Dads, Sons with ADHD & Power Struggles - ADHD Dude - Ryan Wexelblatt

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I often hear from fathers about the power struggles they get into with their son, or from mothers who feel caught in the middle when their sons and son's husbands/son's father get into battles. In this video I explain to fathers why their son's get into power battles with them and how to end them.
These strategies are taught in Scaffolding Better Behavior & Self-Confidence, the ADHD Dude Parent Behavior Training program available at the ADHD Dude Membership Site. This is the first Parent Behavior Training Program specifically designed for parents of kids with ADHD. Learn more at: www.adhddudecourses.com
𝗘𝗺𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗽𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗲𝗴𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗸𝗶𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗹 𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗮𝗹, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝘁 𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝟯𝟬.
𝗔𝗗𝗛𝗗 𝗗𝘂𝗱𝗲 𝗶𝘀 𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻 𝗪𝗲𝘅𝗲𝗹𝗯𝗹𝗮𝘁𝘁, 𝗟𝗖𝗦𝗪, 𝗔𝗗𝗛𝗗-𝗖𝗖𝗦𝗣.
👨‍👦𝗥𝘆𝗮𝗻 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝗮 𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗔𝗗𝗛𝗗, 𝗮 𝗟𝗶𝗰𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗖𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗦𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗲𝗿, 𝗖𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗱 𝗦𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗼𝗹 𝗦𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸𝗲𝗿, 𝗔𝗗𝗛𝗗-𝗖𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗱 𝗖𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹 𝗦𝗲𝗿𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗻 𝘀𝗼𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗹𝗹𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗯𝗼𝘆𝘀.
𝗦𝗶𝗴𝗻 𝘂𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗔𝗗𝗛𝗗 𝗗𝘂𝗱𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗶𝘃𝗲: "𝗧𝗼𝗽 𝟲 𝗕𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗦𝗽𝗼𝘁𝘀 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝗕𝘆 𝗙𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗞𝗶𝗱𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗔𝗗𝗛𝗗":
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𝘈𝘋𝘏𝘋 𝘋𝘶𝘥𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘦𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺. 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯 𝘢 𝘤𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭 𝘤𝘢𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘮𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘢, 𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘰𝘴, 𝘦𝘵𝘤. 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘤𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩 𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘛𝘶𝘣𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴, 𝘴𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘮𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘢, 𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘪𝘭, 𝘦𝘵𝘤.
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@srock7967 5 месяцев назад

We have done years of OT, counseling & even did intensive in-home therapy for months for my daughter. I even have my own ADHD coach, and not one of the professionals has ever told us to stop prompting, to validate and move on when they are making noise or given these details on how to stop power struggles. I’ve jut watch 5 of your videos and took pages of notes. Thank you so much. You are right, all the things with teaching tools and techniques do not work because she cannot access her previous emotions to learn from. 🤯🤯

@ADHDDude 5 месяцев назад

I'm so glad to hear it was helpful, thank you!

@TPWK216 8 месяцев назад

Im a single mom with soon to be 8 year old kid. I guess he have a severe kind of adhd. He has his own teacher (aka best friend) and his own room in the schoolbuilding. He does not want to be in the classroom at all and havent bin for most his schooling, except for arts and crafts and stuff like that. He does have friends in school but his social skills are not the best so its verry mutch about other kids who has to adoubt to his games. His a social high speed or low speed. What we choose to call it and do at home is coworking for are day to day life to work. Its verry important to choose your badles. What i found most hard is the surroundings lack of understandment. And there arent so mutch for him to do as after school things, if he isnt bringing a friend home. We have tried soccer, ski and scouting. But it involves to mutch of structure that he finds it verry hard and not enjoyeble. His anxiety gets thrugh the roof. So we do stuff together in the woods and stuff but i wont him to be more around other people, because he is verry social and i want to work on his social skills. Im not saying i know alot about adhd i struggle alot, but i dont want to show that to my son and im eager to learn more. 🙏

@ADHDDude 8 месяцев назад

Please check out the videos in the "start here" playlist at the channel Thanks

@nicolaiprowse3893 17 часов назад

This is brilliant! My 5YO is struggling with all of this and we are getting better but these tips are great, thank you!!!

@buildwithtom Год назад

I just found your channel and feel so heard. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and helping future generations of kids and parents. Your work now compounds forward and I'm here for it. Cheers.

