you'll be fine I remember my mom telling my dad I have kids to raise I don't have time for your personal madness & foolishness & kept it moving!!!! love ya mom 💕
You mom is such a W!!!!!!!!!!! Like I wish all moms were like this my mom was not. I love her down but we’d be closer if she had this mindset. Ur mom is amazing ❤❤❤
This is why you ask GOD for your spouse and this would not be an issue!!! There is no excuse for leaving your family to wolves. No man leaves his family to fend for themselves. (1 Timothy 5:8). And I am not talking about financial support only!
Precious, when people wanna go, #let them go. See how how God will open more blessings for you and the kids. You, mikko and the twins will be fine. Let God lead the way. And precious stop defending him when you know his acts or words are not right. Peace and love. ❤
I agree. He seems to not have empathy. He needs to grow-up ...I mean you already in fatherhood and challenging behaviors of children is challenging. Don't call it "passion" the intent is the intent of his communicating with you.
My daughter is autistic and non-verbal as well. You are a wonderful woman and mother! You ain't new to this, you're true to this! You are the best mother to all three of your children! 💜💯💪🏿
I’m retired military with two autistic children and I looked up to the fact that Chris stayed. Maybe God put COVID here so you can get out and focus on Mikko because that’s hard to do on active duty. Leaving is easy imo staying and supporting Precious. Mikko , and the twins are the priority.
Leaving just because you think you need your life is selfish....you both got on the both, Chris find a way to get love back...and stay. What about Precious? Her whole life is in this boat. If she wants to get her life too, what happens to Mikko? She is tired too. Very selfish, running away from responsibilities.
Shame on you, Chris, especially when marriage is figuring it out together. Trying to rationalize what's going on should never be a cope out for the family. Chris, get a job or go to school to help move the family forward and give yourself a reason to stand tall in being a man. Pray for direction before destroying your family.
Statistically, women leave their families way more often than men. Men will leave their happiness for their family, a woman will leave her family for her happiness.
There's a lot of talk from Chris and it all seems to be me me me me me me me and I I I I I I I I. Has he taken into consideration how Mkko is going to feel with this drastic change of not having her dad in the picture here he is choosing to leave the family and thinks by leaving he will achieve that. I've heard Chris talk before he is in my opinion mean and inconsiderate even when discussing Mikko. I feel his decision here is going to seal his unhappiness even further down the road. He sounds like a man that wants another relationship. This one is too hard for him and he should go. Precious is a great mother and she deserves happiness and she will certainly be happy with Chris out of the picture he's a burden to the family. God bless you precious and family you be fine God has his hands all over you and those kids.
Precious will sit and wait...he has her on a string. He will come back and forth, FOREVER...and she will let him...she will not divorce him because she think he will change....theme for life...until he re-marry.
@@km-uh2rs it’s a copout. He just needs to get away from the family and that’s his ticket. I work in law enforcement and assure you that the military does not want this type of man. He won’t last unless he’s willing to do the dirtiest work. I don’t know if you can tell through RU-vid, but I can, Chris has soft hands.
I don’t know why he seems so nonchalant. He seems relieved. It’s ticking me off. Sometimes you gotta keep your family together despite your feelings. Of course, you need to take of your mental health but this is the JOB he signed up for. He’s not a temp. This is a permanent position, unlike the military. Romantic love is important but the love of the family he helped you create, should come first. I know that I’m a stranger but this is disappointing. I hope you get the support, you and your beautiful babies deserve.
Very well said. I have a hard time commenting on personal, vulnerable situations like this even when they chose to put it out to the world because they’re real people at the end of the day. But this fills me with annoyance & disappointment..
Very selfish & emotionally abusive. What do you mean you stay 3 days without talking to your wife and punishing your kids by being absent or absent minded.. He is playing games while Precious is still dishing up for him? I'd kick that tray of food. You can't serve and still accept disrespect... No.
As a parent you gotta be last according to your children. "Unfulfilled"? So what about your wife and kids? Im sure she lost her hopes and dreams....you say you going to the military?? So you just gone leave your family?
God will bless you with the right man, I'm an Army veteran as well. This is not it, I'm disappointed in your husband. SMH, for better or worse, I go to mental health to figure things out but not abandon family.
