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Hello Richard! Thank you for sharing your experience and knowledge here as well! I was wondering if you have any data on INFJ personality type, for it seems that this type is most likely to be a great source of “supply” for 😈 If such of information already exists in one of your videos, do except my apologies🙏
I'm just started therapy after finding out about CPTSD. I had a terrible childhood with traumatic experiences and abuse, sexual and verbal. Then a few years back had a really bad divorce that almost resulted in "self deleting". I've recently lost a relationship, not understanding my emotions and how they manifested. I said bad things to a lovely person that loved me, making me hate and loath myself even more. I've got so much work to do to overcome this it's insane.
@@0ccam5Raz0r Be gentle with yourself. It will take time, even just to recognize patterns, because they are so ingrained. You are worthy of the time it takes. You are worthy of kindness.
Dmt, LSD and psilocybin containing mushroom are amazing. I was severely traumatized years ago as a teenage, got diagnosed with cptsd. Spent my whole life fighting cptsd. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.
I'm so very happy for you, Psilocybin is absolutely amazing, the way it shows you things, the way it teaches you things. I can not believe our world and our people shows less interest about it's helpfulness to humanity. It's love. The mushrooms heals people by showing the truth, it would be so beneficial for so many people, especially politicians and the rich who have lost their way and every other persons out there.
Can you help me with the reliable source 🙏. I'm 56 and have suffered for years with addiction, anxiety and severe ptsd, I got my panic attacks under control myself years ago and they have come back with a vengeance, I'm constantly trying to take full breaths but can't get the full satisfying breath out, it's absolutely crippling me, i live in Germany. I don't know much about these mushrooms. Really need a reliable source!! Can't wait to get them
YES very sure of Predroavaro. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, BPD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
Mushrooms are very medicinal. This is why anybody familiar with psilocybin and any other kind of fungi will tell you, "They are alive." They have a very ancient wisdom. To my experience, all mushrooms have always said, "Pay attention to your life. How you think, how you feel, and what will you do with the information that you always knew, but now are seeing in this point of view." This is why mushrooms are so respected in tribal cultures. This mental health treatment works for me too. Half micro doses do the trick for me. At least a few days at a time with lengthy time in between. Never addictive. Thank you for sharing this point!
Raised by a sociopath, sex trafficked as a teen, gave birth by 17 and ended up on skid row as a sex trade worker by 21. I didn't begin to find my footing until I reached my 30's. I'm lucky to have survived everything I've experienced. Complex is an understatement. Lol
I knew a girl who was academically trained in accountancy and was working in the corporate world quite well. Me in the security industry had known her in the sex trade as a stripper. She prostituted herself to high end married male clients. She made so much money, when I knew her as a friend and had benefits by the way. I met her in the corporate world and she appeared to be a different type of woman it was like you could call it Bi Polar when she is in one social environment to the other. But because I was security for her in the strip club, she knew the other woman was protected and kept a secret between me and her. When I met a work colleague at a work function, he asked where we met. I replied in a Shopping Precinct where I was in Security. I never mentioned her days or time as a Sex trade.
Isn’t it strange how there is no mainstream social justice movement for abused children? It almost seems intentional. There a national movement to protect adults from getting their feelings hurt because someone uses the wrong pronoun.
Viv I read a book (and lent it out) called "The Body Keeps the Score". My young adult son has CPTSD, but after years of seeing a brilliant, compassionate psychiatrist and neurologist he's thriving. Wishing you complete healing.
Y'all, I wouldn't completely heal, remain dangerous and be smart and compassionate about it,. Stay alone if need be,. I don't know about you, but I didn't walk through complete hell only to be disarmed and told there's no threat to percieve within the range of human perception. One thing I am thankful for having experienced the full trauma spectrum, is objective discernment, and the senses that had to elevate and override the reticular activating system for survival. It's exhausting and jumping out my skin when someone coughs or the phone rings is tough,. But I can discern a truth, lie, approaching cyclical atrocity, all manner of predator and what they had for lunch yesterday and their dirtiest secrets. And tbh, sniffing out and finding the quantum breadcrumb trails of entanglement. So I'm not much fun at parties, but I would be if every single person wasn't liars manipulating at the expense of others who have nothing to give, and nothing to lose,. Aren't you guys un eff with able now? Literal warriors from hell? Because that's what I be
raised by a narcissist mother..then couldn't wait to eave...jumped at the first person who paid attention to me. an abusive bloke whom I married. I felt life had nothing else for me. He is my ex 25 yr.. CPTSD is a reality. Most folks do NOT understand..and tell me that I have bi-polar..... no, it is CPTSD. It is real. I am old and still struggle, but your channel has helped me understand my situation better.. One must know what the problem is before one can go about healing. Thank you.
I've also had a bipolarity diagnosis. My doc just got a glazed look in his eyes when I brought up the possibility o CPTSD. Pete Walker's book helped me put it into perspective
@@sheilaalawdi591 just read your reply - time for me to read Pete Walker's book. I have been coping for decades - now at 62, just keeping life super simple.
I do have CPTSD from childhood, but after 5 years of consistent guided meditation I have come a very long way. I’m happier than ever. You can get over severe trauma and heal
As a therapist treating CPTSD I'd agree 100%. The other thing I've noticed from a therapist point of view is that its like the more you ask the more trauma there is. Regular PTSD is like a mind map with how the event plays on various areas of the person's life. CPTSD is like a lattice of loads of mind maps all interconnecting
Absolutely true. The "lacework" of trauma creates a mental environment that makes one more susceptible to future trauma that gets caught in the lace work and strengthens the net. Each new abusive, traumatic relationship does more damage and reinforces those damaging neuro pathways. One may learn to cope with that nasty patchwork, but it doesn't go away. Only EMDR has allowed me to start working myself free of the web of trauma. It's a freaking miracle. I hear that psilocybin and ketamine may help open up that web to allow new, better, happier neuro pathways to form.
I have to say as a CPTSD patient one of the most challenging things was not the critical inner voice (I did not have it) but an inability to ask for help. Many people with CPTSD are forced to rely on self-help courses because the idea of actually going to a therapist and seeking help is so terrifying that many will sooner end their own life than ask for help. As a therapist you will never see all types of CPTSD patients as a good chunk of them never ever goes to therapy no matter how much they suffer. And yes, I have also noticed that the amount of traumas is often huge. 25-30 possible flashbacks per person is normal for this illness.
@@lizvtaz6 your response nearly made me cry by line three! I donct want to be a burden. I don't knkw how to ask for help! I don't feel right having needs and being a bother. It is so hard to have a relationship this way.
@@nana820able She has. Maybe you should message her with your take. For example, for me I like her presentation but I find there to be too many shorter (quicker) videos and I think the visual presentation needs to be enhanced. Her talks from a couple years ago regarding the roles assigned to children in a narcissistic family structure are solid. Cheers⭐
@Zack Young Thank you Zach! I don't usually leave criticism like this one and not sure why I did this time but I appreciate your kind response and the suggestion. I just might do that.
