The shutterstock images, the comic sans, the 90s/00s gifs and emotes, the tacky transitions, the pastel colours, this is all so..... so glorious, so nostalgic, cutesy, so.... PERFECT
In 2011, my best friend passed away. We had remained friends even after we broke up in 2008. Even after that, she sometimes called me “babe” still. Our lives together aren’t relatable to this song but the most memorable was her telling me “good luck, babe” 2 weeks before she passed away, although I don’t remember what for. I don’t know why but this song reminded me of every ounce of sadness I felt for the next 2 years. Even though she passed away long before this song was released, I feel she absolutely would have loved this song. She liked songs ladled with emotion. She’s the reason I enjoy music that I never wouldn’t have given a second listen and why my tastes span almost 9 decades.
I love that in most of her songs she sings about the consequences of not being who you truly are and fitting into a life that is not meant for you It really wakes people up in such a creative way
As someone who will never embrace the side of me and will probably remain closeted forever .. it hurts thinking I will have to deal with this as long as I live
@@shhey7365 Same, maybe I will try someday, but right now I can't deal with negative comments from family and friends. It's take more courage than I expected to be our true selfs.
@@StarlitGlitch I literally heard it in APITA today. And at a cafe I went to this weekend. I also hear it in my mall. I dont live anywhere super urban either.
@@jjj1981jj I wish that it were. It is not. Lol. Maybe in Tokyo. And maybe things that they do are queer coded to the western eye. But very few people outside of big cities are out publicly.
It's insane isn't it. Writing a great pop song is damn hard because we've heard it all. Then a banger like this comes out, influences on its sleeve but beautifully original and creative. 10/10 track for me.
@@paulfitzpa so true, I strive to one day release a song that is this level of banger 🤣 she’s a queen for sure, well deserved recognition for all her hard work.
i didnt know about chappell until she got popular but her music feels like it was made for me. im in a period of life where ive had to start over, and having her music to listen to has made me realize not only an abundance of things about myself but it has also made the teen girl in me want to go outside and enjoy the sun and the trees and im just so grateful to be able to experience a feeling like this.
if it makes you feel any better, a lot were re likely bi/ pan so there’s a very very very good chance they loved you back 💙. i hope you find the right girl angel
Unfortunately, this does happen a lot which is incredibly sad and unfair on their part. These girls have no soul. But no worries, buddy! Better people sure awaits you. Edit: Chill y'all, no need to charge at me. I was talking about a specific sort of “those girls” that lie to their girlfriends about them being purely sapphic, but has always been hiding their straight and bi-tendencies. This is why they end up getting married to men, because they never came clean about it to their partners.
The lyrics…FUCK. I’m a straight dude, but grew up with gay dads. My mom and dad were childhood “sweethearts,” got married, had three kids…and then my dad came out of the closet when I was 5 or 6, but I remember meeting his partner (who would become dad #2) while I was still in a stroller. Makes me think about what my dad went through, and his own denial. Thanks, Chappel, for making me feel intense empathy.
the thing that gets me about this chorus is that it doesn't really sound angry or accusatory to me, at least not entirely. the first time i heard it it sounded, to me, like the singer is speaking from experience- like she knows exactly what's going on in her lover's head because she's *been* there, she's done that whole song and dance of living in denial as long as she could. that really got to me, but maybe I'm just imagining it
I could definitely see that interpretation. This song struck a chord with me for the same reason. I’ve been out for almost ten years and I’ve seen this story play out so many times, in my life and friends’ lives. She just sounds so heartbroken and disappointed in the been there, done that kind of way. It’s not surprising at all, but that doesn’t make it hurt less.
Yeah, it gives me a shaking your head kind of vibe. I believe it's about a woman, so her saying "you'll be nothing more than his wife" is pretty damn biting.
I went to a college party with a jukebox. This song came on and a bunch of drunk frat boys were screaming the bridge like their lives depended on it. Easily a top ten experience.
It may be a song that is very sapphic (I’m a lesbian) but it can be interpreted as about a lesbian or just about a woman in a heterosexual relationship. Depends on the listener.
@@kenninast official lyric video, perhaps, but i think i speak for most of us when i say the fully produced, cinematic experience is for what we patiently wait.
