Buck Breaking Reaction...it's bad 

I lost two really close friends to the myth that white men created black gay guys to destroy the black community. Because I'm gay, they told me I wasn't even a part of the black struggle anymore. This was coming from 2 str8 dudes I'd smoked with (weed) daily for like 2 years straight, using my room as a studio or dueling each other with my old Yu-Gi-Oh! cards for hours every other day. This happened like 2018 and we haven't spoken since. Both knew of my sexuality the entire time. The hotep shit came like a virus and when the illness sank into them, they turned on me like an ice skater.

I've heard a lot of men first got interested in feminism when they had daughters. They sound like their kids are their only venue of having empathy with girls and women at all. You're the first person I hear about getting into feminism because of having sons. It seems a lot more wholesome.

Ooooooh lord. Lemme buckle in.

When he makes it big and gets his own studio room, I'm gonna miss the kitchen interruptions

I found you through Khadija Mbowe and I'm glad to say she didn't steer me wrong!

"It's real research,so they're never going to find it" bruh🤣😂

"Ya'll are fighting for Black Patriarchy. And patriarchy is not our friend." Liked on that statement alone,

I feel your pain brother. I'm 42 with a 12 Yr old son, and I'm now getting to the stage where his external influences start to outweigh whatever I tell him.

You’re so right when you say that they don’t actually want to help and uplift the black community. They really just want to lash their impotent frustration at people who they know are “weaker” than them. The way Megan Thee Stallion was treated when she was SHOT, the way her pain got turned into a joke by people was insane. Breaking the system comes from solidarity.

Love how hoteps just use straight white supremacist talking points It’s very telling

They proved to me what they were fighting for during the R. Kelly and Bill Cosby fiasco.

Replacing hatred of self with hatred of the the “other” transcends race. Talking about it can be so hard when people are opresssed and denied resources and opportunity . Thanks FD for tackling this insanely thorny issue with empathy and understanding .

You can't be pro black and not support ALL black people.

"The people who get the least out of us, are always the ones fighting the hardest for us, and we treat them like shit for it" That is basically society in a nutshell right there.

Placing the blame on weaves, black women, and the system needs to stop! It's embarrassing at this point. Take accountability for your own shortcomings. No excuses!

I am a First Nations ( you would say Native American ) old man living in Canada. I have subscribed to your channel because you discuss so many issues that also occur in my indigenous community, including the one demential portrait that is depicted In media and Hollywood of my people. I am going to find some money for you. This is important work. Homophobia and transphobia run rampant in the Native World. This is ironic because pre European contact ... Two Spirited people were revered.

What makes Tariq so vile is that, when you listen carefully, it becomes apparent that he KNOWS BETTER yet chooses to purposely misinform & manipulate. It's also what makes him so insidious. He's intelligent & informed, able to mix in fact w/ fiction, skillfully preying on the Black community by targeting our psyches where we're most vulnerable, confused, & desperate. He causes so much harm & all for his own personal benefit. A truly odious & sociopathic individual.

I'm an Asian woman from Southeast Asia so this is very far removed from my lived experience, but I've learned a lot and I've learned that I should just listen, listen, listen and learn, and your videos have given me so much to think about and reflect. Thank you for that.

Man, I feel you. Same fears, same tiredness. And it's kinda lonely. You talk to other black men about this shit...? It's like there's no way to have a conversation in good faith with those in the opposition, so you're forced to only preach to the choir so to speak.

Seeing how Marsha P is constantly used as a means to dismiss the struggle that gay and trans black people went through is so heartbreaking. How can you say youre pro something if you can even spread the love amongst each other.

I was a fan of Tariq Nasheed, Umar Johnson, and all of those hoteps 8+ years ago when I was 14 - 16. I was a young man angry at white supremacy and racial capitalism who tried to find a language for what I was feeling and how I felt. I ate up all their queerphobic trash and toxic patriarchal messages. Later on, I was so blessed to have met folks coming into young adulthood that challenged me and equipped me to critically think about the systems and environment around me, and helped me develop a language so I can understand what's going on. You have to love all black folks if you claim black power else you're a hypocrite and might as well be an agent. Thank you for this video.

