Contacting Your Ex - Should You Contact Them First or Wait for Them? 

I think the dumper shd contact the dumpee

You are correct, the thing stopping both people from initiating is usually pride and hurt feelings - both can be overcome if done right.

Just contact we might not know when is our last words. Live with no regrets!!!😀

If you've been dumped, you have no obligation to try and prove yourself to that person for their validation. That comes from having a low sense of your worth that probably led you to being dumped in the first place.

Respect yourself enough to not chase someone who said they wanted out of your life. Let them leave. If they're meant to be your partner, they wouldn't leave. It's on them to apologize. And to ask you for another chance. Learn your lessons from your breakup. Work on being a better self. And you will attract the right person - your ex or someone else.

Tbh.. (this is off of experience) no contact is necessary, not for your ex but for you, as hard as it may be you need to stick to it & don’t break it for at least 30 days, if you still feel emotionally attached afterwards then wait a little longer. If your ex does contact you during the no contact don’t ignore them but don’t have long deep conversations either, let it be short & simple. When you feel like you’re in a better head space where nothing your ex does affects your mood, it’s okay to reach out. We are too grown for games & if they don’t want to talk to you still after you’ve opened the door for communication leave it alone.. You can’t force someone to talk to you, but if they are giving you mixed signals as in they’re happy then cold, back off for like a week or so & try again.. I hope this helps! It helped me

don't fix something that your ex broke

Always fight for your soulmate, even after it seems too late it's just a frame of mind.

I contacted my ex, I tried so hard to fix it. I did the begging and chasing. Honestly if she wanted to be with me, she would be with me. In relationships you come together to try and fix it. Some relationships are damaged beyond repair. That’s when you have to let go. But with mine, idk. Idk the true reason as to why we broke up. And it sucks because i had to be the one to break it off. I’m done chasing someone. I was fine before I met her, I’ll be fine after. Attachments lead to suffering. Let go!

You can’t really do anything to change your ex’s mind. If they dumbed you, you need to give them the space and the gift of missing you. Don’t text them until they reach out to you, if they do ask them to go out with you. From my experience their not going to value your presence if you initiate contact.

Great advice because relationships are on a case by case bases. All different so different strategies are needed.

Love your Videos❤️ very helpful and more reasonable Thank you for doing this

Firstly, this method won’t work for everyone! People face different kinds of breakups, and as a general rule the person doing the dumping has lost respect, attraction and interest for the dumpee! So I did this I begged and pleaded and made my feelings clear none of that changed his mind! So I think the NC is effective to show that person you are fine living your life without them and being with you is a choice not something you have to chase! Because in most cases the dumper knows the person wants them but they reject any offers they give! So when they take a step back, apply NC and don’t bother with the pleading and looking desperate and focusing on yourself and your own life is the best way to move fast it and gain some clarity! The dumper has made their feelings clear! They know where you are if they want you!

If they break up with you and never contact you again then they never wanted/cared for you. Move on.

Thanks for the video !

You’re good at it Clay . I like your advice

It indeed depends on your the views/personality of your ex. Mine, e.g., is very much like "Everything to make her happy", so if I don't contact him for 30 days and make him believe I'm fine with the break-up, he'll just leave it there because he thinks that's the best for me, even if he misses me very much, and not reach out himself.

You try to separate boosting your self esteem with no contact from getting your ex back as if they're two separate things - In most cases, it's the former that enables the latter.

Clay, you're the best Ive seen till now on youtube ! (y) :)

Hi Clay I wanted to thank you for your advice. I have been meaning to let you know that thanks to your videos and programme I managed to reconnect with my ex and we are back together. I am so pleased and feel like the advice you give really helps better you as an individual which is so imperative to rebuilding a broken relationship. Thank you, thank you, thank you

Gotta start wearing a helmet since all these games being played lol... The moment games up, I'm out!

rooting for Clay

Finally someone that understands

"The Diet" - That made me chuckle

I think it's "dis-empowering" to contact an ex that dumped you, especially if you communicated to them that you want to work things out. Best and most self-respecting thing to do is tell them how you feel and let them know the door is open if they change their mind. Trying to convince someone to stay is degrading. And it's not about pride, it's about self respect.

