Can INFPs Be Happy?

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If you’re new to Geek Psychology, my name is Matt Sherman. People call me Sherman. I'm a personality type expert, life coach, hypnotist, author, podcaster, and course creator. I help mainly INFPs embrace their unique strengths and navigate life's challenges. Through practical strategies and deep insights, I aim to help people like you live a more fulfilling and authentic live where you can wake up and feel good about who you are and your impact on the world. I was crusin around in the forums and saw the question "Can INFPs be happy?" - it continued to go on to ask if we can get over sadness, depression, and live a more carefree and positive life as INFPs.
To that I say YES! We can! In this video I share a couple of my breakthroughs and a short guided visualization technique that can help get you started on living a happy life. An INFP can be happy, you just have to commit yourself to it ;)
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@gabumonboys 5 лет назад

•Reads title• •Breathes heavily•: No

@kurzellreynold5668 4 года назад

lmfaooooooooooooooooooooo

@erinc625 4 года назад

Epetra this was literally me hahahhahaha

@missallsundayx 4 года назад

*Laughs in Fi*

@Katelomjaria 4 года назад

Yes same. I wanna die 💖💖💖💖

@xijinping4418 4 года назад

Literally me when I first saw this video

@uwumarii 5 лет назад

Every person that I've seen in infp videos so far seems to be soft spoken and very selective with their verbal wording. It kind of blows my mind how consistent it is

@kyonas6047 5 лет назад

Same 😂

@musokeshifah711 4 года назад

😂😂😂true

@TessavandieKaap 4 года назад

Yes, that is so. Amazing.

@GeekPsychology 4 года назад

Words are funny. I’ve spent so much time tumbling through a rabbit hole of trying to find the right words to explain core personality concepts in a way that resonates in the way I want.

@orborbb 4 года назад

yeet

@justtam321 4 года назад

I think INFP's are the most beautiful personality type. They are so warm and loving. I know INFP's are complicated because they aren't surface-level, ever, which can be frustrating for outsiders and even to themselves. INFP's are not just butterfly-chasers. They're a lot more level-headed and grounded than people think. Exploring doesn't mean one is lost. It is a constant learning curve. Audrey Hempburn and Shakespeare were both INFP's and are still celebrated today. Of course INFP's can be happy. There is so much beauty on this life and we don't always need to overshadow those beauties with our extreme idealistic ideologies. Thanks Mr RU-vidr. You did such a brilliant, calming job relaying your message.

@GeekPsychology 4 года назад

Thank you for the kind resonating words. :) Too many of us INFPs get down on ourselves and focus on the struggles without finding a way to navigate them and arrive at a brighter future ^^

@GraceMaplegem 4 года назад

I got tears reading this thank you for your encouraging words

@FalconWindblader 4 года назад

If there's one thing that i'd disagree with this, it's that we INFPs are by nature, butterfly chasers, & to our own dismay, we may even be chasing more than one butterfly at any given moment. Those among us who don't appear so, are those who're aware of that rather destructive tendency & have gone out of their way to address it. The ones among us who've learned to just to admire butterflies from a distance, instead of constantly trying to chase them, are the ones who'd have a way better chance of finding happiness & success in life. Anyway, thanks for reassuring that we too, could be beautiful, wanted & loved. That really means the world to us.

@shayebytheshore 5 лет назад

I've done it too! I'm INFP, and I'm happy and positive pretty much all of the time, and I'm an optimist 100% of the time. Took about about 2 years of self-taught mental exercises and deliberately putting myself in uncomfortable/challenging situations to get me here, but it was way worth it. I had some pretty bad anxiety a couple years back, and it really took a toll on my confidence. I never sought out proper help or really told anyone about it. Then one day a flip just sort of flipped in my brain. I just decided, "This is over now". And obviously that wasn't the end of all my problems, but every day I worked (and still am working) on improving my mindset and being the best version of myself possible. Now I can do things that used to terrify me without even a second thought. I used to be scared of talking to new people and going beyond my comfort zone -- and now I love both! I always tell myself I'm happy, even when I'm not (especially when), and my mind automatically seeks out the positives in every situation. I no longer care too much what others think, and therefore am so much more free to be my authentic self. It's totally doable!

@sdops555 5 лет назад

Wow, I am super proud of you for transforming your character in a positive way. I wish I also could be more assertive and confident.

@d.6832 4 года назад

This is really admirable. I whish I could defeat social anxiety with your same courage. because it's ruining my life. What did you do to get rid of fear?

