@@sg5720 how can you even ask this question and really get a real answer? I could easily just say yes…. But to answer I wear make up on sundays not every day. And even if I do, so what….. that’s my choice. Bottom line men shouldn’t be commenting on what women wear on their faces…. This is a feminine behavior, and your worried about the wrong thing…. Looking back at a woman and minding her business when you could be starting a business of your own, you know “man stuff”.
I concur. I have my own style, but no one will ever see me with a ton of makeup, lashes, extra long nails, and certainly no BBL, etc. I’ve never felt like I needed OR wanted it. On another note, I respect and appreciate how the brother said that he would not tear a woman down. 🙌🏾 We as women and men can even disagree, no problem. Yet, we can deal with one another with respect and honor. Our continuity depends on it.
The replies are cute. We tend to avoid the truth. I’m very sorry but if I said that the specific style won’t last as long as a beauty trend and standard because women are failing to take care of their natural hair and lashes and skin, y’all would hate me. The hyperpigmentation around the eyes, the balding, the lack of eyebrows and 0 eyelashes is real. Real money and routine is needed to have such a style. Constant maintenance and self care. It is high value and not for a cheap insecure Gyal, which I’ve personally seen is the majority of ladies with that aesthetic.... Fix your edges and your mental health, gain confidence in your natural baddie self and then adopt whatever aesthetic to please the male gaze, which would actually stick it in anything really so don’t think this or that is winning. It don’t matter what you dress like but why...
Plain women are like plain men. You never get bored because there’s always something to do, to make, to share, to learn, to teach, to discover, to visit, to live, to love, to elevate from each other and to develop in common. It’s a harmonious mix of a admirative cocktail of beauty, elegance, intelligence, curiosity, feelings, emotions, humility, honesty, spontaneity, confidence. In a word: authentic! Being real to be truly loved for each.
Whether she's a Plain Jane or a Fun Girl, both have the potential to be toxic. Without God as the Root of her life, her fruits will be toxic to the soul. Fellas, focus on God & prepare to be a husband for the woman of God coming.
By todays standards I am plain. I consider my self understated no weave, minimal makeup, I met and dated my husband wearing no makeup or very little. When you wear all that mess you look like you’re trying to hard, hiding something or look like that’s all you have to offer.
I also met my husband looking like the plainest of janes. I am a plain Jane even though I clean up real nice. I've gone thru my whole life with ppl like her making me feel bad about my looks and it took a really long time to look in the mirror and not hate everything I saw.
She doesn’t even have on makeup. Just lashes and hair. Her brows aren’t done. Or no lipstick etc. Anyhow I got my husband with lashes and makeup. I mean it’s not that serious 😊
@@BlackberryTittiesmaybe at the moment she doesn’t have all that on but she self admitted that she’s done up most of the time. No one said you can’t get a man with makeup and weave. The men have just spoken and they prefer natural to that look when it comes to a spouse.
@@joylastname3035especially as a black women I felt like I always had to have my hair done up and have a certain “look” I’ve embraced my natural beauty but yup I clean up nice.
This is such a good topic. I am an older woman and it's really shocking to me how low majority of women have fallen. Decked out in make up, false lashes, false nails, false hair and who knows what else is false. Sad state of affairs.
It is true that many men (and women) who get off on breaking egos. I appreciate the tenderness and respect you/this man exhibited and projected here, alongside the authenticity.
Most men want a pretty and well groomed/dressed woman but think that she is likely high maintenance, expensive, out of their league and has plenty of options. "Plain-jane" women are the safer option and are thought to be more loyal from what I have heard from men. Most men live a double life and cheat anyway so just enjoy life sis they're not worth studying and stressing about❤
You can still be pretty and well groomed as a plain Jane . It's not like they are talking about women who has bad hygiene and always looks a mess that's not a plain Jane. That's just someone for whatever reason isn't taking care of themselves . A plain Jane is a woman that's simple like quiet luxury 😉.
@@brynnk2518 I'm speaking of a different level of grooming and dress like the girl spoke of in the video. Has nothing to do with hygiene those are the basics.
But being plain Jane can be expensive too if you dress simple women are expensive period, I don't wear lashes or weave but my clothes are not cheap and I don't wear ghetto outfits I'm conservative with how I dress.