Isolating. Unless and until you are diagnosed with PTSD, and CPTSD, and you physically experience feelings that will just be there, stop you from being you, it's hard to understand. Re-learning how to do things before the final trauma kicked you over the top, is the way. People who say, JUST GET OVER IT ARE TRIGGERING AND SUCK
What I find odd is when you try to help somebody with it and you’ve had it so you suggest therapy or books or something in there just don’t wanna deal with it at all. I’ve been 10 traumas you don’t get over it and learn how to cope then thrive but it takes a ton of personal exploration, Therapy and Learning on your own and you have to have the willpower and drive to do it and it’s not always there are some days is it!!!??? some days you just barely stay above water
This is how much I changed over time and since the last MAJOR horrific trauma... WHAT YOU WROTE... at the end about people saying GET OVER IT... The difference in me now is... BEFORE, I'd roll my eyes and say.. YEAH, ignorant people.. they can't understand.. screw it... NOW!!??? NOW? Now I read that and THOUGHT to self.. Yeah, I'd like to see just how they'd react if they were held for 6 months of torture, much less 30 years. I'd like to see them have a single night of horrible and traumatic scary crap and all I've experienced, EVEN ONE NIGHT!! LET'S SEE how you do, smart ass.. let's see how you do say... IN 5 YEARS!!!?? HMMM???? Torture and shocking trauma for you for only one single night and day can destr0y you.. TRY 30 years B*T*H!!! Oh My Loving God... Dear Jesus.. THAT'S NOT ME!! I miss me... my loving, kind, caring, giving, nurturing self. WHERE AM I???
Best book ever. Spot on Richard. I have severe C-PTSD and at 56, I have moved 38 times, running. One wrong move and I write people off. I don't trust anyone wants to be my friend; I feel most people are disingenuous. I know it is mostly me. Panic is my middle name. Getting weekly help, watching your videos, and reading Pete Walker's book.
Maybe your disingenuous, but don’t assume that all people with complex PTSD her that way. We must speak for selves because we’re all individuals and nothing fits in the box. I don’t cut people off at a dime, and I don’t use drugs or cope with those negative behaviors. He mentioned I cope and negative ways, but not with drugs or alcohol. You must keep in mind that this presents differently and everyone as we’re all individuals.
Most people really ARE disingenuous and egoic, selfish and self interested and self centered. Anytime I see one red flag from anyone new, I do write them off. Where there's one, there's more. Point blank. Don't beat yourself up or gaslight yourself
@@infiniLor for sure, but as Richard talks about the unity of PTSD / CPTSD, it's like carbon monoxide poisoning over time with buckshot... or something like that... anyway the importance of drawing a fuller metaphor can't be understated.
CPTSD symptoms : 1. High levels of emotional dysregulation. 2. Extremely negative introjects and injunctions from a toxified superego. 3. A very, very chaotic life. Similar to BPD symptoms. Words of wisdom from the late, great Maya Angelou: “I've learned that people will forget what you said; people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” And Louise Hay "It's just a thought and a thought can be changed." So, change a thought to change a feeling to what you'd prefer. Do this with self aware intent consistently and over time you'll change the memories and behaviours attached to more moderate and functional.
@@sanz7820 Yes, I agree with you that I could have added alot more detail but was merely quoting the 3 symptoms Richard mentioned that stand out as broadly similar to both conditions in brief. CPTSD is more chronic, complex and disabling than BPD which responds well to DBT therapy and self regulation exercises and the two conditions can both cause identity loss and confusion and can indeed overlap to be present in an individual although not always. BPD involves a generalized under-regulation of intense distress triggering reactions similar to touching someone with severe suburn, related to real or perceived abandonment or rejection, whereas emotional dysregulation in PTSD is characterized by attempts to over-regulate (e.g., emotional numbing, avoidance, dissociation) distress related to reminders of traumatic experiences. Therapy aimed at developing skill in self and co-regulation of thoughts, emotions and behaviours helps modulate the body to remember to switch off the hyperactivated sympathetic (alarm) CNS in favour of reactivating the parasympathetic (calm down) CNS so an individual can better rest, reason and function, and therefore more capably enforce boundaries and self-validate. Thanks for your feedback it helped me take a deeper look at how they compare. 💕👋
@@haihai5293 Part one : "Doing as others told me, I was Blind. Coming when others called me, I was Lost. Then I left everyone, myself as well. Part two : Then I found Everyone, Myself as well (just in a different, better form)." ~ Rumi 🐛🔥🦋
@@louisegarner8888 My Louise! We haven't seen each other in 33 years :) Now, apart from Fruzia there is an additional monster. You woule love him! (Also a car) And Fruzia right now is sick/ got cold. How is my precodatyl? How are you, are you still watching Pete? He deleted the channel but I saw him again with some video's. I'm much better, everything is going well. When can I visit you and see you how you eat alligators?
My trauma began soon after I was born, although I'm told by my mother that she actively tried old-home-remedies to abort me before I was born (She was horribly abused as a child and came out of it with what would now undoubtedly be diagnosed as CPTSD and suffered periodic psychotic incidents throughout my childhood. And then she had married a classically narcissistic and bi-polar man [my dad] and struggled throughout her life to recover.) My own recovery has been and will continue to be a lifelong endeavor. I am one of six children and several of my siblings struggled with severe additions and other destructive behaviors. We grew up on a ranch, isolated even from near neighbors (as did my mother) so there was nowhere to go to be safe. Each of us has our own experience and our own case-history, of course. I was the eldest of the 'second set of kids' so I was able to watch some of the self-destructive-behaviors in my elders and make choices accordingly. I have lived my life not only desperately trying to avoid making mistakes and actual abandonment, but also not messing myself up worse with poor-decision-making. I've lived in fear... of just about everything. But I've managed to live anyway. I've been in therapy for much of my life, although not specifically for CPTSD. I have had individual events throughout which have left me with PTSD and I dealt with some of those. But mostly, I've just tried to be 'good' always. I know it's old-fashioned and out-of-style, but it has kept me out of trouble.
