Yeah, my father was married and divorced 5 times, said about 75 percent of the money he ever made in his life went to ex wives. I know it is not even worth trying to marry at this point, I've seen too much dysfunction to have a good marriage.
Marriage is great if both are INTENTIONAL in making it work by constantly finding ways to make it better. Anything short of that, the marriage will not work.
@@psplayer1344 the crux of the joke was that rich people could afford divorce…if you have $30 million and she gets half, you ain’t starvin! But you only have $30,000…
dude gave advice because he realized and had the balls to admit he built a foundation then destroyed it on his own some people use the victim card and blindly think theyre not at fault from the problem they became part of but not my man chris rock hes too mature for that
@@FistandFootMartialArtsalthough they do need punctuation, the text is comprehensible without it. No need to decipher, unless you struggle with reading.
I thought I loved her. But how can you love somebody that would stab you in the back like that? It took me 4 years to get over it. But now I'm in Thailand with a loving relationship. My new girlfriend is feminine is mostly agreeable LOL has a nice body. Is 23 years younger than me and loves me. I would not go back even if she offered me all my stuff back which is impossible. And the funny thing is is she divorced me because she said she wasn't happy and from the last time I saw her she still wasn't happy. She thought she was going to be able to scoop up a really good guy pretty quick and she's still single as far as I know. I'm pretty happy now and glad that the divorce happened. Yeah it cost me a lot of money but I would have been an unhappy relationship until I died. I prefer it this way.
Been married 15 years now and the bit about tambourine is so true. The hard part is if another band offers you lead singer, but beware the bait and switch, because you eventually end up on tambourine again.
Coach Greg Adams' "marriage wheel" is undefeated. He says this all the time, "With vvomen, the bait and switch is always in play." That changed me forever. Because I know it's true. I've been divorced after 11 years of marriage and I've been in relationships before that. VVomen always "change the parameters" after some point. And NO, men do not do this. We actually want whatever made us want to commit to her, to STAY THE SAME! It's the vvomen who flip the script. Honest psychologists will tell you this (they are a minority but they will tell you...) 95 percent of marital/relationship problems/divorces are caused (whether directly or indirectly) by VVOMEN/VVIVES! And the "bait and switch" is the culprit. Men should stay single as long as their is a family court that exists to extort the higher earning spouse (mostly men) for money, just so he can be a dad, and move on. It is an evil system, and vvomen in general are it's agents. Ladies, it's true, you know it's true so STFU trying to deny it.
I disagree. Divorced 13 years ago. Lost friends, family. The court ordered outrageous spousal support and ultimately paid 50 k per year for out of state college tuition. Lost equity in house. Drove away with an old pickup truck.
What's crazy is that a man will get divorced.....and then get married again and again and again. Look, I understand getting married the first time and getting a divorce. But once you get taken to the cleaners once, you'd think people would learn.
You're assuming the man always earns more so you're missing the obvious solution... Only marry (or remarry) within your "tax bracket". You can't lose half when your spouse earns as much as you.
He said his life was crazy. Little did he know it was about to get a whole lot crazier with a "slap heard around the world". Happy for his followed success though. Rock is a King!
He deserved that slap, he's always rude about Black women Jada, Winnie Mandela, Michelle Obama. He never speaks about the strength of the Black woman, but he's always quick to bash.
He was being blackmailed by a mistress a long time ago and his P.I. leaked some tapes of them talking. That's the realest you will ever hear him being.
Damn man, he gets it and not for just the guy or the girl but both of them. It doesn't matter how you feel or what kind of shitty day you had, at the end of it you are going back to the person you love so slap a smile on your face and treat them right, they don't have to suffer because Deborah in Accounts was a bitch. Cook for them, f*ck em, act normal and love them. Sounds like a good life.
"Sometimes you sing lead, and sometimes you're on tambourine. " I'd like to add also that sometimes you gotta play songs you don't necessarily like. And it's hard as a lead singer to sing songs that might not represent you, but the band as a whole.
That's right, don't even talk to your lover, then you become friends. That's a slippery slope. Best to arrange hookups via emojis or, preferably, smoke signals whenever possible.
I know he's doing a comedy routine, but the worst mistake you can make is not getting a divorce when one of you is unhappy in the marriage. It's worse than being dead, and you'll never get that time back again. No consequences that you suffer from getting a divorce will match what you will lose by continuing to stay in an unhappy marriage.