The important thing is to be your authentic self ladies. You can't mimic someone's style and hope you get a certain result. A man is going to go after who he is attracted to PERIOD. It doesn't matter if she is a"plain jane" or a "bimbo". Don't be gullible. If he likes her, he'll be with her trust. Also, there are some very vain men out there as well. 💯
2019, I decided to go without wearing weave. 2021 I stopped wearing makeup. Mannn when I tell you once you are secure in how you look without hiding behind those superficial things, it is the most liberating thing ever. My PLANE JANE SELF is happy and thriving. Even though I'm married, men still tell me how beautiful I am. probably more than they did when I wore makeup and weave
I don’t know how old she is but……I think some of us “seasoned” women… We know that a man saying “I’m scared of you” is a line some use. It’s not a compliment. It’s backhanded “flattery” as if to say you out of his league even though he knows you’re not out of his league 😂 It’s a lame line at best. Don’t fall for the oke doke sweetheart. 9:16
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 yes to the first 10 minutes! My husband hates all of the extra stuff. He likes me “plain Jane” and as I’ve gotten older, I also have come to appreciate that less is more. Now I do like to jazz it up a bit, but I do that for me not him.
she is a plane jane as well. she just happens to be high maintenance. i’m also a plain jane and i don’t see anything wrong with it. i’ve had same fashion style for as long as i remember, i cut my own hair and don’t own make-up. i don’t like to waste money so that was never an issue for me. i always try to stay in good shape and same weight which i think suits me best because i do want to look good for myself and my husband. but he never cared about fake lashes, nails, branded shoes and purses and what not as most men don’t.
I agree with him. I am not sure as to why the term "plain Jane" even exists? The women described as "plain Jane" are very smart and have a lot of interests, they know how to hold a conversation and are well-rounded people. We don't need all of those lashes and extra. Yes, we can wear a wig from time to time but a woman like that is more safe for men who seek long-term relationships.
Interesting, she thinks that eye lashes,weave & caked on makeup is the definition of pretty. Bless her heart. Once she figures out her true pretty, that "pretty girl curse" will be lifted.
I’m glad someone said it. I didn’t know how to say it without coming off as tearing down another black woman because even with all that she has on, she’s an average looking woman to me.
@@kemi1486 the thing is, her referring to ladies who aren't caked with make up, eyelashes & weave, as plain Jane's is her tearing down other women. I don't wear weave, my hair is natural, my eye lashes are long enough without the bat wings, and I like to show off my freckles. I often get compliments & my dating life if ok. So yeah, she needs to figure some things out.
I think she is mistaking pretty with high maintenance. Cause if she is to remove all the extras, she will see how fast she turns into the plain Jane she is describing. A pretty girl is pretty with or without the extras. Now this is not to reduce this woman in any way. But I understand the difference between low and high maintenance and what it can do for a woman's esthetics.
That’s the actual issue right there. If she wiped that stuff off her face and had natural good looks men would be all over her because natural good looks/genetics is what attracts men. All that extra stuff is fine but if you don’t have good looks without it, the men aren’t considering you a “pretty girl” 😂
Looks fade. My wife is still beautiful, not as beautiful as she was 23 years ago. Her beauty is not what keeps us together. A woman's attitude is her secret tool. She gave me the best gift of all, our son.
I’ve been called plain Jane before due to the fact I don’t wear makeup often and I rather where my natural hair and rock my nails short ect; but it’s all by choice and I’m most comfortable this way, but funny thing is every time I’m around the girls that where a ton of makeup and 35 inch weaves and long colorful nails, they always get uncomfortable and insecure. I never understood that but this lady here just confirmed what I was thinking.
As a girl that’s not a plain Jane I love beauty. As a kid I loved makeup and playing dress up, a lot of women were like that as little girls so when we get older ofc we love wearing makeup getting our hair done and fashion. It’s not about being superficial or insecure it’s an expression of personal style and what you find beautiful at the moment. For some women it’s for show bc they are insecure but for a lot of women they actually just love it.
