Bruce Feiler: Agile programming -- for your family

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Bruce Feiler has a radical idea: To deal with the stress of modern family life, go agile. Inspired by agile software programming, Feiler introduces family practices which encourage flexibility, bottom-up idea flow, constant feedback and accountability. One surprising feature: Kids pick their own punishments.
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@joannecosta5140 8 лет назад

just had first family agile meeting wasn't expecting great results but it went really well. have a whiteboard full of things to achieve this week.

@soycesaroman 4 года назад

After 7 years... Still really useful 👌great takl!

@MelegantMe 11 лет назад

It's the art of persuasive essay writing. You start out with a Logos, fact based appeal (statistics on what kids want), and then to an Ethos, credibility based appeal (where he works, and his success), and finally to the emotional appeal, the Pathos. The reason for this is because the audience he is speaking to may or not take what he says to heart unless he has convinced them to open their minds. Here on the internet, we have selected this video because it already appealed to us. But not there.

@kristineschow634 5 лет назад

We have been giving this a go in our family. The kids seem to love the control they have in the family dynamic and it has created less stress for me as a Mom. We held on to what was already working in our family and we added this great framework as well. I am learning so much more. Thank you so much for sharing!

@EmperorToast Год назад

My eyes are permanently rolled into the back of my head now. Thanks.

@kirank2917 11 лет назад

Great talk. Will be implementing some of this with my family.

@happyhugs14 11 лет назад

This reminds me of a Time Magazine article I read just today about the change in the way cancer research is now being conducted. It's amazing when you make these connections about the world :)

@100RentalCars 6 лет назад

Thanks Bruce. I really enjoyed your talk and I'm looking forward to reading your book!

@motutak 11 лет назад

Awesome vid! I've been enjoying lots of TED Family podcasts. Love the idea of empowering the kids and working/talking about issues together. We've asked our kids about what consequences they would receive.. and yes, the kids usually come up with harder punishments than us parents would! lol.

@cli2701 Год назад

Such an inspiring talk and the suggestions are very applicable!

@nafterli 11 лет назад

Profound. I have taken notes for the day I have a family. Either way some of the principles are applicable in my current circumstance and business. Thank you for this once again, i'll keep trying.

@medman36 11 лет назад

Nice empowerment story for families. I cannot ignore the feeling that the basis of this story is recent, interesting, data results, of which we do not know what the results will be in 10-15 years. High adaptibility is the often the search in the short-term, but ultimately could not be an adequate result in the longterm.

@kmarinas86 11 лет назад

He was describing an experiment and case studies. He was telling us why and how agile programming helps families, not just that "it is".

@tyotypic 11 лет назад

Practically all corporate software development is constructed using an adaption of an Agile technique. The bit with Tolstoy was supposed to tell you about how it's possible to give your life its own meaning and happiness.

@sarahshort9167 9 лет назад

The simple concept proves true.. a happy worker is a product and loyal worker. The problem is getting management to buy into these policies that promote the flexibility to enhance worker satisfaction.

@MrElectricVibration 7 лет назад

Parents tend to be echo chamber CEO's sadly :(.

@MrRichieRichieRichie 11 лет назад

I love this guy! This is amazing!!!! Thanks TED

@shmufle 11 лет назад

very good, wish my parents saw this before they raised me.

@BretKuhns 11 лет назад

I believe Kanban is a a visualization method of Kaizen. A lot of agile methods have visual task boards the resemble Kanban boards. Agile techniques are typically more structured and prescribed than Kaizen, but there is definitely a relationship.

@LeonidasGGG 11 лет назад

Listening to your kids and valuing their input... Tell that to my parents!

@VernHowChan 7 лет назад

interesting concept, I was googling for what is Agile and this came up. amusing in a certain sense.

@aniloinfotechnology 9 лет назад

Wonderful!!!

@joannalukaszuk2260 5 лет назад

enjoyable and very to-the-point :))

@shr3jn 9 лет назад

Very nice talk!!

@toobrown1 11 лет назад

tedtalksdirector, you need to update the title and description. Agile is not a software programming language. It is a methodology - that is being applied to software development. So, in this context, it is a software development lifecycle methodology.