@ADHDDude Год назад

Thanks Tom, that really means a lot to me. Cheers

@sonjaforster7091 11 месяцев назад

Same here.

@sianiwilliams2002 4 месяца назад

I am Currently struggling with my 3 year old son. I have been trying to to reach for help from Edwin Lobo I first suspected ASD due to the red flags including delays speech Recently it’s been a rollercoaster of emotions for the whole family my partner is mentally becoming exhausted my child is displaying aggressive behaviour … Everyday is like a battle physically drained can’t remember last time I slept a good 4/5 hours without disruptions The family Doctors done nothing I was forced to register my son with another Family Doctors. Physically I am constantly tired and having palpitations… I am worried of the system delays to have a proper neurological assessment and a diagnosis to address the real issues with behaviour therapy or prescribed medication…

@mey1127 3 года назад

Great advice as always Ryan! This is so helpful not only to dads but also to me as a mom. My son and I get into power struggles constantly but thanks to your content i've learn to disengage and allow for both of us to cool down before we can talk again. Thank you!

@ADHDDude 3 года назад

Thank you for watching. :)

@3dreamsequence 2 года назад

Thank you for the video! Really helpful advice for me and my son and also for me when I'm elevated. Now I just need to watch it 12 more times to let it really sink in lol

@ADHDDude 2 года назад

Really glad you found it. Please join the Facebook group if you're not there already.

@FurtiveSkeptical 10 месяцев назад

We BOTH have ADHD, it's been a difficult journey being firm and fair. And an exercise in flexibility for us both. It's gradually improving. Thanks for this resource.✌️

@ADHDDude 9 месяцев назад

Yes, it definitely can be an exercise in flexibility for both parent and child, it was for me.

@edwardmitchell6581 6 месяцев назад

My wife has it too. Plus we have 3 boys.

@soniapandey3246 2 месяца назад

Is medication necessary in adhd

@mairindavie3214 9 месяцев назад

Thank you sooo much! Finally someone who really gets my kids. So my next question is when avoiding a power struggle I may let my child take out the trash later (as they say they will do) but then they forget and there I go again having to prompt. I’m exhausted from being the executive functioning for my kids and from weathering the emotional intensity over the smallest things. 😢

@ADHDDude 9 месяцев назад

So you have to decide you're going to provide them with "scaffolding" to start using their own executive functioning. This is covered in the Executive Function Crash Course for Parents series here: www.adhddudecourses.com

@jasonstick2270 9 месяцев назад

This sounds like most kids. Unless my daughter has ADHD and was never diagnosed with it. My son has ADHD that's why I love watching your videos. Keep it up!

@ADHDDude 9 месяцев назад

Thank You!

@afdave7 Год назад

So much good stuff in here. Thank you!!!

@ADHDDude Год назад

Thank you for watching!

@newportchris Год назад

Fantastic and clarifying video! Thank you!

@ADHDDude Год назад

Glad it was helpful!

@tuanshomes Год назад

So good! As always! Thanks Dude!

@ADHDDude Год назад

Thanks for watching!

@candicewdowiak9254 3 года назад

These Dad videos are so helpful . Thanks Ryan

@ADHDDude 3 года назад

Really glad to hear it, thank you!

@KatyR804 Год назад

Subscribed ♡

@ADHDDude Год назад

Thank you!

@NettyB 9 месяцев назад

Great video! Thank you

@ADHDDude 9 месяцев назад

You are welcome!

@emilyfriedman5820 3 года назад

ADHD dude is wonderful! Thank you for your help

@ADHDDude 3 года назад

Thank you very much :)

@regantarpey1819 3 года назад

Phenomenal content and spot on with great specific strategies. Thank you Ryan.

@ADHDDude 3 года назад

My pleasure!

@lemt.6753 8 месяцев назад

Thank you...

@ADHDDude 8 месяцев назад

Thanks for watching

@MrCrescendo 3 года назад

good stuff. I've subscribed. Thank you for sharing this content. It's important.

@ADHDDude 3 года назад

Thank you Erik, much appreciated!

@josephmitchell6340 4 месяца назад

Thanks just thanks. Subed

@ADHDDude 4 месяца назад

Awesome, thank you!