Oh god the nails. I get mine done but they’re short and naturally coloured. They still look good but they don’t get in the way. What on earth do the women with those long nails with bling do for work!? I’d rip them off in 2 seconds flat. No gardening or anything
You’re actually the first male creator I’ve seen who doesn’t bash women no matter how many wrong points they can make (cause this lady had a few). It’s all respect, and I appreciate and value that. 👏🏾
Lol it's a short fuse. That's what people don't understand. Men will give attention to women like that for a quick hit and run but they don't usually consider them as potential partners.
Those men are after sex. If you want to have sex as a women, your better chance is to look good. But after the sex, after he saw you without make up and wigs, what can you offer more? Women most of the time get sh! Twisted. They think that because they are pretty and men give them attention because of it, that those same men are agoing to put a ring on it. It's a wrong thinking. Most of your quality for sex won't enter the equation once the talk is about marriage. In marriage many other qualities are valued more.
Plane Jane’s get overlooked by the wrong men. When I was single I was overlooked but I knew that those men weren’t for me. A mature man that knows what he wants doesn’t overlook us Plane Janes.
Yes and a mature men likes how you carry yourself and not your looks , if I were a men I would definitely pay attention to the girl who has the most dignity and respect , but also could be a 7 I’m just saying because she gotta be appealing lol
I don’t think it has anything to do with maturity. People have preferences, I’m not sure why putting labels on people just to make you feel better about why people over look others is a weird coping mechanism.
@@CPT_Pepper right I was on a dating app over a year ago and this guy said on his profile, he was "hands down one of those dopest people you'll ever meet" I swiped left so damn hard, I was like egh cringe
@@CPT_Pepper 🤭😂🤣😂🎯 This keeps happening to me!! Their almost always insecure, hyper sensitive, easily triggered betas once I get to know them. Lol It’s ok tho. I adore betas too. They have high emotional intelligence. Alphas & sigmas do too but in a different way.
Being a “plane Jane “ female is also a lot of effort .let’s not act like it’s not something you have to work at. If you not wearing makeup you’re working on making your skin look as good as possible. You’re making sure that your natural hair is healthy and looking good. Just because your not doing “the most” doesn’t mean that you’re not doing anything at all. I have vigorously made an effort to look good I just focus on looking good naturally. I dress more simply but I look very put together and stand tall . It makes me feel good to know that I look good even when I choose to keep it simple. If I want to do more I can do that but being more simple is what truly makes me feel good and confident. I used to do the wigs and all that but I feel better the way I am now. I’m pretty naturally and I lean in to that. I turn heads (not bragging) just saying . I’m a very modest women and I think ALOT of women can benefit from leaning into their natural beauty at some point. I’m telling you , it frees you and allows you to do more with less. It’s a great feeling.
You are speaking facts. I invest in my skincare, hair products and health. I get compliments all the time. I made water, supplements, exercise,sleep and peace my top priorities!
This right here! Us "plane janes" DO the most. Just in a different way. Being presentable and respectable requires effort. Because there's definitely a difference between "natural beauty" and "women at walmart" levels of "low/no effort" lol
I was known as a "plain jane" but my mother advised me to keep myself for marriage, stay natural and your future husband will appreciate it. My husband and I have been happily married for 10 years + and I'm grateful. Makeup, weave, lashes etc can enhance your beauty but will not get you a husband. Remember, Proverbs 31:30
@yourgirlshani As women we should stick together, I can't believe the criticism it's everyone choice how they look and dress. Just be pleased we are able to make the choice some people can't. And having a husband isn't everything in this life. I for one can pay my own bill and buy house, cars etc, we are independent some of us and its by choice.
She has a lot of growing to do. Why is she so focused on what a man want? Many men have different needs and wants. Heck, that’s half of the human population. Stop worrying about men and focus on your elevation, mentally and physically. Enlighten yourself, laugh, enjoy life and your person will see you. I don’t know what a “Plain Jane” is bcc women can transform their look. Her perception of other women are off, misleading and wrong.
She really does!! She's giving off big PickMesha energy. Dudes are turned off by low-lying fruit & chase women they can't have. They'll gas PickMes up to the moon, though. They also like to try & "humble" women that intimidate them instead of leveling up themselves. At the end of the day, a majority of these dudes don't even know what they want anyway. Life has shown me that PickMeshas rarely get picked! Many end up being lifelong cheerleaders and friend-zoned! She's definitely worried about the wrong things. Hope she finds self-love and self-worth one day soon.
