Bride Monique is not your typical bride. She wants her groom to pick the dress and she'll only say yes if he approves it. Catch Say Yes to the Dress on TLC - Sky 133, Virgin 162, BT TV 323
I was just going to comment on that statement. Wherever she lacks, he fills but not the other way around? I wonder if she was like this when they met or if he slowly wore down her self confidence.
All the signs are there that he's an extremely manipulative and controlling partner. I hope she finds herself and realizes that she deserves so much better than that BS
"what if you hated it?" "he's the boss" lori - do you love the dress? bride - daniel doesn't love it lori - do YOU love it? bride - daniel? groom - i thought i was gonna pick the dress DON'T MARRY HIM! I nearly threw up. Girl, if you give him such power, he will easely take advantage of you, be violent, brainwash you and make you feel like you are guilty!
You just assumed so much. 1. He should get a say on it bc the bride gets a say on the tux so nobody should complain 2.if she wanted to make a Decision on the color an style of suit he wears nobody would say anything
It's funny you said that cause the whole time I was watching I was getting the vibe that he's definitely cheating on her, probably with one of those so called friends of hers, and she doesn't even realize it yet
Lea Monteiro yeah because none of her friends even supported her when she came out the last time alone 👀 She’s beautiful inside and out. Only if she could see that in herself.
Gurrrrl you betta put your “big gurl panties on” for this marriage bc if you don’t road runner groom will drag you all over the place! D-day is Doomsday okay😳
The ease with which he said “How’s she gonna say yes without my opinion” tells me this wasn’t all scripted. Whether voluntarily or not, she has given him WAY too much power.
Either way it’s just a 10 minute video edited and filmed with drama and entertainment in mind. We shouldn’t rlly accuse anyone of being an abuser based off something like this. Like u guys don’t know those ppl or their lives. U know how u saw them portrayed in a video clip of a say yes to the dress episode 🙈 it wasn’t good. But that doesn’t necessarily mean they went home and he beat the crap out of her for choosing her own wedding dress
"But how's she gonna pick the dress without my opinion" He acts like she can't pick out a good dress without him. I would kick him to the curb. If he doesn't think you'll look amazing no matter what you wear you don't need him.
Who made him an expert of choosing clothes for a woman? Lori does not like roosters in the hen house. She is great when she tells them they have to go. I like the episode when the groom's mom kept saying Jordan does not like this or that. When the groom wears the wedding gown then he has a say. If not, zip it.🤐
demon cleaner -- Let me guess, she's never been married and always wanted to be .... Reminds me of a cartoon I saw last year, which showed a young lady facing right and holding a colorful bouquet. Her printed comment: "Oh, what a beautiful bouquet of red flags!"
This rubs me the wrong way. This is exactly how it was when I was with my controlling, physically & emotionally abusive, narcissistic ex. I was under his control for so long I would look to him to answer. I'm lucky I got out & am doing a million times better. Idk if that's the case here, or if it was production, which is completely possible, or he is only like this about the wedding but any way it bothers me.
yeah we can’t assume anything, nor do we even know if they’re still together, but there’s so many red flags. it’s not that she “doesn’t care” about the dress, because she IS getting married, but he’s leeching into her personality. red flags everywhere.
I see this as making her man happy. Her concern is to please him. Especially if he's paying for it. These ppl are so pro power, feminists that all they see is control. And no one wants to see a black man controlling NOTHING.
@@thankthelord4536 this had absolutely nothing to do with race. when he is straight up asking how will she make a choice without him telling her, thats where the problem lies wether theyre white, black, asian ect.
Monique shouldn’t get married to a toxic person like that!!!! If the bridal appointment was that bad the relationship is going to be down right abusive. If she’s out there; I hope she freed her self from him, she deserves much better.
Is no one going to talk about just how body conscious the other bride is. She kept knocking herself down. Made me want to give her a hug and tell her how beautiful she is. That darn consultant kept putting her in frumpy clothes too.
