Daddy Issues Onscreen - Why Our Culture Mocks Abandonment 

Patriarchal society blames women (even female children) on men's behaviors. Its so weird, men should have all the power to control but none of the responsibility of terrible actions.

Exactly

It's kind of ironic how patriarchal society insists that men have all the power and absolute yet they can't seem to have control of their 'biological urges' and blame them on the women and children for it.

welp, I specifically remember getting laughed at for writing love letters to girls, so emotional Men aren't rewarded, so there ya go...

This is always somewhere on daddy issues videos or topics…and I’m always happy to find it.

And at the same time people argue that children need a stable home with both a mother and a father. Make it make sense, damn it!

emotional Men are not rewarded. tiktok chicks are not writing essays on astrophysics.

@@blazeswithwolvez7221 wtf r u even saying my guy

My friends have daddy issues

sure they do. there's plenty of media depictions of workaholic and/or abusive fathers ruining families. it's just that they're shows more oriented toward adults, and the abusive workaholics are often in high-prestige professions like doctor, lawyer, politician, rock star, athlete... it's wrapped up with the "power turns you into a narcissist" theme, but it's there.

I agree with you but also I think it is also somewhat of a porn category/ romanticized within gay community as well, I'm not sure, not gay personally but it is a trend I kinda noticed. (Correct me if I'm wrong tho)

They're a porn category for guys too IJS.

All about that sweet sweet POWER. A low-effort way to get into someone's heart and mind and mess with them, feeling above them.

Divorce are a tragedy for women but when they happen to men people treat it as a joke and ask him to man up and pay his ex wife

Trust me. 98% of the narcissistic men in porn have the same issues. That is absent or abusive dad`s, or mothers. That is the real blind spot. When we see porn, we often see the codependent relationship play out on the screen. This is also a large part of why people get addicted to porn ( they play out this fantasy in their mind).

The one exception, sadly Tiana didn't fully learn her lesson from Mama Odi as she still thought working harder was going to make her father happier I mean she learned to value random people for more than just money but not working herself to an early grave

Thank you for this comment! I thought the same thing.

Thank you, a very important thing to get wrong. I fear this channel is somewhat declining in quality

To be fair, most of the Disney girls weren't abandoned or neglected, actually. Most of them just lost one parent or both.

Do people actually think that he left? HE DIED! To anyone who thinks otherwise have not seen the Fricking movie

Exactly

for real bruh

Presumably because they had shitty dads themselves and society doesn't particularly encourage them to get help.

THIS 😔

Bc women pick them. Its literally the mothers choice who she has kids with

Yeah she totally needed help

help was plenty done there by Mister gump, yet she still see him as idiot but not as real man. its tragic.

@@anveshnidumolu3679 Help as in professional help. I literally just said that she didn’t need a relationship in her current state, that’s including Forrest. We’ve seen how it worked out when she would go to Forrest in her current state, it’s backwards and forth and really not healthy for neither of them. It’s a lot smarter AND better to get help first before starting a relationship with someone when your ready.

with your point I agree, wish the author had written more about her, than just vanish and death... with single apology with gump being so forgiving type. Rather we men are simple we just want our first crush to lead happy life. Tom Hank really played good role as Forrest Gump so did Miss Sally as Jenny. Let us appreicate the writer for keeping plot interesting and realistic. rather than fan sided biased, its rare nowadays.

@@anveshnidumolu3679 Forest Gump was not a therapist. That is she needed professional help. It`s like if you break your leg, you need help from a doctor. Not from a friend. That is if your brain is broken from trauma you need therapy.

The reverse but somewhat a double standard is mommy issues for a man. Like I see it in certain show with men but when this does happen we find the man being a lot more disrespectful to women. Sadly this behavior gets a pass as it isn't that oversexulized but rather symapathisized

Bc its the mother who picks the man to have kids with, thats why its equally the womans fault.

