Overcoming the Betrayal of an Affair -- Rick & Tiffany Bulman 

Not much credit given to the husband i think the brave one here is Him . being vunable and willing to share such a painful experience in his marriage over and over again. U can hear in his voice theres still that healing journey . that season of recovering . 3 years later for me and im still not okay . trusting Gods timing and moment of true healing . thank you for your humbleness . forgiveness and sharing your story over and over again 🥰

Anytime there is secrecy and dishonesty in any area of marriage, that is a form of unfaithfulness, even if there is not actually an affair. And betrayal can take years to recover from, especially if a spouse is not repentant. Thank you for being vulnerable and willing to share your journey.

Almost 2yrs in, I’m the betrayed. Never, ever, ever trust a friend. Remember this, be sure your sin will find you out!

Very frustrating that she is the one who cheated and she is getting clout about being brave. The sense I get is that they set up a REASON for her to cheat instead of holding her accountable. They even said the other man was predatory. Too many excuses for the cheater and not enough encouragement for the Husband who endured all this betrayal

She talked about hurting her kids and herself but she didn’t once say how badly she hurt her husband!! Holy moley! Where has the empathy gone? My wife cheated on me in a long term affair and it took time for her to gain empathy but I never ever want to see that empathy disappear! If this woman had remorse and empathy she would always be present to step in front of her husband and carry the brunt of the hurt she has caused to her husband and never think twice about it.

“You provide the heart - *I’ll* provide the miracle.” ✨✋😭🤚✨

Thank-you Father for this dear couple and their children. I pray Your love, favour and blessings rest upon them always.

Super heros don't always wear capes, the real ones wear Jesus 🔥♥️

Listen to me, this video annoying me. Her cheating is not because he left gaps. He is not responsible for her cheating.

Cheating on your husband or wife is about as low as you can go.

Any relationship leaves gaps. You shouldn't be looking to close those gaps with an affair. I'm sure the husband also does not have 100% of his needs met.n

Reminds me of Hosea. A picture of God’s unfathomable mercy.

Proof that nice guys get chumped.

Someone said she acted like she wasn't accountable. Actually she did ask for forgiveness for her adultery. Listen to the whole broadcast.

The level of Tiffany's accountability is almost nonexistent. That's gratitude for you. A husband doing what HE SHOULD. The children, her "female friend", anyone else in this self serving spirituality dark crime was an after thought.... UNTIL DISCOVERED. Good grief.

Props to both of them for their transparency This takes a lot of courage. Godspeed and a prosperous marriage to both of them

About 1,000 women are watching this saying, “I’ll marry this guy”.

thank you Jesus for healing, thank you both for sharing your most painful time with us allowing others to see there is hope in trusting our Lord with ALL things!!! He is faithful even when we are not.

This is beautiful!!

Enlightening testimony…The shame and pain is still visible on the wife’s face and demeanour though 🙏🏾

She got caught. She might never have told him. She is evil.

Both of them needed forgiveness. Blaming should never be considered. Both made choices. Praise God for his amazing Mercy and Grace! As Believers we should recognize such impossible & Supernatural forgiveness of this husband.

I’m curious about what helped the husband let go of the emotional pain. How do you forgive your spouse for falling in love with someone else? And how do you trust that it’s over? I’ve ordered the book.

POOR GIRL felt like she NEEDED to cheat on her husband while he provided and worked so hard for his family. SMH!!! This woman is a joke

This is hard to hear . The husband should of been asked more questions. My husband had the affair and he isn’t remorseful and wants to have me just forget . It needs to be talked about how the other person heals through this process

Please take a moment and pray for Jeff and Shay to be reconciled in marriage. Thank you.

Y'all really painted her out to be a victim. Calling the other man a predator 🤦🏿‍♀️ She made choices .

The affair lasted for 3 years…“We get it”? No we do not get it. That’s not ok…as soon as you say “I do” you’re agreeing to protect and uphold your marriage…even if your spouse is dropping the ball. I’m also confused as to how it took the other wife 3 years to notice her husband was having an affair? Idk there are so many questions

Rick i the brave one to keep on reliving this experience

The scary thing was the preacher never questioned about this other man being so involved in their lives even though he lived two hours away. Doug Stoliker.

Tiffany is brave? The cheater? Not the husband who accepted her back? Focus on the Cheater.

I think saying her husband left gaps is very me-centred . Better perhaps to have filled those gaps in loving her husband and children more. The real heroines are the women who stay faithful to their husbands

Very curious about the other couple's outcome. Wonderful that this couple is working on this (and writing a book with royalties coming in) - is the other couple just collateral damage ?

Truly a tremendous testimony of the power of a Christ centred marriage! Our purpose in life always seems to be born out of our pain. What was the outcome for the other family involved?

