Caroline Myss - The Wounded Child (The Power of Archetypes) 

I had a very profound mystical experience in my 20s and even so, the inner child didn't seem to be effected by it, however each morning when I look in the mirror I am starting to say "I love you" and then I say positive things to myself all the while smiling and looking directly into my eyes. It really seems to be working.

Caroline.....I can't believe the synchronicity of the statement you just made about your father having PTSD after fighting in the Pacific! I said exactly the same thing last night to a friend. I have a sister dying of late stage MS and terminal cancer and I am seeing our upbringing in light of this profound reality. Our father also fought in the Pacific and we were ruled by his moods and anger. We cannot share our grief because we were brought up to never speak of emotional needs or to even speak of their existence. I am also reading The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk and Wounds into WIsdom by TIrzah Firestone both of which confirm the inheritance of the psychic wounds of our parents and ancestors. Thank you so much for this series and your ongoing brilliant work of making the connections you do!

I was intrigued when you said that pain had authority. There’s something deeply curious. As you brought it around to woundology and currency it really came together for me. I truly hope you can do a video on this. These are so profoundly inspiring and healing. Thank you so much Caroline. You are such a blessing 🙏🏽💞 Infinite love and gratitude

Thank you so much for all those videos on archetypes. They are priceless.I've been in relationships with people who weaponized their wounds in order to suck the life out of others. How much finesse is needed to live properly 😮.

I never had children but I feel I healed some of my own pain when I worked as a nanny and in playgroups and gave to those kids what I would have liked to have experienced myself.

That's why in the Scandinavian culture we have realism where the bad and good of life gets included which is viewed by UK and US cultures as we cultivate being miserable. World Famous Danish fairytale poet Hans Christian Andersen cultivated this kind of realism in his stories for children. Especially in "A Little Match Girl" and "The Emperor's New Clothes".

STELLAR analytical work, dear Caroline!!! Every example, every piece of self-revelation, every reflection resonates deeply within me - as a human being as well as a therapist. I cannot thank you enough for shining the light of reason and warmth of compassion to this difficult topic. 🌟

This broke my heart into pieces especially when you shared about the woman who starved her child. I sobbed like a baby. Indeed, inner child healing has so much to do with compassion, self-compassion and Divine Mercy. This truly inspired me more to continue my healing and empowering my healing and Healer journey. I am an Inner Child Therapist and Hypnotherapist. Caroline's archetype deck was the first God-given healing tool I received to help heal myself and with God's grace have shared to many as well. I cannot thank you enough Caroline and your divine guidance for all that we are co-creating to help serve ourselves and humanity! Our Wounded Inner Child have so much hidden treasures. They are the most hidden ones. The excruciating pain and the gold in it... They are divinely designed to be hidden... The moment it has been courageously confronted and embraced by our most compassionate hearts, one day at a time, we are ready to become or conquer all the other archetypes. It is bringing so much ancestral healing. It is the beginning of becoming a Lover and a Mother, a parent not just to ourselves but to Mother Nature herself. We are then not just in Her Womb being nurtured by her but also nurturing her back the same way, collectively healing our planet. Many hugs to all of you!

I used to live vicariously through the old TV shows like Donna Reed, Father Knows Best, etc. It was the only way I had a chance to feel peace within a family system. Thank you, Caroline, for talking about the wounded child. I was one, raised by two incredibly wounded parents. It's taken many decades to heal, and I'm not done yet. Thank goodness for all the healing techniques available today to help us move through.

Every day is a struggle not to be my own abuser and definitely winning, knowing your books and words.learned today, our parents wanting us to know their pain by giving pain that’s a Wow,another,jewel,of understanding

Thank you! 🙏 Back in the mid 90’s a co-worker named Sage gave me several cassette tapes of lectures you did on why people don’t heal and what they can do about it. She was a wise woman, indeed. Those tapes had a profound impact helping me get started on the journey to heal my wounded child. Listening to this video today, I realize just how far I have come. Yes, it has been a deeply painful journey at times, yet, it has all been worth it. I have discovered for myself that what you say about the discovering the magical child is true. She is alive, well and has come out to play! 💖✨🤸‍♀️

the pain has authority- wow, I beat on myself constantly, I treat myself the way my mother treated me, I knew I didn't want a child in this lifetime because I could not trust myself not to repeat this cycle, it had to end with me

I think using wounds as currency is an interesting concept, but I think it is a little easier to imagine that those wounded people who seem to be using their wounds against others to get sympathy etc might actually just be too messed up to really understand what they're doing. They don't have a frame of reference for what it's like to not be wounded, so to them it's normal. If they're using it to get power that might not be happening consciously/intentionally. They might not know what is acceptable in conversation when what is acceptable in action has been completely alienated from them due to their trauma.

