Because people are waking up to narc abuse. I’m a narc abuse survivor myself and am still healing from a severe anxiety disorder all thanks to an emotionally abusive and jealous mother
@@BrysonRyenn Yes people in general. Edit: he's using the term simp to describe what type of person people think he is. In this case women. Simp is mostly used by men(mostly not all) and women. He most likely been called one or something similar. Saying black women don't use the term is wrong. It may not be widely used but it's still used by black women.
I can't believe sis came for black women wearing glasses with our nice clothes. Like bitch... im blind? and a lot of people dont like inserting contacts into their eyes. I- lol
I agreed the most with how black women treat each other. Sometimes other black women have taken one look at me and turned the other way or blatantly judged me even though we shouldn't have any problems. I try to say hi or introduce myself, sometimes it's received positively, other times not so much. We're both black women, why the bad energy?
Fr, and those people be the living examples of the people they claim to be trying to hold accountable, like derrick jaxn for example, prostrating for social media likes and online attention while not believing or living none of the shit they advocate online for.
What they all said we're true but like you said not everyone went through this. I am born in the Caribbean but moved to Canada. Raised by my father, had a fun childhood and my father made sure I had all that I needed got the love of a man that many women never got from their father's. I consider myself blessed because he made sure I knew my worth. Made my own mistakes but even now as an adult he never ridiculed me for any of my mistakes and just reminded me how great I am. We need more men/black men like this. Oh yes I know my mother and have a great relationship with her but she got sent back to my country when I was 15.
Her complaint was really someone wearing glasses while dressed up? Smfh she wanna say something so bad while having nothing to say. Rushing into discussions she wasnt ready for. 🤦♀️🤦♀️
Another one is, specifically to black mommas, they need to stop being jealous or toxic towards their own fucking daughter SPECIFICALLY the daughter because it happens way too damn much
This happens quite often within Asian mothers as well tbh. Narc parenting is a universal issue but it’s hella prevalent within the black (single mother) household for sure
As a BLACK WOMEN myself, these ladies were SPITTIN FAX!!! damn… I’m glad that we can be honest with ourselves and admit that black women need to hold ourselves accountable as well, unlike the black men who are all under the other “black men aren’t ready to have this conversation” video. Black women let’s continue to educate, heal and grow!
@@udb1987 shit Ik I whole host of things bm think bw aren’t ready for, i don’t think y’all in the clear just yet. A lot of brainwashing needs to be cleansed on both sides imo.
The man in the glasses can't be a simp or a feminist solely because he went on to spiel that men are supposed leaders, providers, etc. Like, if that dynamic is what some women want, fine. But none of those traits have anything to do with feminism or being respectful to women. Not committing domestic violence (emotional, physical, or monetary) against a partner shouldn't be seen as some higher achievement, it's the bare minimum for a healthy relationship no matter your gender.
I think the only thing that resonates with me in this video is how us black woman treat other black woman. I think that’s the only thing (at least talked about in the vid) that I’ve seen in black woman from all financial and social standards
@@dewdew4047 yeah but at a certain point we gotta realize the condescending history behind men referring to women, especially black women as females as a replacement for bitches. If women say they find it disrespectful to be referred to as females I don’t see why it’s so hard to just stop doing it.
@@dewdew4047 Yeaaaaaah....but that's not my point. My point is it's a vague noun. Female could be any species. And it's vaguely dehumanizing to say female instead of "woman" imo.
@@TheDjmoney99 You're right, but dew dew made no sense from the jump. My point was never that "female is an adjective, so you cannot use it as a noun." My point was female means any species. And a lot of its use--especially before it was adopted in place of "bitches"--was used to describe animals.
