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Agree!

It`s a double whammy since his Mother backs him. I don`t blame the bride for wanting to elope, she would have had very little say in the planning & so much drama from his family. She should have said NO to the groom & his toxic Mother.

The groom is an immature idiot!

You are absolutely right!! This is her wedding as well and she has no say in her dress. What the hell!! Girl you need to run!! This is just awful and I believe she will grow to regret not having the wedding to share with her family and friends.

Yes...I see domestic violence in her future. RUN 🏃‍♂️ from the guy and his mother.

yup. 👏👏

They should pin this

You can see that her mum hates him and you can totally understand her. Her daughter will come back to her crying after a lot of drama that she was right with her opinion about him. Been there done that, but luckily not married.

LMAO!!! Omg, so true

What do you bet it is the controlling grooms idea to exclude everyone ? RUN

Me too, thousands of ground rules from the groom it would be bye bye from me

Same for the grooms mom

I would show that would husband the door!

Exactly what I was thinking!

Lmaooo

All I have to say is Yes. 😂

😂😂😂😂😂

That's what I said - "within a few years", this CHILD will grow up enough to assert her own identity and enjoy a real man - not some controlling freak show.

EXACTLY!

@@WhirledPublishing I LOVE THE WAY YOU WORDED THAT

@@Claireannette77 Thank you!

@@Claireannette77 That groom's mother took such pleasure in asserting his insane obsession with control.

Her daughter's a selfish b*@ch for allowing a man to not only control where they get married, what she wears and what she does, but also not allowing her mom to be there?? You can see how heartbroken her poor mother is. Selfish!

She deserves better!!!

I'd ruin my daughter's moment to save her from a lifetime of a miserable marriage.

@@toforgetisagem8145 Exactly! Her mother should be warning her poor daughter about how many red flags her fiancé is showing.

Absolutely. Ditch him now! 9:07

Is this bride too stupid to realise what she's doing.........my dog, unbelievable.

Amei o vestido com pedraria, lindoooo

Yes and men wear so much tulle don’t they.

@@carolefraser8194 Lol

What year is this? SYTTD just vomits up repeats ad nauseum.

@@georgielancaster1356 from 8 years ago

I found her on facebook and looked at her wedding pictures. She didn't wear the dress she picked out here. She wore just a PLAIN white strapless dress with no lace, no bling, no embellishment of any kind. It looked like she wrapped a tablecloth around her body and got married.

Also not letting her parents be at the wedding.

So sad to see that .

Right. And the fact that the family were putting his opinion forward so forcefully above hers, 'no straps'...the straps looked gorgeous. A sad situation.

Exactly what I am thinking

I agree. He is so controlling that it will lead to an abusive relationship. Seen it happen before

I wish she knew that that nagging feeling inside her is not going to magically disappear after they are married. I hope the best for her, though.

Eloping doesn't solved the problem of his penchant to control her. BIG RED FLAG that she can't see it because of those damned rose colored glasses she is wearing.

Another big red flag is that he is isolating her from her family and friends. I hope their marriage has been happy.

I mean, I think it's normal for a guy to have some opinion, but a list of rules? Sending his mom to enforce them? Really?

He's only gonna get worse from here.

They should sell her a red divorce dress on the spot as well since she's signing up for that at the same time!! Um, can you say RED FLAGS? More like a huge bonfire..girl, take off those rose colored glasses and wise up or you're going to be miserable!! And goodness, don't have any children w/him - can you even begin to imagine?!

I wonder what other sacrifices this bride is going to have to do for her husband to be.

I think they're eloping because the bride is caving to the groom and she's ashamed. The drama she's referring to, I'm willing to bet, is the controlling opinionated groom's family. I give them a year.

This may be a case where Mom has to let her daughter find out the hard way. If she remains loving and neutral, the girl will, hopefully, come to her senses . Who knows how long it will take. We all have our Journeys.

I hope she doesn’t marry him. He and his mother will rule her.

Trouble ahead for sure

For the first dress, when they said that comment, she said she didn't like the dress even before stepping out.

Her Mom knows he is no good

This MIL seems frightened.