Not only is it difficult to heal from childhood wounds, but first you have to realize you have them and are acting from them. My wounds came out in physical symptoms and I thought they were 100% physical. It took me literally decades to discover the depth of my emotional childhood wounds and how they were affecting me. Only until you discover you have them do you actually have a choice. For me, the most difficult part was coming to that realization. Even after years of therapy, I didn’t know that I was sabotaging my own life. And, yes, it’s so difficult dealing with the wounded child within others, especially within your own parents. Thank you, Caroline.

The beginning had me laughing and crying. In my early 20s, my mom reflected that it seemed I was always going somewhere else looking for a family, somewhere else to hang around. I told her honestly that it was because it had always felt like we were play-acting some TV scene at home, like we couldn't just be ourselves, be real. After some reflection, she told me that that was the only example she had of what a real family was supposed to be like. It was some years later that I found out about the absolute hell she had been raised in. My introduction to the Wounded Child.

God, the timing on this one is perfect beyond my capacity to comprehend 🤯🥺😭😍😍❤🎉🔥 🙏🏻

Yes projecting our wounds to receive the healing and acknowledgement from others is narcissistic. I did it, so I innerstand. 🙌💗 Thanks for this powerful archetype series, so blessed 🙌

Thank you, Caroline. I'm pondering about this lady who shared about her incest in a short yes/no question. I always feel most safe and comfortable when ppl, me included can be honest. Be open about our insides. I dont like it when there are set rules for what subject is too much sharing, like past wounds. For me it's more about where it comes from. For instance if a person asks me if i can help out friday, and i say, no, im going to therapy for my chronic illness this day... If i say it with an intension to get something from this person i dont think it is honest communication, and will feel uncomfortable for the other. On the other side, if i say it because that is an easy explanation why i cannot, and at the same time the person will know me a little more.. My point is that i think society would benefit from more openness ..what if going to a therapist for trauma, like incest, would be equal accepted to share about as that you're going to the dentist...

“How could traumatized adults raise healthy children?” That sums the entire thing up.. Woundology is a completely intriguing concept.. this series is really interesting … my “mother”, her mother and her father, were all wounded but especially my “mother”… and she, in concert with the other 2, made my life starting in the womb, an excruciatingly difficult imprisonment.. and, the extra rub for me was these people who were my “parents” were all absolutely textbook examples of malignant narcissism, fleshed out… research this exhaustively specific to them.. they checked all the boxes.. they 100% knew what they were doing; 100% were not sorry about any of it; took me down in the eyes of others ohh and just on and on.. so wounded children? absolutely.. wounded mentally but deep down spiritually they were an evil, cohesive, unredeemable pack of sinisterness 👹😠.. they all dead now so i am safe

Hi Caroline 🙂 Thank you for spotlighting this particular archetype. Btw the theme of Marry Poppins is not about the perfect family. Quite the opposite. Right off, we see the neglected children, the patriarchal detached father, and the preoccupied mother. The parents project all onus onto the nannies, selfishly preserving their own freedom, and keeping their denial at bay. Their lack of self-awareness emotionally starves their children and leaves them bereft of healthy boundaries. Deprived of love, attention, and guidance, the children begin to act out. We clearly see a family in crisis. Mary Poppins is the intermediary. She's the children's fairy godmother and the father's redeemer. Through a series of events, she accelerates the ego death of the father, while simultaneously providing the tools needed for recovery. Her job is done. She is the harsh mirror of reality reflecting our naked vulnerability. Without a blink, we peer directly into the eyes of the only person who can make or break us, love or hate us.

Amazing! Thank you for explaining this. To even “know” we have the choice to heal is a gift in itself. “Taking responsibility and not clinging to our attachment and identification to BEING a “wounded child”🙏🏽❣️🙏🏽

Does the Wounded Child include the Orphan and the Abandoned Child? Many people who experienced what is now known as CPSTD don't use their suffering as currency. Instead they don't even recognize their suffering as suffering and tend to be overly responsible. They have to LEARN that in fact they did suffer and to recognize the responsibility of their parents/caregivers.

