fr. a lot of girls at my high school look the same by the way they do their makeup and it doesn't even accentuate their features. its the "trendy" makeup that drives them to do it like that
i really feel this, my features are pretty unique because of the way i’m mixed, and it’s a funny feeling seeing everyone else start to look the same as eachother
especially in Korea.The amount of surgery people get is insane and it's fucked up.I know not everyone there gets surgery but the majority does bc they so obsessed with looking "perfect" and if u "ugly" it's hard to get into jobs
I don't necessarily dislike the procedures themselves, but rather the normalization of them. It spreads the message that changing your appearance when you feel a bit self conscious is normal and okay. It shifts the focus from gaining self confidence and loving yourself to changing anything and everything you don't like (and only then can you love yourself). I feel like that creates an unhealthy relationship with your body. Just my 2 cents.
I'm a bit torn between that and it being good when celebrities and influencers let it be known that they have had procedures or that they wear wigs and extensions or that they use facetune etc. If the real problem is that people need to gain more confidence in themselves as they are then why would they need to care about other people "enhancing" their appearance?
That’s my viewpoint exactly! And I find it interesting that many people who have had cosmetic surgeries refuse to admit that they altered their appearance because they were insecure.
Completely agree too, it's getting to a point where its worrying and sad all at once. I hope this normalization stops at some point soon. On a personal level it makes me feel so bad, but reading about this issue, and quitting Facebook and Instagram has definitely helped me.
yeah i agree... it's also taking away individual differences because it's always certain types of noses or lips that are desired. i think especially features that don't look typically european (like noses with bumps, etc.) are being altered, which i find sad. we should be moving in the opposite direction of acceptance instead of uniformity.
I think beauty = status. If you are beautiful you will have a higher social status and be a part of an exclusive club and therefore feel more confident. In our society beauty and money are intertwined.
This is how capitalism negatively impacts society even in places where we least expect it. This particular phenomenon you mention kind of describes the idea of what some people call "social currency", and you're absolutely right that these standards disproportionately harm those who are not privileged to be born into great wealth. Really good points.
I like what Alana said about influencers/celebrities having a moral responsibility to be honest about why they look the way they look. It reminds me of how Bella Hadid maintains that she has not had any cosmetic surgery (even though anyone with eyes can tell that her surgeon practically copied Carla Bruni's face and slapped it on Bella). I mean.. this girl is an international supermodel with a net worth of millions, huge amounts of adoring fans and immeasurable opportunities in the entertainment industry- just because of the way she looks. She works in and for an industry that thrives off peoples' insecurities, and she is presented as the ideal that young women should strive for... but her entire appearance is cosmetically altered and it's only possible for her to be in this position because of money. But she still lies to her fans and tells them the way she looks is natural. I find this morally abhorrent. I think the Bellas and the Kylies of this world don't want to be honest about the extent of their surgery because it closes the chasm you were talking about, Tiff. It shatters the façade, and exposes them as being normal people, naturally no better looking than you or I. If people don't look up to them as abnormally gorgeous women, they don't have any claim to fame. But they aren't abnormally gorgeous women - they are average-looking people with lots of money. But young girls on social media can't tell. They look at Kylie's body or Bella's face and ask themselves why they can't look like that. And that makes me want to fling myself into the sun. In order to clutch at fame and fortune, people like Bella are throwing young womens' self-esteem under the bus. Because without surgery, Bella would be a "nobody" like the rest of us. I'm so angry.
Tilly This is all so true. It makes me angry when people like Bella deny having had plastic surgery because they're so unwilling to admit that they're as human as the rest of us- that they weren't born 'perfect'. Their entire careers are based on this incredibly shallow image, so if they admit that it's not natural, it's like they believe they'll be less valuable. At the same time, they don't care about promoting impossible beauty standards and making everyday people feel like crap about themselves.
@@tessmoffett5512 Imagine having an entire career based on a lie! Lmao It's clear the beauty industry is changing and people are pushing towards authenticity and honesty. Eventually the system that holds Bella up above the rest of us is going to grow stale and fall. I can already see it starting with companies like Fenty becoming popular and the backlash against Victoria's Secret. But for now it's incredibly frustrating to watch her make millions off a complete scam and refuse to admit it.
Just my opinion but Kendall and Kylie were below average before all the surgeries! I just checked who Bella was and even after the surgery she is not my type of beauty (kind of manly with an angular face). Gigi looks way better!
As someone training to become a doctor, I’m honestly amazed at how normal plastic surgery has become and how comfortable we are with it as a society. In medicine surgery is usually considered a last resort. And although it is definitely a lot safer than it was in the past, surgery itself and the anesthesia as well are still associated with risks. I really don’t think we should be willing to risk our health (no matter how small the risk) for the sake of being considered beautiful by a society whose standards of beauty keep changing and becoming more difficult for most people to meet.
I’m also training to be a doctor and I think that should be a personal choice. People do risky things to improve their lives all the time. Our job is not to parent people or limit their freedom.
@@orueom7720 It's basically: some celebrity does something bad and/or is prejudicial then people start to promote the action of not consuming anything they create ever again. It's kinda tricky to explain but it's basically just ending someone's career based on a specific case.
@@bingoing @bonsimsy @nuj it's not just that people cancel celebrities for being bad. More like cancelling the celebrities for being things like racist, sexist and homophobic. I get that no one is perfect, but people need to realized that consuming anything they create is an investment in them and therefore supporting them. People aren't perfect, but if you are (celebrity or not) expressing racist, sexist or homophobic things, I also feel you should be ready for people to express how they feel about you being that way. Basically if you choose to deny the existence of someone already marginalized, people have a right to deny their money to you. That's my opinion on it. Cancel culture is often executed wrong, but if people went about it right, it could really be helpful. Especially for celebrities who don't know they are being racist, sexist, homophobic, so on, cause they are often surrounded by yes-men, and will therefore never learn.
@@moodyflowers8740 it's not just that people cancel celebrities for being bad. More like cancelling the celebrities for being things like racist, sexist and homophobic. I get that no one is perfect, but people need to realized that consuming anything they create is an investment in them and therefore supporting them. People aren't perfect, but if you are (celebrity or not) expressing racist, sexist or homophobic things, I also feel you should be ready for people to express how they feel about you being that way. Basically if you choose to deny the existence of someone already marginalized, people have a right to deny their money to you. That's my opinion on it. Cancel culture is often executed wrong, but it could really be helpful. Especially for celebrities who don't know they are being racist, sexist, homophobic, so on, cause they are often surrounded by yes-men, and will therefore never learn.
I think what makes my stomach turn is when I’m watching Instagram stories and people do promos to use their ‘code’ to get a deal on fillers and things like that. Like spray tans is one thing, but lip fillers to your vulnerable followers who probably already compare themselves to you (the promoter) is just sad. They know they’re feeding off their insecurities and cash out on it.
