What is the Mother Wound? 6 Signs You Might Have One - Terri Cole 

Yes! Mother's day gifts always feel like an obligation.

I am also finding that when someone is genuinely loving and adoring towards me, I find it incredibly uncomfortable. I am with an incredible, loving man at the moment and it almost feels like a defense mechanism to find him literally unattractive when he's being mushy and physically or verbally affectionate with me. I feel like this has a lot to do with my mother's coldness towards me growing up. I don't know how to return this sentimentality and have a very hard time creating attachments to people because of it.

I always knew my mother hated me. I thought it was me. Thanks for validation. I’ve been following your videos for 2 years and have gone no contact for 18 months and have been healing, I finally have control of my life after 58 years. My adult children and my patient husband have noticed the difference- I am actually happy for the first time in my life. I still have work to do. Thank you so much Teri for helping me have self acknowledgment about this very painful subject.

This is exactly how I felt while looking for Mother’s Day cards. Nothing seemed to fit. I always went with a very generic card. 😞

This hits very strongly in low income black neighborhoods including myself. My mother ran the house with iron fist. I couldn't cry or I would be abused with a belt or with her bare hands. She was young and didn't have as much help from the father. My mother went through the same thing too. Sad but true reality of the familyl structure in low income black communities. I am learning everyday how to feel my emotions and deal with unpleasant sensations in my body. Hopefully I will be fully free and strong and healthy within.

My mother was diagnosed with BPD with narcissistic features. She refuses this diagnosis of course. She has PTSD as well. She suffered abandonment and abuse by both parents. Be loving to your children...the pain ripples break through the consciousness of generations.

Omg, for years I hated mothers day because I would read so many cards trying to find something that was kind, honest, and accurate. And it felt like I must have missed out on a lot of things other people have with their moms. My mom told me many times that its OK to have a girl, but there's just something special about having a boy. She was never emotionally attuned to me. I wasn't allowed to express emotions without being shamed or told I was wrong to feel that way, unless it was happiness. She sucked at nurturing. I just stopped sharing my feelings with her.

I always hear songs about how great their mother was and I'm like wow I can't relate at all.

Im just sad im hearing this at 56. Can't really elaborate anymore as I am really not sure about the healing process. But I am glad young people get to see these videos. However, to a degree, you got me in a particular, positive, direction, for the rest of my life, many thanks and much respect. ❤.

I've wanted to work at a Greeting Card company for a long while. The section of Mother's Day cards would've sparse; one row would say, "Thank you for being such a kind and thoughtful mother, taking extra time to make my dreams come true, for helping me reach my goals and consoling me when I failed. Thank you for showing me, with a balanced approach, what teaching and correction are. Letting me choose, between the red or black shoes, grey or blue coat, and broccoli and spinach. And not making the correction be denigrating. I love you for you, for cookies after school, for storytime, for one on one special days, for birthday parties and cake, ... And so much more." And the other card would be, "Yeah, I'm sending this scrap of paper just so you can't tell others that I didn't send you anything. No thanks to you, for basically all I have become. Without you controlling everything I did have to admit that I really did amount to something, and my children weren't born with some disease, that they don't act just like I did, because I'm not raising them the way you raised me. I am glad I got out and away from your hawkish glare, that evil glint in your eyes, the raspy voice that became a perky voice when speaking to others, so much more, but you have already dominated my thoughts for too much time. So yeah, here's your cheap card, as usual. Since supposedly I don't know how to pick out cards, I hope this one is worthy of you. Oh, and don't worry, it came off the clearance rack. No sense spending more than 25¢ anyway. Signed, the child who got away from your clenched up gnarly hands.

Wow, my ex gf is very traumatized and scared of commitment, due to her mother wound. Its so bad it caused our relationship to end after two years. I feel for her, and I hope she can heal herself.

I've watched this video many times. Something about it, the way you explain it makes me feel so safe to explore the deep dark places of my childhood. Before I watched this video I never knew about the mother wound. I want to be healed so that I do not unconsciously pass down things to my children. The cycle ends with me. Thank you Terri ❤

This totally fits my experience. I was a burden to her except when I was taking care of her. If she had to take care of me, it was too much. She was undependable & unreliable toward me. One time I had a very bad bike wreck when I was 10 or 11. I wiped out going down a hill. The bike was mangled/totaled. I had scrapes & scabs over 80% of my body. I was unconscious for several hours. I was concussed & my head was shaped like an eight or spider body. When I woke up she was crying about how sad things were for her because this happened to her child, but she didn't take me to any emergency room or Dr. She was going to let me die. I could give many more examples. She was always telling me she was going to kill herself but then she really did attempt to. When she came back from mental hospital, I was more vigilant about preventing her from doing it again. I don't hate her, I love her, but I don't eff w her because I don't like how she treats me. It's not one thing she has said or done, it's the cumulative effect & the fact that it was the next thing, the next thing, the next thing until I cut it off.