“ I just sat there like a piece of modern Art” 😂🤣 I love your sense of humor! 😘💕

Just an observation about Johnny Depp. He certainly has the wounded child from being abandoned by his father into the hands of an abusive mother. It also seems that he became the knight who attracted his mother in the form of Amber Heard, & uses his acting talent to portray the magical child we can all love from afar. I related to so much of what you said. At nearly 75 I’ve only just begun to seek healing for the wounded child in me. It’s a painful process in many ways, & deeply healing at the same time. I just got your book on audible & listen as I go on my morning walks. Thank you for your insights & for doing these videos. 🙏

I loved those shows and I didn't hear my parents argue but twice in 16 years. My Mom did have a clean house with 10 people living there. Very family based. I loved it. And, I think positive programming was a steering wheel to happy living. For us it worked.

Thank you for the story about the woman you encountered at the workshop who starved her child. That went a long way to help me understand my mother's treatment of me. I really believe that healed me instantaneously. A jewel for my pouch!

Thank you for this presentation, Carolyn! I was so struck ny your compassion for this archtype. Typically you're pretty tough on BS, so when you got to the part of calling out the "currency" of someone' using Woundology as a manipulative tool, I understood your capacity for seeing the bigger picture. Today I was dealing with a client - actually I'm a music teacher, and she loves to sing and said "music is her saviour", so i agreed to work with her. But after many months of doing my best and going way above and beyond what I do with anyone else, today I reached my point of exhaustion with her tactics and put a stop to the dymanic by stating my truth and asking her to leave. It was very difficult but as you said, it's exhausting trying to deal with someone using their wound as currency. I feel like this presentation gives me more clarity on what was happening and why I felt manipulated.

Thank you, Caroline for sharing your thoughts with us about The Wounded Child Archetype. I am glad that you mentioned the influence of WWII. So many people grew up in homes where their fathers & sometimes mothers bore PTSD wounds from this war. Children & spouses were affected by these war traumas to different degrees. The Second Wave of Feminism helped to open doors for womyn in the 1960's, 1970's & 1980's to begin to share their about their lives in consciousness raising groups. Many began to reveal their childhood wounds to others within these settings. I believe that there are collective ways that childhood wounds can be shared through the arts - music, poetry, writing of various kinds and theater which are healing & expressive in cathartic & important ways. This also bears witness to what different people & groups have experienced often with social-political-economic influences such a poverty, racism, misogyny, homophobia, etc. The power of knowing/hearing/seeing/reading other's stories who have faced, healed & "overcome" can be a transformational experience.

I can say today with joy that my magical child and innocent child have come out and it’s wonderful. I truly cherish my life. I look back on the last 3 years heavy healing work and see in hindsight that it can all connect back to the wounded child. Every step was worth it. Thank you for another riveting talk

This is so on spot of the 50's and 60's. Too funny but true to the fact of being sad. I remember these shows. I also recollect going to the Circle theatre to see the Sound of Music with my mother. My poor mother had an inferiority complex and tried to medicate with alcohol and mill town sedatives. Talk about dysfunction, oh my goodness. As I got older, I tried finding associations, hospitals, anybody to help her. My father was a Lt Col in the Air Force, gone a lot, to Turkey, Greece etc., for long periods of time. Well, needless to say, I went around throughout my life trying to help fix people, situations, and always trying to do the right thing myself. Only later in life did I understand that I needed to feel my self worth, that I deserved to live a responsible worthwhile life and to stop always doing the giving all the time. I don't know if this actually hurt me, or ended up helping me become a better person than I would have been. I knew I had guardian angels protecting me, always, always, always. My intuition is always on and I have finally begun helping myself along with others who do not abuse or use me, and now, I instinctively know when someone begins to manipulate me. I have never been able to completely trust, and that I blame on the wounded child who's mother never knew how to love her, who simply could not, in fact she admitted she was jealous of me. 2 years before she died, she found God, and apologized to me about her life and how she treated my brothers and myself. She actually admitted she wasted her life. It shocked me. I accepted it and felt happy for her for admitting it to me. Yes, the wounded child is real, but when you take this and help others through their hurt, it somehow helps ease the pain. I'm still working on it in the right way.

Thank you. When I would go 'home' for Christmas and my siblings would revert to childish behaviors and I was trying not to get triggered, I would get my car keys out of my purse and hold them. It was telling my inner child that I was an adult now and would protect her. That I could leave at any time if I chose to do so Whereas as a child, I couldn't leave, where would I go? I had a great therapist that I learned so much from.

Outstanding talk. Thank you for taking the time to share more about this archetype. It is a difficult journey to embark on and own up to, yet each small step forward in healing is empowering.

I’ve watched hours and hours of your incredible work, and I can’t get enough!! You are SUCH a brilliant woman. I’m so incredibly grateful for this insight. Absolutely interested in more discovery about woundology.