@@milkknife a A line dress, or a so called ball dresses, and yes something to accentuate the waist. She has broad shoulders, she needs a dress bigger in the lower part, to give her the hourglass figure and something to accentuate the waist. She said herself what shape she has. The first dress was the closest to what she needed, but the bottom didn't maintain his shape enough, maybe if it was made from another material or more material put in it to look more full,but towards the bottom. She needs a bottom part like that of the first bride dress choice, but with a higher waist, way higher, maybe a empire waist or something like that. The counselor was rude but not only her , her entourage seemed somewhat rude also , not encouraging her not saying really anything important, just ummmh, oohh, I don't know, it's not good.
Would it be so hard for bridal shops to carry dresses for larger woman? They certainly exist and are gorgeous. I don’t understand why a segment of buying women are ignored and dissed
@@mara4259 the first dress was most appropriate to what she needed for her body shape, but I believe that the bottom needed more volume on the lower side ,to help create her a hourglass figure. An A line dress would have been I think the best choice, with a higher waist. Don't understand what that seller didn't helped her , she just gives her dresses, but didn't even try to help her with advices or anything and looked so condescending to me. Her entourage also.
@@burjuddubowy347 I used to own a shop. We had to buy samples and most vendors had a minimum requirement which made it difficult to have the best selection for all body types. We tried to make everyone of our brides feel beautiful and rejoiced we succeeded. Your judgment is ignorant and unhelpful.
I agree. I am divorced who was abusive in all ways. I was expected to call him when I had to buy diapers for our baby or milk. I would leave the receipt on his dinner plate. I am an adult no one needs to tell me what to do unless I ask for help. If I don't ask for help, just zip it. 🤐
"Daniel and I are perfect for each other because wherever I lack things, he has it." This line alone worried me. She's subtly demeaning herself for him.
He has her convinced that she can't make any decision and he has to approve of everything. There are 4 year olds who can decide what they want to wear. She's a grown ass woman and she can decide what to wear for her wedding.
@@SuperLovehp I noticed those flip-flops too. He came across as very arrogant in the beginning of the episode where Robin tells him Lori's rule of no foxes in the henhouse. "There are exceptions to rules". Arrogant man. How does this woman put up with him?
as soon as i heard that line alarm bells went off in my head!! because it really seems like HE'S the one implying that she 'lacks' something and that he has to be the one to 'fix' it, and that shit is textbook manipulation!
I love how this bride took back her power of picking out her dress and she looks beautiful in her pick of dresses! Her groom better love the dress on their wedding day!🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
“I’m not asking you.” Damn Monte owned her! Loved it! They need to teach them a lesson and get a real expensive dress for mr “we don’t have a budget.” Shock him! Get him off balance so that his fiancé can take back her control!
The second lady needs to go to a plus size bridal boutique they will make her look incredible. There is one in the UK show, they always make the brides feel beautiful and confident x
Agree. But is it really the dress or her self esteem? If you dont like the way you are, change it. If you think you look bad in every dress, maybe its not the dress, its you?
T P it’s definitely the dresses. They only had a few dresses that had a sample size that would fit her meaning they couldn’t pick what she wanted, just what they had that would fit. None of the dresses were flattering for a plus size bride. They were designed with a smaller figure in mind. Makes me really sad.
@@kaitlynnrose9294 totally agree, when you try something on that's designed for a different body ur gonna feel crappy. No matter what your self esteem is. A great dress that's meant for you can make you feel awesome!
The one she showed to her friends looked like a lot of bandages! How I missed Curvy Bride's Boutique, their concern, care and skill to help brides see their own beauty (quite a lot for the first time) is almost magical
It’s really sad to watch this because I was in a similar relationship and thankfully ended it before it carried on too long. His comment of “she always agrees with me” is a huge red flag of this being an overbearing and controlling relationship. She doesn’t even feel comfortable enough voicing her opinion to him. I wish I could reach out and help her…..too many women end up in relationships like this.
This is a common mistake we girls do , making him the boss of our life like if we had none.. Love is a beautiful thing and some of these instances make people hard to believe in true love and it's actual meaning
I can only think that maybe he is really rich and powerful.......there is no other reason, to put up with this nonsense, except monetary gain and status.......and even then its not worth losing your whole life .
