Life doesn’t always go the way you often want it to. It’s not easy to find the right person, especially nowadays. I’ve often said to myself it’s better being alone than to end up in a bad relationship. I’ve always stood by the notion relationships are better with someone you would consider a best friend, rather than just outright dating a stranger and start a relationship trying to get to know them. At the same time, I’ve often given advice to women in similar circumstances for them to look at the men they keep as friends and stop going after a specific type they think is good for them. The good ones are usually shy or get rejected. That’s just from my experience.
I disagree with the good ones are usually the shy ones. That's stereotyping. I know a lot of men that are outright outgoing or some are shy that are good men. It's all about how they were raised and who they are.
Niecy Harvey I know what you mean. Not saying I’m 100% correct, just in my experience that’s what I’ve seen. There are some good ones who are outgoing but I’ve seen more than not who aren’t. And you’re right, it’s usually how they were brought up, or life experience.
Men aren't being groomed to be honest faithful husbands.. we need to educate men to be faithful husbands not pimp, Mack's or womanizers.. made a video on that
I was talking to my bff about this a while ago, how society doesn't even teach young men that their bodies are valuable, special, unique and should not be give access to everyone. They teach girls this all the time!!!!
I have been celibate for about 5 years and happy. I think it's the best decision I've ever made to remain celibate. I don't care if I'm celibate for the rest of my life, I enjoy it. And I am female.
Me too .... In have my own apartment etc and I am very friendly ...however I am not that quick to invite anyone to my home ... I have guys interested in me however when I suggest coffee....to meet up in the day time etc... crickets...LOL!!! What can we do at 9pm 10pm???? apparently they are too busy ????? Keep moving....
I work with a man in his late 50’s who appeared would be single for the rest of his life but he recently married. I have a cousin with 6 kids with 5 different fathers and most people would have assumed that she wouldn’t find a man to marry with all that “baggage”. She married a good man who had no children last year. I have a cousin who married at a “normal” age but she couldn’t have kids. Her and her husband adopted 2 kids later (late 40s). When I inquired of God intensely why I was still single at my age he pushed me to focus on my purpose and filled me with joy. I understand your frustration and confusion but don’t automatically assume something is wrong with you. There are some areas where it’s more difficult for success. For some it’s career or finances or relationships or children. And you can’t make a man desire marriage. Seek purpose, travel, discover passions, and hopefully you will meet the right man. Plenty of people marry young but a lot of those marriages are toxic. For some of us marriage won’t happen early but later in life. And while that’s not our ideal you can have a fruitful marriage in the last half of your life.
That's good! Cause when I reflect on all the hell I've been through, being single has been a blessing. I would probably be divorced and the children would be dealing with issues from seeing me go through. I no longer question it but embrace it 🤗
Going on my 17th years of celibacy/abstinence. I find that most men operates the same and doesn't seem to be worth the time or effort. I feel discouraged mostly because men who are married or in a relationship tends to be the most dishonest and desperate. There is a basic lack of integrity, faithfulness and loyalty. There is some humor to this as I am very attractive....My conclusion is that majority of men are overrated and women very much underestimate their power.
@@aalphasplatt1153- Both. Since I have yet to find someone deemed worthy of sharing/giving myself to. I pray that The Lord will give me the ADDED strength to wait until marriage. I am now in my forties. :)
@@jessicab331 she hasnt been used for sex, support, baby maker, housing, accountnt, surrogate mother, psychiatrist etc etc. Bad men age you and basing relationships on sex also drain both men and women, so rather stay single and content and happy, stress free than settle for a man who aint it and helps you to an early grave.
I’m celibate since 1995. I’m Christian and God is husband. At times I do get lonely. I ask God to fill the lonely space in my heart. I have peace while I wait for my spouse. I know he will answer my prayers.