I think it depends.. If u acted needy after the break up, It would annoy me to see tht the guy still reach out.. my ex dumped me but wnted to remain friends n keep me in his life. I told him tht I realized a few things.. He started acting anxious n than I started beeing cringy.. N allowed too much.. I told him afterwards I gonna take care for myself now.. Didn't reply to this friendship nonsense..n I didn't begged or acted needy after.. 3 days after breaking up he dated a old friend n she also came straight out of a rs. I am without contact since nearly 3 weeks.. I hope he gonna miss me.. But he is a very proud half Cuban he don't ran after ppl..he did with his ex wife n than once with me.. But he texted me at Christmas to hope that we remain friends.. Didn't reply to this n 3 days later he deleted my number after seeing a clubbing picture.. Still got ne on fb.. But I don't think he would reach out. I continue no contact for some while n maybe I gonna text him later some simple text.. N BTW I donno if he still date tht girl

best not to contact them especially if they dont want to talk to you after they break up with you.

Disagree. Never initiate contact when you were dumped. Regardless of the timeline.

If you dump someone and the dumpee knows that what they did was the reason for the break up and they have regrets. Then it's up to the dumpee to suck it up and make the contact and put it right if they are still interested in the relationship. Hopefully then they will learn from their mistakes!

Nice video......at some point of time we have to contact ..if we want them back...and it's not chasing or begging.

She broke up and says she has a new partner. If she breaks up then i can understand that you might win her over by getting in touch after a few days. But if she had a replacement ready when they broke up with you then it's absolutely as dead as it can be. Contacting them for any reason is pointless and makes you look desperate.

My girl broke up with me officially 2 weeks ago, about 3 weeks ago she told me she wanted to live in her own place after living together for 4 years. We had an excellent relationship, we care deeply for each other and had great communication. Our lease was up, and about a week and a half till moving day, she said she wanted to live separate. I knew what this ment, but she denied it. She broke down a few days later at her friends crying super drunk. There was some dude their who had no clue who I was and he did the puffy chest thing when no pulled the car to get her (She went to get her things) he told me to take a hike. I was pretty mad, but didn't want to make a scene, so I left and tried to call her and no answer all night, they were mostly friends I knew. But my trust was shaken. She said she would be home when morning came.i was up all night thinking the worst. Her being black out drunk and all. She kept telling me she was coming home, but she didn't come back untill 11 at night. We talked briefly about it, went to bed. I knew she wanted to leave me, but she wouldn't say it, and I love her so much, I couldnt either. The next night she wad about to go to bed, and i proclaimed we nees to talk and said, "we have a problem" we had a good talk, and I agreed that living separate was going to be a good thing. (We always lived together.) So time for mov8ng and packing and cleaning. 3 days till move out. I had a horrible day with my family and came home to start the process, she decided to go habe drinks with her friends, was for the best, I was already upset at my day. When she came home, we had it out and I pushed her to tell me the truth if she wanted to breakup with me or not, she said she wanted to stay together. Went to bed, my buddy sent me a mssg telling me he heard her talking about leaving me, and in was prett upset again, we talked, she assured me it was ok, she was just venting.she went out again, 2 days to move... this is nothing like her at all. And she didn't come home until the last day to move. We got along and got in bed, and I wanted to habe one last good night together and put my moves on her. But since she got the birth control implant a year ago her libido was eliminated, I tried and tried she refused. I went in the bathroom told her I was gonna just jerk it.. sat down and cried like a little bitch... She came and saw me, so the last sex we had was fucking pity sex.... so I took her shit (my shit) to her new place, moved her in, filled up her fridge and set her up. She was suppose to help with the rest, but didn't. So I moved the rest of everything by myself and stayed all night and all day and night the next night cleaning. Moved out. She wanted me to help her with her new rent and deposit with my deposit, I told her hell no. Told her we need a break. She agreed. About 4 days into the break (She contacted me throughout) she asked if i could stop by, i knew what for. She still denied it. But yeah when i got there, she finally told me, and I told her how fucking used I felt. She waited till I moved her out and set her up so she felt secure enough that she felt she didnt need me anymore. It was pretty messy. I love her too much so much it was unhealthy. And I still did for her after the breakup, she said we can be good friends like before we were romantic. And I bought it, hook, line, and sinker. There's alot I'm missing and leaving out, but yeah, she got me wrapped around her finger and she won't even put in a friends effort.. About donem

Video on your thoughts on "emotional cheating" and/or apology letters during no contact please?