My mother born in the 30’s , as a wounded child and NO therapy at all ,because mental and emotional issues were for crazy (mental hospitals) people ONLY. She made clear in her behavior she had plenty unsolved issues, and me her 3 child was specially the origin of all her upside down world. I did went to therapy ( being adult) myself which I always be thankful for, and promised me since I was a girl that if I become a mom one day I would give the love I would like to had as a child. I have a son I adore and hug, and kiss And I tell him I love you!! In words and in actions!! ❤ In spite of what I feel inside sometimes as a healing in process wounded girl I can give love to him and to me. I honestly believe that new generations should break the chain of hurt and suffering. Some parents think they honor the elders doing exactly the same and that is a BIG mistake. I know I broke a chain of 4 generation of women who were mistreating their children. Thank you for your videos , you words of wisdom and correct perspective 👏👏👏👏🙏

That was tough to sit through especially towards the end cause it talks directly to the exiled parts. Thank you for sharing this. It's not easy but it's possible- I'll take that with me . Thank you Caroline. ❤

The family of Mary Poppins was not Perfection the father was distant the mother was preoccupied and the children were dangling out in the universe

“New Age” did not start in the 60’s. It was a bastardization of what went on in the 60’s and 70’s that arose in the 80’s which was an abomination.

Many mothers whose husbands left for war were traumatized. My own mother had to take her pregnant self, a 2 year old, and 3 month old baby (me) back to live with her parents during the years he was gone. She had been happy to leave that alcoholic home but the patriarchal society dictated that she must return to parents' home rather than live on her own while pregnant and caring for babies.

My father had PTSD from WW2 as well. He would wake up from nightmares and also was sleepwalking. He loved us, but was closed off emotionally. From the outside we looked like an ideal 60's TV family. If we strayed outside this idealized "look", if we didn't walk the straight and narrow we would embarrass mom and dad. Dad would lose his job if we were bad kids.

Remember Queen for a Day? The woman with the most pitiful story won lots of prizes. My sisters and I wanted to nominate our mom! Using victimhood and wounds as currency for sure!

I recently found and purchased your book. Have watched a few videos. This information is so powerful! Thank 🙏🏽 you sooooo much!!! Now I’m going to have to get woundology before I even finish reading Archetypes 😂

Please also make a video on WOUNDOLOGY💜🙏🏼💜

Needed to hear every word of this. Wounded child .. 3 years old brutal bloody trauma .. mom left me alone with him because there was to much blood .. my blood .. she left and closed the door .. my body prepared to die. Came back fear based .. with the deep truth that I was not deserving of any love. Ergo currency .. do I use my wounds to manipulate .. the part that doesn’t want to grow up. Wow .. ty. Such a long road. They don’t belong as social currency. Choose not to do that. What is a way to communicate in a healthy social way. Not ascending.. tantrums blames childhood .. grow into healthy adulthood. Wow it does help.. been trudging this road of healing for long time Magical child glimpes

Once again, I am so affected by your story, Findhorn and Elizabeth Kubler Ross are both enormous connections, as is a wounded father . Today is the 24th anniversary of the passing of my mother who was SUCH a wounded child as well....My beloved teacher of memory, Marcia Pudewa, was an early follower of yours and so I honor your work and quote from your videos often for my own work. Much love

I thought you handled that topic very well. It's an aspect of who I am, it's not who I AM. I dedicated this year to healing this aspect of my self. My focus, energy, and finances. I always kept her buried, I didn't flaunt her as a weapon. And as you were saying, my dad came home from WW2 pretty messed up and never got help. I am determined not to pass this hell on to the next generation. Thank YOU for this program.❤

As always, Ms.Myss with the moxy😊, wisdom, and grace - whom, without you this wonderful journey ( painful at times,) would be a complete train wreck. You inspire me, so I thought I would share this, [ giggles] so, here goes: An earth challenge is to create your own joy ( inner & outer) no "matter" what's going on around you - especially with those closest to us - and while we give ourselves permission to BE and to know we are " safe" BEing wonderful happy and everything else glorious over the moon ( notice I said over the moon not under the sun) we also give permission for everyone else to be free to BE - even if that means for them miserable ha ha ha The universe is really funny when you hear her 🎶 singing Remember monkey see monkey do is only earthbound deaf, dumb and blind - yOu knOw you are so much more than that⭐️🎶⭐️🎶⭐️🎶 Last but not least Every sad/scary/stressed situation is an opportunity " TO grow to knOw" on many levels & facets. Being "mind full" of that is the " key to the lock"....🎶⭐️🎶⭐️💃🏽💃🏽😎🤭🙏

Interesting. Just a few months ago I was talking / arguing with my 80 year old father who I believe is a narcissist. When I dared to suggest that he might have some trauma from his childhood, he flat out dismissed the idea, stating that, in fact, his brothers wife (my aunt, of course) would always comment on how my uncle, and by extension my father, had a "Leave It To Beaver" childhood. Well, that little delusion revealed a lot about my fathers fantasies. For better or worse (probably worse) I did my best to dispel his illusions. Without going into details I made it clear that there was no such thing as a 'Leave It To Beaver' family. It's mind boggling that folks hold onto such fantasies, but I can understand how it happens. After all, I harbor plenty of my own.