Being physically attractive had always been and forever will be of utmost import for the overwhelming majority of the heterosexual women. It is what it is. After all, the genetic lottery can be truly cruel...
@@McSnezzly even tanning is fine in moderation because again, it’s temporary. Over doing it yes will cause skin cancer. But the effects of lip injections is often irreversible.
Does anyone else feel like social media has kinda normalized plastic surgery/injections??? That's how I feel. I didnt hear about it as much many years ago unless we were talking wealthy celebrities and nowadays I see the middle class splurging on cosmetic procedures. I want to place emphasis on this idea that I believe people should spend their money on whatever they want. It's nothing on me and everyone works hard for their paycheck so spend it on something that will bring you contentment. This is simply an observation I've made. Does anyone have any opinions on this?
I completely agree. I feel like cosmetic procedures are jammed down my throat anytime I scroll through Instagram. Influencers with massive followings that haven’t had work done are getting fewer and far between.
i kinda agree, i'm a teen and the normalization and body trends i feel begun when i was 12-14 and i got extremely insecure about myself and felt ugly because i dont have curves, lips or a small waist and nose and that time of my life left a huge dent in my self esteem :/
Not only normalized procedures but normalizes a specific look. Like a standard of beauty. Ig influencers all look exactly the same. And your brain gets used to that kind of look as normal. I imagine what that can do to teens and young adults...
I definitely know what you mean. I used to view it more as an upper class luxury but now people I even know are discussing wanting different procedures done to their face and I don’t get it. Because these people are really beautiful...like naturally they have great features and they just want to “fix it” and it’s so confusing and heartbreaking. At the same time tho I feel like I can’t do anything about it cause i’m automatically considered “cringey and hating” and that i should just “respect their decision it’s none of my business” but it’s like..I just wish these people (especially women) would love themselves more and spend less time on social media
@@joannavalavanis not really, although they can disappear over time, they also leave scars and empty spaces, or rather callocities around where the products are deposited, like people who live with bullets embedded inside, the body creates callocities that encapsulate the element preventing it from move, after all that is a strange body added to the body and also enter through needles that create resistances over time, as the fingers of professional embroiderers or the faces of children who are in some velic entity. Of course the products of today are different, improved and "safe" however you can not prevent the body behaves in that way.
My only issue with plastic surgery is when i notice that all girls are starting to get that same look, it’s idolizing the Kardashians as an “ultimate” goal. To me, the most attractive people are the original ones, something is weird on their face but they’re so confident about it, so unapologetic about the way they look, makes them beautiful. I wish we were all comfortable with what nature gave us. That being said, you do you and this is only about cosmetic. Some plastic surgeries will make your life and health better (some nose jobs, breast reduction and so on)
You do you, sure, but we forget that the reason we go under the knife, is because society pushes this perfect image. If people wouldn't feel pressured to go under the knife, nobody would do it. People should learn to love themselves for who they are, honestly. It's so depressing to see that more and more young people start filling up their asses with fat just because that's the current Instagram norm.
i agree...i think its different if someone changes one thing they're insecure about, but still looks like themselves - like for example, nose jobs can only do so much (as in, they have to work with the actual shape/size of your of nose - you can't ask for *insert celeb here's* nose) so you could remove a bump or fix some breathing issues or something, but you end up a slightly improved version of yourself. i feel its a bit different when people are getting multiple things done and going for this same 'look' that the kardashians and influencers have. i kind of wonder what will happen when that look is no longer 'on trend' anymore? its like when in the mid 2000s, everyone was getting huge implants, and then later a lot of celebs said they regretted it and were having to get them reversed.
I'm glad that you mentioned that not all "cosmetic surgery" is purely to improve your look. I don't have super large boobs, but I've had back pain practically since puberty, and they're also big enough that I have never been able to find a sports bra that makes exercise comfortable. Because of all this, a breast reduction is something that I've been considering for a while now, but there's such a stigma about it that I'm worried about how people will see me
but *why* does it make them feel more confident? this is the bit I have a problem with. it makes you feel more confident because you fit the standards of beauty in our culture more. and that hurts everyone. you get one non-surgical nose job and then someone else, who has a nose that doesn't fit into the beauty standard goes "oh, their nose is so much nicer than mine, maybe I should get it fixed". as plastic surgery (I'm including fillers, etc. in here) becomes more and more common, the standards of beauty are going to become more fixed, and I feel like they're going to get more extreme as a result. it's not about having an hourglass figure anymore, it's about massive boobs, tiny waist, massive hips. you need the perfect amount of space between your eyes and eyebrows. ageing is even more feared, eternal youth is even more prized. it's going to create wholly new splits in our society. the people who have had surgery vs. the people who haven't. the people who have enough money to be beautiful vs. the ugly poors. and, of course, this is mostly targeting women. and people with low self-esteem, and mental health conditions such as BDD. I'm totally for plastic surgery in cases where someone's appearance has been altered either due to illness, or in accidents, or via trauma. a person who has had their nose broken multiple times so it looks different to its original state should be able to get it literally fixed to look how it used to, should they so choose. a woman who had to have a mastectomy due to breast cancer should be allowed to have their breasts again. I used to be obsessed about my nose. I have quite a big, bulbous nose on an otherwise tiny, feminine face. from the moment I could compare myself to other people, I hated my nose. over the past few years, I've planned to have it "fixed" multiple times. I've looked for surgeons, I've looked how the procedure is done, I've tried to work out how to get the money, where I'd go, pinpoint the exact bits I want changing... I could tell myself all of the things I said above, but it didn't matter to me, because I was so wrapped up in my own insecurity. I knew I was letting the Big Nosed Girls side down, but so was everyone else who'd had a big nose and got rid of it. the only thing that got me to stop, and I'm always going to be sad that this is what it took, was a picture of a little Jewish girl from WW2 who looked like me as a child. I don't know if I'm Jewish or not. my mum says there might be some Jewishness in our family. but that picture of that little girl, she must have been about 6 or 7? and she was adorable and smiling. her nose was cute. is my nose cute? she most likely did not survive WW2 (just probability, I don't know who it was), and part of that is because of how she looked, big nose and all. and I just thought "I'd never tell that little girl she was ugly for her nose, and I've never faced any kind of prejudice because of stereotypes about my nose. why am *I* complaining?". and it's completely changed my perception of myself. I can't say I love my nose now. I still look at people's noses first to see how they compare to mine. I still think about how my face would look so much nicer with a smaller nose. I still have my habit of trying to squish and pinch my nose smaller when I'm not thinking. but I haven't seriously thought about plastic surgery in over a year now. I feel a lot more confident in my face. I want to look unique now, I don't want to look like everyone else. I really hope that I can help convince people who have perfectly fine, normal, functional faces and bodies that they don't need surgery. we need more normal looking people. you don't have to love your body, but you should accept it as your own, the way your own unique genetic material played out to make you. (sorry for the memoir, I just have a lot of thoughts about this)
I'm in the exact same boat as you, so thank you so much for posting this. It's a nice reminder that I'm not alone because, damn, it sure feels like it most of the time.
