beautiful, by that I’m talking about their natural coarse hair. She told me that whereas black men would condemn black women for showing their natural coarse hair, quite a lot of white men really don’t care. As black men we need to honestly do better. Don’t allow yourself to be fetishised and stop acting as if non black women think your Gods gift to the world it’s complete arrogance and makes us look foolish. Date whoever you wanna bloody date man whether they’re black white or alien but show some respect to black women and stop dragging them through the dirt all the time.

As a black woman, I'm giving up on a lot of things. You can't bring a girl up to be understanding, compassionate, kind, caring, diligent, and loving only for her to not be able to expect it in return. I get sick of being told that it's okay for men to have a high body count, to cheat, have kids outside your relationship, and more where as if I did that he'd lose his damn mind. I've been lonely my whole life, might as well roll on without the headache. 😶‍🌫️🤐

From elementary school all the way through high school I was called ugly by the black guys who went to school with me (and I went to predominately black schools so it was only black guys there), it lowered my self-esteem and I really thought I was the ugliest person ever so I gave up on boy’s completely and wasn’t trying to date anyone anymore. then by coincidence in my first year of college a white guy started talking to me and he said I was very beautiful, that was the FIRST time a guy has ever called me beautiful other than my dad and I actually remember crying cuz I was surprised someone thought that about me, now me and the white guy are dating and it’s been like 2 years he’s so nice he always calls me queen and pretty and we always are hanging out together watching movies and other stuff, he never asked me to do anything sexual if you’re wondering cause me and him are Christian and he said we can wait together I honestly am so happy he makes me happy 🥰

As a black man this video ruined my whole weekend. I'm not on social media, for the specific reason to keep negative shit out of my life. With that being said I had know idea it has become a trend to bash black women. And as a man who truly appreciates black women I feel like guys like me should have been standing up checking this ignorant shit at the door.

I'm a black woman. I'm married to a black man. According to my mother, he is just like my Father. My Dad wouldn't curse at or around women. He was chivalrous and a strong protector. He bought a shotgun when I was born. My husband is a "dinosaur". He loves me and shows it . He takes care of myself and our children. No baby mama's. He is so smart. He just happens to be college educated. He is a gentle giant with me. He is an All True Man. Thank you, Husband. I love you

Every low down thing that has happened to me has been at the actions of a BM. BM as a collective are doomed... As far as I’m concerned YtW can have them…they deserve each other.🍷👏🏾

I’m 47 and I never could understand why some black women are so opposed to dating men of other races. I see no reason to be loyal to black men or any other race of men exclusively. I’m loyal to ANY MAN who is RESPECTFUL, KIND, LOVING, and WILLING to LEARN, GROW, and BUILD with me.

If you throw a Pearl down on the ground you can’t be mad when someone else sees it’s shine and picks it up.

....my (black) daughter and all of her black girlfriends don’t want nothing to do with a black man bc all their experiences with black men have traumatic, abusive ,empty and loveless

🥀Until the black man respects the black woman, no one is going to respect him. A black man comes from a black woman and he should value her like he does his mother.🌹I am a black woman who L♥️VES and Respects black men. My father is black and my mother is also, they stayed married until my father died. 🙏

To be honest, white men always treated me better. We talked about hopes, dreams, investing, growth, etc. My brothers were only interested in one conversation.

Black women have huge hearts and are strong and we don't take bullshit. Let it be a curse. I'm not living on my knees. We do what makes us happy and some can't deal...not our problem.

I briefly dated a white man who told me he loved my strength and how expressive I was. He said he didn’t think it triggered white men the way it does black men because we don’t remind them of their mothers. His words, not mine. Just reporting from the scene. ✌️

Send them this way... this Hispanic loves Black women.