Woah. Not me JUST realizing what the lyrics mean and suddenly having to pull my car over and sob for an hour. This literally is my experience. The love of my life just couldn't deal with being a gay man and after 3 years of a closeted relationship with him, he broke it off out of the blue and moved back to his hometown. I found out last year he got married to his old high school girlfriend and then ended his own life a year later. I'm still devastated.
The way she says "when you wake up next to him in the middle of the night with your head in your hands you're nothing more than his wife". The whole bridge just hits so hard...
It’s SO SO refreshing to finally hear a modern pop song that isn’t just two minutes of the chorus repeating. I feel like in the past several years singers (especially singers that have come through fame on Tik Tok by only capitalizing on their chorus) have just been so focused on just making a good chorus for the sake of Tik Tok use and neglecting the rest of the song. It’s such a breath of fresh air to have a song that has a bridge, post-chorus, and a second verse of actual substance. You can tell she makes music to MAKE MUSIC, not to profit.
honestly im sick of the ABABCB structure of pop music. it sucks. you can predict exactly whats going to come after each section. but that being said, i fucking love chappell so god dam much her music makes me happy :)
I'm not a lesbian (heterosexual man and a Marine veteran) but this is a real bop, y'all. I love this song so much. And I'm learning so much too! Didn't know what compshet was or the Stardew Valley community until I started reading through these comments. Hope yall can all find someone that calls you "babe" and good luck!
I genuinely thought this song was released somewhere during the 80s that just aged like wine ONLY TO REALIZE IT RELEASED 2 MONTHS AGO AS IM TYPING THIS
Maybe it’s a personal problem where you have something very big going on in your life for you feel the need to be a troll, maybe you ought to try meditating
You need to be feeling some hard-core nostalgia to think this looks good (or be very young) - I saw it the first time around 20+ years ago and it doesn’t look any more appealing this time around! 😄 Song is great though 👍🏻
I am absolutely not the type of person this music was made for. I'm a straight teenage boy, and I solely listen to metal and occasionally industrial and punk stuff. But holy shit, this is so fire. Theres like straght up crack in these lyrics its insane, I can't stop listening to it. Can lesbians never stop making bomb ass music please?
Lmao no one in the replies knows who Princess Diana is She was the princess of the royal British family and very popular because she was known to be kind and charismatic. She died in a car crash in 1997. Idk if the commenter thought she was secretly lesbian or just thinks she would’ve vibed with the song, I guess she seemed like the person to enjoy it lol
I still remember the girl i've spent my middle school life with in japan. We were friends since elementary, but the countless times I've called her 'my angel' 'sweetheart' was unforgettable. I always said those words in unserious manner but it was just a cover up to not make things awkward. I really liked her, her short hair and soft demeanor was so beautiful. I 'happened' to like androgynous looking boys with similar atmosphere as hers after I had to change school and got separated from her. However, I always got uncomfortable whenever I date those men like her and their 'male' side appeared, I didn't know why. I'm Japanese, so same-sex romance is forbidden, I didn't even know it existed until 2 years ago. Now I know who I am. Dear Chihiro, if you happened to be in same shoe as me and reading this, I loved you and I still do. I know that you were diligent young child and was interested in studying english. I hope you are here.
Imagine listening this in every radio station in ultra catholic Poland envionment. Priceless 😊 I'm personally straight, but liked this song and heard the message. Everyone deserves to be happy. Thank you Chappell for your voice ! Keep going
I’m a straight woman but the lyrics (and her gorgeous voice) make me emotional, just thinking how heartbreaking it must be to be in that situation 💔 this is the first song I’ve heard of hers and I can already tell she’s a great songwriter
@@PunchBuggyDreamsWell considering a lot of straight people in the comments are receiving replies questioning “if they really are straight”, apparently it’s needed.
