Confidence SECRETS That Will Make You Attractive AF 

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Why am I confident : because I’m me and I’m content with how and who I am

The first few moments of this video stood out to me because I genuinely thought that in order to be more confident in myself, I had to be better first. So I would watch all these vids on other people's personalities and speaking styles to 'better' myself, and I felt like I had to earn something before I can become confident. I just want to take a moment to say that I really appreciate you and your vids, Julien.

I suffer from some extreme social anxiety. Hats off to that man over there, he is so braveee!!!!…I remember being obnoxiously loud, talkative and having lots of friends to hang out w/. But over the years I stopped mixing with people, even going out on a daily basis is a struggle. There are times I completely isolate myself and stay confined to the walls of my room. I guess I have become a hikikomori. It takes up a lot of courage to go outside. My social anxiety is so bad that I’m even anxious around my close friends. It has affected me a lot. I never type a comment, cuz like my mind keeps on telling me that everyone hates me…I just recently found out about this channel. And I’m so grateful that I did. I’m really looking forward to be myself again. Thank you julien so much, you are doing a great service to people who are struggling. Your vids are awesome ❤ keep it up…!!!

Enhancing yourself for others is extremely draining. 😅 I'm really glad I'm over this finally. ❤❤❤

🎯 Key points for quick navigation: 00:00 *🤔 Confidence is not about enhancing yourself but about being who you truly are.* - The misconception of spiking confidence by portraying oneself as something they are not. - Using communication skills to distract from authenticity rather than highlighting it. - The importance of being genuine and confident in oneself without needing external validations. 02:29 *💡 Self-confidence should stem from within, not external validations or achievements.* - Highlighting who you truly are rather than camouflaging with gimmicks. - Comparing oneself to adding sauce to a cheap piece of meat versus letting the quality shine. - Genuine confidence comes from accepting and owning oneself without needing external justifications. 05:37 *🚀 True self-worth comes from accepting and acknowledging oneself as being inherently good.* - The importance of recognizing that self-worth does not require external justifications. - Letting go of the need for approval from others to feel good about oneself. - Embracing the idea that self-love is about removing self-hate, not performing external acts of affirmation. 22:21 *🎭 Non-verbal Communication Exercise* - Practicing facial expressions can help improve non-verbal communication skills - Using a mirror to gauge the range of facial expressions can be beneficial 24:07 *🎤 Importance of Tonality in Communication* - Facial expressions, tonality, and intention play a crucial role in effective communication - Exaggerating facial expressions and exploring different tonalities can enhance communication skills 25:46 *💬 Elements of Effective Communication* - High self-esteem, clear intentions, tonality, and non-verbal cues contribute to effective communication - Focusing on offering value and positive vibes can enhance communication skills

"You have changed a lot over the years. In older videos, it felt like you were giving tips from self-help books. But now, these are tips that maybe no one has ever thought of 😅."

Hey Julien, Do you ever feel bad that not enough people appreciate or recognize the great work you are doing and value what you are giving. Or just appreciate your confident.

Wow, this Video is soooo helpful! I'm suffering 20 years because of social anxiety and a really low selfworth. After this Video i have a complete new sight about me and others. I'm feeling enough again. And i am aware, that others are enough too. I love it! ❤

Came across on your "The #1 CONFIDENT HACK" video last night. After 4 other videos, now I can express myself more comfortable and faster than many Ted Talks about being confident. Seems like I learn from you is more effective. Thank you so much!

