Everyone's so fixated on how this doesn't work. How the bully will continue to bully regardless. Please guys, understand that this isn't about stopping bullying. You can't make someone stop what they're doing... This is about preventing bullies from influencing your emotions. This is about maintaining your own self worth. In regards to physical bullying, that's a completely different ball game. He stated in another video, about how you SHOULD get upset when someone attacks you. Why? Because that is a CRIME and shouldn't be allowed to happen.
Exactly. You can't control other people, only how you react to other people. This isn't about controlling the situation, but about how you don't have to take what the bully says and make it your identity. In all situations, bullying is about control. Control of being cool, or maintaining power, or an attempt to control their own insecurities. No one can control others...unless they are given power. So will this work in every situation, no, but it's a start. A lot better than walking away will or beating someone up. I'm sure there are other answers, maybe even better ones, but this guy at least is doing a great job of illustrating his idea.
Except when you do something like that, you don't do it to yourself. Preventing bullies from influencing your emotions is not about what you say to them, but how you face what they say to you, and that comes BEFORE the act. You don't even have to say a word. The fact still remains that this doesn't work, it's too 'ideal' and it might influence people to make a fool out of themselves, especially people with bad charisma or just terrible speech. People who get bullied are usually socially awkward and/or outcasts. The best lesson you can teach them is how to interact with other human beings.
He had another reason to bully him. Most of the time the bullies bully you for a reaction in return. It would be extremely draining to bully someone that's practically reactionless to the insults you give him.
@@rolzUTAU I think I’ve learned a bit more on this subject the last few months. Actually one needs to lose his fear from his Bully in order to get respect from him.
No matter what, few people will always hate us for no reason or because of their incapability in something in which we're good at or it's because of their jealousy. They always want to bring us/put us down for their pleasure and want to picturise us badly in front of the world. 99% of the times we have to/should be calm, kind, tolarent or whatever. If it crosses the limit, Self-respect is everything. World then supports you for having raised your voice for the right reason. Trust me, but it should be with valid/genuine talk. It should make sense and make justice where everyone understands and agrees for it. Then our word will have power. 👍
@@PAVAN2146 if you are into it, watch professor Sam Vaknin’s videos on victmhood and on stopping being a Victm. These lectures of him are very empowering for anyone stuck in a victm status.
Some people's lot in life is to be resilient and absorb negativity while others don't have to shoulder such responsibilities because they're generally accepted in life.
This sort of strategy worked well for me back when I was at school. For years I would get wound up and try to win arguments with people who mocked me. Eventually I just started responding with an emotionless "okay" or blanking them completely. And they quickly gave up and went away. If someone gets pleasure out of upsetting others, then that person's opinion of you does not matter. And you can safely ignore their words like they're just background noise.
Thank you for your videos and all of the valuable information. My son recently told us he was being bullied at school so I brought up one of your videos and he’s asked to watch your channel every morning since. He tells me everyday the new tool he tried out after watching you. Thank you!!
As much as physical health is important, mental health is pivotal in shaping his character and personality. Please take care of him and ensure he maintains a high self esteem within himself. Tell him that it very brave of him to stand up to bullying and informing parents about the same. I have gone through that and I know the pain of helplessness. KUDOS TO HIM🎉
okay here's my story , i hope it can help somebody , back in middle school i was super fat , everybody were making fun of me , i was upset , sad and had no confidence all the time , but someday when my classmate told me "OMG , walk slowely or we all gonna die" that made everybody laugh including me , i was playing it cool and pretended that i was laughing too , until the day that it actually was these kind of jokes about my body funny , super funny , that anybody making fun of me , waiting for me to cry or get upset and i start lauging , they would shock xD until these people who made fun of me became my friends and actually were defending me everytime other people make fun of me , so today i make fun of my body , not because i hate it but because i love it too much that i don't care about others and i actually because of that i made a lot of friends , because when people see me doing that they tell me that i am cool to feel comfertable wit my body and i am funny xD te point is , fuck them xDDDDD
See, the method didn't work. It always depends on how vicious the bully is. You can be resilient but if he is persistent it'll cause you a lot of energy and eventually you'll break because even if you use this method, he is still stronger than you mentally. This guy on stage had the power to continue to bully him for ages. He wouldn't stop until he told him to stop acting. I'm not convinced, not did he seem convinced you have any power over him.