Same in the uk too.....I was brought up by an English Yorkshire woman she wouldn't talk about feelings or emotions at all.....there was also no sex education and an older friend told me about periods and your first bra.....she is an alcoholic though and did a terrible job im glad i brought my children up clean......cause i have been abused as well......and ive never spoke about it because she would say im lying and this was 80s 90s era.......

Jeffrey Wolf Green, the great astrologer, counselor, tells how his mother held him under scalding water when he was a child, so he ended up being raised by, I think maybe his grandmother? I foget, but he ended up helping thousands upon thousands of people with their trauma, just like you do Caroline, and he taught astrology along with the therapists healing program to other professionals and put them on you tube. This was of great help just as your you tube podcasts help us. Namaste'

I REMEMBER GILLIGANS ISLAND AND THE BRADY BUNCH, FLINTSTONES, JETSONS, ASTRO BOY AND BEATLE CARTOONS, DEADLY ERNEST, THE MUNSTERS, BEWITCHED, THE ADAMS FAMILY, LOVED THEM ALL, IN AUSTRALIA! MY FATHER WAS SCHIZOPHRENIC, MOTHER LEFT AT EARLY AGE, PRETENDED I HAD A MOTHER, DAD WAS CRAZY AND ABUSIVE, POVERTY, OFTEN NO FOOD, GRANDMOTHER SAVING SAINT, GOOD WOMAN! I OVERCAME ALCOHOLISM, I LEARNT SO MUCH FROM MY PAIN BUT IT WASN'T PRETTY, A LOT OF SUFFERING, NOW I'M HAPPY W/MY ART AND RAGDOLL CAT BUT STILL HAVE NARC. SISTERS TO DEAL WITH AND I NEED MEDICATION FOR ADD, DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY! I NEVER TELL PEOPLE UNLESS I'M IN AA OR PSYCHIATRIST!

It is difficult BUT she and I have worked so hard in the past 10 years. She and I got out of a 25 year narcissistic abuse marriage. I ❤my 7 year old self dearly.

So fascinating. Makes so much sense👏thank you as always extremely enlightening !🙏

I've known about people who just lay their cards full faced to stranger encounters, that kind of victim consciousness does make an extreme impression.

I disagree that the woman who answered with hostility and info about her incest survivor group was using it as social currency. Certainly many do. But also, incest survivors often can only heal when they are open about versus hiding. There are so many of us. The hostility can be healed, it stemmed from something triggering her. Maybe she wanted to demonstrate why she had something very important to do that day, or felt she has to put more explanation into a no answer. Especially with men. Men dismiss women’s nos. It’s not trying to gain anything from anyone - it is a trauma reaction and it is part of healing.

yes: he wounded CHILD can transform to a HEALTHY adult the minute ONE decides to go frOM victim to victor: victoria.

Thank you so much Caroline. You are an outstanding wonderful teacher. Thank you so so much.

This video is amazing!! I think I've been using my wounded child to avoid the fullness of an adult, mature, emotional life. I have been hiding in my relationships (romantic, friendship and parent) and letting the wounded child run the show.

My family was ‘perfection’ outside the house but was a different situation inside the house…

Thank you Caroline. It's my time to choose to heal after 7 years of discovering and exposing my child wounds to myself. Now to find someone, someplace to do this work.

This practice of woundology is so true!!! Thank you Carolyn 💫

So good to understand hurtful behaviors from loved ones ❤

You hope this "helped a little", and I can declare it helped a lot! Your ability to express complexities simply and directly is extra-ordinary and much appreciated. Thanks!

Dr. Myss I’ve met you in person more than once, yes I’m lucky that way! It has been 36 years since I started my journey with you (through books, audios, etc., etc.,) I’m still working on myself, does it ever ends 😂😂😂😂 Anyway just wanted to say: May God continue to bless you ❤

31:39 Love that "Hidden Treasure" filled Epilogue!❤ thank you for your own continued exploration behind the wizards curtain and the Veils behind that curtain!! :)

Thank you Carolyn…been a fan of your for 30+ years! One show that you forgot to mention was Father Knows Best which propagated the patriarchy as well! Also, thanks to your generosity of sharing your knowledge, you have definitely helped me move up to higher floors in ‘my building!! Much gratitude to you!