@@MrEvldreamr it's not if the man decided to leave. Thats the man's fault. Ever take into consideration that a relationship is fine then later the guy dips for no reason? If u leave for whatever reason you're a terrible parent. Custody exists. U don't have to stay together but u can still be in their life. Unless it's one of those situations where the mom won't let him see the kid, the man is to blame. Not sure why it's so hard for ppl to admit men fuck up a lot too. Stop making excuses for shitty men

Because women think of themselves as the main character

@@MrEvldreamr I hear this being said a lot. The woman usually picks a man to be with her, not a man who wants to be a father. So they don’t expect to be left with the baby. Standards for a romantic relationship are completely different than standards for a family. So yeah, she chose a boyfriend. But that doesn’t mean she chose a deadbeat or absent dad for her kid. You wouldn’t be able to predict his ‘family material’ qualities unless you actually talk about children early on in the dating process (which very few people do).

I mean the mother is the other parent you can't portray all women as angels.

@@annasullivan7641 But it's disproportionate blame. In comparison, the father gets off scot free.

@@rejectionisprotection4448 It's both parents fault honestly the main important thing if one or two parents have a child a human being is to make sure they grow up functionally and respect people we can't blame one parent since it is a two person job .

@@annasullivan7641 just admit you are misoginistic

@@kiriki4558 Oh so if a woman a mother is abusive or neglectful doesn't protect her own child that she also decided to bring into the world and that Said child has problems with women in the future that makes me misogynistic 🙃

They're not his problem tho. He did his job (spreading his seeds) what happens next is on them not him. He has no reason to stay lmao.

@@N.I.A23 gotta be trolling or otherwise you are dense as a brick wall lmfao

@@hojosconsal9913 how am I dense? Cause I say the truth? Why should you be our problem??

@@N.I.A23 this is what is wrong with the world. But the absent seed spreader has the nerve to come back and ask for a relationship when they're old and on their Deathbed

@@TunTheOfficial at what scenario will we ever need your "help"? Lmao

I hope they make a video about this too

Excellent point. However, I am seeing more people say "oh, I bet that he didn't have a Dad in his life." So, more people are talking about the issues that boys/men can face growing up without a father.

Probably because that isn't sexy. Also no one cares about mens problems.

@@Chris-rg6nm Bro I have no idea what you're talking about, at least 70% of movies and TV shows are still about mens problems

It's too easy to say that the mom "stayed". Most divorce are initiated by women. That means most of the time it's the mom leaving, but she's leaving WITH the kids. The courts always give the kids to the mother anyways. It's too easy to call the dad a deadbeat when we all know our society doesn't tend to leave the kids with their fathers after a separation

Hi, Currently dating someone with “daddy issues”. it’s been really hard to deal with and I have been trying my best for this past year to help her deal with it. There has been a lot of growth I feel but it seems like deeper issues pop up and harder problems come up. As someone who has these issues. You got any advice?

I think talking about this is great. Hey let's meet for drinks later, i'll be the guy in the knit sweater and pipe

Same! I was only able to see my dad sometimes and he was an alcoholic and my step dad was emotionally abusive. The idea daddy issues manifests in sexuality and no other way is just gross because I definitely didn’t go looking for comfort from older people (not shaming those who do, just that there’s something perverted going on when that’s how daddy issues are handled on screen). It just gave me trust issues and trauma, especially with men.

@@saunderczarsalazar7254 suggest them talk to a professional, that was whem I started to make more progress

From someone else with "daddy issues", same.

YES. I'm 23 and I'm the furthest from being hypersexual or eager to please men, just thinking about it makes me feel angry and sick! I've never even had a crush, never trusted anyone to be vulnerable with them. Ffs before I got in therapy I never cried in front of my MOM unless someone died. I have so much repressed anger for my father that I wasn't able to express until we lost our house because of his debt (in our culture you are not allowed to disobey your father or 'talk back' to him if you're a woman). I've been told that I deal with my childhood trauma 'like a man' (not in a good way) and I don't think I've ever seen this represented in media. Some of us girls are angry, emotionally distant wall-punchers too, dammit!

