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I’m not trying to turn this into the suffering Olympics but I can’t take influencers seriously when they complain about how “busy” and “stressful” their day was when all they did was run errands 😅 like their “busy” day is a day off for most people
They’re “busy” because they don’t clock in and clock out. Every teeny tiny thing that happens could be content, could give them a boost the algorithm, could be an aesthetic post, etc. They feel busy because the internet goes on while they sleep, and while they’re awake it’s effort not to monetize their morning coffee.
Influencers act like they’re so busy when they’re doing errands, not realizing the rest of us also have errands PLUS A 40 HR WORK WEEK. They’re so out of touch.
@@elize2952 same here and that is full on sometimes no proper lunch break and I still cant afford the luxury they have for vloging running their errands 🙈
literally like they woke up at 11, did their makeup for 2 hours and then went to Erewhon as an errand and I'm going to Aldi AFTER being up since 8am and working my 9-5.
they’re in for a very rude awakening once they get too old for people to care about them anymore and their money inevitably runs out and they’re 40 with no backup plan or work experience. it is NOT a sustainable lifestyle. a lot of them are already going bankrupt because they live way outside their means instead of investing their money and act like their “fame” is forever.
I just went from a minimum wage fast food job to an office job, and even that was a complete change of pace for me. I can sit down when I need it. I can go to the bathroom when I need to, and I actually have a lunch break. I was more exhausted, depressed, and paralyzed by the "Sunday scaries" when I was working in fast food than my actual 9-5 job. I'm trying to remember where I came from and try not to be out of touch myself.
I spent many years working in retail, most of it in store management, and it was exhausting. I now work an office job, and it's a million times more satisfying and less stressful.
I fully agree that there is a flexibility and privilege to an office job that many people don’t acknowledge. But only to an extent. I moved from working retail/customer facing jobs to office jobs about 10 years ago. At first I was like wow, the flexibility, the freedom of just sitting here and getting my work done at my own pace, going to the bathroom and getting lunch whenever I want - it’s great. But I’m now at a point where my current office job is so stressful and requires so much mental energy from me that I’m anxious about it and tired from it even when I’m not working. It takes up 100% of my mental capacity that I have no space for anything else in my life. And I now miss my lunch breaks or only take 15 minutes when I’m meant to get an hour. And I don’t even get paid nearly enough for this job. Sooo I think there is the other end of the spectrum where I now dream of having my retail job where I could go home and not think about it anymore after work. (Also I am definitely working on getting out of this job because it is 100% not worth the anxiety and stress I live with everyday.)
I relate to this… I worked as a barista for years before becoming a teacher and while teaching is intense, I could have EVERY WEEKEND OFF & I NEVER had to see difficult students on the weekends… unlike customers I didn’t like when I worked in a coffee shop. BLISS
I'm in the same boat. Recently moved from hospitality to an office job and the change is crazy! Very grateful for hybrid and flexible working, but still I would love to have a job where I'm not on someone else's schedule for 85% of the year lol
I consider her more of a content creator than influencer but Weylie Hoang posts on Instagram about how she volunteers regularly at her local dog shelter! She's also posted about some specific dogs to help them get adopted which is nice.
@@nbucwa6621 Now that you mention it, I remember one woman talking about a voluntourism trip she was taking to Africa. But all she could talk about was what she was bringing on the trip, which included $100.00 Lululemon yoga pants and moisturizer that costs more than my phone bill.
An influencer’s “job” is essentially sales and marketing. They’re a sales person. QVC from your phone. The lifestyle part is the marketing - they put an aesthetic veneer on otherwise mundane tasks to seem aspirational and get more eyeballs on them (and more free stuff!)
Tiffany here I am, just watching and eating my sandwich, and almost didn't notice when ACTUAL ME goes by. I've been thinking about this topic a lot recently, thank you for packing so much into this video. (Off to light my candle then check that off the list.)
@@fbiagentfrank It's not just that they make their schedule, it's that they have so much more power and infuence over the AMOUNT of work they get. They get to choose which brand deals to do or not, what days/parts of their day to film or not film. That lady who was "in meetings all afternoon" chose to have those meetings because of the brands or partnerships they chose. There's something about not making your schedule, but being able to choose your work itself.
I think there’s naturally going to be some lack of fulfillment in life (even if it’s just mentally) when you sit around or run errands for a living, so that might be why some of them feel the need to make themselves out to be sooo busy and productive. The soft girl or cozy girl lifestyle is a weekend privilege for most ppl at best, not an everyday thing.
this is what i always think. most of them seem very unfulfilled and bored, lonely too. sometimes i watch their videos or stories and they’re always by themselves because no one else around them has nearly the same amount of free time that they do. i don’t feel sorry for them tho because having that kind of free time is such a luxury and they choose to squander it by doing nothing. if i had that free time, i would be doing my hobbies, starting small businesses, learning new things, developing my skills, etc.
@@coolchameleon21 exactly. people like to say if you didn't have to spend all your time working you'd be unfulfilled but a lot of us spend our time working so we can afford to exist and do the things in our free time that actually fulfill us. not needing to work as much would just give us more time to do the things that matter to us
@@y-tiplex this!! i would love to have all that free time so i could volunteer for causes that are meaningful to me and do the things i love doing without having to worry about slaving away just so i don’t starve. i guess most of these people dont have any passions or hobbies which is sad. i also think its absurd how they do nothing to contribute to their communities with all the free time and resources they have at their disposal. i’d much rather watch content of someone volunteering at their local soup kitchen or starting a community garden than watch them go to target for the 5th time that week
For me, it's the blase way influencers talk about money and about THINGS. They're doing hauls and PR packages and brand trips with all of this STUFF that just accumulates, promoting that kind of consumption to their audience, and we're just supposed to act like that's fine? Like having ROOMS of unopened, unused products and goods is supposed to be normal? Absolutely the fuck not.
Right! For me its like when they do their airport carry-on, its literally my entire camping trip budget but just in beauty products (that they’ll likely shove in a linen closet and never look at again, then they buy a whole new set for the next trip). Happy for them but I can’t watch bc it breeds insecurity. I’m not a materialistic woman, but I can still be influenced if I compare myself to others. Even old money people don’t waste things the way influencers do! They’re on a journey of moment-to-moment consumption that I don’t relate to.
I work 9-5 as a social media manager and it makes me cry when I see how much influencers get paid and they can’t even answer my email for 5 days or respect the deadline. They have no idea how much shit I get for them not responding or not even respecting a deadline.