@TM15HAKRN 2 месяца назад

Nice Inspiring Thanks 😊

@ADHDDude 2 месяца назад

Thank You!

@binabista4910 11 месяцев назад

Thank you so much for sharing this kind of helpful information. God bless you and your family.

@ADHDDude 11 месяцев назад

Thank you so much and same to your family.

@Megan-nw1kj 3 года назад

Just found your channel through an ADHD support group. We’ve struggled with my 8 year old daughter for along time and she was recently diagnosed. I wish I had this information years ago! It’s great!

@ADHDDude 3 года назад

Thank you very much! Please feel free to join the Facebook group if you haven't already. :)

@EvelynCurtis Год назад

Oh my goodness! This is a whole new world! I've never felt more understoodwith my son. I'm certain I have adhd, and he does for sure, although he's only 5 and not been diagnosed. He's shown signs since he was a new born. How do we stop his worked up behavior?

@ADHDDude Год назад

Hi Evelyn, the idea is not to "stop" his behavior, but rather how to provide more "scaffolding" to help encourage the behaviors you want. I suggest starting with the "Start Here" or "Behavior" playlist at the channel.

@sarahdaydreams 2 года назад

Ryan, what do we do about hitting? My son doesn't hit me (mom) but he has no problem hitting his dad. We've been having such a hard time understanding how to handle it. Im a member of your site. Have to get in on office hours! Thanks!

@ADHDDude 2 года назад

Hi Sarah, I would need much more context for understanding the situation. I can't answer a question with this little information, sorry

@brendentorrell8948 9 месяцев назад

what about when you ignore his power struggle but he ends up throwing stuff, slamming doors and ruining the house?

@ADHDDude 9 месяцев назад

You're going to need to not give the behaviors any attention because the more attention they get, the more they reinforce the effectiveness. You also need to enlist supporters. This is all covered in detail in Scaffolding Better Behavior.

@barbh1 3 месяца назад

A couple of things I was thinking, listening to this very good video. First, if the child's working brain doesn't work properly, won't he forget what the problem was by the time you wait to calm down? Second, I've read some very alarming things about when Oppositional Defiant Disorder is combined with ADHD. It said if a person has ODD, they don't really care if they have hurt your feelings.

@ADHDDude 3 месяца назад

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@ankushmanhas5194 2 месяца назад

❤

@josephl6727 Год назад

Your voice reminds me of a cross between Anthony Pompliano and Joe Rogan. Lol Great information!

@ADHDDude Год назад

Hey thanks, I didn't know who Anthony Pompliano was so I looked him up, I'm going to listen to his podcast. Really appreciate you watching! Thanks, Ryan

@okielawnguy 2 года назад

Hey Ryan, My wife and I have been dealing with power struggles with my son. We noticed that my son has massive blowups when we get onto him for bad behavior. He tends to say things that are extremely hurtful & pointed at my wife and I . What are we to do in these types of situations?

@ADHDDude 2 года назад

This is comprehensively covered in Scaffolding Better Behavior & Self-Confidence, my Parent Behavior Training program which you can read about at www.adhddudecourses.com

@jessicakeskemety22 Год назад

Can I tell you how much you help me? We are STRUGGLING at age 4 lately (son is autistic but, lots of adhd qualities-I know well I have adhd as his mama, lol)

@ADHDDude Год назад

Thank you so much, I really appreciate it!

@isabeldelgado5053 Год назад

What about when they start to act violently? Like trying to break stuff in the house cause they didn’t get their way 😢

@ADHDDude Год назад

I teach how to handle that in Scaffolding Better Behavior, my parent behavior training program.

@soniapandey3246 2 месяца назад

Hi I am an Indian mom of a six year old bo with adhd, he has been constantly on therapies since he was 3.5 years old and I have seen improvements. But at times his impulsive behavior is too difficult to handle, is medication necessary in his case?

@ADHDDude 2 месяца назад

I'm not a licensed medical professional and even if I were it would be inapropriate for me to provide medical advice online. Please see my videos about the long-term research data about people with ADHD who go unmedicated. For your son's age, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommended treatment is Parent Training (provided through the ADHD Dude Membership Site) in conjunction with medication management.