Thank you for spreading.. you own wonderful jam on the internet. The fist time i saw one of you clips i thought 'oh I love this dude, he just is' I hope you influence help more people just be themselves

00:00 🚀 Confidence isn't about adding more; it's about removing distractions. 00:18 🎭 Instead of trying to be "better," focus on being authentic to yourself. 01:13 🎯 Trying to boost confidence with tricks can lead to presenting a false self. 02:41 🛡️ Genuine confidence comes from highlighting who you truly are, not masking it. 04:32 🌟 Real confidence doesn't need external validations or achievements to feel worthy. 06:09 🌱 You are inherently good enough just by being yourself. 08:30 🔄 Letting go of societal expectations and self-imposed requirements is key to self-acceptance. 10:06 🌍 The goal isn't to change yourself into someone ideal; it's accepting and embracing who you are. 12:01 💡 Validate yourself internally rather than seeking external validation for self-worth. 14:00 🚫 External validation won't fulfill you; true self-acceptance comes from within. 16:29 🔍 Self-love isn't about doing affirmations; it's about releasing self-hate and accepting your inherent worth. 18:06 🗣 Effective communication is more about how you feel about yourself than what you say.

I‘m from Germany and I‘m obsessed with your Videos!

Once you’re tired of learning, and learning more, and even more about yourself/issues/etc - and you find yourself in that spot built up and almost erupting with frustration between “oh, no but what if” and “f*^# this I need this done for own wellness” - Julien is the one that nudges you over that difficult tipping point ❤🎉 You can feel uncomfortable and still act on it. You’ve got this 💪

This guy is great. Total opposite of everyone else preaching self improvement everywhere

I have decided to be happy! It’s my choice to do so! Moving forward I try hard to be positive even when the skies are gray., but when I’m not myself… I remember I! I am the only one in charge of my emotions , my reactions, n my love.

Oh, my God... This was a beautiful video. The parts where Julien asks everyone why they're good enough... Wow. Just wow. That's hitting me so fucking hard right now lol... Thank you posting, thank you for being here.

I lived a lifetime of masking…what if I don’t even know myself at the moment?

Thank you!❤ I needed that “this is the ideal” view🙏🏼

Julien your the best man change my life greatly appreciate you

Julien, I know you’re probably tired of my comments but fuck it, here’s another one 🤣 I’ve been studying this stuff like crazy and implementing for long amounts every day. Every day I get better and better. Just wanted to share something that I think is the real thing going on you may find interesting- After doing much deeper releases where it’s a lot more uncomfortable, I noticed the problem and what’s really going on became very obvious. It literally is that when you were a kid, you acted in certain ways which were authentic to “you” and deep down you are terrified NOT of the emotions like you said, but of the consequences of doing the thing due to the emotion not being fully processed. It’s like you almost get transported back to that child who did something wrong for a sec when you feel that stab, and you’re almost terrified that in doing it you’ll experience the same emotion and hate again . In my experience I’ve found this to be true, and that’s how we’ve in essence “disowned” parts of ourselves. This is why it’s so important to tell yourself and authentically mean “it’s okay to be you” because the whole reason it happened is because you are afraid to be you. It really clicked for me and hope this helps, I hope you can let it land and see if it’s authentic to you as well.

Generational Trauma, Chrisitian (mindset) Teachers and school bullying have really destroyed my sense of self and confidence and made me extremely sensitive and demotivated. I can't do anything thanks to Anxiety ADHD further stimulated by toxic relationship. Now I only prioritize on setting boundaries and what videos like yours. This feeling won't go but you can out live it. Thank you

This is one of the most valuable lessons I’ve ever had the privilege to be apart of

“Let this land” is gold 😄

Yes me too was chasing money, confidence and validation, all I wanted to be was to be myself, to be comfortable being myself and not give a fuck whether it is a group (sometimes can be intimidating) or induvijual. I never ever felt so good. Once more Thank you.

That part about making myself the goal of everyone else to aspire to was awesome. If everyone wants to be like me then it all of a sudden becomes ok for me to have my challenges (anxiety, depression, etc). Well it actually reminded me of the couple of days right before I get my period. I start getting down in the dumps, super emotional to where I feel like I’m losing my damn mind. Then my period starts and it explains away everything and I feel like oh that was just a natural part of the process. Everything’s fine! And I am soooo relieved haha!

