INFJ personality types and INFP personality types both tend to struggle with self-sabotage in the creative process. Self-sabotage is an energy that is always driven by fear. For INFJ personality types and INFP personality types, the fear is often that if we experience a creative success, we will then be held to that higher standard for ever after. When we inevitably fail to meet that standard again in the future, we fear that others will be disappointed in us, withdraw their love, and then abandon us.
INFJ personality types and INFP personality types also frequently have a fear of exposure. We fear that if we write our memoir and expose family secrets, or we write a fictional novel and the characters resemble people or situations in our real lives, then we will expose things that we shouldn’t and we will then experience a great amount of backlash from family and friends. Along with this comes a fear of judgement. Many INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are very afraid that someone will misinterpret our words or take offense at something we’ve written or said, and we will then be unfairly judged for that.
Lastly, INFJ personality types and INFP personality types have a fear of revealing our authentic self to the world. Many of us use the strategy of being a chameleon as a type of social crutch in our relationships. We become whatever the other person wants us to be, in order to accommodate their needs and preferences. We usually do this automatically, as a holdover survival strategy from a dysfunctional childhood.
All of these fears that lead to self-sabotage are linked to inner wounds, which is why self-sabotage is something to be healed, not conquered.
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24 авг 2024