Take it from me it happens all the time. I've always been that Good girl and treated every man honest 😌 and they always ended up using me in some way. Either it was for Car insurance, a place to stay, food, money, lunch money, a shovel to shovel their ex out , a jack to change their ex tire. Yes I said it. It happened to me. When you come on the scene having it ALL together you attract dusties and users and narcissistic. When I didn't have anything I attracted high value men it was the other way around.
@@msve3730 that's true because men look at independent woman as competitors, and we can't grant them emotional security because they no we don't "NEED" them and they don't feel secure if you don't need them that's why they date LOW- CLASS woman only to mistreat them, I refuse to dumb myself down to stroke a man's ego, if he don't like this .....next😂
Yep ugly guys are a better investment, they’ll be more desperate and enamoured with you ... hot guys have probably had some “10”s even so aren’t as impressed
I have never settled. But I'm also over fifty! So nobody wants to be this old and single, although I'll remain single until the day I die rather then settle.
@@peekaboots01I’m almost 58 and got approached at a coffee shop recently. I’m almost ready to start free styling even though I still need to lose weight. Never give up. Just get out there and have fun either way.
My last relationship my ex paid everything and I am accustomed to that... I tell my friends all the time... I want to be a kept wife and he has to be able to provide and protect 100%
@@honeywest39j95 She has a degree, and then there's insurance. You never been married to a man of means have you? You can't even fathom a future for her. Lol
@@dcaramelone as I stated in my last comment, having a plan "B" is necessary....and you really don't know enough about me to know what I can "fathom".....these were supposed to be words of wisdom, not an attack.....take care...✌
This woman is the TRUTH! I started watching her videos.. last week. I have already gotten shoes, designer bags , money , wealthy men approaching me smh... why wasn't I doing this before?!..
That’s crazy My dad tells us a story about a women he met that said she wants this this and this My bill cost this He passed on her but he still says til this day She was fine as hell and wasn’t afraid to ask for what she wants And she was worth every penny of it He tells his daughters You need to be the same way State what you want and if he doesn’t give it to you keep it moving Thanks for sharing your story
I must say your unapologetic delivery is tough for broke men to swallow or even lovers of broke men but to each his/her own. When you have seen or experienced true struggle love, nothing can change your mind from wanting better for yourself and children. Thanks for sharing. He showed you how interested he truly was in you from the jump! Law of attraction works whether you know it or not.
I found her videos by accident lol 😂 . I do agree 100% that women should want men who are providers. I’ve been in struggle love relationships and they don’t work and are a waste of time especially when you as the woman is the breadwinner. I will never settle for less again.
I think "security is wise to look for in a man" is a dirty little secret that comes off as very artificial to many people, but idk. I think any woman, even the stodgiest ones that think love should be separate from security, could benefit a lot from staying away from any low-effort men. Anyone. I've seen all sorts of romantics end up actually, indirectly, supporting actual bad mediocrity and shitty behavior from a man just because they have normalized having low standards or even romanticize--they might be on the side of "love", but relying too heavily on the initial spark (which can be pretty misleading; hormones can be weird) and ignoring things that would keep the fire blazing in the long-term is a mistake.
. I don't date Dusty women either who can't do anything for me. Complete agreement to male feminist. I have my interests and my concern about myself 100% holy and nobody else. We are on the same page.
I did the Dusty Sponsorship program from 19-22, and got tfo. I’m in my 30s, married and spoiled to heaven and back. No thanks. Never again. Keep spreading the gospel auntie.
never did sponsorship. the man wasn't even broke but never spoiled, provided or paid my bills. told me he only "want a real genuine connection". i wasn't broke either. but somehow it felt more plain like a room mate situation.
I wish I started watching these videos earlier; like nine years ago. I paid an ex’s bills when he couldn’t, bought his groceries, paid another ex half of the rent, bought groceries, paid for meals and didn’t get help for car trouble or spending money or anything and he would tell me how beautiful I look naturally, when I told him my nails needed to be done, he said they were fine. But it’s all my fault. I have wanted a guy to spoil me like my ex husband but never made it a requirement. I am learning to value myself more and love myself more, have higher standards and know what kind of person I wanted in my life.
BOSS! For knowing what you want and accepting no less than the best. You call it gold digging, I call it having standards for yourself. Keep making these videos and empowering people to live their authentic lives. Blessed Be.
creativpassion- I agree!!! Men go after what they want all the time. Men have in their mind they want a beautiful woman with a great body, doesn’t talk too much, fun, and doesn’t have kids ... ( for example) and that’s okay for them but women can’t want a man with intelligence and financial stability? Let’s just get real!