THANK YOU!!!!

I can relate! Don't have a dad and most of the men I had in my life were shit, which made me emotionally distant and unimpressed by dating and relationships. Also, it just seems to me that being in a relationship is exhausting.

Hello there, 25 years old and nearly-alcoholic woman with general parent issues XD here. The older I got, the more I **hated** the mere idea of "trying" to be intimate with anyone. The older I got the less tolerant I was. It always felt so weird and unnatural to me. My longest relationship lasted for six months and month after month I felt even more detached from him than even in the very beggining of our first meeting. Every time it ended the same way. I loved this relief and actual happiness when it was all over. Today I don't even remember their names. We sometimes talked about sex, despite me being repulsed every time I imagined someone shoving his tool into me. I was **never** taking them seriously, never thought of them as my potential 'friends' or 'partners', whatever. It was soo wrong to me... still is. It's not even disgusting or 'dirty' to me, I just don't see myself as someone's fxck buddy. It would only be me with pain to deal with after, both mental and physical. At some point I had some kind of 'remorse' feeling for not being able to like these guys - but they probably didn't like me that much either; many, many people would consider me extremely boring, even autistic. I just know they would and I don't even mind. I'm actual, 3D version of this 'mommy/daddy issues' meme and I almost accepted things as they are. I've been in therapy for 3 years and I haven't move an inch towards 'normalcy', pills weren't much of a help either, so I gust gave up. I don't care if anyone thinks of me as a 'cheap wh0re' or some other deranged fool, I learned quite some time ago it's not my problem if I have 0 control over this. I'm not responsible for other's issues and insecurities, I have enough of my own already.... I don't have anything more to say to you. Wish you the best, friend. I have a feeling you're a good person.

@@alinashirinian2485 I'm 23 too and I feel the same. People assume having such issues makes everyone hyper sexualized but I'm actually celibate and have been for about 3 years. For personal reasons and because I have issues with intimacy. Sometimes I feel like I am on the spectrum of asexuality even.

are you me

That's why it's not the absence of a parent that causes problems, but the absence of parent figures. I am extremely blessed to have been be raised by a loving mother (who's more a father figure tbh), but I deeply struggle with vulnerability and dependency in relationships. I've never had the example growing up. By no means do I intend to compare myself. I'm just contemplating the unfathomable impact of the relationships you witness during your formative years. I hope you're coping with and healing from the conscious and subconscious traumas brought upon you. Wishing you ease. ❤️

My partner also had a very present abusive father and was bombarded with how she should be grateful for her father simply because fatherlessness is common. Caused a lot of dissociation and difficulty for her in childhood, forcing doubt that the abuse was as bad as it was and a man that reproduced and is in the child's life is inherently a good thing. It's not.

Autumn! You and I have led the same life. It truly attracts emotionally manipulative partners. Much love and healing!❤️

We all deserve so much better. Wishing you the best fellow abuse survivor ❤

do you know why? Women aren't the breadwinners, nor are they gonna build a home. You get me a diamond ring, get on your knee and ask me to marry you... you buy the car and the house, then...

@@blazeswithwolvez7221 women are definitely breadwinners in many households including mine. Women can build houses as civil engineers and architects. Women definitely do special and romantic things for their men (sometimes even proposing to him) but sadly you'll never experience that because you're not a worthy man. You'll end up like those men on 90 Days Fiance who have never met their long distance gf from across the world and get scammed in the end.

Both men and women are bad as each other but there are points in so many situations like custody buying the house by me dinner pay fir dinner and other stuff

​@@blazeswithwolvez7221 Soooo......relationship/marriage is basically a trade? One offers financial value and another offers themselves as a person in exchange? I thought relationships are suppose to be equal emotionally at least for both parties, leaving financial status or anything that's other than your relationship outside your relationship is what I've been taught lul.