@@hopsfy you're definitely not alone! Honestly I'm just glad that I'm not alone too. It can be really tricky navigating the world with all of these thoughts, but I'm getting better at cutting out the "everyone else is pretty and I'm the ugly one". I'm glad I helped you :)
I'm glad i read your comment, it made me want to tear up a bit tbh. Personally, I too have had moments of tremendous rejection towards my facial features (my long nose, crooked smile, no cheek bones, you get it) and I've cried countless of times since i was 12yo because girls, boys and old men up to this day have made fun of me for not fitting the beauty standards that exist, in this 3rd world country of mine, plus the all-time latin american standards of beauty (curvy, long haired, "well fed" whole lotta woman) I'd come home crying wishing i looked normal, trying to eat more to look "healthier" even though i am healthy and practiced athletism all my life. Instagram came and well imagine me, i still never fit in. Most _if not all_ guys I've met have, as time went on in my relationships, rejected me. But in the end what mattered all along was MY perception of me, not being affected by what everyone else wanted me to be/look like. THIS is my body and all those features are mine to cherish and accept. I'm healthy and that is what matters now to me the most.
Yeah I’ve always compared myself to other people and wonder why my nose came out the way it did compared to everyone else. Why I felt like the only “ugly” person in a sea of people who are more attractive than me.
I feel you, I was always insecure about my nose, about my dark circles, pale skin, the shape of my face, and big thighs. My bff is gorgeous and I always feel ugly compared to her and I also thought of getting plastic surgery, but then I saw that many boys still liked me, and that people think I'm beautiful, then I saw that most of the celebs or the people I considered "beautiful" also had their insecurities and they had something done. I started to look around and see how all of us started to look the same. I don't want that, I'm a human and I have my flaws, but I also have my qualities. I love my big hazel eyes, I love my heart shaped lips, I love my eyebrows, I love my long thick hair, I love my height, I love my hourglass figure, I have so many good things to look at, so why should I try to change the flaws? The flaws make me unique and are a part of myself. I also started to care less about what other people think and when I go out with my gorgeous friend, I noticed that both of us get attention, so maybe I'm not that ugly as I feel. Also my gorgeous friend told me that she thinks I m more beautiful than her and she doesn't have much confidence, so maybe I should stop comparing myself to other people and become the best (natural) version of me. You are beautiful, no matter what your nose looks like or what some people think. Never doubt that!💕
IG has been so toxic to me over the years. I feel like I've been comparing myself to all of these influencers whose appearances aren't what they were born with. It wasn't until a few months ago that I saw what Bella Hadid looked like before her procedures. I'm glad that some people are starting to be open about their procedures, although it's making me feel like the women being represented in the media have all of these treatments done.
Mar Ovem I think you make such an important point about how we’re represented as women in the media. I’m not sure if you feel this way too, but here are my thoughts. It’s sad how much emphasis we place on our bodies. Being beautiful and smart are not mutually exclusive. But we’re placing so much emphasis on pictures of just our faces, or just our bodies. Our personalities and intelligence and wit is getting lost in a sea of narcissism. It can feel like a step backward when everyone who is famous these days are essentially buying their physical features and capitalizing off of that. It’s a talentless job that overshadows a lot of progression, and hard work, and good that is being accomplished by women all over who contribute to something greater than themselves (and instagram.)
@@melodyschnapp6455 Completely agree. I still believe that it can be important for people to dress up or put on some makeup and feel confident in how they look. Even though it feels unfair, people do treat you based on your appearance after all. The important thing is to strike a balance between feeling confident in your physical self and not being hyperfocused on how you look I guess.
To be frank, I'm pretty disappointed with the "you do you" mentality our culture in the U.S. (and many others) has about plastic surgery and cosmetic procedures. I'm NOT saying we should all judge people who get these procedures harshly, but I am saying that it's past time we examine why so many people feel the need to surgically/medically alter their bodies in order to feel beautiful. You're right that self-esteem comes from time and WORK. The problem with getting procedures done is that the underlying insecurity can still be there--it's why some people end up with a plastic surgery addiction. There's always something to "fix," especially as you get older. It's also one thing to want to change something about your appearance, and do so; it's another to promote it to thousands of impressionable followers. I think Alana's answer kind of says it all: she wouldn't have gotten these procedures done if they weren't free. And let's not forget: not only did she get free stuff, she got tons of views and definitely made money from these videos. (I've clicked on a few, and they are preceded by ads.) This was a business deal, not "Oh, I just wanted to be straightforward about getting procedures I've always wanted." Otherwise, she would have paid for them and/or filmed an "explanation" type video with a non-clickbait title--one that wasn't MY BIGGEST SECRET EXPOSED (real title)--after the fact. It's a little disingenuous for her to say, "Well, I just wanted to be up front and honest so that people know it's achievable and don't feel bad about themselves," when she also knows that these procedures are extremely pricey and outside the reach of most people. The problem with this--and I think you touched on this in your Facetune video--is that it actually DOESN'T MATTER if people know that the image isn't real (whether it's editing or surgery). Your brain still internalizes those images and comes up with a new normal, which STILL makes you feel bad about yourself. If you're an influencer that's going to talk about your procedures online, it's time to do your due diligence. Videos should not offer discount codes for procedures (gross), they should not have clickbait titles, and they should also be age restricted. Young girls (and boys) do not need to be watching videos that add fire to their insecurities. (Stephanie Nicole has done this well.) Edited to add: I'm of course not talking about people who get reconstructive surgery or another type of surgery (like breast reduction) they need to have in order to improve their health/quality of life.
Kelly Ament I used to be on the “you do you” side (even though I have no plastic surgery) but as time goes on, I’m becoming more concerned with how things are going. It’s very strange to see how everyone is starting to look the same and how it’s affecting everyone’s self esteem.
I feel like social media is at a point where they want to be inclusive, accepting of different looks, diversity and self love and acceptance. The same people also "advocate" to alter appearances with cosmetic procedures which is very contradictory and problematic. Either you think we should all love ourselves how we are or if you dont like something about yourself you should change it. Idk I cant take influencers seriously anymore, the genuinity is debatable.
Agree! Conventionally-attractive influencers who have clearly had cosmetic procedures going on about "love yourself" and working with brands on campaigns that use this rhetoric creates a huge dissonance. It's clearly just companies trying to ride the self-love movement's dick but it comes off as very disingenuous. So frustrating when there are awesome people out there online showing their authentic selves. It just tarnishes the movement.