@kajalchaturvedi2330 2 года назад

So good 👍

@RakshasaCat 11 лет назад

If you don't know what 'agile development' is, perhaps you should study it? He's not giving a lecture in the details of the method, he's telling us that the technique is useful for family life. Also, Tolstoy story was about a brother who spent his whole life trying to improve himself and his surroundings, first as a child consumed with trying to find the magic stick, then later as an adult who came to see the profound insight into happiness the childish story provided.

@jdinstlouis 11 лет назад

amen, brother!!

@prameshi 11 лет назад

Stress is Contagious. Parents should adapt to switch Roles and Emotions when they are at home with family.

@RastaMonsta88 11 лет назад

What a great dad he must be

@ppsh43 11 лет назад

Huh? The world rocks! It is far from perfect but I am grateful for being alive in it.

@BobertRads 11 лет назад

nice!

@postfuersilke 4 года назад

I love the way this talk sparks discussions about Agile in parenting. You can find a full review on my Blog (in German): agile-parenting.de/meine-familie-ist-kein-programm-eine-kritik/

@Kram1032 11 лет назад

Why are these things so easy and so tough at the same time?

@Mystery207 11 лет назад

Thank the lord us bottom feeders have TeD Talks

@Dishmab 11 лет назад

Programming languages can help everyone, families too.

@movcrit 11 лет назад

Could you elaborate? I don't understand what you meant.

@LPhase9 11 лет назад

In complete agreement, this in its own right is half the problem with Modern society - a need to worship methods and practices because they are being justified by some new study, but as far as human culture is concerned were always known. The best way to solve a problem is the practical way, do what works. You just have to care enough to keep trying.

@drtt1gg3r1 11 лет назад

family is a 2 member job. 1 member to produce viable income and 1 member to take care of house and family. When both or only parent(s) work a 30-40+ work week there is no energy left to do the 30-40+ hour work week that taking care of house and family needs to run and function properly. When house and family are not taken care of we see things like unhealthy sanitary and behavioral habits children have to grow up and take on responsibilities they are not ready for and family cohesion break down.

@amiraboussaada4126 11 лет назад

scrum at home ! cooool :)

@ZackGisme 11 лет назад

these family meetings are dinner everynight no? like sitting down together? since when is that cutting edge?

@jfm2301 11 лет назад

what is adjul? is it code for agile?

@TheRealvalue99 9 лет назад

Any free software to download?... which we can use for the family

@adolfoforonda3363 8 лет назад

+ravi kode trello.com, wunderlist

@liquidminds 11 лет назад

I don't think that it only applies to americans. It's a modell, for families who struggle to get organized. But I agree, that the kind of income-situation many US Families face at the moment, definitely doesn't improve family Cohesion. Having a model to organize yourself doesn't even change a lot about that.

@BlazeBieberHaruno 3 года назад

8:31 is he Stefan Sagmeister??

@ductuslupus87 11 лет назад

I don't think there should for all families. I think there is no one-size fits all solution to fixing family problem or making a good family better.

@Hajjat 11 лет назад

11:30 Madam, I think you forgot your SHOCK facial muscles on! hahah

@augustofagioli 11 лет назад

already happening, man

@catAfaable 11 лет назад

"greatness is not a matter of circumstance, its a matter of choice", yeah.. cause we all are born with the same opportunities!

@MrRichieRichieRichie 11 лет назад

That's completely avant garde acrimony

@marlo25alpha 11 лет назад

are there any anthropologists out there? this talk along with many other TED talks on human relationships is starting to make me feel that Anthro is an overly underrated discipline

@ARocknRolla 11 лет назад

Can't tell if trolling or confused. Either way, thanks for the lulz.

@yesimaBright 11 лет назад

Now I wish I had a family...

@liquidminds 11 лет назад

look at the growth-rate of the income-gap in america in the last 10 years. It's ridiculous. A medium income salary could afford a house, 2 kids and 2 cars in the 80s and 90s, but you'd struggle to afford a flat, one kid and one car with two salaries today. But in a way it's self inflicted. Government raised taxes for work and lowered it for financial gain and huge incomes, so the superrich got richer while the poor ones were motivated to take up credits, that again make the rich even richer

@MrMyKidd 11 лет назад

It seems as though "Agile development" is the programing equivalent to an even older japanese philosophy used in manufacturing known as Kaizen.