Yeah, it seems like a deeper issue. Praying for them. I'm going through it too, so this is triggering bc I'm sensitive to men that abandon their posts, so I hope I'm not projecting my own feelings. Just feels like it's obvious there's a deeper issue. When they figure it I pray they're in a place where they have something left to salvage healthy connections. 😪🙏🏾🕊️💔
I hate commenting and I don’t care that much about what’s going on people’s lives but I’m sorry he wasn’t fooling me from jump. I saw it coming. Im praying for u and them babies.
You noticed he said we are keeping the channel and she's the one that's putting in the work. When things are difficult and a person is not there for you spouse or not get them out of your life without turning back.
I, too, refused the covid vaccine and was released from my job of 29 years. I'm not going to lie but it was one of the hardest things I went through because like Chris said, I also lost a big part of my identity and when people weren't looking And especially at night, I would cry and I went through A lot of emotional stuff. But at the end of the day My job is not The biggest part of who I am so I found another job and I have been Building up my esteem and whatnot but I'm not angry anymore because it was a choice that I made. But I did all of this And it's over two years now and I did it without breaking up my family And I'm just not really sure how A man can just leave a family he helped create to go and find himself. That finding himself should have happened before he procreated And rebuilding yourself can happen While staying in the marriage by seeking therapy. To me, it's an easy way out to leave Everybody else behind to deal with the Fallout while you go put yourself together. Precious, I Wish the best for you And I hope things work out well for you and that you find someone who is willing To put in the hard work to support you and your family.
@@sandyruther2745 He is leaving his family. He's using his need to find himself through reenlistment as a way to escape his family responsibilities and hardships. ...
@@sandyruther2745 That will teach me to listen to the whole video. To be honest, I didn't really see him on social media anymore. Thank you, I'm glad I was wrong!
I'm praying for ya'll so sincerely. God please place your hands over this family and continue to protect them and guide them. In Jesus name amen 💙🩵💙🩵💙🩵
Honey, listen to me: If he can walk away, let him go. No one who can walk away is supposed to be there. And honey, listen to me very carefully, if he walks away, he can never come back. Do not open that door. Let him stay gone. You move forward. It sucks being a single mom, I'm widowed with one and that's hard but you can do this. You will be worn out by the time your kids are grown but you can do this. You don't have to explain. You have to do what's best for your kids. I've given this example a couple of times now. Walking with somebody requires walking in the same direction and at the roughly the same pace. You can't do that if one is walking one way and one the other way or two dramatically different speeds, you end up spinning around each other. And it's ok to agree you've reached a point where you no longer walk together. And go your separate ways.
Boy bye!!! You need to figure it out and stay with your family instead of RUNNING AWAY like a punk. Miko did not ask to come in this world, that BEAUTIFUL BABY is HERE. PRECIOUS please stop giving him this leway, you and the babies are BETTER than this. When your babies become SUCCESSFUL and FAMOUS he will realize what he turned his back on. BEAUTIFUL Lady God has His arms ALL AROUND YOU AND THOSE BABIES❤
No, call a spade a spade. He is selfish. He wants out. He is not satisfied. He is ok with breaking up a family; a home; what about the children and being an example to the children? I know it takes two to tango, but no excuses. Marriage is real and it is for better or for worse. Endurance. This is something clearly he lacks as a man. The army is another excuse to foster his selfish ways. She works very hard and to leave her is just wrong. I said it. They need only GODLY counsel. Divorce is not God’s way. He hates putting away; Malachi 2:16.
I couldn't have said it better!!! I hate a runner, when things get tough they run. I would be very upset if we had a special needs child and you want to leave to find yourself!!! There's no coming bk from that for me we would be DONE DONE!!!!
Ma’am you are better than me! I would not have even allowed him to do this video. Why are you making excuses for him? Why are you speaking about his crushed dreams as if yours don’t matter too? This is rid! Stop making excuses for these deadbeats.
Screw him! My son’s father did the same crap as most of these coward men do when their child is Autistic. Look it up. The statiere disgusting! They get to leave and live their life and we are left alone raising the child. God will deal with the bum fathers.
Very true sister , my cousin girl is in the same situation, is reasing his Autistic girl in the same stage like Miko alone whit my aunty 😢😢😢, i pray in every day for them to God give them power 😢 . Is sow much pain in my hearth to see my nephew like this . Be strong, God bless you!. ❤
You’d be shocked at how often this happens, even to wealthy families. One that quickly comes to mind is Toni Braxton” and her ex- husband Kerri, separated then divorced because of their son Denim that was diagnosed with autism” they also have a son named Diesel. Even though he was still helping financially, she’s was left to take care of her children.