Yep!! We can respect women who get work done without necessarily turning a blind eye to this trend. Its like everything someone does to themselves should be seen as okay and normal and approved of by everyone because deep down they know loving yourself doesn't have shit to do with trying to look like someone else.
Great point! I hadn't thought of it, but now that you said it I've seen this a lot as well. "Love yourself!" and "plastic surgery is normal!" don't really go hand in hand. I think if someone has say a birth defect or some other aesthetic abnormality and wants to look more average (for example a cleft lip) that's one thing. They are just trying to look 'normal' rather than 'perfect' (not that someone with a cleft lip is "abnormal", but it's far beyond just disliking your nose shape or wanting bigger lips.)
I just think it's hypocritical to promote self-love and acceptance and then post a video about your cosmetic surgery the next day. I'm thinking of Patricia Bright--she's a RU-vidr who used to offer a different body type when filming her fashion and try-on haul videos (she was rectangular, rather than the highly sought after "hourglass"). She's always been about promoting self-love and working with what you have ("if ya don't have boobs, you have clavicle!") , but then last year, she came out with a video where she basically got a fat transfer that helped her achieve a more "hourglass" shape (she got lipo around her stomach and then, got a big ass outta nowhere) but she refused to admit that the fat was transferred to her butt (even though it's painfully obvious). I don't know, when I saw that video, it just rubbed me the wrong way. Sure, get whatever you want done, but don't sit there and preach "self love and acceptance" to your audience who used to look up to you for your representation of a different body type. I just don't get when influencers do this.
I had a similar opinion on the RU-vid Kelly Sweet. She was a great role model for skinny girls until she got her boobs done. I do feel like it might of been influenced from the new crowd she's friends with but it's very contradictory to preach self love when you've changed what made you, you.
daniela I couldn’t agree more. Patricia used to be a big role model for me because she looked very normal (she was still gorgeous ofc) and still wore whatever she wanted. Now she’s changed so much I almost feel awkward when she says if you don’t have boobs you have clavicle.
100% agree. It taints the message in a way because a large part of self love is embrace your flaws and harnessing the confidence that mindset brings you which then in turn allows you to continue embracing your less than ideal features or, even better, finding a way to make that your strength. But that cycle becomes meaningless to your viewers when they see you've gotten rid of the flaws and skipped straight to confidence. Instead of loving what they have, they want to just cut it out
@@kyleighk4871 I see what your saying, but how do you love yourself completely if your willing to possibly cause more harm changing something that you "love" so much. That never makes sense to me.
I really really enjoyed this style! The cutting from interview to your input/insight was extremely fluid and organic. Even the webcam sort of feel like replies to comments you might get from people, haha. This was very informative and you connected with a gal who seems to be level headed too so congrats to you both. Keep killing it, girl!
I've thought about this a lot recently, I believe the normalisation of non invasive cosmetic procedures is toxic. Recently, I have thought of getting a brow lift and lip fillers but the more I researched it the more insecure i felt. I knew there would be no way I could afford multiple sessions which just destroyed me. Looking for these procedures and knowing I could 'fix' myself if I had money made my self esteem worsen. The promotion of these procedures as 'like a haircut or facial' is so damaging, it's completely untrue, these are surgeries whether they are non-invasive or invasive. It's an industry that profits of perceived flaws to make as much money as possible until they tell us there's another thing wrong with us. I do however think for influencers it is a bit of a double edged sword because if they're honest about what they've had done people will question their 'actual beauty', for lack of a better phrase but if they don't they will be called liars and deemed untrustworthy.
I’m all for doing whatever you want to your body but I don’t like how normalized plastic surgery is becoming. Most of the RU-vidrs I watch, have had work done. The ppl I see some nights I go out, I can tell had work done. Lots of ppl on my news feed on social media have had work done. I can’t even imagine how it feels for some kids growing up these days and seeing the way society is when it comes to beauty. I would not want to feel that type of pressure and be influenced by this fake standard of beauty we have created.
Sadly there will be many weird looking 40 something year old women in 20 years..probably with mental health issues due to continual obsession with their looks instead of embracing their youth and natural looks..perpetuated by the beauty industry and pressure from social media. When I was 20 something there was NO ONE my age having surgery. The way society is nowadays is fucked up in context of 'beauty'. I am 47....look in my 30s...never had anything done..never cared...I embrace my lines looks and age. Awful that young women do all this to themselves.....I doubt many of them will cope with ageing
This is so true i mean i'm 24 and when i say i'm still young so many women my age look at me like i'm crazy cause anbody over the age of 22 is old now...i mean what will they do when they get old for real? It's scary
@@evam6961 really?? Jeesus!! Scary indeed. As I never grew up with all that..I stll don't feel 'old'...I guess I'm lucky that I look younger but I wasn't indoctrinated by social media and this fake 'beauty'...so many self obsessed it's crazy and very very sad. You will be young for a very long time yet! Fuck these idiots!!!
I don't want to offend anyone, but people need to learn their lessons the hard way so I hope they'll see when they're in their 40s that plastic surgery was a bad idea and they will tell their kids to avoid plastic surgery.
I highly recommend checking out the work of body positive activist Megan Crabbe (@bodyposipanda) for more information about this topic! She's made a beautiful impact in my life and has made many blog posts about these supplements and the harm they impose. Really important stuff.
Something that always leaves me hung up on the debate of cosmetic surgery, at least in America, is that all these influencers go parading around as if they support "diversity," yet they only _really_ promote this (personally kinda sickening) amalgamation of different ethnicities' beauty "staples," if you will. To me, it has always felt like a sad paradox. We see influencers and idols trying to preach stuff like "everyone is beautiful just the way they are!!!" yet it has come to the point where 99% of celebs who are praised for their striking good looks pretty much have the same face and body (thanks to surgery) but different complexions and hairstyles.
I have a lot of friends who get these procedures done (fillers, etc) , and i must admit, it made me start to consider getting them done myself. I was talking about it with my housemate and suddenly thought 'what the hell am i thinking? I don't want to get these procedures done' and it's definitely the normalisation that made me consider it. It's a weird area because i can see how much happier and confident it's made my friends and i'm very happy for them, but I don't want other people (especially young people) seeing those cosmetic surgery posts and feeling how I did when otherwise we would all have been perfectly happy with our appearances.