@shayebytheshore 4 года назад

@@d.6832 I wouldn't say I've extinguished my fear, I've just developed ways of managing it. Mostly I just cover it with an abundance of positive thoughts. Whenever I start having negative/fearful thoughts about what others think of me, for example, I remind myself of who I know myself to be -- it doesn't matter so much if other people don't see you as you want to be seen or don't get you, as long you always keep sure in the knowledge of your identity and are proud of that person. And pushing yourself to do the very things that make you afraid is really important. It's hard at first, but eventually you get better at doing them and realise they're actually not as bad as you thought, and it gets easier.

@vs-gj4cp 4 года назад

Try stand up comedy, it helped me

@joanneaugust6611 4 года назад

My biggest problem isn't social anxiety, it's just that every single bad thing happening to me, no matter how ridiculously small it is, immediately pushes me down. Someone reminds me that it might be time to search for something to do after university? I almost have a nervous breakdown. Oral exams this week (I've actually got two this week and I'm procrastinating right now, you can all wish me luck for Tuesday and Wednesday)? I'm terrified and immediately got a feeling I can't do it and I'm not good enough. An studying actually makes me feel worse because I have too high expectations and, of course, I disappoint myself every time. In the end, I'm usually one or two two grades better than expected, but the panic before is just unbearable. I didn't sleep well for one or two nights? Immediate anxiety I'm not gonna be able to do everything I need to do, fear of wasting a day doing nothing. After a long conversation with friends/family? "What if I said something inappropriate?" "What if I hurt someone's feelings?" "What if they don't like me anymore because I talk too much?" "What if they were just to polite to leave earlier?" Note that all of my friends here at university are either infp's themselves or infj's, so they're both likely not to tell me when something is wrong, and to understand how I'm feeling. I also feel like I don't care enough about their problems and only talk about mine all the time - that's mainly because when I get nervous or uncomfortable or simply don't know what to say, I start talking about myself. Doesn't even matter if I'm on a train sitting next to a random stranger. "Yes, I was bullied in school, also my relationship to my father wasn't ideal - I don't blame him, you know, he did his best - so I basically don't have any self-esteem an am constantly doubting myself." What the heck is soneone on a train gonna do with that information?!

@Kiseochan 5 лет назад

My initial reaction; NO!!! My actual reaction: excellent video! This one gave me a lot to think about! :)

@Ari58739 5 лет назад

Just found your channel. I'm an INFJ Grandma of a sixteen-year-old INFP granddaughter. She struggles. I just directed her to your video. Fingers crossed that she will watch it and start to learn about Myers-Briggs, INP, her gifts, filters, challenges and the tools you recommend. Thank you so much for this video which I hope will help her in her journey!

@nabeel9187 4 года назад

That's so wholesome ❤

@antoinettenovella1630 4 года назад

That is awesome Ariana , hope she is thriving now.

@pooja350 3 года назад

You're an awesome grandma 💙

@calmingbabysleep1256 2 года назад

I loved reading this!

@antoinettenovella1630 2 года назад

You are an awesome grandmother, I hope she appreciates you.

@mikamelon5698 4 года назад

I've been a very emotional explosive, depressive and angry child. But at some point in my life I just had enough of feeling miserable and I somehow switched into a more positive and tolerant mindset. It took me years to develop but here I am accepting the people how they are and enjoying life for its smallest things. I never thought I could ever be happy in this world. Today I am. :) I think everyone can be happy, it all depends on the way you see things and how true you are to yourself and the people around you.

@Tosca364 3 года назад

I agree with you and it took times to get into this level as INFP myself, but all and all Im really grateful for the opportunity to live in this world and feel all the feeling this world has to offer for us. Send loves and hang in there 😁

@takchengsze4719 5 лет назад

I am a very happy infp. I think if we cultivate in our art talent, we would discover some immense joy in the process of creating. I love portrait drawing and I found myself in the process and express my deep feeling. I am single, the joy of me creating my art has made me complete and I do not long for relationship that I used to be.

@krandly8 4 года назад

I am the same. I get soo much joy from creating. It is the part of me that fulfils me and does not make me feel empty

@StarOnCheek 3 года назад

I got an INFP boyfriend and he seems depressed all the time, I really want to help him become happy

@YEDxYED 4 года назад

Although pessimistic, I don’t believe as employees we’ll ever be happy. Always having to ask when we can escape to our hideouts. Having a limit on the money we make. I mean being an employee doesn’t signify freedom in our ears in any way. We need to somehow do something special whilst being the one who controls the vision. In addition, we need this because it gives us the chance to decide for ourselves when we can go escape

@MrsTootie228 5 лет назад

I hate to be religious but I have found reading my bible, daily devotion, spending time to reflect and exercise has helped me. When I feel anxious or sad about situations I release it to the lord.