I personally know of 'plain Janes' struggling to find love while so-called pretty girls (weaves lashes makeup nails heels etc) who are getting married. In my opinion it's a personality or reputation issue mostly. There are also countless married 'plain Janes' being cheated on for other types of women (i.e. Derrick Jackson) This occurs daily. Men will always carry the carrot on the stick when you care too much.
This is why we can’t go based on looks. Just cause a woman likes to wear hair and make up doesn’t mean she has a bad personality or is vain. AND ITS OK FOR WOMEN TO LIKE FEMININE THINGS LIKE THAT. and just because she’s a plain Jane doesn’t mean that her personality is great! There’s too much emphasis on the outside, whether people wanna admit it or not.
With the high divorce rates in the black community, who are the 'plain janes' marrying? Plan Jane women may have high ambition, higher incomes than their husbands, and higher education. These women may have settled for low tier men to marry. I like his channel, but he talks as if these level-headed, smart, hardworking men are plentiful and easy to find. She may not have the best message, but he is overstating the caliber of men in the Black community.
I think in the blk community too much emphasis is placed on superficial characteristics and these assumptions and ideologies we have as a culture. We like to place ppl in these fixed categories that we've created instead of just going through life and examining each individual situation and person separately. We complain about stereotypes but we constantly use stereotypes against each other and make decisions based on those ideas. I've been guilty of unconsciously doing that as well before, it's cultural but needs to stop. A plain Jane woman is not being treated any better than a more glamorous looking woman when it all boils down to it in our community. Just look at Derrick J soon to be ex-wife. This man put her through the ringer and she's as plain as it gets. A man will treat you right if that is his desire. If he is a mature and respectful man with his priorities and heart in the right spot.
@@SparklingOnyx preach! I just typed something similar! She's in competition mode and she needs to stop it. Too many of these men are actors anyway! They will play a role & switch up on you midstream!
1. All he did was use the categories she used in order to comment on it. 2. He definitely said he is referring to quality men who care about things like building a legacy and Derrick is not that. 3. He even went as far as to say that he loves his wife's appearance and loves when she does get "extra",he didn't marry his wife for looks and then followed up with non-physical reasons why he did. It's about not having to lead with pretty being your primary "personality trait" so to speak. Sometimes we have to stop filtering what's being said through our emotions and listen to what a quality man is telling you about other quality men (really of any race) instead of referring back to what the others do/did in order to get different outcomes so that our daughters don't have to be in youtube comment sections trauma bonding over trash men.
Can we stop to appreciate how much of a supportive husband he is? He wasn’t mean or superficial but respectfully answered her question, gave her additional advice and then gassed up his lady. 🙌🏽 king behaviour 👑
Ladies, don't focus on asthetics. Don't focus on fitting into vain, fruitless categories. Focus on God and prepare for a man of God to be your husband. Don't settle for less. Be the woman of God that a man of God who's focused on the Lord and His purpose would desire to marry.
Boy bye. Ladies, do BOTH. Be your best aesthetically & spiritually. Men will cheat & breed you either way. It really has nothing to do with aesthetics. It has everything to do with who they can AFFORD, CONTROL, & who STROKES THEIR EGO the best. Being an awesome, kind, nurturer, & forgives as a woman, in general, is a given.
Black female, here. An observation: I shaved off most of my hair and wore it short a few years back. I hated it. But, it was the 1st time in my life that I received so many compliments from men.
Ladies we are women.....after age 13....normalize...that. referring to us as "females " is derogatory. Listen to men.....do they call each other "males"? Love and light to all blk women
Some women are naturally pretty without all that. So what she’s calling plain Jane may be drop dead gorgeous. I rarely wear makeup unless I’m dressing up for something and dress fairly bohemian/laid back and I’ve not had a shortage of attention. Honestly sometimes I’m shocked because I’ll be feeling like I look a mess and get more attention.
Girl same. I’m like who are y’all looking at cause it can’t be me and my sweatpants 😂 I just take care of my skin, hair, hygiene, and have confidence no matter what I’m wearing. Plain Jane doesn’t mean less than or less attractive
What happened is, she is the plain Jane, but wasn’t getting the attention. She studied what she perceived men were paying attention to and tried to mimic/dress herself up like “that girl”. She’s frustrated because she’s still not getting the attention. Truly, she does clearly have low self esteem and nothing much to bring to the table. We can hear that she’s unrefined in her speech and the facade she has built up is easy to see through. She needs to step back, self reflect and build character, value, respect and love for self.. first. I do feel really bad for her and it’s a bit embarrassing to watch. I wish her the best though in her healing.