@@blazeswithwolvez7221 Uh-oh, looks like someone's got Mummy Issues...

Why did you say her parents plural her mother is still alive ?

THANK YOU!!! Tiana, as a little girl, had a loving mother and father, who both inspired her to pursue her dream of owning her own restaurant. Her father wasn't absent, he died. From the picture she keeps framed and the medal with it, it looks like he died in war. Her father was a good man who didn't leave her with issues. Her mother is still alive when Tiana is an adult. They have a moment together of mourning him.

From a psychology perspective, a death of a parent absolutely still can create attachment issues. It may not be a purposeful abandonment but the child still feels it.

Mom's alive

Yes she definitely shouldn't have been included in this category

Thanks for mentioning this I always had like a duty to be the best in my class and graduate from uni really fast to start working. I've always been independent and strong, but that doesn't mean abandonment hasn't marked me. It's so sad...

Your comment is articulated beautifully.

This is a great point. Beautifully put 👌🏼👌🏼

Definitely

Thanks for pointing this out. I know your comment is from a year ago but it resonated with me. I had a horrible father growing up, he still is today. Even though it forced me to leave home early in life and make my own way I still feel the effects of having a negligent father.

Gendo Ikari from Neon Genesis Evangelion is both.

So you'd take accountability from the women? Are they excused to hurt people just because they have issues?

@@ahabalheis2478 who is talking about "hurting" other people here? I'm talking about the men online who throw around the word "fatherless behaviour" everytime they see a woman living her life even though, the women's way has zero impact on their personal life..

Seek therapy because it's a serious issue that does affect behavior and mind

​@@ahabalheis2478I think you need therapy .. she made some really good points

@@lo_OvungYes but you’re lying. Men are often held accountable for stuff like this

Yeah sadly you are right

Maybe it’s true? Otherwise y would our parents not loved us

​@@user-yk5xu8gr1emaybe it is the parent who was unworthy of love? Evil people exist.

@@ThatGuy-tx4vm yes...I agree....some people are jerks just being a parent doesnt magically elevate them

@@concerned.yankees.fan. abandonment is always an issue time period doesn't matter. even if something is normal or a lot of people experience it doesn't mean it should be ignored or people shouldn't be receiving help. normalized doesn't mean healthy.

That's because abandonment is treated lightly because this society as its whole abandoned its members. So If we were to treat that childhood wound we would heal. But we are much better influenced by capitalism, if broken. If I hear one more time that trauma only refers to big events I'm gonna scream. Trauma is what you didn't get and that can be different for everyone. Sooner sibling can be completely fine and the other has a playe of trauma cause their needs weren't met.

Yea but its the parents fault (mostly the mothers) for picking the very same men they then complain abt. You cant say "absentee fathers aint shit" while looking at divorce alstats and realizing women leave men, not the other way around. So 80% of the time it IS THE MOTHERS FAULT she fucked and then abandoned the man she had kids with.

Well society simply does not care. Incels are the same. Not the psycho sect, but the literal definition of incel... The virgins of the world. They feel as abandoned as they come, yet they are immediately sidelined. Guys with mommy issues. Girls with daddy issues etc. In 2024 we live and die alone it seems... Or at least we have to accept the possibility that we will live alone... If we meet someone that truly cares then it is just a bonus.

This!! I don't want men's approval, on the contrary I resent them.

Same

I was looking for a comment like this! I don’t really like men, never had a man who was consistent in my life, but I keep the man at arms length. It’s hard to work on this issue.

​@@mariabe6404that is... More extreme than the standard version of daddy issues though. If in your soul you genuinely love your father, even if he left and was evil, you would rationalise in a way and would seek approval. If you hate your father for leaving then you would hate men. Obviously. Idk which you are but my guess is you don't have a very high opinion of your father. The average is different. Most abandoned children yearn for their parent and love them in a way.