I'm an Uber driver and their was a large socialite wedding in my city 3 or so months ago where the passenger was detailing the features and costs of the wedding (apparently north of $150k) and all I could think of was "How fervent and complete does the narcissism have to be on someone to spend that outrageous amount of money on a one day event" - you could just about retire in SEA or travel the world for YEARS with that kind of coin... "And they had Cartier cufflinks!"
@@mark9294 I don't agree. A major factor in a successful relationship is some level of compromise. To share your life with another you both have to give a little to get a lot. There is no "perfect partner" or "perfect relationship". You also have to be honest always...
74 yrs old married guy. Chris, 3 simple rules. 1) be as kind as you can. 2)never, ever criticize your spouse, especially constructive criticism. Don't do it! This doesn't mean you can't stand up for yourself. You better stand up for yourself or she won't respect you. But you can be assertive without being demeaning to her. 3) be patient. Now alot of women want men as their beast of burden to control. These men are screwed. There is nothing that is going to please these women, because they hate themselves more than they hate you. Forgot to add, get a prenup or at least bring up the topic with her. If she says no, don't marry her. Men don't have a problem with a prenup, because most men do not marry for money. There is nothing wrong if she marrys for money as long as she is upfront about it.
@@robertjamesonmusic Getting keel-hauled through divorce court and having to start over in your 30s/40s/50s is pathetic, avoiding the issue altogether is just smart.
Do yourself a favor. If you are thinking of getting married, then talk to three (3) recently divorced men. Divorced in last 3 years. Talk to them. Learn what they went through. Then ask them one simple question --- "Was getting married worth it?" Do that before you propose to your woman.
Marriage is just like the rest of life, you only get out of it the effort YOU put into it. You gotta love that person more than yourself and if you don't love them that much, don't marry them. Mostly, you are not the prize you think that you are either. It's easy to complain about your spouse but being honest about yourself is hard. Don't believe your own hype, and remember that no one knows you better than your longtime spouse, but they love you despite you. ❤
Chris Rock is on the right track. Intimacy, communication, and trust. You have to have all three. You have to be talking, engaging, and loving... and you can't be competing, you can't get jealous of your partner, you can't get spiteful. The moment either one of you starts to feel a sense of spite or anything like that, that's when you grab them and you love them. Hug, hold, kiss, get down and dirty. It should never stop being an adventure for the two of you. Romance should never stop.
Marriage is for weak people that get easily hypnotized with love. Love is a temporary emotion, it fades in time. Love only last on your kids, your pets, some family members, your hobby, and yourself.🇺🇸👊😃
I'm not all that smart, eloquent or even qualified - but I look the best I can. I am pretty jacked and I think you are right. I make good money and opportunities seem to come to me without tons of effort. Having a nice body and taking care of the neck up too is probably more valuable than a college degree.
When she leaves you it’s upsetting and you feel like a failure. This lasts for a few months while you wonder what you did wrong and how you could have done things differently. The next phase is interest from other women which is exciting at first but then gives you a feeling that you are not worthy.. and they will figure out you are not that great. At this point depression gets worse and you feel like starting over again would be a very daunting task. Then you miss your wife and wonder how much better the next guy is. Next you stop caring what she’s doing and begin finding yourself again. Your confidence builds and are more willing to accept attention which before you thought you weren’t worthy of. The rest is up to you… you must make choices of what you now want. My advice would be this. Only get married if you are desperate for attachment. Freedom.. true freedom is staying single with options.
Everything Chris Rock has said in his comedy would happen when it comes to relationships happened. To me and everyone I know... especially when he said "Men, when you lose your job, you'll lose your girl. It won't happen immediately, BUT THE CLOCK IS TICKING". I didn't listen. Thought I was exempt because we were together for 12 yrs. Then the Great Recession happened. I haven't touched a woman since.
@@bjkarana Have relationships, sex and date all you want, cultivate hobbies, travel, make friends etc just don't get the government involved in your personal life
This resonated more than any couples counseling session I went to with my soon-to-be. Wish he helped me move our metaphorical couch more, when he didn't feel like it or wasn't feeling the greatest. So I didn't have to do it alone, no matter what.
The truth of the reality is, a lot of long term relationships struggle in the sex department because men have higher sex drives than women... on average. This is not discussed nearly enough but biologically men and women and not balanced in this regard. And women (on average) get less interested in sex as they get older and enter menopause. Relationships breaking over sex isn't anything to be surprised about.