As a teenager I absolutely hated myself. Every teenager goes through a phase of insecurity, but for me it was just unhealthy at one point. I wished I looked different and felt like I was too ugly to go outside. Then at some point, after working on myself and my self esteem, I realized my looks don't really matter. Of course its important to take care of yourself, but most people just don't care that much about how you look, because they are too busy with themselves. I got to a point where I thought: well I have friends who like me for who I am, so I can't be that terrible. I started growing confidence and for me that was really important for the process of growing up and becoming an adult. I'm still not the most confident person but Ive accepted who I am and I like who I am (most of the time) I fear that people will miss out on this process of self acceptance because of the normalization of cosmetic surgery. It's so easy to change all those little things about yourself, but if you don't love yourself or accept yourself as you are, you will never be satisfied. There will always be things you're not happy about, that you will want to change and I think that's my problem with plastic surgery. I'm not fully against it, but I think it can damage people not only physically but also mentally
I might be abnormal teenager. I didn't care about how I looked or how people treated me. I just really didn't care, when I looked in the mirror I just don't feel bad or good about how I looked just was neutral. Ya know?
I loved this! I'm so interested in this "instagram" face with the full lips, tiny nose, well defined eyebrows. I'm curious what the face 10 years from now will be.
I think like with all trends there will be major push back. People will start idolising individuals with unique features instead of the highly refined barbie faced celebrities.
I love that she pointed out that celebrities should be honest about getting procedures done. It's really important for people to know that the perfect nose someone has or fantastic breasts are surgically enhanced so they realize, as she noted, it takes the power from it and causes more people to pause before having anything done.
As the ability to alter physical appearance becomes more widespread, there is definitely a trend toward promoting a homogeneous beauty standard, which I find off-putting. I think that beauty becomes much more striking with a touch of something unique or unexpected, and to me you are actually a great example of that.
"Beauty without self-confidence is less attractive than ugliness with self-confidence. If you are confident, you are beautiful. If you turn to your friends or even to women who appear in the media, you will see that the beautiful ones, those who catch your eye and make you delight in them and perhaps envy them, are the ones who believe that they are beautiful. Somehow they have discovered that they are beautiful, and they radiate the pleasure of their discovery, even though their features or their figure or their makeup are not perfect. You recognize immediately their confidence in their own appearance. Indeed, I am convinced that nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is so.” - Sofia Loren
tbh cosmetic surgery (and especially promoting cosmetic surgery) just upholds the beauty standards that I feel we should be working as a society to dismantle. imo "fixing" a "problem" with your appearance is just temporary relief from a larger societal (& personal) issue that is being unaddressed.
really love this series, super glad I found it! It's super refreshing to find someone who's beliefs really align with mine concerning filler, filters, and facetuning. As a beauty influencer, I honestly havn't seen anyone in that realm who thinks like me about these things. Everyone supports fillers, butt shots and facetuning as "empowerment." For me, if I got any of these things done, I would not feel empowered truly deep down. What empowers me, is owning how I look, even if I do think I would look better with say, lip filler. Loving myself and seeing the true beauty in myself beyond that is what makes me truly happy. This is definitely a self-confidence and insecurity issue, and I feel like most people kind of just sweep that under the rug. I actually have received lots of Hate comments for my "thin lips" but I told myself I will never get filler because I refuse to fit into society's current beauty standard and allow it to tell ME what makes me beautiful or not. Owning my lips regardless is what gives me confidence. That is just my truth. I believe everyone should own their truth. To others, getting the filler is what actually makes their soul happy, that is their truth. But for young girls growing up, it's hard to hear the truth coming from your own soul when all you see is one type of beauty being promoted. That's why I have been speaking up more lately on my truth and bringing up other perspectives. And why I love what you are doing! I've also been really inspired by Jameela Jamil, you should check her out I know you'd love her! Weelllll I could talk about this all day (clearly) but thanks again for another awesome video!
I am no influencer but I feel the same way about accepting your body. I can't stand those new trends and I can't imagine growing up in a society that tells us we need lip fillers and butt implants. IMO they make you look ugly and all this work usually makes people look older. One time, a French influencer I follow said: "what are those people gonna do when it is not fashionable anymore to have a thin nose?". I feel like you can follow trends but this surely doesn't apply (and shouldn't) to your body. Not everyone has a morphology that allow her to have a very thin waist. So just embrace what you have and be the best version of who you are. Plus why would someone be willing to look like everyone else? Everyone has his own beauty. I can't believe people hated on you for having thin lips 😡👊
@@perthfanny3017 I totally agree! Ahh yes, people on the internet can be quite mean, but I believe in loving your individual beauty as well :) it just motivates me to continue putting out that message hehe
I love this approach! Good on you :) And you made such a good point: "But for young girls growing up, it's hard to hear the truth coming from your own soul when all you see is one type of beauty being promoted."
I briefly worked for a medispa in Montreal as their "media" person. They basically wanted to hire a blogger to work their social media but also to construct contracts with bloggers for medispa treatments. I left after a month for ethical reasons. They did a lot of work on celebs, there were NDAs, of course. Loads of movies are filmed here in the summer, so it is easy for celebs to do non-invasive treatments on the go, so to speak. It's sad how common this is as opposed to self-acceptance. I know everyone has the right to get work done, but it has a ripple effect on younger people on social media... etc
Oh yes, we love Girl Defined Ministries *soft smiles and nods* but in all honesty, this series is amazing and I admire you approaching these topics and keeping things real
For me, it serves no positive purpose to berate those who have had procedures already done, or those that are determined to go through with it, so that’s not what I’m doing here. Where I take issue with these procedures is where there are powerful and wealthy industries profiting off of vulnerable people. For example, even the language of "fixing one's face/nose/lips/etc", is dangerous and harmful and it disturbs me that people don't question this more?? I have a crooked large nose, thin lips, an uneven face, but /my face isn't broken/. There is Nothing to be Fixed. The ways we talk about appearance STRONGLY affect how we perceive others and ourselves, and can deeply ruin ones self esteem. There is a reason industries use this language. It is marketing. It is capitalist industries profiting off of creating perceived “flaws” that therefore “need to be fixed”... It is advertising and it has damaging affects on vulnerable people. We cannot pretend that the choice to get cosmetic procedures has nothing to do with self esteem and beauty standards. I see it as concerning for advertisers to act as if there is no calculation done by them to promote their products by deeming certain physical features as Better and Worse than others. These standards carry over to how we treat one another, how we see ourselves, even what kind of jobs we can acquire. Industries literally create superficial and by extension social hierarchies in order to sell products and procedures. This puts certain humans in a more treacherous position than others simply for things outside of their control, for how their bodies appear. Idk I don't understand how anyone can see these industries as not being as dangerous, harmful, and morally reprehensible as they are??? It definitely shows how deeply these standards have sunken into our society though…It honestly hurts me to see you view these issues as if there is always a balanced centralist moral high ground, unlike your previous vids I think you erred too strongly on the premise of this perceived neutrality.. but because these issues are so pervasive in society in general (and because these issues lie so close to my heart, as someone that has worked closely alongside and made acquaintances with patients of various appearance-focused disorders) I think a more critical perspective is honestly vital and for everyone’s benefit. On top of these aspects, you lightly touched on the unaffordability of cosmetic procedures. I think there is too much to say in a comment here about it, but the obviousness that these procedures are centered around money and thus inaccessible to a large array of people just further sheds light upon the capitalist incentive these industries have to create a narrative in which spending large sums of money to fit their standard of “how a body should look” is not seen as even.. slightly dystopian. If we present the action of changing ones’ appearance as a simple option, we do the great disservice of erasing the very real realities of those who cannot afford to undergo these procedures no matter what, and how this creates an undeniable disadvantage to many people who have No option but to live with an appearance that they dont get to "capitalize off of" unlike, for instance, Instagram celebrities who get famous for fitting these beauty standards. This creates an even larger divide of wealth and social currency, all while deflecting the root of the issue (capitalism) to force people to see each other or themselves as individuals to blame. I dunno.. I’m lost for finding ways to explain this any better right now. I just… hope you can take these points into account :( Beauty standards are brutal and toxic and to anyone having a tough time loving themself, it's not your fault. Industries have a capitalist incentive to make you see issues in your self so they can profit off of your attempts to "fix" yourself. I love you. You are enough exactly as you are.