No I’m not just sitting around and waiting. In those years I continue to build my relationship with God. I have done extensive traveling to the far ends of the earth. I have met new people and have dear friends. I have a great social life. I have started my own home based business and purchased my own home. I have worked on myself emotionally and spiritually. During that I had no desire to get married. I have enjoyed my singleness. Now that I’m older I would like to get married. I would like the companionship and having someone to grow old with.
@@DG-zv4bl What makes you think that. Women struggle the same as men. I’m celibate yes but I’m a human with human desires. I took the struggle to God. It was a process but in remained celibate.
Why does it seem like our non-Black counterparts don’t struggle with dating? It seems that we are the ones who need life coaches, date coaches, marriage gurus, male input, while other women are meeting, dating and marrying organically.
@@vineyardprophecy5073 I should've taken my first offer from a white man. He made well over 6 figures. The last back man who talked to me was only asking if I smoke weed.
Because white households are raised to acquire wealth and stability. White men know that having a wife is the foundation for his legacy being taken care of, while he takes care of business. Most black households coddle the sons and “tough love” the daughters. Of course not all but the numbers are high.
I saw that video about not outright disclosing you're abstinent until marriage. I wholeheartedly agree. I was dating a guy and he told me early on that he didn't believe in marriage. I immediately checked out of the relationship without his knowledge because there was no possible future for us. The relationship lasted longer than usual and this is the route I will be taking from now on.
Man , at first I was like "How Sway?" but then again between philanderers, men identifying as women, men lying to themselves about the fact they are indeed attracted to other men, it's like...yeah, I see how. I have compromised, I have seen friends compromise and it hasn't ended well.
I disagree, respectfully that is. Why hide who you are? It sounds like game playing. We are too old for that. I, like this woman, have recently told a man that I am NOT having sex unless I have your last name. No more renting, you are gonna buy this! And what did he do? He kept trying and still is until this day. If he is a man that God has decided I can marry then he will wait for me! If not, then keep it moving. That myth about more women than men is a darn lie! Just google the stats. Too many men out here to compromise my dignity, health, spirituality and self respect.
Tammi B So, are you saying a man should approach a woman and say, “I want to have sex with you outside of marriage”, and the woman will keep him around?
Dr Harper. Well he would be a rude man if he approached a woman like that. However, if she is ok with sex outside of marriage then they agree. If she doesn’t want sex outside of marriage and he does then they are unequally yoked. There are plenty of women in the world who are fine with sex outside of marriage, so he should seek one who is in agreement with that.
I hear you but I’m not game playing if I don’t tell a man I’m abstinent immediately. I tell them I’m not ready to have sex. If I determine this is a man that I can see myself marrying then I’ll have that convo. I told my male co worker that no woman owes him sex unless she’s his wife. Not all women are waiting until marriage but will wait until they are ready which could be several months. This one man stated that it was a year before his now wife had sex with him. If the wait is too long for the man he will move on. Men need to stop thinking women owe them sex outside of a marriage commitment.
Tammi B But that’s the same as a woman telling a man she’s not having sex until marriage on the first couple of dates. So if the man is rude so is the woman. From a man’s perspective he may think a woman is solely focused on getting a ring if she announces she’s not having sex until marriage too early. I had a friend reject a woman who from the jump said she was waiting until marriage. He thought he was being pressured and that she was desperate for marriage. I had to explain to him that was not the case but i understood why he jumped to those conclusions because they were still getting to know each other. Sex had not even come up. And he was a good man looking for a serious relationship. How about getting to know each other as friends first.
We need to groom men & teach them how to be husbands.. no need to keep advising women without addressing men to step up & pursue with purpose.. good work Tony
No... men need to be taught how to be men. Not husbands. This western society is against men and its detrimental to get into a marriage contract only to be divorced and gang raped by the courts.
