Melanie Murphy society doesn't tell you to get back into your skinny jeans. It's a free market you can purchase whatever you want. High self-esteem is great but obesity and unhealthy weight gain are linked with higher mortality and weight related disease. Encouraging proper nutrition & exercise will result in greater self esteem.
at the five minute mark of this video, when you were talking about that kind of thrilling feeling of losing weight, it really gave me insight as to how my eating disorder started. I remember the first time I noticed my body changing; the exact flip side to this happened to me, where I suddenly fitted into smaller clothes that I hadn't before. It just plants that seed of awareness. I went from being somebody who had never considered diets or their body to being overwhelmingly excited about this whole world of control and achievement- and a few months later I was inpatient on an eating disorder unit and fighting for my life. That little initial thought of 'but *secretly* skinny is better..." is an eating disorder in the making and can trigger the descent down a really slippery slope. V. happy to see you two being aware of this and spreading the message: IT. IS. SO. DANGEROUS. Be wary. !!!
Yes, this! I always considered myself the kind of person that would never get an eating disorder (eventhough that's nonsense, everyone is potentially susceptible when put in the wrong situation) because I love, love food and I've generally been happy with my body. But then, after a bad depressive episode in which I didn't eat enough, I suddenly - for the first time in my life - lost a noticable amount of weight. That voice, which had apparently always been there in the background, became really loud, convincing me that I looked so much better now. Skinny WAS better, I was prettier and worthier and all that nasty shit that isn't true, but felt true at the time. Because of this I started eating EVEN less with the express purpose of losing more weight - eventhough the initial weight loss had been unhealthy and for unhealthy reasons and I fully understood that. I teetered on the edge of a full blown eating disorder. I started associating being hungry with something possitive. It actually felt bad - emotionally and physically - to be full. I was very lucky that I was already in therapy for something unrelated and my therapist helped my through it. If not for that help, I'm pretty sure I'd be in very bad shape now. I still struggle with that nasty voice and sometimes I still think not eating is better than eating and that losing weight is valuable in and of itself, but every time that happens I call myself out on it. I remind myself that being healthy is more important than being skinny and that being skinny does not equal being beautiful and that it has nothing to do with your intrinsic worth (a connection my head started making that it never had (openly) before). It's a terrifying slippery slope which needs to be talked about. I always thought I was 'safe' from eating disorders until I found myself on that slope and heading downwards. All because of that stupid voice I hadn't realized was so deeply ingrained in me (a vocalization of damaging thoughts society has fed us all). Many of us have such a voice, lurking unnoticed, and it can be really dangerous when it starts to gain the foreground. Talking about it will help people become aware when they are entering the danger zone, so they can (hopefully) stop themselves in time and/or get the proper help.
M Mic I absolutely adore how you have worded this; it is so articulately put. You have got to the crux of it: that there is a scary grey area between normal, 'skinny' thoughts and 'eating disorder' and that none of us are immune to it spiralling out of control. (screenshotting this)
I'm a size 12 (UK) and I wore a crop top for the first time and went to the pub, this is such a massive achievement for me. I was sick of not being confident and sick of restricting myself, now I feel comfortable to wear anything, just do it and you won't look back. Hannah has given me a lot of confidence from her pictures on twitter!💞
This has majorly helped me. I have anorexia and have gained back to a healthy weight. It's hard for me to accept this new healthy body and constantly want my old unhealthy body. This has helped me just accept it. Thank you xxx
Emily Chiswell I don't know if its weird to say this to a stranger online, but congrats with getting a healthier body and positive results! You have a difficult diagnosis and you fight it. I hope you give yourself credit for that :) Good luck with the struggle! I hope you continue your progress :)
A bit late, but if you could just accept it, is it possible that it isn't really anorexia? Not meaning to be mean or something. But when a person would say, "i used to be depressed but then i accepted being happy and it stopped." Not saying that you didn't have an eating disorder, but anorexia is a mental disease that you imo cant "just accept."