Love ya 🙏🏽

Hi Clay, what do you do if after a 6 month relationship you did 2 weeks NC, were in the riding the dragon stage after breakup, sent the letter (really regret it now) and now are in the wall of reactance and he wont respond to my messages. any help would be great. Thanks :)

What if you are the dumper, 6 months after break up you are talking again, then they get scared and ghost/block you everywhere. I was the dumper but they essentially gained the power, if you will, by blocking me everywhere when we were on the way to meet up with each other for the first time since the breakup.

No contact works... usually. I’ve usually been disappointed when I have broken it. I feel men or women *do* need time to breathe and feel the loss and to miss. When I break no contact it’s usually months later (once I waited 5 months and then I messaged a letter via post). People definitely cannot have someone else change their minds or hearts. Time and distance and the lack does that. I do feel to some degree no contact is a game but it’s a better long term bet. I have never gone back to a guy just cuz he wanted if I was really and truly done but I have gone back or messaged when I’ve done the breaking up if I missed them and they were happy and moved on with their life. That’s higher value: to be just fine. I notice you say at end of your video “active” no contact so it does seem like you still have people engage in some sort of no contact. No contact is even good so people can ground themselves and remember individually who their partner was as well as them self.

Question: Should You Initiate Contact with The Ex that Dumped You? Answer: No, never, ever...no..no..no, don't do it. End of video. No need for 10 min video. 10 second would be enough.

There is a very good reason you turned off likes/dislikes for this video. Think about it people.

So I'm currently away from my ex and I'm uncertain how I'm supposed to go around to getting her to see my changes in her life. For example if I get my license out here how am I supposed to show her my changes if she can't really find out herself. I'm trying to write a letter in an effort to re-establish contact with her because I haven't gotten a response in the 4 days from now where I contacted her first. What am I supposed to do? I constantly feel like I should be in person with her. Not miles away unable to show her my successful life changes.

This guy here is 💯 on point, every time my girl breaks up with me I never go on that no contact bullshit. Give a woman time alone and she’ll forget about you. Trust me’ the no contact is bullshit. How you gonna wait for your ex to contact you first when they broke up with you. Don’t be mad at them for taking the high road and having enough love and respect for them selfs. They obviously left you for a reason, so now it’s up to you to changed her mind and get her back.

Okay I’m doing ANC & I ended things with him b/c I didn’t feel like my needs were being met. he’s been contacting me a lot but I’m still not responding, I’m curious to know if he’s changed but I don’t know when/ If ever is the right time to hear him out.

clay "broken shards of glass" andrews

Sometimes, what you think never happens and so sometimes you should atleast contact once first

I initiate to contact my ex in a way to pretending like i need his help in some work and he did that also contact back to complete the work and also ask about hows my life going and then again silence now what to do next

Ok but what about when he’s in a rebound relationship? Is it okay to still reach out to him first or is it for the best to wait till something happen over there till he contacts you first?