I have been ceilbate for 7 years and I truly know who I am and truly have a personal relationship with God and know who I am in Christ and his spirit dwells in me and before the foundation of this world he knew my name and a plan for my life and I am 58 and I have been married to the wrong people and when I finally let go and trust God and know the promise of God that is spoken in his word I truly do not stumble and fall and everything he has promised in his word I have here on earth true peace true joy and victory I lack nothing in my life and when it comes to the husband he has on my path his timing is not our timing just trust him we don't have to look God know what he is doing and if you are truly letting the holy spirit lead which is God the Husband God has for us he will drop it in our spirit not the flesh and His said he who fines a wife so we as woman and Men are to take the time that we are single this is the time God has us set aside to build a relationship with him and to totally trust him and see his works not ours and until we let go truly will keep going in circles and God's kingdom is not the same as the world way when we truly surrender our lives we have a supernatural life where we don't have to struggle for anything and God truly will show us how to live and not be tempted to have sex out side of marriage this is why we have so many broken people because they want to be loved and feel wanted and when it falls apart we have people who will never go down that path again and that is not how God intended for this to be.the only life coach we need is God's word and let him lead you to the right church home and stay on that path and get feed right and God will began to heal broken heart heal live and bring peace to the mind were his word becomes alive in you and when you look up you will have the life he plan for you we are to sit at his feet and he is our father and trust him every ones walk with God is not the same and not having sex out side of marriage shows that there truly is some self worth and love for your body and when the time comes and the Husband God has for you will truly know that he can trust you that you will not ever give your body to another and that you will value the marriage that God brought together for his plan and truly will have life more abundantly until the end of time! Never feel bad about being ceilbate better than catching aid and seeing death early than suppose to! I Am Loving My Life and enjoying my grandkids and waking up happy and enjoying my peace and know God's Got it! Life is to short to be stressing God never meant for us to ever stress that is why he said cast all your cares on him because he cares for you/ us. And trust and believe it truly keeps your mind at peace know God loves me that is the biggest blessing of them all and truly let go and let God be God and see all your dreams come true he knows all about you.
Gm Sir. I've been following you for about 2 months, I believe. And yes you have answered a few of my comments. Thx. I too have stayed to my self since 2001 after the guy I was dating died(lung cancer). He was much older than me by 23 yrs. Since then I have had many opportunities but promised God I wouldn't mess up again. In 2014, I met a guy I thought God sent; claim he was a Rev., that's what caught my attention. It didn't work. Appeared to have serious mental issues. Again in 2016, I was approached by an ordained elder. I wasn't impressed by the title but he was just my type; physically; Tall, dark, built and handsome. I just knew this was the one; God sure did answer prayer, so I thought. I dated him on and off for 2 yrs( Dec 2016- Jan 2019). He started out strong. Then he started standing me up, not answering my calls nor returning them, and then disappear for months at a time. Come back as though I saw or talked to him the day before. I was always apologizing for everything; it must have been something I've done. Always wondered would there be another date. I stayed hurting a lot during this relationship; cried a lot, a whole lot. I didn't want to loose him. I just knew I was getting married to him. I moved out of my apartment into my daughter's house, as to not renew the lease, thinking I was going to be married in the next 6 months. Never happened. Stay with my daughter for 1 yr 3 months. Just moved into an apartment Nov. 2019. Sometimes I really think he was waiting for me to give-in(sex- unlike the lady I did not make an announcement); I never did. One day in March I made up in my mind I'm not carrying him through 2019; I gave him 2 yrs to choose me as a wife. He never did. I blocked anyway possible to prevent him from contacting me. I had to. It was the only way I could let him know I was no longer waiting or hoping for a future with him. It hurts so bad. I cried day in day out telling my self I messed this up big time. On the other hand I'm really Glad to be free of him. Sorry this is long and my thoughts out of order. Toni what do you this about all of this. Yes we both are suppose to be Christians. How can a man play such games with a woman he knew loved him? Even if I wasn't perfect. I never asked for anything(not even a penny) but his time and attention. I work and have my own. He's 64. I'm 58.
