They're honestly such an amazing couple and I hope they stay loyal to one another forever. Having fun and being comfortable around each other is the most important thing.
Dina and Sid should definitely do a "Marriage: Expectations vs Reality" video. I think it would be soo funny and fairly helpful for everyone wanting to get married soon. ☺
I love how honest Dina is about her jealousy, it's very refreshing in this day and age when everyone is banging on about being the "cool girl" (Gone Girl reference lol) - basically jealousy is a natural trait of EVERY HUMAN BEING, just don't let it eat you away. There'll always been someone better than you and worse than you, just deal with it and accept the imperfect world the way it is. Don't worry, everyone is going to die soon anyway so may as well get over the petty thoughts and opinions and look forward to what's to come - JANNAH! In Shaa Allah. Even Aisha RA used to get jealous over our Prophet, and he was so the most loyal and pure minded man ever to live, so come on women, cut ourselves some slack!!! No point crying over a raw cake when you're gonna have a feast later!
I LOVE THE EXAMPLE OF AISHA RA AND THE PROPHET!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! its soooo true how if a wife of the PUREST man who has ever lived can be jealous, than of course we can be too??!!
Also might I add - EVERYONE LOOKS! You husband is going to check out other women whether you like it or not in the same way that women will check out other men even if their husband likes it or not. Honestly there is nothing wrong with looking. Looking doesn't mean you are going to act on it. Everyone looks but how often do you get the person you are looking at? Lol never. So stop giving each other a hard time over looking at others, in today's day and age it really is no big deal...
+Nazreen Mo Well, I think what Dina was talking about was how all the non-muslims have everything hanging out. It's almost impossible to not look on accident. Men and women are discouraged from checking each other out, as stated in the Quran. I agree with what you are saying, though! It's useless to worry about something EVERYBODY does. :)
hey rumena! inshallah you are blessed with a loving husband also who appreciates you for who you are as a person and your big heart mashallah... yeah totally agree with you. inshallah the sisters marriage is blessed and they can both plant the seeds rather to grow together and increase on their respect and love for one another each day and water it and watch it grow... that's a good analogy. work on that sister and trust in God... Allah looks upon the husband and wife who look at each other lovingly with mercy... go with the flow and always place your trust in Allah inshallah xxx
Soo true, i sometimes think im the only crazy women with these crazy thoughts and then Dina goes and talks about this craziness and makes me feel absolutley normal lol thanks Dina! 😆
Dina dont be so hard on yourself! You are prwtty with or without make up and your body is great the way it is! Sid married you for so many other reasons than your appearance but I am sure he thought you were beautiful from the beginning ❤️ and will be forever!
what i love about my husband and me is that after our marriage, we went home, watched the news, took a shower, ate donuts and shit, talked about what is going to happen and if we have any expectations of each other. then i went to dress up in the lingerie i bought, but i was so shy to get out so i called him in the bathroom and told him to sit on the bathtub while i smoke a cigarette to calm myself down. even after finishing i just couldn't get up and go to the bedroom so he carried me there. i didn't want to put off my robe, so he said, "we don't have to do it tonight. you can give yourself all the time that you need. i'll wait, it's not gonna be the end of the world if it takes another 2 months". afterwards we did try it, but it hurt so badly i just burst into tears, even though i hardly ever cry, like i'm the epitome of a badass bitch. he consoled me, pat me on the back, cuddled with me and even after 2 months of marriage it still hurts like damn fucking hell, but we always communicate about stuff like that and i find that it helps more than anything else in this entire world. he saw me fully naked for the first time after a month or so and he appreciates every inch of my body. alhamdulillah, i hope it stays like this for a long, long time and i hope you find someone who'll be as understanding as my husband.
I don't understand the paranoia and jealousy. Obviously it's real. Many women feel it. But... HE picked YOU!! You are his. He is yours. There are literally hundreds of thousands of beautiful women all over the world, and you are just one of them. But what sets you apart is YOU, the you that is inside. The heart and thoughts and mind behind everything physical. So appreciate your strong points and when you see a girl with different strong points, good for her. But you are the ONE. Every one has a body... Not every one is you. Know that you are special and being an individual is beautiful. Don't let jealousy steal that from you.
you know in the times when even Beyoncé can be cheated on, one can't be so sure right? 😀😀😀 Seriously, thanks for your comment 👍👍👍. There is still a lot of personal work to do to overcome the insecurities!
"he picked you" ? No, in most cases his PARENTS picked her (arranged marriage). There's nothing worse than not only having a low self esteem on body image but also not being in "love" or completely comfortable with the partner!