I don't believe this works because even we don't get affected that is what they principally want, we are being nice in a non sense way, and with that they can think that we are goofies what makes us targets, we must face them be ourselves.
Complimenting your bully will only make him/her think that you are submissive, not standing your ground. Basically this would set you up to getting walked all over even more.
I can't imagine this working! Even if you are friendly to the bully, he will get his approval through the others laughing at the insults! And if you are friendly to him, you would still have a lower status then the bully, wouldn't you?
You two are dead wrong, don't know you guys are getting your views from. If you do not stand up to the bully you will just keep getting bullied, it is as simple as that. Trying to be friends with him will just make you his bitch.
People try to shame bullies by saying made up bullshit like "the bully has to bully in order to feel special" or "they have to make people feel bad because their lives suck". No, bullies can be born from bad parenting or traumas, but they can also be just be sociopaths or just normal people having fun at the expense of other people. What you do or how you should react to bullies depend on the human being you're interacting with. Some would shut up if you show an attitude, others would kick your ass. Some would become your friends if you're friendly, some would laugh even harder. You don't make rules for human interaction, this video is bullshit.
It wouldn't matter since nothing ANYONE thinks of you or says to you is worth your time if its designed to hurt your feelings. Whether it be 5 guys or 10 girls. It doesn't matter.
I don't believe this works because even we don't get affected that is what they principally want, we are being nice in a non sense way, and with that they can think that we are goofies what makes us targets.
OK, time for me to weigh in here: (1) For those who say this "doesn't work." Yes, it's true that real-life bullies are more aggressive than this volunteer, and have no morals or ethics to speak of, etc. etc. So if you don't feel comfortable being "nice" or "friendly" to them, just give them a blank stare. But whatever you do, do NOT show pain, fear, anger, guilt, or even slight annoyance. They need a "reason to fight." Deny them this. And best of all, when it's not "the both of them" fighting, the school will have NO CHOICE BUT to actually discipline the bully, unless they want to see half the school's budget go to pay your kid's college tuition! (2) For those who think fighting is the answer: In all 50 states, there are criminal and civil penalties for fighting. I don't care if you're black belts in krav maga and ninjitsu. Unless you want to join that fool in juvie, violence is NOT the answer. (3) When you really have yourself actualized and put together, NOTHING those fools say - NOT EVEN IF IT'S RACIST OR SEXIST - is going to trigger you. If it's really that wrong, let the school do their job and Teach These Damn Kids How To Behave! (4) Last but not least, there's a Lady Named Karma. She's not attracted to bad boys and She's not friends with mean girls. Leave vengeance to Her, She's got much better tools at Her disposal! Want to hear more? Subscribe to my page!
Kinda agree with most of what you said, but (4) is just plain bullshit. Stop feeding these lies to make people feel better about life's injustices, they won't grow up until they've learned that life is not always fair.
Yes of course i got bully'ed at High school, but primary school as well teacher telling me i have know future what so ever, & they were wrong. Not only by student's, but teacher's as well. i woke't out later in life, people that do thing's like that, get it all back in return doesn't miss anyone.
Correct me if I’m wrong, this technique is called “fogging”. It means to agree, at least partially, with what the bully is saying in a neutral or positive way. It disarms the bullies because any insults are being swallowed into a black hole of agreement...
I got bullied by my senior coworker. I just stayed away from him. I only talk to him about work.I almost never look him in the eye. Now, he wants to make friends with me. Lol
I can tell you how I stop the bully when I was a kid, and it worked every single time. I whipped their ass. I was picked on because of I was always the shortest in my class. For example, as a freshman in high school I was 4'10" and about a hundred pounds. But the bullying started way before that. One bully was about a foot taller than me and tortured me on the bus all the time. Finally I dared him off the bus and then I whipped his ass and he went up the road crying like a little baby. Guess what, he never bullied me again. Every fight I ever got into, was because of being bullied. Every single person that bullied me, never bullied me again after a fight. Bullies don't like to get hit no more than we do.