@Threetwo One You are not wrong in your intuitive leap. I didn't believe I was 'good' because so many bad things happened to me, and also because I am a human being and I pulled the stuff that kids pull, and especially the act-out- behaviors that those kids whose home life is so painful tend to do... Starting from believing I was "bad", "stupid", "worthless", "good-for-naught", "hopeless", "lazy", etc., I've tried extra hard to be just "good". - And quite honestly, I still worry about falling short, and full-out failing. I have a long way to go yet to heal. I really had "boxed and shelved" all of the stuff about my mom for a few reasons: First, because unlike my dad, my mother tried hard, always. - She had come to believe that I was to be born the reincarnation of someone who nearly destroyed her over and over when she was a child, she was afraid of me, and she still tried very hard to be a mother to me. - - She was brave and good... better than a lot of moms are to their children. And second, because she was very, very good to my siblings, in spite of her challenges, in spite of having no kind mother of her own to nurture her. - And to look at what she thought I was and how that had hurt and affected me would hurt them. And third, I was caring for her the last several years and I couldn't deal with more than to acknowledge her occasional confessions to me, about me and other things, and set them aside. Unfortunately, with her passing this year, the boxed stuff jumped off of the shelf and exploded like a giant can of prank- spring-snakes and I am now in the midst of processing all of that which I had set aside all at once, along with the grief... And I have caused my siblings some real pain anyway, in the midst of their grief; because I just couldn't shut up! (So much for being "good.") I am a work in progress. I vary wildly between thinking I'm doing pretty good, considering; and realizing how truly damaged and dysfunctional and non-functional I am and feeling just low. My siblings and I (and Mom) could compare notes and process together the varied abuse we each and all suffered from our father. He was gifted at finding the best ways to hurt each of us and also keeping us at odds with each other. There is not one of us who came out unscathed and it has even spilled into the next generation, both from direct interaction with Dad and from the dysfunction that we all carry from growing up under his toxic narcissism. We are all still living... and as long as you live; you can change, you can grow, you can learn, you can try. I have felt a sort of relief, amongst the pain; as though the poor expectations of me that I have lived under for my entire life may have died with Mom. I miss her terribly, but I know that her physical pain has passed. - I know that the fear, and the psychological and emotional pain that overshadowed her fir her whole life is gone now. - She is finally at peace. In her desperate search for health and safety, my mom became a lifelong searcher. And in her search she brought me an understanding of my faith that is, I recognize, unique. I credit any strength to my constant relationship with God... a relationship that has been more stable for longer than any other in my life.
@@suet.r.4815 You and your siblings, like me and my siblings, were marinating in trauma and living under constant stress and terror while growing up. The safest place and people, which should be our home and family, were actually the most dangerous and unsafe place and people, ever. Literally damaging and impeding growth of our young brains. The result? One fucked-up, chaotic, dysfunctional, tragic adulthood, full of addictions, self-destructive, self-sabotaging behaviors. Please check-out Tim Fletcher's amazing, comprehensive videos series about complex trauma. He's a pastor, too, based in Canada who works mainly with addicts (addiction being a characteristic of complex trauma from childhood abuse, neglect and abandonment). You don't know how much his videos have helped me in my journey to self-awakening and healing. Also, it's so important that you practice self-compassion, self-love and be very patient and gentle with yourself. All the things we should have been shown and the way we should have been treated as children by our caretakers, but never were. And FORGIVE yourself ALWAYS for whatever failings or wrongs that you've done, real or perceived. It's part of self-parenting as an adult, which we must practice as part our journey to healing. Because, obviously, we were never properly parented as children, because, obviously our parents were not emotionally equipped to raise children properly due to their own unresolved pain and past traumas. Really, we never even had a fighting chance to grow up to be healthy, happy adults ready to take on the world with confidence and excitement. No, we end up as adults wracked with fear and other destruction, negative feelings and thoughts, and approach life with shear dread and loathing. Anyhow, Tim Fletcher has a wonderful video series on re-parenting. I'd literally jump in front of a moving bus for that man. My nightmarish family from hell? No so much. Best of luck and I hope you check out Tim's videos.
@@olgakim4848 You speak absolute truth about the way that some of us were raised. I will look up Tim Fletcher. Thank you. I want to put it to you that forgiveness of your parents and others in your family will help you a great deal with your own healing. My own path has been fairly crooked but I have managed to function by faith. I am alone among my siblings in having been able to forgive my father. - I forgave him... not excused him... not absolved him... not forgot... simply forgave and in so doing took control of his effect over me forever more. His harsh voice in my head is his voice now, instead of being accepted as mine, as it had been... and has slowly receded in prominence over the years since I accomplished this. I am in much less pain regarding him than any of my siblings are because of this. It is an extremely personal action, the action of forgiving the unforgivable. - I can preach it, but I don't know how to teach it. Pray on it and let God lead you. It is immensely healing. When I spoke of what I believed about myself not being "good", and actually being "bad" instead, etc. I was speaking frankly about what I believed, rather than critically about what I believe now. - I'm actually a pretty good 'egg' and much of the fruit of my life reflects that. Young children are naturally ego-centric. It's a state that children exist in that allows them to get their needs to be met by demanding when they are not yet able take care of themselves. Because of their "I am the center of everything - the cause of everything - the reason for everything" developmental stage, they soak up the attitudes around them whether those attitudes are spoken or demonstrated or not, and whether they are healthy or not. When children are raised in the poisonous environments that we, and our siblings, and my parents were raised in, they helplessly soak up blame, guilt and shame for everything around them in addition to what is perpetrated on them. I believe that because this is true, forgiving others who perpetrated on us becomes necessary in the process of forgiving and healing ourselves. This is my personal awareness, of course. Thanks again. 💜
I have both multiple PTSD experiences, and CPTSD. My initial response to your statement was, "must be nice." I don't mean to minimize your experience. - I'm so sorry that happened to you! - Just a little jealous, I guess. I'm glad you're okay.
I have CPTSD on steroids. I grew up in a violent family. Witnessed and experienced abuse from parents and sister. Date raped when I was 22. Married an abusive covert narcissist man (who was a spitting image of my family) and was stuck for 22 yrs. Had a cardiac arrest at 41 and miraculously lived, despite being dead for 4 minutes. My x did not admin CPR! My ICD has fired 3-4 times and it feels like I’m dying. I coped by using denial and weed. Ended the marriage, got sober and feel like I got my life back. Therapy and self care are essential. I’ve read every book on the subject, Pete’s book being one of the best. I agree with Richard that there is hope. I’m living proof that you can go to hell, live there for a while, escape and create a wonderful new life. It’s what I’m doing and I know you can too. ❤
I have all 3 despite trying to live much better . No drugs/alcohol for 20 years. Very discouraging. My parents were both narcissists. I avoid narcissistic relationships in all areas of my life as much as possible. I am 66yo now and I would love some years of experiencing joy before I die so I never give up. This is a very informative video. Thank you.
@Nora Hoelscher It is a very hard life sometimes. I get angry and discouraged knowing how differently my life would have been had I known earlier that my parents were narcissists. They groomed me for a life of failure, which is so sick. We can only keep trying to rise above it all and move forward. Thank you for sharing.