This is so true… I’ve kind of given up on male friendships. I don’t see any point in maintaining them. Most of them are shitty to women.

Cassie definitely needs help. 😢

I hate when audience are hateful towards Cassie and feel empathy for Zendaya's character considering both suffers from the same pain but deal in diferent ways.

Exactly! Like while yes Cassie was wrong for what she did, Nate was also in the wrong and he knew it was wrong to. Everyone solely bashed Cassie but because the whole “boyfriend/ex boyfriend hooks up with girlfriend/ex girlfriend’s best friend” is normalized…..nobody though to attack him just as much, all the hate was geared towards Cassie and that just shows how misogynistic and sexist our society is. Let’s also not forget how many girls bashed Cassie and didn’t bat an eye at Nate….that tells me that those are the type of girls who would end up in a Maddy/Nate/Cassie situation, but wouldn’t care at all until they get hurt to.

The label "crazy" applied to women is even more pernicious than the label of "daddy issues". Firstly, it's such a lazy catch-all adjective that is almost meaningless. But more importantly it is used to completely minimize and diminish a person's opinions and expression of those feelings.

@@kb_100 Yes indeed. Have you watched the show?

@@burgeaccount no I don't get HBO. But this video has made me interested in seeing it.

​​@@kb_100 That show was originally on the CW so I believe it's on the CW Seed

Same.

Same, my father-related trauma has made me depressed, angry and emotionally distant. Was one of the main causes of my OCD too. I don't have a ton of sexual partners, I have PTSD because of the immense amount of stress my so-called father caused me, it's anything but sexy lmfao.

@@alinashirinian2485 it is hard but you know people can be resilient. it can be hard for you but if you try to treat yourself with the love and care that he did not give you, you will feel that the "issue" will get over easily... prioritize you and you... then if you have the opportunity to confront him without putting yourself in danger can be a good thing... the anger you hold inside is because you need to speak up, confront him and telling what you feel without expecting anything from ... i did this before he died and it worked for me... of course he has never been in my life and now I am greatful for that, he was a terrible human being...

I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

im really sorry. you're brave to talk about it, hope talking about it more makes you feel better, it did for me 🤍

Yes the father left but how you react to it is within your control

@@zero1188 sometimes it's not

So if a child grows up with mommy issues because they were sent to the foster system. is the biological mother to blame for how that child ends up?

THIS 😭😭😭

Girl, see a therapist. My father was also always never there, but you should recognize how predators act after being with even one, try to find the opposite personality.

There's nothing to be embarrassed of, it's just biology. I hope you find healing. Wish you the best.

First of, as someone with daddy- and mommy-issues, therapy can help with a lot of the feelings you perceive and struggle with. I've been in therapy for over 5 years, and it has completely changed the way I think. Plus, it has helped confront a lot of the issues that came from emotionally unavailable, and emotionally abusive parents. Secondly, your sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of! Craving to be with a loving, respectful, dominant partner is nothing wrong, because even if a scene may not reflect that - the overall relationship will/should do. There are a lot of abusive people who use the dom/sub sexual dynamic to pray on vulnerable people, so you have to be careful. But there are just as many people who understand that communication, respect, understanding and valuing your partner is important. It also can be a health and fulfilling relationship dynamic (does not have to be sexual). It also teaches you that communication is key, and that you are valued for who you are (including that 12 year old girl that wants love and affection). And it can also help heal some of our wounds and help re-learn/re-evaluate unhealthy patterns and relationships. So really nothing to be ashamed of!! :)

I bet you’re bodycount is insane woman 😂

You need a therapist! There’s so many open wounds that need a band aid. Hope you find peace in the midst of your turmoils. Men aren’t all that! Once you start loving yourself you’ll realize that you don’t need a man to feel complete or happy. We’re already born to be self-sufficient. It’s not too late to make peace with your past and show some love to your 12 year old self. Deep down she’s screaming begging for attention and love. You are the only one that can protect and love her at this point, no one else but you. Stop neglecting her and start showing up for her Hope you find your worth ❤

Me too even i watched the same

lol, I saw that tiktok just yesterday

The title of the video please.