Okay, só que vc saiu machucado, e a hora que alguém te meter o socão na cara pra revidar, não vem reclamar não, é claro que a violência resolve algumas coisas sim, mas tem vezes que esse jeito é mais eficiente, então antes de sair socando a cara de todo mundo que falar um a de vc, aprenda a ser um pouco mais tolerante e paciente. Pq se meu irmão faz isso na escola dele por exemplo, ele leva três murros maiores do que o que ele deu.
One of the wisest thing I heard about psychopaths is they see everything as a contest where their can only be one winner so they are better at winning than kindness empathy and compassion
@@prithviraj5811 stupidest advice ever. Do you think like-minded individuals are just scattered around everywhere, so you can just pick whatever you want? Bs.
@@prithviraj5811 are you daft, Stay with friends you love ? Have you read a single word on my comment? How are you suppose to make friends in the first place when there are zero like minded people around you.
startertroit, want to stop getting bullied? build your wits. Tell jokes, add humour to your comebacks. It's the only way to land the impression on people and to signal the insufferable bullies that you're not a vulnerable target.
LOL soo true in grade 3 I had 3 bullies and I wanted to fight back soo bad but knew it would cause more trouble like 3 years later 2 of them are my friends the other one left the school so yeah.
Lots of you are saying in comments, that this advice is about being nice to bully... No, it's about to show them, that they can tell whatever they want and it won't affect you (in bad way). Good response will be also like: "Yeah... whatever" or if he/she's making jokes, laugh with bully (for some point) and make even more fun jokes on you to show, that you have some distance. This talk about "You can't affect my feelings" is indeed weak. It doesn't have to be told, it have to be shown. Especially you have to show them, that your self-esteem can't be affected in this way. For example, you can just stare at them calmly until they feel uncomfortable or make laugh of their behaviour... You don't have to be kind, you just have to show, that you can't be easily provoked and hurt, so they actions are sensless. If you will be able to humiliate them instead by making smart irony jokes about their behaviour - don't hesitate, do it. They should now, that what they're doing is stupid. I believe, that this film is about responding as calmly as you are able to, without showing, that in fact you're upset. Treating bullies as they failed to hurt you, as their behaviour is a minor problem to you, because you're so strong and experienced in handling them... However sometimes it's not enough and showing your strength, even in aggressive way, it's the best you can do. I would say that with the first attempt of bullying we can try to ignore them (maybe they let go, if they see that they can't provoke us), but if it won't work, response should be strong - they should now, that you won't let them to do bad things to you.
Man Brooks you are short sighted on that topic, this kind of resilience has to be build up and practiced, and the children need support to do that. You cant expect a child to just develope this kind of strong resilience over night especially when s/he is already in great distress due to the bullying. Remember that the kind cant just step out of the situation the way you did in your performance.
You can't expect children to do anything by themselves. You kinda contradict yourself with your own shortness. They need to be thought and supported through everything. This is just one of those skills parents might overlook. But once you know, adopt it and practice it, you will see the change. Who's short sighted exactly ?
Try your best and hold your own. It’s not easy. I experienced with bullies in elementary school and later in life in the workplace. Time was my best healer. Unfortunately some bullies never change.
Well that looks working good on the scene but what if you try same in live? I mean make a social experiment video when you try to apply it to aggressive people for real. They are not hard to find. It's just easy to say it works when it's a kind of a show, but it is not giving an evidence that what you are saying is true.
I don't believe this works because even we don't get affected that is what they principally want, we are being nice in a non sense way, and with that they can think that we are goofies what makes us targets, we must face them be ourselves.
He mentioned in the other video that you don't do this method if you were being assaulted by a bully. That's when we react he said to the video. This is what I am talking about. Make sure to watch the whole thing. Here's the link ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-7oKjW1OIjuw.html
Mandatory body cameras for students and workers! Document time and dates as well as locations be proactive after you get proof and evidence of several times of bullying and/or stalking harassment activity. You will be able to get a restraining order as well as put videos on social media of what you are going through do not allow them to bully you into bullycide or into an outburst of rage anger or pain. Just make sure you get them on camera and let the police deal with them and if that doesn't work get lawyers involved as well as if possible social media. They will stop when they have been compromised charged judged and when their family starts to be negatively affected financially. Then who ever can and already does bully your bully will bully them even harder for the inconveniences! Do not allow to them to physically harm you if you can avoid it run away if you can and when you have to if possible! Keep a journal and/or diary and remember you are only one or two incidents away from them threatening you and breaking the law against you!