Marriage not entered to with a strong foundation is more like a jail sentence where the guy has to go against every natural instinct of self defense against a continuing chipping away at his manhood. It’s either that or he mans up quick and quickly loses his income from a vindictive woman who planned on amassing more cash and property for much longer before he decided to check out.
I remember reading a story. And yes, was just a story. Noting real about it. But it made sense to me. Don't know to how many others it would make sense to, but it made sense to me. Two from different worlds got married. Was like magic for them both. Was so in love with each-other. But they both knew, noting is perfect. No relationship is perfect. But they both wanted to hold onto that feeling of being in love with their partner, for the duration. They never wanted to loses it. So, they made a pact. That whatever happens outside the bedroom, stayed outside the bedroom. No outside conflicts in the bedroom ever. The bedroom was for two things only. To rest, and to share their love for one-another. All else outside, didn't matter, but their love for one-another. This indeed meant sex. They both wanted it. And knew to never use it as a tool or lever to get what they wanted, or to win some argument. For to deny their partner some sex when they wanted it, meant getting denied when they wanted it themselves also. And they both have seen how such a thing can and has, destroyed many relationships. And that was not going to be them. - Chris Rock maybe a comedian. No. He is. And a good one at that. But he not joking about keeping up having sex with each-other. That be quite serious. Cheating happens when one of the two is not getting any. And it happens a lot. Even applies to women. Though less for them than for men. But many women, who are not with a man, have at times complained about how long it had been since the last time they have has sex. And even women have cheated on their man to get-some at times, even when their partner is willing to provide. Men are not alone in this. It's not just a man only thing. But, men usually cheat, when their women becomes unwilling, for a long time. Women usually cheat, due to wanting something different, not because their guy is unwilling. To help keep it together, do it together. Get the idea? You're partners for a reason. To help each-other to feel you have someone that want's you, rather than having to go out looking again, or make oneself feel OK living alone, untouched, and unwanted. What is worse? Think real hard about it. Seriously. What is worse? Doing what one can to keep a lover in your life, even during some times you may not feel like it? Or living a life, feeling alone, untouched, unwanted, and unloved, while making your partner you say you love, feel the same? O.o Is it a hard question to answer?
I cant believe anyone is dumb enough to marry...even as a kid i told my mom i never wanted to. At 39 i still stand on that...and ive seen dumb men after dumb men marrying....hell even the gays are marrying now and regretting it. If you are 27 and up and dumb enough to marry u deserve what you get cause by that point you have seen enough reasons not to do it
@@klesuo Because chances are it's going to blow up (spectacularly) in your face, regardless of how well you think you know what you're doing. Modern women are arguably the most delusional, narcissistic people in history, the courts are vehemently anti-male, it's never been easier to cheat and any/all social constraints to protect against this have been annihilated to the point it's practically encouraged. Getting married today as a man is asking to be keel-hauled from your balls by the state so a woman (that hates you) can receive a parasitic express ticket to a better life she didn't have to work for. Sign me up!
Marriage is one of the BIGGEST decisions someone can make because in many cases you are committing to someone for longer than you've been alive. In NO other aspect of our lives do we make such a commitment... not for car purchases, and not even for job offers. Honestly, it's a HUGE agreement and there is no contract or rules of engagement on how 2 "strangers" should hold together.
She stopped Licking his balls.... you don't get it.... A millionaire husband shouldn't walk around with a full sack.... FACTS and Truth.🤔.......Daily head to keep him from straying.... it's like putting cream out for a cat.... they'll never leave...... if she put you on a daily Head Schedule.... means she won, and you won.... and who's really in the drivers seat?🤔😉😅😂
If your beyond unhappy and staying just to stay, that’s just a slow death and everyone around you sees it. It’s just time you’re losing that you never get back. In my opinion unless you’re staying together cause that’s the literal only way you can avoid living with your parents, time to go.
Pfft... I don't want to get married either. NOBODY helped me get my degree, buy this house, build my retirement etc etc etc. Females (Mother included) have been a serious impediment to my life.
You don't wanna get married. If you do get married, you probably will wanna get divorced You know why divorce is so expensive for men? Because its worth it!
Don't have kids...it's not worth it for you or them! The world is going to pot, and it's not going to get better no matter what climate change scientists are publicly claiming. In the meantime, no matter how much you try to do the best for your kids, it will never be enough. The world is out of our control.