@@lilac6222 I'll try to find it.

Omg same, I watched like 2 days ago

I'm sorry that you went through that

I am so sorry you went through all of this. I relate in many of your points, it’s so unbelievably painful and lonely. But you’re a survivor and a warrior. You’re not alone. Hug yourself everyday, tell yourself you are enough, just the way you are. Do something everyday that brings you joy and fuck everything else.

It happens because we don't held abusers accountable...it's easier to make fun of the victim for having " daddy issues "

You obviously did something wrong. We only abuse you when you have it coming.

@@Sishel ❤️❤️

It is really too sad.

Abandon/abuse, sexually exploit, and then further abuse due to our vulnerability to said sexual abuse, exploitation and degradation for what they clearly understand as low self-esteem.

Why are you generalizing when men suffer from that as well and from women with issues? Do you think women are the only ones born into families? Or the man who left is exactly like a another who's only similarity is that they share male genitalia?

@@ahabalheis2478 men choose to leave and shame women for their fathers being shitty or out of the picture. if men wanted to stop they would. it's a men's issue. Women are allowed to acknowledge this and shame on you for trying to get us to stop because you're fucking offended.

I'm not gonna let you demonize a sex and exonerate another, it's fucked up to abandon your family for any sex and men and women should deal with their issues that could stem from anything, I'm honestly on your side I just want everyone accountable

I never really understood "daddy" issues tbh... I was always under the impression that it's really just general neglect or bad parental relationships from either side regardless of the gender.

The problem with having a bad parent is that the other parent will ALSO be affected and need help her/himself. An absent father is more likely to mean an absent mom because she might be working overtime to support the family, or is out looking for other men, or is traumatized and depressed from the abandonment herself. In this situation, the child has essentially no strong supportive figure and is left all alone.

@@Lwoods1717 this.

Wow, thank you for saying this, this was very illuminating. The mere concept of daddy issues being gendered and heteronormative. We should be addressing general parental neglect instead of saying it’s a mother/father issue 🤔

@@Peecamarke It's gendered because of how its unfortunatly sexualised I think.

I related to Lexi so much. As my sister is like Cassie, very promiscuous and gets into toxic relationships with guys. She also does drugs and have angry outbursts over little things. We both have "daddy issues" but deal with them differently. I struggle with anxiety and possibly another mental health issues. I display similar behaviour as Lexi, just being quiet in the background and observing others not saying anything. And I do enjoy the arts and wanting to write a book/novel, liking fanfics and interpretations to shows, anime etc. similar to Lexi's play.

While Lexi also suffered from their dad’s abandonment….they way she opened up about it wasn’t that great, especially with her play…..she was wrong for that. She didn’t seem to get permission from any of her friends to do it, and then when Cassie confronted her for only doing the play as a way to humiliate and embarrass all of them, Lexi tried to deny it…..but she literally had all of the characters in her play portraying her friends doing the same shit that we saw from all of them in Season 1, with similar names….it couldn’t have been any more obvious that she was making a play about them, the only difference is that with her friends…she was just describing them and what they’ve gone through in their lives……with Cassie, she fully shamed and made fun of her all because Cassie has big boobs, but was constantly being sexualized by those around her, including their mom or was feeling insecure about herself which is completely normal but “shallow” and “stuck up” in Lexi’s eyes. Lexi basically made the play to vent about how insecure and non empathetic she is. What’s worse is that she didn’t even fully go into detail about how traumatized she was from her father leaving the family……there was small parts here and there, but it was mostly about everyone else. While Lexi did definitely experience some type of trauma…..the way she expressed it wasn’t that good. There should’ve been an episode where they could’ve done an intervention with Cassie, Lexi, and Suze…..for them to open up about their emotions and solve the problem, no yelling, no shaming, no craziness.