Did you ever read the ya dystopia series Uglies/Pretties/Specials? It was exactly what you say, only the rich could be socially beautiful and it created this horrific society
I don't care that people get these procedures. What I care about is the normalization of it. Its cool that we no longer shame celebs for it, but that doesn't mean we have to blindly accept it as "better for your self-esteem" because its a "choice" (its not). Sorry thats messed up and coward to just accept something (the promotion of fillers & surgeries by celebs and doctors) just because its inescapable. Showing respect to the women who get work done does not mean we have to just chill when 20 year olds get procedures for free to advertise to young girls on the gram. Getting your boobs done is NOT like going to salon or getting a tattoo and should not be seen as an new way to love yourself. Loving yourself is not just about your appearance. Its also about feeling that you are enough which is the opposite of changing your appearance to look like someone you're not.
noemy emma I completely agree. I hate when people compare cosmetic surgery to things like dying your hair or getting a tattoo because often times the goals of those things are different.
"It levels the playing field"-- no, I disgree. It costs a lot of money and while everyone is allowed to do whatever they want with their own bodies, there is the worry of normalization. Could these altered bodies become the new standard? Will that be just another route for poor people to be deemed as lesser, because they aren't as beautiful even though rich people only consistently achieve these standards through their wealth? Do what you want but don't normalize it.
I think it's a good thing that people are open about their experiences, because as Alana said, it's better to know that someone had work done rather than think that they are naturally perfect and you're not. Though I think it's problematic when influencers promote discount codes and things like that because that could lead to one person doing the procedure before really thinking it through. I also think it's very important to present self acceptance as an option when talking about cosmetic surgery or treatment, because for some that is the only thing that will work.
You guys should watch Botched Up Bodies on netflix, it shows the horrors of plastic surgery n injections when done by the wrong person. Be careful n do extensive research!
Also I think people are jumping into things before really thinking about it. Instead of getting a nose job why not stop and think about why you hate your nose and try to learn to love and accept it then maybe look into more temporary options if that doesn’t work and then if those don’t work go into more permanent options. Take any issue with your body one step at a time before you do something drastic you might regret. For example I’m rather insecure about my chest ever since I was a child. Initially I tried to learn to accept my chest then I tried wearing a minimizer bra and then I started wearing a binder recently. My next step is to get a breast reduction. I didn’t just jump to that option though. I worked my way up when less drastic things didn’t work
In France, it is illegal for a doctor to promote themselves wether it is in the form of adds, social media posts... You would never see a billboard or an instagram account with a doctor saying they are the best and that people need to go to them.
I think about this topic often, especially because cosmetic surgery and procedures are so prevalent and normalized now. It is such a complicated topic, and with social media, celebrities and influencers are under the spotlight everyday for their appearance. People will criticize them for having a big nose, or having a double chin, magazines and blogs will post photos of their bodies and faces, critiquing every "flaw", that at the end of the day, it is no wonder these people are so obsessed with being perfect. And then when they do "fix" their "flaws" they get vilified for having work done, and even more vilified for not being transparent about getting work done, all the while people praise being "natural" but only if being natural means fitting into the narrow box of our beauty standards. I do think it is a problem when influencers aren't open about using facetune or having cosmetic work done, because like you stated in the video, their followers will begin to compare themselves to these bodies that aren't even natural in the first place. It is definitely a big issue. However, we as a society have placed such an importance on beauty and appearance, that it really is no wonder this is becoming such a common thing. Everybody changes or enhances their appearance in some way, whether it's simply overlining your lips to make them appear bigger or wearing a push up bra to enhance your breasts, or actually getting lip injections or breast implants, the only difference is one is more "intense" than the other. Lip injections can be dissolved, and breast implants can be removed. We are all trying to be more attractive, some maybe just more so than others.
I’m currently in school to become an Esthetician & one of the things we’re trained in is injectables. I saw this video and got instantly defensive but it’s a super important topic to talk about. I’m in a social media group full of esthetician’s and a few weeks ago we had a really good discussion about what it means to work in the beauty industry & still be a feminist and want women to feel confident the way they are. I went into esthetics school with the goal of helping women feel better about themselves, but am I hurting the cause by telling people that they need to change themselves to feel confident? All of these things are extremely hard to balance. Hmmm What you said about generally being insecure vs. being insecure about one thing are very different and I completely agree. There’s nothing wrong with a client coming to me to want to clear up their acne. They are still worthy beautiful and loved with acne but they want it changed so they don’t feel so insecure & that’s ok! I have alopecia and therefore have no body hair, so 2 years ago I got permanent makeup done on my eyebrows so I could have eyebrows without makeup. It was very expensive & is literally a face tattoo, but I am so glad I did it! It doesn’t mean I was ugly without eyebrows or a sad insecure person, it’s just a procedure that made me feel better on the day to day. I think this is a great conversation for consumers and workers to have. i LOVE all things beauty, I love makeup and skincare and all the crazy technology that keeps coming out to expand the industry even more. But I am also aware of the damage it can cause when it’s over saturated on social media and not talked about in a productive way.
I love these videos!! But just wanted to say that all the interruptions and disclaimers can get distracting and takes away from the video a bit. Be confident in what you're saying cuz we hear ya!! You don't always need to justify or over explain yourself unless what you said came out *completely* wrong
I don't want plastic surgery to become the new "make-up". Something you need to get in order to fit in, be accepted generally by society, and appears "professional". Basically I REALLY don't want South Korea's plastic surgery issues to become an everywhere problem. I'm worried about the ads, and we need representation of people who haven't had work done to remain in media.