Glad I came across this video. What folks don't understand is that black straight folks and black gay folks need each other. We can't truly fight for equality if the community is not united.

Growing up Latino in a Mexican family there's a lot of patriarchal things ingrained into us that is so hard to get people to disengage from. And now having a son who's 5 and a daughter on the way I really have to wrestle with how I want to raise them. How similar I want their experiences to be. How to prepare them for how the world is going to see them and then how they move through that to not falling into the traps I did growing up. Not letting certain standards define who you are and what your interests should be. A lot of emotions I want them to be able to express that my generation was taught to suppress.

Speaking as a black man who made it through the video, I appreciate your hard work. Appreciate you bro.

It wouldn't take much for them to find out that there are African cultures that are matrilineal (like mine) and that there are those that are equalitarian between the genders like the Aka tribe in the Central African Republic. These are the weakest link in our collective indeed.

Brother, let me tell you I know that fatigue. My realization to a lot of this was when my daughter was born and I had to reckon with how unkind this world is to black women and how I have participated in that. The fear of raising her was crippling for days. It is still hard but everyday I strive to make the world and myself better for her.

"I'm 39 yrs old..." Chile, when we say "black don't crack" - we really mean it! 🙌🏽

When you were talking about your detoxification process and your hopes and fears for your sons, I really got to see a bit of the real you. Thank you for that vulnerability. I wish that my father could've been more like you. I was kicked out for being gay before I was able to fend for myself or had any real knowledge of the world. Needless to say, we don't have a relationship these days. Keep on truckin'.

This is SO relevant especially after the whole DaBaby controversy going on right now and Lil NasX blowing up right now.

The intelligence and critical analysis here is refreshing. One can be a strong man without crushing anything that deviates from their definition of masculinity. There is more than one way to be a man. Gay people exist. Anyone who is so pressed about what LGBTQ+ people do in their bedrooms are usually just gay and jealy themselves. No person who has any ounce of self-confidence and is living their truth gets so bent out of shape about people with different sexual orientations.

"well -versed in the hotep arts" lol

This channel just popped up in my recommended list and this is one of those rare situations I was recommended a diamond in the rough. I look forward to catching up on all the videos I’ve missed and watching the new videos that are to come. This type of talk is what we need. No more double talk, no more excuses, no more baseless conspiracies. We need to have real conversations to get to the real heart of these matters. Salute to you for this channel and the work you’re doing.

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This is a genuinely excellent video. I'm glad I found your channel as a fellow ex-hotep. I'm a little bit younger than you and agree with 99.9% of what you said. The ONLY quibble I have is about when you talked about how hotep homophobia is not churchy. The one thing I would point out is that a big part of hotep ideology is wrapped up in biblical origin mythology (for example, the Hebrew Isrealite ideology), Kemetic spiritual revivalism, as well as in the Nation of Islam and its derivatives (5%ers etc.). The general hotep obsession with Ancient Egypt/Kemet (and that region of the world more broadly) has a lot to do with it's presence in Abrahamic religious texts. So while their homophobia may not be directly derived from Protestant theology, their playbook is DEEPLY rooted in Abrahamic ideas of gender and sexuality. It is easy to write it off as a subconscious desire for inclusion into the patriarchy, but its a bit deeper than that. There's a religious (and sometimes quasi-religious) basis for it as well that cuts across all Abrahamic religions as well as in the hotep interpretation of Ancient Egyptian religion. The only other thing you didn't talk about (and perhaps it's a subject for another video that I'd love to watch as well), is the influence of prison culture on mainstream African American culture for cis-het black men. As we understand the carceral state to be an extension of slavery, we should be aware and sensitive to the fact that a significant amount of black men have been through incarceration and, given the prevalence of rape and sexual assault in that institution (at least historically), it stands to reason that their views on homosexuality may be informed by that. I suspect that a big part of what motivates the Buck Breaking apocrypha is a desire to disclose what has happened to a significant number of black men at the hands of corrections officers (and other inmates at the tacit behest of the institution) in recent years from a "safer" historical vantage point. That is of course NO justification for queerphobia, but in addressing the homophobia I was taught growing up, I became very aware at how often authority figures constructed homosexuality as it pertained to black men as an intrinsic part of prison and how unique the prevalence of that version of homophobia was in black communities. When I have tried to help other cis-het black men address and deconstruct their homophobia, that theme always comes up; it touches a deep nerve. Because of how common incarceration is for black men, in some of us there's a crosswiring or conflation of a valid fear of sexual assault in prison with an irrational fear of LGBTQ people. It's of course incorrect, but it also presents a HUGE opportunity to build bridges and empathy. Once I cleared that part up in myself, I was off to the races (pardon the pun). LGBTQ people are not existential rapists, and they actually face an increased risk of sexual assault in prison (and in general society). I simply point out that carceral strain of homophobia because homophobia in black communities has such a unique cultural, social, and historical context which can make it harder to address if not accounted for.