Absolutely spot on Richard, I was properly diagnosed at a University with C-PTSD in my mid 60s and took part in a research programme along some other troubled souls. It was amazing to meet others but the most important for me was actually feeling validated as I had never been in my life been able to put into words to anyone what I felt. People just do not understand if they have never experienced this distressing state. It can be very isolating even within a family (my own experience) and also in a wider society. Please keep putting this out there, we really do need people like you to inform those who have never been in this position. My experience has been traumatic to say the least but I truly believe that more education may breed a more compassionate population
@@locogideon Hi There, I think it is more about understanding what is happening to you and how you learn to live with it and not allow it to dictate your life and how you lead it. My C-PTSD came from my parents and 2 very controlling marriages and I am now 73. I have gone down many routes and all in their way have offered me something. I still have flashbacks and I know instantly because every part of me begins to shut down. As Richard says it is not the event it is the emotion that causes my freeze response, but now I know that, I can rationalise the situation and understand what I must do. This allows me to overcome and distract my mind. I will go out and walk, take photos of nature, I spend many hours gardening and growing plants, being in nature helps. I am not an artist but I love to paint in acrylics using a technique called Pointillism, fine detail and much concentration. Creativity helps the healing process and restores lost confidence especially when you have enjoyed creating something that is yours. It is a start and we all must begin somewhere. I feel for all of those out there that have to suffer in this way and need to move forward. I have met quite a few in my life who suffer, but the beginning is baby steps, find your distraction as a start and when things get tough remove yourself from the situation and do what makes you happy. I don't know who or even where you are but I hope in some small way this has been of some help although a limited platform. Much love to you and my hopes are with you to find some peace of mind🙏
I completely agree. Once I found the definition of CPTSD I realized it was me. My anxiety and depression are clearly from childhood emotional trauma that started from birth and lasted until I separated myself from parents when I was 49 yr old. The CPTSD is finally healing with the use of EMDR and lots of years of previous psychoeducarion.
@@DeborahOlander Hi Deb, thank you for responding, I don't know about you but sometimes I find it hard to breakthrough the cycle of repetitive thoughts that cycle around in your head, however I read recently in a book (recommended by Richard) that when they start, repeating a positive and happy thought, word, or song in your brain helps to stop that train of thought progressing and affecting your mood, it works to change thought patterns to a more positive frame. It worked, for me so one more tick in the box for recovery.
Watching this I felt an unusual feeling of being lucky. I can see how easy it would have been to have been diagnosed with BPD rather than CPTSD. I can see how lucky I was to have found a very skilled therapist (doing so took a bit of time). I'm definitely not out the woods, but I'm a very different person to whom I was even a few years ago. Feeling genuinely lucky is a new feeling that I'll take as a sign of growth. This is one of the best descriptions of CPTSD I've seen. Hang on in there folks. It does get a lot better. Richard, you're a gift to us all.
Thank you for those words of encouragement. Living a lifetime with CPTSD and not knowing what the hell is wrong with you is tough. But at 54, I'm finally getting the help I actually need.
Hi excel 04. I experienced all of the ugly things that you say you feel lucky to have avoided, but still feel very grateful. Grateful to have survived, grateful to have learned about CPTSD after 2 decades of searching for the answers, grateful for the love I have in my life from the people who really know and care for me, grateful for the time I have left….I suppose these are some of the ‘silver linings’ that Pete Walker talks about in his amazing book “CPTSD from surviving to thriving”.
I was diagnosed with autism in my early 50s. Also raised by a narcissistic mother and stepfather. I never lost my sense of self, and the stubbornness that autistic people are known for :-) The dysregulation was my biggest struggle. But I tend to learn subjects very in-depth when I put my mind to it and, Once I could put a name to this I studied the heck out of it and learned so much and applied so much that I am a completely different person with a lot of awareness. I still struggle every single day to make conscious choices when my head tells me that some thing means some thing that it does not regarding other peoples reactions and communication.… And stumbling upon your channel in 2017 literally started me on this self-awareness journey.… Your contributions are beyond valuable Richard. Thank you.
You've helped me understand myself so much more today. I've felt such impostor syndrome with my diagnosis of PTSD but I knew something different was occurring and I've had no idea how to put it into words...so naturally I've just been swallowing it. It was validating (and crushing) to hear you describe my situation perfectly. If you can describe so accurately what I'm going through then I'm not unique, and therefore I'm not garbage and I can be helped just as others are helped. Perhaps I can find my way back to the world after all. Richard, thank you for guiding me to the starting point I couldn't reach by myself. You're a light in the darkness.
I didn’t know I had CPTSD until Richard. I knew I’d been a victim of narcissistic abuse numerous times but didn’t understand the childhood origin or that trauma was the missing piece that was never mentioned or dealt with in therapy. I’ve followed Richard and done his courses for three years and the growth and healing has been remarkable. Stick with him and the work and best wishes on your healing journey.
@UCcN5monng_mmibrJXdUFs5Q I appreciate that, but it's just what my head does to me. A continuation of the dialogue between my grandmother and I (and others) has a tendency of playing on repeat in the background of all my other thoughts. That recording is constantly telling me that I'm a burden, I don't belong in this family, no one will ever want me, my mother leaves all the time because she needs to get away from me, I'm lazy, I'm ugly, etc. Without an Off button, it's constant work to ignore, argue with, reason with that recording and more often than I'd like to admit, it gets the better of me. But in my head, this recording is actually masquerading as MY voice, as my thoughts. Such as, "I don't belong here. I fail at everything. Person A doesn't really like me. Person B is leaving because I'm here. Person C is only being nice to me because he's looking for a weak target and wants to sleep with me." Ad nauseam. It's actually bad enough to where I simply stay in my house until I have a dentist appointment, or I need to take my dog to the vet. I can't look at people's faces anymore because their micro-expressions are always full of judgments (in my mind). "Is she crazy? There's something off about her. OH, so that's what's wrong with her! I hope no one sees me talking to her." However when I'm not around people I feel like I can breathe, and my thoughts slow down to manageable. I can talk to people online because I can't see their expressions or hear the inflection in their words. The internet is an even playing ground for me. Don't ever play me at poker though. 😁 For some reason that's the only time I can sit with people because they are now as tense and nervous as my default (which never gets any higher while playing cards). At least, in theory because I haven't tried to sit down at a table in over a decade. I'm also pretty good at armchair profiling. But yeah, with so much going on in here it's hard not to feel like hot garbage most of the time. I hope this answered your question. The person you were thinking about when you asked it may not need you to understand so much, as just accept that it happens and it's a part of who they are.💜
@@catsmeow3478 To this day, I feel like my entire history is a lie. I may never know what was real and what wasn't but at least I can get to know myself and find some truth there. I'm so glad I found this channel.💜
There is a really good video of Richard's on RU-vid where he talks about how to externalise that toxic voice, the toxic superego, and it is life changing. If you haven't seen it, I strongly recommend you watch it. I'm sorry I haven't included the link but will try and find it if you can't. There are 2 videos where he uses Pete Walker's method for dealing with the toxic superego. Little by little it will change your life. It's changing mine. Good luck on your journey. You're not alone 💜
@@Karen-rw8ve Thank you Karen. I already have it bookmarked for later in the day. Funnily enough, I often tell people they're not alone but I never really hear it myself. Thank you for that. It made my day.💜
The core of complex trauma is childhood neglect rejection abandinment and shame. This is the core attachment trauma. I have it. Ive been healing for 3.5 yrs and now facing the abandonment and rejection lack of love Pete walker is amazing. No one has cptsd without childhood neglect which is rejection abandonment lack of safety low self esteem and self abandonment to a child. Thats at the core and its excruiatingly painful to heal
Thank you Richard. Your RU-vid content has been a tremendous support to me during the last 4.5 years. My walk into freedom from emotional and physical abuse from family members began in May 2018. Your teachings on CPTSD have given me the framework and vocabulary I needed to identify the extremely unhealthy patterns in which I lived as a child, and then as a wife (28 yrs) and mother. I am learning to build protective boundaries around myself. Your voice has helped me turn down the volume of my hateful inner critic enough to begin hearing my own voice instead. You’ve invested countless hours. I’m very grateful for your work.