Divine timing! Thank you for sharing this profound wisdom.

The Wounded Child shows in my chart with Chiron in my First House so I understand this concept deeply. I now use my past pain to heal others via Reiki.

What if after years of trying to face your fears and wounds in order to heal, you actually succeed in hitting some milestones on your healing journey, but you realize that you only made it halfway through. You got out of mazes, and you feel less burdened, stronger, and less disturbed. Eventually, you come closer to the exit of the main maze you are in, feeling a glimpse of what freedom could look like or rather what it demands from you, as it's not the end of the struggle, just another kind. You realize that to get close to the exit, you have lost resources on your way. You are bruised and overall tired, because you had to fight so many battles on your own, in order to get where you are. You don't have anyone to turn to as your closest feel overwhelmed by your burdens and there are simply no real professionals, just fake therapists that have learned from the books but lack wisdom, empathy, and no nothing about the darkness you live with. Close to the exit, you experience a version of yourself, you didn't know you had inside yourself, but for the lack of resources and for the fact that there is still that big jump to make, that last battle to be overcome in order to be set free, you just freeze. You are overwhelmed, feel lonely, and scared. Just not ready to go through all of that by yourself, because you just don't know how to navigate. You are aware of eventual professionals that could help to make those steps and feel safe along the way, but you can't afford them. Simultaneously, outside your inner maze world, there is a bomb thrown into your outside world, taking away all the house of cards that the new version of yours has built and used as a means of purpose to keep on fighting despite being exhausted. That loss feels like rocks have been placed at the exit of the maze. And that feeling of having been defeated and fooled, as you believed that stepping through that exit was part of your life's purpose, added to that intense fear, exhaustion, and loneliness. So without consciously noticing, you go all the way back and start hiding inside the maze. Something you have never done before. You even forget about being inside the maze. You accept your defeat, and you accept that the reality you experience inside the maze is all there is. All you can be, because you lost hope that you will ever find a way out. That you can ever be someone else than this limited version of yourself. Until videos like these remind you about how deeply stuck you have drawn yourself inside the maze. You know, you should eventually stand up, and try again. But it's like all you ever wanted is forever gone, and you can't find in yourself a why that is strong enough to keep pushing yourself as you once have. How to keep on trying to become a better version of yourself, if all you feel is resentment, rage, and vast loneliness? How to convince me to surrender to a life that feels wrong, and that is going in directions that make me feel like a complete failure. So far from my dreams? As no matter what I do from now on, it always feels like I have to compromise one need for the other, and no matter which path I turn to, there is that element of dissatisfaction and loss.

So Beautiful thank you Very much 💞💝

Thank you Caroline! I have found this series so profound, but the Wounded Child spoke to me. It wasn’t easy but after a life time, I can say I Amy healed and not I understand.

I think every veteran has a level of PTSD.

Perhaps someone who heard Mary say she was recovering from incest realised that it wasn't something to be ashamed of and sought help as well. There's so much silence and shame around sexual abuse. It's amazing how many people have been sexually abused as children when you start talking about it without shame. Caroline Myss is very 'old school' and 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps' so common for her generation. Wounds exist and pretending they don't is harmful.

Thank you for being so profound and not beating around the bush. every example resonates so deeply. thank you

Changing the safe, albeit destructive, and frequently traveled neurologic trails is one of the most difficult challenges to healing the wounded child, though not impossible.

I listened to you tonight because I immediately knew the subject. My father too was in WWII I was born After he came home. Yes he suffered from PTSD the rest of his life. I’d say that right from my beginning I was deeply affected by his inability to have a father-daughter relationship with me. I didn’t even know who he was or what he was to me. He never said I love you or hugged me. When I got older all I knew for sure was that I had absolutely no desire to marry or have children. Yes I was in therapy beginning at age 21 for many years but here I am at 77 and can say that I realize that I could never have been a good mother. I married much later in life to a man who had 2 small children. I picked him because he, like my father, was quiet, aloof, couldn’t hug me, etc. I guess I could not marry a loving man. I would have felt that I was “in the wrong house”. Thank you for discussing this topic but I suppose I am still the “wounded child” 😢

Love the cardinal singing in the background ❤

The wounded child theme also runs through the Victorian age, just look how children were treated then, unless you were middle class and above you most likely worked when you were 7 or 8 and life was unbearably hard and your parents died young, leaving an entire generations parentless. Then the trauma of the first WW Great Depression. Looking back the 50’s it doesn’t seem as awful, but the parents in the 50’s were certainly traumatized from previous generations.