Congratulations!! As someone who is stuck in a stage of anorexia where I absolutely can’t break the habits, I would love some tips if any of you guys can help
The thing Melanie said about when she was her "goal" weight and still wasn't happy really hit home with me. I used to be a size 4 and sometimes verged on a size 2 and then my third year of uni hit and I went up to a size 8 and I struggled so much with it, still struggle with it to be honest. I'm very aware size 8 is a small size and I would never think that was big on anyone else in any shape or form, but when I looked in the mirror or tried on my old clothes I just felt like a big ol' blob. But thinking about it I wasn't any happier at my smallest size, I still had so many issues with my body and I think I would at any size, it's really cool seeing this topic come up more recently because it's showing everyone goes through this and we should all just love and accept ourselves. Just spewing my thoughts onto to the comment section. Loved this video, you both look absolutely gorgeous xx
I was so happy once I started to gain weight at about 18 ish because I'd spent my entire teenage years being boarder-line underweight due to stress and poor mental health etc. Like Hannah I feel much better when I'm naked and I really believe in the power of being nude, especially in non-sexual situations because I think you learn to just accept you body as a body and not an object for others enjoyment. Thanks so much for this video such an important issue!!!
I've gained like 10 kg over the last year and struggle a lot about my body and it affects my confidence. I had people who I haven't seen in a long time making remarks about my weight gain and it made me feel really shitty. That video really helped me, it isn't always easy to accept yourself the way you are, but seeing the beauty in others and find out they struggle with similar problems, gives me hope that I can see the beauty in myself again someday. Thank you so much, you are both incredible and truly beautiful women ♥
I just want to say thank you for this video because since being in hospital for my mental health, I have been taking medication to stabilise my symptoms and one massive side effect was weight gain. I have gone from a size 8 to a size 12/14 in less than a year and this video really encouraged me to love my body shape and size and also I now have an excuse to buy new clothes. (silver lining right). It has taking me a little while but I've started to realise that despite gaining weight, for me being mentally stable takes priority. So thank you both so much for helping me realise this. All my love. XXX
Yessss THIS. I'm 27 and have gone from size 10 to a size 12-14 in the last two years (so since I turned 25 but also since I got the contraceptive implant.) The hardest thing for me was that I was absolutely broke so couldn't just get new clothes in the summer- I got one h&m midi skirt that fitted and wore it til it was holey! This year I actually have money for once so got a bunch of nice clothes that fit AND went on holiday and felt great!
I've gained over a stone in the past year since being in a new relationship (we both have) and i've been beating myself up over how i look in clothes and like Hannah said about old clothes that used to fit but don't anymore. I didn't realise it but needed this video so badly! Thankyou!
Two beautiful ladies. It is weird because you make a video every week and so watching I don't tend to notice the changes and then i recently watched your Drunk Advice playlist and it is amazing how different you look in some of the older videos. I wouldn't say you look "better" in either the older or newer videos, just different. Being attractive is not really about how you look though and more to do with confidence and you've always been a very confident person on camera anyway. By the way i caught you on BBC Radio Five today and thought you did very very well.
I haven't weighed myself in SOOO long. I stopped weighing myself sometime in High School when I started playing sports. According to the scale I was gaining a lot of weight but I felt fine. I eventually stopped checking. I don't track my weight anymore. I track my diet and how I feel pre and post physical activity. I feel like tracking numbers (weight/ calories) is misleading and impedes progress.
Thank you for saying you wont restrict your diet! That is something I have decided personally. I just discovered that the combination of exercising like a fiend and eating whatever I want (to clarify, I do eat healthy food, my leafy greens, but I also eat ice cream and pasta) makes me feel the happiest in my body and lifestyle. And now I am noticing more like, oh, I'm not really losing size, but I'm gaining tons of muscle, and I feel stronger and more energized.
