Closure Call: Why Did He Ghost One Month Before Their Wedding?! 

I think it would benefit her to share her feelings with her new fiancé! I shared with my then boyfriend early on about my toxic and abusive relationship before him and it really helped me feel calm over the situation, and he knew that I might need extra support in dealing with things because of what I had been through. I didn't share everything with him then. but moving forward we were able to work through things in a healthy way. Communication is huge especially when things from our past comes bubbling up. 5 years together soon and we never leave things unsaid.

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She still in love with the ex. Big red flag for her new husband.

She's lucky he told her before the actual wedding date...

She is definitely hoping he will try to talk her out of marrying someone else, and she's hoping he will run back to her loving arms. Doesn't sound like he's interested.

He had another chick. 100%

She loves the first guy.. if she could be ok with not being married.. she would go back

Wow they never even had that conversation?? What a jerk to leave like that. I would worry about your own judge of character to say yes to someone who cared so little

The fact she calling her ex before the wedding,her fiance need to run she not over her ex .the fiance is the back up plan.she isnt the prize ,she need help .he needs to run

You dodged a major bullet, time to move on and let it go. Harping on it years after the fact is not healthy for you or your new relationship, but you could tell in her voice in the end of the call she’s not going to let this go

Run, dude! Run! In the meantime, reach out to her family or a friend who can help her.

If I were her, I dang sure would NOT tell the current fiancée about contacting a Radio Station for help with getting closure with an ex-fiancee. That safe time-frame has passed. Maybe needed to tell him everything when you told him there was even an ex fiancée! WTAF?!?! He literally gave the most honest and real answer, she's off the hook!! She really ought to just be happy and move happily on!

He didn't even say anything and only barely owned up. I feel bad that she thought it was her fault all this time, but it's never the ghostee's fault. He's a dick for letting it go that long, succumbing to his made up "pressure", and never owning up to it. It's natural for her to have reservations after being betrayed so horribly. Anybody that says differently is clearly misguided and doesn't know their ass from a hole in the ground. This is an honest, raw human emotion. I 100% think he had another woman on the side and it's probably stringing that one along too. She may not be marriage material, but he could have said something far before a month before the wedding. There is absolutely no excuse for what he did, and just having people tell her to let it go makes those people sound insensitive and immature.

I'm with Bert. She needs to drop this.

Does the second guy know about his upcoming nuptials? Talk about a surprise party!!

Here's a little insight. She needed to find out b/c what caused what? Might be her or him. The source might be outside of the couple's internal working, within both, or with 'out'. If it's without, the combinations become kind of more unlimited. In this case, it was internal within the couple but sourced on our one side. This is an interesting position. He wasn't ready for marriage, which he stated. He'd have to keep the vows, and have responsibility placed upon him. He couldn't even go through with the wedding let alone follow through BY it. So good. They are done. He was feeling pressured. But he wasn't READY. And ladies, this what happens when you "push" in some cases. Stop justifying why marriage is so paramount that you can't even detect his perspective b/c you're over focussed on "YOUR big day". What he did is actually a symptom of the pressure SHE put on him. And she is so oblivious that 5 years later, after aaaall the self reflection, she didn't have a clue. He's the loser?? No no, like attracts like'. If you're not seeing her part, you're not seeing bance/symmetry between the sides and that's the view we tend to miss in a "partnership". Partnerships are agreements and you can't have a meeting of the minds of the intent of the agenda differs from what apparent. Thus, a hidden agenda. So she never even told him Why the pressure was there in the first place. It's completely one-sided, but the biggest responsibility you have is to know thyself. She doesn't and this will be a crux in her life unless she learns toanage her selfishness. But if you polled the audience, how many would see what I do. And divorce is 50-80% depending on your source. WE CAN DO BETTER.

This feels icky...her new fiancé is not aware that she wants closure from her previous relationship. Two years later, this is coming up...is she being honest about this ? Is she still interested in the ex and hoping for a reconciliation before it's too late to go down the aisle with a new man ? Sorry, but I gotta go there...because all I can think of is...why ? why ? why pursue this ? And now I get to the end and her 'heart is pounding'. And she is not accepting the latest info...still wants to continue digging. She is not happy at all...

Edit for clarity. We have all done something similar for the fact that most of us do not want to hurt someone's feelings. I should have done better.

Making a man in your present pay for stuff in your past equals no future

Waste of time

If she's in love going to marry another guy why the*** does it matter if i was the soon be husband id be walking. She's already doing things behind his back.