@@PunchBuggyDreamsbro I’m gay and it’s just a comment lmfao I think it’s cool that str8 ppl like the song it speaks to how music is a universal language. It also shows demographic diversity/popularity. Relax and let ppl enjoy without getting upset over their freedom of speech and harmless input. Or don’t, I doubt you’ll listen lmao. To the ppl who comment about their sexuality: I promise we all don’t have a stick up our ass🤣
I’m so happy 🥰 it’s happened, I’m 38 and I grew up listening to coded lesbian love songs from the 80s and 90s. And here is Chappell Roan singing what I always dreamed would play on the radio, what I longed for in other artist, the silly songs I’d write and bin knowing the world would crucify me for it. songs, what I wished other peoples lyrics would say. She is singing our past love experinces , how it felt each lesbian dynamic, how love happens and all its intricacy. She’s the first! All those artist who dreamed they could sing as open as she is. ❤ What a phenomenal and beautiful change to the world and art 🖼️
This song is making me sob. I was in an emotional affair with a married closeted bisexual woman for years. At first we were just good friends but eventually it became a really obvious emotional affair. We are no longer friends but she made me realize so many things about myself. The nothing more than his wife really got me. I miss her a lot but she was part of my neptunic/lesbian awakening and so is this song.
I'm not familiar with the term "neptunic" in this context? I practice astrology so my mind goes to that when I see the term, but obviously something else is meant here.
@@ladygreenflame neptunic is a term for someone who’s attracted to all genders except men/people who identify as masc or masc aligned (as gender is a spectrum) uranic is the opposite
For anyone who wants to play this on guitar, here's how :) - Standard Tuning - No Capo - - Structure of the Song - Verse, Pre-Chorus, Chorus, Verse, Pre-Chorus, Chorus, Bridge, Chorus - Verse & Chorus - G, A, D Bm For each chord, strum: ↓↓↓↓↓↓↓ ↓↑ - Pre-Chorus & Bridge - Em (x4) For each chord, strum: ↓↓↓↓↓↓↓ ↓↑ Hope this helps out! If you get stuck or need a little extra help, I posted a video lesson for this on my channel :)
good of you to post this...reminded me what I have to do!! 4 chords and the truth, a beautiful voice filled with expression and great music production to top off the package and BOOM!! Sounds like a hit!! Inspiring. I wrote words and music, perform occasionally. In a rut now...but when I hear a song like this and am reminded of the foundation...what chords, words and melody can do. Inspiration kicks me in the ass and says GET MAKIN MUSIC!! Thanks!
INSANE. NOSTALGIC. HEALING. NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD LAND BACK HERE INTO THIS MUSIC AND THESE EARLY 2000s VISUALS AND PURE GIRLY CRUSHING-HARD BEDROOM POP WITH ALL THE HOOKS AND UPBEAT OF A MID-TO-LATE 2000s KATY PERRY. Chappel, you are stunningly talented. somehow spoke to both my childhood and my teenage years with this. thank you for a gift
This is EXACTLY what I feel in my little Italian Christian town. I’m looking at her, she is looking at me, but she is with HIM. And it just breaks my heart EDIT: just for the hate comments (I didn’t know this comment had this many likes/comments) she KISSED ME fir the first time, not the other way around, we were together for 1/2 month. In August I went away to visit my family in England and when school started again she started ignoring me. I tried to talk to her but she told me that she never felt anything for me (I repeat she made the first moves with me) and next thing I know is she got herself a boyfriend. But I knew she doesn’t like boys. So this is why my heart broke. Because I fell in love with her, but now I don’t know what to do. Thanks for the support and kindness by the way. I wish a happy life to everyone.❤️❤️
I feel like I'm late for the party. I heard this for the first time today and fell in love with it immediately! There's a kind of retro feel to it, but all wrapped up in a 'relevant for today' package.
The love of my life, the one that got away, broke it off because her family didn't approve of same-sex relationships. I've only heard this song twice, but the time I heard it once, it felt like I knew all the lyrics...like I'd ALWAYS known the lyrics. They're ripped right out of my heart and history. Rarely have I felt so seen and understood as this, and this sone is healing a place I didn't know I was hurting. Thank you, Chappell. Thank you very much.
@@TheNarutobeast9this was my 20s. I’m now in my 40s and don’t date anymore because I got sick of being a dirty little secret. May you have better fortune than I did. 💖
this will ruin you emotionally for at least a month or two but after that you'll only be a little traumatised! /lh seriously tho, you'll be okay! sending u love :)
@ghostgrl6 when i first found this song a week ago I kept listening to it over and over just to get to that part. Now I've heard the song a hundred times and ruined it for myself.
