Men choose lust, men choose porn, men choose shopping, searching and selecting others to masturbate to, men choose sexual immorality, men choose their " visuals" of women other than the woman they say they love, they deplete her love tank. She chooses him, he chooses others. Is he in love with her when choosing images, porn, strip clubs and hiding it?
Tony, I know that type of love. I was married to my King for 30 yrs, until his passing. It is a type of unexplainable wealth. I miss him so. These brothers today, ohmigosh????????
Me too! I was loved and in love for 28 years until he passed! I was secure and am still in awe. He literally showed me till his last day and beyond. If I never enter another relationship I'm good cause I lived what everyone is chasing. He was good to me and for me. Be blessed.
Just continue to seek God with you whole mind, body, heart and soul. God will give you the desires of you heart. God is the best matchmaker!!! Please wait he will give you the husband he want you to have. ❤️!! May God continue to bless you! Have a blessed beautiful Monday!!!❤️🙏🏽❤️
@@keneshawilliamson1574 Thank you so much for your encouragement.. I am waiting on the Lord.. He is truly the best matchmaker as you said. God bless you 🙌🤗..
It takes two people that are both willing to sacrifice for each other. When I love I am all consumed. Having that reciprocated would be a dream come true. 🤗
@@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453 I respectfully disagree. It takes two. One person may be able to change another over time but if that person never changes you only have yourself to blame. Why invest your heart, mind, body & soul in a broken situation. I love myself too much for that.
@@chinnaparker I do agree with you. I mean to say that it is possible. I am with you regarding my situation I will nit invest myself in this broken marriage of mind. I am putting this man in Gods hands and moving forward in my life.
I think you hit the nail right on the head, being in love is a choice and it has to be followed by your beliefs, it has to be stronger than the person's physical features, or what they can do for you.
I think being in love is difficult because so many people have trust issues and dont want to be vulnerable of getting hurt You have to find the right person who won't abuse your heart
God is the Love teacher. He is the one who teaches you what love is about and how to love. If you love someone you won't cheat on that person. Love or in love. The measure of your love is equal to that of your loyalty.
Devine Blakley you are correct. There are four types of love but the strongest is Agape love. It will keep a marriage strong even when you are no longer "in love".
It's actually 5 levels. Sweetness. God, yourself, then your family, friendships, nd then your partner(husband)who will then become both your family nd friend.
A man is in love with a women when he's not cheating on you, and has never cheated on you, he refuses to cheat on you mentally, physically or emotionally. Just because you can't read his mind or don't know he's having or has had an affair does't confirm he's in love with you.
Another way to look at it is within his actions, how does he treat you, If a man is not kind, is rude, and lies all the time he's not in love with you.
I am so glad to hear him explain this about love and being in love. I agree with what he's saying. Some ppl look at me like I'm crazy when I say there is a difference between love and being in love. Even my brother disagrees with me and he's a pastor!!
Hey Mr. Gaskins, I think a lot of marriages would be better and last until death do us part and if men and some women would be in love not just love someone. Thank you for doing this video sir and may God continue to bless you and your family!
Dads with daughters, take note and teach your daughters. It starts with you! Single moms with daughters, take note and teach your daughters. It starts with you! Wish either parent would have taught me this growing up. Just learning at 36, regretting previous men like nothing else matters! Tony - thank you for your service to young women and even those older that never had this lesson. You are truly a man of GOD! 🙏
I have to disagree with you here. Loving your partner and staying committed is a choice. We often loosely use the word “love” and we mix being in love with actually loving someone. Being in love with someone can stem from infatuation, possessiveness and obsession. You feel alone when your partner is not around you. You crave and yearn for them. Loving someone on the other hand, goes beyond the physical presence. You desire to see them grow, you see past their flaws, you see opportunities of building into each other and together; you motivate, encourage and inspire one another. You said in the first two years of your marriage you were emotionally unavailable because there was temptation everywhere. And then decided to focus and stay committed through the act of LOVE. Loving someone requires 100 percent commitment on your part Love takes work, sacrifice and time. True love is committed to putting in the effort that a long-term relationship needs.
Amen Glory to God!! Thank you Tony for so eloquently explaining this topic the way you did. God bless you for walking the path of being a kingdom man. Your son are blessed to have you as such an influence in their lives as young men. Our church, cities and homes need more Kingdoms men leading in love and honor as God ordain from the beginning. 🙏🏻💕👍🏻🙏🏻
I always knew the difference between love and being in love.. but many people may not know the difference. Thank you Tony for your sharing your knowledge to the world 🌎
I need a husband like Tony 👍 He's a real man who is good to his wife after 13 years. He's mature, smart, and you can tell he is very loving. Ugh the best ones are always already taken Praying for a Godly man that I know i deserve
I have never received that type of love from any man I've been with unfortunately not even with my ex husband I would luv to know what that type of love feels like
That love is a wholeness that is bonded by Gods consent. It’s something that you ask for from God. A love you waited for from God. It’s a love that is spiritual. Have to go it turning New Years in 5min. Happy Nee Year to all. Ask the Lord and you shall receive it.