I agree. There's a difference between stating one's opinion when asked, and being controlling. That said though... they were right not to go with that lace top in dress 2. The high neckline looked strangely disproportionate. Also a good decision to lose the straps in the last dress. It looked so much better without them.

I did some digging and Unfortunately she married him and they have a child together. A son. I can’t imagine what he’s doing to her and that baby.

yes

Right, it's one thing for him to give you an honest opinion if you ask. Like, I'm not a big fan of poofy ball gowns. It's quite another to have a list of rules for your bride's dress (barring modesty rules for a religious venue, such as shoulders must be covered in some way). My boyfriend always says that I should be comfortable and happy with what I'm wearing, even if he is honest about things he finds particularly attractive.

and the girl too, honestly. i’ve been in a controlling relationship but i rly couldn’t see it until my surroundings warned me about it. love IS really blind isn’t it

Monty definitely picked right up on it. She clearly loved the dress until future MIL made negative comments. She likes the vintage lace look. Fiance and future MIL do not.

I hope the bride has a good divorce attorney on speed dial.

where does it lead

@@amydumas573 abuse, controlling toxic relationship that will never end good.

Instead of being ashamed that she raised a controlling piece of garbage for a son, she is proud of it and enforces his toxic “rules”. I highly doubt that a wedding planner wouldn’t want her own wedding! She said HE didn’t want a wedding and hated her showing him dresses, the eloping was his idea which she agreed to because he is emotionally abusive. Her shame is evident when she sees her mother crying. I hope she leaves him and can do so safely.

And I found the bride’s instagram - still married and mother of two now. I really hope they’re happy and he doesn’t control everything now, too :/

That would be smart yeah

Great suggestion.

You are not seeing every single second.

They're selling wedding gowns--it's not their business. They can have their thoughts though!!

Awesome idea!

That is why her son is a controlling freak. Mama is toxic and instilled that in her son, her perfect special little boy!

Fr

@Destiny good one!

Son like mother in that aspect. Too many red flags.

No wonder her son is the way he is.

She wouldn't listen if they did, sadly. She's in too deep. As a therapist, I've seen this so many times. At least 1/3 of my clients are people who have been destroyed by narcissistic abusers. Things have to get pretty bad before they will finally leave or the narc discards them for someone else.

Me too

But she won't listen shes already in love with him they are gonna be married so why does it matter to y'all

@@puppypower7166 why does it matter? Hun. Let’s stop being naive. It matters because this will influence other woman to think this behavior is ok coming from the groom. It is not. And we must speak against these types of males at all cost to protect future women.

Idiot groom probably wanted isolation in a park. r

I know right? That's exactly what I said. The way he was dressed in the pictures and especially the day he proposed ≥﹏≤ She looked lovely in her dress and he was in shorts and a plad shirt. OMG!

To be fair we’ve only seen the men’s clothes he wears outside. I’m sure the women’s clothes he wears when he’s alone is AAAMAZING!

@@len452000 Thats what I was thinking. She's his beard

I was thinking the same. This guy has the audacity to set rules. He should worship the ground she walks on. He is no prize. She is too good for him.

FACTS! Even if he was frickin Valentino himself, don't tell a woman what to wear!!

Best comment!

Was thinking the same

and marry his mom while he's at it

i know right and the reason is her future husband. he doesnt want to her to have anything on the neck he doesnt want her to get married infront of her family he is literally like a control freak. i hope she realises it early what shes getting herslef into

@@thekharataykid She's the one who decided she wanted to elope though. Not saying he isn't controlling but she had her reasons for that.

@@thekharataykid exactly. In the future he will make her mama and her have a distant relationship because he’s controlling her sm

It seems to me as if his mother approves of his controlling ways as well. She seems happy to chip in with his 'rules' so the bride doesn't dare stray. The girl loved the second dress then was more or less 'told' that she didn't like it after all. Even with the third dress she wasn't happy until she'd made her change something about it that she liked. She turned it into just another plain strapless wedding dress. So much for 'fashion'.

Well, she'll have her real wedding in a few years - with a real man.