My mother was a narcissist. She was abused as a child. She was full of rage that she constantly projected. I was the main target for that rage in my family. As a consequence I developed an eating disorder. I struggled all my life with it. Maman passed away in 2020. I took care of her for 15 years after my father passed away. We became good friends and I forgave her. She was a much better mother to me at the end of her life. She had worked on herself and once told me that if she had to do it all over again, she would be a better mother. God bless her. After her death, my struggle with food completely disappeared. I believe that she took that with her. I miss her immensely but I know she is at peace and that she is looking out for me. Her name was Yvonne.

When I was a baby my parents left me in another state with my grandparents. Why? I never asked after I found out. This video makes so much pain in my life make sense. I also became a crappy mother never standing up to care for my kids the way they needed with ACTION. I tried but being married to a man with mother wound also didn’t help.

it's christmas day, and here i am binge watching videos about narcissistic mothers. i left home 16 years ago but she managed to convince me to move back home 3 months ago and now i am reliving my childhood traumas! 🤬 what a trickster!

This is important, however what is left out of this conversation is that every single woman, moreso our mothers and grandmothers, have had tremendous pressure on them from a patriarchal system, in so many ways. When daughters also understand this along with their healing, it is a complete picture.

I just want to wish everyone courage and love in their process of healing their mother wound. I am in the middle of this process and it can be hard at times. But luckily there are these kind of videos. Thanks to Terri Cole, this is really helpful!

Excellent video thx you ! I stopped contact at 52 saw her at 59 no change so I stopped contact for good I'm 63 now just need peace now to death live my life 🙏

Thanks...I had to leave my mother 1 year ago. .no contact...so sad but needed to for my sanity and health. .much love and blessings xxx

I truly needed to see this!!! 6 months ago today, i left a violent and abusive family dynamic. I moved across the country and cut contact. A friend saw me suffering and so hurt that she offered me a safe place. I am doing so much better but the trauma has been re-surfacing and making me overwhelmed. I've been seeking a PTSD/trauma re-processing therapist. I refuse to let the cycles of abuse continue. I consciously choose to break the cycles and heal ancestreal trauma. Thank you for your videos, i am so eternally grateful❤🙏🏼

I can't even express how thankful I am for this.

Thank you!!! I am in codependency recovery and am realizing how passive aggressive I am. This resonated with me so much!!! Bringing light to the passive aggressiveness with hopefully help me realize when I am doing it. I really really want to stop!!! Thank you again.

Terri - I’m very grateful for you being out there for people like me to find. I’m trying to care for my elderly toxic mom. Sometimes I’m not sure I can do it! I don’t know if she’s a full blown Narcissist or has tendencies and/or whatever else her problems are, I just know it’s really painful & worse than I imagined. It’s bringing up old stuff & showing me how far I’ve come as a woman, yet scary how much it’s effecting my sanity.

80 yo and the thousand wounds to the heart are still so fresh. So many questions that will never be answered. Will stay until my last day. Yes, I can say I forgive, but it would only be words --- not sincere.

Incredibly put! This was the clearest version of what it means to be born into a system of the wounded mother! Thank you!!!!

This is epic! I feel destroyed but didn't know the term 'mother wound'.

I lost my mother a little over 2 years ago. We were so close, probably co dependent. She had depression and I think she wasn't happy about how she handled some things. I suffer from anxiety, which started as a young child, and OCD . I always blamed her , which I will always regret. I miss her terribly and want to apologize to her. It's too late.

