It honestly breaks my heart when you see how the emotional scars from childhood bullying run so deeply into adulthood. I really hope they both find the match they are looking for!
I agree. Some people are more resilient than others when it comes to such things. It makes me incredibly sad to see people not living their best lives because of trauma. It's easy to say get over it, but it's not that simple sometimes.
"Coz it was safer to be shut off than make yourself the bigger target." This is the only reason people should need to not be a bully. Love for them❤️🔥❤️🔥
OMG thats EXACTLY my life since school and bullying. recently tried therapy but so far talking therapy not helped much. I become like a walking void :/
@@nekromantik2009 - I'd recommend journaling, shadow work, meditation and also self concept work. The problem is that we've (I'm in the same boat) not had chance to process those emotions properly from childhood, so there's a load of unhealed trauma that's stuck in the subconscious. I currently use an exercise book by The School of Life called 'Who am I?', also affirmations and nighttime affirmations I've recorded and play on loop whilst sleeping...
@@patrickb4750 very well said. I recently discovered School of Life after I had a full blown panic attack after a breakup from an insecurely attached relationship. Now on a healing journey and helping my file as well.
@@nekromantik2009 working on yourself and healing yourself takes a lot of work. Hope you are able to find your peace eventually. If you want someone to talk to, I would love to give some emotional support.
I could relate to what Richard said. When so much of your life is dependent on how well your childhood, and teenage years go, it can take a long time to recover. It makes you stronger, but all those missed opportunities, by hiding, it's such a shame.
Richard is such a nice guy. He is handsome, very polite and honest person. It's kind of sad to hear someone was giving him hard time just because he got different sexual preference.
No one absolutely no one should ever be made to feel “worthless”! We are all beautiful in our own way! You Richard deserve to be appreciated, respected and loved for who you are! I wish you both all the best!
They're both very sweet but I didn't think there was a spark between them. It was sad hearing Richard's lack of confidence due to bullies, he's a very good looking guy and seems a nice guy.
Yes no spark but they can end up being good friends so it is still all good. On these dates, you need to be open minded. I mean it is also a means of networking and learning new things from other people. If you are just there looking for love, the more you will not find it.
I feel the same as Richard, I was bulled heavily the last 6 months of school I had no one, went to sixth form but once I was told I wasn't obligated (my attendance was bad) to be there by a teacher I left. I'm not as confident as I should be in my dating life and life in general but I'm getting there... my candlelight dimmed for many years but its still alight and getting brighter :)
I had ten years of bullying from 8 to 18. Been successful work-wise (managed to retire at 54 and never have to work again) but the rest of my adult life is pretty much a car crash and I find I'm filling my day with as many mental distractions as possible (most of which I enjoy a lot) but otherwise just counting down the months and years until death releases me. Life just hasn't been what it seemed to promise when I was very small.
I'm having quite a crush on Duncan, he is absolutely so cute. If it doesn't work out with Richard, Duncan will have to fly to Los Angeles on a holiday and meet me
That sort of bullying is worse today for LGBTQ kids. I think they learn it from their parents. Be nice to each other, and to your classmates, because at some point life will catch up with you. Treating others who are different from you with respect is a decent thing to do.
omg i know the shop that richard runs! It's called The Recycled Candle Company and he has a shop in the Guildhall in Exeter. He runs it with someone else.
All I can tell Richard is "You have to kiss a lot of FROGS before you find THE PRINCE!!!" I am a foreign-born American and came to this country in 1961. (USA). And believe me from 1961 to 1990 (29 years) I spent hoping that the next one I meet will be the one. And it never happened. I had lots of long-term dating relationships; but never marriage. In 1990, when I was working in Macon, Georgia when I met a young man (17 years younger then I) and HE FELL IN LOVE WITH ME. It was a very unusual situation for me. Long story short, we've been togther 33 years. Keep the faith...true love is out there. It was a very unusual situation for me. Long story short, we've been togther 33 years. Keep the faith...true love is out there.
Richard is very handsome and I would date him. I wanted to hug him when he spoke about his experience and he started tearing up. No one should experience anything like that.
It is criminal how many people enter young adulthood completely shattered from bullying. It's definitely an issue for LGBT people, but also for anyone who is "different" or unique in any way. I really wish the world wasn't that way and that people could just be who they are without shame or fear.
It didn't work out, turns out Richard according to his Instagram ended up getting engaged to the co-founder of his candle business, a guy called Sargon.
@@Not-Ap I think the person already knows that. He is asking if the question is a phrase of greeting, not asking the participants in the show it directly.
Blond "How are you?", Date," How are youuuu?", Blond to waiter "How are you?", Waiter "How are you?". Dates first question, "So what do you do for a living?", BIG no no.
Typical hypocritical religious nutcases like YOU never fail to amaze me with their judgmental comments that nobody gives a f***k about. If soooo religious, why are you watching this shows, shouldn't you be on your knees "praying" to your non-existent lord in the sky but instead you're here, I bet you get off watching these guys kiss cause that's all the action you get in your very lonely, pathetic, homophobic life.
Richard, you are so loved! I’m really sorry to hear how hard school was for you. It made me tear up cause I had a very similar experience. But I’m sure you’ve become a stronger person because of it and I hope you found the guy that makes you happy and lets you open up more again. 🫶🏼