SO WEIRD! I'm exactly where you are! I've gained weight but naked I thought I looked the same! It was when I was trying on clothes when realized I was bigger than before. It's nice to hear you talk about it! I know that everyone has "weight problems" but hearing someone actually talk about literally exactly what I'm going through is so comforting! so thank you both xx
I have such an odd relationship with my body; part of me is happy with it as it's not 'awful' and there are parts that I like and for everything it puts up with, it's doing well. But there will ALWAYS be that voice that says "remember when you had the brain haemorrhage and didn't eat for two weeks and got so slim? We looked better like that" and I didn't, it was horrible and I lost a lot of face weight so looked particularly gaunt and I find it so toxic that that voice is still here. Videos like this really put things into perspective💗✨
As someone who's also gone over a mark I set (albeit a dumb, unhealthy mark motivated by ED-thoughts), this video is extremely encouraging. It takes a while to accept your body when it's changing, but I feel this video is a big help
This was exactly what I needed, I've noticed that I've gained a lot of weight in university but I've come to realise that I'm just growing up and growing into my body more! 16 year old me was obviously slimmer because I was genuinely smaller and it took me so long to realise and accept this! You girls are absolute goals and maaaan I fancy Melanie so much
Thank you SO MUCH for making this video!! I feel like no one talks about weight gain and body changes throughout life being normal and okay. The messaging especially to women is that weight gain is bad and you need to get back into those old clothes to be healthy. It is so refreshing and affirming to see you two putting out this more positive message instead!!!! I went through the same thing and gained weight in my 20s, enough to make none of my clothes fit. All the messaging around me was telling me I'd done something wrong and needed to get the weight off but you're so right--JUST BUY NEW CLOTHES. I didn't know that these body changes for 20something women were normal for so long. I can't tell you how much I appreciate this video. ❤️❤️❤️
I definitely used to hate myself when I was in puberty and being bullied didn't help it at all, and then suffered Anorexia for 2 years because of my self-hatred. Body positivity and learning body confidence has helped me so much in accepting my body. I have fat on me, but that fat is a part of me and I wouldn't change it for the world. I have bought a new bikini for this summer because I am allowed to wear a bikini. Everyone has different bodies and that is what makes us unique and amazing. Thankyou for making this video and for being so honest xx
I am so so happy to see this video! I've just finished my first year of uni and the Freshers 15 (more like the freshers 20) left me feeling so insecure. I no longer knew how other people saw me and I was even struggling to know how to act around people because I felt my newfound chub would change the way everything I did came across. The people around me say that they don't notice a difference, but I definitely can: I don't see myself in the mirror anymore. The most frustrating part is being unable to change my diet because I'm in catered accommodation. Seeing this video has been so comforting and reassuring!! I'm definitely now going to focus on trying to love the way I look now, rather than hiding away until I lose weight. Its so good to know that other people out there experience the same thing. Thank you!
I loved your blog post and this video is such a good expansion on the subject! I haven't gained a significant amount of weight and I feel I've looked the same since I was like 15 (so for 9 years) but looking at old pics I've realized my body has changed. I've become an adult (such a shock, I know). Now that I've realised the change I feel like I could finally be more confident about my body. But I've still got a long way to go and videos like this really help me on this journey. So thank you ♡
so true!! i'm going through this rn and the biggest thing i think when buying new clothes is to shift my mind from "oh no how terrible am i these clothes don't fit me" to "well what a shame this brand doesn't make clothes that fit my body individually, they're not going to get my money" bc at the end of the day my body is worthy! and maybe i don't fit into a 10 or a 12 or a 14 properly, but that's not a reflection on me, that's a reflection on an industry that doesn't create clothes for every woman
It is so weird. She is a size bigger than me and I always look at her thinking If only I was as skinny as her even though I am a little taller. It is so weird what your mind makes you feel.
Becky Porter Not necessarily "big," but the two countries size things completely differently. I remember having to buy a size 14 on a trip to London once as a teen. I cried not understanding there was a difference, and the lady in the boutique had to explain it to me. Traumatic to a young girl with body image hangups!
REALLY needed this video in my life right now! Gained the weight back that I lost during a toxic relationship and have had difficulty adapting to it. Gonna root out the positives of it instead of worrying that my jeans don't fit anymore x
Hannah, I’m totally with you. In school days, I was so much more active. I’ve always eaten whatever I want whenever I want and if I thought I weighed too much, I’d just exercise more. But getting older makes it so much harder to be active as often as I want to be
I posted this on melanies channel as well, so sorry for the repeat comment, but I think you are both amazing so wanted both of you to see this!! xxx I have recently started a channel and I talk about my disability in quite a frank way. I have watched your videos for ages, and think you talk about issues that are seen as taboo or embarrassing in such a wonderful and empowering way. I took inspiration from this honesty when creating my disability videos. I have a condition which means I can’t eat or drink, use a wheelchair and have heart issues. I also talk about books on my channel, as that is my absolute passion. Thank you so much for the inspiration and your bravery at talking about the real issues. I have really struggled over the past few months as I don’t really have many friends anymore. They have moved on with their lives away from me. RU-vid has been an amazing way to feel a part of something again. On a second note - YOU ARE BOTH AUTHORS! I am so happy to say that I have Hannah’s book ready to read on my shelf and am SO READY for Melanie’s book to come out. I can’t wait to give my reviews on them and am so ridiculously happy that they exist. Love you both so much. I’m putting this on both channels on second thoughts, so you will both see it 😊 ❤
I seem to see your comments everywhere haha, we must have similar tastes 😊 Although haven’t watched this channel for a while, I just rediscovered it as it popped up in my recommendations!