It's not so much her vernacular as it is her not understanding who she is. She feels as if she's entitled and she conflates and assumes. I need her to ground herself and have some contrition.
I love how No one is talking about how whether we have makeup/weave or plain Jane we all getting played 😪 I’ve been both and the grass is only greener where we water it. Dudes get plain Jane and neglect them then get the ones with lashes then try to make them plane Jane it doesn’t matter what matters is how they treat you no matter what season they’re or you’re in. Stop letting them lie to you looks do matter as long as they’re “natural” looking to them . Thank me later!
I’m so glad I had my ugly duckling stage before I reached my peak/prime. I had plenty of time to work on my personality/intelligence before looks was ever important for the day and age now I have both beauty and brains +humor and these ninjas dk WHAT to do with it
Just because you wear eyelashes, makeup, and weave doesn’t make you pretty, yes it might enhance your look SOME but I feel some women or a lot of women are jealous of women who are confident in their own skin. Meaning they rock their natural ,they might not wear makeup and lashes, and some women I feel are intimidated of others who have such confidence. Not all men want women that their friends do too. Plus if all you have to offer is looks well that’s not very much. Beauty fades and dumb is forever I’ll take brains over beauty some women have to realize you might have looks but you lack in conversation.
She is definitely a beautiful girl! You can tell when people are pretty with or without. She clearly is lonely. No need for y’all to add more fuel to the fire! She’s still human at the end of the day.
It depends on the men you're trying to attract. I'm natural most of the time, and I get hit on constantly, but when I wear makeup & weave, I start attracting guys I would never talk to. The pookies and the dusties love all that mess.
That's what I was thinking. Guys may have been interested until she opened her mouth. It also.could be she's in the wrong places. The club you damn near have to be someone else. Most people in the club ain't looking for no spouse. You also have to dress for where you are.
Idk, I hear lots of girls from Southern states sounding very "country" and unintelligible (like the female version of Larry the Cable guy.. or the female version of that guy from King of the Hill who nobody understands) but they have no problem finding people to love them. I wonder if there's a stigma to the black version of accents and, I guess, *_dialects_* that deviate from the classic Euro-English one? (not sure yet what each dialect here in America is called, sorry..) It does seem like they get criticized harsher, as if they're willfully commiting an offense/crime/sin.. and as if they are undeserving of love, respect and any form of humanity due to the dialect. Like, we seem very, very angry at them for this and mildly disgusted at them for this.. On a mildly related side note, I also wonder if this happens (consciously or _unconsciously_) to other people with other accents and/or dialects (jamaican pattois, nigerian pattois, hatian accents, african accents, middle eastern accents etc etc)
I always suspected this. Men crushing a ladies ego. This happened alot when I was a successful model. Men assumed I was conceited and tried to hurt me.
I think she’s confusing the word “pretty” with “glam” or maybe “high maintenance.” Not trying to put her down, but I would not put her in the category of pretty. If you’re really “pretty “ you’re pretty even if you don’t have on makeup and nails. The men are “scared” of her because she comes across as high maintenance.
Whether a madeup pretty girl or plain Jane, you have to ask yourself “What comes with that?” Integrity, nice personality, character, caring, loyalty, intelligence, empathy, understanding, etc.
Here we go..I worked with a girl who always gave me HELL for not dressing up and not applying make up everyday. So one day, to prove a point ( I was being petty) dressed up and put on my makeup and took my fine azz to work. She didn't bother for the entire day. Problem solved because she thought, I was unattractive because I did not wear makeup everyday. She stopped referring male customers to me as well. 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I honestly believe in doing both and I've seen women on both sides get married. We're all beautiful. But it's important to understand that healthy people attract healthy people. It's not about how you look it's about your character. I hate the whole "plain jane" vs other women trope, it's tired. Let the categories go and be who you are, work on your health and someone will come and love you the way you need to be loved. We all deserve that and this whole ideology needs to be abandoned.