These methods are helpful but limited. Bullying is a power - play. Yes, if you act as if it doesn't bother you, often the verbal abusers will give up but that also depends on your level of social confidence. Then there is exclusion. If it doesn't bother you, then, you are not human and hence, it's all an act. But, it's true to say that, 'acting' like being excluded is fine, will definitely confuse or stop the bullies. But statistically, the bullying often takes on a physical element. Most schools have a zero tolerance to physical bullying but it only seems to work when some poor victim finally has enough and socks the bully in the face and then administration / school staff are over it, like flies on shite but yet, the bully can get away with it for years. Another industry secret is, there are lots of teachers and teachers aid ( especially) who bully kids. They trip them, shout at them and generally take all of their insecurities out on the child. I was bullied horrendously and I am a teacher. There is a multifaceted approach. Here's what I do / say to my kid. Firstly, you start but making sure your kid has a few things straight. Such as, respect the behaviour and NOT the age. For example, my six year old was purposely pushed off his chair but a teacher as he was swinging. Of course, couldn't prove anything but I gave him permission, when she approached him to say out loud, 'I hope you don't push me again.' I also gave him permission to ask for his boundaries to be respected or to verbalise injustice or unfairness. Lots of parents and adults seem to think that a child has less rights to respect and bodily autonomy. For example, if, as in my sons case, he got thumped and hit by another boy but the teacher only told him off when he pushed the boy off of him, I have told him it's okay to say that it's unfair. And here is where I diverge from all of those other teachers and most everyone... Being beat everyday would NEVER be tolerated if, say, it was a work place. The police would be called. But somehow we think it's less damaging in a school setting. My son is gentle and has lots of friends but he knows that if some other child puts their hands on him, I, as HIS mother, give him permission to finish it. Why? From an early age it was drilled into me. 'don't hit back. Or' hitting is bad' and I got beat black and blue and no adult came in on a white horse to save me. I had hair follicles rooted from my head, black eyes and swollen lips and worse was the mental trauma. NO. if you put your hands on anyone, the gloves are off. Expect a beating. And you know what... One time it occurred. My little boy was attacked for having big blue eyes and blonde hair ( their words, said in a more demeaning way) and three of them came from behind to beat him. He kicked, stomped and even bit them until they took their hands of HIS body and so, shock horror, one of them ended with a black eye but did it occur again? No, it didn't. But it was noted because he is 'usually such a sweet boy' and yet another little boy who is always bashing kids, nobody notices. In 15 years of teaching I have heard it all. The usual, the bully is to be pitied, he comes from a broken home and so forth and not once have I witnessed a teacher stand up for the victim. Parents ought to know that some teachers even side with the bully for peace sake. I am Irish and I have lived in Australia for many years and travelled extensively and I can say, Australia is RIFE with bullying in all occupations and from adults. It's almost a given and my 18 strong expat and Aussie friends have noted this too. ( well, the well - travelled Aussies) Often the principals are in on it. It's insane. I had a little girl in my class who was put through mediation and her parent was advised that she needed to gain confidence. Why? Well, everyday she was excluded and beat and punched but in my class, this bully didn't get near her and she used to wait behind and thank me for standing up for her and for helping her feel safe. My stomach used to drop as I watched her go to her next class. Knowing that the teachers either didn't care or actively victim blamed. I think, while well meaning, alot of these scenarios are not true to life. I have created a course relating to bullying and it is taking off but as I suggested, it's a multifaceted approach and my controversial opinion of having the right to self - defence was questioned recently buy another teacher who said, 'violence never solved anything' and afterwards, he shared the story of two twins in his class. One committed suicide as he no longer could deal with the daily beatings and the other, finally lost it and beat the crap out of his abuser and lo and behold... The bullying stopped. Sure, let's find another way but it requires teachers and school management to do something and they OFTEN do not! And let's stop calling it 'bullying' it's physical abuse, verbal and so forth and the perpetrator is not a bully, rather an abuser. Think about it, if we as parents, beat our kid every day, the child would be taken from us but yet we have to send our child to a school where this is occuring and that's somehow different. It's not. Use this strategy, for sure but it's just one ( possible useless or useful) tool.