Love is just love, in-love is just a word we use to describe an exclusive relationship with someone. The bible says for God so loved the world: it did not say in-love. You have to bring love to the relationship. You have all the love you will ever need inside of you already.
Listen to what Tony is saying: Some people still don't grasp this concept. Loving assigned purpose that God has given us is beautiful. To serve others as it is pleasing to God, to honor your spouse, to care for your loved ones IN LOVE fuels the spirit. For me, I can truly say, I can definitely relate to what Tony is saying now because I share with others that my purpose for what I do is unto God therefore it is bigger than me and not about me however the standard is that it must be done in love.
Thank you for this video. I always saw men as cheaters, selfish jerks who can't be trusted, but after hearing you made me believe that there are faithful, honest family oriented, God fearing men like yourself who value what's good and hold up to it. Thank you! You gave me hope again that I can be able to trust that one day God will bless me with one like yourself. God bless you and yours! -Yaling
Actually the different types of love are mentioned in the Bible. They are Agape- Principled love Eros- Passionate Love Philia- Affection between friends Storge-Familial Love The love you described is a mixture of Agape and Eros.
True I completely agree with you....I don’t believe he should’ve discounted the types of love. They are valid. You don’t have to discount something to make your revelation valid.
I'm into ldr 18 yrs ldr... I'm in love so much with the guy.... vice versa were planning to get married as soon as he get me where I am .... it's a blessing
Preach my brother!!! Out of all the videos you have done this is the most powerful and impacting message you have ever taught . You have found what the Bible talks about having life and having it more abundantly. This video needs to be blasted on every mountain top in the world.
This is a great video explaining what love and being in love is all about. Love he gave an example that it is an affection or liking while in love is a commitment-filled feeling.
To me and I'm not saying what you say is wrong because what I say might be wrong but to me when people are in that honeymoon stage they are in love because people don't have the problems happening or the disagreements or the arguments or anything negative happening but once all of that starts that is normally when two people call it quits because it's not true love. True love is when you choose to keep making it work regardless of all the problems, disagreements, arguments or anything else that were to come up and cause conflict in the relationship. Being in love in the beginning is easy, it's true love when things become hard but you choose to stay and work through it and make it work. Maybe I have it backwards but either way you choose to love that person or to leave that person. And unfortunately most people now days would rather choose to walk away and that is what is sad.
Love vs. in love I love it Tony Gaston keep doing what you doing a great job if it wasn't for you I don't know where I would be today I'm doing great me and my man God bless you
My grandfather taught me this, unfortunately many men don't have good role models, read a blog from guy who said when he swallowed his ego, love was a miracle, thank you for sharing truth with the world. I think people get hurt, confused and lose faith.
@Stephon Stewart Really ???? What are you still 17 ????? if you are cheating ok ...go on cheating but unless you are cheating with a dog or a horse or a cow then good for you ... cause if you cheating with a woman you are BOTH cheating ...clearly you didn't come to listen to the video ... Big dummy
Stephon Stewart continue to be mad, it’s logical the only reason you’d even comment the things you do is because you’ve either got mommy issues, been rejected, incel, cheated on. & anyways cheating depends on the person, not a whole gender. The guy in the video said that all of his guy friends cheat, and that he wanted to be different. It’s not a contest on whose the most faithful, if it was both would lose.
Yessss this is so true so many people don't understand what love is and how to love and greatly explained by a man of God that's awesome blessings to you and your family 💖🤴👸💖 the world needs more examples of this me and my husband talk about this all the time so glad you know your blessed 🙏✊🏾
Keep holding up the high standard Mr. Gaskins and showing men how it's really done! I believe every word you are living and demonstrate before the world. God bless you my brother! Bless your union and your children! 💖💪🏾🙏🏾👍🏾👆🏾🙌🏾
Confrontation for me! I always felt LOVE and IN LOVE IS TWO DIFFERENT LOVES! . . THANKS TG! . . BBB! BIG BOUNTIFUL BLESSING'S TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!. .
Your videos are so inspirational. I hope your "messages" help most people have an understanding and remove the weight(s) that are holding them down if the shoefits. Amen. Keep doing what you're doing. Love It.
Yezzir!!!! I use this same logic of Love vs In Love. My ex did me and the kids so foul and I always tried to see the good in her and forgive often. I was upset for a while about her wasting my time and money but once I realized that I was able to love her more than I knew I could it made me feel better. I was able to learn a lot about myself and my soul. GOD then blessed me with a wonderful woman and 3 years later I’ve been able to Fall in Love with her give her myself like I’ve never been able to do and it’s the dopest thing ever! She’s worth it!