The rosy thing about Mikayla complaining about working 6-5 is that she can choose to work less. She’s a multi millionaire now. She can choose to work as much or as little as she likes. Also yes she was working from 6 but a lot of what she was doing will be normal daily things (skin care routine, makeup routine, etc)
As a nurse we get up at 5-5:30 and get start we start at 7am and end 12 hours later if we are lucky we usually end up working an extra hour due to being short staffed and we are doing hard labour where people could die so she needs to be quite boo whoo poor girl has to wake up and play with make up all day.
@@meggo329 yep no kidding! I worked in social care and frequently did 24 hour shifts and did the same schedule you mentioned, this was 4-6 days a week because of overtime to afford my bills or to cover sick shifts. My office job is a joke in comparison
I don't even get how she got popular, everything about her from her face, voice, personality, its so unappealing and grating. I don't mean to like, hate but damn she's not even charming or good looking or funny.
The thing about the “my job is harder than your job” discourse is that its a distraction pitting working people against each other so we cant band together and fight the system that is making all of us work jobs we dont like
I'm sorry, banding together office, retail, warehouse, medical, construction workers is fine. But influencers? Who are essentially in the same class as our employers? No thanks. They don't belong in the working class, so it's always valid when we say that our jobs and our lives are harder than theirs.
I kinda disagree. Yeah, class struggles is important and we should never forget the real enemy is the system and those who profit from it, but some job are definitely easier than other. I would kill for a desk job after years of manuel work. Manager who are paid 3 times what i'm getting while sitting all day, definitely have it easier than most people.
@SaitoGray yeah but by thinking like that nothing get done because people will complain about x gaining more money than them and how unfair they should be paid leas ... instead of thinking ok good for them but my work is harder I should be paid more than them.
@@Kalitayy Yeah and I’m sure most influencers like or even love their jobs. They get paid an insane amount of money for easy work *and* get free stuff on top of it all. They are not in the same class as everyone else
I think a huge part of the disconnect is that influencers forget that their work isn't what really makes them their money. Their audience is what makes them money. They could work really hard and produce high-quality content, but without an audience, it makes them nothing. So with the complaining and just the overall disconnect, they are unknowingly biting the hand that feeds them. And the issue is that they arent realizing it, but more and more people online are.
yupp. and some people work really hard as an influencer (youtubers making long form content w actual equipment) and others post quick tiktoks and it’s always the latter group complaining about how hard their work is
So my best friend (I won't name her) is a huge influencer, like we are talking over 5 mil followers on her Instagram, whereas I am a physician. While I see how much she works, and the hours she puts in; the amount she gets paid/the free stuff she gets/brand trips, etc., is in no way comparable to the amount of work she puts in. I know my job is easier compared to others, but my job requires 48 hour hospital shifts, people's lives being in my hands, and I'm also over 500K in medical school debt. Recently she made 500K for two brand posts. Again, I'm not saying that she doesn't work hard, but I do think it's out of touch when she sometimes says she can relate to my job because she also has a crazy/demanding schedule.
I watched a video of an influencer trying to sell me clothes "for the office" who had very clearly never been to an office. As a 2012 club girl who wore blazers with mini skirts and high heels... We don't wear that to mess with excel spreadsheets all day. I'm looking for cute blouses that aren't polyester. Shoes that are professional but comfy enough to walk 6 blocks in because I have a meeting in Building G, but I work in Building A. Slacks that don't cling to cellulite and pantylines! Not bodycon dresses and stilettos. Also, most of the women I work with have kids... And subsequent mom bods because we can't go to pilates! We're too busy!
lol it's so true, I dream of taking off work just so I can do my errands that I keep putting off due to time constraints... and do stupid stuff like get my nails done and my hair cut!
Seriously. I teach special education in a title 1, and our city is like regularly on top 10 crime lists. I sincerely doubt being an influencer is more stressful. I love my job but it's not easy.
As someone who works 40 hours a week, monday to friday, in an office, I never let myself forget that that is a dream life for a lot of people. I work one job with set hours, and the only time I'm working on a weekend is if something got fucked up in a major way. It's still a job, and it's still demanding, but it doesn't change the fact that I'm in a privileged position.
I kind of dream of having a normal 9-5 office job someday. I'm a retail pharmacist, so it would be a significant pay cut, which I can't afford to take until my loans are paid off, and it could be hard to find something that didn't require some kind of degree that I don't have. But a normal Monday to Friday schedule with no weekend work? Closed for federal holidays? A longer lunch break (I currently get 30 minutes, which functionally means I have 25 usable break minutes in a best case scenario)? Heck, just being able to step away and take a bathroom break pretty much whenever you want? That sounds like a dream. I don't take my pay and benefits for granted, but this is simply not the type of job I still want to be doing in my 50s and beyond.
last time i got my hair done, i told my bf, "isn't is crazy that this is a treat for me and for influencers its an 'errand?'". Like errands are things I dont wanna do, getting my hair, nails, lashes, and lunch is a TREAT that only happens before I go on vacation lol.
Okay so... The part about influencers promoting a product that you need to BUY with your SALARY that they got for free and also they have much more disposable income... that really got me. I feel like I've been conned. What in the HELL am i doing buying a superexpensive product that's supposedly going to change my life with my hard earned money, when the drugstore has perfectly adequate products? i feel dumb
I don't think that's dumb at its core! We've been made to think that a higher price means higher quality - which it did at some point, but really doesn't anymore, so it's easy to get into the pitfall of 'oh it must be good cause it costs more'. And influencer marketing is insidious cause it relies on parasociality -- you feel like you know this person and how they operate! And at least some influencers feel more down-to-earth than say, regular celebrities, and both of these qualities create this illusion that you're being recommended a product because this person you kind of know is reviewing it honestly which also leads back to thinking "oh this must be a quality product!". It's all psychological and that's why brands rely on influencer marketing now!
As someone who almost finishes my BA and hasn’t found a job yet, my mom suggested I took advantage of the extra time and do yoga, go to the theater, make time for reading and organizing my space and tho this is momentary I think she suggested this because I’m used to structure and life without structure sounds like a dream but it’s also really easy to feel the existencial dread, it’s been a couple of days and I’m already feeling it. In that sense I understand the dumb influencer to-do lists because I do them too to feel busy. We get programmed from childhood to work from 9-5, December to December that our brains break when there’s no expectation.