I seriously need friends like you guys. Makes me feel so much better about my body and the way I am at the moment, and even a little hopeful for the future! I want to make a run at going pro in tennis because a few years ago I used to be really competitive. I definitely need to get stronger and fitter to achieve my goals, but seeing you guys chat about this topic makes me really just want to work hard and love my body :)
This was posted at the perfect time. Thank you so much for making this video! I've struggled with my body for so long even though I do exercise and surround myself with body positive people online. I actually just got my wisdom teeth out, so I haven't been able to exercise and I've been so afraid that I've gained weight, this video made me feel much better about everything. I really can't thank you enough!
As an eating disorder survivor, this was really helpful. A lot of people don't realize that recovery can mean being heavier than you were BEFORE your illness. I always assumed I would just return to my "normal" size, which is pretty slender. Now I have a bit more meat on my bones, more curves...learning to love them is a process.
ImpossibleGirl1993 what you are saying is only partialy true. Weight is a deciding factor for cardiovascular disease and so on. But as long as you are not obese or very over- weight knock yourself out.
Thank you so much for this video. I'm currently going through this and I've experienced rapid weight gain over the last few weeks. It's so painful when I can't fit into my favourite clothes that fit me perfectly only a month ago. You've made me realise that there's no point crying over it anymore and obsessively trying to lose the weight, and instead I should accept it and enjoy creating a new wardrobe :) xxxx
I feel this so strongly, especially with the bit at the beginning about clothes not fitting. It sucks so much more than just realizing there's gain. Clothes and photos are what get me so much.
Love this Hannah! I think its really important to keep this conversation going, I personally feel a tiny bit insecure but watching you talk so openly and confidently about this is really inspiring, I love watching you grow and learn while you document it! Keep it up!!!☺️x
Believe me I feel you. I've been overweight my whole life (currently 18) and I feel like fighting every day. I'm not desperate or anything but I'm not happy either. And everyone who says just lose the weight shut up because it's definitely not that easy. Anyways I am determined to win that fight within the next few years.
You guys are great. As a dad, with a teenage daughter, the opportunity she has to see amazing people, like yourselves, talk frankly about real issues is greatly appreciated. Thank you n rock on
I love this video!!! My weight goes up and down a lot and I have such trouble keeping my self-esteem stable when this happens. You both look so beautiful and the fact that you have confidence no matter what you look like is so inspiring to me. Genuinely, this is so great for girls to see. xoxo
YAS SLAYYYYY QUEENS!!! I'm so glad you made this video because I struggle with my body image, and I try and tell myself that as long as I'm actually healthy I'm fine. But I still look in the mirror and dislike my reflection. So even though my bmi is healthy, I feel like I just don't trust it. I got very upset a while ago because I couldn't fit into an old top, but then my mum reminded me that I'm just a teenager and my body is just changing which is normal and happens throughout your life anyway. Something important to remember is that as long as you are happy and healthy, you are absolutely fine. If you do need to lose/gain weight for medical reasons, you need to do so safely. Also there are so many different body types, like there's not one set healthy image.