Exactlyyyyyy!!! I’m tired of hearing women say “men don’t like it when we’re natural…men don’t like Afro hair…men go only for these type of girls” no sis have confidence in yourselfff. As soon as you change to fit someone else’s standards, you loose yourself and eventually the relationship because that isn’t you! There are men out there that will like all that, you just haven’t found that person yet
Girl yesssss, I hate the fucking categories, especially when it’s another woman boxing woman in, just to make herself feel more at ease within herself. Like no ma’am!
You are telling the truth. My husband loves me as my natural self. Lady’s it doesn’t take all that! Keep your body healthy and skin glowing, take care of your natural hair! Even if you decide to put weave in it! Being a women is already a gift!
Just because a woman doesn't wear the entire beauty supply store every day doesn't make her not be attractive just like Clarabelle the cow lashes and adult baby hairs make anyone else pretty. 1st of all it all depends on who's looking at you. Beauty is subjective. Secondly I never hear the really breathtakingly gorgeous women refer to themselves as pretty every other sentence. I've known quite a few and what they said is that they've been told that their entire lives and quite frankly they get tired of that being the only thing people notice about them. They're already convinced. They don't need to convince others.
i’m so sick of the natural vs glam conversion 😭. men will treat BOTH natural & dolled up women poorly… i don’t think it matters. some people have their preferences… but just be yourself and do what makes you happy. the right man will come to you eventually!!! the whole “what a woman brings to the table” conversation irks my nerves so bad 😭😭.
This video irked my soul and I’m in Facebook jail and couldn’t chime in on the debate lol! The fact that she thinks “pretty” is associated with fashion, lashes, hair, and makeup is sad. It’s also a clear indication that you don’t think you’re pretty without any of those things. That’s why they play with the “pretty” chicks.
@@Royalgazlite in response to a post that asked “if your mom and aunt got into a fight who would you help” all I said was “I’m whooping my aunts ass” and they got me 😂😂😂
Elegance is not about being noticed, it's about being REMEMBERED. Thank you for posting this video. Your wisdom is and willingness to teach how men feel/think about us woman. I believe you!!! 🌹🌹🌹
Just because a woman is extra, nails done, hair done, weave extension, eyelashes etc., Doesn't mean a woman is pretty. She takes care of herself. As she should. Taking care of yourself and being confident is attractive!
That's not taking care of yourself. Taking care of yourself wouldn't be covering up imperfections and bad hair care practices and putting on fake lashes. No more than wearing dentures are taking care of your teeth. She puts these things on, she wants to appear a certain way, she wants to look what she thinks is good.
A women does NOT have to purchase and wear weaves, lashes, etc to invest in herself 🤣 some of y'all wild with these comments. For the record, us Plain Janes are not in competition with you Baddies. We're just different.
@@SharayaMW 😆 Baddies...a plain Jane can be wilder than a baddie. People are regressing badly. Your outside appearance can't be the only thing, if so, than your not as gorgeous as you think.
Thank you for this video. I had a "friend" who was hyper focused on my appearance. She constantly talked about me being "beautiful" and wondered how someone like me spent much of my time living single. I have never regarded myself as a beautiful woman. WHO I AM outside of the shell is what's important to me. I have worked hard to be who I am and to achieve what I have. I do not seek out the attention of men. Yes, I care about how I look insomuch as: Having a clean body; being well dressed for the occasion; looking like I care about myself. I rarely wear makeup and own one wig that I wear as a joke. I have false lashes that are barely longer than my natural lashes. I do not want to get noticed when I'm out. Men who know me may mention my appearance once in a while. They usually talk about my smarts and other qualities that make one successful in life. It seems that BW love trying to be in competition with each other and love trying to tear down each other. There are already too many BM doing this, so why be a part of the problem?
I’m what’s considered a plain Jane female. I used to think I was ugly unless I had weaves and makeup and fake nails on. It took a long time for me to show my man my real hair. He brought me out of my shell and now I’m natural. He always told me he likes me better natural. The most compliments I’ve ever gotten was whenever I looked natural. I never went back to how I used to be and that’s because of my man. That’s why I’m getting married because I’m a plain Jane and don’t have to look like somebody else to be pretty mad my fiancé helped me understand that.💯
Why does she assume that she is pretty just because she spends money on her hair and makeup, nails, etc? There are women who have natural hair and look beautiful without anything on their face or any enhancements. She is wasting funds to just look average.
