CORE WORK to help you HEAL from narcissistic relationships 

Wow! I'll try this... I know they don't care or listen... but I see this working! thank you!

I sent mine. Printed his response. And burned it. I needed that symbolism of realizing his words didn't carry weight as they couldn't be trusted. I didn't read it. Just burned it.

Helped me move on

They care, they love knowing they have power over you. Don't feed them. Grey rock to the end. Just don't grey rock your own emotional self..

@@LOVEtoPLAYdrums I did it a few years ago. It took two different letters that were 30 pages each, but it worked. However, that was just to an old friend, not to the main abuser in my family of origin.. A and maybe that is who I need to address. I'm almost 65.

She is Heaven sent💖💖💖

Dr Ramani has saved my life, honestly probably literally.

She’s amazing.

Yes she is a godsend 🙏🏻✨️

I always wonder if Ramani knows the amount of lives she likely saves ❤

Yes...

Wow! Thank you so much for bringing this back to me.

beautiful 🖤

Especially x wives🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

I loved his books.

100% this

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How are u now ?

Once I stopped trying to prove how he isn’t the victim anymore and turned my focus somewhere else it started to help and that also means cutting off contact, removing anything that makes me think of him etc. it’s rough sometimes but you get though it. Hope you’re doing better with this being a year ago 🙏🙏

She does have videos about psychopaths

Warmest hugs!

My thoughts too 💕

@Mama Bush love Little Shaman

Type in Dr. Ramani psychopath or sociopath or antisocial personality and about 5 or 6 videos should pop up. She has a podcast too where she interviews woman who got away from psychopaths, such as Dirty John survivor

Thanks for this!

Right on. Your last sentence really struck me: you can’t change what you can’t measure. So wise.

Very good, thank you for all the good advice! DR ramani is awesome

Where can I download the worksheets?

Also, after being a grey rock for too often it becomes your default

Good work. I’m in a similar situation. It’s tough.

Same here. Sending virtual hugs your way & hopes for healing for both of us ❤️‍🩹

Right, the children have to learn manners some where. Thanks1

Glad for you Stu and wishing you a happy, healthy and bright future.

Wow congratulations on your freedom and your new life !! I did that almost 2 years ago!! I don't regret leaving at all

@@amac2573 Cheers A Mac. And the same to you. Grow and glow! 🙏☀️

@@JJ-mh4xd Cheers JJ. Took me a few years. I ignored so many red flags, but learning here and on other YT channels finally switched the light on. I hope you are peaceful and free too. All the best 🙏☀️

Congratulations & best wishes for your healing and new beginnings

My past also. Only, I only woke up January 4th this year. But learning super quickly. I remember asking my uncle and auntie once, if they wanted to adopt me.

I hope you achieve enough healing to feel free to be creative and make some art! You and the world deserve your art. ❤

Oops You are into victim and blame. That gets you a pity party but not much else. I recommend that you realize that you are in charge of your life. You are responsible for your life and your choices. They were predators that targeted you. You were too young and naive and you allowed it. Everyone has their cross to bear.

Art has been hard for me to do because of my family. I keep fighting to do it though. The book “The Artist’s Way,” can help. I am about to read it again. Keep on.

You are absolutely correct.

Yes!!!! It should be a core class!!

This would all go over a child's head. They are not mature enough to understand this yet. There's no place for this in schools it'd just be used against other students.

I agree that kids would really benefit. This is a great idea. I was very emotionally aware as a child and read psychology at the ages of 9 on trying to understand. I would have been helped immensely.

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Same goes for me although I grew up in a loving and supporting family. That didn't protect me from marrying a narcissist abuser.

I hope you give yourself permission to rescue yourself and nurture your self as well. I hope you give yourself permission to walk away when staying only creates more suffering for all.

@@HanaRoad2 thank you, since I have never thought that I should rescue myself rather than rescuing animals. It was the reflected desire to rescue myself or the unconscious helplessness that I believed that I could never do for myself. I did not realise that I believed that I was never able to rescue myself.

Keep on listening to Dr Ramani and others like Lisa A Romano and Dr Les Carter. There is so much to learn about dealing with narcissism, and learning about yourself. All the best for your journey🙏👍☀️

@@sturobertson6791 I follow Dr Les Carter too! Both Dr Ramani and Dr Les carter has learned and helped me so much.