Acho que não hein, muita gente apanha todo dia em casa enquanto é criança e os pais não são punidos, e outra, depende muito do nível, tem vezes que as pessoas chamam de "bullying" algo que era só um problema social criado por uma pessoa grossa ou hostil. Se alguém no seu trabalho for idiota com você, dependendo do que essa pessoa faça é claro, você não vai poder dar um tapa nela se não você vai ser preso. E muito provávelmente, você não vai chamar isso de bullying, você vai apenas contar aos seus amigos que tem uma pessoa babaca no seu trabalho, ou um cliente chato. E outra, não problematize a palavra bullying porque ela é usada para só UM tipo de problema social. Que é quando alguém te enche o saco na escola por meio de humilhações, palavras degradantes e etc. Se não acontece na época da escola, se acontece uma agressão física, assédio, preconceito e etc, NÃO É BULLYING! É racismo, é machismo/sexismo, é homofobia/lgbtfobia, é gordofobia, é crime, mas não é bullying! Entenda que BULLYING é SÓ quando acontece na época do colegial, quando é RECORRENTE e acontece toda hora, e quando são insultos. Se passar disso já é crime meu amor. E tem mais, infelizmente nem todo mundo tem como dar uma surra no seu agressor, a maioria das pessoas não sabe bater, não sabe brigar/lutar e não tem força física! Ou seja, se essa pessoa ao menos tentar dar um soco no seu agressor, ele vai fazer três vezes pior! Um dia o seu filho pode voltar machucado pelos agressores terem revidado! Então isso não faz sentido. Se uma menina fizer bullying com um menino, que é mais forte e mais alto que ela, você vai achar certo ele bater nela ao invés de resolver da forma que resolver melhor? Minha prima mais nova, sempre "bulinava" meu primo, e meu primo era mais forte do que ela, os pais dele nunca deixavam ele bater nela e brigavam com a minha prima, pq por mais que ela estivesse sendo irritante com ele, seria injusto ele fazer isso com ela. E a questão dos motivos do bullying podem ser diversas, fico chocada como ninguém pega uma pessoa que faz isso pra perguntar o porquê e fazer um estudo, ao invés de achar a raiz do bullying pelos próprios agressores, querem achar pela vítima e aí não conseguem resolver. E outra, se você for parar pra pensar então tudo é bullying né? Quando alguém falar uma coisinha pra ti já vai ser bullying.
This is unlikely to work. What will work is finding out who the bully has a crush on and becoming friends with that person. Alternatively you could figure out which people start the rumours running about the school, and befriend them. Basically you need power over the bully. Even if you can't be at an equal level, you must at least have power to hurt them more than the enjoyment or status gains they get out of bullying you.
What they are teaching here is Emotional Intelligence. Being in control of your OWN reaction to any given situation. It's something that comes with age, but with some effort it can be taught early on. I wish every school had an emotional intelligence class.
@@gracegiver4920 In a sense of making the other person miserable, they're better than what's being portrayed in the video. I never thought I'd have to explain that, but here we are...
Usually doesn’t work. The bully usually gets more self esteem and power from the group then from “an insignificant” like myself. However, they will always need to look outside for help, and I have pity. Inside, I have a lot, but they’re trying to steal it
If this is what is considered as a bullying expect the bar is set way to low. A large volume of real world experience is far more important. While the intentions are good and honorable the suggestions and approach are very short sighted.
why do you remind me of the character called harrison wells played by tom cavanaugh in the Cw series : The Flash. Although you have a really good dynamic stage presence.
When you came to my school today, you reminded me of when I was being bullied in 3rd grade. They were doing letter C talking behind my back. And also when I was in 6th grade I would always get bullied by my teacher because I was telling to stop doing something to my friend. Can you help me? Also how is your wife?