This sounds weird but for me giving other people compliments (that aren't shape related, but like hair, eyes, style etc.) and commenting on how healthy and happy they look improves my own body image. When you realise it's so easy to see others in a beautiful light you sort of hope people do the same to you and the pressure is off :)
Hannah, when you and Melanie talked about following people who are positive about their body it occurred to me that's exactly why I subscribed to your channel. I have recently come across your videos and watched some episodes of your hormone diary, your operation, your photoshoot, and other things. I know you filmed this video more than a year ago, and you've been through a lot in the past year but I really admire how confident and positive you appear about everything. I just wanted to say thank you :)
this is the BEST video!! I can 100% relate to setting a goal weight which you don't want to go over. I've been struggling with my weight for a while now and have recently went over that weight. this video made me realise how silly that is. just LOVE this video! positivity only ❤️
Melanie Murphy and Hannah Witton This is just what I needed! About a year ago, I was at the heaviest weight I've ever been. I had gained about 50 lbs from senior year of high school to the start of my first year at college. Then I gained about 10 lbs that year as well. It was definitely an unhealthy weight gain and I didn't even notice it happening at the time. I always wore leggings senior year and at the end of the winter time and I had to put shorts on again, none of them fit me. I am currently at the end of my sophomore year and since then I have lost about 20 lbs, healthily, by not doing extreme dieting but by trying to eat healthier foods and moving more. This past semester I studied abroad in Ireland actually and walked EVERYWHERE. I am trying not to focus on numbers, but it can be hard. All I know is I want to be healthy, not feel guilty that I'm still 40 lbs heavier than I had been for five years of my life. Bodies change and I need to get it in my head that that is okay. My body is meant to change and adapt. It's just helpful to know that two strong women that I look up to and love to watch on RU-vid also share this struggle. I love you both very much, you are both beautiful inside and out! One tip I've learned during my body positivity journey is to, like Melanie said, follow people on social media that are positive and real bodies, but especially those who seem to have a similar body type to your new body type! I followed iskra Lawrence for a while and love her so much, but she has perfect abs and I realized that since my 'problem' area is my stomach that I should focus on following people who have equal or more rolls than me. Also, sometimes just doing a social media detox is helpful! And sleeping in the nude has actually been scientifically proven to boost confidence!
I watched this video when it first came out. I've now been on the pill for just over a month and I have gained so much weight in such a short period of time that it is really upsetting. I suffer from anxiety and depression and prior to going on the pill I had a lot of trouble with eating enough food and lost a lot of weight. And now I haven't had any time to adjust because I have gained weight so quickly and it's really freaking me out. I really want to buy new clothes so that I am not so subconscious about it but I am a student who is between jobs so I don't have the money to buy new clothes. And I'm so aware of it. I know I'm kind of shouting into the void at the moment. But thank you Hannah and Mel for your open discussion in this video and also everything you talk about on both your channels. You are huge inspirations to me. Much love x
im currently 6 months pregnant and am really struggling with the huge changes my body is going through, I fully understand its all for the benefit of my baby. However, putting on weight in places you never thought you would and getting cellulite and stretch marks is hard to come to terms with. I am also very small I am 5ft 2 and I feel like I'm just getting wider. I hate feeling unappreciative of what my body is doing however it is still so hard!
Only a couple of mins in but YES YES YES it's crazy how above size 10 is branded 'curvy' or 'plus size' when the average women's dress size is a 16 in the UK!
Size 16 in the UK is size 12 American/Canadian and it is not very big. You can't make a blanket statement like that because size 12/16 looks different on everyone depending on height and body shape. Someone can be a size 12/16 and be super athletic and fit but "overweight" according to your standards? Clothing size is manufactured and changes on the whims of designers, so judging health and weight based on clothing size is bullshit.
I cannot thank you both enough for all that you guys do for promoting a balanced lifestyle. I'm constantly being told by others that I'm their ideal weight. Although I'm a size 8 I'm so so insecure about my body and no amount of body positive posts or videos seem to help. It truly is about getting into the mindset of "I am healthy and totally normal"
I needed this so much. Ive done the same the last 18 months, especially the not noticing and loving myself naked! The hardest part for me has been the well-meaning comments from people who knew me before the weight gain, but the fact so many people haven't even noticed (or cared) has helped. Thankyou for putting my feelings into a video that I can replay while I enjoy looking at my boobs and thighs in the mirror!
I love this video and I adore you two. You bounce off each other so well in videos and you both put out truly inspiring messages. Please collab more!!!!!
This is so awesome! I'm involved in the body-positive / eating disorder recovery world and I really really appreciate this so I've shared it on Facebook. It's such a great example of a positive and realistic outlook! Thank you for speaking up about this and stressing all the important points and leaving out all the negative ones (like shame etc). Awesome role-models, truly!!!
currently dealing with some recent weight gain and mental health struggles following my first year at uni. i so, so needed this right now. thank you gals, you're always amazing!xx
I'll say that I'm confident in my body because intellectually I know that I am medically at the right weight, but I'll see the tiny bit of Pudge at my belly that very slightly overlaps my the waist band of my jeans and instantly say "I need to lose the weight." and that's NOT healthy. I've tried every trick in the book for body confidence but seriously I don't know what to do so that I truly feel good in my body. Should I just give it time? is that how it works?