I occasionally watch the channel, so I don't know the entire story. But from what I've seen, your words seem totally on point. It's hard enough raising one child by yourself, but 3 with some limitations is another level. Although the older kids seem to be self-care, they still need the guidance of both parents...It does seem like a totally cowardly act.
leaving your family is soft i dont care what you are going through.. you FAMILY needs you there not away.. and dont give me the i will do everything i can stuff... EVERY SECOND OF EVEY DAY PERIOD.......... Grandfather of a autistic boy whos dad did the same not a man in my eyes.....
Second this. My mom is shit, but my dad fought with everything he had to stay in our lives. I was an autistic traumatized kid who was not easy to deal with but he stayed and fought and cared for me and loved me unconditionally and now I’m a functional happy adult.
I agree with you on this. Another thing I didn’t like about this video was his wife’s justification for his behavior. He just doesn’t want to deal with the hard things in life, especially dealing with Mikko.
No separation is an easy or a joyous situation. I am so sorry your family is in this season and transition. I hope and pray for the entire family's well-being. Precious you, can and WILL.💕
Sadly, when some men have special needs children or sick spouses, they take the "easy" way out - saying they need to find themselves & bounce. It's not about you. it's about the child! Perhaps you should have given more thought to how you'd feel after you got booted out of the military!!
Totally agree. Poor excuse for a husband and a father. His ignorance is astounding. Ignorant about the vaccine, gave up your career cuz you couldn’t take one little vaccine. Do the research and support your child. Everything isn’t about you. As a parent, you need to step up.
@@doingme2today388I admittedly may be wrong, but if the Army was THAT important to him, he would’ve gotten the shot years ago & never gotten to this point in the first place.
My ex abandoned my autistic daughter 11 years ago. I raised her by myself. I was done with Chris when he said he "wasn't gonna kiss Mikko's ass." Loving your special needs child has nothing to do with kissing anyone's ass. Piss poor attitude and choice of words.👎🏾
While I don’t think everything needs to be shared online, this post caught my eye. Despite the title, it remained unclear whether he was leaving the relationship or just the channel. I don’t know this couple personally, but it was uncomfortable to watch. She seemed to make excuses for him, and it saddens me that women often end up bearing the burden in situations like this due to their nurturing instincts. It's frustrating that in rare occasions where women have left, they face backlash, while men don’t encounter the same scrutiny. Fathers often receive praise for basic parenting tasks, while mothers go unrecognized for their consistent efforts, and always forced to prioritize everyone else's needs. I also hear women criticized for wanting to wait for a man who is done “finding himself” before marriage. Some argue that it’s unrealistic since personal growth is ongoing, and I agree to some extent. If men (like in this video) claim they need to leave to "find themselves," I wonder: 1. Why can’t that search happen alongside their partner? 2. What if both partners have epiphanies at the same time? Who cares for the children then? Ultimately, it seems he became complacent (his words), and that’s the real issue. In discussing how he learned to "do better," he pointed out her selflessness and willingness to be uncomfortable in order to improve the situation. Isn’t that what life is all about-making the most of what we have? We can't just check out when things get tough. That said, I sincerely hope she finds the strength to raise her children, that those around her support her, and that she doesn't crumble under her responsibilities.
Took the words right out of my head. He should be "finding" himself WITH his partner. Which leads me to believe that he just wants out, but doesn't want to look like the bad guy. I'm with you on praying she has a good support system so she doesn't crumble under the pressure of her responsibility. Ultimately, I think she will be better off because she already has three kids to raise, she doesn't need a selfish, tantrum throwing fourth.
I'm sooooo rooting for you I can't wait for you to be the best version of yourself from this! You already seem to be handling things extremely well. You don't have to be so strong but thank God you are, your kids have a wonderful mama
Hello Family, per the complete video, Chris is not leaving! Realistically, we must give people a certain level of grace & mercy to figure out life sometimes why working through the many mental obstacles & challenges of this journey. Wishing this beautiful family only the BEST!!!
This is why moms are the MVP’s, they don’t get to walk away and wouldn’t dare even in their brokenness. I’m not a mommy BUT I just want tot thank y’all for never leaving us. THANK YALL❤️💯
Precious, I am sorry ouch. You're the backbone of your family, and God will completely bless this mess Chris is creating and keep it in your favor. This is selfishness, and Mikko will be affected😢. This is a bad decision he won't find happiness by leaving to find it. I 🙏 he changes his mind and keeps his family intact.