Thank you for mentioning this. I shall look it up. I recently cut out all negative men from my life and am working on rebuilding myself.

Idk how it is where you live, but every time there's a school shooting or other crime committed by a male there's mention of single parent households (almost always mothers) or growing up without fathers contributing to this. I don't think anyone is unaware of the negative effects growing up without a father figure affects children of all genders, but girls and women are by far more likely to be blamed and mocked for having daddy issues.

@@isbalella First outside the US are way less school shootings, so this might be a factor, yes. Secondly I am talking about entertainment media, like the movies that were talked about in this video. I can name you dozens of movies with girls having daddy issues and being blamed for it, but close to none where the same thing can be said about male figures. For example INCELs and MRAs are mostly abondoned by their parents, the majority being fathers, cause they are mostly to leave.

Not true - Boy Meets World deals with this

@@beebomouse Exactly what I said, so it is true

@@BabaJaga 'no representation or calling out in media' were your words, I provided example, so no, not true that there are no representations 😂

The problem is somewhere I believe that if I was beautiful my dad would have valued me…maybe he was disappointed I didn’t turn out very pretty like some girls….because I have never seen a pretty girl having daddy issues (except in cases where he walked off when she was baby)

@@user-yk5xu8gr1e Internet hugs to you. I feel the same way, I remember getting fat as a young girl (food was my bff) and my dad constantly commenting on it. His favorite hobby was to take a picture with a camera whenever I was eating to later show me how disgusting I looked. I'm so sorry our dads didn't value us as human beings who needed love and support to grow and become stable adults. You didn't deserve a father like that, and you're worth all the internet hugs I can give 💜

@@MaliciousCorpse Hugs to you too! The bad outcome of that reject is that every time I feel “less than” or insulted by other men I feel like my dads dislike towards me is justified…I really am undesirable and that’s why he was so disappointed in me as a child….and that’s the worst feeling ever….to feel he wasn’t wrong in hating me and I don’t deserve better 😔 and physical aspect or even some mental capacity is pure genetic we can only do so much about it there is always limitations. But on the other hand I also feel like even if he felt bad about me not turning out pretty, he could have kept those thoughts to himself and gave me some solid foundation I would have realized my worth anyways and maybe it wouldn’t even matter to me as much as it does now….instead he pushed me to excel in studies which I realized was just a code for “well u are ugly might as well have a career” and it made me value physical beauty even more sadly 😩

Have you ever thought about the fact that maybe the mother pushed them away and expelled him from the family?

@@Doidao-xx5vf Nothing should take you away from you own child!! No one!!

@@isabella6075 well the law can. It’s not always the fathers fault. If women took accountability for their actions society would realize this but they don’t. Ppl always act like it’s the mans fault 100% of the time.

@@Doidao-xx5vf Yet who created that system oh wait males did. Remember the gender roles they placed on women it’s backfiring against them. You deflected blamed women for a system your gender created. Seem like males don’t take accountability for their own actions!!

@@isabella6075 regardless of who created it or not women need to take accountability of their actions same as men so situations like this don’t occur.

That's because there are women like her. Plenty of that sleep with best friends boyfriends and are heaux.

I always feel maybe it’s because we weren’t pretty girls and so were not much appreciated by our dads….because I have rarely seen a pretty girl (who is born beautiful) having daddy issues it’s always the plain looking ones….

She slept with her best friends boyfriend.

I’m so sorry is your sister safe? Do you have any contact with her?

@@rebeccaforbes9624 yeah she actually moved back a few months ago. Things are definitely better.