The Muslim community and parents need this wake up call to actually speak to their kids about 'the birds and the bees'. Every topic can be discussed in a polite way without it being inappropriate.. which alotta Muslims still think of it in that way unfortunately. Everyone has insecurities Sid, everyone! haha
+Bianco Isle Delfino that "shit" is taught differently in ever country, some Arab countries don't even discuss it nor do they let students ask questions because it's "inappropriate" according to them (my case). If parents were to raise the kid thinking that sex is such a bad thing to talk about and the school proves it, how the hell can one be educated properly???!! (same case goes to strict Catholic parents etc.. and yes, I happen to knw a few). As "awkward" as u may find it (me too now that I'm grown up), the parents can make it ok by choosing their words and the way they explain everything.
Yup; there are so many ways to go wrong with non-communication. My community is West African and Christian, and the extent of communication is "God hates premarital sex/you're a temple" "don't reduce your bride price [more figurative than literal nowadays]" "don't follow boyfriend" and then demonizing Western culture. Now you've got kids who have not been given any _actual_ logic or context who end up being almost insanely rigid (fighting the gut attraction to sex turns into looking down on sex and their own bodies), or else getting into damaging or unsatisfactory relationships. Even the older generation looks suspect to me, now that I'm an adult - I see a lot of dysfunction in older relationships, where I can tell the difference between aunties and uncles who grew a healthy relationship on all levels and the ones who are living in silence.
totally agree since if its not from thrir parents they will probably find out from the internet or friends...kids are curious and we need to just accept that and educate them properly.
Another advice: you'll never be ready. Never be ready for your husband, never be ready to do exams, never ready to give birth etc. Just DO IT like you did exams even tho you thought you didnt study. Just look in the mirror and look at yourself and you're gonna love it. Dont look to others instead, because that's not gonna grow your selflove. + you'll survive it I guess.
You're sweet, I know what you mean like just push yourself because if so many people around you can do it then why can't you? And you'll maybe always feel insecure or worried about something until you overcome it and realize it wasn't so bad or that you can handle it or actually enjoyed and benefited from it.
+Girly Hijabi Yes! We won't be ready for anything. And I think men can understand too, but we as women just have to open up about it. I think it's humanly and after all we're going to think "ohmygod why was I that worried about this?" because we're getting new worries and problems anyways and that's life.
I think Dina needs some form of recognition for outstanding contribution to society, a topic discussed so openly yet it eats people up from the inside.
I hated that people who saw me with make up see me without it and say "you look tiered or sick" that's really rude, now I almost never put on makeup and when I do they are amazed lol
You know, when I watch these advice videos and they have gone on long enough I start to think and hope that there is still more of the video left and they are not going to end it soon. Like, whilst watching this, I just hovered the mouse over the video and thought, "Oh, that's great, I've only watched over half of the video yet," because some of these videos end up being so hilarious sometimes and I just don't want them to end LOL
A woman's confidence should ultimately come from within. All people have a beauty that is their own. A few things you can do: positive affirmations in the mirror while you are completely naked. Whatever you don't like about yourself, focus more on that part. For example a bubble butt, if you want it, get your squat game up! Ugly feet? Get pedicures and look at them and massage them nightly before bed. So on and so on. Loving yourself will help with confidence and sex. Newlyweds who feels awkard with each other can start with daily skin to skin contact. Sit close to each other. Touch each other like with massages and kissing. Men love head rubs. Also try to always be missing 1 article of clothing. Start with wear short shorts instead of pants and then move to no pants. Men can were a muscle shirt and then move to no shirt. Make yourself just slightly uncomfortable. Not too much ... you know... a manageable amount. Of course these things are to be done at home. Some people need that to be said. Just my 2 cents of info. Loved the video Sid and Dina!!!
I'm flatter than a textbook lol like, straight up-zero curves. And its not like working out will give me curves either. Honestly, its so hard for women today to not feel insecure and want to resort to extreme measures (surgery, injections, etc.) just to feel confident about the way they look. Especially make-up struggles. I see EVERY GIRL at uni wearing it and it just straight up makes me feel like no guy will ever think I'm pretty since I don't wear it before going out. *sign* the struggles are just so real.
Do not stress over make up I just started wearing it a bit I'm 34 and still look like I'm in my 20s as far as your body I'm assuming you're young unless it's just your genetically predisposed a lot of people I know didn't get curvy until after children or they're with a man that makes your body want to have kids sorry if that's tmi
+ranaisadoll ah thanks, :) I kinda thought so but wasn't sure.. nice to meet a fellow Persian who's also big fan of sid and dina :) I've been following them for at least 2 years 😊😍 love them
The two of you should be named National Treasures! Invaluable advice, straight from the heart, not couched in flowery language, understandable, relevant and honest! Well done!