Yes! I have been in this lifestyle for the past several years while I was in grad school, because the flexibility gave me so much extra time - not because I’m wealthy but because I was able to do whatever I needed to do at any time, and it created a lot of leisure and a lack of urgency or a false sense of urgency that made me feel anxious. Nothing matters which makes everything matter, and makes errands feel like work.
i'm unemployed right now after my ba too! it's entirely mind numbing and you do start to get the feeling of uselessness. i think it IS soulrotting if you have zero structure. i'm at the point where i'm literally organizing my pokemon and yugioh card collection & listing them all on ebay just to feel something
If I have 2 days off in a row where I don't do anything, I get stuck where I just want to sleep and scroll and sleep again... I have my days off split just to avoid that.
@@cniknik9863 by programming I mean more about time schedules, you can have a life purpose without waking at 5 and sleeping at 10 every day of your life.
What I find is frustrating is that influencers present this as grueling work, when it's just the reality for most people. And even the things that they present as out of the ordinary for 'regular people', like the stalking, threats, and scrutiny, also happen to 'regular people'! Ordinary people get stalked, ordinary people get harrassed online, ordinary people can face intense scrutiny. Lawyers in my office have had their lives threatened, people say we belong in jail, and we've had to call the police to the office because of threats. The negatives of influencer worklife are not reserved only for influencers, but a lot of the positives are. Also: Tiffany is absolutely GLOWING! Looking happy and healthy, love this for you :)
100% For instnace @ 21:11-to be fair, these concerns can apply to anyone, not just influencers...like I'm tormented by my own mind, and still need to get up to work my 9-5.
And while influencers get harassed online, they also get tons of support from their followers. When I got harassed and bullied on Twitter, not a single one of my 400 followers came to my defense.
Re. Mikayla’s rant - There’s a difference between waking up and having to be somewhere at 6am to start work and waking up and replying to emails on your phone at 6am. Not saying it’s easy to wake up at 6am but it’s just not the same as a standard job.
I used to follow several young women content creators. Once they became full time influencers I just couldn't watch anymore. I could relate when they had full time jobs and talked about making time to work out and eat healthy food while genuinely busy. When I see their workouts and food prep now I just get angry because I know they didn't do much the rest of the day. Or at least they didn't have the pressures they used to have which made me relate to them. In the end, instead of constantly telling myself "well , you are not in the same situation as these women so don't expect the same results" or worse "why can't you be like that" I just decided to fully unsubscribe. I am happy you did a video on this!!! Been on my mind for so long
This happened to me too. I followed a RU-vid with around 10k subs because I felt really horrible about my job and wanted some inspiration. I found their videos where they talked about their 9-5 to be fascinating and the fact that they were still able to have a smile on their face. Then they posted a video on how they quit their job to start a career as a self-employed creator, I felt disapponted but at the same time I was happy for them. It's not easy to take a huge leap like that and certainly not easy to be able to afford it. However, after a few months, they grew and became more established as a creator, they felt the need to post a video talking about their life as a full-time content creator and talked about how bad their 9-5 life was. Like, I get it, we have the objectively worst kind of fate for having to waste our lives in a boring office, but they really have to put salt on our wound.
@@Kalitayy your example hits the nail on the head and gets to the distinction @tiffanyferg makes between influencer and content creator. You can be a full time content creator but not fall in the influencer trap. I am thinking about people who keep making content in their niche after quitting their 9-5. The content actually gets better because now they have more time to do research. What I no longer found relatable was that now the videos were no longer about self-improvement or science or whatever the content was about but about what they do every day--complete with tons of sponsors. And as you say, it gets even worse when most of the people viewing the content cannot leave 9-5 behind.
I think a lot of these influencers are hoping they can portray their influencer lifestyle as similar to a "content creator" to gain some sympathy as part of the working class. Lots of people are aware of how hard many content creators work--researching, writing, filming, editing, etc--for usually working class wages, if that. It's kind of insidious that they'd try to portray their upkeep of their manufactured lifestyle as similar to someone who spends every day at their desk staring at Davinci Resolve for 10 hours. If they really wanted to, they COULD unmask the uncanny artifice of their lives, but that would defeat the purpose of their place on the internet! And they can't just not post either, so here we are 😭 posting to do lists that look like my depression checklist
"posting to do lists that look like my depression checklist" 😭 no because that's exactly how my to do list looks like when i'm not doing well, just a bunch of things i think i can manage for the day
facts. in my book, there’s a big difference between an “influencer” and a content creator. technically they may be considered the same thing, but to me they have very different meanings. i have respect for many content creators, influencers not so much
@@honoluluwmy executive functioning disorder does NOT PLAY and I’m not joking when I say that my todo list is usually 18 things long and at least one of them is “shower” or “shave” 😭.
The problem I have with this whole thing is the fact that so many people are working extremely difficult jobs/long hours/weekends and holidays, etc. and STILL do not make ends meet. I’m a nurse working 12 hour shifts constantly on my feet and I work every other weekend and holidays and most days out of the week, and I love my job but it is definitely exhausting and to see people post their “what I eat in a day” and then say they have a exhausting job is very oblivious to most peoples situations which most people are struggling.
The fact that social media has made every one of us a performer in some way continues to increase its myriad of consequences. Not only is it making us unlearn how to talk to each other directly, and making us compared everything we do and have to the other performances online (that are the ONLY things online nowadays), but we are also reaching the awareness of how much this affects life, and that awareness is making our brains short-circuit. Someone please just bully a politician into making a community center. Shorten the work day so we can have time to do voluntary work. I am begging for reasons to have fun or be fulfilled outside of my home.
THIS!!!! its a worldwide problem, we're all becoming disconnected and so isolated. nearly every human interaction is monetised and put online until it all feels shallow and worthless, human interactions are less genuine and more of a performance to be documented online. im 24 and out of school and i'm more lonely than I ever thought I would be, I wish I had a physical community outside of work.
Well said and the heart of the matter. I myself like to touch grass and smile at strangers, when I can tear myself away from mindless scrolling and commenting on comments 😆
You can always unplug. There is no reason to be on social media if it harms you! I do RU-vid and Pinterest. I’ve deleted every other app and never joined the ones that came along after Facebook because it was harmful to my life. I wish everyone could try it. It’s really nice to not have to feel like everyone in the world and their opinions is your problem. We aren’t made to deal with that.