Hi Clay, my ex told me “he lost connection”, “no spark anymore”, “ You deserve better”, he “can’t give me what I want & deserve”, & he “wishes I’d meet someone else”. It’s been 6 mos NC & I gave him a hand written letter last week. He’s dating the woman he claimed he didn’t like or even respect after they were caught having takeout dinner at the park after declining an invitation to my house last Summer when we were together. I told him she had a crush on him & he dismissed it. It seems that he’s moved on and I am still crushed and shattered. Every day is a struggle. I’ve never been this heartbroken in all my 46 years. Please help, I’m drowning in grief and my poor kids are watching me, it’s so unfair to them.💔

I want to just thank you. I was dumpee, I contacted her after 37 days and asked her out. It was like she was just waiting for me. I know each case might be different but it worked for me, thanks agin coach...just thanks and thanks

Hey clay, Thank you so much for your advice it is so helpful durning my process of getting my ex back it’s been 10 days so far and she has reached out and said “ we have to talk” she FT and asked me if I cheated and gave her chlamydia I said no which I didn’t because I didn’t cheat and because I didn’t cheat I have nothing to lose by telling her the truth. Shortly after I told her it’s late and I have work in the morning and I can’t talk. I texted her ‘“ I’m going to the doctor to make sure I’m fine” she then text me “ if you can send your result that would be helpful” then several hours later posted her new boyfriend again in social media was this an attempt to reach out to me with a poor excuse as a conversation starter?

My ex and I have been broken up for 3.5 months. He was telling people lies about something I said but I did not. He was putting stuff in his head making him believe it. All I just wanted was time with him and he would always be drinking till 2am. He was going through stuff financially and at home. I begged and pleaded but realized I had to take a step back and focus on myself. Both of us needed it. He was acting and showing how happy he was being single. Recently my brother in law which is his friend said he started smoking, drinking more and ignoring everyone. Could he now be regretting it? Since our break up I have been focusing on myself. I don’t think he would ever reach out first due to his ego but Is it best to reach out to him or let it go?

I agree ,,, I was released 2 weeks ago !!! her loss if she does not reach out not worried !!! as she questioned my integrity and sincerity after 14 month's . I hold a higher value on myself and have nobody should be treated this way and shows they are passive aggressive behavior and low self esteem.. Do not get me wrong as I own my own shit and was good to her and loyal /// Move on and if she contacts me great ( Maybe!!.... and if not it's okay !!! It sucks bit I will be fine ...

Sir my situation is that i begged and pleaded for 2 weeks and had a success with it she came back but she was cold and being hard then on the 6th day she left me again saying she cannot handle me and said that she regrets giving me another chance saying i never changed and that she dose not trust everything i say , my question for you sir is will i still be able to get her back? i am in no contact right now and i don't think it will work out i need your advice.

i broke up with him because of distance and for space, i didnt want to i like him alot. he reached out to me 2 weeks later for a call, but i was suspicious of his motives and i ended up asking him why did you contact me and rantign about school, then he messaged 'just cause were not dating anymore doest mean we cant be friends'. then day later i found out hes hooking up with this girl he hid the fact from me by saying its a friend and lied and then later he admitted it to me hes been hooking up with her saying he seeing her reffering to it as 'friend with benefits' and that i was after i dumped him.... he approached her. but the thing is suspicious being so couply and posting a girl youve just started seeing hes angry i watched her story even thought he had tagged and ultimately i was led to seeing it. he was annoyed about and that my friend and i had both watched it making me feel bad about it saying its psycho. we got in an argument.... he was like even when i reached out to you as a friend you ranted about school and didnt ask me how i was, i feel like you use me to exhuast your insecurrites and stresses and dont value me. this is what he said, he was saying this and many thing i couldnt tell if he was pulling the victim card and trying to divert from the fact that hes seeing someone so soon and not only that but he lied to me when i first asked about her. it was left on a ' i dont think really want to talk to you now' point he made me feel really bad. i dont understand why he said the thing about us being friends? and im not sure if i shoudl reach out to him or just let it be .... i have school assigemtns this happned 2 days ago, my birthday and deadlines coming up soon, should i just leave it? i feel foolish, cause i told him i still loved him and was like why can e just have our chance for the future

I would consider trying again with my ex if she showed me genuine understanding and commitment to the new relationship. Just getting me back to fall into the same unfulfilling relationship isn't happening. If i was dumped, i would reach out first.

I want to respect my ex and give them appropriate space without abandoning them, not power play.

