I find see everything dying outside, being cold all the time, and not wanting to be wet, is what does it for me, it just makes everyday more frustrating and I lose my reasons for fighting, everything becomes pointless and the belief that 'nothing good will last' comes back. I do love the shorter days though,, waking up and it's still dark, I love getting the kids to bed earlier, and having more time to myself. However I drink more in the winter, and it's becoming a problem this year where I'm drinking every night, never done that before (24)
I found that tanning beds did help with my dépression but it becomes a question of good mental health or jeopardize your physical health by exposing yourself to harmful UV rays. Maybe I should move to Florida!
Have you tried vitamin D3? You might check on taking it, with K2. Do some research and check the dosage (probably 5,000 IUs to 10,000 IUs). Going off memory, so do check, but I think K2 would be 100 micrograms to 10,000 IUs of D3.
There are certainly different seasonal patterns for me. My BPD is at my worst during the Summer months as I loathe hot/humid weather....it depresses me in the same way others are depressed by cold winter months, I'd imagine. Ohhh noooo tanning beds for me. I'm avoid the sun like the plague. So, I put up the 17" Christmas Tree (complete with a small festive display) atop my 6ft. tall shelf so my two rascally felines can't "maul" it. I always enjoyed small X-Mas trees opposed to larger ones....nostalgia from my childhood grandmothers' Christmas trees.....both of their trees were always small. NOT looking forward to tomorrow's Tele-health call with my therapist. I really need to find a therapist who doesn't want to send me to a mental ward, but rather one who would actually help me. I'm drug-resistant (I also have Mixed Bipolar among other mood/behavioral/personality disorders.) Thank you, Dr. Fox.
@@DrDanielFox Thank you so much. It's been rough, and although we feel alone, we aren't. Thank you immensely, Dr. Fox, for your profoundly wise and helpful support to the BPD community! You make a HUGE difference!!
I am diagnosed with BPD and I had this theory since school that once winters are over in INDIA I start feeling so depressed during summers and monsoon. I have always been active from September end to mid January. But after that I will start hating everything and I will go in my shell and mood swings and self harm prone. I thought it’s all in my head but it’s true. Also is it possible to have depression during summers?
Dude this channel is a godsend and a narcissist actually brought me here well not her directly but the damage she done funny thing is her last name was Fox. I was engaged to be married and I feel hard and really quick and I suffer from borderline but I had it under control for years I had it under control and I did I kept relationships and done well. I got used and abused by narcissist about 4 years ago an overt narcissist she didn't even try to hide a lot of it and that put a sour taste in my mouth so I decided to stay stay single for three and a half years so I didn't carry the toxicity into another relationship. Well I was having problems with loneliness and depression from being lonely so I decided to date again and went out to ask this chick out and I ended up meeting the narcissist that night not the same chick I went to ask out. Physically sexually and personality she was everything I ever wanted. It was just it seemed like it was ordained from God, it was so random and it just felt meant to be so it wasn't hard at all for the narcissist to convince me that we were meant to be together I mean I lost my Junior High sweetheart and ex-girlfriend to a car accident and I loved her dearly . The Narcissist use that against me she used that to convince me or essentially plant the seed that we were soul mates and my ex who had passed away had kind of somehow spiritually arranged for us to just be together. Either way she was a covert narcissist and my gut and my dogs warned me about her the whole time I was in a constant state of fight or flight I never felt like I could trust her I always felt like something was off and going on behind the scenes and she made it pretty obvious even though she done her best to hide it that there was stuff going on. Regardless of that story I can tell y'all more later but regardless of it she's the reason I found this channel because she drugged out a lot of them old borderline Tendencies and she really messed me up psychologically there for a little bit and this is the time of season that really depresses me and I thought for sure last year was the best Christmas I've ever had best Thanksgiving I had ever had because of her and I thought for sure I'd never spend another one alone and here I am now dealing with all the damage that she left dealing with all these issues by myself again again and I can't even find a regular counselor let alone somebody who specializes in BPD. From the bottom of my heart thank you for everything you do
You are the best, you have provided me with so much hope through videos workbooks and the card deck that i no longer believe that suicide is the best choice. This disorder rips through people's lives in a way that makes them feel stranded on an island. If i could set my life where you were my therapist i am certain that I would be living a completely different life. Thank you for all that you've done for the BPD community because finding appropriate treatment is very hard
I practice hot yoga 🧘♂️ with lifting weights my teacher turns off the lights and puts pumping 🎉disco ball music i get excited every time i tend it could be raining 🌧 & i get excited but i have been very emotional after Halloween holidays remind me of toxic family members shitty childhood memories. I decided this Thanksgiving to cook full course meal & take care of myself i rather hang out alone than with people in my life that have been very abusive and disrespectful. Thank you for your video i bought your workboook before it came out its my favorite i been recommended it to many on a bpd group in Facebook when i was on social media. I recently shut it down again bc its a huge trigger for me.
Some great insight and advice, thanks. I think it is Important to remember that pretty much all living things face seasonal changes so as a human to expect it to be diferent would be very strange. With that said it's important to monitor patterns and behaviours to tailor things to make life a little bit easier for ourselves during such periods. Also if there is any underlying mental illness that can be eggagerate by natural seasonal changes then being proactive is your best chance.
I find living way up north in Newfoundland that truly is the case! When the times went back I could feel the change immediately. I love the cold as opposed to summer humidity, but I hate the constant darkness.
I have your workbook now and it is honestly the first selfhelp book that seems to have anything to do with me. All others were like, whatever... this has nothing to do with me 😂 There are definitely parts in your workbook that make me feel, hell, do you know me? Thanks for that. 😊