This video really resonated with me. I know I've suffered from a mother wound. My situation is a bit complex, I was placed into an orphanage when I was 2 and then adopted at the age of 4 with my older sister. Growing up I experienced alot of what you discussed in this video. I was so confused and yearned for my biological mother while desperately trying to please and fit into the mold of my adoptive parents. I recently decided to go no contact with them, my mom is an overt narcissist and my dad a covert. I experienced alot of mental/emotional abuse growing up. I never had an outlet to express my emotions, everyone expected me to be so appreciative of the life and opportunities my adoptive parents had given me. Anything and everything I was ever given has been rubbed in my face or used against me. My breaking point was when my daughter was born. I had a high risk delivery due to health issues. My mother picked a fight with me over the phone just hours after my delivery because I had not called my sister( the golden child) my text messages and pictures were not enough. She then told me she would not be coming to meet her granddaughter because she had company over and was having a 4th of July party. Needless to say I feel a tremendous amount of relief since I have gone no contact. Now I am committed to my healing and living my best life with my husband and our children. I never want my kids to feel the way I felt as a child. Although I know I have made the right decisions it doesn't make the pain go away. Thank you for your videos Terri they have taught and helped me so much!!!

well. For someone who has had their emotions shut down and invalidated their entire life by a narcissistic, controlling , domineering and emotionally unavailable mother so I've learned to stuff everything inside and keep the lid firmly on - which is quite a task when you're an empath on top of everything else - I bawled through this entire video. Every last flippin' nerve I didn't even know I had got hit. It explains a lot about why I'm always confused when people want to spend time with me - to the point if someone wants to get close to me I immediately want to run screaming in the opposite direction, why I'm happier on my own because I don't feel i need to give up every single one of my needs for someone else, or risk having my heart ripped out yet again, and why I also constantly self-sabotage and never get anywhere in my life because I've always been told that nothing i do is ever good enough or ever will be enough, so what's the point. I'm so textbook it's almost a charicature. its a rough way to feel so my heart goes out to anyone else who found their way to this video. I see you. We're in this together. Sending love.

This year, for the first time in my life, I did not contact my mother on mother's day. I didn't want to be fake. Before, I was doing it out of obligation.

For me, I had to be in reality about what she is. Not lying to myself. That was hard for me. Especially when it’s passively, if that’s all you know, you think it’s normal. I wouldn’t accept it for a long time.

You described me, my mom and my childhood. Right on the money. So powerful, so sad of course b/c these people placed themselves above the family, their children and their daughters have suffered greatly!! Thank you for "getting us" for enlightening us and being the piece that was missing all of our lives!!

I had a great relationship with my mom and miss her very much. However, I realize that she may have treated me better than my sister's. I think she loved me more. Parents definitely have favorites.

My mother is a single parent and was never emotionally available. As I got older I soon realize that it's affecting my relationships. I often isolate myself from my mom when I'm home. It's a bit difficult for me sometimes express any emotions towards people because I feel like I can't trust anyone. I'm beginning to feel overwhelmed but I'm not sure how reach out for help.

Even as a child, I would buy the things she expected: lilies at Easter, a card for Mother's Day. But I would never lie and write "love" on the card. Just "Happy Mother's Day." She never used the word "love" either, not until it became fashionable to pair it with "tough."

This video has helped me so much! I'm realizing it's up to me to be my own mother. To reparent myself. My mother was very kind however she became ill early on. So I had to learn to be on my own at an early age. Sometimes we internalize a father's strict voice inside ourselves. But now I can also be compassionate as well as disciplined. Growing up in a male dominated family, I was lacking in self-compassionate. Success and pushing oneself was stressed. Thank you Teri!

As someone who has stuggled with "the mother wound" for many years as an adult after losing my bio mom as a toddler and the woman who raised me as being neglectful and abusive--- this video has finally made it "click" for me after my own therapist telling me the same thing but I can't even connect with that coming from her for some reason. The mother wound hits me at the core of my being and yes, feels comparable to a young girl standing by herself saying "I don't belong" , "I'm too much" , "I'm unworthy of love, attention and care". Thank you for this video, I needed to see this today.

Thank you so much for this. I see this pattern repeated even an work relationships, I see my mother everywhere as a shadow and I stop being who I could be, and instead behave in a way I would please her, with anxiety, fear to rejection and a constant look for either validation, either a way to escape from everyone. It has taken me four years since I left my home to realize that she was the root of this omnipresent shadow.

Thank you. I can identify with this. Thank you to the woman who wrote in also, which was the reason you covered this topic. Thank you

Yep the consistent pleaser when I called and always making myself pleaser not considering myself and getting mad after realizing that the mother takes for granted and never enough feeling after so many year's efforts and no matter what I do for her never enough and she's not feeling appreciated or caring for me.

My mother was a narcissist and had 6 kids 3 was her golden kids and one 1was forgotten and 1 was scapegoat 1 was both the scapegoat and forgotten that one being myself .everything you said is my life . I battle every day with not feeling worthy or good enough and it made me put up with things that other women would never even consider allowing and I seem to take it and go back for more .thank you from the bottom of my heart!