@TheFuhr3r 5 лет назад

It's so me 😆

@fayruzahabsary4703 5 лет назад

INFPs are the most faithful :)

@GeekPsychology 5 лет назад

I’m not religious, but I do feel I’m faithful in someway.

@rosestrohm7986 5 лет назад

@@fayruzahabsary4703 lol im an atheist and INFP. I figured out one of the worst feelings is being emotionally manipulated and thats what religion does all the time

@fayruzahabsary4703 5 лет назад

@@rosestrohm7986 I see. It's okay. Being faithful doesn't amount to religion only, anyway. 😊 I only meant the relation of religion to faithfulness. We all are different though we may be all infps. I'm sorry if you feel that way towards religion but for me and Ameena, our faithfulness is inclined with religion. I'm sure you have something or someone in life you are faithful with 💚

@Kaori57 5 лет назад

I've been trying to write in a journal now when I start to feel overwhelmed with emotion. Once I write it out it feels so much less of a burden. And sometimes I realize that it's not even as big of a deal as I make it. It also helps stop me from freaking out even more from being too focused on all these feelings. I'll also leave reminders for myself in my journal... I noticed that sometimes I forget that I had already reached a conclusion on something after much thought then I'll relapse to freaking out about that same problem. So I make sure that I write down my conclusions so I won't have to go through the whole cycle again. Great video though! :)

@1nsertusername 3 года назад

Omg me too! I read my past entries in my journal and I get shocked when I see that I've written about the same thing I've been currently thinking about. Journaling helps me understand myself better and I feel like I can set my thoughts and feelings free, into the paper.

@heri4313 3 года назад

Journaling is also part of my life. And by doing it, it could relieve stress, channel my emotion, examine or observe everything, be grateful through it, and yes i can relate to you about that relapse issue 😁

@heri4313 3 года назад

@@1nsertusername indeed!

@nodrog567 3 месяца назад

Is it just me? I’ll sometimes write my thoughts down about some issue I’m trying to work through, I think to release them. But then I’ll destroy the sheet of paper because I don’t want to chance someone else reading it! lol. I really do this occasionally…

@psycoffee6497 3 года назад

I'm not an INFP, I generally don't care about others feelings and not even my own just to be more 'efficient'. But I have this INFP person I think I fell in love with and I want to help him be happier in his life. Thank you for these points. I am struggling on understanding emotions I'm glad I found your channel.

@lazyuji 4 года назад

I'm an INFP and I used to be really really "emo" back then, but I became aware of that "phase" so I tried, and still trying, to control my emotions to lean more on happiness and the positive side. Sure, I still get sad and down most of the time. But each day, even though it's tiring and hard, I try to stand the fuck up and be happy because I know that positivity would be good for me.

@lunarmansionss3223 4 года назад

Period! Keep on going!

@FalconWindblader 4 года назад

One thing to correct though, the word here would be 'manage' instead of 'control'. It probably differs with other personality types but in our case, our emotions ain't meant to be controlled. The ironic fact is that despite our rampaging emotions being the very thing making us emotional, melancholic sob fests, it's also what makes us so enigmatic & beautiful. In my opinion, at least, fighting against it would be quite a waste. A gut feeling from a fellow INFP to another, you'd get further just coming to terms & making peace with your emotions, than to try to wrestle them whenever you dip into the negative.

@nabeel9187 4 года назад

Upbeat music does the trick for me

@clynn1103 4 года назад

This may be a different suggestion, but I am a very religious INFP and my faith gives me hope and a positive purpose in life and that increases my happiness. Whether you are religious or not, you can probably gain a lot from reading the Psalms which were written by King David, who I am confident was an INFP. His words, though thousands of years old, sound a lot like my inner thoughts. They are very comforting.

@mikethetraveler 5 лет назад

Every morning for the last year, as soon as I become aware I smile as wide as I can. It feels like an agreement with the day that it's going to be a good one. I used to wake up in states of negative rumination very often. My emotional state was left to a roll of the dice. Now I take charge and curate my emotional sate as best as I can. I think smiling works wonderfully!

@CV-yy9qz 4 года назад

I hope you're doing great and still applying this positive mindset everyday, fellow INFP. 🖤:)

@mikethetraveler 4 года назад

C V I am! And I’ve added some dancing and singing and/or meditation and yoga to the routine. :) What about you? Have you experimented with anything along those lines that you’d recommend?

@CV-yy9qz 4 года назад

@@mikethetraveler I feel empty and sad some days, but I'm trying my best to keep going and don't give up yet. I spend my days painting, working out or listening to music but every single day is a challenge for me. Thank you for asking.