Great video tiff! I’ve been following you for two years now and it’s so nice to see how much you and your content has grown and changed. These videos are so well done/researched and it’s clear you put a lot of effort and energy into making them. You’re work ethic is inspiring please keep it up xx
It’s interesting how people used to shop from magazines and mannequins. They usually didn’t know what they “needed” until they saw it on a mannequin or on a model in a magazine. It’s strange how this is happening in the digital world at our fingertips, and the things were being exposed to are increasingly superficial things. I think things ebb and flow with time. Thick eye brows used to be hip, our middle school selves butchered them to tiny lines and made that cool, and now we’re back to thick. I hope we make a genuine push back to au natural. You’re enough just the way you are.
Wow that was such a great Video. You are so well spoken, great editing, hot topic! Keep it up! Refreshing to see girls do something besides make up and fashion!
dude i remember i used to watch your old channel all the time way back then (there was one specific video called "a day in the life" i think? that i still remember). i just found this channel recently and it's so amazing how much you've grown up. i loved your content then and still love it now.
My sister saved up money when she was around 30 to get her nose fixed. She didn't like a bump she had on the bridge of her nose, and when she went to the plastic surgeon get it looked at, they x rayed her nose and discovered that she had broken it at two separate times in her life. She got it fixed and has so much more self confidence now.
It may be “less invasive” in the sense that you don’t have to be put under and the recovery time is minimal BUT that’s not to say that there are no risks. Fillers and Botox can be really dangerous, blindness for one. So less invasive yes but not necessarily safer.
My cosmetic surgeon was in his 60s, and I never second guessed his expertise? I think I'd rather go to go to an older doctor with experience than an "attractive", young doctor
I love all of your internet analysis videos so much. I think these videos are a way to make people think and have a sense of reality because many people get lost in this world of the internet.
It is a very "damned of you, damned if you don't" with influencers, so many people nit pick. I can't control them but advertising it I think is to much. As growing up in the 90's where super skinny and narrow was in I got harassed by being a strong jawed, muscular, and a little over weight. It took a lot to be happy being me. Now I think about my girls who are already different fall into the trap of being "perfect" especially when so much money is involved. Soon I will have to decide if my daughter will have second cosmetic surgery at the age of 5. Where I cycle, can I teach her to always love herself while I miss the prime time for it or make her struggle with self image less. Another thought is if a bigger nose makes people go have surgery I couldn't imagine how people with more noticable "imperfections" feel.
I never thought I would ever get plastic surgery in a million years, and yet I am getting a breast reduction in two days. I am so ready for the physical and emotional pain to go away.
Madeline E do you consider breast reduction to be in the same realm as cosmetic surgeries like breast augmentations, fillers, nose jobs, etc? I’m curious because I know that breast reductions are considered elective surgeries, but oftentimes they’re done to release physical pain. Whereas these other procedures are done for the appearance.
@@scribblots602 I personally do feel as though breast reduction surgery is in a different realm from most cosmetic surgeries. Like you said, most of the time, my case included, it is to relieve pain. I personally have had neck and upper back pain and terrible posture (because they are so heavy its SO easy to hunch without being aware of it, which I feel like could affect my spine eventually). HOWEVER, I would be lying if I said that I don't want the surgery for appearances as well. Being a small girl I am so self conscious about my boobs being so proportionally bigger than the rest of my body (they're a 32H/30I). Finding clothes that fit me right is a hassle and forget about sports bras and swim suits!! My only saving grace is that Dillards has my bra size but even then, the selection is SUPER limited.
@@madeline9538 I definitely think they're in a different realm than cosmetic surgeries as well. I've had family members get reductions for pain reasons, and I recently watched nisipisa's video on her breast reduction. Like you, she wanted a reduction not only for her physical health, but also for her self-esteem (having such large breasts contributed to her body dysmorphia). It's definitely an interesting dynamic that I wish was discussed more.
I am really glad you got to talk to her about this. Sometimes we forget that the people who do these procedures are real people and not just plastic caricatures. I mean we watch through a screen and put a block between us and them and say we're "not like them". But we have the same feelings about our bodies.( I sometimes give the cool sculpting ads a second look). I really liked the interview is all I'm saying.
I love your videos, i think you are really honest and you are talking about new things and important topics, you are also so smart and creative to be able to think of this ideas and be able to make them and explain them in such a good way :) i just wanted to tell you that i really like your videos and hope you always stay in youtube and make videos like this
I'm really good at spotting the fake but she looks normal. I appreciate the discussion bc that's the best way to handle such a divisive topic. Great job sis!!🙋♀️💃☝️🙏🙏
I like that you said that people can feel better after a surgery. I always had a low self esteem and still have it a little bit but the worst thing in my life for me was my nose. My nose started changing a lot when I was around 9 years old and it only got worse so from the age of 12 I was crying because of my nose. At the age of 13/14 my mom told me I could have a nose job when I was old enough. So at the age of 18 I had a nose job done (even mostly paid for by my insurance because I had trouble breathing) and for me(!!!) it changed my life. After the “reveal” of my after-surgery-nose I send a video showing of my nose to some friends and most people replied that the best thing about the video is my smile because I looked genuinely extremely happy. I feel a lot more confident now. Of course I still don’t like some things about myself but I can live with them, I couldn’t live with my nose.
I have thought of getting surgery several times, from about the age of 16. There are many things I would get done: nose surgery, jaw fillers, eyebag fillers, and a fat transfer. Most of these I only learned about their existence through social media, so I guess there is that. I honestly don't think I will get anything done, because realistically, I'm way too broke to afford it, and if I had the money I would spend it on something more fulfilling or useful, and I actually really like how I look, even if I acknowledge that I "could be improved". I saw a comment saying how normalized surgery has become, and I half agree, "normal" people are getting way more surgery done that before, a good portion of the girls I see at uni have lip fillers, but at least they're getting these reversible, temporary surgeries. On the other hand, I feel like there has always been a lot of cosmetic surgery in mainstream media. 99% of Hollywood people have had something done, even in the early days of Hollywood, all starlets had surgery, it is just that nowadays the conversation is more open and people are actually admitting it, when before it was all hush hush
Such a good point. It used to be a taboo, but it's being normalized more and more. Personally, I think that's a very dangerous road. How can we tell our kids that they're good enough when all they see is people changing the way they look with plastic surgery? I'm glad I'm a grown woman. Back when I grew up, all you needed to be was thin to be the "perfect girl". Now you need to go through all kinds of procedures and it isn't even frowned upon anymore: Fake is good, real is ugly. It's scary, really.
Well said ! I agree completely with everything you said. I have a theory: I think that the majority of Hollywood has done something (injections and/or surgeries). We only notice the obvious or bad ones. Even freaking Marylin Monroe had surgery. It's just more normalize now. I don't really have a problem with doing surgery/injections but I have a problem when celebrities denying it.