I absolutely love your authenticity. But seriously, you made me relate myself to the sun. When does the sun shine the brightest? When the clouds are removed. Those clouds are different for everyone, whether it is self-deprivation, unattended trauma, harmful vices, etc. When those are removed, you shine bright without the validation of anyone or without the permission of anyone. The sun suns and people peoples. You are you. Embrace it. But of course there’s nothing wrong with a few clouds or storms, as long as you are okay with them. Haha Thank you, Julien!

Hi Julian i just came across your channel..... it makes so much sense that I wasn't like that aka "introvert" when I was a child. It was true traumatic events and social conditioning that I developed a "PERFECTIONIST" PERSONA THAT I WORE FOR 15 YEARS FUCK THAT SHIT!!!!!!!!!!! I tried removing and letting go my ego and performing reps I HAVE NEVER FELT FREE IN A LONG TIME.... But the thing is it's so hard to be myself in a WORK SETTING..... HALP

I am, what I am, what I am and I am good enough. Follow your excitement. Your joy. You will feel good. You won’t care about others opinions, or perceived opinions. You will find, all along, it was always, and only your opinion that truly mattered.

this makes me think of a child hood scenario, what if you feel like you cant be yourself around other people, and so you go and find people that allow you to be that self you feel you are on the inside, and then one day, someone you respect, [parent, sibling, past friend] comes along and says, "this isn't you, common, stop it with this cringe shit and get a grip!"

Hey Julien, at around 1:50 I love the point you are making that people pump themselves up and try to put up a high vibe all the time (could be a happy smiley face all that time) and that's scamming. But at the same time, I remember in some other video that nobody wants to be around someone boring and monotonous and that makes sense as well and so you should be able to bring up that charisma even when you're in your head. This seems a little contradictory because both seem correct. One thing says: Take up more space and share joy and happiness and bring up the vibe, be loud and charismatic! The other one says: Nothing is ever worth compromising your authenticity so if you're feeling anxious, you shouldn't scam people by being superficially charismatic and high energy. What paradigm should I consider whether both holds true and the contradiction breaks?

Oh Julien, thank you so much 💜💛✨💫💜💛✨😍 You are my hero 😊❤️

Julien has always been the goat. So happy to have seen his evolution

Thank you Julien! So grateful to have found you today :)

Out of all the self help videos, Julien has the best❤. He really knows how to make a person feel more confident in himself of herself. I mean hats off to this guy

Julien, Thanks for the great work you're doing, you can't imagine the positive influence you made on my life Literally i'm remembering all your words and following your advices through my daily life however sometimes it's really difficult to maintain the same energy especially with rejections or when approching a wrong person but i feel great afterall

Very astute to see the strongest self as the authentic development rather than one chasing external things. A better you is you proper, where you'll find a desire to love authentically that will change what needs to be changed from who you are, for who you are, with what you know should be, and of course, not changing what shouldn't be.

Self-affirmations are like falling asleep, you have to do it without force, or else it has the opposite effect. By the way, I think it's alright to hide parts of yourself if it's for other peoples sake. Insecurity is basically when you refuse to take all your pain on yourself - and make it everyones elses problem by constantly signaling your needs, which is actually a kind of begging or manipulation

I've only recently come across this channel and so far it is awesome. As a side note I love the attire or more so the ability for the speaker to wear it and be completely comfortable with the choice. I wish I had that level of confidence.

Self Love Is The Cure For Self Hate

You are hilarious. I’m so glad I came across you. Thank you 😂 💪💝

You will never be good enough before GOD, to my understanding from going off Christian/Torah/Buddhist teaching’s, no amount of works you do will ever get you to be “good enough” or “clean” we are all dirty and come short before GOD, and we are saved through his grace. I appreciate Julians messages, as I have been watching them myself for a boost, But we must understand we all fall short before a holy all mighty GOD.

Man you got it!! Very good a wonderful analogy

Giving me so much peace to pull from. Thanks man.

The worst case scenario that bothers me is they thinking that I'm going crazy or insane and that's making my mind goes blank and i dont even know what to do and how to act normally when this scenario pops up in my mind.