When men have children that are gifted. It's always easier for them to leave and not the mother. Fellas they need you 10 toes down with children especially when you have gifted children. I digress I pray that the good Lord continue to bless you, husband and children in Jesus. name.
Single grandma of a 5 year old Autistic girl here. Chris your FAMILY needs you. I have been divorced from my ex huspand for almost 20 years. We had to put our differences to the side, our personal lives to the side to relocate, become roomates to raise our shared special needs grandchild. He still sometimes gets on my last nerve BUT! He is an AWSOME grandad to our baby!! YOU CREATED THIS FAMILY.....stay there and lead it sir!!!
Precious, peace in the house is so important. Children see and hear what's going on. Pray about it and make plans and keep it moving. People's feelings when they want go. You can't change people. God got you and your children.❤🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Ma’am, you do not deserve the pain but you deserve better than this display of a man right here. We watch you work tirelessly as a mother to make sure those babies are loved and taken care of. We watch you go above and beyond to further educate Mikko to make sure her future is as bright as it can be (and will be.) We watch the stress and overwhelm on your face as you navigate. We saw your worry, I know I did. You looked so overwhelmed but you kept pushing for those babies. You didn’t QUIT. Despite it being hard, you are such a dedicated and strong woman to your family. So I’m sorry but it is so terrible to see this man so relieved while she will further have to carry the weight of caring for her babies alone. More alone than it looks like she was. Selfish man. My heart goes out to her cause she deserves so much better than this kind of man. And she deserves to be angry. And I hope that his absents will give her the space for herself to pour into herself as much as he’s trying to pour into himself cause he’s just oh so damn overwhelmed. I hope to one day see her smile and glow more cause she deserves that. I’m so sorry to her heart. You don’t have to be so understanding. You deserved better than this.
I have no idea why Chris is going on and on, with lots of words, saying a whole lot of nothing. He wants out and is trying to justify it. Precious stop trying to support him, look after your kids and yourself, your don't need him to be complete, I speak from almost identical experience.
No excuse to him ? WOW you are so much better than him. I pray God brings someone into you and your children’s life that will support you and who you and your daughter are! God bless you mama 🙏🏾
Only thing with the advice of being info someone else into her life is God forbids remarrying or now it would be considered adultery in God’s eyes. It doesn’t matter what we want. God set the laws and we must adhere to His way. Mark 10:11-12
😢you can't be youreself anymore???? This is all what he can say??? Did hi ever look at her life 24h from 24 taking care of Miko??? What?????? I have a cousin is in the same situation , is raising my nephew togheter whit my aunty his mom , end the father now is having a perfect life, whit girlfriend 😢 .Is a lot of pain for me to see my cousin in this situation end how ex-husband is sow happy whit the new life . 😢 God bless you beautiful girl end i will pray for you end Miko. ❤❤❤
Hello Precious and Chris, I appreciate how honest and vulnerable you were willing to be in this situation. I hope you realize that you’re setting a good example for married couples out there. The fact that you are so supportive of each other, and recognizing each other’s needs is something that a lot of people in relationships should aspire to do.
I have a sister with a son with autism. I see how the dad can leave because of how he feel or what he has chosen to do. This leaves all the responsibility on my sister for needing a babysitter and still having to get things done. For my nephew with autism and two other children that they have together. Stay strong and keep trusting God, he will make a way out of no way.
That's a very real loss being in the Army and then losing it. That's traumatic, and therapy is needed to process that loss. Your entire life goals changed with no control. The household dynamics changed without even the situation with Mikko. It's important to acknowledge your feelings without listening to people's opinions. Marriage is work, and both of you should be commended for your willingness to address and work on it. I pray for you all.
@@Growinggracefully843 well in life shyt happens, that doesn't mean you leave and distance yourself from your family. Family is there to support! So no matter what changes in your life your family is constant, so long as you make them your priority! What message does this send to the children. Life took an unexpected turn so I ran? He's selfish, he's been checked out, it was always more than he was willing to deal with. He wants to free, that's it that's all.