Fine. Make me, a middle aged woman, sob great gobs of tears while remembering my very, very first love and heartbreak. I don't need to be professional on my lunch break anyway. We met off line and she moved to my town for college. We had an amazing year. Then she...just disappeared. I tried to be patient since I knew she was having troubles with family. I wanted to support her and be there for her. She would get even more stressed out so I backed off. Then her telephone stopped working. (I just dated myself lmfao) I went to her place several times. No one answered the door until someone finally did. A man. I asked if he knew [girlfriend] is okay. Is she home? He asked who I was and I said her girlfriend. He just kind of blinked in confusion and said something like, "no. Not possible. I'm her fiance. We've been together for 3 years and getting married in two months." I legit do not remember what happened after that or even the rest of that year. Nothing.
My god. The bridge for this song actually gives me chills and gets me to tear up nearly every time I hear it. To me, this song just gives off this feeling of painful clarity, of the cold air on your face and tears in your eyes (during the chorus and bridge especially). This song just feels so moving and emotional for a reason I can’t fully explain. Also “I just need a little loving, I just need a little air” THAT LINE KILLS ME EVERY TIME I HEAR ITTTTT
I feel like she's an artist that 100% deserves all the attention she's now getting, she's been doing this for years, and now more people are seeing her, and she really deserves it
Is this a woman or a guy? I'm confused bc everyone keeps talking about LGBTQ in the comments and just wanna know if this is a woman bc the voice sounds like it
She is. But the reason LGBTQ get brought up with her is because she's openly lesbian, she models her looks after drag queens, and her music is really popular in gay clubs, circles, etc.
@@charlesmurray4864 yep its a woman. the lgbtq keeps getting mentioned here cuz the singer is a lesbian and therefore her target audience is MOSTLY lesbians too but some ppl like the person who wrote the original comment you replied to - and many more other ppl from what i've seen - want to show that even if they are not a part of lgbtq community they still enjoy her songs, that's probalby the reason it's being mentioned :)
@hyperdesperacja OK thanks I heard a couple of her songs on the radio and she's really good reminds me of the 80's really like her music. I First thought it was the lady from stranger things something running up that hill my memory is horrible
Indeed. The way this song builds is actually awesome. I'm a totally blind person, so I listen to music for music's sake because, well, I can't see the video. Lately, I've been listening to the Longest Johns who are a sea shanty band, but heard this recently on the radio and came here and my gosh, what a tune. Also, it seems like there is no, or very little, auto tune to be heard, so that automatically gets bonus points for not sounding like some sort of robot partying like it's 2050 in an AI hellscape, and shows that perhaps, just perhaps, music isn't dying. Honestly, I think the 2010's sucked for music, so much wrap, slang and unless you knew the lingo, you were stuck. The 2020's seem to be returning to some semnence of musicality once again, trying to actually reach the masses, not just fancy visualizers.
@@toziassmitt No, not anymore. This is actually a lost art. Mos songs these days last a couple of minutes, at best, before ending. This is a fully constructed, verse, chorus, verse, chorus, bridge, chorus, outro, song. Not verse, chorus, verse, chorus, instrumental, chorus, faid, or worst, verse, chorus, repeat. The worst offender for this was Dua Lipa's Hudini, which had a synth bridge in the middle but instead of letting it shine, for whatever reason a chorus was incerted during this key change, and if it wasn't, it would have actually unironically been a better song.
I'm gunna be honest, I'm a straight 25 year old male who is married with a lovely wife. I have tattoos on my chest, neck, arms and legs. I have 1 inch gauges and facial piercings. I grew up in a heavy metal house hold. Been to numerous heavy metal concerts and have it heavily in my music rotation. I'm a delivery driver at jimmy John's and one day, I heard this song on the over head speakers in our store. Ever since then I've been HOOKED on this shit. My secret "white girl" song used to be paparazzi by Lady Gaga. But this easily took 1st place. I play this non stop on my deliveries. Point is, you could be any race, any sex, have any sexual preferences, and background, any aesthetic to actually love and appreciate this song.
I do not say this often or lightly. We are witnessing the rise of a massive star. I pray that she will be protected and safe throughout her journey and never loses her light. We love you, Chappell!