The time I've been unemployed and just partaking seriously in my hobbies has been some of the most fulfilling and fun times I've ever had. I understand that a lot of people struggle with structure and being proactive, but if that's not your issue, doing your favorite things every day without worrying too much about money sounds like a dream
Right! I quit my previous job over a year ago and took a month to do absolutely nothing before I got into the job hunt. Everyone would say something like “you must get bored though.” Meanwhile, I’d wake up around 10am - something I can never do when I’m working - have time to make myself a coffee and breakfast, sit outside, play video games, watch things, read, sew, actually see the city, etc. it was the happiest I’ve ever been, I just ran out of money lmao
@@harliecurcio1705 it's fun for a month, how would you get bored within a month! But after a year of being unemployed I go crazy. So everytime a young co-worker tells me how much happier they would be without having to work, I'm like noooo, been there, done that, it sucked! And I have hobbies, interests, pets, community service. I can fill time easily with activities but there is something crucial missing without plain old work.
Everyone is so obsessed with the idea of "being their own boss" and after working for a small company and understanding just a few of the ins and outs of what all is involved- I don't want that shit. There's stuff you never even think about. All I want is a job I don't hate, that pays the bills and gives me enough free time to explore my hobbies. The influencer culture and hustle culture are so intertwined people forget they can just enough things- not everything needs to be profitable
This is a great video. I particularly like the real work/hard work section. My husband works on an organic farm. Minimum 8 hour days sometimes 10 hour days. If people like my husband don’t work, the population doesn’t eat. He comes home sweaty, covered in dirt, and exhausted. I will never in my life think that what Mikayla Nogueira does is in any way comparable to what he does. Real work, to me, are the jobs and duties that society needs to survive and thrive. We don’t need influencers to tell us how to feel and what to think and what to buy. We DO need farmers, doctors, accountants, food service workers, gas station attendants, booksellers, dog walkers, etc etc. They might not all be the most glamorous jobs, but they’re needed. We don’t NEED TikTok and RU-vid and Instagram. We don’t NEED a $200 lipstick or the latest trend just bc some girl with 20 million followers tells us to.
Yes this! 💯 say it louder!!! It's what I'm saying. Plus to add on I'm not a supporter of illegal immigration but if we wonder why there's illegal immigration going on is also this because when no one wants to do these kinds of jobs that's what's going to happen unfortunately. There's craziness and violence going on but it's due to no one wanting to do these kinds of jobs. Respect to your husband and for putting food in our supermarkets because without those things we don't survive. The 9-5 essential jobs are the new luxurious jobs today. What no one knows is that influencer jobs are so outdated already
i think that what influencers can do with their time to avoid “getting dumber”💀 is to do things that are outside of themselves and benefit society! they literally have “infinite” time and money. like no hate but why cant they do something that will help ppl?? stuff like create meaningful commentary/spreading awareness about certain issues, uplifting smaller creators, volunteering, DONATING! like i feel like these things can help build character and create cool content idk :3 its just soooo frustrating to see certain rich ppl with so much time, money, and influence do nothing lmaoo 😭😭
i’m sure a lot of them are not political at all on their channels to maximize how many people they can reach. anything like that is seen as political and might have some people angry or change the way their content is sorted in the algorithm. i wish they would volunteer or donate more as well.
They do boring things i also agree that it would be very good if they were interested in doing something like volunteering.. and i also think it would be great if they didnt want to post that online. Not everything has to be content for people to consume but if i had that much time and my money was secured and assured...a lot of us dream about that because we would love to spend time doing things that we dont have the time or money to do so. Like i would volunteer, i would learn how to play an instrument, i would learn some New languages, etc... Idk how they dont get tremendously bored and depressed of those days filled with nothingness of meaning in their lives.
What I find so scary about being an influencer is that they are completely dependent for their income on a company they don't know and have no connection to. In a 9to5 you have a contract, workers rights, HR, work council etc, but when Instagram wants to change the algorithm or is offline all of a sudden - there is nothing you can do! They don't owe you and you can't talk to them.
The term computer work made me lol. I'm a software dev - I'm going to call my work "computer work" from now on when I talk about what I do with friends and family 🤣
I actually understand that term, and use it as well. Some of my work is manufacturing things by hand on my work table, and some of it on my laptop organising lists and making files for cutting machines. My coworkers as well. In the workshop we refer to it as "computer work". I think the influencers use it in the same way - they have the filming and doing stuff part and then the editing and email part. When I worked in IT, all of my work was computer work so it would be silly to call it that, but it's not the case for everyone. That part of the video rubbed me the wrong way. It's framed as a "silly influencers out of touch, they don't get how all work is computer work" but it isn't? I'm definitely not defending anyone here, they do need to accept and acknowledge how their work is comparably easier than most, but we don't need to put them down for something other people use as well. Just because a lot of jobs are mostly done 100% on the computer nowadays, it is not all of them, and a lot of work is mixed, like mine, so it needs the term.
I started a fashion TikTok and got a small following. I got called an influencer and immediately panicked because I already was exhausted and broke from shopping to make new content. I had to lock my account and get offline!!
I did this with skincare on Instagram back in the mid 2010s; as soon as I built a small following & realized I now had an expectation of posting regularly, constantly buying new products to review, buying props to make ✨aesthetic✨backgrounds, and replying to a daily stream of DMs & comments…I folded😅 I was just starting to get PR, which was cool, but the money I was spending to build this was just wild. And doing this on top of my normal full time job was exhausting.
I wonder about this ...there's a few smaller youtubers I watch whose pace of buying $$$$ luxury goods has increased over time as their channels have grown. They're not being gifted anything, or getting sponsorships. I can't help but wonder how much their channel is feeding into the accelerated (well at least as I perceive it) purchasing pace and it makes me kinda sad. I really hope they're not digging themselves into a financial hole to make videos.
Add on top of this the constant background stress of knowing there's a hundred people just like you, competing for your audience. Having a soft week of posting can be the beginning of the end. They know real jobs aren't any fun, it's why they feel so much anxiety at the thought of maintaining this (unnatural) alternative lifestyle to avoid it. I feel like this video cheapens the idea that this is easy. It's too generalized.
literally had a few tiktoks go viral in 2020/2021 and the amount of insane comments I got was enough to make me not ever wanna be a content creator or influencer. you have to have a thick skin that I absolutely do not have.
I think a good distinction for me between influencers and content creators is which one would be more interested in me buying into their life. As in thinking "Wow what a wonderful existence, I want that." Then they plug a product they use or like. The people I watch do share aspects of their life, but they are more interested in a topic or aspect of their work.
I also think about if the creator is providing value in the content itself or just trying to sell me something. Sharing recipes, tutorials, comedy, insights, or is every video saying I need some product or invoking envy.