It really is and why isn’t her mother being so agreeable to her marrying an abuser. No doubt about that, even her mother- in-law is afraid of her son. Why are they running away to marry? Please I know it’s too late but I hope I’m wrong. I hope she’s safe and happy.

The bride is just as bad, plus throw in the mother-in-law for more drama.

@@MBAinternetmktg It's more complicated than that because of the psychological implications of being enthralled to a narcissistic abuser. You lose your identity and everything becomes about pleasing that person because of how they manipulate and gaslight you. They devalue and chip away at you slowly. It's the analogy of the frog in slowly boiling water. You have no idea it's happening until your in crisis. Everyone around you may see it and try to tell you, but you dont' believe it. The best example today is Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. She manipulated him like a pro and his friends and family tried to tell him to slow down, but he refused to see all the red flags and the next thing you know, she played into his paranoia,controlled him, isolated him and separated him from his family.

Finally an optimistic comment

Excellent comment!

Or a witness at the divorce hearing!

if she's still alive by the time her current marriage ends.

@@Herrera_70 ik

Oh it will "work" Because she's in too deep with that abusive relationship. If she can say out loud "I can hear his voice in my head... " And not realise what's wrong with that, then sadly she's lost

​@@user-ml4ps5cq3vYes, blame the victim.

I wouldn't mind betting that MIL is there on the day!!!

I think this is probably the outcome of a family fight, as in, who will contribute how much to the wedding, and his his controlling ways. So the answer was no one goes to their wedding; elopement.

@@treehouse2902 I would probably file for divorce before I got married to him.

Did you see someone found a reference to a child. I wouldn't know how to look.

They are still married. Two kids. She didn't wear this dress. She didn't even like this dress. She replied to a couple comments about it on her Instagram. Seems she said she liked it to get out of the there. She said the producers were annoying her.

@@ATLCheerBoi tell me her IG

@@ATLCheerBoi That’s honestly sorta rude of her. Just because someone is annoying her, you feel the need to say yes to the dress and make your family cry?

if he's helping to pay for it his opinion matters. his opinion clearly mattered to the bride as well

Selfish couple. Not wanting to share there special day with the people that brought them up

@@modest8930 wrong.

The eloping thing sounds like he's already trying to alienate her from family and friends like most abusers do

@@modest8930 Why on earth are you assuming that her fiancé is paying for her gown? Usually the bride herself, or the brides family pays for the gown. The only thing her going along with what he wants for HER dress indicates, is that he is successfully controlling what she wears before they are even married, which is a really bad sign.

Yes. But she’s in looooove…

@carolynworthington8996 She is bless her. She's sweet but easily manipulated. A dream wife & dil for that awful woman & her equally awful son.

Carolyn Worthington true, not for long tho when she hopefully wakes up 🤦‍♀️

true

“If she has any sense”….. a little lacking in empathy for the victim of an empathy-devoid abuser, don’t you think? They are professional manipulators.

I see Narcissistic traits. controlling, isolating her from those who love her. It will take time for her to see it.. she still naive and young. Sad….

Someone said they have 2 children

@@georgielancaster1356 Sad, bringing children into this unhealthy dynamic.

I would agree if he were that controlling with everything she wears (like day to day). I’m willing to give them both the benefit of the doubt for the wedding, though, since it’s for both of them. I’m pretty sure if the bride here said she vetoed certain colors for the groom’s suit no one would bat an eye.

Well if something happens his mom will never tell. Scary way to start your marriage

@@victoriagriffiths4205 She will tell the girl to stop crying & try harder to please her son. TOXIC.

Exactly! My current husband said" what would you like darlin,and how can I help you?" He made my wish for a no stress beach wedding happen and it was very special! My dress was my favorite ocean blue with little water crystals...and not even expensive lol. I picked it out, and he loved it . Maturity in a groom matters!!

Did you see what the groom was wearing in the pictures of him? Especially in the picture of the day he proposed..... OMG he's in shorts and a plad shirt and she was in a lovely dress.... Oh but hey, HE KNOWS ABOUT MEN'S FASHION, RIGHT 🤔

Probably gay or bi. Men’s clothing store was a big giveaway. No Christian, God fearing man would intrude on his wife this way unless he was frustrated with his own internal turmoil.