If only they cared as much about providing for their families as they do about twerking. Always focused on the wrong sht. Hair, makeup, and twerking. But these are “alpha” men. 🙄 Thank you for this video. So glad it popped up for me. You come off as very genuine, intelligent, and easy going. Subscribing for more.

Wow thank you for your brilliance and greatness. I am in awe. I've been attacked by many communities for being a part of the lgbtq community. The fight found its way into my home and influential figures used their political power to try to diminish my rights. In making a long story short I didn't get the help I should have received by those in my community and family because of the mindset behind buck breaking. Watching your scholarly breakdown was healing and also helped me to realize what I felt and knew was the undercurrent biased laced in to what I experienced was absolutely real. I feel liberated as a result and strong for standing in my power. 🙏🏿

The only reason Tariq made the documentary Buck Breaking was to have an excuse for why he was watching so many videos of men twerking.

Great video! Your reasonings as to why many black men fall into this “hotep” pipeline is similar to why white men fall into the “alt-right pipeline”. There’s been channels dedicated to deradicalizing these white men through debates, education,etc I’m not sure if debates do much , but education definitely does! Keep up the good work. You’re doing the Lords work, because I don’t have the patience 😆. - 💜 Gabby

I'm glad he was honest to say he doesn't know how to fix it. You can't have salvation without confession. No confession without conviction. No conviction without admitting your faults.

🥺thanks for doing the right thing for your boys. I wish more parents would try to unpack their own issues, so they don’t pass them down.

Khadija sent me, and Im so glad. This was so REFRESHING!!!!!1 A straight black man with some empathy!

I love this take bc as a black woman who also has a black son, I think about these things as well even though I’m with his father, I still think about not repeating the same issues that society jams down our throats. Also like you I will be 39 this year and it took me through my thirties to unlearn somethings about being a woman that I was taught and picked up along the way that served me no purpose. But I will still watch the documentary, thank you for your review and also don’t be surprised if you get some men in here that are caught up in their feels and not listening to the points you were making🙄 they don’t like when someone critics their leader.

I appreciated your perspective as a cis/het-black male. It gave me a better perspective on these issues that you brought up about the homophobia in the African American community. Thank you for being open about your own experiences in the past. This helps me to have a frame of reference for a genuine perspective of these issues that were brought up in this video. Also, thank you for communicating through your video, the positives of this situation. The fact that you spoke about the people you see in your everyday life that act in a way that is welcoming to the people that may be viewed as "others" in the African American community was an uplifting sentiment to end on. I enjoyed the video.

As a Sociology major it's hard as a black person to have these types of discussions because of the cultural conditioning black people have been feed over time...I heard about the film through an ex who purchased it and I remember not wanting to even go down that road in disscus how I felt about him buying it...he considers himself pro-black but the root of his issues are with father..and he also follows this guy from the manosphere here on yt called the black authority I also dated a guy that was hotep at one time I found time as well

Loving your vids, man. The kind of empathy you project is something i sometimes feel shame for. It’s crazy how people will be so hell-bent on tearing down an argument for understanding, compassion and love. But right now i’m proud to be an ally and grateful for the education you’ve provided. Keep doin what you’re doin.