When I got hit by a car I made to do lists for the first months of my recovery at home that were like: do 10 leg lifts, drink enough water, eat at least one proper meal, take meds... because I was unable to get out of bed all day and it was awful and I could barely eat or sleep and having the list gave some feeling of purpose. It's hard to imagine facing one empty day after another to the point that you add "light candle" to your to do list, but you're not going through something unusual- that's just your life. Oof.
Yeah I had to take time off work for chronic health issues and I'm going to get surgery in a few months and my life is so fucking boring I'm losing my mind. I'm literally making silly little lists and planning meals because I'm just so under-stimulated. If this was my whole life I could definitely see brain rot setting in.
As a disabled person who cannot work a traditional job, there is so much social pressure to appear busy, to appear "productive." To have worth as a human being. It's relentless. What would happen to an influencer if they acknowledged openly how little they actually do? I can tell you what happens when disabled people are honest about how we live: we are treated with utter contempt, which is a step beyond hatred.
I’m also disabled and working full time (for now, i can do it for a few months and the end up going on short term disability 🤦🏾♀️) and i think the issue is that people forget that being disabled is like a full time job because managing day to day life while managing appointments and coping with illness and navigating accessibility issues is fucking exhausting. Influencers would probably get respect if they were honest about not having to do jack shit cuz they make money… unlike most of us disabled people .-. People are respected more when they have money. And when you have money, you don’t have to give a fuck about anything. You’re untouchable. Obviously no one should outright bully them but they can take some criticism. They’ll survive it.
@@SarahFletcher12 No, I don't think slacking off is respected when you have money. I am unemployed because of mental health issues AND I have family money funding that. People 100% look down on me. I'm not filthy rich, my lifestyle is very middle class, yet all people see is worthless leech not contributing to society. I'm pretty damn sure most upper class or really rich people work demanding jobs (managers, etc.) and would have no respect for some nepo baby living off of daddy's money while having nothing going on for themselves. I don't think money automatically grants you respect, at least not from people in your own class but those are the people you'll want to make friends with, sociology says. It is not as black and white as everyone thinks. I am envious, too of those influencers but I'm not angry with them.
@@SarahFletcher12 Scrolled down too far to find this! In a similar situation with disability and chronic illness, and this topic hits a nerve for me after having relatives say awful things because my to-do list is like 'get groceries', 'go to the post office', while my partner has a tech job working from home with a well-known company, and my day doesn't include hard important work tasks like they consider their schedule to be. If I had the capacity in the first place to be able to get the job and do the hard work tasks that would be incredible! They just assume you have the ability to do the same job but just choose not to, and that any reason you give to the contrary is just 'excuses' or 'laziness'. It has helped a lot to eliminate the word 'lazy' from my vocabulary. But I still feel shame every day that I can't do more and contribute and often feel worthless, since American society in particular puts so much pressure on work and having a job that's considered respectable and 'real work'.
Hell, I have no major physical disability (that I know of) and I can be pretty pathetic in the way I live too. Being seriously depressed and a student means 98% of my time is in bed on my laptop, either for coursework or YT doom scrolling, somedays I do nothing except play video games but I'm a brokie and certainly not an influencer
I have a teaching job right now (not in the US) where I KNOW I'm 100% replaceable. None of my skills in child development or education are being utilized. It makes me feel like shit. My last job was so much more fulfilling being an assistant teacher, and I've gotten messages from the teachers and students months later about how they miss me. But I could not stay at that job because of finances and the fact that it was wayy to stressful. I truly have no idea how I can be happy at a job. I have no concept of that. Seeing influences complain is so soul grating.
Jobs don’t make you happy. There is no perfect job. That’s a myth. Happiness comes from hobbies, friendships and being comfortable in our own skin. That comes with maturity and wisdom. I was never happy in my twenties but I’m very content and fulfilled in my 50’s. I’m also retired…..
@@Ali-gb7mf What about "If you love your job you'll never work a day in your life"? I think some people are lucky enough to find a job they love that pays enough (though this is not the norm)
@@Ali-gb7mf I would argue that that is just your perspective. Of course there is no such thing as a perfect job, just like there is no such thing as a perfect life but everyone should feel some happiness and fullfilment in their job. Of course some days are going to be harder than others and people face all kinds of challenges in their work but people do need to like their job at least on some level otherwise they are going to burnout and their mental, emotional and physical wellbeing will go down the drain. Moreover, I feel most people feel more happy and fulfilled later on in life than they do in their twenties but that has less to do with their job and more with the fact that they are more sure of themselves, don't care what others think and stop feeling the pressure of having everything figured out.
@@Ali-gb7mfI think there are jobs that fit people better than others. I taught for 15 years even though it made me miserable. I’ve been in a new job working from home for a year now and some people in the same job hate it, but I love it more than I ever did teaching even in my first year. I am so very glad I didn’t wait until I retired. I’m in my 30’s and have energy now to invest in the things you mentioned. Before, my job left me devoid of life.
@@Ali-gb7mf I respectfully disagree. All "the good stuff" like family, friends, hobbies and being happy with yourself is integral, but for a fulfilled life also need the ugly part, doing what you do not because you want to but because someone has to (like changing adult diapers for a living in my case). I was happy but unfulfilled when I only had the good stuff going
i watch a few influencer’s stories sometimes and literally all they do is run errands. like their entire day comprises of getting up at 10 AM, maybe going to the gym, and shopping. they do this every single day and get paid more than i ever will
We need to not watch their stories because literally the reason they get paid to do nothing, is BECAUSE we are watching! We are funding them without realising it 😭
Their whole deal is being misleading about their *actual* lifestyle--you can't believe they really live like this just because it's in a video. A few are making bank, but a lot of them are going into debt, returning products after filming, renting locations, all kinds of stuff they won't talk about.
I am a freelancer. Right now I'm incredibly lucky to have two absolutely untouchable 10 hour "work days" during the week, 3 kinda flexible days where I aim to work for at least 3 - 5 hours or work per day so I can take care of chores and errands, take some time to cook a proper meal for lunch, and so on, while also giving myself a (usually) untouchable weekend. This is pure luxury compared to the day jobs I had the years before that and yet I would NEVER consider my flex days as busy. I knew what busy was when I worked for 8,5 hours on 5 days a week and had to take care of typical household stuff. And even that lifestyle is comparable easy when you think that there are single parents with 2 jobs. I imagine being an influencer is highly taxing on their minds, remembering to film everything in order to have enough content, being on top of trends, managing their own image while also protecting themself while being outside when the camera is off. I don't envy those kind of content creators, but sometimes I wish they would not vocalise every thought they have 😅
To some extent, the “busy” schedule content feels like rage bait. They know people will be mad and make their feelings known in the comments… and that helps with the algorithm and engagement metrics.
