I realised a while ago that this specific version of "I can't make you love me" had been taken down from youtube so I'm putting it back up. Hope that RU-vid doesn't delete it... Enjoy!
My brother used to play this on my mums grand piano and it would fill the house. I always thought it was beautiful but I hadn’t appreciated it fully until the last few years. After he passed I learned a simplified version (that I don’t have to stretch for) and it’s taken me back to this video so many damn times. Miss you bro x
I was in love with my guy bestfriend when i was in highschool but i never told him because i didn’t wanna ruin our friendship ! I regret it because now it’s been 7 years since he passed away and i miss him so much ! He was such a pure human being ,the most beautiful soul i have ever met… today i’m 27 years old and still can’t get over him , over our friendship It kills me to say that i lost my soulmate and my bestfriend ! I will always keep our memories together in a special place in my heart… and i will always remember you, my dearest friend !
There are some really great versions out there - can we just agree that, without needing to decide which is best. Three weeks later ... I’m absolutely slayed by George Michael’s version. And now I’ve found one by Justin and Sean Carey which is pretty special.
My daughter passed in December-the most sensitive person you could imagine, her love, the deepest I’ve ever experienced - this was her favorite song. The world lost a living Angel - should’ve known….
Been in love with a guy for about 5 yrs… or crushing on him at the very least. Only saw him once a month cus we were going to the same charity meetings but looked forward to every single one. We seemed to have a connection - he was a lovely, kind human being. finally summoned up the courage to ask him out for a coffee (after surviving covid) and he said he doesn’t like hot drinks. Then I asked him out (OUT) and he said he “wasn’t expecting that and was hoping to just stay friends”… oof. I thought I had given a few hints like texting him ‘Happy Valentine’s Day’ followed by a Jim & Pam meme and Xxxxxs but I guess he doesn’t watch the Office. I love you, you beautiful human being. I’m the Jim in this equation and he’s my Pam, except in this version Pam is not interested and Jim got no real closure. I hope someone sees this and that it makes them laugh/cry ahah. Yours sincerely, future cat lady xoxo
That's a good story and you told it well. You have a fine sense of humor. Pam however seems to me incredibly awkward. I mean..."I don't like hot drinks?" That's like the lamest reply since..."No thank you Eve, but I don't feel like eating an apple just now, I've just brushed my teeth". Come ON, where would we all be if it had gone that way then? I hope these past five years, one wasted on Covid anyway, have taught you that life is SHORT. You should spend it loving and being loved. You have the guts for loving someone, you lucky woman with the fine sense of humor (dear me, that's already TWO gorgeous things about you: a fine sense of humor and the ability to love). Stop searching and have a wonderful man find you. He'll be lucky and I bet there'll be a lot of joy for the two of you. Don't mind the pain. The cat can wait til you're eighty-five.
I'm MJ and I'm an alcoholic. I've been listening to Bon Iver/Justin for years. He's got me through some tough times. This song resonates with me so hard because I've lost so many potential great relationships due to my drinking. But I'm glad they each saw their worth and left me for something better. I don't wish this pain to anyone. They deserved better, and I'm hoping they did. Sometimes, I wish I was worth loving in spite of my faults. But it's not easy loving someone like me. I just want you to know if you find this and i have loved you, please know that I still do...with all my broken heart.
I haven’t dated you but I have dated you. It is heartbreaking on this end too. Your alcoholism robbed both of us of a beautiful relationship. It’s not so easy to leave someone behind.
I see how this song could work both ways. In the end I want to say I found love darling love in the Nick of time. I love this singer. I have listened to this song so many times. If it were a CD it wouldn’t work anymore. I also love Skinny love.
He left me three weeks ago, im 5 months pregnant. The grief during this time is undescribable. Ive listened to bon iver for 10 years and somehow never heard this song yet.. what a beautiful time to hear this song for the first time
Check out Bon Iver's cover of Your Love, originally by The Outfield if you haven't heard it yet. Different vibe from this, but still great, especially if you can find the version that's been cleaned up a little.
Turn down the lights Turn down the bed Turn down these voices inside my head Lay down with me Tell me no lies Just hold me close, don't patronize Don't patronize me 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't You can't make your heart feel something it won't Here in the dark, in these final hours I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power But you won't, no you won't 'Cause I can't make you love me, if you don't I'll close my eyes, then I won't see The love you don't feel when you're holding me Morning will come and I'll do what's right Just give me till then to give up this fight And I will give up this fight 'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't You can't make your heart feel something it won't Here in the dark, in these final hours I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power But you won't, no you won't 'Cause I can't make you love me, if you don't
RU-vid suggested this literally the day after my wife told me in couples counseling that she’s done. I said I was putting my foot down and I wanted to fight…and she cut me off “No. I said I’m not feeling those feelings for you”. Nothing to do after someone says that. So I leaned into…I listened to this song all day and sobbed.
Me too. I'd regularly find it during late nights. It was a reliable, whether I needed to cry, or just needed to listen to something beautiful, or both. When it disappeared I searched for hours trying to find it.
Yes me too as its mine and my girlfriends song or my song to her just before we actually went into our relationship. I can remember playing it on RU-vid and my eyes just started welling up with tears then her just holding me and us both sobbing and her saying "why do you always play sad music like this" I express myself with music so I listen to songs of how I'm feeling.
Nothing can prepared you for a long conversation with someone, who doesn't really care, really doesn't know what empathy feels like or really loves you.
