You're an inspirational man Dave. My heart was breaking for you watching this and the courage you're showing is immense. Enjoy every minute... even the gross ones :)
Hi dave and mel, thanks for the update i did think about emailing you to say hi and thinking of you all but thought best not as didnt want to impose. Its good to see you looking and sounding so strong for mel and yourself and the rest of the family, im sure mel loves all that you all do for her. Give my love to mel and family and you will have to go with a man hug. Life can be hard but knowing your all there for each other makes the difference, mike
I don't know how support plays out in England, but in Scotland McMillan ans Marie Curie nurses can be a godsend, allowing primary carers respite. I talk about you and Mel with my immediate family (two retired nurses and one still practicing). What you are sharing is radiating out helpfully to many. As Fixit says, inspirational.
Thanks for the update, Dave, as always, my thoughts are with you and the family and my best wishes too. I am a little disturbed to hear that the NHS messed you around with the ankle scan, we all hold the NHS in high regard, but that sort of mismanagement is just not good and if it added to your family's stress it is just not on. But at least they tried I suppose. Take care mate, as I say thoughts are with you all.
It is unfortunate that only people at the brink of losing someone or having just lost someone say what you said. "don't take your loved ones for granted" It's a good reminder. Boy, it's a rough business having to go through what you are. Both emotionally, but also the physical side of looking after someone who can't look after themselves. And we know you certainly not complaining. Just explaining how things are. I hope others beginning this same journey discover your videos. They would be comforting to someone to know that others are going through the same thing. Cheers from Canada
I watched this when you first posted, but couldn’t comment at the time. My heart is with you both; Dave, you have amazing reserves of strength, and we can understand that, though exhausting, it is better for you, in many ways, to be able to support Mel to the best of your ability. It can be “easier” to be strong when you are focused on her and occupied with her care and the running of the household. I’ve been there, and for me, the focus and drive required to manage the moment-to-moment and daily requirements, actually helped me stay together. As you say, you can do things you never imagined, because they need to be done and you need to do them. Please do take a little time to rest. So many friends and supporters are here, wishing we could do more to help you. As it is, we offer our wishes for tender mercies. Thinking of you.
You are showing incredible strength in the face of something so frightening to you both. Don't be afraid to release the floodgates sometimes just to let some tension out. You are doing everything within your power to keep your wife comfortable and where she wants to be. Be proud, you know you are strong, and seek every assistance in your journey you can. You are an inspiration and a rock. May your chosen god bless you.
What an incredibly strong man you are Dave. In explaining what Mel is suffering, you have pretty much described my dad in 2018. He had my mum caring in the same way you are doing and though he mostly was confused and lost, those moments of clarity let them appreciate the love they shared. I know it's tough, but you obviously have great family and neighbours who share Mel's kind nature. All the best mate; we are thinking of you.
So so sorry to hear what is happening with your wife, you are so strong to be able to talk about it with all of us most of who you have never met as we are all over the world, but this has brought us all together for you , you are dealing with something incredibly painful and my wife bronwynne and my self feel for you , take care of Mel , your family yourself and don't worry about losing subscribers, I'm standing by for you mate, and I'm sure All of us will Too, take care Dave spend time with Mel,that's what matters mate 🙏🙏
My heart breaks for you Dave, nobody deserves to go through this. However, you are so brave for sharing such personal thoughts. I relate to your story about not being able to pick your wife up when she fell, I had to call the fire service to lift my mother when she was I’ll,stay strong mate.
I am now going through the same as your self my wife has just been diagnosed with cancer of the liver and kidney so I feel like my life is coming to an abrupt halt not been in the shed can’t concentrate on tools at the time prayers and thoughts with you my friend
@@meldaveslife unfortunately not Dave she’s had all the scans but because she’s asthmatic they don’t think she’ll be safe under the anaesthetic so it’s now biopsy time to see what if anything can be done to prolong life we hope. It’s hard my friend as me and the wife have been together for 52 years it’s a lot of living and a whole lot of loving as well
@@PhilsWorkshop1953 well I met my wife in 2008, got married in 2012 so been married for 10yrs. Was hoping for a long happy marriage but it's not looking so good. I totally understand how you feel. When we first found out it was like our life had come to a screeching halt. The thought of losing my lover, my best mate, my soul mate scares me to death. Can't imagine life without her. One thing I've learnt is don't stop living. Your wife is still here & you can still share precious time together. Live every day, tell her you love her & make memories together. Stay strong for her & look after yourself.
@@meldaveslife that is so true Dave we are just going from day to day and trying to carry on as normal but like my best mate is going away and it’s not something I’m looking forward to but with a bit of luck we can prolong things as much as she wants to go she’s frightened but I don’t know who’s frightened more me or her. Being to get her for this long you would have thought it would be easier but it’s so difficult 😥 sometimes I cry my self to sleep silently but the tears still come back like now trying to talk to you is difficult as the board gets distorted any way thanks for your concern it’s much appreciated and our heart felt prayers go out to you and your best mate I think sounds better for that what they are to us and big hugs all round 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂
