Are you currently torn about staying in your current relationship or leaving? Do you think you might be using confusion as a mask so you don't have to face a difficult truth? I'd love to hear from you below. Remember to download the guide for 15 questions to figure out whether to stay or go: www.terricole.com/unhappy-in-your-relationship-guide
I love my wife, we have been together for 22 yrs. But we are both people pleasers and we both know we have a huge mountain to climb but we are committed. I am so thankful for this channel. ❤
Such a useful, insightful video! Thank you dear Teri! Lots of things said that were helping me to ask the right questions. Also: I love that you are not black and white on certain things. I truly appreciate it as just as if I would make a mistake I would love to have an opportunity for me to repair, I want to give this to my partner as well. Finally: you look absolutely STUNNING. Every time I watch a video from I am just in AWE. and please know, I love you for your intelligence and insights, but I want to also remark this as to me it would feel good if someone would note. So dear Teri, you look absolutely STUNNING! At every time I see you. Keep shining gorgeous!!
Thank you Terri ❤. This video is chock full of what my partner and I have been doing, particularly after beginning your “Father Wound” program. Little by little, authentic communication is increasing, rather than “acting it out”. More days are diamonds and continuing on this path is THE way. Life does throw challenges and we are working through being both loving and compassionate for each other when it is, peeling off more and more layers of family of origin dysfunction. Each of us is literally growing up all over again. We are so fortunate to have met you 😘.
Toxic relationships are always based on both people living in fantasy land to some degree and being dishonest at least with themselves. It takes two to tango. Someone saying they will change won't ever work without the other hoping for that change. There's really a lot of hoping and wishful thinking instead of accepting reality for what it is as it in the present
It's just gone beyond that and him revealing to me that he is lying about me (to take the blame to save face for him) and lying to others by omission. I don't know why to be grateful he is confiding that he is confessing. I can't even believe the direct questions I have to ask these days. I don't know whether to go to couples therapy because I have heard not to. Idk if he would deny what he has admitted to me.
My husband used to be a convert narcissist. Passive aggressive behaviour was his way to solve situations and problems. Low and bad quality communication, problems that pile up.. Lately it looks like he is trying to do things better but I think that the damage in me is done. I started have binge eating episodes when he used to ignore me for 3 days in a row although living together. I didn't know how to cope. Then depression came.. I am not sure what to do. Stay or go..
I am witnessing you with so much compassion ❤️ I invite you to download the guide (link is in the pinned comment or video description) to go through all 20 questions I provide and see how you feel after answering them. Like I said in the video, sometimes it's about being afraid to acknowledge our truth because it's too painful. You can make a decision without acting on it. ❤️
My wife is adamant about divorce and I understand her reasons and I know where I went wrong in this marriage and I’m working on those things but it takes time. My question is .. What are you thoughts on reconciling after divorce? (Not a separation) but a divorce. . Is there hope for us if I continue to be consistent with my improvement?
I'm so sorry to hear you're in this situation 💕 I would gently invite you to respect her decision and improve for *yourself,* not with the hopes of getting back together. The most important relationship you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself. Getting 'right' with yourself means having healthier relationships in the future. Maybe you'll reconcile, maybe you won't- but it's best to do the work without that attachment because you need to focus on YOU and not the past. ❤️
I want to leave my boyfriend and we work at the same company. I’m scared that he will retaliate and make my life a living hell at the company. That’s why I’m looking for a new job so that I can leave him without having to worry about the repercussions.
I've been following your teachings since 2018, and I have a relationship question for you. I'm currently in a relationship (3.5 years) where we share 1 child together and 2 step kids. I know the relationship isn't right for me, but I'm a SAHM with no paying job currently (left my job to stay home with my now 15 month old). I think I'm staying now more out of logistics and financial support given our situation. Any advice?
I'm so sorry to hear that- that is a tough situation ❤️ It's understandable why you'd stay. Is there any way for you to find a work-from-home job, even part-time? Or is there anyone who could provide some child support so you could begin working? Could you reach back out to your old job, or any network contacts? Do you have a support network where you could perhaps stay for a few months to get back on your feet? Do you think your spouse would be open to some sort of agreement that allows for a smooth transition period? Or is it enough to simply know this isn't the right relationship for you, and you can make peace with that for a bit while you figure something out? There are a lot of possibilities and things to think through, but I hope some of that was helpful. ❤️
It might be more useful to take the judgment out of it. Does behaving in a passive aggressive way get you what you want? Does it lead to satisfying and fulfilling relationships? How do you feel about it?
That makes sense. Depending on the person, you could try saying, "I'm not interested in talking about that. Tell me about ... [fill in a different topic] - I'd love to hear about it." If they're weirdly insistent, you can say, "Why would you ask me that?" I have a video about addressing inappropriate questions here, in case it helps: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-P_NoE23HZg4.html ❤️
