In cognitive behavioural therapy there is an interesting model where you learn that the only way to control your emotions (and the resulting behaviour) is by being mindful of your thoughts. A lot of the internal chatter that goes on all day is bullshit if you really pay attention. A lot of it is internalized voices of other people, fears, doubts, ideology or things you've come to believe that don't withstand critical analysis. But if you aren't mindful, you just go with it and that stream of bullshit carries you through life, decides how you feel and how you behave. I'd argue that one of the most direct ways to control your emotions is a daily practice of meditation (or some other form of mindfulnes).
Excellent points here; I started to meditate every morning a couple years back and the difference it makes in what kind of day you have and how you react to things, especially stressors, is massive.
Ghengis khan was taught to keep a blank expression by submerging himself upto his neck in a glacial stream. His was defined as cold face. It is essential to thriving in today's world.
@@TheCoffeeNut711 it's not about slaughtering people. It's about the prosperity his empire brought millions of others. It's about how he was willing to risk death and risk killing for his people. That's why we venerate warriors. like Genghis khan, Alexander, S.C Bose,. JOCKO.
It’s so sad. Nearly everything Jocko talks about is considered by the APA as “toxic masculinity”. I hope the next generation does a sharp course correction.
I agree. We need strong male role models right now. The tide is turning slowly but it depends on the maturity of both men and women. There seem to be more and more younger women coming out that are over this 4th wave fem b.s and hopefully the men that have allowed themselves to become vegetable lasagna's will get their stagnant energy moving and stick up for themselves! Strong masculine energy is not toxic - it has the power to destroy what is toxic!
@@2DGorillaz192000 and you think Jocko is toxic? He is a perfect example of what it is to be a real man. We need real masculine roles not toxic masculinity
supersongi and you sound like whiny little fruit cake. I said it’s “SAD” that what he talks about is considered “toxic masculinity”. That’s not my opinion. That is according to the APA. I strongly disagree with the APA & am saying that I hope the “next generation makes a sharp course correction”. 😎👍🏼 thanks for playing.
I watch you while I do my workouts and after I appreciate all the advice I hope one day to meet you and express how much of your advice got me through my life and tight times specially not having a mother and a father. Keep it going 🏋🏽
Jocko willink what a beautiful personality I'm glad that ur military have such a classy people in their ranks thumbs up all day long to echoJ@(KO$$$$$100% ENCOURAGE
I was in the Young Marines program when I was 13-17, and I remember something called "The Attention Game". We would stand in formation, at attention, while our DI's would attempt to make us break. If you broke, you PT'd until the last guy lost. I was always in the last third who did, but there was one guy who was a total statue that would have us pushing until we almost DIED.
Judicious use of your anger is spot on. If you pull it out when you really mean it, it is FAR more effective. This, I find, is also true of the use of the "F-Bomb".....Somehow, it has become the universal adjective. In today's society, it has become akin to saying "like" or "ya know".... If it is saved for when you really need to make a point.....it then carries more power. IMHO
Thank you for your service and your sacrifice, brother. I know you can swim with the best of them. That's the last man in the room. I would piss off. And I think I'm a tough guy. Hahaha
I have trouble showing emotions or having any positive ones.. through hardships, I conditioned myself to place them second; but i'm not surviving anymore. I've been told I can be either a positive or negative leader from a very young age, and my purpose is to be exemplary, an immovable pillar for my brothers to rely on. All of my relationships are founded on my efficiency, and I am happy to make myself appreciated through my actions more than my personality, but would there be a way for me to recover from a past that I built myself from? Something that I can do alone.. trustworthy people to hang with is fine and all, but they're just not around yet
I really had serious difficulty controlling my emotions earlier today. I felt victimized, hurt, betrayed. Pain. Anger. That said, things went well. No I did not turn physically violent, I mean I am 40 years old. But at the same time feeling victimized is no joke. Tired of this western world man shaming.
Interesting. This idea of normal face is very similar to how you deal with most people with personality disorder traits. It's called the gray rock method: You appear as uninteresting as a gray rock so then they go away and feel like messing with someone else instead.
Christ is the greatest example of Extreme ownership. Proverbs 25.28 A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls. 2 Timothy 1.7 For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.
What age should I expect my son to be able to control his emotions? He's 5. I work in it with him but I never had a game like that to practice. So thank you! Ive only been reminding him in the moment but it's not that practical in the moment.
My emotions are too strong. I tried to control it even in the military. Although I made some progress I still find myself saying weird shit and I prefer to be silent, but when I start to speak its faster and faster. It's weird.
I lose control with my brother and I have a hole in the wall. This is the first time but It’s it the first time I lose control. I really hate that I was not myself for a few seconds. I want to change that.
Hello Mr. Jocko, do you mind putting English subtitles on your videos? I can explain, here in Brazil few people speak English and there are still less fluent people to watch their excellent videos. If you agree, I can put subtitles on your videos, but I really don't know how to edit your videos to accomplish this task. If you put at least English subtitles, you could get a large following. graciously Cesar Mello
Yeah, he got them not too long ago, he did one arm first then started the other arm. Some of the older videos you could see one arm and the other nothing.
ha I loved beating my kids up this way Jocko ;) Don't worry peeps, they all used to beat the shit outta me! Loads of fun, fits and giggles. Thanks JW and EC xx
Jocko has a way of acting like he's interested in Echo's thoughts but you can tell by his body language (ringing of the hands)- deep, yet "humble" JOCKO breaths as he's moving back and forth in his chair just waiting for Echo to shut up and move on. Dichotomy..
You're flirting with a girl at the club and AMOG starts to talk to her, picks her up and starts carrying her away. Keep it under control, normal face, don't show emotion.
This dude is clueless. You’re actually teaching your kids to be self-conscious and overly aware of every tiny thing they do. They will try to self-correct more which just leads to anxiety and frustration. You don’t teach your kids by correcting, you teach them by being a shining fucking example and getting the fuck out of their way. Clueless, overeager parenting is fucking everywhere. These people think they are so clever too. They can’t bear the idea that the best parent isn’t the one that tries to assimilate them.
Yeah, don't teach your kids self control and self awareness. It's not like they will ever need those things. Oh wait. Those are two extremely important life skills.
@@kaylag5043 You don’t need to teach what you’re already born with. Too many clueless people out there that pretend we are like computers that must be programmed.
@@MrSilus2000 You aren't born with every skill, you have to learn it. What's wrong with learning from another person? Kids are very impressionable, so teaching them good habits and skills at an early age will set them up for success.
@@kaylag5043 You are born with the foundation necessary to learn at an exponential rate. It’s not about having every skill, it’s about being adaptable. Kids have this, adults do not.