So I'm not sure if the exact audience for this. I'm in my early 20s and Zimbabwean but something about how you spoke about your fears of how you raise you sons in the overall discussions about elimating these toxic masculine ideas really hit me. I want to make sure my brother know he can be open about his emotions and not go through all the stuff I went through of never knowing how to properly express them but I don't want to make him a target.

I have a similar story to you brotha. I made the same "jokes" when I was younger. Becoming a father and husband it's hard to find the balance of what I was taught and what I want to teach them. I appreciate your work thank you

I am just going to say this; Your boys are so lucky to have you, and I hope they grow up proud, knowing their Father was someone putting real good in the world.

Girl here but your points are running through. My conversations with my dad, brothers, uncles and cousins revolve about this. The "manhood" that they have raised have changed and they have fears/anger/frustrations to work through is/was a struggle as an afrolatina can be harmful to witness. But I root for them as they root for me to be a successful human being.

Yo man, this video just did the work for me of having this discussion with the White German gay Husband of my white American best friend, about the gay community and Black people. We had a huge fight about it and got emotional, and I just shut down, but this video pretty much explains a lot of the issues of what is going on in people's heads. You just saved me from ever having to explain this again to this man, and I just want to say THANK YOU!!!

I truly applaud your work, your knowledge and insight! I wish more men, hell my husband would truly reconsider the key points you expressed on this topic💛

Tariq Nasneed's Buck status: Broken

As I expected, it sounds like they didn’t go much into what buck breaking actually was and that’s disappointing.

“Am I setting my sons up to be bullied?” After educating them, put them in mma too

Buck status: Broken lmao

Thank you for continuing to share your perspective. I'm still on a journey of self improvement and realizing my own toxicity. It's great to hear from a creator who comes from a place of growth. Great vids

My brotha you den said so much. I seriously need to do a podcast with you!!! This was a whole word and testament. I'm usually the voice in "pan-african" spaces speaking truth to what you're saying. It can be draining. I see all the sides. This is where I stand along side you!

Thank you for this. I have too many friends who have had to endure these backwards opinions from insecure straight men (and women!) who then dare to call them emotional and hysterical for trying to defend themselves. White systemic oppression hurts enough people unapologetically, but it hits even harder when it comes from your own community. Putting down someone else will never lift you up.

Dude you have framed and eloquently explained things that even I struggled to frame

Please God let this content reach the ears that need to hear it Thanks for your insightful commentary as always

You are the very perspective I've been looking for

That last 3 minutes. Talking about your fears and how you are trying to be better. That brought a fucking tear to my eye. Man thank you so much for the work that you do, you got a patreon or something

I sincerely appreciate the compassion, empathy, and deep thinking you always bring to your videos

The title should be “Buck Breaking..I watched it so you don’t have to.”😅

the recurring twerking bit is funnier than it has any right to be

9:50 "Paracelsian corpse" is the term Dr Wesley Muhammad used that you couldn't seem to find. Paracelsus's principles of similitude and contrariety stated: "To cure a disease of a certain intensity, a substance of similar nature but the opposite intensity should be administered." There's a book by Richard Sugg that goes into it in detail called: "Mummies, Cannibals and Vampires: The History of Corpse Medicine from the Renaissance to the Victorians." Humoral/Galenic and Paracelsian medical theories were the foundations of medieval European medicine. The 2006 movie, "Perfume: The Story of a Murderer" (novel by Patrick Süskind) loosely portrays these medieval beliefs of trying to take up the life force of a dying person, in the case of the movie, young women.

My boyfriend and I are highschool sweethearts. He's seen me go through my self discovery and search for knowledge on what defines my world and the world around me. I am nonbinary and just started hormones as I approach my 20s with my partner of 5 years. I was born female. But my boyfriend, although pansexual is cis, white, and from a family of privilege. That doesn't mean he didn't go through borderline traumatic events or parental neglect. He needs to see this video. Not just because of the outward commentary on buck breaking, but the message that speaks inward. I am learning what it means to be a man, woman, a human being. And this speaks volumes.