I’m confused by some of the comments below maybe they didn’t rly watch the vid and just went on the title. Thank you for sharing your journey and the most personal aspects of your relationship and your family. Marriage is not for the faint hearted. Just remember that marriage is about relinquishing your individual rights wants needs etc and submitting to each other so you can become one and act as one for the betterment of your children and your family. Marriage is all about growing into a better person for those around you. As a man Chris needs to find that path that is going to allow him to be a provider and protector of his family. The military shudn’t be a way of escape so he can figure out himself which is kinda what I heard a little. I’ve been married 25yrs and yes you are individuals but you are one. Support each other in the things you each want to do as long as you’re not escaping your role as a husband and father. You can’t be a part-time husband or father. Don’t place yourself in a situation where you will be tempted even more to distance yourself from those roles. Wishing you all the best! ❤
All the comments made it look as though he was going to leave his family behind. He's just going back to his job. Crisis averted! 🤣May the Lord God in heaven continue to bless their union.
Should have taken the vaccine if you didn't have a REAL plan. The military was a way to provide your family with medical coverage as well and your family needed that. Now he talking about his life and his dreams and aspirations and so not considering the dreams and aspirations of his wife and his wife. This guy is selfish. These were selfish acts. I saw a story about a couple where the father did this same thing but instead the wife told him he could leave but he had to take the kids with him. Everyone got so upset with her because for some reason men can have their dreams and just leave but women must always stay and give up rhetoric to raise the children. This woman want having that. Now i get it. These weak men always walk away leaving their wives to do everything. She is being so understanding and empathetic to him. He use to getting his way. HE IS SELFISH!
Agreed! That understanding/compromising role gets tired after while though. She will see eventually if she hasn’t already. To a degree I understand the pain that comes with abandoning something that once gave you fuel. But to pursue a career that provides respite from a demanding family is not the move of a loving husband in my opinion. It’s selfish.
Amen!!! And I’m sure she encouraged that crap with him too thinking she was being holistic 🙄 black folk don’t get the luxury to play like that he should have never abandoned the post
Precious, I had four school aged kids when their dad chose to leave. When he left, within less than a minute, I went from “omg, what am I going to do now” to “no time for that, I’m going to raise these kids!” 20 something years later and by the grace of God, I went back to school, my career has advanced to a CSFA. I have a loving relationship with my kids and he is still where he was when he made his choice. You will be just fine Sistah! Your new three fold cord is you, your kids and God!! What better support do you need?!?
Precious im glad that I watched the entire video..some of these comments are from ppl who didn't watch the whole video. I love how you both communicate throughout everything, whether it's difficult or not.
I don't agree with all the comments, however, also, I feel some of them because, I am Precious. I have twins, son is on the spectrum and daughter with learning disabilities. Their Dad, whom is still in their lives, I feel lives freely while I am with them at least 80% of the time and have made sacrifice after sacrifice....it's a tough call...also, he's giving the same vibes my abusive ex gave me...and he kinda looks like him too. That's where I'm picking up on the narcissitic traits, however, I don't know these people so I'm not gonna tell other people how to live their lives and this new age, people are too quick to talk to strangers like they know them that well to feel so strong
This sounds like how real marriages work. Nothing is perfect. I think the military will be good for Chris and he will be able to take care of his family like most men do in the military who have families. Why are people bashing people for their truths and so judgmental? Nobody has a fairytale and they’re working together to keep their marriage and what works for them. They didn’t have to say anything to us. We love y’all. We got to get y’all to the million subscribers now. ❤❤❤❤
He stop going to Military because of Covid and what happened later it was a slap in the face they weren’t forcing those shots on people and they were able to go back into the service. What’s the issue with him going back into the military? It doesn’t mean he’s gonna be gone forever. Sheesh he’s trying to provide for his family. He never wanted to leave the military and now he has a chance to go back. A lot of families have this choice. He needs his benefits too no jobs out here paying anything. He would be in the military still so why make this something it’s not? They’re working to keep their family together.
You can tell by the comments people did NOT WATCH the entire video. Marriage is not easy, kudos to you both for being open about these type of struggles. Every marriage goes through this.
I'm sorry but this was such a HARD WATCH. Between Chris' blatant selfishness and Precious making excuses for him it's appalling. You both need to take a long look in the mirror. Precious I wish you all the love, but it starts within. Stand up girl, he's making a punk, dusty move. And he thinks taking care of his child is kissing her arse... my god.
Wow! I feel people definitely jumped to conclusions before listening to the entire video. I'm praying everyone finds peace, and I wish this couple nothing but the best outcome. Looking forward to hearing positive good news.
