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How to Talk to Your Ex Again - Don't Make These 5 Mistakes 

Clay Andrews
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Clay Andrews (from relationshipinnergame.com) discusses how to talk to your ex again by avoiding 5 deadly mistakes.
If you’d like more advice to help you get the love life you want without the mind games, check out relationshipinnergame.com
Learn more about how to communicate with your ex in this playlist I made detailing some effective texting strategies for talking with your ex. It’s over here: • If Your Ex Is Ghosting...
And of course, please also subscribe to our RU-vid channel here: / relationinnergame
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When it comes to talking to your ex or texting your ex, there are a lot of things that you can do wrong.
If you can effectively reestablish contact with your ex, then it can really open a door to possibility getting back together or starting a new relationship together.
So, knowing how to talk to your ex again after a breakup is a very important thing to learn how to do.
In this video I’ll explain some important mistakes to avoid if you’re planning on talking to your ex again.
Now, most of these mistakes revolve around forgetting that your ex is a human being. I know that this is obvious, when you think about it, but you’d be surprised at how many people I see make these mistakes that they frankly would not be making if they actually remembered that their ex is a person who has their own fears, hopes, dreams, desires, and insecurities, the same way that they do.
Most advice you’ll find on getting your ex back on RU-vid is really about doing No Contact to punish your ex and trying to stroke your own ego. That’s fine. I’m not here to judge anyone. You can do what you want. But you have to be willing to accept the outcomes of what you’re doing.
If you want to view your ex as an enemy that you are struggling with, don’t expect the two of you to have a loving connection with one another, and don’t expect to get back together with them.
It just doesn’t add up.
If you can remember that your ex is having an emotional experience just like you, then you actually have an opportunity to get back together with them and talk to your ex by avoiding these mistakes.

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@ClayAndrews
@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад
Thank you for watching my video. If you want to learn more about texting your ex, please check out my playlist on texting strategies over here: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-vjGTQqUM4AA.html
@liefek
@liefek 8 лет назад
I find that u are one of the better breakup coaches on yt because ur not trying to sell anything. everything is in ur videos and u r really just wanting to help people with ur channel. thanks
@ClayAndrews
@ClayAndrews 6 лет назад
Thanks for your feedback but I have to be honest, I do have an intensive online program and online community for my members but I don't sell it or promote it on YT whatsoever.
@santiagozuletajaramillo910
@santiagozuletajaramillo910 3 года назад
Thank you for your great videos. Watching them has saved me from making, not just one, but a few mistakes when thinking about how to get back together with someone I really love. No sense just asking from heart alone, and no thinkiing; no strategy and psycology, so to speak.
@nanim502
@nanim502 4 года назад
I’m listening to this while playing Roblox i never dated anyone
@kchiang4
@kchiang4 9 лет назад
Clay, I am positive I blew it with my ex, and she's so angry that "the bridges have been burned". Can you make a video on what to do then?...
@EchoMaaaan
@EchoMaaaan 5 лет назад
I broke it off in the heat of the moment. I felt neglected, I was angry and literally had a fever. I was sick, so I wasn’t thinking straight. I called her out about a ton of issues, she felt attacked and said: “why don’t you just break up with me?” . To which I said “ok, bye”. I regretted it instantly. Now, almost a month, she’s been ignoring me. She answered a couple of times but she was VERY resistant. Saying no, i don’t wanna fix this and such. I tried not messaging her for a couple of days, but now I’m really scared that she just might move on because I’m waiting here twiddling my fingers.
@nicolec997
@nicolec997 5 лет назад
What if you never see your ex and they are in the 1st and 2nd stage? He’ll text me if I text him but it’s short and cold. But, he does answer.
@tspencer8489
@tspencer8489 7 лет назад
I think i might have.
@Sushiwill25
@Sushiwill25 4 года назад
You always say you’re right bag but you never wrote me back!