I feel it is crucial to point out that you can have physically perfect parents who present as good and kind people.. yet are operating much of the time from fear-based ego-consciousness. A child experiences this, at every turn, as a lack of love, which it is. In reality love is something that simply flows out if a person and is not in any way dependant on externals. Many of us by now have noticed that the extent to which we conformed to our parent’s version of reality, greatly affected the flow of loving energy that came towards us. Love is something that is FELT or not FELT. Most people, whether they are ready to see it or not, are carrying the parent wound, because real love is still a rarity on this planet.

Wow! Me! Me! Pre school age I only saw my parents on the weekend. Monay thru Friday I stayed at the babysitters house. I had three-two were abusive. The 3rd lady was nice but neglectful. But she got me rescued because she told my mom I did not sleep at night. I grew up feeling that children were such a burden, that they were not worth having. I married a man who felt even stronger negative emotions about having children. We had no children.

Yes my Moms definitely a narcissistic mother, it's a freaking nightmare! I'm abounded by my family as they don't believe me! I called her out and I didn't know what she was capable of!?? Even though she's already done an enormous amount of intentional damage to me! I'm on no contact! But she's went into my place and took personal photos and papers! I dread having to contact her again! She's destroyed my life and I'm trying to recover! 🤕

This is the first real step to healing !!! Accessing services n sites to help us heal!! Something our parents would never do!! But thank God I’m doing it!! And I am a mother now! Wish I could Re do somethings but it’s ok tho I’m learning everyday !! And healing!!

I had it. I had my Mother's love growing up. I know I had it. She was kind. She was patient and all I ever wanted to do was make her proud. I was so attuned into her so I know what looks and things I did got the approving smiles and even though I was bullied terribly at schools and possibly acted up at home I still felt I had a good relationship with her. Even as a teenager and we fought we got into open fights because I'd just lose it usually on the account of something she said but it wasn't like all the time. She's very good at the silent treatment and Dad's very good at pushing me to continue on with this when your Mom is withholding any kind of attention and you want to stop because it's a demeaning position to be in takes a lot of your pride and self respect away I'd end up loosing it with her out of temper it wasn't like she said she was too angry to talk and she would find me later something I'd understand. Anyway it started when my sister's boyfriend was introduced to our family. Mom for whatever reason was in awe of him. He runs for sport, he bikes to stay healthy, he's tiled the kitchen out and mowed the lawn and worse - she'd compare him to my boyfriend when I had him. We just heard he was wonderful and we could never measure up to scratch. Any time there was ever any misunderstandings it was always Dave couldn't be at fault. Mom agreed that if I behaved the way I do at home at work no wonder my boss bullied me! Very slowly over time especially times where I felt she should have had my back and supported me allowed my sister's boyfriend to bad mouth me and my boyfriend - I didn't matter to her - she was very good at taking me to doctors appointments and work but that emotional support was just gone and became super critical of me more so than living at home with her. She chased me around my own flat with the floss trying to do it herself. She opened draws and crossed so many boundaries. Her idea of an emergency key was to let herself in, clean, and leave fruit but I felt angry every time I knew she'd been inside without me knowing. This was supposed to be my safe place from the world where I could shit everybody out if I wanted. The judgements and criticisms never stopped from how I liked to live, to the way I dressed - she gave me such a hard time when I grew out my fringe and I wanted it that way she was telling me things like it looks awful, makes your face look too long. You used to look nicer. Just because she decided to call the shots and have a fringe put back in and I wouldn't I got subjected to all kinds of cruel comments. Comments that you wouldn't believe that would come out of my own Mother's mouth so when it's her birthday and I'm standing in front of the card section (although I'll find something) but none of the cards apply. I got more support off my Nan because I didn't want to put her down but I just wanted to talk about it. I couldn't pick up a card saying thank you for all your kind and loving ways or that I appreciated her - howm I supposed to appreciate someone doing things like letting herself into my house with an emergency key for her to clean when I could just as easily done so myself. I remember after a party at the dentist she asked to see last night's photos and she went through every single picture telling me how others looked nicer and what was wrong with me. The top of my arms were too big I needed a nice cardigan to cover my arms. Other people looked nicer because they'd got a fringe and I hadn't and these people looked better. I hate shopping with my mom, she has to get into the cubicle with me and will make me feel like a whale. She's been so cruel to me over the years I don't know if she loves me sometimes. If she even likes me. I definitely think she's not proud of me. That my sister and her husband are getting things right. Sometimes I think she's trying to cause a sibling rivalry between us but she was there for me when I was younger, when I was bullied so I knew what it used to be like but back then she put me on a pedestal a pedestal I fell off when she realised I had flaws

I began therapy at a young age for a “mother-wound”. It led to my being able to feel the emotion that was missing from my factually expressed words about events that had occurred - memories I recalled devoid of the feelings that would accompany those experiences.