Society will call you names because you want someone who is financially stable. Don't listen! Its a trap! Be with someone who appreciates you and knows your worth! I love my man and his funds tuh
There’s nothing wrong with wanting a man who pays all the bills but remember that at any point he can replace you. Don’t paint y’all selves into a corner
@@divarlyasmr yeah but on that account you got your own stuff so you can just find another man. If he paying for everything and kicks you you ass out basically. I’m for all parties choosing to play the game but all players need to have their ducks in a row before stepping on the court
@@Haddonfield63just because a man is paying your bill doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have your own money. Either work, start a business, or stack and save some of the money he gives. Shera makes her own income even though she is taken care of and she teaches other women to do the same.
Now that I am back dating, this video is confirmation... I been curbing , deleting and blocking ..getting rid of guys who dont measure up to my standards... bc I know exactly what I want and the type of life I want to live. #DontSettle
Read the book of tuth if ur a Christian. The only book in the protestant bible named after and about a woman . N she looked for a rivh man bc working in the fields after being widowed was a NO. 😂 the book says she did good. She did what was right!
Lex Nicole if I marry up to a rich man I would not give up my career. Maybe I would got to part time from full time to lower my stress but I would keep working and just save my money. Let him pay everything and I just save and save and eventually invest. You never know when a man can suddenly become abusive and turn on you. You never know if he’s the type to pamper you so long as you’re with him and if you get sick of his asshole character that developed later, if you leave he will get a lawyer to try to not give you anything! You just never know. So if you’re happy with him let him pay for it all and save your own money. Keep your skills in your profession and always be prepared for a future without a man providing, just in case.
Shera encourages women to use the money the man gives you to invest in your own business or save most of it if you don't know what to invest it in yet. In fact, she leaves the decision to leave your job up to the woman. It's a matter of when to leave a job working for someone else to start working for yourself or at least working from home. The whole purpose is to allow the woman to focus on the main responsibilities she has as a wife: home, kids, self, and caring for her man. It is very difficult to do that when you have a full time job like he does. The woman is helping him with his duties (by paying half the bills and taking care of herself) so what is he helping her with just as equally? SMH. Women need to wake up and wake those men up. Even they don't realize this is what they are doing sometimes. My husband of over 8 years finally understood this and has taken on more of the financial responsibility and promises to one day take on 100%. We have 2 kids. It is good to hear another point of view....
oh and thanks SheRaSeven for all the great advice. I'm 20 years old and have wanted the same life style that you have for yourself since I was 16 and this is just reassuring me that I'm going about it the right way plus giving me more tips and tricks on how to get what I want out of life. thanks again!
20 years ago everybody did this. A group of women always attract men. They love a variety. I was with my girls when I met my man many years ago. He was everything I desired. I didn't know about LOA back then & had no plans. Just a desire.
An older wealthy man who is a 2-5 on a scale of 10 in the looks department is going to pursue an 8-10 woman with vigor especially if she’s in her 20’s.
there is nothing wrong with having standards ladies...who needs a cute man...men get their worth from work and providing.. gold digger or not what woman in her right mind would marry a broke man( financially or spiritually) that can not/ does not want support her
@@brecaldwell2993 no, it's not unrealistic! You need a certain level of attraction to him. How else are you going to have sex 😂 It just depends on how you define "taking care of". He doesn't have to earn millions to take care of you. Things get unrealistic when one has ridicilous expectations 😅
@@brecaldwell2993no it’s not unrealistic, ideally we need to be drawn to them as well as have them be providers, it’s possible just expecting someone whose a millionaire and also looks like Americans next top model is when things are unrealistic..but you can definitely have a balance and find someone your attracted to!
honestly, as a woman past 40 with a good career, her own means, & honest, wants love without all the games ... but single & without children it makes me wonder if playing games & gold digging would’ve been the better choice smh 🤦♀️
It's about to happen to me, gurl!! THANK YOU FOR YOUR UPLIFTING, POSITIVE AND EMPOWERING VIDEOS REASSURING ME WHAT I WANT (OR BETTER) IS ABOUT TO HAPPEN ANY DAY NOW!! YES!!!
Wow. I love your story. My sister, is basically an Asian kid who always sit in front of the class and wear glasses, got Chanel bags and apple computer from all the people that she dated. I’m here dating all these attracted loser guys and I sometimes have to pay for the dates -_- I need to learn from you and my sister!
Moral of the story is that no matter how good of a person you are, no matter how faithful and how honest of a person you are you won't beat hypergamy. It's taken me 20 years to learn that an attractive woman will not build with you so it's best to build by yourself and when you are financially stable then you might be able to marry a beautiful woman who will hopefully be faithful to you. This is coming from a lesbian stud who's going on a dating hiatus until I'm debt free and have disposal income
You are looking for a "beautiful woman", yet implying like they're flakey or superficial for not choosing you based on honesty and morals? You were looking for looks! I wish you the best with your business though gurl
@@user-jf4xi4tv3q Yes, beautiful to me would be someone in physical attracted to…trust me I’ve tried several times to have girlfriends who were not traditionally attractive in my eyes and after awhile I would cringe when they would try to touch or kiss me. That’s not fair to them and that wasn’t fair to me
@@FEMME_CHRONICLES Fast forward two years later I said screw it. I have more money in my pocket, more money to invest with and peace of mind remaining single. I rather spend my money where it’s supposed to go: my 11 year old son, my dog and myself Some people are just meant to be single and I’m one of them
Love your story! Thanks for sharing. And you're right about not settling. My husband is the same way. He's a little nerdy, but he's cute, keeps all the bills paid, and he puts up with all my craziness. I love him so much...
