Leah Faulkner wants a simple ball gown with pockets, however, her grandmother envisions her wearing a long-sleeved lace dress like her aunt did on her big day. Catch Say Yes to the Dress on TLC - Sky 133, Virgin 162, BT TV 323
The bride is constantly sounds like she's about to cry. I can't imagine living your whole life in someone else's shadow. As if you're not your own person.
Omg Georgian must’ve been the favorite, Leah was literally shoved into being her new Georgian. Atleast Monte opened her Nana’s eyes, cause man she needed it.
Yes I agree, but you have to know that the granny is still really hurt... I kinda get why she wants her to wear that dress. Losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to you, and that will hount you for the rest of your life. Having a grandaughter that look like her own daughter can be really confronting. :(
Jersey... my identical twin sister died 16 years ago...I will grieve for the rest of my life. Bless her heart. Her granddaughter looks exactly like her late aunt. ( But shouldn't have to live through her..) ( I know Granny knows this)
@@user-xc9di1ko4t It is. Clearly the grandmother is still struggling-- and honestly can't imagine the pain of losing a child, even if it was an adult child. She's unable to see her granddaughter because she's still so consumed by her daughter's death.
With out a doubt, the Grandma needs some help taking that final step on moving on or risk it escalating like they saw here. Must be difficult for any parent to outlive their kids.
The grandmother is using manipulation to cope with her daughter's death, I feel. What she's saying is rude and unfair to Leah, but I don't think it speaks to the grandmother's personality. I think she just needs grief counseling, because it seems she hasn't been able to let go of her daughter after she died. I honestly feel bad for her
@@janetannerevans2320 for her to stop forcing her granddaughter to play the role of her deceased daughter. She only accepted the dress because the bride was headstrong like the deceased daughter. That's just sick, she's not been given a chance to be her own person.
I feel bad that Leah had to grow up in the shadow of an aunt who passed before she was born, I don't agree with that. However, losing a child is not just something you really get over, some days may be easier than others, but I think that grief never fully leaves so I feel for the grandma in that respect
@@30teriann If the grandma's grief is so bad she's seeing her granddaughter as a replacement for the daughter she lost, she needs to either seek help to cope, or not come dress shopping.
And the family member who dies young is often remembered in idealized ways. My aunt was named for her mother's baby sister who died at age two, and the whole family still talks about this little girl (who died in 1929!) being so beautiful and adored by everyone. I'm sure she was in many ways, but these exaggerated beliefs are a reflection of grief that was never allowed to heal and that got passed down. Even worse, my poor grandmother blamed herself for getting her sister sick by "bringing home measles from school." BTW, I found the baby's death certificate and saw that she had measles but died of TB, something no one had told my grandmother! She was shocked. She'd tortured herself for 80 years. 😞 I hope that news brought her some peace.
Yup, my family has also used jewelry for several generations, a necklace and a set of earrings the bride borrows on her wedding day, if she wants too though.
The consultants did so well. When the man asked the grandma, «was your daughter strong willed as well?» he sparked the thought that: the aunt would have stood her ground and chosen her own gown, too. Which I think made it easier for the grandma to accept that Leah will make her own choices.
I feel like her family was just using her as a replacement for her aunt. I understand why she wanted a different dress. She’s not her aunt and her family needs to realize that.
None of the other granddaughters are going to have to go through this when they go wedding dress shopping either because they don't look like the deceased aunt. Their day is going to be thiers while half of poor Leah's appointment was about someone else
When I got my wedding dress. I picked it out In about 5 minutes. Tried it on, loved it, and bought it. I brought my 2 bridesmaid with me , and they picked out their dresses while I chose mine. Why bring everyone with you for their opinion. If you love the dress ,get it. Who cares what anyone else thinks. I knew it was my style, and I knew it looked really good on me. P.S Guess I did good, because it was a big hit. That was back in 1975. I still take it out now and then on our anniversary to remind me of all those years ago.. They sure flew by!
I think it was wonderful how the bride “handled” her grandmother. She wasn’t disrespectful, but she was firm and adamant about “HER” wedding dress wishes! (which is exactly s it should be) 👍
it's so crazy how something that pretty much has no function is so important to us! I guess on the wedding day, since you have no purse, pockets in the dress could be useful.
@@joyfuljaj well for carrying your lipstick for touch ups, nowadays your phone to take pictures, ... Sure you could have the groom carry some stuff but it's nice to have your own space
@@joyfuljaj Orrrrrr... And, I know this might be *totally* crazy, bear with me- but... Maybe not every girl LIKES lugging around super very stealable arm-and-shoulder irritants. Maybe some girls find those obnoxious lumps of 'I bend to the will of the fashion industry' completely unbearable. Maybe some girls can get by with just a phone, some cards, and maybe a bit o' lipstick during the day. Oh well, that's just crazy talk. After all, pockets are just *soooooo* useless. (Ahem, in case you haven't noticed, pockets are pretty damn important to me.)
@@yannickh.1300 Grandma will definitely not go for counseling, unfortunately. But it's really sad that this family is trying to keep her in her late aunt's box. She's lived in it all her life already. They need to let her live her own life.