@mikethetraveler 4 года назад

@@CV-yy9qz I feel you. The emotional grind is harder than any other, isn't it? It sounds like you have some of the key ingredients for coming out of the darkness. Art and self care have been MEGA game changers for me too. Maybe this is a harsh thought, but for me it's been real... If you're going through hell, keep going. the only way out of it is head first haha. Do you have an "Uplifting" playlist that you listen to?

@CV-yy9qz 4 года назад

@@mikethetraveler I've been diagnosed with severe anxiety two years ago. I've been on meds but stopped taking them because of a few complications. I'm still struggling with it on a daily basis, but working out helps me a lot with tension and it release all the stress. 😊 Btw, I don't have an "uplifting" playlist, all I have are depressing rock songs haha sorry.

@Mikmaqdrag 5 лет назад

You’re so cute omg

@utkarsh3708 5 лет назад

Yess i want to hug him... 😍

@jamesbell1206 5 лет назад

that's INFPs for you ;)

@jessi8392 4 года назад

So cute

@chikinwings344 3 года назад

Yes😍💖

@StarOnCheek 3 года назад

I think it might be all INFPs, they're so adorable

@sarahanne2345 5 лет назад

I am definitely a "grittier" INFP 😂. Being an entrepreneur has done so much for me. This kind of inner work is exactly how my journey began though. This is great ❤

@shytisefitness8743 3 года назад

I’ve always wanted to be an entrepreneur.

@ullakoponen2632 4 года назад

You sound s much like me!!! INFP enneagram 9 :D I think our disposition to feel a lot of pain is in some sense good because it leads many of us to spiritual growth and even enlightenment

@joyc978 4 года назад

I've been so tired of my emotions taking over my every day. Thank you for this.

@rachel1576e 4 года назад

“There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” - Robert Louis Stevenson. I love this video. Being happy is a choice and a continual effort that is so worth it (notwithstanding depression etc of course which can’t be ‘decided’). Gretchen Rubin has great books with practical tips for being happy, and Derren Brown has a book called ‘Happy’ which takes a more philosophical approach. Both very valuable!

@yokkabai 3 года назад

悪循環 ^_^ lol - I hear you. “Decide to be happy” - That’s powerful. You’re sad because you decided to be sad. I also think proper eating and sleeping helps too.

@KatjaMelnibone 6 дней назад

that's it exactly, you are happy cuz you want to be happy, sad cuz you want to wallow in your self pity... I have been Happy for a long time, cuz I chose to be Happy.

@angelamilliken7270 3 года назад

Although I've not pursued it as a career, I find the time I spend being creative, writing music, melody, and singing, it brings me great joy. My students and clients in the past, have told me they love it. Kids don't lie! I once had a 15 year old boy tell me, Mrs. Angela, if more people would write songs like that, we kids would listen. Makes me want to cry just thinking about it. Maybe I should pursue it after all....

@evelynsmith3486 4 года назад

I think a problem is that when people tell me to be happy, it feels like they are telling me not to be myself. How do you talk your mind out of thinking you are lying to yourself? How do you stop associating happiness with being fake?

@scutum9491 4 года назад

This. I felt like that back in time, actually I still feel like that. Honestly the word happiness makes me wanna throw up as it often equals pretense. So what I did is stop chasing happiness. Instead, I am looking for balance

@FalconWindblader 4 года назад

Dissociation. detachment. not with something outside, but with something inside. we INFPs are just too used to connecting everything with everything inside us, especially the negative parts since the positive ones inherently look fake to us, not realizing that some things just ain't meant to be connected. i learned to cut things off, like in this case, happiness DOESN'T EQUAL being fake. the process ain't necessary gonna be smooth. with some things, it feels like just snipping a thread with a pair of scissors, with some, it feels like sawing a tree trunk with a handsaw instead. it's gonna feel goddamn awkward to make that journey at first, & it's gonna feel repulsive, since we're so used to shunning anything that makes us feel awkward & fake. It's also important to realize one very glaring fact that we constantly overlook--happy people have unhappy shit to deal with as well. just like how we find others unable to see the shitstorm all over the place inside us, we also fail to see all the internal shit going on with happy people, & they may actually have it worse than we do. we AIN'T gonna lose all the melancholic, sulking, depressive parts of us just because we decide to be happy. those parts are ALWAYS gonna be with us, we're just gotta be dealing with those parts better, which would in turn let our self, our individuality shine.

@emascerb458 3 года назад

I personally decided to look for joy rather then happiness. I try to not overlook things that seem insignificant and try not to forget to look at bad situation from a more self-improving point of view rather then self pity. It's definitely challenging, but I hope that the struggles I face may someday can encourage somebody who needs it!

@suwaaa.8306 5 лет назад

I don't know really, I cry whenever I hear a sentimental Arctic Monkeys song on earphones/headphones

@CV-yy9qz 4 года назад

Same. I cry everytime I listen to Cornerstone and Despair in the Departure Lounge. :(

@nabeel9187 4 года назад

Just try upbeat music I use it to lighten up my mood.