I don't think it matters who contacts who first, it more of how they're contacted. If you give each other some no contact time, (avoiding damage control mode/high emotions and words you regret later or immediately) you allow each other to really reflect on the situation/relationship. Better odds of rekindling, or just getting along after the hardship. No body likes someone coming on too strong after feelings of disdain, and also doesn't help the relationship to heal if both are at a stalemate with each other.

I m not really worried but i have already expected. But should i still continue to reach out to her? Side note: when i bump into her she always tries to hide aways from me

Clay- I am glad you are doing a video on this because I am in this exact situation- he broke it off with me oct 7 and we both had not contacted each other until I did early december and yes he did reply straight away. I have only heard things from his aunt how much he is misses loves me and eventually we may get back but why isn't he contacting me? He is known to be extremely hard headed as well as myself I have a pride thing that I don't want to feel like I am giving in and he has the say of the relationship. He had unblocked me from fb and I saw a few things he had tagged to his aunt seems like he is hurting and trying to heal he is also working a lot is what I heard., I am not sure. I have no idea what to do we are both stubborn and I want to reconcile. What do I do??

"Youuu the DUMPEEEE " Alrghit alright i get it

What if you can't actually contact them? They are in a rebound relationship. And how could the decoy thing work if you're not in contact.

What if he says that he needs space and says that he wants to do him but doesn’t know what he wants but that he doesnt want anyone else? We were in a 2 year relationship and broke up 3 weeks ago

Bull shit. If they walked out on you. They need to crawl back to the dumpee. If they don’t call you or text you. Move on with your life because if they really cared, and loved you. They wouldn’t have left. Love yourself not others because at the end of the day, you’re all you have. ( Besides family ). Your happiness counts. If they wanted to change, and need space why is breaking up their only option?. Exactly you deserve more, and better than them. You can’t change for your ex, and them. But you can take control of your life, and decide what path you want to follow. NEVER BE ANYONES BACK UP PLAN. They left for a reason. God bless you all. One love. 💯

I actually have a question about no contact.. I've been wondering if it works on short term relationships. To put it in to context, my ex and I broke up after knowing each other and dating for around 6 months. We broke up because of his fear of being hurt and told me, "I have hope for us.. just maybe when we've both become better people. I don't want anything with you right now. Not until I've either lost feelings or am ready." I want to respect the fact that he needs space and have been but am unsure of whether or not giving him a month is appropriate.

my ex ignored me and blocked me for a month and she got into a rebound relationship after 1 month no contact but then she unblocked me and messaged me with an indirect approach after 30days she said ‘you stay posting about me on social media’ and i ignored her, so she sent 2 more to get me to reply, i only posted a funny ‘meme’ not really related to her, was this her using this as an excuse to message me? this was a week ago, how long untill she contacts me again? is shes even going to contact me again or shall i reach out? i dont feel i should message her but im getting inpatient for her to reach outt?

i cought my partner with the maid and i just walk out,since then we never had a contact, it hurt me, should i contact him. what should i say if i contact him?

What if I had begged and pleaded him to change his mind? Should I still initiate contact after 30 days of no contact

what if i was the dumper, because i needed to see if my ex is ready to do something particular for me while i am ready to do any particular thing she asks for?! plz need an answer because i broke up with her but we love each other and i want to get back with her! and she said that i will be happy without her and that i made a good decision, and she went completely silent! :(

My ex didn't have a legitimate reason to split with me. It will take time for her to realize she made a mistake, however i will be moved on before that happens.

Hey , it’s been 4 months since a girl I dated for 5 months ended it with me and I got to see her for the first time last night and I’m still in love with her , she tried to speak to me asking if we’re alright and her friends were talking to me asking me if I’ve spoken to her , when she did I was very blunt and kept saying yes and it didn’t really go well , it’s her birthday on Monday and I don’t know what to do cuz I still like her and I don’t know if I did good to be blunt otherwise I would look for granted

What are the types

I dumped him but i reached out today and he texted back

No, I disagree with dumpee reaching out. Trust Indefinite No Contact all the way. If dumpee reaches out, then you won't get your EX back most of the time.

It has been a month that me ex girl didn't ralk to me because she blocked me what should i do

I’m my ex’s rebound but she’s my first love. How to get back with her?