Leaving the military is extremely tough. I retired after 20 years during COVID and it was extremely difficult. It still is. It takes time for veterans to adjust to civilian life. However, this man’s excuse as to why he made his decision is inexcusable. Marriage is work. Being a parent is work. Such a sad example and I pray you all find healing during this time. I know firsthand how traumatizing divorce/separation is. It’s tough on everyone involved, especially the children. Sending healing and peace to your family. May GOD guide your steps.
Chris thank you for your honesty, what a beautiful and healthy place to stand in. It takes courage to be so open and honest on this platform. I believe we have to give ourselves permission to wrestle with the complexity of life and how to manage everything that comes at us and everyone doesn’t process and handle life’s ups and downs the same. There’s no handbook for life we are all learning as we go. But where others see the negative. I see love, commitment and personal growth. A healthy you and Precious is the best gift you can give your family, friends and love one. I’m praying for you and your family. The same is for you Precious keep digging and learning about yourself so you can live in authenticity. That really is the gift. It’s only TRUTH that makes you free. I NEVER post comments EVER, but I admire you guys braver to be so open ❤You’re healthy than you think don’t let anyone tell you different!
PLEASE READ!!!!! Experienced Autism Dads and moms need to talk to Inexperienced Autism Dads and Moms. HE need to connect with other Autism Dads men need to recharge, refocus and help them transition with his family not away from them. Men need therapy too life is changes and it's hard we need HEALTY COMMUNITY
I know you guys have had your yelling moments. But the fact that you can come back together with respect and understanding says a lot. My ex and I had to come to the same understanding that we can't keep fighting fire with fire. We both felt like monsters in how we treated each other in the relationship. And like you guys, we lost each other, and I had to step back and go on a hunt in finding myself again. I had to go back to my roots. I just hope you guys are showing each other more appreciation through this change. I honestly hate seeing Precious cry because I know how hard it is being that sensitive, I come from a father who was militant, and he never understood my sensitivity, and neither did my mother, I hope Chris understands that it really is not easy being Autistic. It is hard being in a body that functions so differently from the world. Respect Chris for changing his perspective little by little and really opening his eyes coming from a militant perspective and also appreciate that he is getting back up and fighting for his dreams. Cause I would not allow him to give up on it that easily, no way. You have to keep going. You both have to get back and try again.
I'm sorry that you and your beautiful little angel are going to be without your husband 😢😢. It's not right because he's a father and your husband and your family comes first. When you get married you have to stick through it together no matter what happens. A family that prays together stays together. The Lord will help you through this situation 🙏🙌🙏🙏
Thanks Chris for opening yourself. Other men might relate to this. Precious you are incredible in this journey. You both are an inspiration for others. I really hope you can get your Army career back. As an Air Force Veteran I completely understand this loss. Your channel help those going through the autism journey.
The struggle is real. Hold on tight to each other without choking your relationship. You can weather the storm together in your marriage and come out on the other side better than ever. Your children need both of you and you two need each other ❤🙏 Understand, this journey with everything that comes with it is worth the work. Sometimes the storm is necessary to give you insight of what is important.
Marriage is hard, and life can be challenging. I am praying for your family and hope you find the best path forward. Don't feel guilty for keeping the private things private. Love the channel. Blessings.
This literally had me in tears! I am one of your biggest cheerleaders and I have all the faith! Stay strong and trust that God won't give you more than you can handle even when it doesn't feel that way!❤❤❤
Precious you will be fine no matter what because you are strong enough to deal with whatever life throws at you, massive respect and admiration for you hun. Me me me and I I I is all I heard from Chris.
I’m confused as to why you thought you would have any say so in what the military demands/commands you to do. How many shots did you stand in line for and did not question? The burden of care, comfort and teaching of Miko is on Princess and you come in either as a bit player or an afterthought. Get it together and become the man you claim you want to be.
This is so sad. Right now I can only think about mom and the kids and how she is going to have to manage that. I hope everything turns out well for the sake of every person involved and I hope that Chris finds what he is looking for. I know this is going to be hard for you, specially because people with autism have a hard time with change and transitions. I just hope everything turns out well. Sending you loads of virtual hugs and good vibes.
@saydesirelove2967: This is the BEST COMMENT/ADVISE GIVEN!!! I've been sitting here with my JAW to the floor! I CAN'T BELIEVE what some people are saying! WoW! There's NO WAY you respect a person, OR their partner, when you call them OUT OF THEIR NAME, or INSIST on speaking TO YOU, as though you're some inept victim in need of THEIR "counsel."