It makes me so happy that you guys do these videos! I'm not Muslim, but I feel that your advice is so relatable to so many different people. So many prejudices and taboos would be broken down if people were just willing to talk, listen and learn more! So massive kudos to you guys for tackling these tricky subjects and for being so open, honest and real! Much love from Scotland ❤
I have a big ol bubble butt, but I am insecure about it being too big. I am Christian. I have huge boobs too, but that does not mean it s a huge attraction to others, or myself. I also dress modestly....
Yeah ofcourse! I might be brought up agnostic, but alot of my views of life and lifestyle is that of Islam from nature, so thats why im so drawn to it aswell - plus i learn alot watching her and their channel.
Dina said you can never win... WHO CAN EVER WIN?.. the most beautiful person in your eyes will never be the most beautiful person in EVERYBODY's eyes... so chasing the idea of being perfectly beautiful is impossible.. and marrying someone who is materialistic or shallow will only put a pressure on you.. never rely on your beauty to find a husband coz thats not what marriage is about and soon or later it will fail!
On my first night am going to play Minecraft with my wife and build my communication skills :) bonding is the key and #stayloyal&recspecteachother #bless
If you've got to know someone in a halal way, no bf/gf thing then you haven't even hugged your partner nor have you kissed them & if you're a hijabi then they haven't seen your hair lol so all of a sudden on the wedding night you want to go all out....its a bit overwhelming don't you think? First get to know someone and be comfortable around them
I know right, a little peck on the cheek will make his night there's honestly no rush, obviously if you do get jiggy its completely okay because you're married but if you decide to wait, even a couple of days/weeks or months there's nothing to stress yourself about.
I think it depends on the family really. During the getting to know each other period, including the engagement, some people prefer to go out with a chaperone, like a sibling for example. However, a lot of the time they can go to get coffee or something alone, as long as they are in a public setting.
I also saw a comment that someone was surprised that a Christian watches your videos I'm Christian and I love watching you guys, you don't have to be Muslim to relate to everything you guys talk about! ❤️🙏🏾
And it is also very important after marriage to build up intimacy. Take your time. Cuddle each other. You won´t be having every night sex in your marriage. Then why should you start very intimate with sex? A couple should enjoy their private time in bed. Get used to each other. Who cares how long it takes. Only two people should matter in a marriage, that is the married couple. Nobody else.
omgg This topic though ! biggest fear of my life. the one and only legitimate reason I neverrrr everrr wanna get married is because of the awkwardness of what you have to do physically as a couple after marriage. like your whole life you're taught its wrong. and then suddenly just because you're married you're expected to do weird mushy crap. can't deal or cope 😂 like how EXACTLY are you meant to know what the heck to do Or how to even do it 😶 part 2 please
I think it's just like Dina and Sid have said: it is all about patience. When you first meet a person it takes time to get to know them. It might be awkward at first, you have small talk before you move onto deeper questions about values, politics, family etc. and before you know it you are comfortable with one another, you laugh together, you have inside jokes and shared memories. A physical relationship should be the same, it's a journey, not a button you press once you're married. Don't be afraid to voice your opinion, talk about your fears and ask to take it at a pace you are both comfortable with! I bet he will feel the same way about a lot of things! hope that helps :)
Let me just fill you in a little. All of this; is a product of low self-esteem. You think you're ugly,so if a guy thinks that you're cute you're like "Oh really?" You think that I am beautiful"? "Hohohoho, I'm the happiest woman on earth" And you're happier than the happy emoticon because he said that he thinks that you're cute. But what if he says the contrary? You'll sort of have a little depression and sadness. And you think nobody is gonna like you, nobody is gonna marry you and all that stuff. That's all a part of low sef-esteem. And there's Shaytaan who starts playing with your mind, you start playing depressing songs and you feel like the lyrics were adressed to you. And all of sudden, the blue sky becomes gray. I know that some girls have depression because of that, because I personally do have a friend who's like that. If you are embarrassed with your flaws, somebody Allah has created also is gonna like them for you. So dont be unconsciously ungrateful towards our Lord.
I feel like watching and hearing Sid and Dina's insight on life whether that be through their vlogs or Q and A's really shows how true Islam is suppose to be followed. Islam is not suppose to be taboo this and taboo that, but rather a constructive quest for genuine knowledge and righteousness. Their channel really gives me hope for the future of the Muslim Ummah.
As a woman married for three years.... I FREAKING FEEL THIS DINA. I FEEL THIS ALL THE WAY DOWN TO DA FLOOOOOOOR FAM. Also, about the first night - how the heck can two people have sex if they don't even know each other properly and haven't even kissed!? I lost my virginity three weeks after the first night. I tell you that first kiss was sloppy as fuuuuuudge. And there was no way I was comfortable enough to even sit next to my husband (even tho I hella wanted to marry the hot guy) let alone have sex on the first night. It was a gradual process. I even told my mum, i was like, yo mum, I aint having sex on the first night i bloody hope he knows that. So she told his mum and his mum told him. Obviously not straight up like THAT but he didnt book a hotel like he wanted to. We just went on a halal married peoples date. Get to know each other better, start liking each others company. Seriously dw about the first night, just be very clear to the person you're marrying about your feelings.