I always think about this because I’m a flight attendant and have a VERY flexible schedule. I’m about to be off until August 12th to fly down south to be with family and have a lot of family events. But I have the ability to do that because of my job. I stack trips to the beginning of one month and the end of the next so I have a full straight 30 days off. So I totally get the frustration when it comes to influencers. I recognize that I don’t have to work as much with my job because of the way our payscale works and my seniority making it way more flexible for me. That’s why I love my job and don’t want to “use my degree” to have a management position when this job gives me freedom and flexibility. They are just so chronically online and don’t see how many people suffer day to day in their work life. I see people all the time having to fly to another state to work every week and it sucks. They are always on their laptop working and I wouldn’t wish that on myself for anything. I will gladly make sure they have a comfortable flight.
A weird off topic question but - do they make you wear makeup? I was talking to someone about 10 years ago who had a daughter in flight attendant school and she said makeup was mandatory. As someone who's only worn mascara and lip balm that's a no from me dog lol.
I learned this in my twenties. Atleast in American culture where I live, every human here is tired and soooo busy and soooo stressed. It does not matter if they have literally nothing to do or have a full-time job and colicy twin babies up all night. I said I was tired when I was young and had no kids, slept all night, had no job. 😂
this is so accurate. Everyone adapts to what they are currently doing. I work as a teacher and I always see people in other industries say teachers are pretty insufferable to work with but it's because we do so many more tasks in a day than a desk job and then have a hard time understanding how you cannot answer an email when you are literally sitting at a desk all day. Same with influencers. What they have adapted to as a normal day is not normal to other people.
This is so true. I followed a girl who was in a 9/5 and posted content on the side. She was so relatable and fun and I loved watching her life. She then quit to become a full time influencer and I suddenly stopped watching. She was unbearably out of touch, and just another copy of any other full time influencer trying to sell the perfect dream life. 😢
I've seen a definition where they said a content creator sells their own creations (for example pdf files, courses, personal coaching, their own craft items) that they create videos about, while an influencer only sells other's creations (affiliate links, sponsorships, lifestyle n stuff). I've been so frustrated with all these out of touch people for so long, so happy to see your video and see that others feel the same. Like "just wake up an hour earlier, at 7 instead of 8, use that extra hour to better yourself and work on a business or something" birch I've been getting up at 5 for years just to be able to drop off the kids at daycare/school and arrive at my 8 to 5 work by 9, where's my millions.
That video from Mikayla noguiera really disgusted me. I’m a costume department PA for film and tv and our normal schedule is12 hours a day 5 days a week. We are busy the entire day nonstop and make minimum wage. And I considered myself incredibly lucky and I’m so grateful for the opportunity to have this job because it is a gateway to my dream job and I genuinely enjoy being a part of it.
It makes me think of MLM people and the weird paradox where they're simultaneously grinding so hard all the time, but also if you join their scheme you'll have so much free time and can make your own schedule etc 🤔
The "secret" is that if you join their scheme, then THEY will have more free time, as they will have passed their burden onto you to some extent and get a cut of your commission. It's like The Ring. They have to find somebody to pass the curse to.
I think the hilarious thing about the question “do viewers even want to see the behind the scenes” is that the whole point of vlogs is to see the behind the scenes. once you become a “full-time influencer” vlogs become a caricature of behind the scenes content, just in “influencer” font of staged busyness while maintaining an all-you-can-consume food/media/product diet
as someone who works as a writer from home self employed, I think it's also about the amount you FEEL like you work. If I keep a part time day job, my work load feels managable, but when I work purly my job that pays my bills, even if I only work 8 hours a day I never feel like I work less than 10. Sometimes it feels like I constantly work and never take a break.
My older sister is an influencer. I can see how stressful and hectic it is for her, things that sound fun or easy can still be laborious when you’re doing it as a job (I got burnt out working on a comic but I’m sure people can’t comprehend how “drawing can be tiring”). It’s a hustle, especially when you work mostly alone and you’re trying to stay relevant in a now fickle online space. At the same time, the job does have its luxuries and maybe it’s just my sister’s character tick, but uh… people aren’t exactly fond of how much she gripes about her job. Complaining about getting too many free things or having to attend too many events comes off as out of touch. When most of us can barely squeeze in errands in between work/school, it’s a bit hard to listen to someone complain about a lifestyle that has perks the rest of us can’t have.
I’m a cosplayer and I 100% agree, sewing costumes sculpting clay and worbla and painting on the hard garage floor in 110 F heat for hours on my only days off actually is hard. I hope to win enough competitions to sell my props for decent prices one day, it’s difficult but damn do I love it!
Yeah, and I think that's why they honestly should end up with an influencer bubble. I think everybody needs someone to complain to, but complaining about some stuff is inappropriate in some scenarios.
I work 2 jobs, one "traditional" 9-5 and another job in retail. I don't get a weekend. The idea of sunday scaries in itself is middle-class privilege. There is an even lower sect of worker who get weekdays off, or no days off, not because they dictate their schedule, but because they have to work multiple jobs to make ends meet.
I think it’s nearly impossible not to become shallow and un relatable as a lifestyle influencer when gaining massive success. It takes a strong characters very solid ability to self analyze (and constructively self criticize) to stay relatable
I will say as someone who transitioned out of service industry work (coffee shops, restaurants, retail, etc) and moved into a corporate job, some service industry friends envied my ability to make more money, not have to fight for working hours, and live a more structured lifestyle. Earning more also gave me lifestyle inflation so I can see your point of how the farther you get from the working class, the harder it is to be relatable and in touch.
I think the frustration ultimately comes down to the money side of things. People would be a lot less critical/frustrated with influencers if they weren't making millions. It's hard to empathize with the complaints of someone who can't relate to the largest struggle in life for us "regular people".
My favorite influencers or lifestyle creators are the normal people who just record their life. Like a person with a job and family. I think it’s just nice to see people from all over the world just living normal lives.