I believe the comments are for Precious to not let this man walk all over her. We think Precious is naive about men and would let Chris run game on her.
men are. it held accountable in society and within their families. So escaping is easy. You give them an inch and they take a mile. We all know how the story ends, so yes they’re giving him a hard time for a reason.
If Chris let God lead him everything will fall into place. God is the fulfillment . If you let him be the head of your life everything will fall into place for your wife and children, because this is how he has ordained it. Is looking at the things of the world that makes a person feel unfulfilled. God is the way, the truth and the life.
How do you know this decision is not guided? Religious people can seem so judgy sometimes. Just because a family makes a decision that does not meet the expectations of others, does not mean the decision is wrong.
He is full of shit! Precious you are a strong tower within yourself. I can see straight through him. He just don't want to be there. Your family is not about him. It's about the children and you.
There are not many men who can hold up to hard challenges in their marriage and especially with the children he's really being self indulge hopefully he will at least be of help with Mikko bottom line she has to carry the load not him because he will not be in the house hold
@@tesler.6240 I hope they don’t. There are so many people worth their time energy and commitment. People who will be there for them no matter what. Let this “father”in vain hit the road.
Hi I dont' comment often but I felt a need to say this. I understand that nothing is perfect and daily things change. Hearing this I feel he's being selfish and was selfish in the decision(s) he has made that truly affect the ENTIRE family, now he gets to step away. The family deserves better and I don't think this has been thought through entirely. Women lose themselves every day and keep it together him saying that he LOST himself is SELFISH at the expense of the family. Best to them going forward but I don't think leaving is the solution.
We dont know the full story. This move could very well be financial too. Military offers stability and security especially for Mikko. I will say nomatter how far he has to go such a deployment dont divorce and stick together. Vows say for better or worse. Having special needs kids is tough but as they develop itll get better and i can tell mikko gone flourish. If you both are happy then go for it. not all couples can share careers. Military can be his thing and social media can be yours. Continue to stick together and support each other through this and prayers that God will strengthen your family. ❤
I am a military spouse. My husband was a soldier. I seen a lot of comments saying that Chris is wrong and the family deserves better. For those of you who have never experienced military life. It's a different ball of wax. Not just for the soldier but the family as well. When a soldier goes through basic training. They are literally retrained to the person that the military needs them to be. The person that they were is changed forever. So I hear and understand Chris when his says that he feels incomplete or not enough being out of the military. Or, when they spoke about now spending too much time together. Because when you are in the service, each person as their own roll to play. When Chris was forced to leave something he loved, and which also gave him a sense of purpose. He was lost, I am so proud of the way both of you decided to stay and work not only on yourselves but on your family as well. I am glad that Chris is getting the chance to become the person/soldier, husband, and father. That he can look at in the mirror and be proud of. As for Precious, I am so proud of your grace, and steadfastness as a wife and mother. When I found out that my middle son had Autism, it took the breath out of me.. In the beginning, there were many times that I felt guilty. Wondering about what others would think of me. Once, I was able to sit with myself and realized that it wasn't about me. I was able to pour all my love and resources in helping my son be the best version of himself.. i am sending prayers to the both of you and your family. On this new chapter in your life. ❤
Chile yall tickle me in these comments...let me get headphones and watch this again because I dont think Im watching the same video as yall #AuDHD&Proud
Don't want to be cruel but I'm here for how life is with the autistic child. Day to day, vacations, milestones, setbacks, growth etc. Chris, go get yourself together maybe some counseling. Hiii Mikko!
I am so sorry he is so selfish. Why does he get to walk away? You will be better off your home will be calmer without him. He wants to be in charge and thinks he knows everything! If he’s in the Army he has to follow the rules and I don’t believe he can do that because he’s a know it all he was Covid denier REALLY! Prayers for you and the children
There is a complete lack of knowledge and understanding when it comes to the separation of an individual from the military in itself. When compounding the everyday issues and occurrences of a relationship it could become overwhelming. This is why the need for effective and open communication between each other is of great value. Remaining open and honest without having to raise your voices which can cause the other or both individuals to shut down is the key. I wish you both happiness and success in your marriage and journey together!