I don’t know if this is true for me. A lot of folks, myself included, whom suffer chronic illness are not afraid to share this wound with others because we feel we are educating or informing others that we never know what another person is going through. Saying what I struggle with seems to make others more patient with me sometimes and reminds me to not be so hard on myself. Not sharing with folks whom are trying to get to know me, makes me feel that I have a “dirty little secret” and may in fact, lead to repressing my childhood trauma. I see no need to feel ashamed that the child in me is still struggling with wounds. I am human and wounded like 90% of all humans. I always thought that admitting my weakness, allowed others around me to be more vulnerable. I don’t know if owning it necessarily means I am using my illness/trauma as a crutch, or to gain empathy, but perhaps I need to give that more consideration.

I thank God that in the 80's, therapists started identifying the wounds of adult children of alcoholics. I learned so much about myself and started going to Al-Anon which helped me understand the child within and how best to heal from the wounds of growing up with an alcoholic father.

absolutely extraordinarily helpful.. so enlightening and validating and hopeful💕💕🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊🕊.. thank YOU 🙏🏻

Your interpretation of the reason she shares her incest with you is weird and perverse. She is owning her life that wound does not go away. It isn't social currency it's a damn boundary. The fact that you don't have that pain like you can't possibly get her and that's what she knows about you.

I disagreed with many things here, but I cannot say how thankful I am that there is another warrior out there, who will reach people that I don’t with the idea of, “foundation.”

I have always loved your teachings. 🙏 Thank you.

Yeah...Brady Bunch!! Be blonde, skinny, parents always reasonable, Madison Avenue....

If you could understand what a mess it makes you look like to tell her story for this analogy I think you would start crying. You are very judgmental and cold in this narrative. So I guess we all understand where your wound is controlling judgment condemnation of others. Using someone else's story and wound did you ask her if you could share this story? It's really weird to hear your judgement of her social faux pas. Just because you couldn't handle that moment does not make it a social apocalyptic moment that you get to share with the world as a narrative of who not to be. A for effort, but You come across as a very scary and self-absorbed person in this video.

Beautiful video-full support from yoga/meditation music channel friend in UK ❤️🎹🎹❤️

I grew up in Arizona and pretty much had a happy childhood. My television was filled with Bewitched, and a Phoenix children's show called Wallace and Ladmo. If you look them up online, even on youtube, it was a pretty subversive show for children. And it ran for decades. So I grew up weird, and all my wounding came when I entered the corporate world in the '80s. I wasn't ready for the deceit, the fakery, and the outright lies. I'm retired now, and I'm still trying to heal from the corporate crap. No idea what archetype applies to it CEO and HR and lying managers.

Father knows best, life of Riley, leave it to beaver, Danny Thomas show, hazel, Andy Griffith show, dobie Gillis, Eddie’s father, bachelor father, ….many single dads no single mothers?

The history review of this Archetype is so valuable, dear Caroline - thank you so much for putting this clarifying work out in addition to your cards.

Dear dear Caroline thank you 🙏🏻 divine timing …I have heard you say versions of this before but I am finally ready to take this full on board…I really needed to hear this 🙏🏻

Thank you! I sometimes have to wait to listen to your work as it is quite thought-provoking! Gratitude for your messages and divine timing.

At 14:58 Carolyne mentions or alludes to covert child abuse or covert child wounds in my opinion, the worst of the 2. Covert child abuse is mother saying I love you, and in your guts you feel her own self loathing projected on you as a child. And if you are born with a hypersensitive tendency or personality like me..... Good luck! Cause children fel the feelings behind the words, and when there's dissonance between the 2, to unravel the ensuing mess of coping skills 57 years later, is a bitch! I'm a late bloomer in the arena of Self awareness and the first 39 years of my life were happy joyous and free, then perimenopause started and with the hormonal imbalance , so came down a life time of denial.....it has been 18 years of internal hell, trying to put the invisible together, and see if i get to who i really am beyond name, form, emotional immaturity and a host of coping skills which have outlived its original purpose of protecting a child, raised by single mother , herself an adult child, who sucked her thumb until the age of 72. She's 89 now and no sign of conscious healing on her side. Just more of her crutch to survive. ..religiosity .

Caroline, you are a Godsend!! I have a manipulative, wounded child in my life (not by choice) that, at over 60 years of age, does not miss an occasion to throw a temper tantrum...to the point of slamming doors and throwing glass items on tile floors. My question is: how does one stand up to the bully that has become a wounded child? How can one not allow this adult to not have brat attacks? Hey, we ALL have wounds, but not everyone is out there throwing fits like a 3 year old. And outside of the trantrums, this 'wounded child' has no qualms about manipulating people into giving them whatever they feel they need or deserve. I am so tired of putting up with their shit.