WTF I dont think you stop him bullying you using your strategy.. he could continue making fun of you if you weren't the host of the show.. just look it again how he got you
In truth, this will get your face bashed in. And I would not work in a real situation. Bullies love weakness.... simple as that really. I was bullied for the first 2 years of secondary school. It made my life hell. No matter how I tried to just be a nice guy, the bullies would take advantage. I was an easy target. My clothes were scruffy and I didn't have a rich family. I had a back pack that was glued together because my dad couldn't afford a new one, I was the perfect victim. I was picked on in class, during break, on the way to school and on the way home, during the weekends and holidays for the first two years. I contemplated how I'd end it...... I was a shell. Feeling depressed and I was unable to enjoy life. But I finally had enough. I've always been a big guy. I now stand at 6'1. I was one of the biggest In my school. Why was I standing there taking this bullshit. A group of lads, surrounding me and one of them acting the big shot. I took it for a short time and then I snapped. I kicked his ass!! He never bothered me again!! And that was first of many people who learn the hard way. People would think twice about picking on me. But I continued to be a nice guy too.
If it gets them to try to bash your face that could be good actually. The problem with a lot of bullies is that they ride the line, but if you can get them to cross the line - commit or threaten violence - you have grounds to get them incriminated. I baited a nasty kid in my school into threatening me then I reported it to the administration. The kid wasn't kicked out of the school immediately (unfortunately), but he constantly had some giant adult following him around and guarding the other students from him. He was utterly miserable, and eventually he go kicked out because he tried to get away with something and was caught. No one ever bothered after all of that.
Bullying is mostly done through passive aggressive behaviour, it is not that overt (in most cases), which is why it' s more difficult to combat. I think the best advice to kids is to communicate with an adult they trust, this Is not something they can always solve on their own. The bully should be punished by an adult authority/institution, otherwise you contribute to bullying going unpunished and you let the bully grow into an integrated adult psycopath.
I used to go to a school, and everything was fine until this one girl invited me to hang out with her. She was pretty nice, until I beat her in almost every subject, and all the teachers adored me. I never wanted to get attention. After that it was just bullying, verbally and a bit physically... I left the school...but now I wanna go back to show that I've changed, I'm not weak anymore. I don't know if I should go back...
I would like to listen to you talk about bullying, but more about people who are teasing you about crushes, you know, people who like you and are getting inappropriate, this has happened to me and I would like to hear about it and how to stop it.
This guy came to our school and did this same thing with a girl and during the second game her gum or something fell out of her mouth and Brooke gibs picked it up and stretched it out with his teeth then said he’s from a different generation where they recycle lol. Everyone was dramatic about it but my teacher and I could care less even though it was pretty unhygienic. Btw the girl who volunteered was no where near as funny as this dude
A lot of bullying i know about is like trying to provoke reaction, but thing is not giving other satisfaction is like forcing acid-reflux to cause around your system. shit hurts. how do you not react, Am I supposed to acid-reflux myself?? not giving satisfaction is like another term for letting bully get away with it (imo).. but somehow when do react your villain. worst hurt is someone in the circle. and really hurts. but what am I supposed to do, just CRUCH it inside?
To be honest that would develop people pleasing trait just saying most people pleasers were bullied in there time I just over came people pleasing so. I know an yes I was bullied verbally.
This advice is correct but its only half correct. Never get angry when someone is bullying you, treat your bully with kindness! What does this phyologicly commicate? That the bully has no power over you and you aren't affected. This makes the bully look weak. You also need to attack back, not immediately because that shows you are hurt. You need to respond with kindness or just smile and laugh at the bully. When the bully is not bothering you, you need to respond with a attack of your own. There are lots of options available to you, you can make fun of them or mock them. Do something to their personal property or belongings such as a school bag or locker. Come up with a cruel nickname for them. Whenever you see them, you need to treat them like a friend though at the same time! This will mess with the bullys head because they expect you to be afraid of them. Make sure to address them with their new nickname or laugh at them at the same time as being nice. Kindness/ cruelty is the hidden secret. You need a sword and board approach. Gibbs is showing you how to develop a good defense which is important! His advice for defense is 100% correct. You need to combine it with offense too though at the same time!
if you realize, just do not listen to it and continue insulting so that the method does not work out, the persistence of the stalker and the brutality of the attack can cause the method to fail, even more if it is a real and uncontrolled situation as in the scenario that puts Brooks as the protagonist ... I don't know, what do others think?