And ryt now we are not talking to each other ...plssss help me out.....

A lot of you people need to just let it go. If they’re not willing to contact you they ain’t worth it and you need to value yourself more. No contact is more for you to heal and move on then to get your ex back.

My question is sooo different she ran because she’s in love with me trust me I know then she met a man only knew 2 months married him and wow so didn’t see it coming but she called me told me her true feelings her husband caught her and warned her not to call me so that being said I know we love each other she is lying to herself her heart can’t keep lying she is a mess since me I know in my heart what is meant to be will be nothing or no one will ever come in between us again I believe what god promised me will be I have to trust god and work on myself and I have I love who I am I will not chase she will come I trust god

My ex said wasn't ready for a relationship and I'm blocked so I have no choice but to leave her too come to me if she wants

Clay, he pushed me away.. We are in LDR for more than 4 years... He started lying to me, chat with many girls, even planned for an immoral meet up with a prostitute.. but despite all these, I forgave him.. He constantly tell me "Why do you still stay, I am no good for you." I always forgive him, to the fact that when I bring up the topic of walking away, he just laugh at it and saying... "You've told me that many times and you're still there." until one day my father died.. All the pain killing me, I decided to just make his words real and I walked away... After a month, I entertained a man which is he is so jealous with in the past simply because the guy is a Godly-man (which is so compatible with me) and the guy posted my picture in his profile and my ex saw it.. He contacted me saying, I am a user.. and all of sh*t talk.. I didn't respond and he said lastly.. "Sorry, enjoy your life daily." Then after another month, he made a RU-vid channel named "Jae GoldDigger" and he humiliates my new guy via commenting on my videos saying he is not a Godly man, he is satanic and all. After he does that, he never ever used social media again.. I am single, I just entertained the guy but not really take it to the next level of serious real relationship. I walked away, because he was so immature and he wants to do all he wants and it's beyond my control.. He needs to be free, I love him.. but I have to let him go... It's a total of 5 months.. I just always pray for him, hoping he is okay, praying for his protection and peace of mind.. I want him happy.... I still know and believe he is a good man, he just makes bad decisions in life... Sometimes I am hoping he will contact me... but I will never initiate the contact, even so I love him... I'll just trust the process, improve and love myself, focus on my career and be a better version of me... PS : I am 7 years older than him, which I bet is a big factor.

Hi Clay is there anyway you can give advice on getting back together with an ex after a second break up

You are right and I think this advice fits to my situation. My ex is extremely proud and has an exacerbate and foolish ego, so he will never contact me first, for any reason.And I really don't care about shitty mind games, all I want is to get him back.And I have to mention I dumped him.Question: shall I send him a short greeting for Christmas?

What if she was grooming my replacement, yet I dumped then said I regreted it then she is dating the damn guy now?

So my ex initiated contact with me when he dumped me and still calls me to this day because we are now stuck in the same college course...he’s a really toxic person and I’m trying to remain calm for the sake of college but I’m really getting annoyed of his behavior do you have any advice for people who have had relationships in college?

I ended things with him. I didn’t necessarily want to but I was getting frustrated with his insecurities. The day I ended it he called me 40 times in less then 2 hours we spoke but it was arguing. Well it’s been 10 days with no contact. We are not friends on Snapchat anymore, haven’t been for a month now but he did send me a message on Snap the day I ended it. When we were together and friends on Snapchat he never viewed any of my stories I posted which was like only 2 or 3. But since I ended things I have posted about 4 things on Snapchat in the last 10 days most recent was yesterday and I make it so everyone can see it. He has viewed all my stories. I also changed my bitmoji outfit yesterday and I added a black winter hat to my bitmoji. Well he viewed the video I posted yesterday and he also changed his bitmoji outfit and put a gray winter hat on his. I wonder if he is trying to get my attention. Since I ended things with him should I be the one to reach out to him? I am so scared to contact him, I don’t want to come off desperate. Ppl keep telling me if a man cares about a woman he won’t let her go and if he cares he will show it, he wouldn’t be not contacting you. But since I ended it does that really apply?