I was looking for this word (TOXIC) in the comments and it is only 1 min in. His expressions, too... Brrrrr. The entourage should try to save her from this marriage and this guy. Oftentimes it's happening more in secret, behind closed doors, only one and ome, the controllimg and narcissistic ways. Here it is out in the open.
When she walked out in the first dress and Monte asked her what she thought, then said "it doesn't matter cause you're not picking it! " Yes! Monte nailed it! I think that was when she realized just how much control she had given up to her fiance.
@@milkknife I don't think taking advantage of the situation by being the decision maker of everything speaks highly of him though. He should be building her up. Instead of agreeing to try on the dress he should be reassuring her she'll look great and he trusts she'll pick out something great and he just really wants her to pick out something she loves. Either way you slice it he just doesn't come off the best. Really hoping this is scripted
I don’t think it’s a bad idea to have the groom into the appointment in the very beginning. Get his opinion in the beginning about what he would like to see the bride in such as silhouette, bling, etc and then let the rest be a surprise to him.
@@kristinbagani2811 you still don't need to bring him to the appointment. You can just ask his opinion back at home and then keep it in mind when you're shopping for the dress.
Oh I just love Lori and Monty. I just love the show. The comic chemistry between Lori and Monty is wonderful. How they find people that are having a rough go, or have had a rough go, and make their wedding dreams come true gives me goosebumps. Keep doin what you’re doin you’all you are spreading love and kindness. Happy New Year 🎉❤🎉🎉❤❤
“ If he says yes to the dress i am putting it on him ” lol i absolutely love Randy !! This is gonna be my new mantra everytime any guy give me any openings on shopping for a dress !!!
I understand that some women have anxiety with shopping (that’s exactly how my mom is actually), but there’s a difference between being controlled by someone (in this case a groom) and having others opinions while keeping yours in mind. Even with my mom who didn’t like shopping and wasn’t one for big weddings, she still chose her dress herself (with her mom as support) for her wedding day, my dad did his things and she did hers.
When it was my time to look for a gown, it was just my mom and me. My dad sat out in the car. I regret that- both have passed on. I still wish my dad was there also.
I was more concerned on the second bride they placed in between this episode. I hope she finds the dress that she would her body and she’ll love, she really felt embarrassed and disheartened during the appointment
I have watched these shows and the really awful ones are the bridal party. I did not want mine there when I was looking for my gown. Some of the bridal party comments are mean and hurtful. It is especially hurtful when they laugh at the bride.
Honestly, I didn't get the vibe that the bride was doing something she didn't want to. She gave the groom power in the beginning but only for as long as she felt comfortable doing so. When she found her dream dress, she took the power back. She seems like a strong independent woman who likes to let her man think he has the power while in fact she is the one taking the decisions... 😌
@@ZLuv2Bowl i disagree. OP was right in the fact that this wasn't some beaten down woman. i think this was just obviously super scripted. actually i know it was because my cousin was on this show and the show is actually VERY scripted to the point of them telling you to create drama and to act certain ways and to make a storyline, etc but people dont like to hear that about the show lol
It struck me similarly that it was the groom who actually cares about having a wedding, and she would be happy just going to city hall. I got the impression that she's going along with having a big wedding because he wants one, which she isn't against but it just isn't her thing. Once she saw herself in THE dress though, she started to care. The groom didn't put up much of a fight when he was asked to leave (we have seen scarily controlling grooms on here before).
I just went wedding dress shopping and I have to say, I wish I could have had someone else shopping for me. I was pretty much by myself with just my sister and she wasn't allowed to look through the racks with me. I hated dress shopping in Covid times 😭 Luckily I found something that fit me perfectly.
I get the feeling she deals with this guys control issues regularly. Theirs something about him that gives me red flags ALL over the place. Girl, don't be desperate to marry because you are a young beautiful independent woman and if this guy doesn't see everyone needs to make their own choices, he's not worth it.
"i'm always fancy" - the man wearing a salmon button down with a white hanes t-shirt underneath, wide cut jeans that are too long for him, and flip flops to a luxury bridal shop. goodbye sir.