Reality tv (the Kardashians being a perfect example) has strongly influenced society to the point where people turn the most random tasks into content. Like when Kim complains that she’s so busy but her to do list includes going to a photo shoot and dinner at Nobu. Now everyone wants to record themselves doing everything and it’s not even about being relatable anymore. Like an influencer who makes six figures documenting every day tasks will look much different than her followers’ every day tasks
I’m noticing an interesting parallel here with Jenny Nicholson’s recent video about the Star Wars hotel - rich people are desperately trying to make mundane and boring tasks seem like interesting events because they’re so out of touch with what are really valuable experiences. They also lack understanding value in general because they don’t think of products in the context of how much money they cost
Nice parallel! I just watched her video too. She was sympathetic but also appropriately critical. She also noted that the vast majority of ppl probably are lower middle class and really can’t afford it, similar to working folks trying to aspire to these unattainable influencer lifestyles.
@@jillhoffman9179 What made me make the connection was the influencer in this video talking about the red lip product and how she said she likes it to her friends without realizing she was suggesting a $200 product. It sounded so much like the director of the Star Wars hotel saying she thinks people will have so much fun they won’t think about the price, which was ridiculous! And to pass off those horrible chores as the fun to make you forget the price was so out of touch.
I recently graduated with my PhD and I’ve been struggling because for the past 6 years I’ve always had something I could be doing in terms of my schooling/research but now that I’m done I have nothing to do. Except wait and hope someone will hire me. So now I have all this free time and I can’t enjoy it because I’m watching my bank account dwindle and I’m just filled with anxiety and I’m used to being busy! It’s hard for me to not be busy. But it would sure be a lot easier to just run errands and enjoy my hobbies if I had money in the bank account.
Thank you for working hard to earn your PhD! We need intelligent humans in our society now more than ever. I appreciate you taking on challenge in life!
I also think the culture of “motivation” on social media and even shame motivation which is like “stop wasting your life” or “this is your sign to live in NYC in your 20s” is often made by influencers and I think well yeah, I would love to do that if I had the pretty privilege or free time or money to live that life?
21:00 when she’s talking about how it’s hard to be an influencer when her mental health is not optimal, I want to say Ok, and it’s also hard for the Walmart cashier, the server, the teacher, the road construction worker, etc, when their mental health ain’t the best. And in all jobs there are toxic people and mirco-managing middle management exacerbating the cracks already in our mental health. All I’m trying to say is we all experience this during our careers. It’s not different because you do your work online.
also I don't think enough people are talking about the "write off" aspect of influencer life. I highly suspect the wide majority of YTers / Streamers / Influencers that buy stuff, travel, etc for content are writing everything off and not depreciating for usage for the actual usage in their content. I would bet hard earned money that ppl are writing 100% of stuff off when they could really only legally write off some tiny percent. If I was high up at the IRS I'd be auditing lifestyle influencers out the wazoo
I mean… it’s not the exact same but onision got in huge trouble because he was writing off shit like groceries and personal stuff that had nothing to do with his on-camera stuff
I think a big part of it is that, often, their job is selling effortlessness and attainability- so the fact that their life isn't totally effortless and frictionless is VERY much on their minds. I think that they assume people have actually bought that they do NO work and they're criticized for doing NO work- when they're actually being accurately being clocked as doing FAR less than most people do as errands on thsir day off. Obviously, they're not very aware of how much work a typical job requires and how little of it involves luxury goods 😂
I'm not gonna lie, it would be so funny (and I think it could blow up) if there's an influencer who ONLY shows the bts of the influencer job. Not as skits, but as full length, serious videos.
I feel like if I were an influencer I would need specific goals for it to feel fulfilling, like buying a house or paying off my parents house or something. Or raising money for something. I never hear about many influencers laying out the goals they have in mind for their job
I also think a big part of the 'it girl' aspirational brand that they try to emulate involves seeming constantly busy and running back and forth.. An it girl will never be someone who stays at home and so they create errands and jobs for themselves to simulate this feeling without actually being busy.
I wonder what happens to influencers when they can't influence anymore? Do they get a "real job", do they try again, or do they accept the lack of fame and just live? Loved to video btw
I completely agree that consuming content is work when it’s part of your job. I had to watch a bunch of old French movies for a class in order to write a cohesive essay about their themes. Ordinarily I love classic films, but watching them as part of a project means you have to take detailed notes and think about the material very actively in a way you wouldn’t if you were just watching it for enjoyment. You have to make notes of time codes and quotes and other dull nitty-gritty aspects. Then you have to sit down and think, “ok, what parallels or comparisons can I draw?” and sift through that material again and again. When watching for enjoyment, you can just experience it without that pressure.
This is spot on. I’ve recently unfollowed and unsubscribed from a lot of vloggers because it was making me so mad that I couldn’t have a life where I didn’t need to work full time. And if I hear one more vlogger who puts out one video a month saying how burnt out they are..
these lifesyle influencers could do so much for the community if the "busy" was the volunteering/community projects they're a part of, cause even if theyre just doing it to look good some of the viewers wont.
That accountant that says they don’t do anything must be super low on the totem pole. All the accountants I know, myself included, are integral parts of the companies where they work.
Important ≠ busy. Accountants are 100% necessary and integral to have since they have specialized skills and are authorized to do certain things, but I don’t think every company will have 40h to fill with actual accounting work every week. I think the man was just being honest that there is free time in his week. He did not say the work he did do wasn’t important. The firm pays to have the skills available when they need it, not for a 1 to 1 trade of work hours put in for pay, like regular office workers or factory workers. Many highly educated or specialist roles are like that, i.e. in house lawyers or some cyber security roles. When they are needed, they are NEEEDED, but down time is inevitable. It’s just not wise to admit that you have free time since they might give you other stuff to do or fire you.
10:30 I always hated this clip because it could apply to any job 💀 like of course if you have to “try” to do a job you’re not trained to do or accustomed doing it’ll be difficult at first. You could easily tell this influencer “try working at a busy coffee shop or retail store for a day” and guess what- they would probably have a hard time!
Love this video. I've watched a lot of "weekly reset" videos and sometimes I feel embarrassed/ashamed that I don't clean my house that thoroughly as a working person, but then I remember that of course they have time to clean their apt in one 4-hour burst each Sunday. Because every day is like the weekend to them
A simulation of a life is a great way to put it! I think part of the reason they complain it’s so hard is because their daily life is a performance for other people. I have always loved some mindless vlog content but have now had to stop watching all vloggers because the content never changed or evolved, and I couldn’t watch them relive the same day over again. Like I get it… you walk the dog, go to an appt, grocery shop and do your evening beauty routine. I’d watch them again if they started to do something with their lives. Go back to school. Get a part-time job offline. Try a different creative pursuit. Start a real business, even, beyond putting their name on a product as an influencer. If they stopped simulating a life and started living a life again.