CaptainAverageGirl it takes time to uncondition the way we have been conditioned by societies 'ideal' look. We all have those rolls and bumps and it's ok. It takes a while to undo that damage so be kind to yourself. When you catch yourself thinking those thoughts, pause, be kind to yourself and remind yourself this is normal
It definitely takes time!!!!! I'm 23 and it only 'clicked' with me about a year ago. I found that getting angry helped me lol - as in I followed and looked into so much body positivity stuff and into the diet industry and really got on board with thinking about how we only have these notions of what a healthy/good body looks like because these huge corporations make money out of us when we're unhappy with ourselves. And all the unrealistic beauty standards for women and how we're conditioned from a young age to care so strongly about our appearance etc etc... I really agreed with everything I was reading and suddenly one day it just CLICKED and I don't feel 100% happy with my body all the time but I feel comfortable and see weight gain as something I can change if I want or I could just leave it - depends how I feel. Sorry for such a long rambling comment lol - basically I think just keep going with it and it'll fall into place for you :)
CaptainAverageGirl I'm not trying to be rude but if you can say things like the little bit of skin I have or tiny bit of pudge...And I like my body but the whole medically over weight thing is a joke.....i am 5 '8 and under weight. but "medically " I am obese. And that is incorrect lol so don't be so hard on yourself I bet your gorgeous. every woman has their dislikes about their body .
Something that helped me accept that little pudge was when I found out from a sex ed teacher that that little pudge is caused by the uterus leaning slightly "outwards", so it is actually just a part of our intestines pushing on our inner belly and causing that pudge. That is also the reason it's so hard to get rid of, and when I learned this I felt a lot better about my body, 'cause it is just a part of how I'm made.
The shopping advice helps so much honestly, I bought new jeans over the winter that fit me so perfectly and I almost cried in the dressing room I was so happy. I felt normal and comfortable in my body. I try not to keep clothes that I swear I'll fit into one day because I never do and they worsen my depression. If I lose the weight and need new clothes I'll look for new ones
I've struggled with body positivity and confidence for years and there's so much of this video that resonated with me. In those moments when I'm struggling, I try to remind myself of his quote: you can't hate yourself into loving yourself. :)
This was amazing to me because it's been a long time I've seen people that look like me on a video. I feel comfortable in my body and I love it, but having other people share that confidence and self-love as well is lovely and means a lot. Thank you.
PS, I also spend time naked to feel better. Another thing that was very helpful, one time I searched pictures of old erotica and seeing those women with lots of hair and rolls everywhere being sexy af, it was like switching off the harmful "only skinny and hairless is pretty", which btw is fairly new in the history of humanity.
when i went to romania last summer i was on a ten day thing with a charity, so there was lots of walking, on my feet, barely sleeping, in an unfamiliar environment and just not eating much (it was still the best time ever, just not the healthiest in retrospect!) but anyway i lost SO much weight because i was majorly sweating it out but not putting in any calories. i've always been a "curvy" size 12, my body type is just big thighs big boobs and a bit of jiggle BUT i was being told i looked like i'd lost weight and i looked really slim and i was absolutely revelling in it. i had to put an extra hole in my belt to hold up my favourite pair of jeans and i love it, because my legs actually looked skinny in the way i wanted! BUT, since last august i've obviously just gained it all back, because obviously this is my natural weight and body type?! but i still get upset when i can't do up my belt to the last hole, so although it felt great, it's actually given me a really unrealistic version of myself to compare it to!
its because of you that i've been feeling a whole lot more confident, and i've been in the exact same situation, where i've gained weight but not really noticed because i look the same! so thank you so so much, it means a lot to have a role model who is so similar in height and outlook and weight
Great video from two of my favourite RU-vidrs :) I have a pretty bad relationship with weight and binge eating because of my family, and my weight fluctuates a lot. This is mostly because of my chronic illness flare ups and medications, but it's especially shit because I associate losing weight with serious illness and I associate gaining weight with all of the negative horrible things from my family's toxic obsession with weight. One time I was hospitalised with something serious, had surgery and couldn't eat for a few weeks. The first thing my grandma said to me was that it was a good thing it happened because I lost so much weight and looked so good. My family equates being skinny with being healthy, successful, and happy. So thank you for making this video and being a positive voice on this topic. It's something I try to fight against daily to love my body no matter what. I like what you said about finding clothes to fit how you are, rather than trying to fit into what you used to be able to. I have a huge wardrobe with heaps of sizes to try and feel good in what I'm wearing whether I'm a size 8 or a 16. Thank you
Hannah, you and your friend are absolutely GORGEOUS!!! You are what women should aspire to look like and you both are breath taking...!!! Forget this "self esteem" BS and enjoy your beauty. If a guy is going to like you, he's going to like YOU...not You minus 10 pounds. So, stop the silliness and enjoy your beauty. -- You both are simply stunning!!!