Mama Fylees your mistake was giving him 2 years ma’am. That was waaaaaay too long. Within 6 months a man should have already revealed his true intentions with you and they should be clear. If he hasn’t, walk away then. You have the power and you set the tone for how a man views you and treats you.
I'm 35 & unfortunately I've seen men in there 50s & 60s still acting like playboys & being promiscuous ( to politely put it). If a man starts acting flaky I delete his phone number, because guys that are genuinely interested don't do that.
Mama Fylees hi, I can say a lot about what happened in your situation so let me make it short. You were in love with yourself. The man who you thought you knew was only projecting yourself back to you. So Sorry to say that but he never ever loved you because he never ever existed. He deceived your heat with lies n deceit but why did that happen. It happened because we were deceived both by the person and self deception, n that’s the worst kind of deception. We deceived ourselves because we became hearers of “the Word” n not a doer n then boom the devil shows up, Ask me how I know. Like I said, I can say a lot more but I don’t want to make this longer. Accept the loss, continue to rebuild you relationship with God n His Son by true repentance, daily prayer and reading of The Word of God. Get more organized in your daily routine ( life is about daily routines) u know like the sun risings n setting. Good healthy routines pays off in the long run. Routines like, praying daily n throughout the day, reading God’s Word and taking care of your heart ( mind) by renewing your mind with God’s thoughts, which is His Written Word(s) I have found such routines to be a game changer for me. No, it will not be EZ, but the end results will be amazing. God bless you in your journey with God and His Son.
You mentioned only physical characteristics on your description of him, nothing about his character. You missed looking at this important aspect of a person.
Tony, I don't always agree with every you say, but majority of times I do and we can always agree to disagree respectfully so. And, it's not like you're seeking me out for my opinion because you think it matters anyways 😁. I just wanted to say you really gave her great advice here and it was delivered in a way to help without insulting. I'm not saying you've done that. I'm just giving credit where it's due. This was great advice. Hell, Ii even wondered how you were going to answer this one. I really hope she comes to you for coaching as I have faith you can get her there. 🧡👍
First of all, great video Tony! Second of all, this woman needs to pray to God to give her a husband that is hers and not somebody else's. Second of all, she needs to stop looking at the looks of a man, but rather his fruits (in other words his character). Third of all, she needs to give a man that appears decent a chance to court her, then ask God for the spirit of discernment to tell whether the man she is courting is the one for her or in alignment with her calling in life. Plus, she needs to ask God to keep away the counterfeit men away from her, and give the right man that is from God. Moreover, she needs to dress the part, meaning dress responsible, and play hard to get, as well as know how to cook, clean, and do other wife like things. Lastly, she should need to not flirt with any man because flirting makes her look so easy to any man. P.S. to the woman on the video, do not lower your standards for any man or person. God's time is the best time, and it is possible that the right man came, and you rejected him because of looks, and materialistic reasons, but it is never too late for you unless you are dead. Plus, there is still a chance for you to get your own hubby as long as you are still alive, and if it is meant to be for you to marry and have kids. I wish you the best and remain celibate until marriage!
Tony, people want you to compromise your values and preferences nowadays though. It’s different out here in these streets. Just like you said in a past video that you have to be able to stomach your mate well so do we women. Why do we have to accept ugly and nice if we aren’t attracted to ugly. Why can’t he be attractive and nice?! You are attractive and nice and intelligent so it’s got to be more out there like you. But I do agree with keeping your cards to yourself until he gets to know you.
Think u totally missed what he was saying. You can be attracted...but he may not be your " dream guy. " Or it may be a mild attraction initially, but the way he treats you, respects you, carries himself, and his swag...can make him irresistible.
I totally agree with what you’re saying Tony. As you were reading, I was thinking that there’s more information that’s needed and she needs further coaching. There’s something else going on there that’s not being discussed that she doesn’t realize about herself. I don’t believe she should lower her standards at all but there’s something missed.