Trauma-bonding..

Right.

@@angelica7543 bingo

@@angelica7543 Flying monkey MIL…

Pitiful indeed.

Maybe even the groom? 🤔

@@brandywineblogger1411 very true

Exactly ik she's gonna regret marrying him but it's her choice

TRUTH! She will be raising that entitled boy all their lives!

It was pretty easy to find her on Facebook. She’s still married to him and has been since 2014

She also didn’t wear the dress??

​@@bdubs9040 can you post her profile link?

It seems she's may have been there more for the advertising of her wedding planning business, but it didn't work out well!

She is as heartbroken Shame on this young woman. You can do a lot better

@@phylmar1 yeah well she's not gonna listen they are still married and have two kids

Well some people want to elope. Doesn't mean they don't love their mothers

Exactly! If she doesn’t like it now, just wait, it’ll double or triple the misery. His Mom is just as bad. You saw the brides face not being too pleased when his Mom brought up the rules. I’m as nice as the next woman, but I don’t think I could had just sat there and not said a word. Her and I would have a come to Jesus meeting in a private room. Surely her Mom has to see what lies ahead for her daughter.

Exactly

He doesn't want her to have HER day... hence the elopement. He doesn't want the dress to make her feel pretty but for him to show he got someone with a nice figure who won't upsurge him. He's a narcissist. RUN.

Ironically, my MIL was a much better support than my mother. That's still true 16 years later.

I don’t think she wanted to bring her MIL I think her husband forced it

I'm bringing my MIL. I absolutely adore her!

If the man I was marrying decided the dress I wanted was not right, I’d dump him in a minute. That just shows how selfish and shallow he is. Btw, she’s beautiful in every one of the dresses she tried on

I get that, honey. I married the man I THOUGHT I loved because I wanted to please my daddy and because I was pregnant. I was literally crying while walking done the aisle. My Daddy said "you don't have to do this if you really don't want to." But I stuck to it just for my Daddy. Since it was a quickie wedding, we hadn't spent a lot of money, but I didn't want Daddy to pay for all of it for nothing. I think the total cost was about $1,500, and even that small amount was over their budget. We made our party favors, which were tiny bottles of soap bubbles with a small wand and birdseed as the "rice," my cake, his cake and all the snacks for the guests. A lot of people from my church were there (about 100). My dress was a style that was popular at the time (1974), the dress itself was a maxi-dress with burgundy as the main background and a pretty beige flower print all over it. It also had some thin lace on the sleeves, and a sweetheart neckline. My veil was a very pretty lace shawl that I pinned to my hair. Unfortunately, my husband threw out all of the wedding pictures in a rage and he burned them. That's how he reacted to get his own way in insignificant arguments. I had one more child 4 years later. The last straw was when he threw out all the cloths that I had saved from my first child, and were being passed down to my younger baby, I filed for divorce and he continued his affair with a married woman at the place where he worked. He had been cheating with her for over 3 years, and she was almost 10 years older than he was.

@@queenoftut So glad you got out of that situation.

If my groom came at my family like that, he's done. So many handsome men in TN and she picks this one.

This is very common. Many women feel like they have to have the same opinions as their man. And they find men who will happily go along with it and then get mad when she has an opinion of her own.

@@carlycrays2831 thankfully I found a man who has no problem with me having my own mind and stating my opinion. If we disagree about something I want to wear, how I do my hair, etc his view is, it's your body, it's your decision.

@@carlycrays2831 There's a reason so many women are unopinionated and always say "whatever you want" to their man. They actually don't want us to have opinions. Men would always call me demanding or bossy because I'd speak my opinion when asked. I've had so many friends change their personality every time they'd start dating a new guy.

Yes to the Stepford. You could see her face change.

I found her page, they are still married and have two children. Looks like she wore a different dress though

I agree. Now we know where the son received his programming from. Hope the couple can fit in marriage counseling in their busy schedule.