@m.meghana2365 3 года назад

Arctic Monkeys are amazing ....or maybe we are just too emotional ........😅

@KaizenB 5 лет назад

So glad I found this channel. GREAT VIDEOS!

@lunar7915 5 лет назад

Thank you so much for this video. I love your positivity

@danco2366 3 года назад

Just wanna say thank you for this video.. was feeling too overwhelmed and anxious with all the things that are happening in my life.. stumbled upon this vid and it made me feel better.. thank you

@tunebj 3 года назад

Dude, you're rocking it brother. These videos are very helpful. I'm literally laughing out loud at your stereo analogy ( and knowing it'll work if I can just remember it)

@97_log 4 года назад

Thank you Sherman! For explaining and giving us life tips & advices especially as an INFP 😊 I really do admire your works!

@justanotherinvisibleinfp1410 5 лет назад

✌🏻️😃☮ I'm the creator of my happiness and the only one who can choose how I feel. 👍 Thank you!

@justanotherinvisibleinfp1410 5 лет назад

What I love is spending time in nature and hiking mountains. 💚 Nature is cheaper than therapy like they say. 😆

@Kaori57 5 лет назад

@@justanotherinvisibleinfp1410 Ugh, yes! Definitely agree.

@justanotherinvisibleinfp1410 5 лет назад

Namame 💜🍃🍂🐾

@antoinettenovella1630 4 года назад

You are and you will prevail. Remember this strength of thought and optimism beautiful.

@MajorieRoyal 5 лет назад

I enjoy your work. I can tell you truly invest yourself and seek answers which is admirable and rare.

@santinamarie4699 2 года назад

I really like the stereo technique you were talking about. I've been doing that recently even before I heard you talk about it where I see a dial and I turn it up-and-down depending on the emotion . It really works. It's so great to find somebody like you we all really need this.

@alicecampana Год назад

this video resonated with me so much and was so useful thank you :)

@JohnHenrysaysHi 5 лет назад

Thank you for this advice, sir. I'll pray for you in my Rosary. God bless.

@Sam-tz7cd 5 лет назад

Great video 🙏🏼 The power of positive thinking is amazing. When we change our perception we gain control.

@zzulm 4 года назад

To everyone struggling, thanks for being courageous and not giving up 👍

@MrMohit-wo2eq 3 года назад

I think I’m an INFP, but I’ve always been optimistic in life, always looking at the bright side of life. Always believing that the universe has it’s own reasons behind everything going on.

@AS-dp6vy 4 года назад

9:20 Positive Tune Up 😂 I'm going to try to remind myself to do this. I just found this channel, and I feel like I'm already learning and engaging with it a lot.

@natofficial6722 4 года назад

My sister is close to suicide and she's an INFP. As an INFJ I try to help her but I hope your advices will make her stop to cry. She's 28 y.o and I'm 21. It's a tough situation so thanks for the advices man.

@FalconWindblader 4 года назад

I'm aware of just fuckin' impossible it is deal with our types when we're in our worst, emotionally overwhelmed states. hell, we INFPs ourselves might sooner cut ourselves off with the devastating emotional wrecks of our own type, just to avoid getting caught up in their emotional turmoil & become devastating emotional wrecks ourselves. so thank you, for being there for one of our own in such a difficult time.

@MsDoryLinda 4 года назад

So true, nobody can make you feel unhappy, they did something, you attached meaning that made you feel unhappy. ❤ New Sub here, great content.

@mariabilovod2280 5 лет назад

It was soo deep topic for me, really! Thank you so much 💕

@pixelpuff 4 года назад

As an INFP, this video REALLY helped me. Thank you, man!!!

@alliarsenic 2 года назад

Really appreciate this.

@krandly8 4 года назад

Thank you so much for that. I laughed out loud which felt good (I could see myself as a character) a person constantly exhausted because of how much evaluation they do. It's funny and cute. Really summed me up XD

@caiknbake 4 года назад

I'm also an INFP who had this same realization as an adolescent, and it has helped me enormously. One caveat I would add, though, is that clinical depression and anxiety disorders often can't be solved with this method. I tried to choose positivity as often as possible for a long time, and it helped me function in the world, but it wasn't until I saw a therapist and started taking anxiety meds that I realized my body chemistry had been working against me the whole time. Now that I'm treating my illness, this technique works brilliantly. I just want to make sure that if there are INFPs out there who try and try and can't make this work, sometimes therapy and/or psychiatry is the key. Love the channel! :)

@GeekPsychology 4 года назад

Nothing wrong with therapy and external support :) Meds are a whole complicated conversation... but there are many techniques to help reduce anxiety to a manageable level that I’d personally use before taking medication for it...