Lady D’s Chat I respectfully disagree. This insinuates something is ultimately wrong with her. When we look outside of our bubbles, people just really aren’t getting married-there is really no incentive. Sometimes, what we want for ourselves may not be Gods’ plan for our lives. We tell God where we want and hope that is is also part of God’s will.
I agree that sometimes we can make plans for our lives that aren’t what God has planned for us however this isn’t insinuating something’s wrong with her in a negative way. But if she’s saying she’s pretty much “all that and a bag of chips” lol then there’s something missing as to why she hasn’t found the one for her yet. She’s obviously looking. I respect your opinion tho ☺️
Lady D’s Chat that is a good point. I honestly think everything is not for everyone, and she may be called to singleness, but her desires are to be married. If anything is missing, it may be accepting her life plan. Everything we desired isn’t promised to us, and sometimes we fear that “No” from God on the things we want the most.
L Acklin definitely can agree to that. Just like children we as adults don’t like hearing No from our father but we have to know that he’s in control. The Bible does say tho that it’s not good for man to be alone so I’m not to sure if it is Gods plan for her to be alone for 26yrs which is why I was saying that something could be missing.
Chiiiiile, I have been celibate for 10 years and let me tell y'all, I be praying trying to bargain with God 🤣😂🤣😂🤣 I'm so over it!!! I pray I don't have to go too much longer, y'all pray for me too!!!🤣😂 26 years 🗣🤯🗣🤯🗣🤯🗣🤯!!!!!
@@DwellInHouse4ever Hey, that's really good! Are you a Christian? You spoke with God? That's got to be some high level brahmacharya stuff there, your vibrations must be high like a kite.
I feel bad for her because she is waiting for someone out there who just doesn't exist..I find a lot of Christian women do this celibacy thing no sex until marriage but have RIDICULOUSLY high standards for their mate so they don't find anyone because women their whole lives have been told they deserve nothing but "the best" but every woman just CAN'T get that because the maths doesn't add up. The best thing women can give men is their YOUTH and BEAUTY but women are not told this, I am sorry to say but the older a woman gets the less fertile she gets and the harder it is for her to find a man. Especially if she has been jaded with multiple bad experiences of men, men like youth because it signifies someone that can learn and grow, but older women are more stuck in their ways.. I just wish more girls are told to settle down when they're young and pretty so it would be easier for them to find a high quality partner instead of waiting so late (above the age of 30) holding out for something that just doesn't exist and not getting to have children because they were too harsh with their standards...This should definitely be a cautionary tale. Ladies: a perfect man DOES NOT exist. Another thing to add, a lot of women are unable to self reflect so this message may be from someone who is gorgeous but she has probably got a HUGE blind spot about her personality and may be something that turns men off...
lolita dan you are so right. I regret pasting up the opportunity to remarry when my husband walked away while I was only 26 yrs old. Left with 4 children to raise alone. I was still very youthful, pretty, size 10-12, long hair..etc. Now I'm 58 yrs, never remarried. I had several reasons in my mind why to stay single at that time: never wanted to experience that type of hurt and rejection again and the second, didn't want any man to molest my 3 daughters or my 1 son. Now that they are all grown and gone I'm left alone trying to figure out my life.
@@mamafylees3344 God could bring a man into your life tomorrow. It's up to you to say yes. Stay encouraged and know that youth and beauty are NOT the only things a man of quality will appreciate about you.
Again I receive it, I had to learn, just 2months ago, for years I’ve been toooo particular even with God when it come to men, until one day I started praying differently not my Will But thy/God Will Be Done in and for my life, Thank You Big Bro, God Bless
I've been celibate for over 15 years, one is due to these men are for these one day women who are down for whatever (that's a no no) and two, I had two major surgeries and trying to bounce back to my normal and in the meantime working and I'm very independent. I don't want to feel like I need to bow down to a mans ego as to LET him be a man (he should be secure enough in his feelings to live like the man he's suppose to be). And doing that with these men now a days its like me giving him more than he will give me (that's a no no too) but I'm not choosey, he don't need a degree but cant be a dummy either, don't have to look like Denzel or LL either just have a loving, loyal genuine heart and be respectful. Whatever we both lack in, won't mind growing and building together.