OMG!!! I really enjoyed this. I couldn't agree more, I truly believe that we (mostly men) honestly need to open ourselves to love and the world would be such a different place.
Good Day Mr. Gaskins and Precious SOULS of GOD!!! Mr. Gaskins I've listened to you prior to this video. You have spoken on some real life situations. One Vlog in particular you were so transparent. I thank God for you giving the perspective and experience from a Man. In this video so far (including the title)...I see through a different lens. The phrase "Love vs Being In Love" is a phrase that was created by a man as well. However, I was meditating on the the Word LOVE. It stand alone solid without the remainder clause "...vs being in love..." Why? LOVE IS GOD and GOD is LOVE. I Corinthians 13 the chapter does not teach us to stand in love but commands us to LOVE. Charity (LOVE OF GOD) is the the end all be all...Period!!! We cannot truly Love except we have what we need from GOD and GOD alone. Yes, people will love to what they understand love to be. Human understanding and Humanly speaking love is dictated by feelings. Keep in mind when those feelings change Humanly 'that live ceases to exist'. But Charity (LOVE OF GOD) is based in a decision to love despite how one may feel. Agape is the Greek word for GOD'S LOVE. CHRIST dies while we were yet sinners (Roman's 5:8 KJV). Still longs to free Souls from the bondage of sin if they are willing as God is willing (II Peter 3:9 KJV). As for "loving" a Microphone, Desk, Couch, a pair of Jordan's, an iPhone, Facebook, Snapchat, BET, MTV, TMZ or NETFLIX....That is Idolatry and that is a foundation of lust. I refer back to one video you posted in 2012 that I acknowledged earlier as being transparent...It was entilted, "Close Your Legs". I recently came across it. I enjoyed it because you spoke on building on the right foundation. You spoke truth in it. You spoke on Building on a foundation of LOVE...Not "being in Love". You spoke on the wrong foundation which is "lust". I see this as being A Love vs Lust issue. ALL that's in the World is the Lust of the Eyes, Lust of Flesh and the Pride if Life (I John 2:16 KJV). Has something changed? JESUS CHRIST is the same (Hebrews 13:8 KJV). How can any of us stand In or On LOVE if we don't have the Very Foundation and Creator of Love which is GOD??? I Say this with the LOVE and Reverence of GOD in my heart for you and All Souls. Consider what I say and the Lord will give there understanding nin all things (II Timothy 2:7 KJV). By GOD'S GRACE My love and prayers remain for ALL SOULS. Thanks Mr. Gaskins.♥️🙏🙌🌹☀️😎
There is agape love(God love). Phileo love, Eros love, and Storge love. Only three of these are found in the word of God. Thanks for your perspective, Tony.
Hello, I once had a man tell me that he was in love with me but in the same breath told me he loved his ex and then went and married her after she proposed to him. He also said that it was for convenience and that she could help him financially. The kicker is that I allowed him back in my life for a moment and then I ended it all.
So basically he's using her for financial support. That a true bum.You dodge a bullet. The minute she stop helping him financially he'll leave her in a heart beat.
I need God more than I need a husband. he was my first love. I member when I first heard the gospel, my heart was was filled with joy. the spirit of God touched me and I was filled with joy hope and happiness. glory be to God.
I've listened to a lot of your podcasts and I think this is the best one of them All. I love the way you are talking about how you are In Love with your wife and boy's 💗💗💗, I love you for doing that. Thank You
You can die in the process of saving a stranger. That's not proof of being "in Love." It's a reflection of the savior's morality, valor, and life's principles. A person is "in Love" when that person decides that they don't want to live their life without the person or object of their affection. They MUST have that person in their life! The state of being "in Love' is a Spiritual occurrence, not a choice, unlike simple love. You don't choose to be "in Love," with your children, it's not a choice. However, loving a friend is a choice. Being "in Love" is Spirit. The simple thought or act of loving someone or thing is a conscious Choice. Loving is common; the state of being "in Love" is very rare, compared to simple love.
Dying while saving a stranger was not your purpose. It was the unintentional consequence of events. Dying for your spouse is something you have resolved already in your heart when you knew she was to become your wife and you accepted responsibility to protect her at all costs.
That’s good. Love is all consuming and takes lots of effort and work. It’s not like a job where when you get off you off work and off for the weekend. In marriage it’s 24/7-7 days a week -365 days a year that you work at it, choose to love each other everyday, ppl don’t realize that’s what they sign up for when they get married. It’s work but there’s beauty in it, and if you tend to your garden it will bloom and produce fruit.
Your explanation of love vs in love is provocative! It is simple and straight forward. I can personally say that it has answered alot of questions for me and given me a clearer understanding of this thing called love. My prayer is that all who desire to find "real love" can experience what you are describing. God bless you and your listeners.
Man this is such a powerful message I couldn't agree thousand percent plus more this resonates all I have is love in my heart and I think that's rare it is there thanks