Same. This is really hard

I can so relate to the fog and to not trusting. I am having to be very gentle to me about trusting again. Just be patient like you are a traumatized animal. That has helped me to picture me as a scared little kitten under a chair. Coaxing me out with lots of kind words.

Same! I don't think mine was as bad as yours, but has a relationship from that exact same time frame. The brain fog, rumination, and finding it challenging to trust others or even myself is so real. Doing as much inner work as I can so that I can hopefully break out of the cycle/not fall into it again. I wish you best of luck on your healing journey!

I’m with you girl .. 4 months out after a sadistic 5 year abusive relationship from 16-21 . I have my BAD days but there is also shimmers of gold on some days :’) .i feel like I was robbed so much of my developmental years , but I also know he won’t be there to see me truly thrive … a life without him

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Healing takes time. Meditation is proven to help people with PTSD. I find help in prayer as well.

Its nice to read your comment because I come from a narcissistic family system and the farther I go in healing, the more I seem to find to heal. In the last year I realized all the anxiety was CPTSD and I am glad I am not alone.

If they are superficial then they aren't core wounds. Core is deep inside. Superficial is not.

@@rainncorbin8291 I think they are saying that the parents and family were all superficial.

There value is to harm other's.

Make sure he stays "ex". Hope all is better for you now

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@@TravisBryantNYC. is that a phone number?

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I also had a Narcissistic “Religious Spouse:” In the end, I refused to Go the Depth, as he expected me to Steal My Son’s Home out from under him! Nope! So, he assaulted me just hours after I shared that I thought I had Cancer, fracturing my Sacrum, discovering in the ER, that yes, my suspicion was true. In studying the Gospel of Jesus Christ in the Bible, I am learning to NOT ACCEPT ANYTHING that is “NOT of GOD!” … I can see now that these are what Dr. Ramini expresses, as “CORE VALUES:” Truth, Joy, Light, Health, & all that is Positive, uplifting & part of the DIVINE NATURE 2 Peter, Ch. 1: Faith, Virtue, Knowledge, Temperance, Brotherly Kindness, Godliness, Charity, & add Kindness, Diligence, & Humility. Side note: Rebuking the Stg4 Cancer, combined w/ a Miracle Supplement that My Holy Father Dropped in my Lap, has Healed that Untruth! And all in the midst of my EX getting into my home for 2+ yrs., & having me Stalked every time I left my home. After being thrown in Hell, I will never Go Back! God, & His Holy Spirit is now my Best Friend… I have found the one that my Soul Loveth! I now Strive to Stay Positive & Only Accept God’s Blessings as My TRUTH! Blessings to ALL! 🙏🏻

I wrote two unsent 30 page letters to the same person. It worked though

How do I find the video notes?

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@@EMVelez I never said that therapists are all helpful and kind. I have had some that are bad and it is usually because of a lack of knowledge. It is complex and situation specific. My roommate said it because she has the tendency to be irresponsible and think her parents owe her stuff as her form of fixing things. she has had car issues but basically refuses to pay for it instead goes out shopping kind of behavior. You also have to do the work to find a good therapist which can take years or decades not just one session, and then just completely quit, because it didn’t work. Therapy is not always something that simply works out. It can take life style changes. It can be a combo of things.

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I am really seeing a huge societal factor as well. I am thinking Dr Ramani is teaching a societal shift as well as personal healing work

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@@TravisBryantNYC. Rumi : Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I’m wise, so I’m changing myself.

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That is beautiful. Thank you. I might try it.

I am 64 and it has been a long hard life from my narcissist father to all the narcissistic people I, too, attracted. I kind of gave up on romantic love but i am learning to pick kind people. One thing I can say: its so much more peaceful without the narcissism everywhere even if I am alone a lot. Hang in there.

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Every time you are at work and those people bring up any topic not related to work you immediately change the subject to a work topic, if they don’t get the message and keep talking just don’t talk at all. Act like you don’t hear them, leave the area, go to the restroom, say you have to go get something else you need for your work, any excuse to leave them. Keep doing this, they will get the idea. This strategy is a form of “job grey rock”

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I'm right there with you, sister. But this is the best place to be, to rediscover the original you, like I am. The real you, before all the maladaptive coping mechanisms kicked in. Before all the rebellious acting out. Dr. Ramani and Dr. Les Carter are incredible free resources, binge watch and soak up the validation and learning. Good luck to you.