I never approach men. There was this one guy last week and he was wasn't my type however, my spirit met his and told me he was interested but, worried I was going to reject him. He's a construction supervisor. Should I go back to the construction site and shoot my shot?
@@MAV7REK Thanks Joseph. I was having a meeting in the building next to the construction site and became lost and he directed me. I thought that was his opportunity to express his interest... Now if I go back again, why do I say I'm in that area? In my past experience when men don't care more about the woman it doesn't work out.... Why do I have this urge to go out of my norm and make myself present for this man. Lol he didn't even have a haircut.
Smart Kookie I’m one of those guys who, from past experiences, developed difficulties making the first move. The only way I would be able to do it is if i become comfortable with the person enough and that comes from consistent communication. You can say anything, maybe be lost again. And he’ll probably think you’re doing it as a way to talk to him and think you’re interested which would give him the confidence he needs to make a move.
@@MAV7REK Okay. Lol. Uuugggghhhhh. As a woman we are taught a man that really wants you will not care if he makes a fool of himself or gets rejected. Its soo difficult to get this out of my head. Okay I'm going for it. I will tell u how it go on Tuesday.
I've seen shy men go after what they want. Pray about this situation and don't just go after any man that shows interest. Many times women compromise with losers, not saying this guy is one, but just be mindful that you are not leaping before being mindful of your intentions or his.
She might think she needs to compromise for a man but some guy would also be compromising for her. Doesn’t seem like she is perfect at all. She needed a reality check. Awesome advice Tony.
I used to think that too. But honestly you don’t owe a man an explanation in the beginning. Most men I meet don’t make it past 90 days so why being up that I’m abstinent with a man that probably won’t make the cut. I would wait until I see if there is potential for a long term relationship. If sex comes up before that which it usually does because frankly most men want sex ASAP I just say I’m not ready that. If you immediately tell men you are abstinent they will flee and lose interest in getting to know you. That doesn’t mean they are bad men but men have to think you are special and worth that sacrifice before agreeing to abstinence. How can you determine if someone is special before getting to know them some.
i feel that lady im a man and im celibate and i have no interest in a women or man due to bad relationships i was involved back in the 90s i don't want nothing this world has to offer im happy alone.
I hope she got to speak to you. There's no way all your boxes are ticked and can't get someone for so long. Some of us walk with our nose in the air. Something's wrong somewhere. Be blessed.
You say for all men, the price of chasing a woman is sex. Does this also apply to a true Christian man seeing as this lady ịs a Christian? I am confused
Well when you meet a christian man the sex subject should not even be on his mind a true man of Gods mind is on bigger things like getting to know your character and are you and him a good fit for ministry purposes ( his calling or destiny).
He isnt worrying about sexing you down because if he is a true man of God he know sex does not come till after marriage anyhow. So that topic to him is not as important cause he isnt trying to sex you down only theres a bigger picture
Now ungodly men is a different story. Can you meet a man who is not all into God but his mind isnt really consumed with sexual things yes but in today society it is very hard to find a senseable guy who intention is all pure.
cliche' b Girrrrl! The dating game especially as a Christian is something else. Even so called Christian men are out here demanding sex. It seems like women are the only ones truly seeking to please God, and we are constantly being told that our standards are too high. Where are the men who truly seek to please God? Do they exist?
This one is interesting due to the times and country we are living in..one must keep the pilot light lit, the light can go out sometimes...there are ways to do that 🙏 also adoption is an option--- in the Christian faith all are considered sinners.. there is so much available for our spirits . . .I hear an energy of fear in her letter based on the past. I encourage women to meet people in person not online.. . get dressed get pretty and meet people...