@yepeypo
@yepeypo 6 лет назад
im actually gonna send a msg to him then i saw this vid
@haigabavtqqtfafahg
@haigabavtqqtfafahg 4 года назад
what to do if he meets another girl during this process? like I started from stage 1 and just sent him first fb message after ANC. what if he meet another girl before we get to the point that I can talk to him about getting back together?
@tl7101
@tl7101 6 лет назад
Yeah, funny about the text example in the video. My ex is a vegan and he will promptly tell me to examine my head had I sent him that text...lol
@Zsuluap
@Zsuluap Год назад
Can you give some examples of good questions? now we got the theorie but no good examples of the right questions
@ClayAndrews
@ClayAndrews Год назад
Hi Jan, we cover those examples inside our courses. You might want to check it out. :-)
@ireneravelo4402
@ireneravelo4402 4 года назад
I'd like to ask my ex...when the time that we were together...when she came hmoe from work, she use to say I'm tired I need get rest....but now that we broke up,, she texted me she got home 9:15pm..but I saw her Online until 11pm,, what's was that..is she's texting other guy...or something,
@ClayAndrews
@ClayAndrews 4 года назад
Hi Shawn, I wouldn't let you overanalyze the "online status" of the person in social media. For example, even if I'm sleeping, my status in messenger shows active. So it's really hard to tell the person's activity based on their online status. All the best.
@nenitajones4985
@nenitajones4985 5 лет назад
when i first enteract with my ex was asking him hows his been or hows his health ..i took me to his dtawers and showed me his dr apt. lol well i asked whats its for .he said it was just his regular check up..and we talk about organic juice if he was been drinking ..he open up his fridge and showed me what types of juices that he was drinking ...and he offer me a set ..he sets in his recliner and he pull up the foot stool infront of him close to him .and we embrassed it was nice to be held by him..we still felt the love from one another .i pulled away and got up i kissed his head for some reasoon i dont know? Do you think it was appropreates for me to do so? instead grab him by his chin and kiss him on his lip?
@ClayAndrews
@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад
Depends. Why did you kiss him that way? Was it how you wanted to kiss him in that moment, or were you trying to make things seem or look a certain way so that you could look good or avoid looking bad? I would recommend that you go for an authentic expression of how you feel rather than the pretense of looking good or avoiding looking bad.
@nenitajones4985
@nenitajones4985 5 лет назад
i dont know why i kiss him on his head maybe i have miss his smell .lol
@nenitajones4985
@nenitajones4985 5 лет назад
when it was time to go home .he walk me out his door holding hand just liked when we were still together and open my car door and we kiss ..and i grab his butts its made him giggle ..and say your a crazy women we both laughing he said it all the time specially when i am playful towards him ..
@ClayAndrews
@ClayAndrews 5 лет назад
Sounds like he enjoys being with you.
@dudebro4421
@dudebro4421 7 лет назад
i did an active no contact... but i texted her after 21 days... shes still in her wall idk if i should continue to text them or back off and just go away for a while until she texts me
@ClayAndrews
@ClayAndrews 7 лет назад
Active No Contact is also about taking the time to cultivate your relational skills so that when you do reach out to her, you can effortlessly lower her reactance level because you're coming from a completely different mental and emotional space. 21 days of ANC isn't enough in my personal opinion, especially when it comes to honing the Advanced Communication skills . I suggest doing another full round of ANC and doing those exercises that I've laid out inside the course. Reach out to me and my team inside our community or weekly mentorship calls. Or shoot my team an email.
@aaronk3788
@aaronk3788 4 года назад
What if I did list changes? She has unblocked me and is calling me since I did. I feel like I don't care either way but maybe it's not all that bad if I did list my changes.
@ClayAndrews
@ClayAndrews 4 года назад
It' okay for our list to change. As we mature, our values and wants or needs in life do change.