@dcarze9 4 года назад

Honestly, there is one thing I did that turned everything around for me and I'm glad you mentioned it. I used to slouch and stare at the ground as I walked. At one point I actively practiced standing up straight and keeping my chin up. Yes it was super awkward until I got used to it, but it made feel and appear more confident to others which at some point became real. It's weird but even when you are not certain on the inside, if you look confident people will listen, and follow you. Bonus! Optimism is amazing! I have failed so much and realizes that no matter what happens, everything always turns out ok eventually even if it's not perfect. Dream and make your dreams reality. Failure is part of learning, and let you make a bigger impact the next time you try!

@ME-ud4wv 4 года назад

Unfortunately sadness is seen pretty negatively nowadays but I think it's actually very beneficial to be sad or melancholic, because it makes you a lot more empathetic and sensitive which is something that the world really needs right now. Edit: that doesn't mean you should be depressed all the time of course, all I'm saying is that sadness per se isn't a bad thing

@czangesebastian7190 5 лет назад

Thank you dude..i needed this..😌

@freyashipley6556 4 года назад

"There's nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so."

@hettyantjegeru7405 4 года назад

Im ENFJ.Honestly I like all your videos👍👌🙌💖.Keep going to spread your ideas and experiences as INFP.It was incredible.

@Loriloya 3 года назад

This is very good advice. Thank you

@hannahgray4896 5 лет назад

Thank you. I needed that

@fuunakan7318 Год назад

Wow, you lived in Japan! I'm saying hello to you from Japan. I've found your videos accidentally today and I'm watching now. I'm INFP and been struggling with traits in my life. But I think I'm getting better. I want to say thank you for making me keep on trying that. Btw, sorry my poor English😂💦

@juliejohnson3057 4 года назад

Yes, it’s possible! We can learn to love ourselves. We are all imperfectly perfect. i Especially Love INFPs 💕 So true, just buying coffee can be agonizing 😂! we gotta be kind to ourselves, be the Love you are. Great point, projection happens. Nothing is personal and no need to make assumptions. When I feel down i like to go outside, be amongst trees. exercise classes and swimming help and Listening to music. thank you for your videos 🙏

@krolea 4 года назад

Sometimes it gets really hard, carrying all the weight of the world on my shoulders. But I found a way for me to put all the bad stuff into positivity. Getting sad or melancholic about things, situations and people makes me recognize what I want for my happiness. I'll never stop being a dreamer but I chose that this is my superpower.

@KeepingItReal-USA 11 месяцев назад

My roommate in college gave me “Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff,” it really helped me get out of my head more. I still am super deep but, I pick and choose what I care a lot about and what I will care little about.

@godcorrodedgod 2 года назад

My happiness is due to gratitude. And that wonderful connection with hart/mind. When that align in my soul im deeply greatful for my ability to live again..

@SimplyShannonK 3 года назад

oh my gosh, when you mentioned trying to decide what kind of coffee to order that fucking hit :( you honestly explained what I have such trouble trying to explain to others without feeling crazy. I'm so glad I found your channel.

@GeekPsychology 3 года назад

Happy to have you here ^^

@harshadakamat6989 4 года назад

you're so nice you made me me cry. i really wanted to. thanks. i hope to be like you.

@dandanpup 4 года назад

I got really down and in a depressive state for a few weeks (dark season am I right) but actually my driving instructor noticed, had a talk with me and told me a very helpful tip. For every negative thought you have (when you catch it) think of two positive things. This can be about anything but for me the best practise is to think about the positives of that negative thought.

@dronedruid153 4 года назад

Thank you so much for what you do Sherman.

@GeekPsychology 4 года назад

Thank you for supporting!

@akaboo69 5 лет назад

Good advice dude I like the way you think

@Kiseochan 5 лет назад

Also, I LOVE the I. Now. Feel. Positive.

@dabharaplang9199 4 года назад

I love your dedication. It is very attractive 😊

@maherukh4970 4 года назад

This talk made me realize about my melancholic side. 👏

@karidesana8977 4 года назад

Last school year (2019-2020), I was in a very dark place. I had many physical problems and lost much weight, and this affected my mental state as well. School was also tough and my confidence was 0. Life was putting too much weight on my shoulders that I unfortunately thought of suicide. However, the summer of 2019 was when I changed. I went to London for a few days and seeing another place changed my point of view. I realized that life is beautiful and enjoyable. I came out of the dark place and have been going up ever since. There are still ups and downs, and many things I need to work on, however I love myself and I am so much happier and healthier now. I hope anyone who reads this and relates to it can also be the happiest version of themselves :)

@SkyMist227 5 лет назад

you'd be a fantastic meditation teacher haha :') I can totally imagine you on SimpleHabit. Your encouraging vibes and soothing voice remind me of Cory Muscara, a meditation teacher. Also, could you talk about your thought process before moving to japan, how you made the final push, and how you adjusted to life there? I'm pretty certain I want to study abroad alone but it still seems daunting. And i know, I already know I want to do it and I know that I'll inevitably grow from venturing outside my comfort zone, so i should just do it, but i think i'd still feel inspired/less alone if you shared your experience.