Having been on this arduous journey of healing my wounded child, I concur with all you have shared on this powerful and important archetype. I am now trying to write my memoir to help others find their way. I thank you from my heart for your exquisite generosity in sharing these archetypes, and the precise manner in which you develope them through your own personal experience. I've actually been studying with you for many years throughout this long divinely-guided process. I wonder if you would speak to Borderline Personality Disorder, please.Elizabeth

Caroline, I invite you to give Mary Poppins a viewing again. Your description is not accurate. I'll give you "My Three Sons" or "Leave It to Beaver" - but don't use Mary Poppins as straw man here. In my view, she is a bodhisattva (don't forget, P.L. Traverse wrote the book) who revolutionizes a city by working through one family as a fulcrum. The family is not ideal in the beginning. The parents are distracted, and the children are emotionally neglected. Mary Poppins does introduce the mystical and fantastic to the lives of the children, but she also precipitates crisis. Michael Banks (the son) feels a generous urge to use his savings to help a homeless woman, which starts an argument with the bank manager. A run on the bank occurs, and his father loses his job at the bank. But the loss, and the crazy wisdom of Mary Poppins, puts the elder Banks into touch with his emotions again, with his inner child - and the parents find a new awakening as parents. The family fly a kite in the closing song together - with the whole of the town - a kite with a taped repair that bears more than a casual resemblance to the OM ideogram.

Thank you. First time viewing you. I have been a " wounded child" since the age of 5, when my dad died. I developed an eating disorder, had malnutrition, and developed a personality disorder - Avoidant Personality, which I still have. ( I'm a Boomer). Our mother was abused by her mother ( had coal in her Christmas stocking/ had her favorite dress torn up, etc.was punished.) She - in her wounded way, was verbally & physically abusive to my siblings and I. At a meditation group, we did à meditation on our parent's inner child. ( Dad's mom was a cold narcissist) Others said " That was wonderful," etc. I was crying ,I'm also an empath & knew their pain

Carolyn thank you so very much for these videos and most especially for your transparency and honesty. I have come to understand and experience the deep Truth of what you are sharing in this video of The Wounded Child. God and Her Love are helping me heal the very deep wounds of my childhood; that I now understand hurt so many innocent people, most especially my children. I am so grateful our Creator is so Loving and merciful; so full of understanding and compassion, otherwise I would never have any hope of experiencing a now healthy and wonderful thriving and blooming life; for my childhood wounds were literally killing me and hurting others. I have experienced the amazing gift of forgiveness and have learned God forgives first. My soul is going through redemption and it is a beautiful experience and gut wrenching and skin pealing at the same time. I have learned the absolute necisity of being honest with myself and learning to feel how I feel no matter how challenging it may be. I am learning God is the only Being on planet Earth that knows how to Love Perfectly and will teach me how if I ask. I have learned I had no idea what True Love was; only codependent addiction; which is a very toxic and poisonous relationship; which sadly seems to be the way most people on Earth relate to each other. Carolyn I want to apologize to you because I now understand that my reaction to you in Sedona a couple of years ago at the Retreat you led was a result of my unhealed wounds. I realize now you were speaking Truth to a participant and it felt so unloving and unkind how you did so; and I then judged you and in fact left the Retreat early. I want to Thank You for all that you do to help us all wake up and heal. Wake up and learn how to Love Truly Love. You are an inspiration to me and I am deeply grateful. I wish you Abundant Blessins to shower you Every where and Always!!!!!! Peace My Sister Peace.

I have a question: what would you advise a response to the of a friend should be? How many times would you advise listening to their story, or in other words how many weeks, months or years would you advise listening to their ? The act of listening to their how often would you advise to repeat it ,this act of friendship? And if you advise to stop listening to it the umpteenth time what would be good words to use ???? I ve been listening for years to several friends suffering and relating their health issue to their childhood hurts .I ve even been accused of complete lack of empathy and maliciousness because I did not offer the chance of listening by not actively ringing a friend when I should have felt/known she was suffering . ( texts I send were left unanswered because they were the wrong kind of texts)

Thank you so much, this was so profound and compassionate, I will definitely be sponging up your other materials. 🙏

My alcoholic parents had no access to their inner lives. Living was an obligation. We were wild kids, no real discipline. My dad was a Rocket Scientist in the Defense Industry and everything was Top Secret. I cannot watch that show Madmen!!