@2rage
@2rage 8 лет назад
I'm 21 and my former girlfriend is 18. Do you think we're too young to attempt this?
@SuperZeinaa
@SuperZeinaa 8 лет назад
No way, the age gap is perfect
@2rage
@2rage 8 лет назад
People say we're too young and we need to explore. I wonder if they're right. I know of people who have been together since a very young age. I don't know I'm too young to be so dedicated to her (18) and try to get back together.
@loshabillospuntocom
@loshabillospuntocom 8 лет назад
+2rage love know no age, that's why there is pedos, but is true, love has no age nor limits and does not die, if a person tells you they loved you n say they don't love you no more, is a lie
@xMunkiix
@xMunkiix 8 лет назад
+Mii Rich Then why do they leave?
@edwardvandermeer7455
@edwardvandermeer7455 5 лет назад
21/2 + 7= 17.5. Iets ignore that rule and say go ahead!
@gregorythompson4900
@gregorythompson4900 3 года назад
I need help I screwed up big time in all the ways you can think of
@ClayAndrews
@ClayAndrews 3 года назад
I'm sorry to hear about what happened, Gregory.
@anthonywilliams1909
@anthonywilliams1909 6 лет назад
But what if your ex is an arse ?
@ClayAndrews
@ClayAndrews 6 лет назад
And you want to get back together with an "arse" because ... ? Or perhaps they aren't responding to you in the way you'd like or are they truly someone who you would consider an "arse" even if they weren't your ex? There's a huge difference distinction between your ex being a jerk and your ex IS a jerk...
@matesseart
@matesseart 8 лет назад
We have lived together for 2 íears. He has contacted me after 8 month no contact. Despite he had a GF. We had 2 dates. I have blown it after that with texts... How to fix it? He is walling me out again. I have asked him in email if we could get together... I have texted too much. I think he hates me now... I think I had the chance with him but I did it all wrong.... What should I do? the new GF is together with him since 1 year. They are not living together yet. He said that they are not so happy. Can you help me please??? I have initiated no contact...
@HagakureJunkie
@HagakureJunkie 7 лет назад
There's still attraction but right now you're too available. You need to live your life. He dumped you, he needs to earn you back. If he knows you're always waiting in the wings for him, he'll never have that fire lit under his ass to get you back. You don't want him as a friend, you want him as your lover.
@Hot18Shot
@Hot18Shot 8 лет назад
Shiiiiit, I kinda blew it. She actually called me several days ago, saying that she does miss me (she's dating someone else right now) and wants to talk at least once a week. I was cold, but told her flatly that she should know that I don't want to be "just friends", that I want more, and she said she knew that. We talked for an hour and that was that. But I fucked that up by badgering her these past few days like an idiot. *sigh* Should I just give her a week or so of space, then if she hasn't contacted me by then, I should try and apologize for that? I really shouldn't be too cold on her this time around though.
@HagakureJunkie
@HagakureJunkie 7 лет назад
That's a terrible thing to do. Right now, I would say that you just go about your life, if she hit you up once while she's with someone else, I would say she'll probably hit you up again. When she does, you say "Hey, it's really great to hear from you but right now I'm really busy with (some new project or something exciting) but I'd love to talk later this week. When are you free to get together?" Then plan a date. If she says no, then just say "Okay, no prob. Give me a call if you change your mind" then NEVER TEXT OR CONTACT HER AGAIN. This is important because now she realizes that the only way she's going to keep you in her life is if she agrees to your terms. She'll hit you up again, repeat the ask. If she doesn't agree to that, then you will NEVER ASK HER OUT AGAIN. She dumped you bro, she needs to earn you back. From then on, she'll either stop calling or she'll say "Hey I'm free this weekend." You then invite her to your place and cook dinner. DO NOT GO OUT. YOU NEED TO FUCK. The only way you get back together in a romantic relationship is if you're sleeping together again. DO NOT SETTLE FOR ANYTHING ELSE!
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