Bravo for speaking truth to power. Black men that don't uplift their women will suffer devastating karmic consequences

Yes, I turn my back years ago. I saw my friends getting knocked up and never getting married. White men always hot on me, I took a chance. 10 years married to a a great wm. While all my friends are on the 3rd baby daddy and depressed. I have no regrets

I wished I would have made the decision back when I was young. It would've saved me a lot of heartbreak.

When I was dating through college and my 20s, the Black men I was interested in were interested in white women. Fine, I started dating the men who showed that they were interested in me. Now I'm married to a white man, 18 years in, and with 2 children.

Every human being wants to be loved and cherished. When I was married to a black man. He was abusive, condescending, wanted me to build him up but treated me as if other women were better than me. After divorce I found a white male who treated me like a queen. I didn't have to suffer his insecurities. His #1 trait was loyalty. We are loyal to each other. Now I walk like a queen. No need for a black man's approval, who really doesn't love himself. Do the work of healing yourself. Then you will have no need to break another.

I'm glad that I married a black woman.

I was so heart broken for young blk girls who were on Tik ToK, like dang bmales are out here crushing their spirits way too early. Fast forward a year, I see young blk girls promoting swirling, and paired up with nonblk boys. It was at that point I knew it was a wrap. In order to have “blk love” you need the minds and hearts of the young and impressionable maiden to both imagine and believe in it before she becomes bitter to the reality of what “blk love” truly is. I’m just happy that the pain and suffering have finally ended for BW and girls. I call this era the rebirth of the divine feminine.

I am a Hispanic woman and I love when I hear men speak highly of black women, especially black men.

“Black men become popular when black women support it.” And this goes over so many heads. If black women stop, the whole community shuts down. The same with white men. So why wouldn’t two superpowers join forces? Side note....Your skin is really beautiful.

As a black woman, happily engaged to a white man, I see a lot of truth in what he's saying. I've always dated outside my race and my black female cousins would poke fun at me about it. Those same cousins came to me years later saying they need a white man because they're disappointed with black men or let down. 🤷🏾‍♀️

I'm just sick of the attitude, entitlement, selfishness, the dumb ass lies for no reason, the covert, malignant narcissism, the gaslighting, the harsh rejection, the cruel treatment and immaturity. I'm not even going to get into not defending nor protecting me (although I can do that myself but...) Not appreciating me. That's what I'm tired of. I do know that this is and can be a universal to all men but it just seems more prevalent coming from black men.

He can’t handle the truth she’s telling straight to his face😩

If BM weren’t so vocal about their hatred of BW this wouldn’t be happening. BW are truly divesting from BM, this is a very real thing. BM have themselves to thank. Stay over there with Becky...nothing to see here...

Crazy thing is Black women will hold down trifling black men who wouldn't give them a second thought with a vengeance....

I’m a black woman and I recently married a white man and I must confess that everything this man is saying is true. Black men are not it for a lot of women.

What’s making me look at our men differently is several different reasons…… but the major one is our men don’t take dating and relationships seriously and we’re tired of it…… They don’t grow up or change or evolve they don’t think about providing for a family a and stay stagnant and don’t try to make more money like we do 😩😩😩😩

Once black women start that movement.....that part....you know the shit

I've been telling people for years that our dating pool is being gentrified and NOT in the black man's favor. Some things are not appreciated until some other group sees value or until those things are gone. Just saying.

The black woman is ACTUALLY the symbol of beauty, if that wasn't the case you wouldn't see these other women trying to make their bodies look like black women. IDK why black men don't understand that. You have to take time with any woman for a relationship to work so the color shouldn't matter. I love my sister's.

Brother you are on point, and it's sad and embarrassing too. I have two sons in their 20s and I try to instill in them the importance of loving and respecting yourself. Once you do that then you can love and respect others, to include black women. I knew eventually our egos would get us in trouble, saw it coming a long time ago ( I was a part of the same Tom Foolery back in my early 20s). Thank God I straightened up and got me a beautiful black queen ( 29 years now ). To my sisters, make sure finding love and respect are your priorities, no matter what race it comes from.