This is sooooo needed!! Wish to let you know, Richard....I help Veterans that have married Narcs and divorced after years of living hell with providing support Service Dogs and talk therapy. You have this so correct. I have lived IT also, as you. Go forward! Your work amazes me. TU. "D"
I have received healing from each of your videos. You definitely have a gift. Amazingly accurate and detailed description of an experience I cannot put words to. Thank you for helping me to move forward in peace and understanding.
As much as I want to spew my guts and ask a million questions, I’m just gona say thank you for giving me a couple of things to keep an eye out for in trying to figure myself out.
Your knowledge of the dark triads and severe mental illnesses would match or beat thousands of clinicians out there, many of whom no nothing about CPTSD, BPD or NPD. Every single one of your videos are incredibly rich in content and highly recommended 👍
I’ve been diagnosed by 3 different professionals as have CPTSD. The way you have explained it is perfect, on point ! The shotgun explanation, resounded in me, took my breath for a second. I still find myself just doing the hand pneumonic, and have gone back to more emotional literacy journaling and added a meditation everyday also gratitude morning “ well anytime is good for that “ I also still do parts of summing the self course. All great tools , life does get better . Thank you for all you have achieved and passed on.
Absolutely excellent one of the best descriptions I have ever heard thank you Richard as a clinician as well as someone who struggles with complex PTSD I cannot thank you enough for your insight, knowledge and description !!
There are also multiple events, some are events, event, or many layered, some less remembered, some remembered and not even seen as traumatic until truly focused on. I agree, the two (PTSD and CPTSD) exist together. Thank you for this.
Thank you so much for mentioning the nearly identical presentation to the borderline. I have been diagnosed as a borderline, and bipolar. It likely had a part in ruining my life. Not only was I not diagnosed and treated properly,, the abuse continued with me always believing it was my own fault. That my life was a result of my own malfunctioning.
Richard, you have helped me SO much in the past 3 years, with your videos/ wisdom. I wish so badly I could help my daughters CPTSD. I have sent her your videos countless time but never a response from her. She smokes weed all day, every day and is now homeless again with another strange man. At only 21 years, I see her wasting her best years in pain and sorrow.
Did you witness the events that traumatized her? Maybe you can validate her experiences. Some of my most healing moments came from people speaking up about what they saw.
I was diagnosed a year ago with Cptsd in Copenhagen. I'm originally from britain and grew up in various traumatic situations. I enjoyed the way in which you described the symptoms, very clear and concise especially about the internal negative voice, and being misunderstood.
Since I left the narcissist I am doing better so magically but I am still suffering from all of the symptoms you list here I thought maybe I was Perhaps Borderline but now I realize it is just complex C TPS D In the last 2 relationships that broke up my sciatica always acts up it's getting better too though now thank God for the emotional regulation exercises. I'm going to start doing it again more regularly. I really think it has saved my life to do those regulation exercises I am still suffering from intense sadness but I am only overwhelmed a few times a week rather than every single day so thank you Richard you are saving lives literally.
Spot on. Sharing this w/my family because they don't get it. Being misdiagnosed from BPD to Bi-Polar just made everything worse with constant med adjustments & never addressing the problem. Pawned of to EMDR but flunked. Pretty much live as a recluse because I don't know all my triggers. My body reacts first..panic attacks, body shaking, hyperventilating, etc. to sites, smells, sounds, songs, etc.
You are in the right place. Lots of Richard’s followers could relate to your experience. I can personally recommend Richard’s courses and Pete Walker’s book on CPTSD. Practice the skills, endure the discomfort of changing your coping strategies and your quality of life will improve. I wish you all the very best in your journey towards a rich and fulfilling life.
I have autism and the CPTSD. I spent most of my life feeling like a slave to triggers and sensory overload. Along with education and awareness and putting things into practice that I have learned, I have done and continue to Live as healthy a basic lifestyle as possible. Basic healthy food and some key vitamins we’re missing from my long starved body and mind. I know it sounds rudimentary, but all of the knowledge in the world can’t help a sick body. I had to start there so everything I learned could be applied. Much love and luck to you, glad to see you are here :-)
Great work sir. I fit in both of them. I like how you point out that, there's no PTSD without Cptsd because they overlap... I strongly agree with that 👍👏🙏🇩🇰
I recognise all those symptoms in myself. I was diagnosed with bpd in my late 20s. I was also diagnosed with clinical depression and psychotic depression in my 30s. I'm now 50 and I believe it has always been cptsd. To be honest I isolated myself away because of the diagnosis of bpd! Thinking I was just a person that caused havoc and my interpersonal relationships have been disastrous. So I decided the only way was to live alone, find myself and not get involved with people! Lol, yes I became a full time recluse. Been this way for years now. I suffered s.abuse as a primary school kid and my adult relationships basically followed on from that main male role model in my life. I got tired of toxic relationships. I do not socialise because I have no trust in anyone. I trust myself now but that has took a long time. I have been running away my whole life. Moving towns, cities and flats. I still suffer night terrors and I do get extremely low and wish for death on a daily basis. My flat is my safe place and I do everything I enjoy in it. Learning, growing plants, making things, reading, exercise, Any way I'm running out of time! I do want to take part in life and travel, work again, all these things before I die. How do I get the therapy and help to do this. Please. Any information would be much appreciated. Because I have so much life experience to help others and I would love to use all my emotional pain in a positive way. I can't go around the mental health system. It is all about prescribing medication and thats not helpful to me. I'm looking for a way forward.
