Loved the video Calum, there was such a happy twinkle in your eye as you told the story. I got a chuckle out of your term "dramatic teenager." On this side of the pond we call them "drama queens." Lol.
@@CalumMcSwiggan hi my name is chetan from England I really found your coming out video amazing 🤩 how very brave to come out to your family and friends and your parents guess what I am gay too I came out two years ago it was horrible and very nasty 🤢 I can certainly share my story with you if interested nice to meet you do have any gay friends I am extremely very very ticklish from head to toe aspeasily on my barefeet I love being tickled and I enjoy it are you very ticklish and if so where abouts
A video like this is equally as important as the more dramatic or sad coming out stories. Because it can provide some hope and optimism for someone who's struggling to find the courage to come out. So I'm really happy that you decided to make this video after all! It's funny, my mom reacted quite similarly to yours when I came out. It's taken me a long time to really figure out my sexuality. I've been through times when I identified as a lesbian. Then later on realizing I was bisexual. And only this year I've come to understand (and know it fully in my heart) that I'm pansexual. But when I was younger and told my mom I was a lesbian her first reaction was to get scared that I would be the victim of prejudice and harassment. She fully accepted me but she was scared of how others would feel towards me.
I can so relate... back in the day (in the early 1990's) , when I began my performing arts course in North Wales, I had a major crush on this one guy who was openly gay, but very masculine, and outrageously handsome. He was the complete opposite of all the stereotypical gays who were on British TV that I had seen growing up. He inspired me to become the person I am now, to simply be myself, and in the intervening years I have thanked him for all that he inspired me to become ! I will always be thankful to him, for helping me realize who I could be ! #ThankYouCorey x
So glad you shared your coming out story Calum. You have the most awesome and supportive parents ever! Thank you for your thoughtful advice and tips. So proud of you. Keep on inspiring us Calum..Love ya♥
So nice to hear a coming out story that wasn't a big deal. It's really as it should be. My teenager and I were having a conversion one day and somehow it came out that they are agender. But it was just part of a normal conversion and not a coming out as such. While I know coming out stories are important, I hope one day they aren't necessary and that no-one cares which sex/gender everyone loves.
I came out my sophomore year of high school. I really did not have it that hard either. My mom told me she had to get use to it. My Dad accepted me from the start. My mom has now come completely to terms with it and has never stopped loving me. I am so happy to be me and am engaged to a great guy of now almost 4 years!
Johnny, I'm not sure what your psychological problem is, but having counseled over 7000 young people, I can assure you that you have one. You have some serious trust and anger issues. Don't attack in others what you fear in yourself. Good luck to you bro........Ray
no , you get me wrong . I'm not gay . but I think gay people are strong . and whenever I watch these video I think what would happen if I'm gay ??"" but I'm not gay I'm sorry for making you confused
the closet is a hell hole, I would not wish it on my worst enemy coming out may be strong, but its what you get after being tempered in the fires of hell
I have not had a very nice reaction by my mom after my coming out but today she is a very important support for me and my girlfriend. I am bisexual so she didn't immediately understand why I couldn't love a guy like all the other girls .. Also, I think that the worst is to come out to terms with who we really are ourselves and accept it before exposing us to other people supportive or not. It's a tough thing to me but an essential purpose.
I came out when I was 14 to my mum and dad, and they were both so supportive and love me just as much today. There are still certain people who do not know yet in my family, but I am happy to now be living as an openly gay male. Thank you for your channel Calum
hi Callum that was a really nice story it's nice to see you happy I am so proud of you it was a beautiful story you told us it sounds like your parents were amazing people and were behind you 100% that is really beautiful to see parents behind their kids like that congratulations on this video well done mate
Calum I just read about my favorite gay youtube star faking a hate crime ? As you Brits would say " I'm GoB Smacked " I was blown away that any one would do such a thing ? But i am here to tell you and those others reading this that there is not a one of us that has not done some thing stupid in our lives ! You are my favorite and always will be my favorite so keep a stiff upper lip and keep making videos please !!! You are dear to my heart !!! " Love Always Keith " !!!!!!
Thanks for the support Keith but that's actually not true. There was more than enough evidence to show that I was attacked and the charge against me was dropped. I was instead charged with vandalism for damaging the car of the person who attacked me. I've accepted this and paid for the damages. x
You hear it so oft that parents say things out of love and protection and one of them is that they worry when you're different than the rest... I guess many gay ppl have the same experience as you had. I hope one day we won't label persons as gay, bi, straight, lesbian or transgender or drag for we should accept and respect eachother world wide for who you are as a person.
I always felt really lucky to have the most accepting and supportive family. I was terrified to come out but I at least knew my parents would be cool with it.
I came out and partnered with my husband 42 years ago and we are still together. It was a little more strained then your experience at one point my dad told me he no longer had a son, but that only lasted a couple of days before he thought about it and realized he really did have a son.
It was about time you make another video and this videos. About your coming out - save for the Messenger and blocking your mom - it was so uneventful that speaks volumes of how your parents are cool and awesome. You're right that there was no drama, in that sense I suffer more anguish for you when you told your porn experience and how it was a real difficult experience for you and still bear that weight
i never officially came out to any of my family and only told my friends by hinting until they figured it out and they except me for who i am, my point is that u almost always see people tell sad stories or ones that don't end entirely happily and i always watched them and assumed it would be hard to come out and i was terrified but i have always believed i cant change it and i have embraced it, if people don't accept me that's fine, i wont try to convince them, i respect there opinions even when there wrong. the point is so many negative things are told in these sorts of videos and it is easy to falsely assume it will be the same but it almost never is the same as another's experience and if u believe it wont cause harm (your safe to do so) then just embrace the S### out of it because it wont change and is as much a part of u as a person as your personality or even your memories.