In real life He gets punched in the face about 7 seconds in ..... That's how bullies rolled in My High School ...... All the bullies buddies saying the other dude started it and hit the bully first ..... Now We're talking police involved and a lawsuit against Mr. Gibbs ......
Okay.... this olny makes up about ⅚ of the intial bullying argument; one word, "Truma". Confidence is the only way out, and it only happens when your intentions are as true as your actions are genuine.
Why didn't this work for my mother when my father would complain about her cooking and literally fed the dog his birthday dinner in front of the entire family? All she wanted to do was treat him special for his birthday... Should I tell her that its not a big deal? I guess its not a big deal. But the whole family was so embarrassed for her. How much should someone cry behind a bully's back? She could have filled soup cans with her tears every day before he came home. She would say, "I just want to be friends again". But when his car pulled up, she would somehow put herself back together and manage to cook him, in his words, a "piece of shit meal". This video just made me confused?
Problem is that bullies are usually a lot taller and fitter than you. In England, a typical bully might look like Anthony Joshua. In the US, Donald Trump. It would be interesting to see a contest between Joshua and Trump.
Thisis all cool until the bully is actually a real tough guy trained in fighting who doesn’t argue but beats the shit out of people who even slightly oppose his will.
in a beautiful world,that would work.in the real world,that only would escalate further uncontrollably.my solution was to force them to face me on equal terms and humiliate them publicly,one by one.broke a tooth but it was worth it.nobody n school bothered be for the next 5 years,which was fine by me,as i love to read and can't stand gossip or frivolous conversations or pseudo macho posturings.
Why are you trying so hard to make yourself look like a badass? It's just so sad and pathetic. "Oh, you call this verbal foreplay bullying? Hah" "I fought them on equal terms and humiliated one by one. I'm so strong!" "Once I kicked their ass they realized who's boss!" Just stop. As you said, this is the real world, so stop portraying it as your personal fanfiction.
@@MrLoowiz he was just telling his story, and it's true if you compare verbal bullying with the ASSAULT bullying you will know which one is the problem, verbal bullying is a regular and annoying thing in life, but very stupid.
@@rickyplaysyt4322 You're completely missing the point. Read his second comment and you'll realize it's not about physical bullying vs. verbal bullying, but a pathetic person trying to look tough online by lying about situations that never happened.
How i know this, is i meet the bully's that pick't on me at primary school & high school, now when there much older, & have there own kid's now.. The one's that hit me with a cricket bat at school, & would alway's say you suck, so i'm going to hit you again, because i feel like it, & your Dad & Mum said i can, & would hit me pretty much, all the time at lunch break. yes of course i would get mad at both of them. but that's why life is a tough one. & alway's will be know matter, what anyone else say's hear you can't change a bully know matter what.
I've somewhat been bullied but not like this just fights mainly. I'm 16 and 5'7 150 and it doesnt matter if you're 6'3 and 250+ I will whip your ass if I have to, or take a beating like a man, I haven't been beaten yet but I have a friend who's 13 and he was adopted into a family with a 15 year old and after me and my friend put his ass down for hurting the 13 year old when they got home and the 13 year old fell asleep the 15 year old slapped him and drug him out of the bed and beat him broke his nose and two of his knuckles, he wouldn't show up today but I'm going to find that little bitch he's about 5'9 140 pounds and fit but he is scared shitless of me. He's the type that would literally kiss my shoes and spit shine them which I've seen it done before. I'm about to bully the bully and teach him that because you're "big and bad" and just because it's easy and you can doesnt mean you should. He also has choked the 13 year old several times that's why I've grabbed him and slammed him before but now I'm so mad I'm going to show him what a real fight is. I probably won't hurt him badly this time but I spar with my friend and I'll mainly embarrass him slamming him on the ground putting him in choke holds arm bars anything to make him cry like a bitch and try to run. He's tried to run or swim away from me before and when I catch him the consequences are very dire for the bully. He will learn his lesson. If they were the same age and build I'd help the 13 year old learn to fight but the 13 year old is little he's 110 and short scrawny he's just not built for fighting there's some people that doesnt have a body for fighting. I have always had a built body for fighting but I'm more out of shape now then ever, but fat guys can kick some serious ass as well it's not about size or strength it's about knowing how to fight.