Totally believe that we shouldn't be pitting different types of workers against each other because at the end of the day we are all forced to sell ourselves to an extractive elite. But I would nevertheless absolutely watch a reality show that gives lifestyle influencers reality checks, like an internship in an architecture office or working at a restaurant or sending them to nursing school. Your quote "Who else is allowed to just live their life and vibe as their job?" is going to live in my head rent-free. There are so many things (going back to school, more volunteering, meeting friends, being part of a music scene) that I wish I could do, but I can't or don't because I have a job. You're right, it's hard to watch people out there who would have the resources to do more with their time, but choose not to.
Tbh running errands exhausts me but basically any errand but groceries is because I bought something that I have to return and then I wonder why I’m making more work for myself
it's not a viable career choice, and a foolish one to sacrifice your privacy and agency for internet validation in the hopes of monetizing it. you're basically setting yourself up to have zero marketable skills when the internet stops caring about you
some of them move to graphic designing, editing, media managing etc. no "marketable" skills is crazy when there's kind of alot behind it in terms of marketing and media creation.
@@milkchan202 graphic designing... you mean doing “Corporate Memphis” that flat pastel millennial style? that is so basic and can be recreated by AI in 3 seconds. graphic designers worth their salt are studying typography, not doing this stuff. i wouldn't romanticize any of this as some sort of substitute for actual qualifications, because its not and you're setting yourself up for disappointment. infamia is not worth it and you're burning daylight hoping you'll hit the social media powerball.
@@ab8817I’m a UI/UX designer and I work closely with actual graphic designers who create assets and illustrations for my web designs. You’re right that they work more than just making these basic flat pastel design, that calling whatever these influencer do “graphic designing” is an insult. My graphic design coworkers work tirelessly to create custom fonts, text effects, or even use their Wacom to draw custom characters. These influencers only utilize tools like Canva or templates of Freepik that were created by real, underpaid and exploited graphic designers.
@@ab8817successful influencers definitely have skills in social media marketing and potentially editing. I know of one or two (not particularly large influencers) who stepped back and went into those fields. You kind of have to time it right though. It ceases to be a qualification once you're well and truly a has been. You want to be over your peak but not gone.
Yeah but look at that , blonde girl who's name I don't remember has zero personality other than being hot and partying and people eat that shit - despite the fact that just makes them feel worse at the end of the day. They don't admit it, but it does affect their self esteem.
If I were a rich influencer, I’d go love to be a dog walker, babysitter, librarian, barista, volunteer etc. basically I’d love to do things that I find interesting or fun without worrying about funding life. That’s what kind of bothers me about the soullessness of influencer life. Why waste so much time doing nothingggggg
I would volunteer at the library and do Lego groups with kids and help people learn how to use their phone and the computer! There are so many things I’d want to do to give back and have fun but I’m so exhausted that the weekends are just for house tasks and resting and then I’m not even fully recharged and healthy for the next work week. It hurts to live like this and the people who have the resources to live nice fulfilling jobs just… don’t. They either lack the empathy or imagination. It’s sad.
Exactly! It’s not the ppl that should make it, it’s always the selfish, soulless, narcissistic ppl it seems 🙄 they COULD make so much difference in the world, but nope! Just more brain rot - I’m sorry, we SHOULD be upset about this ! And Stop following them
This isn't relevant to the video, but there was a clip that reminded me of it. Fascinated by how people (mostly americans) think it's okay to film whilst driving, fiddle with the camera, look down the lens for sometimes a scarily long time.
I love Elyse Myers’s long form lifestyle videos because she shows herself making the short form content, mental health stuff, as well as sharing her hobbies like crochet and film photography. It’s interesting to see someone else’s real life!
influencer / YTer / Streamer has to be the most popular dream job for younger Zoomers and Gen Alpha. Anyone complaining while being an influencer and saying working a normal 8 hr "work day" as one while they get to work for themselves is so out of touch, it's a privilege. They can stop whenever they want if it's such a drag
Exactly! Most of us don't have taking a break for a day as an option. That's why whenever I see a content creator talk about burnout, I just don't buy it. They can afford taking 1-2 weeks off without having to worry about not making enough money to pay rent anymore.
Fun fact! Studies have shown that the majority of Gen Z would only want to do content creating if it's viable, but for the most part they seem to lean towards wanting and working in fields like Business, STEM (doctor, nurse, engineering, etc), IT and Tech, etc. (source from ngpf) and from a study done at CNBC showed in a survey of 1,000+ Americans age 16-25 just want jobs with creativity and flexibility where work-life balance can be maintained. This study was done during/post the writer strikes in 2023, which they note in the study could have been an influence on the answers. And the study found that only 51% of Gen Z would "be an influencer if given the chance" but that 40% have more than one job to afford the price of living. This also implies that 49% don't have interest in influencer as a job at all, and that the 51% would only really do it if they could guarantee a payout. Georgia Entertainment however, found that only 33% of respondents want a job in "Entertainment and Media" and that 50% want to be business owners. So the real answer seems to be that the majority consistently want (1) good pay (2) some sort of meaningful work (3) flexibility
"Light candle" is actually quite funny. However it actually does help with productivity and keep you motivated when you A.) Make a To-Do list in general but B.) include small/easily completable tasks or C.) Making the first thing on the list something you've already done like brushing your teeth or making your bed
when i saw those lists i felt kinda called out tbh. i'm not an influencer, but i cant work bc i'm disabled, so my to do lists are just errands and tasks too. i'll even put reminders to do small fun things if i know i'll forget (which i will if i dont write it down). i also have hobbies ofc, but they're not tasks so i dont really write them down. i know the video isnt about that but i did wanna point it out insightful video as always!!
I relate a lot too. I'm disabled, mostly psychologically and it's easy to feel crappy about not being productive enough. I just thought I'd comment so maybe you know that you aren't alone :D
@@petalisporcelain1346 Another member of the club! I'm overwhelmed by the easiest shit and society looking down on me is one of the roughest things about it. Not working is socially isolating enough if you live alone and didn't have a ton of friends to begin with but now I'm not even bothering making new friends because I know that people will judge me. They have judge me, I have had a literal ex best friend say in my face that nobody will date me if I stayed in "this social class".
Doesn’t it highlight the fact that somehow their to do lists are comparable to someone with a disability, who isn’t able to do as much? They can’t fill their day or find things to do? This is part of the problem. Why are they willingly choosing to do the bare minimum and happy with that just for content