I love your videos. Especially this one. I came out to my dad last year and he said he loves me no matter what and he don't care about who I am in love with. All he wants is that I'm happy.
Good to hear your coming out story. I had it easy when I came out too thanks to my supportive family and friends (many of which knew that I was gay from the start). It was just the matter of when as I have two other friends who are gay too. We should do our bit to share our coming out stories to help and inspire others like the ones I heard from other RU-vidrs which made me into them as LGBTQ+ RU-vidrs including yourself. :)
I honestly feel like you know me better than most people on this little planet. I watch the short film back on a regular basis. It's a wonderful gift that I'm so grateful for. x
I must say the story is interesting Calum. What was funny when when the you screamed into the phone and hung it up. I do like the fact you told your story and noted everyone's story is different. I do not full understand why your parents did not allow sleepovers or friends to come over to the home.
start with your best friend and make sure, you have him/her on your side. i did it this way and then i told my family. luckily it went very well for me - i'm really glad to have such an open minded family and great friends. as calum said - it doesnt always have to be a drama... good luck and best from vienna! ps: i was sooooo scared, too. but afterwards you will feel really proud and strong!
My parents lived overseas when I came out too! They would come back and visit every so often and ask my siblings, who knew some time before they did! I told mum, and then my brother told dad - which also made it a lot easier but I so wish I had done it instead. I've also had the most amazing experience with coming out. If you also want some other advice - check out my story on my channel. I watched a lot of videos for years and found guidance and acceptance in them!
calum, i really admire you for your channel. i really enjoy your videos. i've only discovered your channel three months ago, but hearing your coming out story really makes me feel like i got to know you a little bit better. :D also, i think there can't be enough positive stories on RU-vid. i'm very happy that my coming out also went as smooth as you could wish for. i probably should also make a video about it. for now it's only on my tumblr.
I never came out to anyone until I was 26, just several years ago, because I was sort of uncomfortable with the thing, mostly because I had a rather wrong impression of gay culture. Nothing at all has changed, though I still can't come out to my 5 older brothers, because if they found out, they would not come visit my parents and I for holidays. They are all very masculine and homophobic.
the video is amazing :) I feel that not only chosen lucky ones get accepted and have an "easy" coming out time but many do, and realize that all/most of their fears did not come true... :@)
I came out to some of my friends online and they were pretty chill about it. I'm waiting until I move out to tell my family. Idk if they'll support me or not.
I just love that the set up is that coming out wasn't dramatic for you, and that would've been true, if 16 year old Calum hadn't been a dramatic little shit. It's hilarious. I'm glad that the only drama in the story came from teenage emotions though, it's so refreshing. "He's not just gay, he's *super* gay." xD
i found out i was gay when i had to kiss my best friend in dares.... she backed off after a few seconds but i kept going 😬 either way we are still best friends to this day after 4 years but she kinda helped me figure it out too, now we laugh and joke about it
I've come out to several of my friends. they were all over text so it wasn't too hard. I'm trying to move past that, so on Wednesday (because she has Rosh Hashanah on Monday and Tuesday) I'm coming out to her. she's not deaf, but I'm going to come out to here in sign language; a step up from texting.
What school did you attend from 16 years old? Boarding, I presume, with lots of gay students? You must have been very lucky indeed in choosing that particular school!
Very nice story and coming out experience... How your brother took your coming out? That will be another interesting video. Mine do not take it very well, but we love each other a lot, and time heals... Messenger, wow I missed that...
🤔I really feel like once you've hear 3 or 4 coming out stories all the rest start to sound the same. Yeah I know everyone's story is different but still.
Calum I am so pleased that it was miss reported and again it proves how the media will take the snippet of the truth and create a monstrous story . you should make a video with your side of the truth ! like I said you are my favorite and always will be ! I am just an old Queen who you make laugh and think ! If your ever in the Washington state area please let me know i would be honored to meet you !?!?! Thanks again for the laughs Your most Rabid fan Keith
I'm going back for being so mean to me I will be so happy to see me I have no money to pay you so very good to hear sounds great thanks again for your support of our house so we can talk more when I get home I will send you so much. I'm sorry to hear that you are no feeling hard time finding a place to stay in touch for sure I love you too
I'm so grateful to have a similarly positive experience. Thinking about how smooth my coming out experience was makes me think about all the people it's not as easy for 😕
If your parents were worrying about you so much, why did they move to Spain and leave you in the UK? I don't know your family situation etc. but I think it's not the best parenting when you leave your 16 year old kid behind.
Jacob Kroon It's pretty normal in the UK to take care of yourself from 16 onwards as that's when you can work and when you're considered an adult. My parents have always been wonderfully supportive of me, encouraging me to stand on my own two feet does not make them bad parents, in fact I would argue it makes them amazing parents. They did of course give me and my older brother the opportunity to move to Spain with them if we wanted, but we both wanted to stay behind x