Same. My dad exists in so many men, behavior wise. That's why I hate them so much. I see him in alot of men.

go lesbian

The fact that it’s a Micheal Bay film says everything…not surprised

That's honestly disgusting. As it not only trivializes the real emotional issues, but also a valid sexual dynamic - basically over-sexualizing both. If looking at a dom/sub relationship, there is always respect and kindness involved. Lots of communication, boundary setting, and making sure the sub as well as the dom are okay with what is happening. Even if it may seem to an outsider like the dom doesn't take their little serious or mocks them - it's part on a mutually agreed on dynamic. A dominant will always make sure that their sub will feel respected, valued, and understood. Unfortunately, it has been fetishized and misrepresented more and more in recent years. Many people don't understand that, done right, it can be a healthy, positive dynamic. That lack of knowledge can often lead someone vulnerable into an abusive relationship.

You guys are overthink this too much

People criticize her for not paying attention to Forrest's feelings towards her, but we must remember something: Forrest's mental disorder. I think the reason Jenny is so reluctant to romance Forrest is probably because she is afraid that by doing so she would be taking advantage of someone with a disability.

Yeah and it was HEAVILY IMPLIED that her Dad s**ually abused both her and her sister.

I'm really new to this phenomenon, it's not that Forrest is a "nice guy" but every jenny h8r seems to think he's unable to fully consent to being in a relationship?

People hate her because she treated Forrest like a dumb person and was a terrible friend to him. He did so much for her and she took it for granted.

The best thing you can do is to keep distance... and be detached emotionally...you have to preserve yourself from this kind of abusers, they are not good for your health and your life

THIS!

I agree with that. As a southern girl, my dad was always "Daddy" to me, even after I was grown, so the idea of calling a man that has always grossed me out. I've never understood why I man would want to be called that by the woman he is intimately involved with

It's gross because it's becoming popular even now on Tick tock. Like it's literally sexist

Yeah the "lolita" trope should stay dead.

Yeah it made me feel highly uncomfortable when I was called Daddy, but media and pop culture normalize that so much to be a thing a guy wants I was nervous to bring it up. Patriarchy really messes up your mind and perspective on things smh

Luckily, I was never called "daddy" by a partner. I don't find it hot or sexy at all. It's creepy af.

Idk but its driving me insane.

Maybe it is simply because they can do it if they are abusers they are forgiven easily. In general, societies blame the daugther or the woman for ' men behaviour' . Men dont feel any responsability from their actions and they are not punished socially, if they can do it they do it, this is how male behaviour work...

Me too,but actually it does makes me fearful of men and anxious of getting close or intimate and hopeless that anyone would actually love me,i think i am looking for a father figure instead of a partner.

lesbians who look for older lesbians, similar to straight women looking for older men.

imo there's no difference, it's really just general neglect or bad parental relationships regardless of gender.

@@LarrySonOfMilton This is supposed to be a joke right?

I have both a father wound and a mother would. I’m not a criminal nor a serial killer. Please stop it with this bullshit correlation. All criminals have mental issues, but not all people with mental issues are criminals 🤦‍♀️

Serial killer and psychopaths are born without wiring in their brains for empathy

Can you explain what you mean by this? I don't quite get it and I'm interested to know

But too much intrusion,before allowing her to marry accordingly to her choice, can cause her to not exercise Agency or not taking her own decisions. This is neglect of some aspects due to overindulgence over the others.

I had to stop watching the film because I was so uncomfortable

@@angelaholmes8888 exactly! It’s an extremely uncomfortable movie and the worst thing is it didn’t have to be! Marilyn did live a difficult life but she also had triumphs as well and the movie ignored that

She never did. In the movies she did but that's a character and the Blond directors were so wrong for that

like not a hyper-sexual stereotype or emotionally unstable? I just think a lot of us (myself included) hide it a lot and convince ourselves through other people telling us that we are okay, that we dont have issues we may need to work through.

"the overwhelmingly majority of women turn out completely normal" this phrase by itself is false, look at the stats in developed countries, 1 in 4 women by the age of 40 had used or is currently using some medication to treat depression, anxiety or other mental problems. So women because of many factors are more mentally unstable by nature even without dad issues.