I wish I saw these when I was younger but I appreciate that I found you through tiktok. Single, no kids, 28 and i'm not willing to settle. So this is very informational for me. Definitely helps me know what I should be doing, saying, and how I should act.
Gurll you are teaching us!!! I saved this video to my "Relationship" playlist. I cant wait until I get paid in 2 days I am going to buy me some ShaperMint undergarments so I can start wearing my dresses and leveling up. I LOVE YOU SHERA
@Bea Force I dont know if you are a man or a woman. So I will just give a general responce. Alot of people say "its better to just be as you are" when it comes to wearing make up,shape wear and anything that enhances a person. People say they like folks to be natural...but then they go after folks wearing weave, a ton of make up and etc..lol 🤷🏿♀️ Im already a decent size, i workout all the time. The undergarment is for a more neat/smooth look.
I feel like Sheraseven is a very dear friend. I love listening to these stories during quarantine! She’s extremely smart and all ladies need to hear what she’s putting out. The BEST!!
As a matter of fact he was paying for my car & house bills with in two weeks of meeting me. However I didn't see my self as a gold digger I just thought thats what was suppose to be. Lol
Thank you! I am attracting this life NOW. I've been watching your videos lately and have committed to bettering myself. Almost every man that approaches me now is older and better established and starts off with how beautiful I am and how they want to pamper me. I gotta SEE the action though.
Yesssssssssssss! I LOVE YOU! I NEEDED THIS VIDEO! Meeting all these build with them men is getting out of HAND! I'm def manifesting my wealthy, successful doctor that spends a lot of time with me and SPOILS ME TO NO END!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙌🏾
Shera I have been on a serious binge. Watching all your videos over the past week and I love love love your message. You are what every woman needs in her life
God Bless Shera! Have been listening to her for over a year and she is necessary to listen to everyday! Don’t ever stop listening to this..use it as a daily affirmation. I forgot to watch her videos for a week and had a pickemeisha moment for 10s! Imagine living in pickmeisha every day, I couldn’t even do it for a moment chile!! Thank God for Shera. This is how every healthy divine feminine woman should think.
I freaking love you!! This is game I wish my mother gave me, I’ll be handing this right over to my future daughter as soon as I start implementing it all
I’m currently in school, going to graduate and go to a college this year. Even though I’m going earn well in future, I want a man who is stable and rich. Why? BECAUSE I HAVE STANDARDS!😂❤️🙏
Fatima Don't act like you've never read none of the negative comments from black women. It goes both ways. Probably 85 to 90% of black men are married to black women. Not all black women are marriage material and you don't know what some of these men have been through with a black woman. Quit acting dumb.
Girl I fumbled 3 bags… one owned multiple businesses, the other is an engineer, the other one has a logistics company my only thing is that they were older except the engineer he was like 7 years older, now I know better I’m 24
I did not want this video to end!! I loved every minute of it! I am literally getting ready now to go out with my cousin tonight. I never go out! However I Crave a social life and a companion... friends by practicing the Law of Attraction and Manifestation. I'm nowhere near being a guru in this department as of yet but I definitely try to practice this on a day-to-day basis just in life in general not just with romance and my future husband. I found such Inspiration in this video. I'm going to make my list after I finish painting my face and sewing down my wig. I am going to manifest my husband and pray I meet him tonight if not he still coming he's still on his way and I will continue to take the journey until we find one another but thank you so much for sharing your story you are hilarious. Much blessings to you and your family!!! New Subbie!
Love it! I love it Queen! You become even more thoroughly beautiful to me with every upload. You are so wise thank you for sharing your beauty & wisdom with me. I take each piece of advice with me daily.
My initial requirements are these three things: non negotiable. Rich. Generous. I’m safe with Now that you said, never married. No children. I’m good. Eventually would get to the rest. However, those first three are stuck in mind like super glue Only wish I had more friends with this mindset to go out with more
Your husband sounds wonderful! Most men are not gentlemen at all. And, most importantly, most of them can't even pay their own damn bills, let alone, someone else's bills. Hold onto him forever girl!
2nd time watching this vid. u give me hope n inspiration. my 2 biggest issues are trying to not be boring and keeping calm so to not doubt myself that I deserve to be pampered. I see u were dealing with doubts but didn't let it stop u.