This made me crying. Thank you so much for your love to all who are suffering. I just realized what my mom could give me in that moment was all she could give me it’s her best. I feel i found some lost puzzle to understand my deepest darkness.. For multiple years since I faced to a little girl staring at me staying frozen, I denied to forgive and I’ve throw all my fear, anger away to mom. As much as that girl was thirsty for care and conisistent love, the young 20s mom who didn’t have enough emotional resources was too unselfish not to leave her kids under lack of love environment. I come back to myself 4 years old and 27 years old mom then I will hug both of them. Thank you so much!!❤️

I know you mention or focus on daughters. Sons can developed low self-esteem and in fact go out in the world looking for someone who mimics the narc mom to try and get her to notice him. He doesn't realize this person is draining him. You can never get her acceptance because she is also a narcissists. Repeating the abuse

I’ve related to this so much over the years and now it all makes so much sense.

Thank you so much for this I am looking forward to this series

Thank you so much for your channel. I just came across it and I've been binge watching. It's helped me so much. I'm 35, raised by a narcissistic mom who drove me into depression and anxiety in my adulthood. ❤️

You are incredible Terri Cole. Thank you

great video and answered a lot of my questions!-Thanks again

Resonated with me. Big time! Thank you Terri.

This was absolutely perfect. I feel I grew miles during the course of this video.

Really helped. Thanks.

this video and the one with the steps to heal the mother wound have been so helpful for me, thank you. I've always believed that I'm meant to go through this experience so I can break the pattern and not pass this wound along to my (future) children. it is sad that many women have gone through this, but I can find beauty in identifying with one another and healing together. that is grace.

Thank you Terri this has been really helpful to me. Coming to an understanding of has happened and learning to grow and thrive is sometimes scary, but totally worth it.

Well this hit home. Thank you.

This is amazing! I have actually been to therapy before and about to start back because I didn’t ever finish and I was told I have complex PTSD and this very well goes right along with having a alcoholic father and a controlling co-dependent narcissistic mother! Can’t wait to watch part 2!

Brilliant. So helpful - really clear, well explained and enlightening. Thank you ❤️

This was so deep and described me almost to a tee!!!! I have to follow her and watch all her video's that apply to me and even the one's that don't because I probably will be able to learn something! Thank you Terri for doing this I needed it and I bet millions do to!!!💯👏👏👏✌💝😥

This really spoke to me. Thank you so so much for this message! This was me and my relationship with my mother. I forgive her and understand her and release all resentment. I'm in the healing process and have become aware of how I have negatively effected others I have relationships with and taking the steps to be different everyday. Over this past year, I've felt more secure in what I possess within myself and I've never felt this way before. I had no boundaries. I am no longer aggressive and passive aggressive. I understand that I have to be the ideal person that I want in my life whether it's partner, parents I needed, family members, and friends.

Your father wound sessions led me here and I’m crying and feel like vomiting, my throat feels strangled 💡💡💡 thank you for this and all that you share. Much love and gratitude 🥰

Thank you, thank you, thank you, for making this video. This resonated with me and my relationship with my mother so profoundly 👌🏼😊

Such an important topic ❤️

All I can say is WOW!

Sooo much resonates - thank you

Thank u i am suffering from this mother wound. My mother is a wicked narc i s uffered all my life no contact for 2 years

I can see me and my mother in this, thank you so much Terri Cole

Super helpful---thank you so much!!!

Its my experience too as a 56 year old scapegoatdaughter of a narcissistic mother,also my father and rest of my family and siblings too was/is narcissists.. Have go NO contact with both my NM Nov 2017! All that pain and suffering in my whole life,now I want to start to HEAL my MOTHER WOUNDS ...So I HOPE your videos will HELP me to HEAL those deep wounds and scars 💗.

You make me cry !!

I just watched your video and was completely astounded. You are so on point with what you are saying. I will watch your next video. Thanks

Thank you so much for this video you validated a lot ❤

Thank you so much Terri......