@onllyluvisreal8880 3 года назад

I really want to control my emotions. Lately I am really frustrated easily and I find that to be the worst emotion. INFP here. I finally feel like somebody understands how I think. Yay.

@tarfanellisofia8716 4 года назад

"losing yourself means rediscover it enriched by new sensations". thats my quote for infp's loops going constantly up and down, bye everyone. (really nice video though)

@rightruminations7259 5 лет назад

I like the set-up of your more recent videos. What is the easiest/cheapest way to create backgrounds like that for RU-vid videos?

@elizabethCorkins83 4 года назад

I have anxiety so bad as long as I can remember & I feel like my life is falling apart now cuz I had a Dr that was working with me & now he is gonna cut my anxiety meds off cuz "it's a rule" & this had happened before since I been on for so long, but every time I've been cut off my high dose I panic so bad & I've gone way back now in my life in so many ways. The worst ways were when I almost died (too many times). I told my Dr how I feel & he knows my history, but he can't help cuz he said "it the rules here & not my rule...". Same thing I've heard before & gone through so much hell. I'm so scared 😭 idk what to do & worried about my future cuz I almost died too many times & been in comas, live support & so on... It's horrible 😭 I hate it & I hate this feeling of going backwards again & I've been doing So good in my life for probably the longest I've ever been before & everything has been going okay I guess, I mean , my grandma died a few month ago & I felt with that so much better than I thought I would & if it was not for the anxiety meds, idk what or how I woulda even coped with that. 😢HUGZ😢

@mikeinfp-type-9684 4 года назад

They should not be able to cut you off your meds like that. Where do you live that has such ‘rules’? Where I live, that would not be considered good medical practice.

@addiem7112 4 года назад

This is so inspirtational thank uu bless uu

@skim4264 5 лет назад

Yeah when we are left alone and knowing that there is others out there like me.

@thepinkroom8199 3 года назад

I heard 悪循環 and was like "wait, did he just speak in Japanese?" Haha, caught me by surprise. Thanks for the videos btw, really helping me with understanding and accepting myself 😊

@pisceanrat 4 года назад

I dunno but i get happy whenever i see you on my reco

@jcizzlepiano 4 года назад

Yoga nidra, especially the ones where they have you "set an intention" (such as, I am happy and healthy, I am calm and relaxed, etc) can really help! You can find a bunch of them on RU-vid, some are meant to help you fall asleep and some are good for whenever I feel like I'm scatterbrained or just running rampid with thoughts. Clears your head, relaxes your body, would recommend 💯👌

@valzugg 5 лет назад

This is really awesome stuff. I was gonna start the challenge back when u first announced it but didnt even get so far as to start it after signing up oops

@Kaori57 5 лет назад

Same, haha. But better late than never! :)

@valzugg 5 лет назад

Namame indeed

@karistone1297 2 года назад

Learning to practise daily gratitude has helped. In some ways I’ve had to LEARN to be happy…and don’t let my emotional responses rule my choices, if that makes sense…which it doesn’t, lol…I mean if you ignore how you feel and do it anyway, the happiness kind of sneaks up on you.

@iwasanMBTInerd 4 года назад

Absolutely. Happiness and peace is determined by what you have alive in your mind in regards to your self image. You decide to be happy, you smash any unwanted thoughts, you choose to view the world and people and yourself in the way you prefer them to be and you persist in that. Everything begins to shift, starting with you. It is a Law of the Universe. I beat my depression in one week with a loving and positive mental diet.

@SpiritGreatness 4 года назад

I think we infp our biggest challenge is self love/self esteem but its hard to have self esteem when i am always occupied to underatand and feel people motives feelings ect @@

@FalconWindblader 4 года назад

@@SpiritGreatness Stop at understanding other people's thoughts & go no further. we INFPs kinda constantly forget that we NEED to love ourselves before we could be loved. learning to shield ourselves from the opinions of others would be one lesson we need to constantly do for the rest of our lives. care too much about what other people think of us, & people would simply see us as pushovers & doormats.

@Blackshadow-et9ti 4 года назад

I love your background.