3:44 She is speaking facts!so I try to change it !when I see other black women Around like at the store or At the gym I smile say hello or whatever just to let them know there’s no threat. I don’t feel the way you think I feel. sometimes you can tell even through a mask that someone is giving bad energy!! Once they see me smile it changes there attitude. I wish it wasn’t like that you don’t always have to be offensive not everyone is Looking at you in a negative way! We need to stop all the stank looks!! And start embracing each other. who’s gonna lift us up if we don’t!!!!!🥰🥰💜💜💜💜💜
When she talked about from gay men, she’s talking about the manosphere that pretends to tell black women what they need for high value men. There’s a rumor that Kevin Samuels is gay.
I don’t think any group that can only find benefits to the behavior of another group would ever have any complaints about it, what negatives do women have with simp behavior to even address it? What negatives do men have with “pick me” behavior to even address it? Women can always spot a pick me, but never a simp, men can always spot a simp, but never a pick me, I wonder why that is? it’s very interesting in my opinion.
Very true, I think it all comes down to biases from both sides, to the point where men try to not acknowledge a "pick me" because they vocalize their talking points while being women, which let's you resonate with what they're saying because it's coming from the opposite side. This is vice versa with women and simps.
As a woman, it might be harder to discover simp behavior because it's less visibly negative against men. Pick me women are overtly derogatory against other women, very easy to spot the misogyny. I personally can't even equate the terms because sometimes men are called simps just for agreeing that violence against women, specifically black women, needs to stop.
Alot of the things that we do as a community can be linked to slavery. People will say that slavery is over (years fact that it actually isn't is a topic for another time) but the mindset that comes along with that is NOT. That's why it IS important to heal because all of these are generational and its difficult to break when you don't ACKNOWLEDGE where it comes from. Some people are able to acknowledge and accept that and do better but not enough of us ARE. Before we were colonized we took care if each other as a community. Everyone played their part and we weren't divided the way we have been since colonization took over. Women have been the nurturers and in order to work have depended on their kids to help with the younger kids. My siblings took care of me while my mom was at work. I took care of my sister and one of my brother's kids since age 10. It didn't stop me from being a kid though because I'd take them places with me. When it was time for me to go hang out with my friends I did that. But alot of kids have missed out because their mothers had them taking care of their younger siblings. It still happens and it's not fair to those kids.
@@yams.4308 none, it’s all black men’s fault, all emotional, situational, and spiritual problems found in the lives of black women, are not through any fault of their own, but through the fault of black men, apparently.
I'm curious where are videos about the conversation white men and women are not ready to have? I wonder why you don't see them? Keep up the excellent work, Dee love your content
What is annoying to me is that men in general tends to think that they are not included in feminism. Feminism is literally equality and equity for THE SEXES. It is there for you too boo🤦🏿♂️ it is perfectly fine to be a feminist.
I would just like to add that you can also believe in and be for equity between the sexes without identifying as a feminist. Some people just don’t like that label or the behavior of a lot of the people who identify as feminists and therefore don’t want to be associated with it.
incorrect. Feminism is the advocacy of women's rights, not EVERYONE's rights. egalitarianism is the advocacy for EVERYONE's equality...also, yltnaillirB is right...even if someone does advocate for women's rights, they will not likely want to be identified as a feminist due to the stigma that comes with it.
@@vulpixel_labs I'm talking about the sexes here, not outside of it. Egalitarianism is broad and it is not the same as feminism. Therefore, I meant what I said. And when it comes to stigma, it is on you to differ yourself from that side of the spectrum. There is a negative side to everything. If the wrong side of it turns you off, don't assume, use your brain and hold respect. Keep it pushing.
@@yltnaillirb4438 you cant really use rad-fems to get an understanding of actual feminism though. When people come with your exact opinion it gives me the idea that they don't really know what feminism means.
I attended a community college right out of highschool so I didn't get that sorority experience. HOWEVER I'm definitely like you Dee. I'm not trying to fit in with anybody. I'm me. I'm going to do wtf I want and represent what I WANT to represent and I'm not about to kiss ANYBODY'S ass for shit. I've been fired from many a job for that very reason (and also because timeliness has been an issue for me in the past). I'm not good with authority and I'm always asking questions. So no. That wouldn't have been a thing for me.