Thanks for the rundown of the deep lore of Tariq lol. I've always just known him as that weird black supremacist dude that people dunk on on twitter. That guy has a weirder life story than I thought he would. This was a really good breakdown video, will definitely check out more of your stuff in the future!

This is now one of my favorite channels. Thank you for bringing a perspective that is rarely heard or even acknowledged. You are so intelligent and articulate, I hope you are able to speak as many people as possible because it is truly edifying.

Thank you brother...this is one of the most meaningful, intellectually honest analyses that I've heard in a very long time.

This was brilliant, the 2nd incense and deep push to keep being empathetic also tickled me like hell.

Brother, thank you, Latin American born here and a lot of the reflections you have apply to our culture as well. Subbed to you for sure!

"In the last 10 years it started to truly crystalize to me that I needed to go through a process of detoxifying my understanding of what it meant to be a man" I feel that hard. I am in a similar journey right now and it's how I ended up watching your channel in the first place. I appreciate how much background and history you give in these videos. It gives a great starting point to start to understand some of the wider issues going on that I've been more or less blind to or dismissive of.

Thank you for educating yourself prior to speaking on the LGBTQ+ community. Most of us have nothing against straight men and are simply trying to live our lives in peace like everyone else. We have no agenda other than to be treated as human beings with the understanding that who we are was not and is not a choice. No one in their rational mind would make such a decision willingly.

Thank you, again for bringing sense to this whole topic. I've certainly witnessed the circling, spiraling, and straw-grasping of this particular segment of black men who will talk about anything (even extraterrestrials) before they will acknowledge or address the patriarchy. They'll talk about child support and mass incarceration til they're blue in the face but in their minds, no other truths or perspectives exist. It's sad and it does the black community a huge disservice. At any rate, I appreciate the channel and the content!

This explains a lot (white woman here for reference) I had a friend who was a straight black guy who was just like the people you were talking about. He talked constantly about wanting to "get with a girl" and "why won't girls give him a chance?" ect. I and a friend of mine once spent, I shit you not 8 hours straight trying to explain to him why his shitty attitude (we put it much nicer) wasn't helping him date and that he needed to treat women well. In one ear out the other. Honestly what made me stop talking to him was he was trying to get with me and would pull the most juvenile shit. Grabbing my ass after a hug, talking about how I was dressed nice but it was a shame I didnt have a bigger butt, talking about how the holocaust wasn't that bad because he was jealous that I spent time with another friend (I'm Jewish and he knew it). He got so toxic and drove a lot of people away. I still feel bad because when we met he was a good guy, but he just went down this path that wasn't leading anywhere good and resisted any attempt to help him. I really hope this video can help someone like him before they start going down that path.

I'm not sure how I got here but i got educated on how to look at my values in a very critical manner.

That last 7 minutes… I’ve got you by 10 years, and I completely see it. Completely. I used to get into hot fire conversations in the barber shop - not only because I didn’t want to stay silent for the insanity, but I also didn’t want my sons to hear and internalize the bullshit for themselves. All you can do is to raise your sons the right way and keep being a light. Even if that light doesn’t literally overcome all of the darkness, you’ve made it a brighter place for someone.

My view is that any time we are looking to grow as humans, and pass that growth down to future generations it can feel very lonely at times. That no one else quite sees what we're doing, let alone are looking to do it for themselves. I think that's how most projects of the self feel when we are doing them well.

My first time actually taking the time to listen to a bm content, and I must say i agree with some of your perspective on the brokenness of bm and my hope is for bm like you to mentor the younger generation bcaz it has to start somewhere. I’m subscribing to your channel to hear that you and your circle of friends will be helping these young men out here.

I'm glad I waited to hear this in two sittings. I can't take all this knowledge in at once. Hits home since I'm looking to having my first child soon.

Some of these comments smh. We gon let y'all live in fantasy land. Good luck.

as someone who had to do a lot of this sort of unlearning in secret hoping not to get caught by my mom, listening to that last section about how you're intentionally raising your kids to be emotionally intelligent and aware of systemic issues and not perpetuate them was like a massive weight off my shoulders. i plan to do the same if/when i have kids some day. it's so healing just to hear about

God I love this channel. As a white male your analysis of race lends a perspective that has been sorely absent from my life and your analysis of masculinity mirrors many of the same struggles and revelations in a parallel journey I'm starting to make. Thank you.