as someone who has recovered from anorexia and having gone from a size 4/6 to now being a size 12 I can whole heartedly relate to the clothes thing, it took me a year post 'weight restoration' to throw away all my skinny clothes. It's such a self destructive thing to compare your past self with your self now. The one thing I can't relate to and hope to one day is the thinking I still look good now I've gained wait and learning to love my body. thank you so much for making this video, you're so bloody gorgeous and thanks for showing that you can be happy, healthy & confident!!
Really nice to hear two young women talking about body image positively and honestly as well! I think that there can't be enough videos like this in the world.
Hannah your Channel gives me LIFEEEE ! this wardrobe full of things that MIGHT fit me some day is such a big problem that I have ! It felt so great getting rid of all the stuff that reminded me of 'skinnier days' and made me constantly sad. Love your videos keep it up gurrrrl ❤️🔥
How did I miss this?! I love this so so so much. That "being ill and losing weight" is the worst mentality that I've had before, also restricting myself to feeling faint. This is great. Thank you.
OMG!!!!!! Finally a relatable video! I feel fab naked and clothes just through that out the window..! I look stubby and fat in clothes and have to buy bigger sizes because of my boobs than my friends which really puts me down..!
Tbh clothes sizes are generally crap anyway!! I fit like 4 different sizes depending what shop I'm in! Maybe try and work out what it is makes you feel best about being naked and try to accentuate that body part/etc with different types of clothes! You're perfect how you are :)
Thank you, both your videos were so goooodddd :) love when you do videos together!!! I had anorexia when I was younger and I think you are never really recovered from it... But your positivity is so infectious, it helps a lot
Oh my GOD i needed this video! I recently have just come off the pill for mental health reasons and I got an IUD inserted, so of course I've put on extra weight. I've been really struggling the past few months to maintain my confidence but I've felt so down about it and honestly having unhealthy thoughts. So thank you ladies for making this video at a perfect time in my life! You have no idea how much it even helped knowing other people have gone through and are going through the same. This really helped! xx
I hate being naked with a passion. My view of my looks is that they are what they are. I just want to be fit and strong rather than thin, so I'm exercising and clean eating and feel so much better! 😃
Being confident in ur body is very important. Maybe start sleeping naked or reading naked in ur bedroom to build up confidence. It doesn't have to be sexual just do it so ur mind associates positive things with being naked.
That's amazing! I'm super proud of you! I love body positivity but to me that also includes not harassing people for wanting to (healthfully) change their body or improve their physical health. I decided to do the same thing a few months ago because I suddenly noticed I had put on about 20 pounds since I last weighed myself (I was in college and eating junk food all the time, as you do), so I decided I was going to finally start taking care of myself and gently dieting. I lost about 6-7 pounds and now I deleted my fitness app and decided I've reset my eating habits enough that I'm no longer dieting, just trying to get my share of veggies along with my Mac and cheese, and take walks regularly, and beyond that I'm gonna be happy of my rockin' curves. :) best of luck in your endeavors!
Mrs. Turner Well done to you too! It's not easy initiating a change! I'd wanted to do it for so long but it wasn't until I found Sarah's day that I actually committed to it! Funny what motivates you! I feel so much better and can't imagine life without yoga now ☺
I'm from Melbourne Australia and I live in a small beach town and I walked past the local bookstore and saw your book in the window!!!! It's everywhere! You must be so proud, congrats ❤️
Thank you so much for talking about this!!! You made me feel better about myself. I wish there were more people like you. You both have a beautiful mind and are just wonderful people. I hope you know that you inspire and help a lot of people. Don't know what I would do without the support and courage you're giving me. I have gained a lot of weigh recently and this is helping me realize it's okay. Hope you're having fun.