A lot of these are about how black women treat other black women, which should definitely be talked about, but they don’t talk enough about how black women treat black men. Like in the “ conversations black men aren’t ready to have” video
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Someone has to say it….. Sandra wearing her glasses probably ate her up at her own party because why does that bother you so much to make a video about it?!🤨😂
Not terrible parents 😬🤦🏾♀️ and I hate that simp 💩 real men aren’t simps another lit reaction video Shanelle get it u go girl happy 2022 🤎 the channel these convos b good arguments well some
4:05 this is true. I see other bw and sometimes they give stank looks. But I get that it's a women thing & a young adult thing at times so I just try to smile first, wave first, be kind first. There is def an assuming its smoke & a sizing you up energy like observing your hair, clothes etc to see what "type" of bw you are. I would love to see less judgement & more embracing. You can rock wigs & your friend can have locs like it's really okay.
@@cookiedho I'm surprised that you have to ask. Both sides (males AND females) contribute to the mistreatment of each other, they both are a product of society. Faults; the mistreatment, the ignorance, and immaturity. I shouldn't have to spell it out to anyone educated.
Imma piss a lot of people off but I feel like it needs to be said, I didn’t hear anything about women needing start taking accountability, or I maybe reaching when I say this
First clip is just wrong, black women do know how to parent but i think they meant single black mothers, but just because you are a black woman doesnt mean you are going to be a terrible mother, most black women in a 2 parent household i would say have more quality than toxic traits to "pass down" to their children
That really got me. Because she started out correct. Yes we don't always support each other the way we should. But then she goes onto say "lightskin women don't have privilege" like ok. You made this video because someone said you had privilege. And that's not the same as bullying
@Oluwatimah Wise yup! She sounds like a white women speaking on race issues. “We’Re AlL wOmeN” women go through different things and race AND culture plays a huge part and it’s ok to acknowledge that!
@@oluwatimahwise6859 i was actually bullied for that reason but that’s just my experience 🤷🏽♀️. Just because you don’t believe it, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen
@@jdani9625 you don’t go through what DARK SKIN people go through. You being bullied for being light skin is not the same as being universally psychologically messed up for being dark skin or brown skin. Them saying “she think she cute” is not the same as someone calling you a monkey and other derogatory words because you’re of a darker skin color. Not trying to deny you’re experience whatsoever, but no it’s not the same. That’s like a white girl saying she was bullied for a being white 🥴
Some these I was like um ehhhh... A lot of these have truth to them but some of these i.e 8:06. I disagree with as a young black man. I get her message about how black women treat each other. However, let's not pretend that colorism doesn't exist and "all black women" have "similar if not the same struggles". General struggles yes, perhaps, but struggles based on phenotype, no...let's be real about that. Growing up I saw how in predominantly black spaces how darker skinned unambiguous black women are treated vs light skinned or mixed girls were treated. It's not the same, by any chance. I won't even go into the details of why it's not (I know this lady knows that). Let's also not pretend that Biracial, multiracial, or ambiguous women (and men) don't try to cling to blackness because they know they are generally not accepted anywhere else. Plus the historical concept of the one drop rule... These days, blackness is not forced on anyone like that. For those that are like, well they (they=white and other non black people) see us (light skinned, biracial,or mixed people) as black. No they really don't. Thus why you get the questions "What are you...what are you mixed with...?" It's because they don't see you as black until you say it or in sone cases act like it. It's your choice to identify with what you actually are. Heck, even black people don't see mixed people as truely black in my opinion. Hence the whole exotification of mixed women and children. Notice I didn't say men because I bet this lady also knows that if she had a brother that looks like her (and is light skinned or mixed), his blackness has likely been challenged by his peers. Or if a mixed woman goes with a non black or white man, shes no longer part of the group. Mixed people are pulled in and pushed out of the "community" I know that much because I have seen it. It's sad and shouldn't be a thing. I advocate for mixed people to have their own space and still be a part of the black community because they are half black. It seems like this lady (if she doesn't have 2 black parents) is trying to project her ideal that all black women are the same (including herself) and that her struggles along with others that look like her matter too. Not a message that is genuine nor clear-cut. I strongly disapprove. It's a multifaceted convo.