Most of us want to be with someone who values us. Black men are hyper sexualized and we are tired of that. I want someone who can have genuine feelings, emotions, morals and values. Not someone who just want physical attributes. Women stop limiting yourself to just black men. There is a whole sea of brown and white men out there, who will treat right. You would be surprised.

Um...ok so I am a white woman with biracial kids, Black stepkids, and some biracial nieces and nephews. Can I tell y'all what made me incredibly uncomfortable? When I was pregnant and out with my kid's father, some White women would approach me to proudly declare "omg I have mixed kids too!" Like we're in a special club or something. Lady, they're not designer handbags. I didn't do this to have some kind of...racially exotic baby? I don't care who dates or married who because, honestly, so many different cultures are coming together over time that it's the logical outcome. That's life who cares? But what makes me sad is when Black women are looked down on and told they're not as desirable as White or Asian or whatever. Conversely, I don't like how bagging a White girl is like a status symbol and she just becomes an object. It's messed up that White ppl who date Black ppl are sometimes seen as low class. These mentalities are just so strange and backwards to me. Ppl are ppl. U like who u like. That's it. Side note, my Black gfs who decided to take a chance and date outside their race? almost all of them are in good stable relationships so that divorce stat he gave is actually really interesting. Edit: sorry for the essay just wanted to get that off my chest.

This was a year ago…you should do a follow up because now we are burning capes left and right. I’m here for it.

As I black women. I can tell you that me and my friends( also black women) are tired and have basicslly given up on black men. We’re over the colorism, disrespect, and being constantly put down. A few of my friends have had extremely loving and caring relationships with men of other races. It’s like everywhere that a relationship has failed with black men, has progressed with men of other races(that’s not to say the failure of the relationship is based on race). I personally just feel more appreciated and care for with other men.

It's not just white men that love us. It's all different cultures but for some reason black men treat us like we are expendible.

I just saw this vid today, 3 yrs after it was made and he aint lyin lol...

I’m dating a non black man and the difference is astounding sadly. I want beautiful black babies, but I will only marry for love.

Damn this video is sad. I’m married to a white French man. But we just genuinely fell in love. He is the funniest, most patient, supportive, loving and smartest man I’ve ever known. I married him because we couldn’t stand to be apart. And he still tells me every day he can’t live without me. I just want everyone to find that love and passion, regardless of what that person looks like.

#ThankYou 🖤 I had a Mexican man try to hook me up with his cousin. I said I’m married. He said my bad. I never see your husband, I forgot you were married. I thought you would be a good fit for our family. You’re family oriented, hard working and a good sense of humor! Wow, I was blown away! Others are watching!

“Preference doesn’t want me. Time to settle down with who actually wants me. Not who I actually want” 🤒

This is so true several females in my family are now dating n marriage outside their race. My aunt that’s in her 50 finally got married n it was a white man. The black guy she dated for over 25 years never asked her to get married n played games. My cousin been married to a white guy for ten years now. I just started going on dates outside my race n experience much better dates with no craziness or drama.

This 🎯

I’m so happy to see Black Woman interracially dating. It’s a beautiful thing as long as they respect you and treat you right.

I’m not trying to troll you, but you’re literally not saying anything new or profound. It’s sucks that it took Becky to say it for y’all to awake out of your slumber. Enjoy this next era 😢

I'm glad I'm not the only Black man who sees this! I live in Canada and I can see what's going on in the US. I'm based in Toronto and the same conditions is happening up here too, not to the same degree but we definitley headed in the same direction. A lot of Black people in Toronto try to seperate themselves from what's going on in the States, so Black males try to ignore the issue of other males OPENLY hating on Black women like it is normal among all cultures. Gender wars is here too. Even some of the BM who say they want BW want them to settle for less. They think a BW who wants the bare minimum man who owns a car and a place to stay is high maintenance or gold diggerish. Some also think colorist and put down dark skin for light skin. This city in general loves to promote swirling in ads and commercials. People look at me crazy when I say I want to be with dark skin women, one time my whole workplace with Black and white folks thought I was racist for it. I check any self hate around me from males who can't respect Black women, I know that's not much so that's why I keep a small circle of Black men who only deal with Black women. I don't hang with Black males with that weird energy. I'm sorry Black women have to deal with this sad state of affairs. The only solution I'm putting my energy in is increasing my value, so I can influence Black boys to grow up and respect Black women to raise a family. Unfortunately, most of the grown Black males are already buck broken and stuck in their misogynoir and colorist ways.