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Ugh. Your father obviously hated himself to speak to his own child that way. Disgusting. I hope you got away from them.

@@EMVelez No I did not. I was 13 then. And I didn't discover how wrong and dysfunctional my folks were until almost 55 yrs later. That's when I discovered these channels. The folks were both dead. That's when I discovered I had some self esteem building to do. I'm on my way and building my self esteem every day. Thank you for being disgusted.

I'm sorry 😢

A lot of people have deeply misogynistic feelings and, at 13, many parents are uncomfortable to see their daughter becoming a young woman. I am sure you deserved praise for your hard work and your loveliness!

@@EMVelez Nope. I stayed until they both died. And took care of them. I had surpassed everything they did to me. Forty years later I realized I needed therapy. That has been a blessing.

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@@TravisBryantNYC. nice try. you're a scammer. I'll report you. Just how dumb do you think people are?

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What a cool daughter!

I think the confusion of whether we or they are the N is because they work on confusing us. I have been told that I was wrong so many times that I thought I was. ( I had a severe concussion w/ memory damage for years). I was easily put into the mindset that it was all my problem. lol I know better now. Thanks to this site.

Hello, You have been seen and your not invisible! Sorry I can't send you a cup of tea and piece of cake.

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Hahaha! My spouse does the same thing with the lights!! I imagine he heard a small voice in the dark saying “still here…”. As he walked away. But I m pretty sure he never heard me. Haha. Does he also take away the stream of water while you are standing at the sink using the water because he needs it and doesn’t even see you there?

@@Calibri57 If it is at the kitchen sink and you are about to start washing the dishes may be try this 'Oh, your going to wash the dishes...thanks for stepping in!' Just a suggestion.

Oh, My word… I had forgotten about… The Lights & Calibr57… The WATER thing! How about the double-slap combo, “I’d be talking & having what I thought was a conversation (DOING the DISHES fm. a Martha Stewart Meal), & he’d Turn out the Lights as he LEFT the ROOM… Me, still talking! His biggest insult (I guess), was when he retired fm. traveling job, went out to eat w/ All of his multiple family members in a State where I have None… And left me home! And actually refused to ALLOW me to cook for him. The sad TRUTH… That wasn’t all… He had a Regular Rage Tantrum, because I refused to help him Steal my Son’s Home out fm. Under him! Nope! AND - Then tried to steal it in the Divorce… With a signed & notarized Pre-Nuptial Agreement! Dumb-A_ _! I guess: Demons all use the same Devaluing Protocol. What’s REALLY FUNNY (now that I think about it) … Because he signed a “Pre-Nup & then Raged for me to sell the House (our pmt. 1/3 market value), I THOUGHT he had Alzheimer’s & I just got Nicer & more patient, being a Faithful Christian Woman, preparing myself for the “Changing of Diapers Phase!” So, my Sweetness Drove HIM NUTS… I finally “Got-It,” when he Assaulted me & Fractured my Sacrum, after telling him I thought I had Cancer only mere hrs. before! (Cancer - Stuffing Negative Feelings & Pain, Denying my Pain!)🙏🏻💛🕊🍃Gotta add the happy ending… GOD is REAL, & being a Faithful Christian Woman… My “Holy Father has given me Miracle, after Boba-Fide Miracle, to include in the recent yrs.: Healing my Lil Dog’s broken neck, Saving me fm. a Fwy. Head-on Line-up, moments after I was impressed to “Pray for Angels,” & Healing Stage4 Cancer! Whooo-Hoo! Demon-Possessed People… Have given their best shot throughout my Life… (My favorite Hymn, “I Believe In CHRIST,” the last verse states, “I believe in CHRIST, SO COME WHAT MAY…” 🙏🏻💛🕊🍃

So true. My parents were fundamentalist Christians as well who were basically cult like in their rejection of anything "of the world". They told me that the world was a terrible place and then gave me no real skills to navigate it, so the world was a terrible place because I was years behind my peers.

@@amberinthemist7912 Looking back on 7 decades of life, I think there are some good things about growing up essentially feral. As painful as it is through early adulthood, we have to decide on things that many people take for granted. The world is not a terrible place, but many terrible things are accepted by good people. Because we had to learn through adult observation, we are better equipped to avoid mindlessly following the crowd when they are wrong. We can be the little boy in the story who says, "the emperor has no clothes." We have endured the pain of being different and we don't live in fear of it anymore.