honestly this was so good. i'm not mega overweight, but i'm over what i should be medically, and i'm thinking of starting to go for a run a couple of times a week, and doing some lazy yoga shit when i feel up to it. i also started sleeping naked because of the heatwave we had in the uk last week, but i've just kinda... carried on? so, like, do stuff naked i guess. also, men's boxers are really comfy, try them :)
This was such a helpful video!! I recently lost about 3-4 inches off my waist and I'm trying to learn to be happy with my progress instead of beating myself up because I'm not doing better, so thank you so much for this video!!💜
I've had anorexia since I was 16. I am now 20 and getting back to a healthy weight. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS VIDEO, it really helps killing the voices in my head. Love you both
I absolutely LOVED this video!! 😍 Such a candid and important discussion to be had, and I really appreciated how honest the two of you were about the sort of emotional roller coaster that comes with any kind of weight gain/loss. And, might I say - Hannah, I've looked to you for quite some time now as a role model of inner and outer health and beauty, and it's been so helpful for me to see all of the various nuances of your overall wellness journey that you've gone through and will continue to go through in a manner that's so poignant and honest. Once again, I loved the video and am sending positive thoughts to you both!! 💕
So happy that you're talking about this. I'm trying to become more comfortable with my body and i find you absolutely gorgeous and hearing you talk about this helps me so much x
Honestly, it's just so helpful to see your role models that you think are so confident and have the same ideals as you dealing with the same issues as you as well. I gained a bit of weight and was feeling shit in two ways cause I didn't like my new body but also felt guilty for not feeling/practicing the body positivity that I preached. This has just been super insightful and helpful, thank you ladies :)
I randomly came across your page a few days ago and I am now hooked on your videos!! This one strikes me the most because I struggle with body confidence I am just under 5ft and struggle with the fact all my weight is on my stomach but I don't feel mentally that I am that big until I wear clothing and have to size up because shops are reducing their sizing etc I have started to take compliments it does take time but it's lovely to see others who also struggle regardless of their size and body shape. Thanks for this
There's something wrong with a society when goddesses like these two, or anyone who is healthy and vital, are made to feel uncomfortable with themselves. Be strong, because the positivity will come if you surround yourself with people who see the truth.
Very funny that I'm the opposite of you Hannah, I'm taller than the average girl. I am 5' 9" and I hate it because I feel like a ginormous beast all the time. I wish I was small, petite and cute stature like how I feel women are supposed to be.
Alison D hi :) i don't think women have to look a certain way every women ist just so beautiful and so unique and in my opinion you are beautiful too just the way you are
Love the video! You both are so positive and it helps me a lot. Being a fat girl (withmany, many health problems), I've struggled with my body a lot. I didn't wear skirts, short sleeves, antything that showed my figure, fat rolls etc. Then, a couple of years ago I finally came to terms with the fact that I am how I am. Started being more confident, wearing nice clothes, doing make up and accepting compliments. A year ago I started gaining weight and again I'm feeling very insecure. There are weeks that I feel rubbish, hate my body and can't be bothered wearing anything else than sweatpants and a hoodie. I'm trying really hard to get my confidence back and believe my loved ones that I'm beautiful.
Ive found the best way for me to be comfortable in my body is through fashion, and finding clothes that are both comfortable and look good on me. Ever since Ive figured out what type of clothes are good for my body, what stores I like etc, and forget about sizes Ive been so much happier. And that is all supplemented by eating healthy and exercising as often as possible (though I have the same struggle as you, trying to find time in adult life ugh). But Im totally in favor of getting rid of clothes that dont fit right. Im in the process of doing that right now. I try to do it a few times a year. Its such a liberating process
I needed this video. I'm 16 and my weight is all over the place 😂 I was dieting for so long but I'm in the middle of my GCSEs so I just decided to fuck it. I need to be happy during exams so now I eat whatever the fuck I want
You both look incredible! What you two are discussing is incredibly important, and not talked about enough. Society causes this kind of excessive self-awareness about how we appear. I used to weigh 234 pounds, and ended up gradually getting down to 145 after about just over a year. That was more than a year ago, and have since moved out on my own, and now I've gotten back to 185. Now I feel wrong about it even though I physically feel healthy and fine. I didn't notice the weight gain until I was weighed at the doctor, and then my jeans starting feeling incredibly tight. I felt so alone in this. Thank you so much for making this video! It helps me feel less alone knowing women as beautiful you two also suffer from these worries and concerns.