Hey clay see. My ex is contacting me first all the time first I try not to call coz I don't want to bother them so in my case I'm waiting for them to call me and I answer the phone every time they call. Is that a good things or what to do?

Do you have a video that explains what they mean when he says “I love you I really do, but I’m not in love with you as far as a partner goes anymore”. I do know he loves me, and it’s been 1.5 months since the breakup.. we have good communication right now and I believe we have a chance. I’m just curious what your thoughts are.

Hi clay thanks fr ur video...i just wanna ask 1 thing... my EX dunped me... its 7 mnths... i keep contacting her thru email cause i dnt have any of her other contact.. like writing her emails.. that m missing her or told her to cntct me..but she never replies me... should i stop texting her..am i doing d dumbiest thing..?? Or what to text her... pls help...and also tell me should i wish her on her birthday or not?

What do I do when my ex says she isn’t ready for a relationship because she isn’t ready emotionally and mentally?

Does this apply if she is living with the guy she left me for? Only contact we have is strictly about our children we have together.

Wow very good advice if only my ex watched ur vid and made some active no contact changes ahhhhh

Guys get a grip horrible truth unless you were an arsehole male or female you deserve it but if the dumper walked off without even trying to save your relationship or even try and say this is wrong etc etc, stop being desperate let them go use no contact for you, to be a better I dependant you, coz if they haven't reached out then you don't and even if they do so they doing it for power, give your self a few months, no contact is awsome if used correctly, I'm better for it in fact I've got to the point where I'm not really bothered about the other person, I'm better for it.. Truth a lot of the time getting back with your x is trying to hang on what was, no! Embrace what is now, not yesterday, stop chasing the person who walked out, you don't need them to move on. You are not going to be attractive if you are always dependant on someone else, use no contact to be better to be attractive relationship material, to be a confident you..

hey me and my ex have been in a abusive relationship for 4 years and she dumped me and left me for my best friend but have gotten order of protection against each other i want her back and to talk to her to tell her how I feel but i want her to realize her wrong too but should I talk to her first even if she blocks me out ?

How do you really establish the contact again? I reached out to my ex after no contact. We had a good evening. He said: it was fun, see you next time. I asked what that meant. He answered: two - three weeks or something. We broke up two months ago. I keep repeating the same pattern. How do you get past that? I can start texting about positive fun things, but then I'm always initiating contact. I can wait, but then I'm repeating no contact all over again.

Okay. My ex dumped me about four months ago and I have this strong feeling that he wants to reconnect but fears being rejected which I guess I understand. I’ve applied no contact ever since the breakup. I’m not saying him fearing rejection as an excuse by all means it’s just I feel like we’ve both improved and changed. I know that breakups are different but I feel like we both weren’t really expecting such a strong connection and we both just didn’t handle the relationship in the best of ways. It was not toxic though. Trust me if it was I wouldn’t be here 💀💀So should I contact him or wait? 😩 I want everyone’s opinions

As much as I like this guy and he does have good advice I think on this particular topic he is completely wrong

Now try this video. You just crashed your car, got a dui, lost your job....and then she leaves. How in the world are you not desperate for the person who just left you

He's right. The person I dumped never replied me because they were doing bullshit no contact even when I said hi here and there in those 30 days because they were thinking they are gonna make me miss them. Yes I missed them but because of this teenage bullshittery I didn't want my ex anymore permanently and I completely forgot about them until they started messaging me on day 45. I was ready dating someone else then. No contact is bullshit ntalk to your ex like a mature person don't try to manipulate them with mind games

He dumped me through text, and I was so frustrated so told him never contact me. So, is it okay to contact him again?

Hey clay what about if my ex she was married she was going to divorce her husband but something changed she didn't do that ,,she always say she don't love her husband for 5years now she loves me but she is afraid ,,,how will this work we have been in the relationship for one year en half then she broke up with me ,,,,now she is saying she just want to take tym then start things fresh ,,,

What if you work together and still letting everyone think you’re still together but they don’t really talk to you...