I love these videos! Im a communication major so I really vibe with how you analyze these topics/include interviews and open up the discussion in a more constructive way through your platform. Go Tiffany!
I think its bad, I won't judge someone for getting it as its their life but I don't think we should be changing are natural selves like that. I think we need to accept ourselves. I understand if someone is disfigured in some way but if you are not disfigured I don't see the point and to me people look better natural. I think theirs more beauty in are imperfections then being perfect looking as without that we won't look like ourselves.
I love alana and shes always so clear about the truth and loving yourself and how it's just her choice and how shes still the same person but just more confident
I had a bilateral otoplasty about 8 years ago. Basically my ears used to stick out and they were surgically sewn to my head. I was bullied so much in school and it has helped me immensely. I have researched breast implants over and over but I’m not as keen about them these days. However, my ears getting fixed changed my life.
Yes it is good that she is honest, and I know she claims she is doing all of this aesthetic work for business, but I feel like that is still psychologically damaging for her and other women..
I’m not really interested in cosmetic producers/plastic surgery, but I had a prominent mole removed from my neck a few years ago that had caused me extreme anxiousness and fed into a harmful self hatred. Yes, getting that mole removed did not take away my /overall/ self hatred, but it gave me a relief from constantly living in a world of anxiety, so that my brain was finally able to comprehend and focus on the therapies my counselor(s) were/are using to help me work through the trauma I had experienced earlier in life... I hope that makes sense. Anyway, having had that procedure, I can confidently say, it has only had good results for me. I don’t plan, as of right now, to have anymore cosmetic procedures/plastic surgery.
Holy crap, she got an incredible nose job. She obviously looked good before but now her nose looks sculpted by the gods themselves. I love her attitude and honesty about it
I love your content, this is great journalism! A very important topic to discuss when we are so inundated with pressure to conform our looks according to a particular instagram aesthetic - especially with younger, impressionable audiences. I like how you don't condemn anything, you tackle it in an analytical unbiased way, and just encourage taking a step back and thinking more deeply about things that may have unrealized effects on us.
I would be curious to see your perspective on anti-aging (products, medical procedures, etc.) and how it affects our relationship to how our bodies change as we age.
Turned on my notifications for my boo Tiffany. You make such great content, thank you for your research and your willingness to talk about tricky subjects. You're one of my favourite RU-vidrs, thank you for your content Tiffany! You're so intelligent.
I found your channel from your first video in this series and I absolutely love it! You're really concise, thorough, and objective even when putting through your own opinion; you always make it clear that you're here to analyze and not judge people. I think this series has been really interesting as we really still don't understand the full impact of social media on our self esteem and our self image yet.
As a teen girl who can't wear make-up due to having allergic reactions, I wanted to give my two cents on what cosmetics has done to girls my age. There is a sort of image that all of us are supposed to uphold and maintain when in public, especially in professional situations, or even simple mundane things (e.g. my sister having to wear makeup for a job interview at a fast food place). As someone who can't wear makeup to "enhance" my image and "make me look prettier," it brings a lot of self doubt and fear when outside of my own home, even around friends? As a society everywhere, the famous rich people can afford enhancements and "fixer-uppers," and in turn the rest of the women are.. expected to look like them. When we physically cannot without bringing an outside force. I cannot look like an average girl my age without putting myself in pain, and I will be judged on this when in professional and even normal situations. I can't bring myself to befriend pretty girls because I am honestly scared, I know that we technically look the same, but they're able to uphold the image of a healthy young woman who takes care of her appearance. I always though I looked sickly and tired, but in reality, it's just because I never used something to even out my complexion or brighten my eyes, y'know? I am truly natural, but it puts pressure and anxiety because I will never be as "pretty" as they are solely because I can't buy into "cosmetics make you beautiful." While I know that I am not better with makeup, it seems like everyone else feels like "they are not really them" or "they are not really pretty' or "they are not complete" without "fixing" something. And this is something as basic as foundation, mascara, and something on the lips. When it comes to girls who put on makeup to live up to societal standards, imagine what happens when they're faced with something like *medical surgery.* Because that's what it takes to live up to the HIGH standards of famous and rich women across the world. We as young teens cannot afford to pay for these procedures, and many of us don't even know that that's what makes these famous people so "pretty" to begin with. We wonder day and night how they're so beautiful at 67 or whatever, when in reality, they'd be just as "ugly" as us if they didn't have the money to pay for surgery. We are so young and easily influenced that seeing everyone who can afford it with the "perfect" lips, or "perfect" nose, or "perfect" boobs is really scary because of course we want to be perfect like them and we can't figure out why we aren't. So we get older, get a job, and suddenly we know and can afford to do something about these insecurities. I like what you said about the insecurities not actually going away after getting surgery, or maybe even after something "non-risky" like a lip enhancer. Because they don't. I felt SO much more insecure when I put on makeup because I know that that's not who I am, it's fake, it hurts, it costs so much to maintain and it makes me feel like I am truly ugly with my natural face. I know that's not the case for everyone, but it shouldn't be normalized, not even to for the rich. I think it's amazing that she thought that the famous should be open about what they "fixed" because it lets young girls like me know that we could never be as beautiful as them. It levels the playing field and gives.. hope to people who walk out of the house feeling abnormally ugly. Because we're not abnormally ugly, we are naturally beautiful.
Exactly! People can do what they please with their face and body, but it shouldn’t be normalized. Especially amongst young people. I think the normalization of cosmetics and cosmetic surgery have contributed to the overall decline in mental health. Not to mention, social media has facilitated the spread of these impossible beauty standards. I hope that more people realize this because it can be very damaging not just to others, but to themselves.
Yet another good video. I totally agree with your views on this subject as well. It's really sad that society basically sends a message to not accept your body as it is. Half these people getting procedures done, are constantly talking about self love. How can you love yourself if you're changing your body in drastic ways? Self love and self acceptance in this world, is becoming non existent.
I wonder why so many people question cosmetics procedures, but not makeup though? Women putting on a certain "face" daily (with the intention of making themselves look better) is normalized in most cultures around the globe. But doing it permanently is somehow seen as fundamentally different for a lot of people. It's the same concept though: don't like your skin? Fix it with foundation / concealer. Eyes don't stand out enough? Mascara & eyeliner. If surgical procedures like these lead to impossible standards and poor body image, then surely we've already crossed that threshold through makeup.
Don’t doubt yourself! Your interviewing wasn’t awkward at all! No need to point out the little stuff because it was totally unnoticeable and you did a great job 💜
I feel like you're not really stating your opinion in this one, because you're trying not to offend anyone. It may help you with a subscribers number, but you shouldn't try to please everyone. It's not achievable and not worth it. By the way, I love your channel.