Hi Skylar. You are in the right place! A lot of Richard’s followers have a similar story. I can personally recommend Richard’s courses and Pete Walker’s book “Complex PTSD; from surviving to thriving”- which I have now read 16 times. A word of warning: you will find this work to be very challenging until you learn to identify and manage your emotional flashbacks and develop skills to maintain your emotional state. But the good news is you can develop new skills by practicing and being disciplined and there is a rich and rewarding life ahead of you.
Mr Grannon I just want to say thank you for your videos it's comforting to know that I'm not alone living with the trauma from an extremely abusive relationship is so scary.. the effects of this abuse is crippling I can't even make decisions at times because I've been told for so long that every single thing I do is wrong including the way I feel.. I came so close to admitting myself into a hospital several times because I thought I must be crazy, my abuser would keep me confused and bully me and degrade me deny anything and everything and turn it around and blame me I was 100 percent responsible for everything wrong.. and it escalated into a horrible place I felt I couldn't escape listening to your videos helps me so much I know it's going to be a long bumpy road to recover from this and my only expectation for myself is to get to a place to where I can move on and take back control of my life again thank you and take care 😊
Thank you -we can't learn enough or research this issue enough. I appreciate your sharing, teaching and giving your opinion on CPTSD. I have my thoughts on it as well.
Got bullied from kindergarden up until I got out of school, nothing ever helped me, only my girl, the love of my life helps. I dont feel any connection with friends or family, the only connection I really have is with her, I have diagnosed depressions, cant get a job, social anxiety prevents me from talking online, stress about being homeless soon and the worst part is that I cant even get a hug from my girlfriend because she lives in turkie and I live in switzerland. She is the only thing I want even tho I dont deserve her, I just want to feel happy, feel warm, then maybe ill get out of the deep dark hole called depression, then maybe I can finally get over all my problems. But I cant, I cant make any money to see her and when im homeless I will loose contact with her. I cant live without her, she saved me from ending myself so many times by just being there for me, without her I cant keep going. My life is just problems and the biggest problem is me
Im.Looking Forward To Your VIDEO. I Am A VICTIM of NARCISSISTIC Abuse I WAS EMOTIONALLY ABUSED. Horribly. I WOULD Get MONTHS And Years Of The Silent treatment. This Is What Broke Me Down This Person has DESTROYED MY LIFE MY SELF WORTH AND SELF ESTEEM. Narcisstic abuse is brutal
Demi, it is brutal and horrible. There is healing. I suggest Mr. Grannon's videos but also on RU-vid: Dr. Ramani and Dr. Les Carter. Dr. Ramani has a healing program for $25 a month that I am finding very therapeutic. I also plan to check out Mr. Grannon's Mental Fortress program.
Thank you for this helpful video Richard. When there is more research done on the differences between BPD and CPTSD I definitely want to be re-diagnosed. I won't know how to work on myself if I don't know what I have. It might have to wait until I have a new doctor who will listen to me and refer me to someone who is better trained on recognizing the differences between these two things. He wanted to put me on maximum amounts of medication because then it's easier for the system and gets me out of the way. I got off the medication and have been working on myself and being more self aware while digging deep down into what is actually causing this emotional pain and turbulence.
I already thought you were brilliant, this is 100% consistent w/my experience, including the initial assessment of BPD. I'm glad i'm old, i found joy in work & friends, although sexual intimacy remains elusive. One weird thing: i had hoped as i gained recovery that i would become less triggered. Wrong! The symptoms are so deeply embedded in my neuro hard drive they are forever haunting. If anything, through the corrosion of filters that naturally occurs in the aging process, i get triggered more vividly. I developed the ability to observe myself, and speak to myself "oh, there it is again, the trance". I can detour from self destruction
Thank you for this video. Had a short dating relationship with a guy who has CPTSD and military ptsd. I was able to make sense of everything by understanding CPTSD. I am very grateful for videos on CPTSD. This was super informative.
Came to this video after my therapist recommended it, I know you have to tell people to seek professional help but lots of professionals speak highly of you so keep up the good work!
For years I felt very painful emotions like broken pieces of glass moving inside of me, it took me more than a decade to gain the knowledge to examine the psycologists experience. I think most of the psycology trained professionals are lacking of important personal experiences to which relate and consider as leader of healing, easy and comfort lives never grew embracing and powerful clearity and solution. You are really pleasant to hear and it doesn't feel fake or a pantomime of pity, disgust and fear of undesirable real life
SO glad to finally know about complex cptsd. ...makes sense of my whole life!! Been living as hermit 4 yrs trying to heal myself and get a stable "new normal"...cause people /events trigger and set me right back into old ways. Cognitive therapy did WORSE THAN NOTHING!! When triggered I have NO access to cognitive skills cause im NOT COGNITIVE!!! Then Id just brutally shame myself for NOT using CBT skills !!😔 D.B.T. helped greatly!!. I go out into the world when I feel confident and capable and practice new coping skills.☺ I can see continual improvement and feel proud and hopeful.🙂💖
You hit on some points for me. While I was raising 6 kids, life was chaos because, well six kids. I was too busy working, going to college, homeschooling, homesteading, and raising six kids to even think of the past. Now that I have just one kiddo at home, I have time to slow down and think, which hurts. I feel cheated out of life. Not because I spent it raising six kids, but because I should be enjoying this quiet time in my later years. I should be resting on my laurels after a life well lived, but instead, I am waking from night terrors again. I am picking up bad habits that I quit 20 years ago. I spend my time mentally paralyzed because of things that happened 20 or even 30 years ago. The chaos does help to take your mind off the past. I just chose chaos that was socially acceptable.
I hope that I don’t cause any offence (and that is truly genuine), but WHY did you have six children when your life was so chaotic. It is exactly these circumstances that are the sole cause of inter generational trauma
I don't think you understand what I meant, and perhaps it didn't come through because of how I wrote it, but chaos in that I was working and going to school and homesteading and homeschooling. The only thing I could have done different is not go to school. Our actual life was more stable than most for the kids. We owned our home outright so they never moved or had to worry about eviction. Although I struggled, we never went with out electric, water, or at least a meal. The idea I was trying to get across ANYTHING you do with 6 kids is chaos. So I mean, you were just looking for a way to judge honestly. No offense is taken though, because I will have plenty of descendents and people that think like you won't. @@carriefloss9937
For years I was EXTREMELY anxious and profoundly depressed... After I started to speak openly about what happened from 4 years old from "mother" and 3 of 4 siblings...I move from profound depression to EXTREME ANXIETY AND SADNESS.... YOU for some reason help me cry in reasonable amounts ( I am a crier for others but not myself) It helps.....THANK YOU
I'm reading the Medical Medium's latest book, which is on the topic of the brain. He has channeled information about what damage happens to the brain and nervous system when we experience trauma and stress. There's also channeled information about brain and nervous system recovery, through juicing protocols mainly. I'm open because the Medical Medium's other books have brought me back from the brink regarding serious chronic physical health issues (after a few years of trying conventional and alternative treatments and approaches and failing to improve). Best wishes to everyone here who is trying their best in their lives and thanks once again Richard! 🙏💕
Thank you so much Richard for your videos. When few understand the abuse let alone its impact I have learnt about narcissistic behaviour and how to survive through your insights. The health services in the Northwest do their best, but there are real shortcomings in understanding the dynamics of narcissistic abuse and obtaining counselling treatments. You are very much appreciated.