Lady Pinkymoe But why u told ur mom Lol u could have told him straight up after Nikkah That I'm not gona have sex until some time pass by lol.U should tell ur husbnad straight.Just saying hope u don't mind lol
The first time doesn't matter in the long run. A couple in a committed relationship has their entire life ahead of them to get better at sex. Ultimately, it's about communication and consent.
Raw sex talk on youtube!😅😁😁 Only dina and sid to break it down for us directly just like that!! i appreciate this video! keep being you guys, you're videos just bring such a real prespective in topics that are someone what put in unrealistic terms for most of us!
To be fair, if your husband (husbands in general) could hear your thoughts when you see a hot guy or are attracted to another man, he would feel the same way you feel, even though you'd never actually act on your attraction, just knowing you have thoughts about other men would drive him nutts too just like his thoughts would drive you nutts. But you're right, you can't control your thoughts or feelings, you can only control your own actions.
Waow! I've never thought in this way that we dont have to push ourselves in the first night, yes, you guys are so right, everything dont have to be done in the first night because its a process,,, thanks a lot for lightening me, this video really changed my point of view :)
I loved this cos everything was too damn real. Dina was real, Sid was real and the topic is something I needed at this moment in time. Also the humour in this video LOOOL
Dina babe, let Sid finish his sentences girl, lol, you have a lot of great things to say but sometimes we really need a guys outlook on things because our men don't talk to us about this stuff. Love you!!!
+HijabisLoveBeautyToo hahah, I haven't seen a single video since 15th of Ramadan and they usually posted video every night but suddenly stopped ~ either way it was a joke 😜😂👌🏻
This video helps soooo much because we have so many questions and there is no one to go in depth and show us the reality of the first night. Thank you guys ❤️
Do not loose your honesty guys, because it's what makes you guys great! you are making the world a better place with your honesty! love from Philly, pa.
For me, personally, looking isn't the problem, not knowning your boundaries is the real problem. Once you have crossed that line, well trust has been broken and it's hard to get back.
This is by far the best video I've ever seen on your channel. I love how you guys think and deal with what our society sees as "controversial" subjects. And Dina I legit never thought I'd ever find anyone who thinks in the way that I do. I flippin love you man, you're hilarious and I love that you actually talk about the struggle with the hijab and everything! Lots of love, you guys are gonna be such amazing parents! 💜💙
I'm literally in fits hahaha..."It always looks nice with a bit of accessories...even if it's a pair of socks!" Lmfaooooooo sids laugh makes it even funnier!
Dinas rant at the beginning is soooo true! exactly how every woman thinks! it is hard to live as a woman! because we want to be all he ever wants and its so hard for him to only want us when the most seductive photoshops and plastix surgery or just naturally physically superior women are in his face!
That's what happens when you're married for a few years & have a kid. It's called marriage! Serious types of people are the ones with problems in their marriage.
+gorgeouss79 exactly!! I am married been with my hubz since I was I was 18 now 26. I am the same way, we both play too much and nobody gets bootyhurt. I am not into the serious face relationship BORING!! 😏
Dina is absolutely right. For the majority of women, the first time is not going to be pleasurable. To be honest, sex is like riding a bike (bad analogy, I know), you get better with practice. Also, communication is key.
Will the pain go away after practise? And will it feel good?? Because some of my friends who r married say its not that special and that they dont feel anything...
Maryam Free The pain does go away. If you allow yourself to relax and just focus on feelings and engage in sufficient foreplay, your body will lubricate itself and you can have pleasurable sex. Again, communication with your partner and having an open mind are key. Sex should be fun and enjoyable for all parties involved.
+Maryam Free Sex is very pleasurable for women also, the key is to love your spouse and want to have sex. My friend says that his wife is so much into sex that she always initiates it and craves for it, the thing is they loved eachother alot and married in very difficult circumstances and then after marriage they did sex alot like 3, 4 times a day so somehow she got habit of it and she cant stay away from it even if her husband say he is tired or not in mood but still she forces her to go for it. haha so its very pleasurable for women too.
+Maryam Free That's because their man is not pleasing them. Unfortunately, many men only focus on pleasing themselves. That's why it's important to find an open man who puts your pleasure first.
When sids tryna play it cool Sid: 'I'm not insecure' Dina: 'I'll make you feel insecure' Sid: 'AYYYY I got one insecurity' LOL Dead so beauts to see how well you both know each other, communication is key we can tell just by the way you guys are. #goals
Can I just say these videos and this advice is also helpful for young christians holding out till marriage and your approach is very comforting and insightful :) God bless xxx