Four days ago my partner of 6 years told me that she doesn't love me anymore... I never expected anything like that and it shattered my world. never felt anything like that... I've known and loved this song for so many years but only now I can really understand the words and pain Bon Iver is describing. Eventually even the worst pain will slowly fade, but at the moment fully submerging into that pain is my way to go. It's better to feel pain than nothing at all.
And I am having to let someone go I love so much and was my first love and then met up again 3 years ago but it’s been a very rocky road and I have been so ill and had strokes now and have so much wrong with me and he can’t cope with it all and I know doesn’t love me enough so in need to let him go and that’s one of the hardest things I have had to do and I want him to go and be happy x
Confession: Ive listened to this on loop for three days straight at work. not ever joking. it helped me process some of the most difficult chapters in my life.
Used to listen to this when mum threw me out regularly in my teens. Bonded with a girl over it, was our song till she cheated on me when we did long distance. This version is a part of me but it will eternally be bitter sweet.
That one song, that no matter what.... Will always remind you of what could have been if only you'd have tried. But, I can't make you love me if you don't! Truest of words.
This song is truly a work of art.... Like it puts into words so perfectly what I often feel time and again when I have fallen in love. If you ever love someone who loves you back consider yourself blessed. Not everyone is as fortunate.
“Morning will come, and I’ll do what’s right; just give me til then to give up this fight - I will give up this fight.” One of the most beautiful songs ever written 😭😭😭
Thank you for putting it back up, have been discovering Bon IVer and all he has done solo and collaboratively, what a muscian sense of storytelling through his delivery of a song, his or others.
When my Gran died I found this song and listened to it over and over again as the voice, melody and raw emotion summed up what I was feeling. It’s indescribable the power that art has, and this is one of those pieces.
Your gram probably died with you in her heart, and where ever she is in the infinite cosmos she’s more than likely carrying a piece of you with her until you meet again
I haven't listened to this in ages. It's strange that I should stumble across it now - it's rather apt for this period of my life. Thank you for posting it💚
I did not know this version was ever taken down? Been a minute but this song unfiltered with his every breath to each note. That raw sounding emotion trumps any recorded filtered crap in a studio 10 out of 10 😍
This hits so hard. It's the song of the worst heartbreak I ever had back in 2012 (but it lastet soo long). I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power but you don't...no you don't" and "I close my eyes, then I don't see the love you don't feel when you're holding me" - it was like these words were just written for my situation (he who just wanted to be friends with benefits and I was so in love).
Thank You Victor this was my song when my mum passed, it’s 11 in the am I’m crying beyond belief, but in a good way I’ve been searching for at least 6 months, so thanks again what a gift my friend you will never know x
@@GingerbreadGirl1983 yeah I know it’s supposed to get easier with time and I think it has for me although I feel great sadness is balanced with great memories of joy in my life because she was a remarkable woman that still gives me strength x
Brings me to tears every time but I absolutely love this version ❤ gutted when Spotify removed it! Hits hard like my throats closing up every time, his emotion is obscenely transparent you can hear how hurt he sounds 💔
i know ive only just discovered Bon Iver after tracing back the origins of Skinny Love....and it took that song to awhole new level for me... as skinny love was a staple when my nephew was so ill and now i know this extraordinary singer songwriter and thats an unexpected blessing .Isnt he so heartfelt and brave about sharing it. i understand your tears louise thats what music is about in the end ... moving someone completely with your truth😌😌😌
After barely even hugging a female for the last 8 years.. This shit hits hard.. But it's more important to be happy in your own company, we don't truly need anyone else- just sometimes it would be nice 😊
It reminds me of my true first Love. Many nights in tears have passed by, new loves, an happy marriage and a beutiful kid. But still, this one sounds of him to me, and i think that not only this is beautiful, but also super healthy and healing.
Been alone for 10 years. Finally met a girl that made me feel again. Seemed things were going alright. Stuff happened and i had to move. She said she just wanted to be friends. I love and hate her for making me feel again. Such is life, i hope everyone finds someone eventually
I don’t even have a broken heart currently, this cover almost makes me wish I did. It still makes me cry like a baby. One of my favourite covers of all time. Magnificent.
Thank you so much for putting it back up. This is one of my fav songs in this specific version, and I could not listen to it had a few months. it was on my fav youtube videos playlist :) Made my year.
Awesome thank you, I also love it so much and just saw here that you have been uploading it again. How precious music is! Irresistible and irreplaceable!
I think given this song is so difficult to get a medium to listen to makes it even more unique and why I've no doubt in a decade's time folk will still be listening to this....
An interesting fact about this version is it that it's still on RU-vid but since that EU law came in last year, it is unavailable in a lot of country's. If you use a VPN you can still find the video in RU-vid given you set your location to the right country (I don't know what country's it works in unfortunately) I can't thank you enjoy for the reupload though since I personally don't have a VPN on my phone, where I listen to most of my music :)
So immensely glad I could download the video when it was still here. As historian, I'm still thinking that one day, the first decades of internet will be considered as period of a huge loss of written sourcess. Everything is online in the cloud until...
watching this video and thinking/questioning/contemplating out loud: Do I feel worthy of receiving a partner? Do I feel worthy of being seen, loved, respected, desired? Do I love, see, respect and desire myself? What is my belief system about men? About women? How are men in my world? How do I perceive them? How about women? What is my belief system about myself? How do I carry myself in this world? How do I perceive myself? What have my parents taught me about relationships? What stories have I adopted as my own, about relationships?
