COME DRIVE WITH ME Q&A: Moving house, Wedding, Kids + Travel plans! ♡ SOCIAL MEDIA Instagram: misslauragm Home account: lauramitchellhome Tiktok: misslauragm
Omg can we just all agree on the pressure of a woman to have a family, get married etc. very rarely do you see people quite happily live their life with no interest in children. It needs to be more normalised
Laura, you do you! I was a primary school teacher and know what you mean!! I have never had children and have never regretted it, it is not for everyone. I have travelled the world and have had some amazing travels which was what I really wanted out of life. Good luck with whatever you decide. It is your life, nobody elses.
Love your honesty Laura, especially about kids. Theres so much pressure to have kids now a days but just to make your decision harder i will say my husband and i had our son and it was the best decision of our lives. We are a little team and he has made motherhood easy for me (having one is a joy) Also dont feel rushed to have them, women are having kids later in life now. Whatever is meant to be, will be ❤
Ahh thanks so much for this! There really is SO much pressure and for people like myself that really aren't sure - it's just so hard to navigate! But like you say whatever is meant to be will be! x
I'm 37 this year and I cannot think of anything worse than having children. I like my freedom too much! I'm also career driven and a child would change that. It's not a sacrifice I'm willing to make!
@LauraMeachem definitely something you have to sit yourself down and think about. I had to tell my mum off the other day because she keeps bringing it up. It's never happening for me! I also like my sleep too much 🤣
Omg I just love you even more, thank you for opening up! I feel exactly the same about kids, I’m 31 and I don’t want to have kids. I just wanna travel and enjoy life because life is too short. My dad passed away this year at 55, and it just made me look at life differently. Life is about just doing what makes you happy. Anyways, love your content Laura, you are my favourite RU-vidr! ❤️❤️
Can't wait for your new house as we have just moved into a new build. This is an exciting chapter for you, and I'm sure you will put your own stamp on it and may give me inspiration as it is a blank canvas. Shall I be honest regarding the flooring? Whatever you have will be what is meant to be. I really wanted the lined doors and couldn't as not in the options, but to be honest the doors I have now work better with the style of flooring. Hopefully, time with parents for a short while will be good as we had same situation and the kids enjoyed it and I felt like a kid being pampered by parents too which was good restful time with no stress before move day. Your families will love it like mine. They didn't want the time to end and now moved are lost bless them. Morale of the story ... bless our families who support all their children's chapters. The question about children that you have been asked I am proud of how you answered this. Not sure why we have all this pressure? There is no timeline and go with the flow.
I can tell you from my experience I never wanted kids for the same reason as you the thought of having to take care of another human. I have two boys my first was at 32 n my second was 38 and is it hard absolutely it really is so so hard but the love the love you grow for your kids is unexplainable. For kids I think you need to just let life happen at least that’s what I did I found the most amazing partner who’s so supportive and respectful I said this world deserves to have another human like him and just went with it. I’m from Miami he is from Bristol. Something about a well mannered Brit has my heart
Massive fan of yours, we are so similar it’s ridiculous. Went through exactly the same last year in terms of moving back to parents whilst we waited for our new build to be ready, it was so worth it - there was no way we was letting our sale fall through. Exactly the same in terms of wanting and not wanting kids. I’m 34 now and still don’t know the answer. You’ve just got to go with the flow and what feels right for you both ❤❤❤❤❤
I was also like you about wanting kids…like I like them for a bit but the thought of having one with me constantly gave me anxiety lol….I used to put the question off when my husband would ask me when I would be ready (truth is you can never really be ready). I ended up getting pregnant (I hated being pregnant although a lot of women love it) but I loved my labour experience. The first few months is hard adjusting to interrupted sleep etc but as soon as my baby started showing her own personality (defo a mix of me and my husband) it made it so much easier…dont get me wrong its hard and it will be the most selfless thing you’ll ever do but its also so worth it in the long run…
love this catch up!!! I feel the same way about kids too since I've gotten older I like my little life and I don't mind not having kids, just telling myself this has taken so much stress off me.
My wedding trip was 3 weeks. Philippines, Bali where i got married and then Malaysia. We spent a week in Bali. Things to do depending on where you stay. We chilled as alot of the things on offer we had done before and the rest of the trip was busy. Keep being you, as long as you both want the same thing then there is no order to do things. ❤
Hi laura i was 31 when i almost died in an endometriosis op and my chance of having kids was taken away from me, I'm now 53 and it ruined my life n still not over it, you do what you want but make sure it's definitely the right decision that you won't regret one day ❤
My mum’s best friend Jackie never wanted kids. Never wanted to get married. And she never has. She’s an only child so she has no nieces or nephews. But she’s been a constant in our lives and is a key member of our family. We are as close to her as we are to our mum. So she still has a similar connection with us and you do with your mum. If you decide that kids aren’t for you, that’s not to say you won’t have kids in your life. Your relationship with your niece could give you that connection you want without having your own children. Never feel like you have to explain your decision on having kids. Our parents stopped asking us about kids when we were married for about 5 years. They didn’t know we were actually having fertility issues and they just assumed that we decided not to have any and accepted that. We finally had a girl last year after IVF and 11 years of marriage, and we are in late 30s/early 40s. We just knew we wanted to be parents and it just took a while and science to get us there. But I also have friends who have no desire to have children and they’re open about it and we all accept it. It’s yours and Mitchell’s decision and you’ve got to do what’s right for you
@@LauraMeachem that’s insane!!! 3 weeks at home with parents will have to do. We were supposed to live with my in laws for 2 weeks while waiting for our work visas to move to the US. We hit a snag and were stuck there for 4 months!! It was an embassy issue. Just very unfortunate timing. But we managed it. All our house was packed up on a pallet ready to be shipped and just stood in storage until we finally got our visas. You’ll be fine. It’s never ideal as you just feel like you’re imposing on someone else’s space, even though it’s your own parents. It just feels weird when you’ve lived in your own home for so long. It’ll be worth it in the end
Thank you for being so open about kids. Because truly, it is not in me at all. No interest, the thought of pregnancy and never escaping that child. And definitely school experience can be horrific
Does Mitchel want kids? Maybe adopt a six year old or older? A lot of older kids get left in the system because everyone wants a baby. Food for thought 🤔
He’s exactly the same as me - currently no! 😅 … See I know 100% adopting just wouldn’t be for me. I feel like as someone that isn’t overly maternal anyway to then adopt and raise a child from the age of 6 - I just know that would not be for me but honestly hats off to people that adopt and give children loving homes because it’s so sad for all those poor children that like you say are left behind in the system! X
Slow down your talking… Your car dash board behind your sterling wheel is dusty as heck! Car needs clean out!!!! You’re lucky you have the option to stay with one’s parents! Most people don’t even have a roof over their head and you’re complaining!! Sad!! Be more grateful!!!
Wow wow wow….first of all it’s a little dust, it’s not that deep so stop being so rude 😫Secondly, you are taking that comment WAY out of context. I was not complaining or being ungrateful - I love my mum and dad and so grateful to have somewhere to stay - just merely saying it’s going to be difficult going to my mums to work for 3 weeks as there won’t be much room - also with my two cats as she currently has two cats etc. To be honest don’t even need to justify myself to you because you very clearly do not know me to think that. Please remove yourself from my channel 🥰