The quality of this video production has increased significantly to the ones I have viewed in recent days from those posted years ago. Presentation and focus, personal growth and confidence also seem to have deepened and matured. Well done. Well done, indeed.
Thank you, this is the very best explanation of the "differences" between PTSD and CPTSD. Clear and intelligent. I would be interested in seeing more on healing and once a person has entered that beautiful phase. While I believe it is a life long process, once one has entered that new and foreign territory the literature and the advise starts to be scarce.
I was advised many years ago (by a clinical psychologist with experience in treating CPTSD & personality disorders aka character disturbances) that the time you spent with the PD OR CD is the length of your recovery… so for most if not all people it will be a continued battle, a lifetime of therapy & healing- which is never going to be a bad thing!!!!! Those exposed for a short period of time such as 1-3 years it’s double the time you spent with the PD; to strip away conditioning and rebuild self esteem, self worth, self love.
Hi Richard. You do amazing work and I can’t tell you how much my quality of life has changed since I found you and Pete Walker. As a person previously diagnosed with a psychotic condition I do have to disagree with you about your view on helping people experiencing ‘psychosis’. ‘Open Dialogue’ is a therapeutic approach that treats the themes emerging in the ‘psychosis’ as metaphors for inexpressible trauma and grief. It is cheaper and more effective than hospitalisation and medication and does not dehumanise or retraumatize the person. I was not fortunate enough to access this therapeutic approach but I can say from experience that the ‘psychotic’ state is very similar to a dream state. The actions a person takes while in this state are attempts to express what cannot be stated. From a personal perspective, I found myself ‘playing out’ the trauma in the way that a small child would. Gaining an understanding of structural dissociation helped me to see why this was the case.
Thank you Richard G. Will you please answer this question: "Are there ANY, NORMAL, HEALTHY people left?" Where there ever? I'm telling you that you are doing good, I hope you are telling yourself that, and know that....
I appreciate your honest, upfront discussions (while noting RU-vid videos aren’t a replacement for professional medical help-ADHD, CPTSD, Anxiety & Narcissistic relationships pre/post ongoing multiple traumatic childhood experiences. I’m grateful for my Doctor, positive & creative outlets, “blocking” aka “No Contact” aka breakdowns emotionally, physically, etc. It’s not easy. It is worth it. Thanks for these discussions via RU-vid to help remind me I’ve got a lot more work to do, but I’m in a better place by listening and just breathing at the same time. TIA.
I think this is one of the best videos I’ve ever watched and I thank you for ur educating Richard! Ur truly an incredible person an I love the way how your so open to having dialogue with the ( what we class as qualified) professional! I would definitely put u and ur understanding/educating right up there with the qualified professionals, to some extent I think you’ve given better advice an knowledge to us all! So refreshing to hear what u have to say, never bored to watch any of ur videos! I thank you 👍👍👍👏🏻
This was so helpful. Thank you. I know you have to give disclaimers but YT videos have helped me way more than in-person sessions with certified therapists because they are slow to the game of NPD.
I've followed you and Sam for some years now. I have CPTSD. Looking back narc father and mother plus unavailable emotional support no wonder had trouble sleeping. Understand, this is from birth. Then repeat narc husbands, it's all you know. Final one nearly got me. But in addition to the final diagnosis very late in relationship after total nervous breakdown and epidural abscess due to lowered immune system, I find I have ADHD too. I absolutely went off the wall. Relieved, it wasn't my fault, but still couldn't get away. All the little life hacks and treatments, particularly journalling, and sticky notes and regular this and that don't work when you've got ADHD. It just doesn't compute. I've bought a couple of your xousres Richard, I wanted so much to do them. I'm smart enough, but I can't even open them, let alone put pen to paper. Lists? I make brilliant list comprehensive ,beautiful lists. Then the tasks move in front of my eyes. Which one first ? Can't do, or, wake up and can't find list. Or wake up and forget completely that I made a list. ADHD,which I believe is coming under scrutiny as it's not a lack of attention at all ,rather too much of it with no filters to shut out the damn NOISE of everything in my head. I have to have rainfall playing almost constantly . That and the CPTSD are an unpleasant mix. Add in the chronic lifelong depression and fear of abandonment due to inability to attach to distant parents. Oh, yes, I have ME too. By the gods, I hope someone mnagesbto come up with something soon. I try, I try so hard but having left the narc husband and gone no contact(no difficulty there, even with a university aged child), I now experience abuse by proxy. He neglects her medical needs,(he has medical through work which includes his family), so I have to pay. I'm registered disabled, walk with cane due to back thing and he pulls the parental alienation thing. Now that is pure evil. Of course I'm all over the place. He nearly had me sleeping in the garage on the dog bed! That's when I left. Before some numpty says why didn't I leave, I was completely misdiagnosed and on wrong meds. In a fog. And he threatened suicide. And she adored him. I absorbed the worst, acted as a shield it was all I could do. So. ADHD. Is actually very, very nasty indeed and I thank the heavens when I was given Ritalin. But that was it. The abuse continues. And I continue to struggle. Make no mistake. You have saved me by piionting me to the research so I could educate myself. It worked. But there's no cure for ADHD.manage it , yes. With lots of support which I don't have.but put with the CPTSD and the nervous breakdown, I am just so tired of it all. Just so very tired. Parental alienation is the worst kind of child abuse I can imagine. It's certainly the worst kind of spouse abuse. I'm exhausted again, after achieving almost nothing on my lists. I'm going to bed.
I gotta say your very handsome Richard and beautiful and it's so refreshing to see a good looking guy know that they exsist 🙏 I pray theres more men like you out there and that us woman have hope because I'm nearly giving up hope, I've been badly hurt by a narcissist for 6 years proud to say I've been free for 7 months and still very damaged but seeing your vids and educating us will help us never to be prey to their fangs ever again 🧛♂️ thank you! Thank you! Thank you! 🥰
I've followed you and Sam Vaknin since 2015! I speak your praises to everyone. Both of you have helped me save my life and allowed me to move forward. Slowly. But forward. Healing has been a challenging process. But worth it. Thank you.