Good afternoon: It's crazy that some women believe they look better w/makeup. A pic without make-up looks great or the same. They wear soooo much make-up they literally look ashy & old. But she is spending money just to look average 🙄. That whole video makes her look like a insecure person. And a airhead..!!
She was taught and told if you look good all the time, men will love you and marry you. That is why some women will get BBL Women need to work on logic, critical thinking, and the inner self. Judge Judy said: "Beauty fade Dumbest is forever". You can make the face prettiest as you want but your mind will stay with you forever.
THey also need to work on being easygoing, warm, soft, and feminine. You can be dolled up and still be very masculine and live in too much of your masculine energy and be hard to deal with.
My brother loves natural looking women. Natural looking doesn't just mean no make up or fake hair. For example, if you get extensions get extensions that would naturally look like your hair or wear lashes that look like they belong to you.
Being a plain jane has taught me a few things. Effective communication problem solving teamwork, partner support and a plethora of characteristics I'd lack if I spent my time focused on parties, getting hair, nails, lashes done, and being out there with other women. Instead, my future husband gets more out of me.
@@jessybellewhere the fuck you get that from? He said he wants someone that wont surprise you in the morning, he wants his woman to look the same in the morning as he mett her. He wants pretty girl from the beginning, not a pretend pretty girl lol
At first I thought she was gonna say, “why don’t men want a good woman.” Usually it seems like men over look a good hearted woman over a woman who appears good looking. I’ve never heard ppl say what she’s saying. Confidence in a woman shines brighter than any physical attribute. Great video much love ❤️
Because that is usually the case. I’m not sure how to say this nicely but the problem is perhaps her perception of how she looks is not all what she’s thinking it is.
The man she really wanted probably chose a woman she feels is less attractive than her but she has to realize beauty really is in the eye of the beholder and it takes more than looks to keep anyone, man or woman.
We don’t have to suffer through all types of processes and procedures to be beautiful. Don’t have to spend a ton of money or place so many layers of artificial fixings on top of us to be beautiful. Beauty, in my observation, comes from The Creator and it flows from within on out. One thing I love about embracing my natural beauty is that it’s never out of style for me, I matter what people around me are doing. People say being thin is today and then being thin is out, designer bodies are in.. Then they’re out and the natural “look” is in and so on. No thank you. I am myself and I embrace this through the coming and going of all fads. I feel that we all have qualities, traits, attributes, and characteristics, that make us uniquely us. When we see the beauty in this and embrace it, it can be transformative not only for ourselves but also for those around us, even for generations of beautiful ones not yet born.
She "feels" yup 😂. Many American women also seem to think they are hotter stuff than they really are. It's the overly self love, you're beautiful no matter what size or shape, look, fed into them from the media. She might think/feel she's hotter than the other woman but in reality, objectively the other woman is more attractive. I've seen this irl among coworkers. Women put another woman down or gossip about their look, even though the other woman is CLEARLY more attractive and everyone else would agree.
Thank you for esteeming those who choose to be "plainly" themselves. You give me faith that there are still good men who look deeper than surface to find someone.Blessings, sir!
A naturally attractive woman doesn’t have to do all of that girly stuff. I wake up pretty much looking good. I’m not a beauty queen but I’m cute as is.
I think where the discrepancy comes into play is when a man's words do not align with his actions. I'm not speaking on the man in this video because he may be the exception to the rule. However, most men say out of their mouths they like natural beauty, plain looking women but those are the same men who are cheating on their plain looking gf and wives with women who are more glamorous, sexy, and flashy looking. They are the same men who are constantly being caught lusting after women who look nothing like their significant other. Liking pics, watching videos and drooling over the Kim k, nicki Minaj, cardi B, Rihanna, Beyonce's, or instagram models of the world who are dripping in makeup, jewelry, high fashion, perfect body, nails, hair etc...This does not personally apply to me because my life is not centered around gaining men's attention. Truthfully speaking in the blk community whether a woman is plain Jane or more glamorous looking she is dealing with the same dysfunctional, toxic relationship riddled with lying, cheating, disrespect, chaos, confusion, and a man dragging out getting married for yrs and yrs and then not actually being a faithful husband afterwards etc (not ALL but many are experiencing this).