@Chrysaura the girl has been confused and compared with her aunt her entire life, how is that "normal grieving"?? She's even expected to wear the same wedding dress ffs.
@Chrysaura it is because her aunt died before she was born. And has lived in her aunt's shadows. Her past , present and even her future is supposed to mimic her departed aunt. That's not natural . Yes it's perfectly normal to grieve. What's not normal is morphing a person to replace the person you loved. If you cannot see how sad and overwhelmed the grand-daugter is, then you need to watch it again.
“and of course she’s gonna look pretty in anything she puts on”🥺🥺🥺 I’m so glad Grandma came around, it must be really hard loosing your oldest daughter, I understand where she was coming from but I’m so proud of her for learning to see her granddaughter as her own person
When Leah came out in the long-sleeved dress and Granny's eyes perked up, you could basically see that she saw her daughter in her granddaughter. I have 2 children and the word "shattered" doesn't encompass how that must feel, to lose your child and then have a grandchild look JUST like her. But that shadow has clearly been a heavy burden for Leah to bear. I just wish them all well, and I wish Granny healing.
Nobody can ever understand what it is like going through all those special moments n dates n holidays without their child unless they have lost a child too and that I would never wish on anybody ever!!! I can not imagine how bittersweet it is to look at a granddaughter that could pass as a twin to a deceased daughter, seems bittersweet is not a strong enough term for it!!!
Erikaahh_Mae Why would should she even be forced to honor a woman she never met? I could see if the grandmother or the mother honored her but not the niece who has no memory of her...
I don’t understand why some women feel the need to have their dress approved by people. I didn’t! My mother didn’t like my dress and that was too bad for her because I bought it anyway. I loved it and so did my husband. That’s all that counts.
A lot of the time families help pay for a bride’s gown. Not that they should be so opinionated and cruel about it for sure, but it does make you want to please them more
@@Renee60722 yh well I was taught this BS too, but actually now that I'm an adult, I'm not going to punish myself by surrounding myself with horrible people. Family or not. If you're rude and entitled, I'm not going waste any of my precious time trying to be nice. Some people are too needy and can't bear to be independent and tolerate bad behaviour and then end up crying because of how they are treated. I'll have to pass.
This grandma is grieving and trying to live "double vicariously" (through her daughter through her daughter's niece). It's awful, but it really is just grief.
When you get accustomed to even jeans lacking pockets and just having freaking fake cut outs of pockets you'll clap for pockets everywhere you find them😂
I worked in womens clothing and I put a woman in a dress who try on. She ended up screaming at me that she LOVED the dress and EVERYTHING about it and there was NOTHING I could say that could make her love that dress more. I took that moment to tell her about the pockets. 😁
I understand why the grandma wanted her to wear the dress. My grandparents lost both of their children, and throughout my childhood I’ve realized how hard it is to lose someone, and especially a child. I think she really was a sweet lady, and even though she got a little upset that Leah didn’t wear the dress, she still came around in the end. They all seem like a sweet family regardless.
You’re absolutely right. Granny’s love for her family really shines through. She just needs some help with her grief, and Leah getting married probably brought a lot of what’s been brewing underneath to the surface. Leah recognized that a little bit of lace means a lot to her, and that’s why she compromised on the laced veil.
I am sorry but, just because she resembles and named after her aunt, does not make her the same damn person.....it would hurt me, if my loved ones only see a dead relative instead of me....this bride deserves to live her life as the strong independent women she is, in a gown that is the opposite of that 70s gown(not a bad dress,....just not the right on).... but to have her own big bridal moment and wedding.....
Of course she's still grieving, I don't think any parent would ever get over that kind of loss & pain, however she shouldn't be making her granddaughter feel guilty for saying I want my own dress or I don't like that style of dress.
I lost my 32 yr old Son almost 8 years ago. It never leaves you. I feel for this Mother but at the same time I feel for the bride. My living Son is getting married next year. He is nothing like Charlie and I wouldn't want him to be. Their wedding is a bit more upscale compared to Charlie who wore boots and jeans for his wedding. My hurt is that Charlie won't physically be here but he will be watching from above!
Especially since the granddaughter isn’t her deceased daughter’s daughter. I understand it can be very hard to let go. Because no parent should ever have to bury their kid. But the force another person’s life on another for some reason, it’s just rude. Not only rude but it’s traumatizing for the person.
@@dianedizayee5211 Her grandma is pushy and overbearing. I still do not understand why a bride brings an entourage knowing full well there may be a fly in the ointment when it comes to trying on dresses. Never had the opportunity to do the dress trying on thing, but I can assure you that I would not have put up with snarky crap and would not been in a mood to bite my tongue, so I would have done what my sister did, which was shop entirely independently and picked my dress on my own without any input from anyone other than perhaps a store employee, and the only opinion solicited would be regarding whether the dress fit my body, with no comments as to the style of the dress. But, that's just me, never and don't like being told what to do, especially when the end result has absolutely no effect on anyone else.
cimogm Because she loves her grandmother so she wants her to be there with her. You may be a more practical and pragmatic person, while she seems to be much more sentimental.