@THESocialJusticeWarrior 11 лет назад

it's not a programming language. It's a project management technique.

@thePricoolas 11 лет назад

he likes to talk

@SixStringUk 11 лет назад

First we had Colin Powell telling us that kids love military-like structure and now we're told that they love living in a corporation. Feiler gives an interesting point - kids say they want parents being less stressed and tired - and then pretty much says that it's the kids' fault. And tells us how to teach children to get out of parents' way. Do what you should do without me having to tell you and there will be less screaming, and I'll be less stressed. Everyone's happy!

@ARocknRolla 11 лет назад

Since you claim not to be trolling, and a father, I'll spare a moment to enlighten you. Corporations have nothing do with it, this is a solution development strategy, most commonly used by programmers. Last I checked, programming wasn't exclusive to for-profit corporations. The whole point is to evolve gradually and often, as there are fewer growing pains and you can react quickly if things don't go as planned.

@puellanivis 11 лет назад

Uh... "waterfall" doesn't mean what you're saying it means... but yes, the system that you're talking about is way better than executives micromanaging...

@Truthiness231 11 лет назад

What are you talking about?

@paulweathers 11 лет назад

Why do I feel like I am buying a used car?

@clearmenser 11 лет назад

0:15

@Egg-Dude 2 года назад

0:15

@Dodgyboy43 11 лет назад

you just contradicted yourself with 1 sentence, well done.

@americanu197 11 лет назад

doing away with all the technical aspects of this method and how to implement it i think the point here is treat your kids as human beings not like your home appliances that you scream at when they dont work like you want them too...you wouldnt beat up or scream at your work colleagues why should you do that with your children

@StopFear 11 лет назад

I am more skeptical about this agile system than some others. Thing is families and kids have successfully produced functioning adults for centuries and no particular tradition particularly created bad societies. The speaker is trying to convince the audience that they "need " this system for their kids, but not why. Evidence that it works for all families is not given either.

@thedarkener 11 лет назад

Neither. As a father of two, I get how family life can be very stressing and time consuming. But thinking that some corporate suit knows the best way to manage a FAMILY and keep them happy together is sadly mistaking.

@luciusdark1455 11 лет назад

I have been a software engineer for 30 years. Agile doesn't work for everyone. Not everyone performs well with the team approach. Not every family member likes to be "warm and fuzzy". The goal of a family is not to make a profit or avoid problems. Love cannot exist under such structures - maybe slavery - but not love.

@MrElectricVibration 7 лет назад

It's more about enlisting the childeren themselves in the parenting process .. that this is new to parents is just ridiculous imo tho..

@BienestarMutuo 6 лет назад

As a follow-up, Harvard Business Review has a great article on this topic as a whole if anyone is interested - bit.ly/1EXcNv8

@MrRichieRichieRichie 11 лет назад

This guy is giving business advice as well as family advice, how can some of you not see this? I guess you weren't on the check list....

@cecinestpasunename 11 лет назад

Looks like it's time to turn away from my own parental philosophy of creating happy productive people by tyrannically ruling every aspect of their lives. "Oh a new philosophy on family life? What's the big secret?" "We'll ask our kids what they think and that'll make them happier to participate in family life" "Genius" "Profit"

@Truthiness231 11 лет назад

He keeps talking but he's not saying anything... he wants us to be able to easily recursively improve our family cohesion, why doesn't he say that without the 17 minutes of padding?

@Interchan 11 лет назад

Wat

@Mystery207 11 лет назад

Meanwhile the Super rich are laughing their asses off

@DSBrekus 11 лет назад

uh wut

@Cineenvenordquist 11 лет назад

Ah, yes, there is a critical problem with that in at least two ways.

@baileyk83 11 лет назад

first

@movcrit 11 лет назад

If a dumb person told you 2 + 2 = 4, is he wrong because he's dumb?

@THESocialJusticeWarrior 11 лет назад

No one uses agile to develop software so no one will use it for families either.

@MrRichieRichieRichie 11 лет назад

calm yourself mohamed

@MrRichieRichieRichie 11 лет назад

i bet you look in the mirror plenty, I bet you don't trust your reflection...

@thedarkener 11 лет назад

Are you dense, or what? Business != Family. Quite the flippin opposite. Any parents who try to incorporate a business productivity technique to improve their family life needs to check their head.