Fast forward exactly one year and the shift is happening before our eyes.

I dont care who the black man dates.... I understand I am not black man desires. I just don't like for the men to put us down!

White woman: Black Man “You’re only the prize if you’re a rich athlete!”

Damn if you didn't call it Shumake. While I'm not fully black, I am so tired of seeing black women being shitted on by black men. I have my own personal experiences of being abandoned by my black father and being sold a dream by BM that showed fake interest, only to be used and discarded. I'm seeing more and more BW/WM couples in my area and in my travels and it makes my heart happy every time I see them out and about with an aura of calm and peace surrounding them.

"I wonder why we take from our women, why we rape our women do we hate our women?" Tupac..

I’m only 16 and already black men/boys have showed me they are not the way to go🤷🏽‍♀️ I don’t even find them inherently attractive anymore, do better guys.

We like" Exoticals" too and they love some black women!!!! Trust me!😜

REALEST SHIT I'VE HEARD FROM A BLACK MAN EVER!

Engaged to a white man im pregnant now and we will be getting married next week before I have my baby ❤️😉🙏. No Baby mothers here WHITE MEN AND BLACK WOMEN 😍

Some years for now… they can’t say you didn’t warn them about the divesting movement. It’s getting bigger because the manipulation and gaslighting is no longer working. Thank you for calling other black men out for their actions. I wish you luck in your future marriage and life. Post the wedding video!

Its not just the ww and bm . Bm think Hispanic women are better, Asian women, biracial women, etc. Anyone who isnt black basically.

Omg he dropping jewels black men. Please listen to this man. Its a movement coming big time

laying down in my latino papis bed waiting for him to get home with chocolate & and cuddles. The black men i dated put together cant compare to my man sorry not sorry .

This is a good thing. Hopefully this will make us black men get our sh!t together.

I’m manifesting healthy divested love for myself. Hispanic, Asian and white men welcome. No dust buckets! That era is behind me

my best friend who once swore she would only ever be with black men is currently dating a white guy right now. today she told me she has never felt more protected, more desireable, and more loved by a man before.😭❤

I work with a black girl 36 years old..She dates a white man, long distance and he wants to move mountains to be with her. She is beautiful inside out and commands respect, much like many many MANY black women today. I'm not sure but I think black girls really do the work from a young age to feel that they are worthy, and all girls should do that. I can see how my coworker would definitely inspire a man to be his best. She is a catch.

This is so true. I am leaving America. I know what is said about me behind my back. It is one thing for another race to hate on us, but I can never look at black men the same for the way that they have treated me to my face and behind my back since high school. White men tell me that I am beautiful and mean it. I’ll miss my black men, but I am traumatized, tired and disappointed. I don’t think I can ever go back.

We giving up on y’all cause y’all been gave up on us.

This is very refreshing to hear from a black men with critical thinking skills. 🤍

The movement is already happening...BW “divesting” from BM has become a big thing. As someone in my 30s who INVESTED 5+ years into the growth and nurturing of a BM to only have him embarrass, disrespect and disregard me in the end, I have started to think seriously about it. Not to mention the countless number of dates since that’s have gone nowhere. But many a WM/AM have tried to holla and I wouldn’t really consider giving them a chance because I’ve been so invested in BM. It’s too bad they’re NO WHERE NEAR as invested in us BW 😢😤🤬