Thank you for putting together a well thought out analysis . Coming from you a straight black man who is married with children this will be impactful in many ways to those who can only open to hearing the critique because it’s coming from you

I loved what you said about Marsha P. Johnson, I feel like that really needs to be said! Great video!

You're a talented man, F.D. Please keep on doing this. And like with your Breaking Bread video - you talk about the importance of understanding other points of view and not alienating people you disagree with by denigrating them/ yelling at them. I can't imagine a better/ more realistic way of reaching the people you want to reach than doing what you're doing at the moment. This is all good. Really, really good.

Dude!!!!! Much love to you and yours. Thanks for making this content in this way. On conversation at a time, we can be all more connected.

TN is only interested in making money from the broken men in black society. And it's so true what you say about patriarchy being at the core of a lot issues we're dealing with in society. This was a fantastic discussion and hit the nail on the head so many times. You're not alone on this....and I hope you get your rest 😊👌🏾

you (as usual!) handled a batch of really complex and sensitive issues extremely well. i think your into in the way that you state your own personal experience in navigating black masculinity as well as sometimes the mindset of toxic masculinity especially stands out as a great way of establishing the topics and your knowledge of them. it's always interesting and informative to listen to people speaking from experience and observation. black men are treated differently and often worse than white men, so the feeling and experience of being dehumanized/ oversexualized or in general having power and autonomy being policed and ripped away is very real. it's just, as you say, the fault of white/ patriarchal/ imperial systems and not the fault of a decline in the forced subservience and silence of black women and lgbt people.

Viking obsessed white supremacists and Egyptian obsessed black supremacists are identical in their damage and response to it. Feeling a sense of connection to people from a deeply mythological take on a culture is a popular bandage for badly wounded selves. Cosplay is fun tho I get it

Yo bro I found you when the Burnham video dropped! I've gone through your whole catalog since then. Also watched the live last night! I don't know how I missed this video but man, You are doing the damn Thang!!! I have 2 little girls and I can't tell you how much the last few mins of this video spoke to me. Keep up the great work! And all the recommendations! I found Kadijah ❤️ after going through your videos! I could keep going on but I'll stop. You're an inspiration! In Solidarity

I'm so glad that this video exists, when it comes to media that push this much bs, we need intelligent responses to say the obvious for those who don't see through the hate.

Always nice to hear from someone with a good, reasonable head on their shoulders. I've been very curious about this film series and this is a great objective summary.

Coming from a lack of understanding and seeking to understand... much much appreciated for the explanation! 100% agreed that work, education, and empathy are key. Can't imagine the complexity of life that black men have to deal with in the US and abroad. Everyone has to deal with life but damn...I'm looking forward to when its not such a struggle between trivial divisions...we're all brothers and sisters. Thank you for doing what you do!

I’m so glad I found this Chanel. It’s so refreshing to see a black man like this and I wish more men and boys had someone like you around or to look up to as a figure

I'll be honest, watching commentary about subjects like these (even if they're so well articulated and soothing as yours) gets me so riled up I can't get through it sometimes. I can't stand hoteps, it's so ironic that the oppressed want to use the same extremist tactics of those who oppress them. Commenting for algorithm though

Bruh, I watched ALL of this video! Absolutely brilliant & insightful! I have 2 daughters and continue to shut up, listen, and teach myself the diabolical lessons of Patriarchy and strive to be a strong, loving, & supportive father!

Thank you for speaking about this. As a white gay man I am a passionate ally to my black LGBTQ family and the intersectionality of these two marginalized groups. I really respect that you brought up the gaslighting and erasure of black queer people to sway rhetoric. Marsha P. Johnson is a revolutionary and amazing icon that WAS A TRANS WOMAN, A WOMAN, I cannot stand the disrespect her name gets.

I love your page man, The RU-vid algorithm is a thing of beauty.