Interesting email, I to gave up sex, for me it was eight years, raised my children as a single male parent. Through the process of time I told my family, daddy is moving ( a lot more in between) so anyway I gave them one year to get their act together, as time passed, I have professional n non professional children. As life progressed both daughters returned to me pregnant. I then helped them with their babies ( I know I know ) anyway, here we go again. Soooo ok girls daddy is moving y’all have one year ( well really it was a lot more in between time ) to get it together. As the time approached to move they were shocked that I not only moved but I moved n purchased a house out of town in another state. I was on my way to freedom “my life” with my old self lol. Anyway I don’t think all my furniture arrived when I met this woman, understand I ain’t been with a woman for years n I just knew I was in a new State, new house, just me and God n his son, right? OMG, my old butt started dating this woman me dating, yes indeed, green n and gullible as a young fool. I was a sheep among wolves. Anyway to my point, I FELL FROM GRACE. I did not really know it until I hit the ground. This woman was just perfect, right? RIGHT? Boy oh boy little that I knew I was sleeping with a demon but hey who is concerned about demons when you having what one thinks is “the one” u know, she retired, I am retired, lots of laughter, outings, homeowners, both financially independence, just fun fun fun, the fun bus, right? NOT. Well You know a successful life ( so called) This is my point, ain’t none of us that say we are following God n His Son will have a true successful relationship when it starts off in sin, it just ain’t going to happen. When God says don’t and then we do, then the problem begins. And my problem ( sin ) was not the women. It was my disobedience to what I knew to be the truth and the truth is the same from the beginning of creation n this is it:? You may “freely” eat of every tree of the garden but the tree that is in the mist of the garden you should not eat because the day THAT DAY you eat from the wrong tree you shall surely die. And I did die but a dead person don’t know they dead, right? But you really be dead to “the truth” you know the “fake” fun bus. We are confronted with that truth “daily” n sometimes on an hour by hour even thought by thought basics, according to the situation. Oh I can say a lot more here but anyway I took the L, later found myself ( oh how I missed myself) my authentic self IN CHRIST, the man that God had called out from among the weakness of all kinds of sins, yes sin is the weakness the failures, the cause of all the unrewarding hurts n pains. I am now, “alone” back in fellowship with God and His Son, waking up in my house in my bed ( oh glory to God) waking up to prayer and reading The Word of God n enjoying the true grace of God. Am I lonely, sure yes, sometimes I am but I will never again be deceived by myself, the devil or people. I will never again think that sin is a substitution for so call boredom, so called loneliness. The true substitution for real or fake boredom is to build a true relationship with God and His Son, by growing spiritually, ain’t talking bout Church ( that’s another discussion ) I am talking about getting to know our Heavenly Father through His Son by daily prayer, daily reading of The Word of God n let God do His work. N I am witness that God is merciful n loving to restore anyone of us Yes I played the fool, an old fool at that but God waited until I came to myself n received me once again Oh my children, they gon be alright because the same God that got their daddy got them Look, obey God, by keeping His words, there is no other evidences to prove to God that you love Him. It ain’t about feelings n I know to a woman that’s like, WHAT! Lol no it ain’t about feelings, it’s about obeying God n His Son, regardless how it feels. No it’s not ez, sometimes it’s like constipation but it will come out, just got to push lol, we caused the constipation by our own actions not we got to sit there and push passed the pain Start a healthy lifestyle with God and His Son n boom no more spiritual constipation if not oh well, we gon see.
That means nobody's relationship with each other.A relationship with God first.Then Both people with a relationship with God.I have no weaknesses for a womans body.
Discernment, gathering information and listening to God are key. We sometimes disobey God because we feel he is taking too long. I pray God restores you and keeps you on the right path to meeting the man he ordained for you.
I think its time to let go of having the children dream. Its too late, unless she adopts. But its never too late for love. I hope she finds a good mate.
The guy talks about sex because that is what HE is interested in.... One of my friends went on a date like that ...she said all the guy talked about was sex and masturbation.... YET..she went out with him AGAIN...he embarrass her in the restaurant and also left her there ...