Actually shocked I thought there were going to be a lot of pick men's telling women they have let their men lead if they want their relationships to succeed.
One of the reasons a black man will go to a woman outside of his race. Would be because all that black man ever was seen, viewed, or pictured as just a friend. Someone not “black enough” someone that isn’t “thug enough”. Or basically not good enough to be with them. So is it so wrong that that black man finds someone no matter the race uplifts him, has his back, treats him as an equal, treats him with respect, sees him as a good provider, and worthy to be the father of their child and to be a good role model to their possible children, to stand side by side with and most of all worthy of that woman’s love and eventual hand. Love and respect has not race
Lol stop it. Some black guys probable bashed you too but your energy is for the women. Men call each other out more than women do. Truth is, women experience rejection as well. Its apart of life!! When I was young I was always into the "smart" guys. One boy in particular wanted the "cool" girl. Guess who she was dating? The "bad" boy. Pay attention to the girl no one is paying attention to. You probably didn't only because she didn't fit your idea of what you wanted. Sounds familiar? So.. Quit the bullshit and don't blame a group of women for the reason you're unable to connect with them. Also, love isn't love when it's for the wrong reasons. Not every interracial relationship is based off love. Sometime it's a based off rejection and insecurity. ❤✌🏾
Towards me. Every other race I get everything that I’m looking for in mate. And that they were looking for as well. Just not my own race. How is it bullshit when it has been my life
@@lemonpepper853 well if the topic is about black women aren’t ready to have this conversation. I was inclined to add my life experiences involving black women. Outside of my family
besides that one guy, there's no one talking about how black women treat black men. That's a conversation I know they are not ready to have. They avoid it like the plague and try to switch it around.
Shorty was Right.. Gay Men & Straight Women hold ABSOLUTELY NO SIMILAR VALUES when dating or even Married so Black Women especially shouldn't be listening to people who made a culture out of Imitating Black Women.
This is simply not true, gay men are still men and can give thoughtful insight on what men like and how to treat them. You and shorty are wrong and need to let go of whatever negative bias you have against gay men chile🙄🖕🏽.
@@shirleyliles4949 I was waiting for someone like you... lol this isn't negative bias, it's facts.. I was Bi-Curious. I've dealt with both women and men and ultimately I chose women because of the value structure women hold as a whole over Gay men... so no it wasn't anything of bias but from experience and observation.
@@longmarvin20 value structure is an individual thing though, and isn't tied to your sexual preference. I'm gay but I don't involve myself at all with the gay community. I have gay friends with similar values though. I have a monogamous "normal" relationship... For lack of a better word lol. So again, there are all types in any community.
@@firstlast84 I just said I didn't find those values to be nearly on par with each other. Hey I agreed with it... Sue me. You may not be like ppl I've met. Idk you, when I generalized I meant the overly flamboyant overly sexual ones that tend to get famous or popularized
@@BravuraLeeVim yes, in This video black women are mostly agreeing and while in the other video the black men are bringing up black women in anger and blaming black women ( which is just 🤦🏽♀️) .
Kevin Samuels is a bitter divorce that gets off on putting down black women. No one should ever listen to that dude with a serious ear, just listen to laugh.
@@S6Ryujin but if you’re actually listening then you’d know hes right about a lot of things….. he doesn’t put down just black women neither but they’re the ones calling into his show 🤷🏽♀️ he keep the same energy with men too it’s just that the women get the most clicks
I'd rather croak than intentionally seek dating advice from Kevin Samuels. My self-esteem and mental cognizance would've been in the pits of Tartarus and unable to be rescued, if I ever did such an incoherent thing.