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Grandma is disrespecting both Georgeanne and Leah by trying to turn her granddaughter into her daughter. And where is Leah’s mom’s support for her daughter through all of this? This southern nonsense has got to stop.
I think Leah's mom is an enabler. Appease mom at all cost including Leah's mental health & well being. Some people will do anything to boot lick & "keep the peace in the family".
Her grandma is still hurting but she needs to let Leah be who she wants to be and see her as the wonderful , beautiful woman she is Edit:Thank you so much for the likes wonderful humans
It’s called passive aggressive and it’s so wrong when someone hasn’t dealt with their loss and attempt to inflict their opinion by using emotional blackmail.
Her poor mom is silent the entire time. Granny should be happy her granddaughter found her dream dress. I worked in bridal and I saw families like these who put pressure on brides to wear something they didn’t love. You can easily honor a loved one with an accessory, jewelry, or even adding a small photo to a bouquet
Exactly! As sad as it is that her daughter died, the fact that this family made this poor girl become an extension of her dead aunt since she was born so they didn't have to accept reality is absolutely awful. They need a wake up call, badly. And some good grief therapy. The reason for these actions is sad, but it does NOT excuse the result. They need to check themselves.
The grandmother wants to “reincarnate” her daughter through her grandchild. Yes your grandchild looks like her and has her name but that is not her. She is her own person not your daughter. Now maybe see if your granddaughter would wear your daughters wedding veil as her something borrowed.
Yes she's projecting onto her, but the girl is not reincarnated she just shares some genetic similarities... the grandma needs to let her be her own person -the niece of the deceased aunt, not a replica Yes offering something as a borrowed, or old?? would be nice, if she chooses, maybe take something from the aunts outfit, Something not too obvious though, just to honour her, give granny some respect, but only if it fits in. The veil she had on suited it beautifully so she should be and sounded very pleased with it, saying it made the dress, when the dress was gorgeous in and of itself, but the traditional aspect I think is what the granny was alluding to as that's what it sounded like she was wanting, (besides ressurecting her daughter and having her live again through the granddaughter, which is kinda heartbreaking, & tough for the girl to live up to such expectations) she's living in the past a bit, but they all seemed to think it was a "Southern" thing, they said
There's a sarcastic side of me that would have snarked at granny that after twenty years she needs to love her granddaughter for who SHE IS and not because she looks like her aunt, miss her and love her but let her rest in peace
This bride literally took my breath away. This is the first bride I've ever seen so beautiful on this show. May the Lord bless her and always be with her
I bet her aunt wld have been upset had she been able to see her niece being forced to live her aunt's life.. but the last dress is really cute on her though
Update: Leah got married in 2014 and Grandma went to be with her daughter Georgan in 2015. Leah and Tyler are still married and had a son in 2019. Georgan died in 1984.
It’s sad that Leah has to live in the shadow of someone she’s never even met. The moment the grandmother actually let Leah choose a dress that didn’t look at all like the heirloom dress might have actually been a bit of a breakthrough.
It's a good thing - depending on how much you live it out. I also am someone who always WANTS to please everybody but that doesn't mean that I'll always sacrifice what I want.
Yeah when I heard her say that, it totally clicked; the grandmother's a manipulative control freak and wants to only be surrounded by people who are eager to please her.
And they are NOT flattering to every woman's figure! I've seen women 300 or 400 pounds wearing them, and no one has the courage to tell them they have rolls and rolls of bread dough everywhere, especially under their upper arms. It's just not flattering to them. I was a size 4 when I got married and the first thing I said was, "No strapless, no sleeveless. I'm not a Swedish supermodel!" I was conscious of what looked good on me and what didn't. Maybe now, 30 years later, it's not important anymore, all brides want is to feel "sexy". Sexy is for the bedroom, sweetie.
Awww...Leah is a sweetheart inside and out. You can just tell she's a lovely person. She looked beautiful in her dress and I'm glad she stood her ground for what she wanted. Congratulations!
It's so disturbing how this old lady wants to force her granddaughter to replace her daughter. She's a horrible tyrant. Shame on the mother for allowing this
Since the dress belonged to her Aunt whom she didn’t even know, the sentimental part was only special to the grandmother. Find a way to honor your daughter’s memory without using someone else to do so. 🤷🏻♀️
Bless her, she obviously wants to be herself and her family are obviously still going through a grieving process but pressuring her to be someone shes not isn't gonna help anyone.
I hate when a young person is called "Strong Willed" for being their own person, this bride is not strong willed she's being an adult with her own taste. There is nothing wrong with that!
Honestly she really does look good at the second dress. She looks so elegant on it. But she doesn't feel beautiful in it, she's not confident with the dress. It's her big day, her wedding day, give her what she wants & what she loves.
When my grandma died last year, everyone kept saying i looked like her. All her funeral decisions went to me (i was also the only granddaughter and was very close) but i struggle because so many people seem to have these expectations for me to be like her when im not. I know how this bride feels.