Im 42 and I have struggled all my life with my emotions and listing to this video has made me realize quit a lot of what u have said is what I go through daily most of the time I don't feel anything Or maybe I am but not understanding what i should be feeling or what each one is.i grew up with both parents being addicts and being abused not by parents a friend of there's I just find it hard
I don’t typically like to mentally diagnose myself things after watching RU-vid videos, but this has left me unsure. I went through a bit of a traumatic year in all honesty. Academically I started something new. Which was fine, to an extent. Then had a bereavement of a grandparent, then got ill unexplainably from January till the end of the year. But it was singlehandedly the worst, most painful and traumatic “experience” I think I’ve ever had. It left me questioning my mortality. And if I think about anything that happened in that time I unexplainably panic. But even if I don’t think about it, since that year, I haven’t felt the same, most things have a tendency to just feel empty, even at times I should be celebrating something. And I might be more frustrated in general, but the change of behavior here isn’t as a result of active memory recall. But kind of the feelings I felt back then. If you know you know, but if you have experienced pain, or illness for a long time to an extent it impacts your everything. But no one can tell you why, most don’t even do the proper checks. But at the end of your experience of having needles put in you, they still can’t explain what’s wrong. And it’s a vicious circle, that feels like it will have no end, and there is a type of tiredness that isn’t just the total exhaustion, but the loss of morale and hope to improve your situations, because not even doctors can explain it. So I don’t know what I have, suggesting more nomothetic research should be done on the topic. Or simply that some people cannot necessarily follow the “general laws” associated.
Thank you Richard. An excellent presentation of CPTSD and defining characteristics. As well as how it differs from PTSD. I appreciate your views of the advantages of healthy lifestyle changes as well as equipping individuals with tools to bring balance without additional pharmaceuticals whenever possible. Your presence and platform are a great asset for all who struggle with individual choice vs. pressures from "Established Protocol". Thank you for being a voice for the voiceless.👏👏👏
Childhood sexual abuse survivor. 25 years of narcasstic abuse survivor. I was unaware there were different types. Until a year ago. They things you described that people go thru afterwards…. I have dealt with. I am a nurse and to admit these things openly to anyone was shameful for me. I have started speaking about this to others. I felt so alone. It hurts me to think that others have endured what I have and much worse in their lives. Thank You for your words today
You are in my prayers & please pray for me, I also am a childhood sexual abuse survivor and I’m currently pretty much a hostage by my husband of 26 years now who suffers with narcissistic personality disorder & he has me literally trapped and down to basically nothing, he’s had 26 years to perfect his manipulation game, he’s turned everyone against me including my kids😭😭😭He’s such an evil monster! Shame on me for it taking me so long to wake up & realize what’s going on. But over the last year, I’ve lost most of my appetite & can barely ever sleep because of the verbal, emotional & mental abuse & lies.. I’ve lost 50 pounds and feel physically sick & everyone around me notices but my husband blames it all on me & so everyone believes him because his manipulation game is 100%. All I do is read my Bible every day, pray to God & appreciate the little bit I have left to my name, I’m grateful that he allows me to stay in a bedroom in his house. I have no help to get out at all, no friends or family to help me, no emergency abused women services will help me, can’t get emergency housing, the national domestic abuse hotline cannot help me, my husband knows if I try to leave or he kicks me out that I have nowhere to go but the streets to die. He doesn’t care, he’s threatened to kick me out for years. I have to tip toe around him all the time so that he doesn’t go into a narcissistic rage episode. Please pray for me please 😭😭😭♥️🙏🏻♥️
@@God4Eternity It’s terrible to be subjected to emotional & physical abuse, that leads to torture. Human beings are entitled to live with dignity, peaceful surrounding, without constant abuse and control. Jesus Christ Saviour & Lord of All will deliver you from this oppression & when you realise the Kingdom of Heaven is present. What’s in this world will be of no value and it will lose its value.
@@God4Eternity I suggest Narcissist Chronicles, Jesse Cabrea chanel for how to Warrior up. I Recommend for He teaches just how to get out. Saved my life eight years ago.
So I’ve struggled greatly with the negative internal voice from the abuse I suffered as a child and a year or so ago I found an app call “I Am” and o can’t say enough good things about it. It gives me notifications if short positive affirmations however frequently I set it to do so, they are customizable and I can make my own if I want. They are shareable and you can save your favorites. The way I spoke to myself when I I first got it and now is wildly different. It’s definitely a 10/10 ⭐️ This is not an ad lol 😂
I definitely need reprogramming. That's what I really need. I appreciate you very much Richard. I like having your videos and your content is so helpful.
Those first symptoms are present in many disorders. You’ve missed the main symptom, which is reintrusive memories. PTSD is largely a memory disorder. All trauma experts I’ve worked with in the field agree. Complex means more events, more memories. These memories are reexperienced sometimes in random ways in what we call a fear network. For memories to not be processed normally means the persons brain is in a state of extreme stress usually THREAT based. Therefore fear is usually the dominant emotion.
@J M - Richard mentioned flashbacks and paired associations which relate to memory. Treatment may involve gradual reexposure to triggers and stimuli involved in order to diminish the emotional intensity of a memory to bearable, get comfy feeling the uncomfy feels to heal in a paced manner rather than opting for drugs to numb it out or avoid it, talking it through in therapy or with others who've got through similar traumas, flipping fear to faith (both are illusions so malleable), changing the context, journalling progress, rewriting scripts, dismantle any pairings, reactivating the parasympathetic CNS with calming activities distractions and routines, basically reexposing yourself to the "bleach" safely in baby steps over and over till unbothered.
He didn’t miss it at all- he just calls them “flashbacks” and “emotional flashbacks”. If they were memories we would be able to process them… but as flashbacks they push us into a survival “four f” response: fight/flight/flee/fawn.
@@johannagrace7768 Flashbacks ARE memories of past trauma. In addition, if either 'fight' or 'flight' are not (or only partially) possible in a dangerous situation, more complicated neurochemical processes set in and our body might go into states of 'freeze', 'flop' or 'fawn' (also referred to as 'be-friend' or 'submit' response).
Flashbacks are just more involuntary and out of our immediate control but we can still sit with them, process them, rewrite them to reduce their emotional loading, impact and influence. A flashback, or involuntary recurrent memory, is a psychological phenomenon in which a person has a sudden, usually powerful, vivid, and 'new' re-experiencing of the memory of a past experience, or elements of a past experience. These experiences can be happy, sad, exciting, or any other emotion.
On the healing end of na trauma the main symptoms still lingering are not connecting to other people, isolating, still some depression but SO SO much better than it was. Thank God! That little head trip folks is not for sissies!!! SO thankful to be where I am today!
I was diagnosed with CPTSD and had 15 year trauma therapy , EMDR , Exposure, Cognitive behavior therapy , Ia lot of trauma injury,s are healed , I was not totally healed when I met a friend who happened later to be a narccistist , that narccistist looked for info about PTSD to use against me , these days I can communicate very well , my life is ordered , structure,s stable , no addictions , peace and harmony .