@syukrinorjan9867 3 года назад

When I feel low, I recalls all good memories like compliments from others and my achievement to be positive, but still it doesn't help me overcome anxiety which makes me indecisive

@sjwillis1137 3 года назад

Okay . I go for a long walk . I journal . Honestly. My diary is my confidante, my pure outlet . We cannot just walk through this gig without expressing ourselves to ourselves . It really helps. 👄😘😘😘

@azuremoon6583 4 года назад

For me, my mother (not an INFP) is always positive and when I was younger seeing positives in negatives and being carefree. I was anxious and quiet. Overtime I valued those specific traits a lot more. I was an optimist people viewed me as carefree. Though still anxious and needs some time to get off social media, I can always see the good in the bad. Maintains that optimism is easy because I instituted as a child. All I did was value the traits I wanted and just embody it more. Nothing special just wanted to add.

@lonlinessman6621 2 года назад

'life is a game. this is the walktrough' nice words

@WalkerSunriseChannel 4 года назад

I was always tell myself something whenever I’m having trouble. “I’d rather be an optimist than just despair at the state of the world.” Creating characters is fun, for sure. And when I play video games, it’s always the characters that I attach to.

@stephy369 3 года назад

So spot on, I feel so called out lol but it's all so true. If I were a certain way or acted a certain way, how would that change rhe outcome, etc...

@erecschatten5202 4 года назад

That stereo thing do realy help a lot.

@wadeaaatallah6004 4 года назад

last summer I decided that I'm going to be more outgoing, spontaneous and not afraid of people's judgements. As a result, I made a couple of friends whom I enjoy hanging out with and doing things with that I usually don't do like dancing;).

@CosmosWorld 5 лет назад

Thank you!

@sp00g37 2 года назад

I used to be very heavy into psychedelics. and one thing I discovered is I could remember a scenario. to be easy, take your first kiss. that excitement, stomach tremble, all of that is somewhere involving serotonin and oxytocin. What tripped me up is I could get other people to do it. Music will do this too for me; I'll let youtube just go on algorithm and listen for hours and feel like its an emotional trip.

@AnnafromHungarylvNW 4 года назад

We need a psytrance mix from your voice in this video 🤯👁️🌄 On a serious note though, I think it's called deep acting. I really should start doing it now 😣

@farimasultani6138 2 года назад

I guess I'm a rare INFP then because I was and still am super happy and optimistic basically 100% of the time. I do get sad or depressed sometimes but then I let go of it and do something that makes me happy, so I turn happy very quickly again which I'm genuinely happy and proud of. My advice would be to follow your heart because that's what will make you happy. :)

@sjwillis1137 3 года назад

Let's get into life . You are never going to to be happy until you decide to be happy . OMG ! Blimey. This really makes sense . Cheers darling. ♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

@jessmirage7182 9 месяцев назад

I found happiness ! Its true for me that i chose it . After sui ide attempt ... diagnosed with major depression with psychosis .. after horrible postpartum with 3 kids and losing custody after losing everything . I realised if i can choose to be that sad and sitting at the end of that road.... i had to choose happness to even exist anymore . The strugle wasnt easy its been 8 yrs now and 5 yrs ago i was released from any therapy or psychological care . I go every year to make sure im still well. I do that because ten yrs ago i realised i was my own enemy and i cant trust me to decide if im ok lol. I am very aware of one very true thing and its that i didnt know what happy was til i was recovering with this a few yrs ago . Im almost 40 . Life is absolutely ajourney of beautiful pain and challenges and absolurtely anything is possible. I am no longer diagnosed withthese things and all i eant to do now is break boundries forever . I finally have a desire to be functional and take intiative to take control of my life. I have to remind myself not everyone can overcome things like i can. Working on that

@jessmirage7182 9 месяцев назад

Infp ❤💯%

@gilbrook 4 года назад

Yes, purpose of our lives is to be the BEST version of ourselves.

@tedcoombs7762 5 лет назад

This is such a good video !!!

@melissagannon5711 2 года назад

I'm happy when people just leave me alone. I love for my family to briefly chat with and give updates on their day and such. And sometimes I enjoy an intense conversation about something weird. But I'm happiest alone or with my dogs. I guess I really just need a new human stray if I'm going to have a friend.

@janna9942 5 лет назад

Being infp makes me closer to god

@kyonas6047 5 лет назад

Same, but a year ago i think that i mess every thing out and now better 😂

@jenluvzya 4 года назад

Amen

@YozoraYue Год назад

"You are never going to be happy until you decide to be happy." lol, I agree. Couple weeks ago I said something similar, "Life can be as devastating or as interesting as you want it to be" lol

@GeekPsychology Год назад

It’s counterintuitive but I’ve found it to be true