As one special needs family to another, I thank you for your translucency (sharing enough but guarding too). I am a special needs mom of almost 19 years. I've been married to the father of my 4 children for 22 years. Every season has NOT all been sunshine and roses. Marriage is hard because it challenges the selfishness in all of us. Marriage while raising a special needs child challenges selfishness, sanity, sleep and on and on. The reality is that it can drive you closer together or further apart. We CHOSE to lean in. At times that means sacrifice and lifting the other person up when they're weak or lost themselves in this new reality. Please remember that these are seasons and they will change. Love each other and unite for each other, for your family and for your future. Give space when needed and respect at all times. Your kids will appreciate the sacrifices that you make for your legacy. Thank you for sharing the reality of special needs marriages, which strongly affect the special kids. It is not just about the child. They will grow and experience life in a greater and richer experience than you can imagine. Stay strong and COMMITTED. God bless. Your family is in our prayers.
I left my husband for a while as he has health issues and I was giving him 100% of myself. I was burntout I had to reset. We are back together and are stronger than ever. We understand this situation fully.
Husband and wife! Your husband was not well, this situation is not that, this is a whole family involved. It’s him, choosing to leave a family, well that can go both ways, she could feel the same way but of course she’s not going to leave. I’m glad you were able to take care of yourself, he just come off as selfish, I’m sure she’s overwhelmed.
@@GenerationX1980 There is more to my background i am not prepared to go into, The hardest thing i did was to walk out, but we were fighting all the time sometimes families with disablities need time out without being judged.
Oh wow, I'm in awe of how this conversation turned around in the right direction! I'm at time code 12:16. God bless you two. I pray for your marriage, your individual 'person-hood', and for your children. Marriage is hard, it's work, it's commitment, and it can be oh so good! Togetherness is a blessing. Stay strong!
So happy, you both are giving each other grace and working together to keep your beautiful family unit strong. Blessings and don't put ego (edging God out) first ❤
Time with the kids should be divided into two. 50/50. Both parents have to have equal time with the children. One parent cannot just leave because they want to follow their dreams. Blessings to you both. ❤
Why can’t we accept a person for their truth … he is trying to heal himself his inner child wounds, so he can be the father he feels he is not now! He must first love self first . Self love is love to all we know.❤ Precious what has for is beyond your wildest dreams! Stay true to who you are ( higher self) no matter what … this is your journey, and I admire the experiences you have chosen. Enjoy your journey sis you got this.
As a highly sensitive person who has seen and experienced a lot more than most could imagine, I feel compassion for both of you guys. I wish there was a way that you guys could move close to the family members or friends that you feel would give you the most support. I listened as intently as I could to what Chris was saying, and although I am a woman, I get how a man feels about being able to do for his family. It is an admirable sense of responsibility that all real men have. That being said, this situation does not need to be the end for you guys. Keep working on your relationship, no matter what. I have a family member who has an autistic son who reminds me a lot of Mikko. He is also nonverbal. You guys have done a lot in teaching so many about autism in such a way that it makes me feel like I want to do something to help you guys. I am going to start praying for you all on a regular basis. Stay strong and keep the good memories at the forefront of your mind and release the painful ones.
I didn’t like how he keep saying HIS!!!. When you are married it’s WE. Now we do have to remember in relationships that we can’t forget ourselves but he is coming across SELFISH. As a mom we don’t get to be selfish.. And we as mother’s don’t get to walk away and be TRIED.. And cry about our crushed DREAMS… WHAT THE HECK!!!
She is so strong. I hope God continues to give you the strength. You're a great woman and mom. He's selfish. You don't get to take a break for your family. Stop helping him to make excuses. Fix it and keep moving. He's gonna start a new peaceful life and lie her to deal with everything on her own 😢
Thank you for your Honesty & Transparency! Thank You for showing the World what it actually looks like for a Married Couple to Problem-Solve and Stick Together through Life's Challenges! We Seldom get to see that These Days. May God Continue Blessing You Both Chris & Precious as Your and Your Beautiful Family Make Your Way Thru this Thing We Call Life. Peace & Blessings! ♥🙏🏾♥
Thank you both for being vulnerable and sharing your story. Being a military family and spouse is HARD but even more so when there are other outside factors such as disabilities. I pray that you all find your way and take whatever time you need away from social media to uplift your marriage and your family. Have you guys considered counseling? Its sounds like you both are in a transitory place in your lives and need a neutral, objective viewpoint as individuals and as a couple.