This is absolutely on target! You've explained so well, my life. Fortunately, I unraveled my mother wound, however, I've never heard anyone explain how everything fits together and impacts one's life as it has mine. It's as if you are handing me the finishing pieces. Thank you - I'm certain that this video will help 100s of people. Looking at your thumbs up speaks volumes!

Thank you ... sadly recognizing this to well .. ❤️ but you help me heal. Thank you so much! Hug! ❤️

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! I'm in the process of learning to connect with my feelings and putting myself first. It's challenging but I'm starting to see small changes.

This is insanely helpful.

Thank you for this. Words can’t explain.

Wow Terri, this was super valuable. I really appreciate you messages on this topic! Looking forward to the next episodes.

Thank you for this ❤️

I'm glad I saw this today. Thank you.

Great content indeed and thanks for sharing!

Your so beautiful!!! I love your beautiful energy! Thank you for the help that I have been looking for 😘

Like it…..? I love it. You touched on so many points. Yes I am sensitive and have over reacted in situations to the point of being embarrassed. Especially at work. Working with a therapist in 2016, helped me tremendously. She explained I had been living in Trauma Time, not Real Time. My reactions to lots of situations were driven by some trauma, sadness, abuse suffered as a girl. As we talked about it over the course of the next few sessions, my understanding grew and I became able to “talk myself down” from the emotional cliff I’d find myself on & react as a healthy woman instead of a wounded girl. Thank you Terri.

Thank you so much for your work, you’re amazing

Thank you for this video. I am face to face with my mother wound. Your video has helped me so much in making sense with how I am feeling and why I am feeling, not good enough and not worthy. I have done so much work in this space and suddenly it crept up on me again. I'm probably now ready to deal with the root of my codependence and imposters syndrome. I am eternally grateful

Omg listening to you talk about the mother load hit pretty deep with me. I cannot wait till next episode to learn how to begin healing myself, my dating relationships, and any other relationships that are affect me being overly sensitive. Thank you sooo much. You are helping me with many emotions I’ve been dealing with my entire life. I appreciate you. ❤

Wow... I'm in this situation with my Mom. I'm the scape goat and she treats me as such, so I cut ties with her. Not sure if this is correct, but I'm tired of it. She isn't a narc but a codependent too.

Terri, thank you so much for your knowledge. Your videos help be to see more clearly what is going on in my mind.

Thank you so much for another amazing video girl! I was wondering if you would consider doing a part three after the first two, that speaks to our own mothering and how we can work to heal wounds that we may have already unknowingly inflicted on our children… My two kiddos are still toddlers but their dad was extremely narcissistic leading to our divorce after a very short marriage they were very young… I started my healing journey two years ago around this time of year actually, but by that time my son was already a year and a half, and now I deal with a lot of guilt and perpetual worry that in the time prior to knowing what I know now about the importance of being attuned and present especially in that first year - I certainly wish that this was talked about more in modern medicine, considering it’s implications throughout one’s life. I was stressed, distracted, immature, and still unknowingly wounded myself. Did you see this a lot in your practice? I’m referring to the guilt and regret here. And, what can we do to minimize the damage that we may have already done in a more ignorant time in the youth of our parenting? Of course, my parenting has grown immensely as I’ve been in therapy and on the self-growth path, educating myself on the research for a little while now as I said. Still, literature and media that get into the Mother Wound trigger me - one, because I relate to it with my relationship with my own mom, but more-so, two, that I fear I have done irreparable damage to my attachment with my two young children and they also have to deal with attachment trauma with their dad not being around. Any advice or enlightenment based on your education and experience would be SOO appreciated. Thank you again and sending lots of love! -J

You hit the nail right on the head for me! Thank you for what you do, I SOOO appreciate it! I actually sent this to a friend who I know also has a mother wound and two older female friends to help them understand me better. My mother succumbed to suicide 15 years ago, but she refused to go to therapy and work with me on mending our relationship. She died with so much unresolved hurt between us. She not only was neglectful (physically and emotionally) but she physically and sexually abused me for years.

This is so incredibly powerful. Its at the core. Listening to how this "Mother Wound " manifests. The " Imposter Effect " WOW! I was that " High Functioning Woman " I have been working on self for decades. The onion layers peeled away Yet still not managing to create the shift. The discovery and awareness that I had a " Mother Wound" unearthed the deep rooted pain I had not addressed. The indicating factors discussed resonate in such a visceral way. Thank you.

Another great video!

Sooo...this is geared toward women. Terrific.

I am very grateful for finding this video. As a man, a son, I always felt something was wrong with me, like, I wasn't thankful with my mom. Now I know I need help. Thank you so much!