Going through this now.. Pray for me.. 😭

@focusonthefamily im in South Africa. How does one go.about donating? Would love a copy of that book😢

I can relate him my husband cheated on me but i never thought of betrayel too.

God can work out all kinds of situations. Please pray He would work out a few of mine

Accountability is to women what a crucifix is to a vampire.

People who cheat deserve one thing, to be left.

I want to know what happen to the other couple?

3 years is a choice.

Does anyone know if they are still together?

Wait a minute, did I hear that she’s a senior pastor?😅

Poor guy. She’s not brave

Listen to the whole broadcast people before you judge the beginning part of the story.

People err. Jesus redeems.

Wonder what the outcome/story was/is of the other couple.

This video truly angers me. Then saying she’s so brave for reliving this experience … what????? WHAT!????? Who is brave is the husband and I feel pity for him. He’s married to TRASH. I hope she reads the truth. She’s sick. She’s garbage. Sorry he had to suffer because of her

The husband is an elite hero. Christ like. Wife made a wise decision to repent after all...Church like. Yall are blessed Lampposts shining the LIGHT. The devil put to shame. All praise to Jesus our God and Savior!!!

YAHWEH is GREAT and His Grace is greater than all our sins. Love is crucial to and for a messed up person.

Should I tell my 13 year old daughter that wife left for another man or do I just don't say anything

The husband has a Godly spirit ❤

Kind of funny how the ones who commit adultery are put on the pedestal...Like King David....And the victim is the one who bears the weight of forgiveness.........I still don't buy it....Love how they call her brave....Didn't bother her to have the affair.

3 years????

She's the brave one ???? What in the world ? 😵‍💫

I would reject this mother ,yakk

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Wha you mean she is so brave, what about the husband. Stupse.

Everyone: be nice. We are not here to judge. Let the one that is sinless cast the first stone.. John 8

At no time does Rick take ownership for his behaviour. He needs to own his actions....or lack thereof!

Why do people have to comment on this

The little foxes is what spoils the vine

4:54 This matches the pattern I’ve seen on a lot of these shows where they are “brave” enough to put a cheating wife on set. They let everyone know how much the man had done wrong. How many “gaps” he had left even though he was probably trying to sacrifice for his family, though perhaps not perfectly. Very little serious accountability for the wife. And these types of shows are often promoting cross-gender peer friendships where this sort of thing happens. The fruit of the softening of the Christian man is becoming far too apparent now. This guy here should have refused to allow the man over to begin with. And the wife would likely have acted like the victim and she was being controlled and the show hosts would likely have agreed with her. This is a reminder that cross-gender “friendships” in the church with alone time is a very bad idea. The church cranks out mild, polite, guys like this and they rarely get respect. She literally calls her affair partner a “gentleman” in this interview and gave him the pseudonym “Chad” in their book. You can’t make this stuff up!

The devil is very clever . 3 year affair man... husband is very forgiving most relationships wouldn't survive this. Obviously, there were bigger issues here in her life prior to the marriage.

I agree with most of the comments. She is the evil one. She is NOT brave to speak about this betrayal they're doing it to sell a book otherwise they would not be in a podcast to publicly speak about this.

This woman is bad news.

MOB

She is brave because it takes courage to talk about a shameful experience in public. People prefer to wear masks and play happy families in public than expose their shame or pain.

why does the cheating wife always get the acclaim, attention and praise????? She betrayed her husband and family and all this video does is make it the husband's fault. Entitled women think they can say "sorry" and all is forgiven. Every time this video plays you take another piece of of your family and husband. You are still betraying them. Shame on you.

The husband needs to get all those kids DNA tested.

Once again, a woman cheats and the fault lies with the needs the husband didn't meet and the "predatory" boyfriend she was having relations with. I have yet to see a christian source address this situation in a fair or balanced way that holds women accountable for their adultery.

I would have dumped her, not worthy of my love anyway you see it.

Better to settle it privately as mature adults Without involving others!

It would be nice to hear the guest speak, feels like constant interruption 😀👍🏻

The coddling of Focus on the Family of the betrayer is disgusting. Twisted and abusive this panel is.

Let’s see. She cheated, but it was not really her fault. Husband is suffering. She makes me sick. I would be out of this marriage.

The difference in the woman at the well and this pastor’s wife is that one didn’t know Jesus in her sin, but one supposedly did. This stuff is garbage. As a Christian , we are to “go and Sin no more “

You experienced all the pan, her regret is minimal and superficial, she is just sorry she got caught. For sake of yourself and children divorce her and cut out of your life.

I am sorry, but she is making you a fool. She will cheat on you again. You cheating wife expects a free past, without consequences.

A 3 year affair🤦‍♂️ thats not a mistake, thats not the "enemy" thats a choice to be an awful human being! Maybe Rick is into the cuckold fantasy😂 Also her friends husband! Trashhhh!