Watched a couple of your videos and they already helped me soo much in such a short time! Thank you! ❤

I notice that I aspire to be authentic and feel good enough... because I don't feel good enough until I am. Yeah, once in a while I realize that those are good things to pursue but really everything is ok already. I am good enough already.

18:12 >> wise words on comunication skills

When he said "from the inside out... Everything changes.. and people FEEL IT". I was so happy because then people would like me more 😂 Have got still a way ahead of me

What if someone does something actually wrong, like stealing and crime etc. do they still find that they’re enough because of who they are?

Yeah i think i always want to be the best version of myself wich isn't a bad thing but i really need to be less nervous about just being me :)

I seriously did lean in when you started talking about the scratch mark. Why??? I love your advice.

Love u so much brother...letting go was well explained... But in the end of the video you said some gem but they were not well explained on the level of layer 4 which I call identity.. I understood so much from this...i hope others too.

I like this freakin’ guy dude

Best video I’ve seen on this topic. Thanks Julien

Julian, you are fantastic!!! You give me so much confidence to just be me!! No bullshit, no false impressions, nothing. Thank you so much. Gary from Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

I find myself being super fake at work. Often people pleasing

"self-love is removing self-hate"

its always about letting go . which is really hard to do .

Hi from Afghanistan 🇦🇫 love your videos and it motivates me❤

brother, confidence comes from not dragging all the hair from the side of ur head onto the top. Hope this helps.

Wow! This is really, very helpful Julien, exactly what I need right now!

Your teaching is top notch

Love this

The outfit so terrible ❤ the best speaker ever

Genius.

I've no clue what I am if i exclude things I do or have achieved. Those define me.

This guys legit!

Happy Guru Purnima from India ❤

It's not about the stuff I'm surrender with but I don't know how to overcome it . I mean I get I tend to be shy and all but for some reason I'm scared of opening up and due to that I create a void vibe that takes the energy away from those who meet it and it's so frustating it also happens with my closest friends

To the morbid relief question : Me !!! ✋

omg thank you!

Right on time🎉

You are absolutely amazing

“Bentonite clay extracts impurities in the major nucleus of the duodenum!”

He has Roman Roy vibe in succession 🥰

incredible video

this one had some good comedy skits, thanks for the wise words as always Julien

Right on!

9:01 that's a trick question 😂😂😂😂

I really did watch Julien's videos before networking 😂

Uhhh i love this!❤❤❤

As insightful as ever. 🚀🚀🚀🚀

@Julien But why doesn't more equal to confidence? Genuinely I have felt this. I waited for more to come but that just added to my stress and my low self esteem to the point that nothing made me happy or confident. Why is it that it is only at our absolute dumbest that we find confidence and freedom?

Fire brother - less is more 🔥

Your videos are very helpful and I learn a lot from them 💯😀 Any chance of seeing a live event in Iceland?😁

Love the fit Julien

Very great video!

Julien's new phrase "Let this land"

Let that land.

wen he askied why im good enough i wood have said oh because my mommy and daddy told me i am and my teechers said im the best!!1 its tru also, ywa i wa a top class student in hillsboro mideschool and mommy said im best and teechers said i was the most likly to succeed and most likely to be most likly to be happy

Its not bullshitting, as much as its more like ad libbing. You gotta address the individual persons, and figure out the direct approach. Theres always that disconnect inbetween, that moment of decision and hesitation.

Please stop saying "let that land" Let that land.NOTE: even if you don't stop saying "let that land", Julien, you ARE GOOD ENOUGH.

whenj julian said are you gonan go or ar you gonna snort the dough ? i was like girl this man is good enough to be my babys daddy and pay the child support wether he is the daddy or not. why cant i find a man lik julian.

I want to know how I fan express all of my emotions without being an asshole.

I respect you

Self love is the removal of self hate … hmmm

Let that Land.

Thanks

Julien, what should i do, when i severe emotional trauma and i cant open up about my pain to anyone due to resistance and fear, regardless of how much i let go?