The video is interesting but the comments are even more interesting. I wonder, just putting it out there with many of these comments regarding they have not had sex for certain amount of time. Why? How did you self control? What caused you to stop having sex? Tell me what were you doing in your youth n now boom no more sex until ur married. Not saying it’s wrong or a bad thing. I am wondering what’s really going on. Why is it that a women at, 45-60 years old never married n with kids, now going cold turkey n demanding marriage, tell me what was going on before y’all decided to stop having sex n now demand this n that from a man what’s really going on here? Something ain’t right here? If you ain’t abstaining because you have turned your life over to The Lord, I just wonder what’s keeping you, JS I met a woman, she was I think she said 64 years old, never married but yet had all kinds of demands, WHAT!! Wait, NVM
What i dont understand is this. If that man she was talking about was really a christian then she shouldnt need to tell him that she is waiting until marriage. It should be expected. The fact that he was approaching her for sex immediately should have told her something. What disturb me sometimes though is how people always blame the woman for being being unmarried. Its because she is not ready, she need to work on herself, she dont loook good enough, shes picky, shes giving off masculine energy, she needs to approach more men , shes not positioning herself etc etc . So ALL these single women, its their fault that yhey are sinlgle. Ok. Sure there are some women who might have some of these issues. But it cant be ALL OF THEM!! For some people singleness is their cross to carry but it is not a curse. I am tired of hearing women being shamed or blamed for being unmarried at a certain age. People equate being married with happiness and we all no that this is not necessarily true. I suppose there is an assumption as well that people once married will stay married. We all know the divorce rates. What is the conclusion then? We need to learn to be happy whether single or married. Be happy regardless.
It's not too late to have a baby kenya moore had one tamara the tv host had one or you can just adopt. You should at least have a god son or daughter. I don't have much to say on this cause i gotta bust it open to somebody before i hit them 50's a one night stand or some 😩 lol ijs Lord please send me my help mate that I can blossom & florish with. Amen ❤🌸💫
It is worthwhile that when women are older they can find plenty of ways to raise kids. You don't have to settle down with someone who is unequally yoked with you.
Is it possible for a young man mid 20's to early 30's be celibate? My ex husband who cheated on me, claimed he was celibate for 7 years prior to meeting me. Conflicting character in my opinion.
So if she keeps herself and I keep myself without body contact till marriage good.Then again with the Gospel men and women need to Spiritually do without any body contact.Because belong to the Holy Spirit as Spouse.Dont give yourself to no woman and make sure she dont give herself to no man.Completely living without.Even if you date.Are be friends are marriage.I think that is how men and women should be living now.Not marriage for sex are having babies.Just reading the Bible.
Men need to be educated on how not to be Simps. We need to take our masculinity back and get ourselves together. If a woman doesn't respect and honour us we just need to stay single and don't even engage in any relationships.. if we need to fulfill our sexual desires, just pay an escort. And be done with her. But relationships are not beneficial to men these days..
Men need to be educated on how to be BETTER people ..PERIOD...you all don't respect and honor yourselves yet want someone to respect and honor YOU.... it goes both ways ...This lady was asking g about HER life .. how did it get to be about you???? And women can say the same about relationships...
Soon as she started bragging on herself, I was like...I bet that's the problem. I'm so glad he called that out. You're a 53 year old woman, and she probably expects to pull 30 year olds. Keep your standards but girl you gotta get real.
26 years. Oh boy. I bet all this time her Christian family have been telling her that God is saving her for a special man. God will never find you a mate. He is too busy for that. That's why he gave us fee will to choose. No man is going out there trying to holler at a 50 year old woman. In the mean time the guy that caused her celibacy must have been having the time of his life. Having ran through 200 different women already. I am sorry she wasted her youth.
A man “running through 200 different women” and being a heaux is him “having the time of his life”?! Looks like standards are way too low these days...