Because the truth of the matter is the actual “plain Jane” women are chosen for marriage. They get the benefits of legal protection, children born in wedlock, recognition in society (as a wife and not a babymomma), and receiving all of the assets when the husband passes away. These are the women who are usually raised to put others first and have character and nice personalities. A man honors that by being a protector and provider. Fidelity is not guaranteed. The “baddie” archetype has always existed. These are the chicks who think their looks are all they need to get/keep a man, the chicks who may think it’s ok to be a mistress, the chicks who willingly get knocked up by a married man, etc. Many of these chicks have extreme character flaws but don’t realize it, so they are relegated to “fun girl” status. Men have affairs with them, string them along, may even like them, but men don’t actually respect them or trust them enough for marriage because they know those women won’t make great mothers, won’t take care of the household and will probably cheat. If you marry properly and not just for love, then as the wife, you win in the long run. You just have to be aware of men’s nature before marriage so you know how to select the best man for you and are prepared to handle the bad times that may come. They used to teach girls this stuff back in the day. The girls who usually “marry well” were taught this stuff at a young age. Beautiful women get married everyday! But they are beautiful women who have more to offer than a pretty face.
@@f3042 I had to stop reading after you stated "the TRUTH of the matter is that actual plain Jane women are chosen for marriage"......That's not the truth of the matter, all different archetypes of women are chosen for marriage. Plain and ones who invest in the up keep of their looks. They're in my family, and all over the world. Men marry who they like and feel will be a good fit and others marry who is around after they have sewn their oats and are ready to settle down. Just because a woman is plain does not mean she is a loving, nurturing woman who is capable of being a good wife and just because a woman is beautifu, paints her nails and wears lipstick out to dinner does not mean she is self absorbed with no substance and not a quality woman. It's common sense to most women who have a level head, that looks are not a personality/character substitute. This is a young woman in the video who may not be there yet just like many young men are immature, shallow and not there yet. She does not represent most grown, mature women who upkeep themselves.
@@SparklingOnyx I’m not saying these tropes/archetypes are set in stone, but I think it’s important to understand how men generally view women. And I’m not talking about beautiful women who are healthy and normal, I’m talking about the type of woman in this video who literally thinks makeup and wigs is what makes a woman beautiful or appealing. I have nothing against upkeep because I’ve been on top of my beauty routine since I was a teen. The point was, there are many men who will tell you they married a woman who wasn’t as focused on aesthetics. Doesn’t mean they are “plain” or unattractive; it just means they don’t feel the need to follow every single beauty trend to feel beautiful.
Sir, as a woman,I agree with you a million percent. Too much fake "pretty girls" out there with no character and no plan for the future. Plain Jane is the way to go 😂
People think they have options they don’t have. That’s men and women. You could have a million people in your DMs but if you wouldn’t date any of them and they are not compatible with you then none of them are actual options. I think we would all be better off if we humble ourselves and realize that .
I can answer this. 🙌🏽 1. Most women now days (like the one in the video) all look the same & have the same aesthetic. Same fake looking lashes. Same makeup. Same fake hair. A lot of men like natural beauty. 2. A lot of women now days talk like men and carry themselves like men. Men like softness. 3. MOST women in today’s generation only care about money & “getting the bag” and will leave that same man the minute he’s going through something real or isn’t making enough.
very true. number 2 is the biggest one i swear. and it can tie in with number 3, always talking ab “chasing the bag” sounds super masculine and honestly gross coming out of a woman’s mouth especially. it’s just a turn off. truth be told whether you’re into makeup, nails, etc or go completely natural most men don’t really mind too much either way. it’s almost entirely about the way you carry yourself and your energy that will determine whether or not someone sees you as a wife. ❤ and that being said i’m not advocating for people completely changing themselves or living in authentically but it’s certainly something to consider if you want to be a wife so bad but nobody sees you fit for the role. growth and self reflection are so important!
I bet she’s GORGEOUS with out the fake hair, eyelashes, makeup & nails. She didn’t mean this in a bad way regardless how it came off. Her intentions were pure. I respect her bravery & wanting answers. God will answer. Nothing but love Sis.
